As an over 60 male I agree with what you say. Scheduling is great because you have time to think about it and start looking forward to it. Toys and lubricants are part of our sex every time for a couple of reasons. One she doesn’t make her own lubricant like she use to and a good vibrator get her excited faster. For younger men quit thinking about yourself. The most important thing is to make sure she has an organism before you. I was in my 30s before I began to understand that and once I realized that sex became even greater, because there is nothing more exciting than watching her have her organism.
@brittfuss1 Жыл бұрын
I completely agree with the end of your last sentence. I now suffer from extreme erectile dysfunction due to a radical prostatectomy three years ago. I'm now also suffering from delayed ejaculation (really it's delayed orgasm as I can now no longer ejaculate). I've shared with my wife that I now get my “orgasm” from watching her orgasm and not to worry about me. Sometimes it happens; most times not.
@ZephaniahL Жыл бұрын
Oh, those organisms! Hablas ingles?
@GK-op4oc Жыл бұрын
"For younger men quit thinking about yourself" When females date males that are taller, stronger, smarter, wealthier and overall higher status than they are, sexual, reproductive and maternal services are about the only remaining female contributions that make the relationship equal. Older dudes have no idea that modern females have shifted their gaze from the upper 20% of males to the upper 1%
@orioles1971 Жыл бұрын
@@GK-op4oc that would be sad. Watch an interview with Danica Patrick and Chris William it touches on this subject you wrote about
@ShadowPhoenix82 Жыл бұрын
Sure, it's nice to see, but also men and women respond to orgasm differently, and men often get winded so should orgasm last
@romanulman7538 Жыл бұрын
I am 80 and your teaching me more than I have ever learned before. Thank you.
@July-A7 Жыл бұрын
So sad for you! These are common sense points and you only learned then at 80?
@brucemckay7828 Жыл бұрын
@july-lian some people don't have common sense, like yourself.
@jillhamster2465 ай бұрын
Some people having learning disabilities. Give them grace
@mukhtar__ Жыл бұрын
"we all have sex" woah hold on, you got a bit optimistic there doc 😂
@warriorbeast1998 Жыл бұрын
One thing that women need to know about a man. We're not timeless nor are we ageless. And performances going to dwindle. If we don't supplement for the difference in our aging. It has nothing to do with the woman. Our brain wants her but our bodies can't keep up. It's a matter of communication yes. And she needs to be patient
@EdwardandSharron.Boyd.Blessed Жыл бұрын
Depending on your age you should know women are not patient 😂 but I definitely agree with your comment
@leoclune5079 Жыл бұрын
Women are only about themselves, regardless what they say. I use that to play it in my favor. The woman wins and effort is minimal but important.
@warriorbeast1998 Жыл бұрын
Doc, that's called communication. One part psychological, and one part physiological. And this is a single man talkin. For now.
@warriorbeast1998 Жыл бұрын
I have found out there have been some reseasrch studies about BPA. Since we have gone from glass bottles to plastic. Men's stamina has dwindled since the conversion. Research studies have found that BPA is one of the leading cause and effects of ED.
@DivineTQ Жыл бұрын
@Warrior Beast 19 masturbating is like one of the main sources of that .. meaning you shouldn't masturbate
@daniela.freeman8843 Жыл бұрын
Dr. This is the single best video from you in my opinion. You have hit every point needed that you and your partner should consider. #1 for me is communication. I agree with you that communication needs to happen outside the bedroom and everywhere else in our daily lives. Thank you for your time helping us, help ourselves.
@philliphweltersjr9579 Жыл бұрын
😊 0:15 😂🎉 thank 0:15
@glenngilbert458411 ай бұрын
😅
@davidkalbacker6033 Жыл бұрын
Number 10 exercise ! Rena, you sound like my lovely wife on that note! In any case , I am a senior, 71, and find your videos both enjoyable and informative. At the end of this video, when speaking of exercise, it reminded me of the joke: an elderly couple is on their front porch. The husband turns to his wife and says, “honey, it has been such a lovely day, what do you say that we go upstairs and have sex?” The wife turns to him and says, “pick one, the stairs or sex.”
@michaelmelamed9103 Жыл бұрын
Joke reversal. A 90yo man and a 30yo wife…she’s telling him to go upstairs and…he’s unable to do both😅
@richardmckinney610 Жыл бұрын
N nomop
@geno5169 Жыл бұрын
I ask my wife that same question. Either she says yes. And I struggle .or she’s tired
@stregalilith4 ай бұрын
You bring the second most important thing to the bedroom-a sense of humor. ❤
@EdwardandSharron.Boyd.Blessed Жыл бұрын
Every man and woman needs to hear this! Thanks
@robertmorgan36087 ай бұрын
Dr Malik, I owe you a world of thanks. What you have shared is adding spunk to our lovelife. My wife and I have been married 67 years and are in almost unbelievable love. I consider my wife a god given gift. She has never had a headache and is the sexyest woman I have ever known. Needless to say the sex is outofthisworld. We have taken much of your advice to heart.
@user-vo5lx3fs7b28 күн бұрын
Q giving each others a massage.
@ianleary5780 Жыл бұрын
So true that we don't learn how to communicate about sex. Worse, our society shames women for wanting sex, which handicaps their ability to communicate about something that definitely would get better with good communication. A barely-audible "Umh..." is supposed to mean "Lighter pressure on the cl**, please, with some circular motion at 11 o'clock, plus get a finger in there to touch the G-spot." For many women, getting them to say this requires an interrogation by New York's top detectives because while they generally want sex to be good, only bad girls come right out and say so. Men also could do a better job of doing exactly what she says she wants right when she says it. Gentlemen, when your woman asks for something, you ditch whatever it was you were doing and do that thing she asked for, as long as it isn't something you're not into. Learn to do it just the way she likes it. Once she gets the idea that you're listening to whatever feedback she gives you and taking it seriously, she will tell you how to make her experience better. Win-win.
@judyperri9496 Жыл бұрын
Well men shame us for wanting sex unless they are the only one they’ve ever had it with
@MrQuietstorm93 Жыл бұрын
This is a really nice and informative video!! Your passion really shows!! Thanks a bunch doc!! ❤
@bigpoppasmurf1813 Жыл бұрын
Dr Malik out here answering the important questions! Thank You!
@singingway9 ай бұрын
Should mention that nonverbal sounds need to become a shared language, because being too verbal takes you out of the body awareness of inside and outside, plus simultaneous awareness of the partners responses and pleasure.
@lakshmankarunaratne3541 Жыл бұрын
Dr. You are a great blessing to the human race.
@tarrySubstance Жыл бұрын
I am thankful that you have shared your knowledge with all of us. This may save some relationships along the way.
@pmkmyothant5921 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. Your talk is so valuable for human being sexuality especially for younger couples.
@samengler539 Жыл бұрын
As always your my hero Doctor. Keep up the great work. Lots of good advice.
@josiah4469 Жыл бұрын
What you are covering in this video is so good, people really need to hear stuff like this. You'd be surprised how clueless ppl are irl.
@CoolTies Жыл бұрын
I wish you would cover addressing concerns with menopause. We haven't had physical intimacy in nearly two years. She has zero interest in sex. Her doctor insists she not take hormonal therapy until she's a year without a period. Unfortunately, yesterday she spotted, and now we have to wait another year. Masturbation makes me feel isolated and lonely.
@aero4eva388 Жыл бұрын
I can completely empathize. And not every woman can do hormonal therapy either due to family cancer history, etc. That lack of drive puts a huge wedge between you. I could write a novel on this topic. Suffice it to say again I empathize from experience. I will say though with communication, intent, and counseling it can definitely get better.
@joemeyer04 Жыл бұрын
1st....find a new dr.
@judd0112 Жыл бұрын
I’m in the same boat. She is starting to realize that she needs HRT. It’s is causing major issues for our relationship. Basically it’s 10 minutes every 2 weeks she wants me. And that’s it. No consideration or empathy for partner. If I was in similar situation I’d at least do something/anything
@July-A7 Жыл бұрын
Some women are like this irrespective of menopause. Super selfish, completely ignoring the realities of life. Way to deal with them? Find another woman and go guilt free. Not applicable to OP as his wife is going through menopause so not selfish, but even then, comminicate with her if she will allow you a mistress.
@judyperri9496 Жыл бұрын
@@July-A7 I don’t know any woman that would allow a mistresses unless she doesn’t really want you herself 🤦🏻♀️
@paulliles7971 Жыл бұрын
Dr. M. 🎉 If I had tried to communicate years earlier,my wife would have seen Her Gymo. Had her prolapsed utarus treated and wecwould have had about 10 more years of pleasurable sex. And no accusations of infidelity. Keep up your wonderful work.
@1viva Жыл бұрын
You always give excellent information Doctor Malik! Thank you for being there for Men & Women.
@ivanmarden7179 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind words and great suggestions and information
@DianaMarie23051 Жыл бұрын
No one taught me. But it’s common sense just like anything else in life. When I first became sexual, all I did was read about it to learn. And ask questions. I told my partner what I liked & asked him to tell me what he liked. If you can be sexually intimate with someone, how can people not feel comfortable about talking about intimacy? I mean you’re sleeping with this person. If you’re at that point you should already trust each other & know what each other wants. Or at least this is how it was years ago. Communication, education, honesty, love, trust & loyalty make a beautiful happy relationship. And the sex is just mind blowing. ❤
@jarettharris579311 ай бұрын
Make sense
@jimmiew1036 Жыл бұрын
You are absolutely a savior. You always have a useful subject to share. You certainly helped with my past prostrate difficult period. Keep it up doc.
@MrGuitar1458 Жыл бұрын
Wonderful information as always. Thank you Dr. Malik! 😊
@redskins17084 Жыл бұрын
Always intelligent and informative.
@meesterbig9857 Жыл бұрын
Would love to learn how your advice impacts your own relationship with your husband since all couples are different and behave/respond differently.
@Allnuts-H Жыл бұрын
"We all have sex" Now thats a lie 😅
Жыл бұрын
Ha, ha, ha, just wanted to point the same 🤣🤣🤣
@guntertorfs6486 Жыл бұрын
No problem for a nice cutie like her.
@reeldeelz2940 Жыл бұрын
yea everyone knows married people do not..
@paulbrungardt9823 Жыл бұрын
We Mormons are not allowed to have sex for pleasure; only to bring babies to earth for their father who will become a go
@lethabrooks9112 Жыл бұрын
Its been 5 years for me! Lol
@user-vo5lx3fs7b28 күн бұрын
Pleasure each other.
@Tugger_Case Жыл бұрын
Dr. Malik, you recently posted a short about Sildenifil . As someone that has been diagnosed with an enlarged prostate (Caucasian, 65) about 15 years ago I have been taking 5 mg of Tadalafil a day to assist with it's control. I also take a bi-monthly T shot. I am also in a "dead bedroom" relationship (it's been about 10 years) but we have 5 kids, 9 grandkids and have been married for over 35 years, so there is no way we are gonna ever "change our situation". I would like to see a video on people like me (and according to Reddit there are a shit load of us!).....
@rahuldoes Жыл бұрын
Love from India. May your situation changes, too. 47, here.
@kabhisharma3464 Жыл бұрын
@@rahuldoes me too same here
@rahuldoes Жыл бұрын
@@kabhisharma3464 ,that is how life rocks!
@fun3000able Жыл бұрын
If only my wife could mentally get 30% of this !!! Now she has comfort, a roof on her head and no fear of the future she behaves like an ice rock unless she has something to trade off.
@h.williams5808 Жыл бұрын
Hello, I been watching your video for awhile now, I must say. Very informative and not boring..class act. Appreciate the short lessons..
@July41776DedicatedtoTheProposi Жыл бұрын
Exercise really is the key for Mr. Happy to be happy!
@jagga10 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Rena l watch all your vlogs on KZfaq with great interest at 60 l learned a lot ❤
@MrFredlthomasiii Жыл бұрын
Doc, you rock with the greatest advice and information!!!!! Thanks for being a down to Earth person!!!❤️
@dboivin48 Жыл бұрын
Yes, communication is the best for a good sex partnership. Thanks for being so upfront and to the point on these matters.
@samuelrolle472011 ай бұрын
Awesome!!!! I needed this,Dr.Rena Malik...
@prescottosegie Жыл бұрын
Good video doctor rena I appreciate it very much 💪😎
@renemorales9169 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Malik, thanks for those 10 advices. Applied on time, they make the big difference…
@ref69 Жыл бұрын
I learn something from every one of your videos. Thank you so much and keep up the great work...
@iamjarrettdean9358 Жыл бұрын
Your husband is such a lucky man because you are amazing👏
@WayneDSouzaZzanja10 ай бұрын
Lmao
@angilif32Ай бұрын
Amazing! You learn something every day!
@kentoskentos8428 Жыл бұрын
As a man. When Dr. Malik is talking I only listen and take notes like I was a student in my anatomy and physiology class. We tend to assume that we’re born naturally gifted and ignore this subject until game time and you realize you ain’t got it. Guys take this opportunity with the Doc.
@vondelllyon311 Жыл бұрын
LOL 😊
@groverdoby9394 Жыл бұрын
What if your spouse is continuously commenting about being tired and worn out ? Not exactly a turn on by no means . 😏😕
@danp2596 Жыл бұрын
She's banging someone else
@tcb5141 Жыл бұрын
Is she going through menopause
@groverdoby9394 Жыл бұрын
@@tcb5141 Yeah
@vanshgupta7693 Жыл бұрын
She may be cheating
@charlesmangum2100 Жыл бұрын
Her body is going through a change from childbearing ability to ceasing that function. My wife even became irritable; so she went to her doctor and got medical help. Encourage her to do so and give her a lot of effection.
@ivanhurst2429 Жыл бұрын
Hello Dr Malik .Thank you for your very informative information God bless you always. 🙏
@stevebrown1461 Жыл бұрын
Valuable service, Rena Malik. Love your videos.
@anthonyfigueroa7869 Жыл бұрын
Yup. It's how u say things get u up or u stay down. And find a different word than NO.
@jgullave16 Жыл бұрын
This is fascinating...not sure it will restart an idle bedroom but these are things to consider. Thanks Rena!
@Sanjaijoshi547 Жыл бұрын
Dr. Rena,,, Thank you so much for your absolutely incredible analysis, Great video,,,, best regards,
@user-qw6dr3cq9z Жыл бұрын
Thanks for help Rena.
@akadirnilavane286110 ай бұрын
You are correct Doctor!
@TheModernMidas9 ай бұрын
Thank You! You have taught me so much and brought so much benefit to the world!
@rajendramaharaj650 Жыл бұрын
Your videos are very helpfull and infomative
@theclitorisandchristianity2889 Жыл бұрын
In Leviticus 12 and Leviticus 15 there are some special and wonderful friendly guidelines for being very real about the flow of the man and the flow of the woman... In Song of Solomon chapter 2, chapter 3, and chapter eight, there is a lovely, kind exhortation... "You're not awaken the sexual love and the arousal until it is time.. SINCE THAT IS TRUE IS IT IS EXTRA WISE TO TALK ABOUT THE TWO BODIES THAT FIT TOGETHER LIKE A PUZZLE... It feels so good so wonderful...!! Just like at an amusement park we would spend time looking at a ride before spending our tickets, so also it makes a lot of sense to have a happy conversations about all the wonderful parts of the feel-good... BEFORE YOU ARE READY TO TRY IT... ! KEGEL EXERCISES AND QUIET QUIETING DOWN THE AROUSAL These are practices that people in simple natural cultures teach their children when they are 8 to 10 years old. In essence when we learn the kegel exercises, we are learning how to say no to ourselves... With potentially wonderful assistance to each other during intimacy!
@frankeasterling3402 Жыл бұрын
Ordered a 15oz coffee cup. Trying to explain to my female urologist that coffee is the nectar of the ancient gods.
@ewelarry Жыл бұрын
Great advice! I need to improve in a few areas for my wife’s benefit.
@stregalilith4 ай бұрын
❤❤it will get better and better because you have the perfect attitude ❤you are willing to listen and learn❤❤❤
@jimsmith9301 Жыл бұрын
Thank you beautiful doctor. Jim
@Socrates1944 Жыл бұрын
Thanks very much for your expertise on this particular subject!❤
@mozambiquehere2393 ай бұрын
Thank you for your lecture. Helps a lot!
@Regii_HVAC9 ай бұрын
I wonder if she practices what she preaches. I would be willing to learn new things with her and from her
@nortonsandblastingequipmen709 Жыл бұрын
Dr Rena, could you let us know about PT-141 Bremelanotide, what is it, does it work for men, any harmful side effects? Thanks
@jefflawson7468 Жыл бұрын
Great advice always enjoy your videos💕👍👍
@KeithStringer-oo7od Жыл бұрын
I've just learned love beautiful woman ladies that are always there thank you so much for always
@GK-op4oc Жыл бұрын
When the male is expected to bring his A-game to the session, ask the female to bring her A game. Or at least her B game. She can try harder and do better
@Tibchy91 Жыл бұрын
Is there a video on what to do when sexual energies are different? For example mine super high, my partner rather low...? If there isn't one, can we get one pretty please?
@williampalenik7306 Жыл бұрын
Good information their Dr.
@emale03 Жыл бұрын
Best informative channel on the internet, imho. A++++
@billraleigh4529 Жыл бұрын
thanks again for your clarity on a subject that here in america where the leftover Puritanical mindset imprisons those who are confined to societal norms
@VTPSTTU Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video. I wish I had found your channel when I was younger. Of course, I realize that you probably didn't have this channel going before my health completely failed.
@macemace3194 Жыл бұрын
Seems like the hardest person to convince that it's okay to have an off love session with your partner as a man...is the man! Our egos are so fragile and pride is a inhibitor to success. Especially, after a cardiac event or procedure!
@marciasloan5346 ай бұрын
why ??
@jjhard23 Жыл бұрын
Parents should definitely teach their children about it.
@judyperri949611 ай бұрын
Creepy
@jesusosorio3013 Жыл бұрын
You’re the best doc, thank you ❤
@ilcciaporres520 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for such great information
@stevebrown1461 Жыл бұрын
Always great content.
@nnapsR Жыл бұрын
enjoyed this video, many things i wish i would have known and a couple that caused issues in my past, thanks for your wisdom and your relaxed delivery of the information
@stregalilith4 ай бұрын
Perhaps she can recommend a good sex therapist in your town as this seems to be more than a physical issue. Good luck. You deserve to have your needs met❤
@zahoorjaffar5308 Жыл бұрын
Respected Mam Please let me know about ED and how to treating and how many treatments available of Venus leakage ?
@vanshgupta7693 Жыл бұрын
Appreciate the effort keep doing it thanks
@livingdeadfitness1528 Жыл бұрын
I'm 32 and never had sex. And it sucks cause my health is horrible right now. Hurt my foot, back, had dental accident -- among other things.
@kabhisharma3464 Жыл бұрын
Take care of yourself
@cseosborn892 Жыл бұрын
Try and summon up the courage to pay for sex if you can afford it. Or travel to the Philippines if possible.
@livingdeadfitness1528 Жыл бұрын
@@cseosborn892 Hell no, I'm not doing that. Some girls like me they just live far away etc.
@sonidoexperiencia Жыл бұрын
@@cseosborn892horrible advice
@geraldbrown8711 Жыл бұрын
This is great advice!
@docwatson1134 Жыл бұрын
On the topic of water based lubes, rather then adding more lube, add water. A small spray bottle of warm water misted on the genitals during sex works great!
@drewneilon3557 Жыл бұрын
Best DR. ever. I wish she was my Dr. Hottest doctor too.
@JP-ok2qd Жыл бұрын
Rena, you are excellent!
@WithScienceAsMySheperd Жыл бұрын
My GF is entering pre-menopause at 41, she can get periods that will last 2-3 weeks on end, with abundant flow that would make a diva cup worthless in under half a morning shift at work, NOT JOKING. With the problems of access to gynos with the public health system crisis, she tries to find balance. Anything you think about Dr. that could be helpful?
@marciasloan5346 ай бұрын
Charity hospital
@tinamariemee4255 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, my husband is disabled and refuses to ask for help to ease his mind and help him to breathe better during sex the few times we tried. He's afraid and is in his head about his condition now, I knowthis, but he chooses to allow me to be the one to feel as though I'm the reason things have changed. I've communicated all truths and have waited for over 5 years, telling him my needs. He's done nothing to make things better, literally nothing. Sadly, I feel as though sex is all I want to do, like I'm in my prime! I have truly remained loyal and committed, but at this point, I'm hurt, feel betrayed, sad, depressed, and deserve to matter. I've tried. There's nothing more I can do. Has anyone else here had to deal with something similar? I'm 52, husband us 54. Both too young to not be happy in sex! Smh...
@joegambitt7414 Жыл бұрын
Can you do a video on why a high body count in women and men is bad and wrong for your s3x life?
@alickak8346 Жыл бұрын
This was extraordinary information.. it works well for me..
@sebastiangruffydd2765 Жыл бұрын
The number one way to always have pleasurable sex is to always be healthy yourself and sex with only a healthy individual. The fewer people involved the better.
@skip123davis Жыл бұрын
always good advice.
@dontagreen3290 Жыл бұрын
Great content!
@mukundmparikh4187 Жыл бұрын
Appreciate ❤️
@Paulshaggy9 ай бұрын
This channel is hard to watch when you're single for 2.5 years lol
@kashiro24925 ай бұрын
*hugs*
@yashiwishi1981 Жыл бұрын
Use can use baby oil which is easily available as lubricant...🙏🏻
@sturisa Жыл бұрын
Excellent Doc thanks!
@elldr Жыл бұрын
still one of your best, rena!
@gersonhay984 Жыл бұрын
Love your videos. Thank you.
@coenvanwyk1 Жыл бұрын
So my partner refuses to communicate, believes that things will happen by instinct. Refuses to find out about giving mutual pleasure. Is not interested in getting help. No much future here.
@reeldeelz2940 Жыл бұрын
get out of there... you feel MUCH better
@blakemoore80634 ай бұрын
Means there's a woman out there wishing her man wants to talk about mutual understanding about pleasure.