As an infj I agree lol cuz I get mentally exhausted by people who have problems with their feelings

Xqsme, I will search the Google though, but what does the expression " fake it 'till you make it " means? 🧡🎬😅

INFP's reaction is exactly why, when planning a trip, I watch as little pics / videos as possible :)

god you're SO FUNNY!! i love this!

Hahaha sammeee

I lost it laughing too! It's too close to home!

It's the best! 😂

I'm about to patch Addams this thing! I need the money, but can't afford the degree.

Hey Ryv!

Ik right??😂

Lmao ditto 😂

Yeah, same 😂

Yeah, LIKE HERE WE GO AGAIN

❤😂😊Same

Same 😂

But it worked! Did you hear about shock therapy? ))))

i'm a physiotherapy (physical therapy), an INFJ i did reversed psychology so many times, and telling out the truth, it sounds shock but i'm telling the truth you know. it helps a lot, many time. i didn't filter much to some overthinking/depression /anxiety patient. all i need my patient is to use their own brain to think and feel other pain as well just connet the brain and heart or vice versa is common sense we coversation here. just make them awareness that they can make it without the need of surgery and be free from walking aid.

@@leongliyang6946 do you like what you do? I am also an INFJ and am considering your line of work to make me feel like I am actually helping people, but it's better to ask an infj who is doing it since I am so afraid of being burnt out on a daily basis

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 stress on the 1st pace but later on you claimed your happiness in the future. That's the best reward of all. Burnt out during work and it is so worth it.

What's going on inside that head when you're overwhelmed?

I'm and INFP too and many people in my life have told me I should be a therapist. We may cry but that same empathy is very important to understand other people and the best way to treat them, according to their needs and boundaries 😊 But huge respect for you because it must be a heavy load often.

Out of curiosity, is there a specific type of client that you see? I am an INFP as well, but sometimes the INTP stereotypes resonate more with me than the INFP ones- probably because I am (to use the old expression, ngl) considered highly intelligent, and I have what's commonly called Asperger's syndrome, which is most common in INTPs and INTJs (or at any rate, I think we tend to be Is and we're almost always Ns, and we slant toward T because of the sex ratio). That's to say that I lack patience with other people. I could probably manage to be a good therapist for people who genuinely came to sort out their issues, if that makes sense, but not for people who- and this could be for a rainbow of reasons- were not truly motivated to do so. Also, it pains me to get the sense that someone envies me without realizing what my life is really like (for example: a classmate in middle school once told me that I had no idea how lucky I was that my parents were still married. I didn't know what to say, because I was abused at home, and God, what I would have given for a family like his. That memory stings even now when I think of it) and so I can't suffer problems that I wish I had. I always listen but I often do so judgmentally; I am (as you can see) "brutally" honest about myself and others; and, in a school where grammar that makes you look like you're learning English in school is perfectly acceptable on a project for an AP class, my pedantry (which is what others would call my intolerance of error and inaccuracy, if they knew such a word) is perceived as sadistically irritating (although I still think I'm doing them a favor by *inspiring* them to step up their performance). Ironically, I have a dear ENFP friend who insists that seeing a therapist will help my social life (it's healthier than ever before, and I'm satisfied with that, but this friend eats and breathes "relationships"- only temporarily can she have enough of them). If you read all the way down here, thanks for really listening; you're golden. I'm sure someone is going to reply and tell me that was an unnecessarily long comment.

@@isitsweet9567 good morning ☀️❤️ I see all types of clients, my door is open for every person that wants to try if my services are useful to them. I have one client that has a lot in common with you, so reading your comment made me smile and immediately like you. 😊 Your friend maybe hopes that seeing a therapist could help you coping with the consequences of the abuse you suffered at home? Most people carry lots of inner scars and wounds from parental abuse and us therapists can often help with the healing. If you ever decide to see a therapist, make sure you feel comfortable with your therapist. Not every therapist suits every client. A good therapist treats you with respect and patience. As to the feeling of envy, usually we feel envy when we feel life has betrayed us. It's a very normal and justified feeling for someone who couldn't feel safe around their own parent, but also for someone who has to cope with a loss or a lack of basic resources. Satisfied people aren't envious, only unhappy people are. So envy in some way tells us we're lacking something important in life. And often it's not necessary to get exactly what we desire, but it's enough to find something else that covers our basic human needs to get rid of the feeling. I hope my answer was somewhat helpful. If not, feel free to ask again in a more specific way, I'll do my best to answer. I leave a package of love and hugs here for you in case you like those. If you don't want them, just leave the package here and don't open it 🎁🌷 Take care ❤️ Edit spelling

@@44EricRH44 in the beginning it's a bit more difficult to cope with all the emotions and the responsibility. But one gets better at putting limits with the years. You come to a point where you understand that your abilities are limited, hence also your responsibilities and that you only can do your job properly if you take good care of yourself. It's really important to have a good supervisor the first years and later it helps to have a group of colleagues for intervision.

As an infp and also future therapist, the fact that you love your job makes me really happy❤

lol

...aka The Catchphrase of Legends! LMAO every single individual time w this one 🤣

Exactly . 'Calmly' .

@@my_Fi_Ne_Si_Te_ 🤣😂

Yeah that's the same tone my ESTP brother uses with me when he tells me to stop overthinking everything.

mines kinda the same but its more about not being able to listen to them, interupting them to talk about myself cuz they reminded me of something, keeping zoning out and not understanding their emotions/feel how they felt. like they could cry their heart out and i just come back from a daydream and just say "huh? huh? hUH????" like, homie i understand your in pain bUT THERES SHRIMPS IN MY BRAIN DUELING OVER A BBQ AND THERES FOG MY BRAIN IS EMPTY I CANT DARE TO THINK CUZ I WOULD E X P L O D E too much thoughts too not enough thoughts

I feel the same way. Yet, I somehow can't help but want to help people when I see them sad. My default is to want to hug, but usually just listen. However, I know I never want to be a therapist because I was in PAL for a year in high school (first 2 years are training years) and realized, nope. Not for me. Too emotionally draining.

I do agree with you wholeheartedly. I still really want to be a a therapist (If I can't make world traveling photographer/food taster my profession) but for children specifically although I do worry about this

i'm a social work student and every time my client starts to cry, it makes me want to cry too :( i also tend to zone out occasionally in sessions cuz they'll say something that reminds me of something in my own life and i'll start to go down a rabbit hole hahah

@@Xandycane I'm same way ❤️ sending love

INFJs (and ENFJs) make the best therapists with only slight differences. I love you guys for your existence, even if I know that you all are sometimes tired of this role. But everyone seeks you out because of your natural gift of making others feel understood. Not that other types can't be good therapists (I believe ISFJs and ESFJs have similar abilities with slight differences), but INFJs and ENFJs are really a different breed. I personally feel very proud of y'all but also quite sad because it sometimes really takes a toll on you (as portrayed in the video for INFJs specifically).

​@@ayakopudding5483aww your words make me feel heartwarming and heartening . Thank you for saying kind words to other I mean I do apperciate your existence saying all of this , to me it's kinda cute you know 🥺

@@coconutshake895 I just spoke the truth, dear. No problem.

I have to point out something I've noticed. I looked it up, and INFJs are supposed to be one of the rarest personality types. Yet, the people I find most often in the comment sections are INFJs... .. Coincidence? I THINK NOT!!!

Just got home from a session and my therapist told me i should stop being a therapist to my friends/family and stop neglecting my own feelings 😅 Love being an infj, im basically in and out T-sessions 24/7, used to it ig oopsie

Even your comment was classic INTJ

I'm an INTJ, and just started my Bachelor of Psychology and Social Sciences. Thank you for your comment.

I'm an INTJ, I agree with that pattern recognition to the point that I'm distracted and don't listen anymore 😅

Thank you for sharing. I'm an INTJ with a suspected- to-be -ESTP mom who kept telling me to brush of and ignore any emotion-related issues. That landed me with 2 mental issue diagnoses later and having to figure quite a lot of how to deal with those issues on my own doing my own research online, watching free KZfaq videos of credible and liscened psychiatrists, trying to learn as much as I could with the resources available about psychology and mental health, introspection and retrospect. I did went to 2 psychiatrists and got medications (the 1st time it wasn't helping much with my 1st issue that later got resolved without therapy or medical intervention, the 2nd is helpful). Psychology is still a new field in my country so the most common way to deal with mental illnesses here is medications. Therapy wasn't even a thing until a few years after my 1st issue got resolved, which is about 9 years ago. (Edited: I mean that 9 years ago when I got my 1st diagnosis and got it resolve about 5 months later, therapy isn't a thing and if it was, it's not common knowledge. Even the most up-to-date large hospital I went to didn't do more than giving me medications. 9 years later which is 2024, therapy is available though not large scale.) I got some form of therapy by a church counselor but he has too much on his place to continue with my case (he has a whole procedure to help but no one else to execute it. Those who were still learning the basics did try to help me but despite being helpful for a while, they didn't get to the bottom of identifyign the causes the issues as he did.)

As an INTP I like INFJ's alot for their ability to therapize me. My best friend is an INFJ aswell. And yeah, I am trying to get better at just listening 😅😅😅

the INFJ one was super accurate. I've done that a few times while having a "therapy session" with my friend. (accidentally of course)

One IxFJ girl friend I have and I, male xNTP, are mutual "therapists".

I always thought INTPs would be great at this. Since analysing others and wanting to improve things is just a daily activity for them. And a healthy INTP is pretty good at reading others including their feelings. They only get sidetracked when they are part of the equation. As long as it’s not about their own feelings, they are pretty good at pin pointing the cause of traumas and how to make things work

I'm and ISTJ and I'm the "therapist" friend. People come to me to vent or for advice

Same here 😂

100% on point :,-)

Funny how the INTJ is actually as good at listening as the INFJ.... But doesnt put in the effort

@@pirithoven_tech we can look entirely uninterested and like we're not paying attention but actually be listening and observing so much.

@@XSemperIdem5 i was kinda of joking, but yes i get what you mean

You described it perfectly! 😂

My best friend is an INTJ and it was weird to finally have someone who thinks SO similar and to agree with how I look at the world. So long story short, I agree with you!

As a T/F flip (Dominant T), it's crazy how accurate BOTH were for me. It's also crazy how stuff just... works out... like... yeah, I meant to burn down the scaffolding of expected social roles thrust upon me, and it ended up helping the people around me grow more? Um... yeah, that's uh, actually really good. What... is actually happening, tho? Like, should I have just opened with this, or...? 🥴

@@savvivixen8490 Yes, Ni we help people to grow, to improve, to raise their consciousness, we seems to do it naturally.

its graet when people dont undestand you. its like a smoke screen protecting you except when its your mother and shes worried because you droppred out of college or something like that

Agreed tbh I absolutely love intj's~infj

SAME

Agreed, I somehow end up solving problems, even when I'm not intending to!😂

Same😂

FRRR everybody’s always dumping their problems on me like bro I was 16

@@CarissaJenkins Everyone has been dumping their problems on me for lifetime--even people who are LITERALLY five times my age. And right now, I'm only fourteen. 😂

Thank you so much :D ! Love ENTPs (and ENFPs too).

Thanks! Always appreciate it :)

@@kyurei4478 love y’all too mwah 😽

@@scrawnymf ofc ofc, np! ❤️

Thank you ❤

@Pinard.J Palladin your friend sounds awesome 😆

@Pinard.J Palladin aw I hope she sees your message lol Thats great that you appreciate her qualities that others often see as a weakness. 😊

As an INFP always in 16personalities personal development section , I can definitely say I cry on a daily basis whenever reading their depression issues . Exactly I would start crying at that "When I was 10 years old" because I will feel the pain of keeping a trauma since childhood , although it never happened to me

Sometimes other people crying makes me cry too. Even as a toddler in the nursery, when a kid would start crying for their mom I would cry, even though my mom worked in the nursery 😅

@@Lightfoot2460 aww thats sweet!

I think maybe Frank doesn't like playing ISTP, because he has them gone so frequently. However, as an ISTP, I would never become a therapist in the first place. So yeah, that's definitely not being there. I hate dealing with upset friends and family even. But when I do have to do some kind of counseling, I sound like the ESTP or the ESTJ.

I think it's safe to say that most ISTPs feel like they've been a "therapist" their whole lives, listening to everyone's problems. It gets really exhausting for them, especially when they try to give someone a solution to what they're venting/complaining about, but the other person doesn't want a solution. And so the ISTP thinks: What other response can I give? Because in their heads, if there's a problem, it should be fixed right away instead of complaining about it. 😂 They'd rather tell people what they NEED to hear instead of what they WANT to hear, as this would seem more helpful, but sometimes this doesn't go over well. 😂 So yeah, I think most ISTPs would not even have a desire to become a therapist.

@@LiviaKpop Agreed. My ISTP spouse just walks away when I have any issues or seem upset. When I try to ask why he does that, he says it’s bc I don’t listen to his “solution”. Like he just thinks you can slap a simple solution to a problem and move on. Sorry, but taking deep breaths to no end isn’t going to make my anxiety go away just like that. You can’t so easily just slap some duct tape on a problem to make it go away.

As an istp... I'd be a terrible therapist. I don't think the istp balked on the patient so much as they probably didn't exist in the first place 😂

@@Liat. Well it's not necessarily about a quick fix all the time. ISTPs know that some problems, especially deep ones, take time to solve. But it's more about trying to START resolving the problem as soon as possible. Because the sooner it can start being solved, the sooner a solution can be found, and the sooner people can move on to other things. (I'm not trying to generalize all ISTPs because everyone is different. This may not be true for every one and the degree of this may vary.) Have a wonderful day. 😊

After venting to my ESTP friend, he helps me by forcing me to study

As an ISTP, I like the way he thinks.

​@@justsomegirlwithamoustache it sucks as a guy lool, in my experience girls don't want solutions they want to fuck around

As an INFP man who had a protective ESTP father, that was very relatable haha.

true

Yesss

He did it deliberately 😅

Considering that of all the different types, therapists lean towards being INFJ, it must be a calling.

Saaaame!

First I said „nah not that accurate, I often talk about how feelings are so valid when it comes to stuff like this.“ and then I realized how as a solution for everything I always say „it’s a head thing. Once you control your mind, you win.“ like I told someone this just yesterday 😭 am I lying though?

Agree

no fr tho

Yeah. I definitely do the whole spelling out the situation bluntly thing too.

Also a female INTJ. I had been to therapists on and off during difficult times and just hated that question! What kind of questions was that? I wanted to know what I was to think about that, or change what I am thinking or at least get an opinion on what the therapist thinks! What that question made me feel was anxiety.

Got any tips for this Enfp? I think it's neat too

My intj friend is also interested in psychology. It's so funny cause when I talk to her about my problem she'll just "seen" then I get upset cause she ignore it and she told me she didn't ignore it, she thought I send it to her cause i wanted someone to talk to (she read the message, just didn't realise I expected a reply to XD) I'm like bruh 🗿

​@@adrenalineactivate INTJ things 😂😂😂😂 If you don't try to. understand them you won't get along with them 😂

Guess you will be unbeatable with the recognition of the illogic patterns of thought that made people go into the psychologist...and you have the Fi trait of valuing, so you can come out with practical recommendations to a better life

My brother is an INTJ and he's far more useful than my therapist. He is just very practical, which resonates with me because I'm an INTP. So I have health-related anxiety and I was worried about having MS, and he was like, "Michelle, if you were in a car crash and lost your arm, what would you do?" And I said, "Well, I'd have to learn to deal with it. I'd get heavy pans so I can stir food one-handed, I suppose." And he said, "And if the worst happens here, and you have MS, it's exactly the same. You'd learn to deal with it." Doesn't sound real sensitive, but oddly, that thought experiment helped a lot. It also helps that he doesn't get worked up about anything (visibly).

Same, that or tell them to go to the gym and start working out.

Well, people need to have the mindset that you get up in the morning and you make it the best day you possibly can- whether that means making it a good day, or simply hanging in there until tomorrow. Many people do seem to just waste away, wallowing in woe. So your services would be more valuable than you think. I'm an INFP, by the way.

Frrr I’m an ISTP and if I was to be a therapist I’d just say, ‘just go and do stuff about it’

As an ISTP, I am very good at stealth.

As an ISTP, my friend says I'm a good therapist because I make people realise that their problems aren't actually as bad as they think I'm not sure whether I shoudk take that as a compliment or whether it's a hint to stop being so blunt and uncaring, but I don't really care

I can believe it! My bf is ISTJ and he literally can't do without a plan. For me he seems damaged. For him all the world seems damaged...

Wow, thank you!

@@FrankJames What an honor to get a reply from you :) Thanks for all the great content, the dedication you put into every video really shows. Have a great day.

thanks!

I agree❤

@@ambergudnason4903 100%

This was brilliant! Also the patient's wig./ hairstyle ... A dream come true

That's alful I'm sorry sending love from a INFP☺️😸❤️❤️❤️

Oh my, that would be a tough dynamic to live with. My mom is an INTx (not sure if she's P or J) and she had a hard time relating to my emotions (I'm an INFJ). She tried lol

The ESTJ was my inner voice before I started meds & therapy.

i just don't do feelings with my mom or any emoutional help i see my mom(estj) like a buldozer that will flatter everything just to get job done who as INTP strongly despise bc it isn't elegant and usually have 2 hour long argument about that job after we finish it...

And don't you find this skit very releasing? I always feel far better after every video, he makes my life's dramas a pure joke and it takes weight off my shoulders. Yes INFP here.

Idk why the ISTJ read the therapist s note out loud though, he should have read the manual and remembered it beforehand if anything lol

@@edi0157 Yes that would have been a better plan lol 😊

The funny thing about INFJ is, it's absolutely true. All the words he said. 🤣

If ENTJ knows how to get to the result he will get there no matter how painful it is to get there.

@@Yoshi-King15 As an ENTJ, can confirm I do this. Also, do you know what the expression 'Take it easy' means? I think I forgot it about 3 years ago.

@@Yoshi-King15 lol our drive for efficiency. Good observation.

but why would you married to an ISTP when you are an INFJ, and a therapist? Can't you see that coming? 🤣 But I do want to know... what is the things in ISTP that you are attracted to?

@@wada-wadaSame here, INFJ married to an ISTP. Had no clue whatsoever about MBTI or psychology back then though. But now I see it, that as a person with extremely low Se it’s easy for us to appreciate the practical approach to life of the ISTP. Though had I known about MBTI back then as much as I do now, I may have not chosen the same path, since the apathy can be frustrating sometimes.

@@wada-wada Although there are some common problems that can arise in INFJ/ISTP relationships, it's important to remember that there's no such thing as a perfectly compatible pair in personality typing. (Just a quote from someone for you to think about). The differences help create wonderful balances and growth. I learn from his strengths and weaknesses (and vice versa). Let's just say our 27 years together have been a wonderful rollercoaster!! 🤣🤣

@@Liat. 🤣🤣🤣 same but I think I may have chosen him nonetheless!! The whole INFJ save the world thing I suppose! 🤣🤣🤣

No, INFPs usually serve as sounding boards and offer their insights for other people, and they love our insights and take them as advice as if we're providing therapy sessions when we're just talking, haha. The INFJs are the ones who know they're giving therapeutic advice but do it in a way that doesn't seem like they are, so it works well. I think INFJs have just enough empathy and yet natural detachment to understand the person and their issues BUT won't get bogged down by them. The INFP will be great as a therapist too but only once or twice because we won't be nearly as structured and we will be too bogged down by people's issues that we can either get too invested as if we're the ones who are hurting (but we'll keep it to ourselves) OR, for our own sanity, we end up shutting it out (in our own quiet way) to avoid dealing with that person's issues any longer.

Being used as a free therapist by family, friends and even strangers has been reported by many INFPs. At some point you have to put up boundaries if people "overuse" your empathy and your listening skills because you'll end up feeling drained.

I'm an INFP and yes I can relate. I think we just have a very safe and calming presense at times. I get the impression people who have a lot on their chest or who are perceived to be very loud/aggressive by others appreciate our patience and sensitivity. As was rightly said I do think we have trouble setting boundaries for ourselves over this because it can often lead us to be drained.

Love this☺️ sending love from a INFP ❤️❤️❤️

@@MC-kk8xu yess same here☺️😸❤️ sending love from a infp

YESSS (I’m one too)

This is why I love ENFPs lol

FRRR 😭😭

ENFP female here. I like to suggest iced tea or coffee and snacks. Keep yourself nourished! You will feel better. And just get out in the world.

Getting out is the best thing. Life is full of nice people and things (like raspberries at a Farmers Market) and so worth experiencing. It distracts you completely from those negative thoughts in your head .

💯🎉

😂😂😂 we don’t get to have such thing!

@@luciatat4084 Lol!!! I know! That is why I was asking where mine was, hahaha! We really don't need it often, but when we do it really sucks because everyone is so used to us just being okay.

😂😂😂 I am an infj and I am not a therapist but some people treat me as if I’d be one. And sometimes it can get too much.

As an ENFJ, I 100% told my depressed friend to make a list of things he was grateful for. 😬🤔😆

@@gregariagirl hahahahah then I guess he's right, I don't do that just give them nice therapy until they feel good :)

​@@gregariagirl me too, as an ENFJ and therapist as well 😅😅

I didn't quite tell them to make a list of things they're grateful for but I do constantly try for them to focus on the "bright" things

@@empressofhearts7300 yea same here I do that too! And also to remind them that I appreciate them bcz I know how it feels when nobody tells u that

As an INFJ that has been a free therapist up until now, some hugs from ISFJs really help sometimes because no one asked us how are doin or am I actually alright. Its very lonely as infj despite how many people around us. Thank you ISFJs! 😊

@@saion2390 No problem! 😊

I'm a ISFJ but i'd never ever hug a stranger or someone in a professionsal setting. Isn't that odd, but i've done the test many times i always get ISFJ and i have more of the traits that any other of the 'personalities'.

@@tasha5768I’m the same. I’m totally ISFJ but I don’t like to hug strangers

I would definitely hug a lot more people because I’m a touchy feely ISFJ but I also respect the other person’s preference and deeply observe if they’re a hugger or not. Most of the time, I get it right and hug at just the right time and it always makes others feel so loved! But I will love you from a distant if you don’t want to hug

😂

I have two ENFJ siblings and they’re so much like that, but more grounded about it, haha.

isfp friend having entj child? dude that's completely opposite personas

Same😂

I liked the ENTJ more 😂😂 how forceful they can be yet somehow helpful 😂

In real world you will probably found istj as psychologist , (experienced lol now can toying with him cz i am just a normal entp whose intj is stable by another intj)so please if you have an infj friend you are lucky like me❤❤

@@mzn245 entj s are helpful weirdly with just small talk locked on eye lol

My mom is estj too.

Have an ESTJ friend and same. Her “advice” is mostly a variation of “just deal with it” and to eat healthier and get up early to exercise like she does.

@@nataliegivan8726 oh, ESTJs. Such toxic morons.

If people are coming to me for help, they probably can't help me, so try being around people that need less help, at least you won't feel less drained and resentful.

Right? He was killing it. As an INTJ, I was suddenly wondering where *I* could find an ESFP therapist for some therapeutically guided rockin' out. Then I thought, "INTJ... ESFP... That's not a coincidence, is it?" ESFPs, build that therapy practice!