Koj yeej tsis yog ib leej niam zoo. Thaum Nov Koj zaj dab neeg no ces yeej paub tias Koj tsis yog leej niam zoo

Tu siab kawg. Yog poj ciav nyab lawm ces kawg tawm nawb, txawm ua siab ntev npaum twg los luag saib yus twb tsis muaj nqis li tus tsiaj lawm os mog.

Tus me sister aw nrog koj zoo siab ua neb ib niam tub rov tau sib ntsib os. Yus yog ib leeg niam mas yus yeej hlub yus cov me nyuam tshaj li os. Lwm tus tsis raum yus txais khaub ces lawv yeej tsis paub tias yus hlub thiab nco yus cov me nyuam li os. Kuv ces tuag kiag koj txoj kev os sister aw tus hais phem hais zoo los muaj tag li os. God bless neb ib niam tub os mog.😊

Tus viv ncaus tim koj xwb kev sib nrauj yeej muaj tab si koj yeej muaj txoj cais ntsib koj tus tub tab si vim koj yeej tsi xav pom nws tiag. Ib qho kuj zoo yog nrog koj cais tej zaum nws yuav txom nyem tshaj li nrog nws txiv nyob.

Kuv mloog mas lawv yeej hlub koj. Niam pog ces yeej zoo li koj tus ntau tab sis uv xwb yog yus tus txiv hlub yus lawm.

Yeej mob siab kawg os.. tabsis qhov neb sib ncaim ntev li no los yeej tim koj thiab.. yus tus menyuam yus yuag es txawm sib ntxhub npaum cas los yus yuag lawm tsim nyog koj yeej yuav tsum saib kom tau xwb..

Very sad story os tus muam

Christian parents, remember that when son's get married, he should leave his parents and be one with his wife. Don't intervene too much into your son's life.

Is a very very sad story but so happy you n your son reunited ❤

Kuv mloog mas yog Tim koj xwb na me ntxhais

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By listening to your story, I feel that it was more your fault. You claimed that your ex family hated you because you are white and are non Christian. I believe you hated them as much or even more. You wanted to move out, and yes, you guys did. You are a narrow-minded person. Koj ua twv koj tus txiv lawm na. Your idea was to run back to your parents so that your husband can come and ask you back. That way, you have full control of him. Doesn't work that way, so you guys end up separated and heartbroken. Hlub koj ces kawg li koj tus ex niam pog txiv yawg lawm xwb os. Peb cov ntxhais mus ua nyab twb tsis tau nqe thiab tau hlua kub from niam pog txiv yawg li koj es. Too sad and big regret. It wasn't meant to be. Anyway, I am glad you reunited with your son!

You asked your son why didn't he "noog koj moo." Lady, you're the adult. You abandoned him when he was little. And yet u asked him why he didn't noog koj moo? How about why didn't u noog nws moo? U are the mom who gave birth to him, the adult, and u didn't even keep in touch. So how could he? Idc what your reasons are as to why u didn't keep in touch. At the end of the day, you choose not to keep in touch.

I was a young mother too.. I spent alot for my twins too. After I got custody and child support my ex is dead no longer in my kids life since 3 when he remarried. His back pay child support up the stacks. He lies to people saying he keeps on touch and see them every summer. But nope all lies. Even if I lost jurisdiction in my city and custody of my child. I will still send him birthday cards, holidays gifts and every options I get i will go see my child. Those people will not stop me from loving my child. My child will know who I am and my love. The last laugh will be mine bc at age 13 or more will have a choice whom he or she like to stay with. I am happy you got to reunite with your son. May the Lord bless you and. Your son.

Xf tseem txawj dag thiab laiv yog hmoob

Tus mi niam tsev aw nrog koj zoo siab , Koj lub neej twb tawg tas vim neb ob niam txiv tsis txawj sib hum sib coj . Nyias taus nyias xav ua tus loj ! Neb zoo nkaus li tus hma xav Tom tus npua Los khuv xim tus twd , ho xav Tom tus twd Los khuv xim tus npua ! Ghov zoo Mas neb tus tub tsim txiaj lawd !

Koj tus minyuam me2 nws twb tsis tau txoj cai tuaj ntsib tau koj tabsis koj yog leej niam , koj mus tau es cas koj ho tsis Mus ntsib kom tau? Why let 22 years go passed?

She screwed her life at the beginning no question about that. She missed and loves her son but not as much her reasons not to visit him. I'll go with a cop to visit my son if I have to. Her ex not remarry todate tells the whole story. May God bless the son.

To all who posted; we all have our own opinions, but don't pass your judgment to this lady until you wore her shoe. She was so young, didn't have any support.,and how are you going to reach out to your child?!! Of course she had to wait till her son grew up!! You have had to lose someone you love to know her pain. Her anguish, her sorrow!! I can only imagine what she had to go through! What the two of them had to go through! I'm happy that you found each other!

Your story is confusing. He asks you to tell him everything, yet you are just rambling about other stuff that is not related to how you divorce your husband. You didn't even tell him what your in-laws did to you. I don't know. I feel like your story is missing details you didn't include in the story because some of the stuff you say doesn't make sense.

Tswv ntuj aw ua cas Kuv mloog Zaj neej neeg no es kuv yeej teeb Tsis tau kuv lub me kua muag li o lub me ntuj😢😢😢😢😢😢❤

Sometimes, the court system is so unfair!!! If men were the ones to have babies, they would understand why women fight for their kids! They will never understand what it feels like to carry a baby, and they will never understand the labor pain! Your ex-husband and in-laws are pure evil! They don't deserve to keep your baby!

Lawv tsis nyiam koj es cas lawv ho them $9800 rau koj no

Tim koj tsis ua siab ntev xwb thiab tsis ua siab zoo xwb

Ua li cas es koj qhov story yuav tu siab ua luaj li thiab os mi sister aw… Tabsis ua vajtswv tsaug os mog uas neb ob niam tub twb tau los sib ntsib lawm os mog..🙏🙏🙏

Tus niam hlua aw kuv lub neej los tib yam li koj hais thiab tab si kuv niam pog lawv tsi nyiam kuv los kuv ua kiag li lawv nyiam xwb ces yeej tsi muaj teeb meem li lawm thaum kawg lawv nyiam yus kawg Kuv yeej to taub koj kawg Tab si koj pheej tawm tsam lawv ne yog koj xyaum ua li lawv ces tsi muaj teeb meem li os Tus siab qhov koj xaiv nrauj koj tus txiv pog thiab yawg lawv hlub koj tus menyuam los koj tseem tsi txau siab ne

Tsis nkag siab tias cas koj ho tseg koj tus menyuam tau tshaj 20 xyoo. Twb tsis yog hiav txwv quas neb na.

Ua cas Koj ho tsis hmoo Koj Tus tub moo Koj dab tias nco xwb

Me tub koj yeej ua yog kawg lawm os kuv ntseeg hais tias nws yeej nco koj hlub koj kawg tiamsis nws raug txoj kev tsimtxom quabyuam lawm xwb tiamsis koj yog tus tau koobhmoov vim koj cawm tau nws ntseeg tias nws yeejyuav nco ntsoov koj mus lis nawb.

Please ladies and gentlemen, if u want custody of your kids. Do not move outta state or u will lose!

Sounds like my ex in laws. But I kept my kids fought for them with every strength left in my body.

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I’m glad you guys are in good terms and have a relationship now. You have to take accountability for your own actions also instead of blaming everyone else. Unless I’m locked up or dead, there won’t be anything keeping me from seeing my children.

Koj yeej tsis yog ib leej niam zoo.

Thaum yuav sib mrauj ces leej twg txawm yuav hais 2 txawj nkag cuag pab me nyuam qaib los yeej tsis kam thim xav li , txawm koj yuav kom peb txhob ua li koj los peb tsee niaj hnub npaj qho yuav sib nrauj xwb , niaj hnub mas haj yam sib nrauj sib tso coob ohs!

Kj tia niam pog tsi nyiam kj ca ho yv saw rau kj ntse kj yog tu tsi nyiam lawv

Why any Hmong girl still wants to get married real young (under 20) is beyond me, especially now that we live in the U.S. Why get married when you are still young and stupid? Grow up a bit more, develope your mind a bit more, grow a strong spine, and know what you want out of life first! And PLEASE stop blaming "kev npam" on BAD DECISION-MAKING, take ownership of your mistakes if you want to avoid future mistakes. I believe your current marriage situation is again due to bad decision-making; as for your less than ideal relationship with your other children, that's again bad decision-making in the form of lack of parental discipline (most likely due to your own guilt with your first child)! Sounds like a lot of bad decision-making. At least you made ONE very good decision---you earned your Master's Degree which allowed you to gain a good career.

Hmoob lees lawv yeej coj nkhaus nkhaus li no.

koomkojnawb❤❤❤❤

I don't doubt that u love him or miss him at all. However, i still don't agree with u on not keeping in touch with your son for 20 yrs. U can use the excuses that your ex-husband and ex-inlaws wouldn't have let u get in contact with him, but the truth is....u never tried to actually keep in touch to know and see if yur ex and ex-in laws would actually prevent u from seeing him or not. For this u can't make them the bad people for things that never happened bc u never attempted.

Story los zoo. Tus hais los hais tau zoo kawg. Thank you for sharing

Tsev hmoob liam ntawm lawv ua neej nrog Vaj tswv xwb tsis ua neej nrog tib neeg

Im glad you admit your wrong, you do sound very twm xeeb & short temper when you're younger. You married young but you were also naive and didnt even give your marriage enough time to grow. Let me say, all the things u mentioned about your in laws...even my own parents/in laws did to me too, especially the part on changing your son's clothes to their style. Some of us endure longer and yet we dont even have in laws gifting us gold items nor did our husband buy us expensive gifts. Dont be sad about your other kids, they are how u raise them. If u were to raise your first son, I think he'll be no different too. Be glad your son grow up well from his dad. Thank you for the positive msg for the audiences whatsoever.

That sad story tu siab ua luaj li kuv nim nrog neb quaj quaj os me ntxhais aws

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There’s something missing in this story. The only person you can blame is yourself. You went to court and they granted you share custody. But you decided not to take that and move away from your child. Now that your life didn’t go as you wanted you want your son back. Just because you divorced your husband the law doesn’t stop you from having a relationship or stop you from seeing your children. Stop blame others for your own mistakes.

I understand your feelings. I spent over 25k fighting for custody. Through prayers and families support. His other family surrendered my baby back to me. God is good! My son is now 16 years old.

U had shared custody but chose not to go live in the same town as ur ex & never bothered to check on ur son bcuz of ur bitterness towards ur ex family. Sure they didnt like u but u chose to cut urself out of his life. Thats on u.

If u lov your ur child that much then why not contact him, you act like we are still in Laos, and there is no phone, u are the adult why do u expect him to call u when he’s just a kid

Tais jenny zaj neej neeg no mas tu siab tshaj plaws li ua rau peb quaj quaj tsis taus li Tais jenny zoo siab nws nriav tau nws niam lawm me tub zoo siab kawg li. ❤❤❤❤❤😂😂😂😢😢😢😢😢

Ib tug txiv yog nws paub nws kev txhaum li koj tus qub txiv ces nws yeej yuav rau txim rau nws tus kheej tsis yuav pojniam es muab txoj kev ntseeg vaj tswv es nim muab los lus vaj lug kub ua yog neeg sau los keb xwb haha... Yeej paub txog koj tus ua niam tsev txoj kev mob vim koj tus qub txiv tsis muaj txha nqaj qaum ua tau hlub koj. Txoj kev li no lub neej nrog koj tus qub txiv yeej mus tsis taus yog kuv yog ib tug pojniam los kuv yeej yuav nraug ib yam na. Txhob tu siab vim niam pog lawv yeej tsis nyiam koj es nyob tiv ntshe koj twb tuag los ntev vim kev nyuab siab plawv nres ntag. Qhov tseem ceeb ces koj tus qub txiv ua tsis taus txiv xwb.

The fact that u remarried less than a year after your divorce while your ex never remarried til now says a lot about who loves whom more. Plus, now you're regretful about the divorce and abandoning your son so that tells me what u did was wrong and that u had intentionally choose not to keep in touch with him due to your bitterness with yur inlaws. It wasn't a case of helplessness, but more of bad decisions that you're now regreting.

Your situation isn’t worth a divorce, yet.

So sad. I feel you sister. No one knows what you went through. I’m happy you guys are reunited again.

Sister dont blame yourself for your divorce because when are young your husband didn't support and defend you from his mother either. So you don't really know or predict your future maybe if you stay your son would turn out just like all your children with you now and not being thoughtful or respectful too. Since he wonder about you and not having a mom make him a better person also his father's family members all love him . Sister just think that the fish that escaped is always bigger and better and the one you have smaller and more naughty because they came from you.

To the lady in this story, koj yog ib tug neeg tsis sawm zoo. Lawv tsis nyiam yus los tsuav lawv hlub yus tus menyuam xwb. That's love. In my experience, if they hate you, they also hate ur children. Koj yog ib tug pojniam siab luv koj thiaj plam txoj kev hlub zoo. He never married after you bc you broke his heart. Also for you to expect ur son to look/call you instead of the other way around tells me koj tsis yog ib tug neeg txawj xav. Sorry, ur wrong in so many ways

Thank you for sharing your story 😢

Im trying to understand...did the court terminated your parental rights? Or did you lost sole custody? If you lost custody, why didn't you reach out to your son during those times? You had every right to still be in his life because you still have parental rights even if the court didnt give you shared or sole custody. Glad you both reconnected.

You decided to leave him behind because you couldn't tolerate criticism from his family. You want to take their son away from them, and for that, you have to suffer the consequences. You were too young to get married as the reason why your marriage failed.

neeg mu church Cas yuav g txawj sib hlub. Lam mu church xwb siab phem tiag2. Phau vaj lug kub twb qhia Kom txawj sib hlub sib hwm. Neeg lub siab phem xwb. Tuag mu lo vajtswv yuav r txim.

Sounds like your hate for your in law is bigger than your love for your son. You chose to stay away so u dont have to face them instead of facing their hate to love your son. U made your choice so stop making yourself a victim. U lost custody, but still have visitation right. U never reach out to him but feels so sad that he didnt reach out to u?? Annoying.

We aren't in Laos anymore. It wasn't like you didn't have any visitation rights. I've even heard a few stories where the divorced or widowed mom in Laos got remarried but still came once in a long time to see her kids who were left behind bc of hmong culture. You just didn't want to have to see your ex husband and ex in-laws, so that overrode your desire to see your son. That was a bit silly and foolish. I only felt bad for your son for having to grow up without a mom. It's great he had a lot of love and good teaching from his family or who knows how he would've turned out. Glad he turned out well. If I were you making all that $ and living pretty well off, I probably would've attempted to go visit more or get him to visit me. But you're you and I'm me.

You didn’t even lose parental rights. They even said you could go live in his town to see your child. You could have traveled to their city or state to see him. You chose not to because you didn’t like your ex in laws. That’s on you. Don’t make excuses for why you “couldn’t” see him for over 20 years.

I believe your husband truly loves you. Why didn't you have a nice talk with him and if it doesn't work out then you can leave? I think you made the wrong decision at the time. But I'm glad you reunited with your son.

I feel your pain sister. No one can understand you if they’re not in your shoes. It’s easier for ppl to say why didn’t you make attempts to see your son. You were young and had no support. It’s been 22 years and Hmong ppl have come a long way since you and your ex-husband divorced. We all make mistakes and I’m glad you reconnected with your son. You are still his mother. A mother’s love is real and unconditional. Life is too short. I hope you and your son continue to be in each other’s lives. It’s not too late. Your ex-husband was a mamma’s boy and could not have protected you anyway so even if you didn’t leave, you would have suffered some kind of mental abuse. Forgive yourself and move forward.

The reason why he didn’t contact you is because you abandoned him. You had every right to visit or even write a letter, but you didn’t. Don’t blame your in laws or your son. 🙄😒

Koj nrauj laem los zoo nawb qhias rau koj tiad hu ua hmoob no yog hmoob daeb tsis nyism hmoob less mas yeej nrog lawv nyob tau .Tabsi yog ntawm hmoob less tsis nyiam hmoob dawb mas nyob tsis tau kiag li nawb .lawv ua phem heev li naeb kuv yeej pom ntau tus yuav hmoob lees los lawm na

I am so happy that you're able to reunite with your 1st love. May the Lord continue to bless the both of you & may your relationship continue to grow in faith & love. ❤

Are your in law’s Godly people. Sister your kids living with you have no respect. You need not to be a door mat to them. Tough love.

❤😢 how sad but glad you got to see and be in contact with him again

is right ru inlaw is abaut ru mom take the money $10,000

Koj hais tsis txaus ntseeg tias koj yog 1 leejniam zoo, hlub tshua menyuam. Twb nyob USA muaj txojcai rau niam&txiv 2 leeg hlub saib xyuas menyuam. Koj yeej tsis quav ntsej nug moo, mus saib nws. Koj cov khoom tseemceeb fajtseg rau lawv khaws tseg los yeej tsis quav ntsej mus nqa. Koj puas yog 1 leejniam muaj responsibility?

To the sister have you repent. I don't think you know the Lord. If you had that's good.

Pab koj. Tu diab kawh thiab zoo siab. Heev .kuj ua rau ku quaj 2 nrog koj thiab os sister aw

If you leave, you leave alone but still have the right to see your child. I'm sick of hmong women leaving and putting good hmoob men on child support, especially if they are willing to do shared custody.

Cov hmoob mus church tseem siab phem tshaj cov coj dab nawb lawv aw...

Tus viv ncaus peb ib co ntxhais mus tau lub neej zoo li no es niam poj txiv yawg lawv tsis nyiam yus los thiaj yuav tau xav txhij xav txhua puas tsim nyog ua tej yam zoo li koj zaj no thaum kawg thiaj tsis tub saib.

As a mother-in-law, I can hear you made many mistakes and excuses for the failed marriage. Most of the issues were started by you. Not sure why you people call yourselves Christians, but you’re so evil towards each other.

Ua li cas zaj no muaj ntsis zoo li ib zaj uas koj nyuam qhuav tham tas los tsis ntev no puas yog?

tu siab kawg 😢😢😢

sister your husband not a man he olny listen to his mom

Sister kav tsij muab rau nws txiv thiaj tsis khuam yus kev mas😮

I think you didn't really care all that much, although u say u care and love him. If you truly do care and love him you would of see him, that is your right as a mom. You're just making excuses to why you didn't see him for 20 years. You failed him as a mom.

Glad you have come to your senses. You’ve lost 20 some years that you can never have back.

All these comments bashing this lady, that's cruel. She's brave enough to leave a mommy's boy husband. Any of us would never want to be married to a husband like that. That family was awful to her. Too many women can't leave their husbands and bare through torture staying in an unhappy marriage. She did the right thing not to contact that family. They're against her 💯. They would have never allowed him to see him.

You’re smart to get your degree but not smart enough to fight and get your son back! It was shared custody if you loved your son then you would’ve moved just to see your son every other week. You allowed your evil mil’s and ex to brain washed your son. You should’ve told your son how evil his dad and grand parents were to you that’s why you left. Instead you sugar coated so it’s your loss since you’ve lost in the first place. Something’s missing usually the court would grant the mother custody but why you’d lose? Just like your suitcase full of $$ and gold that you didn’t cared to picked it up and left it’s loss to someone else.

You were young, but not willing to adjust to your husband's family. Sound like your ex love you, but you chose to leave. Cant blame him. It was all you.

Tsev neeg coj li ko mas tsi yog tsev neeg ntseeg Vajtswv tiag

Tu Tu lub sab

It's common sense! White Hmong & Green Hmong, Hmong Shamanism & White Mens religions are NOT a good mix😂

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After divorce she went to school n got a master degree how can u not have common sense to fight or see your son again some part of your story is missing about your new life with your husband..seem like u only regret when ur other kids was not close to you u start to have a feeling about ur first born but anyway glad reconnect with ur son but u broke ur ex husband heart forever as a guy I feel his pain losing the love of your life for misunderstanding only😂😂🤣

Cas nim nrog koj tu siab ua luaj li os tus viv ncaus awii txawm zoo li cas los tsuav koj tus tub txawj tig los hlub koj xwb os