19 Questions Newly Out Lesbians Have For Experienced Lesbians

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@jaydenbeck1411 2 жыл бұрын

"How did you know your girlfriend was gay?" "I looked at her" This 💀

@the_epicringneckparrot Жыл бұрын

First reply

@unexpectedsongbird8952 Жыл бұрын

"Be your own acceptance"... YES!!! I am going to paint that and put it up in my home.

@ryy4122 10 ай бұрын

how tho

@Deleted9525 4 ай бұрын

Bro I came straight to the comment section to look for this comment 💀💀

@ixDanime123 2 жыл бұрын

I cannot state how validating it is to be a young 20 something w no experience and hear that someone didn't have their first kiss until 27

@happyzombiikitti 2 жыл бұрын

I’m 28 and still waiting on my first gay kiss

@catalinabarroilhet4058 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 31 and haven't had a first kiss, of any kind 😉

@praxym9293 2 жыл бұрын

@@catalinabarroilhet4058 I envy you.I wish I never kissed nobody.

@praxym9293 2 жыл бұрын

She doesn't even look older than 27

@catalinabarroilhet4058 2 жыл бұрын

@@praxym9293 oh, why??

@lucy2steele 2 жыл бұрын

"don't look for acceptance-be your own acceptance" that went deep

@piinkhobo 2 жыл бұрын

12:57 also love the whole bit advice: Understand, not everyone is going to accept you. Don’t look for acceptance, be your own acceptance. Let people get to know you, because you already know who you are. They just need to catch up!

@zenpie5093 2 жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear that. I am bi and enby and really struggle with presenting myself as the genderqueer person I am in workspace because of the fear of other people not accepting me for who I am. I work in an office and people are expected to dress a certain way and I just can’t fit in with that anymore. Maybe I should just go for it.

@l.a.1477 2 жыл бұрын

these two gals sitting next to each other were the best, what a duo of power queens

@InLiquidColor 2 жыл бұрын

Show Yourself (Frozen 2) makes me cry. every. single. time. for this reason.

@Ariremako3435 2 жыл бұрын

Hey hello

@charlie2288345 2 жыл бұрын

"Because that many people love me." Yes, Jaz!!!

@toywl973 2 жыл бұрын

A word fr!

@sexy9686 2 жыл бұрын

45.76.207.246/191?ノビエラ ♥️ KZfaq: this is fine Someon: says "heck" KZfaq: BE GONE однако я люблю таких рыбаков++ .

@lauren5135 2 жыл бұрын

The way that I’m going to say this to all b*llsh

@l.a.1477 2 жыл бұрын

LOVED that answer!! Honestly perfect and the most in line with my beliefs.

@empressofawesome7099 Жыл бұрын

One of my favourite parts that was so cool!

@charlotte96ify 2 жыл бұрын

It’s actually refreshing to hear someone say their first kiss happened at 27 yo, I’m 25 and never had any experience and I always feel like I’m a freak to my friends who did pretty much anything

@avamename7443 2 жыл бұрын

Don’t feel like you’re weird for not having your first kiss yet. Most asians haven’t even got their first kiss in their 30s😂

@precisamesmo 2 жыл бұрын

Everyone's times are different, don't validate your own experiences through others'. You're fine as is, sweetie.

@areswalker5647 2 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@pancakes0886 2 жыл бұрын

ya it gives me hope. im 24 and havent done anything with anyone either. sometimes i think something is wrong with me. but i try and remind myself that i dont want to rush into anything and that it will all work out

@acmulhern 2 жыл бұрын

You're not weird. I'm so sick at people having opinions about other people's sexuality. It's literally none of their business.

@Amaika16 2 жыл бұрын

I love that they are all naturally sitting with wide legs. Confident and comfortable. I always sit that way and felt insecure for a long time cuz everyone I knew and saw would cross their legs.

@trinievilkitty 2 жыл бұрын

THIS!!

@indica_nail_artist_6363 2 жыл бұрын

So funny I noticed the same thing, love it!! I remember watching 'save the last dance' as a little girl (which I was already into females by then I only kissed girls in truth or dare lol) but that scene where he's teaching her how to sit with swag and her legs are open, ever since then I've been so comfortable with open legs🤣😂 obviously when the outfit permits if I'm feeling girly and wearing a skirt with a thong I'm more shy I won't sit open legged like that 😂

@tanshi2136 2 жыл бұрын

i sit crossed leg with a cross arm but i'm gay lmfao

@aksdjkdksja2090 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa go to therapy

@aksdjkdksja2090 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa Cerebral offers online therapy for $15+ per week, depending on whether you want to try medication/what services you want to purchase. Good luck!

@shimasara7058 2 жыл бұрын

the amount of Birkenstocks in this video is very fitting

@heidiho5179 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! These went out in the ‘90s, everywhere else but our community lol.

@spiderscurry5614 2 жыл бұрын

@@heidiho5179 HAHAHAHAHAHA

@junniebear49 2 жыл бұрын

And boots😂

@astrid-3 2 жыл бұрын

@@heidiho5179 and except Scandinavia 😂 it’s almost a uniform there

@roonilwazlib5402 2 жыл бұрын

@@astrid-3 And except Germany where the brand is from 😅 every family over here has probably at least one pair of Birkenstocks or Adiletten. They’re especially popular as house slippers or for nurses

@ChrissyyMarie 2 жыл бұрын

“Don’t look for acceptance, be your own acceptance” 🥺🥺

@josephinebretzel1918 2 жыл бұрын

💛

@pattycannon1804 2 жыл бұрын

The best advice. 🙌🏻

@rensins08 Жыл бұрын

I wish I knew this back in college

@slaggeylindsay7464 2 жыл бұрын

26 years old, slept with more men than I can count and going on my first date with a woman this week. I haven’t been excited for a date in years. Thank you for the guidance ❤️❤️

@praxym9293 2 жыл бұрын

How do u cope with the fact that u v slept with countless men? asking cause I need help coping but I can count. Not judging cause I am no angel.I just find it hard to move past that

@slaggeylindsay7464 2 жыл бұрын

@@praxym9293 I definitely haven’t moved past it either! It’s very new for me and it’s a struggle to reckon with my past with men. But I continue to remind myself that what I’m feeling isn’t wrong and that my journey will not look and feel like anyone else’s. And the people who you decide to let into your life will have to understand that. I can’t go back, but I can embrace what I’m feeling right now as openly as I possibly can! :)

@katehakanson310 2 жыл бұрын

This is ALMOST me as well!!! I'm almost 26, been with many men, recently recognized aloud for myself that I'm attracted to women, hoping I can meet someone and go on a date and get to explore this exciting new reality more! Hope your date goes/went well!!! 💕

@tromboner6061 2 жыл бұрын

@@slaggeylindsay7464 What do you mean?? Do you mean that it's traumatic or regretful that you slept with many? Also, don't worry any woman who will pass on you for owning your sexuality isn't worth it 👍🏻

@Berkkv 2 жыл бұрын

Relatable, I've only dated men or trans men, but I have my very first date with my girl crush soon I can't wait 😭

@thecomorbiditycurator8018 2 жыл бұрын

"what finger do I use?" KZfaq PLAYS AN AD WHERE THE ACTORS ARE DRESSED IN GIANT HAND COSTUMES 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@maggotbitch 2 жыл бұрын

That's just the internet SPYING on us lol

@bubblesbubbleton2747 2 жыл бұрын

I got Old Navy with a bunch of women dancing together, showing off their new jeans sizes. There is a woman who does a hair flip, and I’m just like... Well, you know which finger(s) you like 🙃

@gretakrueger567 2 жыл бұрын

@@bubblesbubbleton2747 ha i got the same ad in the same place

@sadiesstuff4270 2 жыл бұрын

@@gretakrueger567 me to lol

@carmenaphotography 2 жыл бұрын

I really want to see more representation of ultra femme lesbians... If we have more of that, women won't feel like they'll never be read as queer if they dress "too girly"

@felicianamyaloadeline 10 ай бұрын

Agreed

@doremigirl 5 ай бұрын

I am fem , people never guess 😂

@zaynmalikofficail 5 ай бұрын

same i’m femme and i make it KNOWN im a munch but at the same time im tired of people saying you have to dress less femme for people to see you bc that’s bullshir

@cherry_blossom12345 5 ай бұрын

@@zaynmalikofficail that’s so true.

@abouchard 4 ай бұрын

Yes! But somehow in movies and tv shows the majority of lesbian representation is very fem; we need more lesbian representations of all kinds 👏

@peopleandanimalslovm Жыл бұрын

"Don't look for acceptance, BE your own acceptance" As a Christian woman who is bisexual, THIS is so super important to remember because I had to accept myself as well as other people

@katrinam6795 6 ай бұрын

Hiiiiii fellow bi female Christian here :)

@Yer4you 2 жыл бұрын

I feel like I don’t see enough of these videos representing our community . I love them and they make me feel “normal “ if that makes sense . Even tho normal isn’t a thing . A lot of people will say this is them pushing their life down their throats but it’s really just being inclusive

@_SomyaY 2 жыл бұрын

Love your pfp

@jayybabiimusic1315 2 жыл бұрын

Yes I love that I came across this video I want to really understand myself better as a Bi female and to feel a bit normal but like you said normal isn’t even a real thing

@pinnedcomment8614 2 жыл бұрын

Random fact: There’s a village in Nebraska with a population of 1. She acts as mayor and also pays taxes to herself.

@TheRadiantAerynSun22 2 жыл бұрын

Monowi, NE. Been there. Said hi.

@nmen4435 2 жыл бұрын

I’m moving there. Period

@Z5Z5Z5 2 жыл бұрын

Hmm

@mrsMadameA 2 жыл бұрын

Been there many times.

@thosiph3679 2 жыл бұрын

random fact: being overweight is unhealthy. thats a fact, every doctor will tell you that.

@savannahs8914 2 жыл бұрын

You guys need to do this for bisexuals/pansexuals, trans people, nb people, and gay men.

@phenominiallmusic 2 жыл бұрын

Isn't Megan fluid?

@avalon3821 2 жыл бұрын

@@elanh8655 what

@msmarvellover 2 жыл бұрын

@@elanh8655 what lmaooo

@tessandjonkou167 2 жыл бұрын

very true

@jordyn3411 2 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately I don’t think buzzfeed has that many binary trans people in their circle

@courtlovecat Жыл бұрын

Not gonna lie, as a 35-year-old lesbian who has just truly and finally come out of the closet in the past year, this video made me laugh, cry, and feel seen. Thank you for making this. :)

@SandraBieber 2 жыл бұрын

Definitely also want to focus on the “femme (dressing) people don’t read as gay” bit cause it’s really frustrating! I understand it and at the same time, I think it limits us to a certain range of expression within ourselves and our closets. Part of patriarchy’s work has been the war on femme-ness and femininity and honestly f*** that! I don’t want any of that in my queer identity and queer communities. Loving this video for bringing cool things up

@DrBitchcraft. 2 жыл бұрын

I'm very femme and gravitate towards other femmes. I've learned that I have to compensate this by being rather sexually aggressive (nothing creepy though, but heavy flirting). And have yet to be rejected so it does work! It does help that femmes don't give creepy vibes that easily.

@FeminaExMachina 2 жыл бұрын

Same, I identify as bisexual & pretty femme. I also love my long nails & I worry if a woman sees them, she'll think I'm not attracted to women. Shoot, I'm attracted to beautiful long nails on a woman! Fingering isn't the only lesbian pleasure out there!

@troebeliewoep 2 жыл бұрын

Pan agender femme person - so many people voicing doubts if i am truely agender if i truly am attracted to women as well as others.. but in the end i dress for me so w/eva

@Talkingperfectly-loud Жыл бұрын

I’m a bisexual woman and when I came out my style didn’t change at all🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ve always just worn what I liked and I continue to do that now! Femme queer women exist and are SO valid!

@leonardo.diCATio Жыл бұрын

I'm personally a femme lesbian, and honestly, I don't think it "not reading as gay" is true. You just have to know how to do it. First of all, the earrings trend. Put the stupidest things you can think of on a pair of hooks. Trust me, it reads. Campiness also helps. Don't be afraid to wear some more out there stuff. I personally find fashion often seen in drag a great inspiration. If that's scary for you, which I totally get, go rainbow! Rainbow socks, gloves, hair accessories, your hair itself, shirts, pants. Literally anything can be rainbow. Or even the lesbian flag colors. Make a point to always wear pride bracelets. Do you have shoelaces? Put in beads matching your preference of flag colors.

@danielledezeeuw4090 2 жыл бұрын

So as a bisexual who came out to my friends a few years ago but can't even bring myself to tell me religious parents, I'm glad you said come out when you're ready. This is the reason I'm afraid to go to far into talking to girls I the first place since I can't move to far with a girl in fear of my parents rejecting me

@samanthafigueroa3576 2 жыл бұрын

take your time mama 💕 you will always have a family w us.

@idab6864 2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry you're dealing with this :( I hope it all works out. It's so sad how hateful religious people can be.

@Yer4you 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve learned that family who doesn’t love you for you isn’t family

@jadepinnock 2 жыл бұрын

sending you lots of love 💕💕💕

@AZ-vm5uc 2 жыл бұрын

girll are we the same lol. I'm in the exact same situation and even my first name is the same as yours hahaha

@NateLVBrown 2 жыл бұрын

This is my first time being introduced to the term “Compulsive Heterosexuality”. Based on the explanation I agree with the idea (that it exists, that it messes with queer people in their heads).

@lali9946 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa maybe do more research and stop being lesbiphobic lmfao

@BE-ew2pt 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa While I don't really experience it as a lesbian, it does exist. Basically, lesbians who are told over and over again that they need to find "the right man" (and gay men who are told over and over to find "the right woman") sometimes internalize that, repressing their attraction to the same gender in the hopes that some day they will be attracted to a member of the opposite gender. Compulsory Heterosexuality is why a lot of lesbians and gay men come out later in life, when they have had more time to figure themselves out.

@iovechester5654 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa yeah no it does exist. i am not bi i am a lesbian but thought i was bi for a while. i do not want to have w relationship with a man, but because i was raised with the idea that i had to be with a man the idea of not being with them was unreal to me. that’s one of the aspects of comphet

@iovechester5654 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa yeah except i don’t

@leila9702 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa you are confusing bisexuality (being genuinely attracted to multiple genders) with comphet (heterosexuality being forced upon people and therefore making gay people feel as though they are wrong for not being heterosexual). They are completely different things.

@kerribelleville7958 2 жыл бұрын

“That many people love me, believe it” Iconic

@dan2000ist Жыл бұрын

These women look so young... I was shock to hear the girl say that she had her first kiss at 27 and the other girl came out in her 30s. To me they both look around 25. I guess that’s the benefit of not having to dealt with men all the time.

@VeganLiving247 2 жыл бұрын

“I dress on what my spirit feels like for the day” Love that! ☺️

@spookyoatmilk Ай бұрын

as a questioning lesbian, hearing other newly out & questioning lesbians is very affirming thank you :,(

@Naomiiiii 2 жыл бұрын

*27 year old virgin here. It’ll happen when it happens. For me, I’ve always wanted a connection with the person and I haven’t had that yet. And I’m in a spot where I KNOW that I can’t entertain a relationship because of the amount of mental and emotional unpacking I have to do before I could think about being that vulnerable with someone is unreal. **#Therapy*

@theretrix1802 2 жыл бұрын

Amen 👏💯

@Random_Fanatic Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you're a demisexual. Also I love that you're working on yourself. I'm doing the same thing. I'm 24 and haven't dated anyone due to issues in my past. Plus ya know my family would disown me and I'm not in a place where I can be open about liking women. Keep up the good work! You've got it and you have the right mentality. "If it happens, it happens." Not forcing yourself until you're ready.

@lazygirl2069 Жыл бұрын

Hi! It's easy to say than done and you probably already think about it but here my thoughts: try to face your fears little by little everyday. If you need a break, take a break. Make changes in your life by listening to yourlsef (how you feel about it). Take babies step that you know you can overcome today.

@hrsinghpoint2240 Жыл бұрын

I'm single sexy handsome boy here any girls woman Lisbon girls bixeaul girls come what's app

@MariaPaula-uw3ds Ай бұрын

I'm in the same situation being 29 years old

@Lunipu 6 ай бұрын

the lady with the long wavy hair and black outfit is SO gorgeous omg

@ivethaldana7545 2 жыл бұрын

The Curly haired and black shirt woman is BEAUTIFUL 😍...

@RainbowFlowerCrow 2 жыл бұрын

I can't wait for the day when we don't have to "come out" anymore.... I wish for a day when people can just be themselves, and it's not a big deal!

@psilokatalaves5576 2 жыл бұрын

‘Don’t look for acceptance,be your own acceptance’.That’s a quote I will remember for the rest of my life

@andrearepetto217 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 38 and in 2021 I came out to my parents... and to my husband and my daughter. Everyone has surrounded me with love and support, and I feel so lucky. I think that growing up in a less-friendly era made me more anxious to come out, and I felt like I had to be "100% sure" first -- this video has a lot of wisdom.

@lurklingX 2 жыл бұрын

that thing about eras is *real*. i think growing up in the 80s scarred me. to this day, i feel anxiety about being really "out there". like letting a job find out, or people at work, or anything remotely PDA in public (it's like there's an ingrained and sometimes subconscious fear of violence). : ( i've wondered what it's like for people who are growing up now, and if the environment all feels a lot more supportive and less dangerous.

@lurklingX 2 жыл бұрын

PerfectionPending 🧙‍♀️ I’m not sure if I should make my goal trying to be more confident in that stuff and not worry about it, or if it still is an ever present risk.

@user-ms2ch7dj9w 2 жыл бұрын

“how did you know your girlfriend was gay?” “UHH i looked at her?” IM SLAPPING MY KNEE THATS SO FUNNY I LOVE THAT SM

@SometimesMagii 2 жыл бұрын

my two cents would also be: You don't have to come out to somebody you are not comfortable with. Not now or ever. You do not have to come our to your parents, or sisters or aunties or work or whoever. Treat it as any other kind of personal information, not everyone deserves to receive that information or hold it against you. It is completely your decision, on your terms. Today, I am finally independent. Today there are some family members, I would have never come out to today, just because they broke my trust and they dont deserve knowing me like that. But I usually "come out" to people that respect me. (I just talk as if they already new, e.g. talking about my gf when it fits a subject or something). Do not feel pressured to come out, do not feel pressured to stay in the closet. Whatever you decide to seek happiness , is gonna be the right choice.

@kemi4786 2 жыл бұрын

That’s it, I just discuss it casually with whomever I feel comfortable discussing it with. Not as a big deal, just a fact.

@empressofawesome7099 Жыл бұрын

This needs more upvotes, this whole comment right here. I don't live in the same country as my parents and I am biromantic & possibly bisexual. I will probably NEVER EVER tell my parents even though I realized a few years ago and I have come out to some people. Luckily that all went incredibly well. I will probably never come out at work while I am in a quite conservative type of career either. (I don't have to do conservative stuff but...it's a long story.) But I feel it's better if people at work DON'T know and I don't know how accepting workplaces would be. Some places would be others I'm not so sure so why risk it. Even my newest social group, it is definitely queer friendly and I know some of the people are queer but even so I don't want to just blurt it out though I dropped a few hints to someone there recently - it depends on how comfortable I feel. I don't think everyone HAS to come out to EVERYONE but of course they can if they want to! And I love and agree with do not feel pressured to come out, do not feel pressured to stay in the closet.

@SandraBieber 2 жыл бұрын

“I don’t have to explain it… cause that many people love me. Believe it” YES SIS! ❤️ Loved hearing that

@sweekley92 2 жыл бұрын

I love how the one with short hair that was asking questions touched on the fluidity of sexualyity. She said today she is gay but it changes. I've always thought I was straight but came our as bi in high school, didn't go well, so I suppressed it. I'm in a hetero relationship with a bisexual man, but I definitely know I am bi or pan(idc what your gender is), but for some reason labeling myself as queer feels wrong. Part of me feels like I cannot call myself queer because I've never sexuallu been with a woman and I'm dating a cis man. But I've kissed a few women and I'm VERY attracted to them, cis or trans. I also realize I don't have a type, human is my type. So I'm stating it here to strangers, I am QUEER! Ah feels good to say. Instead of just saying bi or pan. I'll say queer and let people wonder haha

@nosferat-ew 2 жыл бұрын

you are not alone!! a lot of that resonates with me 😊 I’m bi & I’m in a very long term relationship with a straight man, so I personally struggle with feeling that “bi erasure” they mentioned. Have a great day, and happy you’re here 🏳️‍🌈

@kawaiibratchan 2 жыл бұрын

Pan 4L 🤘🏾 I'm saying it with you I am proud to be pansexual. Bump this closet door, I'm giving it splinters/shards. 🙌🏽

@kawaiibratchan 2 жыл бұрын

I'm married and pan, cis relationship. Please don't ever feel less valid in yourself, you are entirely valid! 💖💖💖

@lilypierie9126 2 жыл бұрын

So proud of you!

@rollzfordayz9112 2 жыл бұрын

Me too:)

@franziskakaiser4945 2 жыл бұрын

"I dress on what my spirit feels like for the day" - LOVE this, I can so hard relate to it 🤘

@brennaresto563 2 жыл бұрын

*Recommended Shows/Movies Mentioned:* Saving Face 🎬 I Can’t Think Straight 🎬 Imagine Me & You 🎬 The L Word 📺 Betty 📺 The Bold Type 📺 Pose 📺 Atypical 📺 Euphoria 📺 RuPaul’s Drag Race 📺

@clairejohnson7809 2 жыл бұрын

And gentleman jack! And Feed Good with Mae Martin is incredible.

@heatherlee2967 2 жыл бұрын

@nitrogenfr 2 жыл бұрын

You forgot « Portrait of the lady on fire » and « Mademoiselle »

@bootdownthedoor 2 жыл бұрын

F*cking Amal is so so good too.

@LARVAMOLT 2 жыл бұрын

"because that many people love me. Believe it" that made me almost cry.. sometimes I'm ashamed of my past relationships and what it "means I am"...thank you.

@wildflower4197 2 жыл бұрын

wow. This video made me feel SO valid! I’m 100000% sure i love everything about women/nonbinary folks but i question my attraction to men almost on a daily basis. All of your responses to those types of questions really comforted me knowing i’m not alone!

@youk2328 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa you came BACK to comment this for what? gtfo.

@ln3895 2 жыл бұрын

I’m attracted heterosexual but I’m attracted to women every day. It end there though. I don’t want to know all their deep dark secrets then make waffles and talk about life.

@chatnoir9038 2 жыл бұрын

@@ln3895 You could be biromantic but heterosexual. Meaning, you can have romantic attraction to the same gender without being sexually attracted to them.

@yzbyz5647 Жыл бұрын

rather than gathering the terms of “women” and “nonbinary” together (which tends to communicate that nonbinary people are “women lite”), specifying “non-cis-men” goes a long, long way!

@aarieeess 2 ай бұрын

“That’s what’s the older gays taught me when I was a ki…in college”😭😭had to fix that wording real fast

@starlingsbones763 2 жыл бұрын

It was so interesting and validating to hear y'all's experiences thank you

@boikanyontsimane8641 2 жыл бұрын

buzzfeed has highkey done so much for me as a queer person with basically no other queer representation/education, from when i first realised i was queer to now, and it's just been so incredibly helpful, so thank you guys!

@XtinaCMV Жыл бұрын

That girl with the curly hair and all black... she is perfection: beauty, intellect, confidence. My gay heart 😭😍

@Morster 2 жыл бұрын

I was both expecting and not expecting the finger question 🤣

@bethaniejify 2 жыл бұрын

The label thing…Ive mentioned lately that if they’d had more specific labels when I was growing up “non-binary” for instance, I would have felt so much more comfortable. I’m 52, so the labels didn’t exist, and you definitely didn’t talk about it.

@youk2328 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa maybe let's not invalidate someone's experience- especially within a space of safe discussion

@youk2328 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa embarassing 😟

@normaharrod5337 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa You! You have a negative perspective. People holding you accountable isn't bossing you around. If it's not nice don't say it. Apparently you didn't have a nice grandma to teach you that.

@normaharrod5337 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa whatver you say cooky conspiracy theorist 😆

@normaharrod5337 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa I don't understand why you would name call someone for saying they wished these terms existed back in her day.

@homegrownstranger4661 Жыл бұрын

I'm dating a woman for the first time and it feels so right. I can't believe that I have denied myself for so many years of my life!

@taylordottie5858 7 ай бұрын

Good for you!

@faerieangeltaitai 2 жыл бұрын

I had to rewind 13:01 a few times, and feel the power of that self acceptance. And the message to not rush and she waited til she was 30 wow I hope I can be that brave.

@shizutans 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the question on how often they felt attracted to men. I think I'm really struggling with comphet and it felt very validating to hear you guys talk about how "attraction" doesn't equal action, especially if action never ends in actual enjoyment.

@Tujae_ 2 жыл бұрын

Conversations about these topics seem to be much more well-rounded and informed than when I was younger. Maybe the community on a whole has grown. This is awesome! Thank you for this video!

@vanessa6236 2 жыл бұрын

Haha the "come here" though. Girl she got me questioning my sexuality. That was pretty seductive

@Ms_Tania 2 жыл бұрын

Even though I'm not gay,... I really appreciate these videos. Sometimes I have question (even out of curiosity) that I'd like to know the answer to but won't ask because I don't want to offend anyone. We never can know how another person can react or how'd they feel to be asked such a personally question when it comes to such a personal topic such as our sexuality and for that reason,...I don't ask. So,...Thanks!! :)

@miki28miss 2 жыл бұрын

Also you shouldn't ask because it's not their place to educate you. Not every lgbtq person you'll encounter is a spokesperson for the community, and you should do your own research by listening to lgbtq educators and the many ressources that you can find on social media!

@bubblesbubbleton2747 2 жыл бұрын

And this is how to be a true ally

@Ms_Tania 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa Thank you, I appreciate your kind words and encouragement. I'm glad my comment comes with good intention as intended. :)

@Ms_Tania 2 жыл бұрын

@uwu nya Thank you. As I mentioned above...I don't want to offend anyone. There's no way of knowing how another person can react though, whether it's this topic or another. What if someone does get offended,...the last thing I want is to have someone to get upset with me. Maybe they would think that I shouldn't ask questions because it's such a personal topic, opposed to someone such aaaaas you who feels ok and open about being asked questions on this topic,...ya know??

@omoid1749 2 жыл бұрын

@L Costa hey! Not all bi-women~~~~ Ugh I rolled my eyes at their gatekeeping

@Why_Knott_Me Ай бұрын

I love labeling myself (hobby or vibes related) because it never has to be permanent. I'm labeling myself so I can change to whatever I feel is right! ❤❤❤❤

@Mamtagautam.4204 2 жыл бұрын

I am girl And I am bisexual And I love myself ....

@keiron.4612 2 жыл бұрын

@@trihard____ did she ask🙄

@Daniela2482 2 жыл бұрын

Me too! 😊

@Mamtagautam.4204 2 жыл бұрын

@@keiron.4612 nha!! 😂😂😂

@lunaviper5244 2 жыл бұрын

Like she should! YAAAS

@emily.c518 2 жыл бұрын

Nice! Love you as well:)

@lovegymnastic07 2 жыл бұрын

Jazmine is a QUEEN!!! I NEED her confidence🥺

@laurameneses3318 4 ай бұрын

“I’m taking off your pants now.. with consent” is the most relatable thing and lesbian thing in the world 😍

@pattycannon1804 2 жыл бұрын

I love this series it's funny but informative at the same time 👭🏻🏳️‍🌈

@airconsama3960 2 жыл бұрын

When I was still very young I crushed on guys just because I thought they were attractive,and I didn’t know what “in love” felt like,until the first time I fell for a girl.

@binabutternborajelly Жыл бұрын

wait bc why does this sound like me……..

@faiththompson5649 2 жыл бұрын

This is so enlightening and comforting. Thanks for this transparent convo! Touching more humans than you know💜

@misssunshine6200 2 жыл бұрын

To anyone in the comments worried about not kissing someone or having any experience in your 20's or beyond, I know it's easier said than done but please know you're not a "freak", I don't see you as less than or unworthy. I think it's wonderful and no one should be judging you based off of that You will find someone who appreciates that about you wholeheartedly ❤️

@anniezheng8138 2 жыл бұрын

The personalities of everyone here!!! Incredible and perfect

@lauracampbell5364 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! Even though I’ve been out for years it’s always great to see validating videos like this. More please!

@isaacisamexi Жыл бұрын

This was super awesome to watch, I really love how unapologetically true you guys are to yourselves!

@deIcorazon 2 жыл бұрын

this is wholesome i literally cried

@Estherowusuboateng 2 жыл бұрын

You're so pretty Andrea

@Truelovedontcomeeasy 2 жыл бұрын

What a great video. Especially the part where they get asked if they question their sexuality sometimes. This gave me so much more confidence because I also sometimes question my sexuality and now that i know it‘s normal that many queer people question it from time to time makes me feel seen and understood. Thanks for that

@rumarue8703 2 жыл бұрын

I love all these people. I need to be surrounded with people like you -- thanks for the tips on meeting others within the queer community!

@baby_tink73 2 жыл бұрын

Ok but like she didn’t actually have to go say “come here” with a smirk at the end because what am I supposed to do with this heart dead on the floor

@sassybiatch7073 2 жыл бұрын

Girl with vegetable / fruit dress has legendary vibes

@shootdj 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video. Really made feel happy, when they talked about dressing up I could relate so much. Having these women talk here out and proud really empowered me Thank you all of you

@BlerdCami 2 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favorite videos as a baby gay! Definitely helped me out to feel more comfortable in my queerness and like a weight lifted off of my shoulders asking the right questions! 💗

@Lulu-rh2xm 2 жыл бұрын

Same

@vivianavila9745 2 жыл бұрын

This is so helpful to me. I don't know any queer women in my life, so I feel very uninformed and confused, but this gives me answers and company.

@larissapitter 2 жыл бұрын

"I know that they're seeking to understand, but it feels like an attack to have to justify how you're feeling now, especially when like it's already a scary thing to come out." oufff FEEEEEEL this!

@Cubanmuchacha Жыл бұрын

As a baby gay, I appreciate this video a lot. Thank you girls 💖

@tehlyahill970 2 жыл бұрын

13:14 SHES OVER 30 YEARS OLD!!! GIRLY LOOKS SO YOUNG FOR HER AGE I THOUGHT SHE WAS IN HER 20s!!! 13:01 PREACH HONEY~

@5ad33 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! There were some questions and ideas that I've been circling around in my head for a long time (even though I already came out 6 years ago), but never discussed or processed them with anyone since I don't have queer friends. This video felt like a wholesome queer community support🥰🙏

@sunflowergarden9794 2 жыл бұрын

When I watched this I wasn't sure if I liked girls or not, this November I finally accepted that I'm bisexual and I have been getting involved in the community. Only three of my closest friends and my girl crush know about my sexuality. Finally!!

@empressofawesome7099 Жыл бұрын

I need to do that. I'm in some groups that are in the community but I've only been to one of them a few times and that's it. But I will try this year and check out some more of them.

@sunflowergarden9794 Жыл бұрын

@@empressofawesome7099 Yesterday I got a girlfriend!!!!

@resumefacts Жыл бұрын

@@sunflowergarden9794 stick to girls only, men are useless

@luke208 Жыл бұрын

What a wholesome video! Simply love Jazzmyne's sense of humor! 😍

@SacrificeTheVeggies 2 жыл бұрын

“Because that many people love me” 💕 Love that

@indecentxcomposer 2 жыл бұрын

I was falling off the 'watching buzzfeed' wagon but this was so fun + cute!

@aleks-33 2 жыл бұрын

Same!!!! I clicked for Jazz, stayed for everyone 🤩

@carligirrl 2 жыл бұрын

Whoa. Whoa. Jazzmyne's answer about the genders of previous partners of "Cuz that many people love me. Believe it." is PROFOUND. I had to pause and just let that sink in. Like seriously, damn. That's a word. That. Is. A. Word.

@courtneykamen1024 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you endlessly for this video. So helpful for where I am at in my queer journey. This felt like an exhale!

@redsprinkle Жыл бұрын

i love everyone's energy in this video they all seem so nice!

@Chrona24 Жыл бұрын

Having a partner that questions your sexuality no matter if they mean it seriously or just as a joke is a red flag for me. Not dealing with that toxic attitude.

@indica_nail_artist_6363 2 жыл бұрын

It's literally like you guys are in my head I've been lesbian forever but lived a hetero life but I just recently came out and now I'm having a very hard time finding a girl in my type zone not even looks necessarily more of personality or even knowing if they are gay it's been so hard😩

@ngeniesidloyi650 2 жыл бұрын

Where are you based?

@annemieke406 3 ай бұрын

This was so healing and confirming for me ❤

@meganloe2833 2 жыл бұрын

This was so helpful on where to start on a grad school research project. You all rock! ❤️

@thatblindmusician7218 2 жыл бұрын

I love this! In the end they mentioned how we can come out however we want. I came out to my family recently as bisexual. The way I did it was actually kind of confusing. First I posted the rainbow flags on Facebook, then my Twitter, then my Instagram. And my family kept asking me why I had done that. So the day after, I finally decided to tell my mother and sisters that I am bisexual. Then I uploaded a relationship status because I was dating a girl, and to this day I’m still getting a lot of shade even though her and I are no longer together. But this will not stop me from being who I am! For anyone going through something like this, cheers! You got this! You are loved, and valid!

@janitajames4137 2 жыл бұрын

7:00, BROOO im so happy someone mentioned these movies, we love to see more queer asian/POC representation. I can't think straight is incredible and so i saving face. If you like either of these movies, try watching The half of it, or even the world unseen

@ashleyfox1302 11 ай бұрын

i really love these conversations. thank you for this!!!!

@gabbymartino7703 2 жыл бұрын

WOW JAZ!!! i haven’t kept up on this channel but you look stunning these days! ✨

@lkctom2546 2 жыл бұрын

The biggest scam is that you have to talk to a girl to get a girlfriend 😭

@blissgirl9052 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh! Delightful video. Thank you all for hanging out and chatting!

@CocoaCookies_ 2 жыл бұрын

This was really refreshing. I’ve recently come to the realization that I’m gay (well, bi specifically), and as someone who’s also never been in a romantic relationship I’m in the process of navigating how I should even come out, if at all. Like, I don’t have any close queer friends. Maybe I just need to open myself up more. But I’m an awkward introvert and I truly don’t know where to even start.

@priyar8165 2 жыл бұрын

literally all of these ppl are so attractive I’m- MARI U HAVE MY HEART😚

@Sexyfine3000 2 жыл бұрын

Suprised no one mentioned at least 1 lgbt animated show such as she-ra, toh, adventure time, lwa, 12 forever which exclude harmful lesbian stereotypes than most live action lgbt film/shows ..such as lesbian death tropes, general abnormality/confliction due to sexuality, involving a man in said relationships. Let's face it there's still a long way to go when it comes to wlw representation specifically. Animated series have done it best so far.

@iman1246 2 жыл бұрын

12 forever! I stopped watching that

@laurenbeavers6811 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the recommendations with a great explanation 😊

@violetedge83 2 жыл бұрын

This is awesome 🖤🖤🖤thanks

@linoisbetterthanyou 10 ай бұрын

i feel like labels are really good when youre first figuring things out, bc it can help you narrow down what you might be feeling, which is how its been for me, but eventually as i got more comfortable with myself and explored myself more within those boundaries ive found all the ways that i dont fit. if im telling other people about those labels i feel boxed in bc they dont understand all the nuance and i dont think they ever could just bc of how complex it can be, but at the same time it really helps me to feel seen and connected to others