It’s the worst. When you feel like you need to wear a body cam to record interactions, you’re being gaslighted.

"The right relationship should have a healing property"

I just ended a relationship with a narcissist, gaslighting was one of the reasons why I couldn't stay. I felt crazy, I felt depressed, I felt small. I'm happy it's over and I'm slowly getting back to normal

Craziest part is that sometimes it's our own families doing that to us.

Yes! He lied repeatedly then made me feel crazy for questioning him, though my intuition told me things were off. So glad I left him.

When you bring up that you don’t like the constant “joking” insults and ask for it to stop: “You’re just too sensitive.” “Everyone else thinks it’s funny.” “I wish you would insult me back - we can enjoy it together.” (Brain washing to be awful like them) “I didn’t mean it that way. You know that, so why bring it up?” “You just don’t get me. You should try harder to understand why I’m funny.” “You need to laugh more - laughing at yourself is good for you.” Gaslighting is dangerous, because in response to a reasonable request, you get answers that sound kind of plausible and make you forget the reasonable thing you were asking for in the first place. But it’s the feeling of not being able to get your message through - hold on to that. If you try to reasonably ask for something to stop and you get blown off no matter what you say, that’s the red flag. Some times people around you will point out it’s messed up. But sometimes people around you don’t understand or are also gaslighting - so you have to use your own sense. If possible, reach out and try to find wise people who don’t behave that way.

Narcs never listen to the feelings of people they negatively impact. Never.

I was married to a Narcissist for 5 years and it leaves you so drained out thinking and over thinking every situation. What to say and what not to say ... it’s exhausting to be with this kind of sociopath !

"The right relationship should have a healing property. It should make us feel more confident; it should make us feel safer, more loved. It should engender a style of communication that compassionately helps us understand and navigate where we may be wrong and lovingly acknowledges where we are right." Love this.

Step 1: Get some space from the conversation that’s happening. Step 2: Have conversation with people you trust, who have no agenda. Step 3: Pay attention to your feelings. GOT IT!!! 👍

Acknowledging our own toxicity is so key in having healthy relationships

If you have an icky feeling either during or immediately after a conversation, you were just being manipulated in some way by the other person. Step back & decide what boundaries you're going to set with that person going forward. You can't control their manipulative behavior, but you can control how you respond to it.

It's even more painful & dangerous when it comes from a parent. After the recent passing of my father, my mother's gaslighting became evident & vicious towards me & my sisters, we came to realize, that we grow up with it, normalizing it, and that it affected our lives permanently. The road to healing seems so hard at this point, but at least now we see it.

Gaslighting makes me feel like i can’t trust anyone anymore and caused a huge damage to my social life

He would say to me, "You're remembering wrong" and I would really question my own memory of what happened. Thanks for taking on the topic of the behavior and tactics of Narcissists they target people looking for real love. They use it against us.

Thank you! Gaslighting is awful. I think it’s important to listen to your intuition - you are your best friend. There’s a saying I like - if something seems a certain way to you 3 times, than it’s true.

I knew I wasn't crazy. It got so bad that I had to stop addressing issues out of fear of this happening every time. Got out of that relationship, thankfully. Thank you for posting this video✌

I once found myself in that kind of a situation. Am I so glad I got out.

If you find yourself doubting the reality the other person is trying to feed you into, or your friends say something along the lines of "that's a horrible thing to say/do to you", you might be gaslighted. If our own self-esteem is low, you might not even notice that yourself

To anyone who is in the beginning stages of trying to leave that horrible relationship, congratulations. You may not see the sun shining on the other side just yet but you've truly opened the door to a wonderful, new life. God bless you!

Gaslighting: the definition of my soon to be ex-husband's interaction with me during our 6 years together. Only those of us who have been through it know what it can do to us on a psychological level and how bad it can scar us. I'm so glad and grateful and lucky to have had support from my loved ones, to have finally found clarity and had the strength to walk away, and to have found such an amazing therapist which was crucial to my healing process. To anyone out there who have gone through or are going through the same: you are not alone and you are not crazy. Please know that there is a way out, I've been there, I promise you there is even though it may not seem like it right now. Do yourself a favor and seek support from either loved ones whose opinions you trust (as Matthew Hussey says here) and look for a great therapist (just like any professional, there are good therapists, and not so good ones, so be sure to choose a really good one -- we're talking about your mental health). It'll make all the difference and give you some clarity on what you should do. Be strong, you'll be okay and you deserve to be happy. 💕

I remember seeing this guy and then finding out from someone that I'm his side chick 😳 I confronted him. But all I got from him was a silence treatment and him going out of his way trying to find out who told me these things. It was driving me absolutely crazy and I started to believe that maybe I'm just being unreasonable and that he does love me, and that he's not a liar 🤣😁🤣🤣 I'm laughing now, but back then it really hurt. Like this if you ever ignored your inner voice. Your intuition. It's there for a reason. Tune into your intuition and your feelings 💜

Your articulation in this video has just validated every “gaslightee” who has felt frustrated, defeated, and unable to articulate their own feelings towards their gaslighter. Thank you for this! I feel lighter inside

If you get into relationships with people that gaslight you, then chances are your parent/s gaslit you growing up and you're so used to it that you can't identify when it's happening. Work on your own wounds from childhood and you'll be less likely to be attracted to people who have a tendency to be like this.

I wish I had seen this in 2014. I could have walked away from a real psychopath who used me and abused my nature. He eventually destroyed my self esteem and confidence when I was on top of my life. I wish I had listened to my best friend about her warnings about him. I wish I paid attention to my gut instincts that he did not care about me; always felt worse after interacting with him. Those 3 steps would have saved me years of pain.

Just walk away and block, people like that aren’t worth your time.

My last relationship (broke up with him months ago) and it wasn’t until the end of that relationship that I realized I was being gaslighted on a very painful consistent unhealthy abusive basis. Thank you for making a video on this and bringing light to it.

The hardest part is finding the supportive people. Because those closest to us are the gaslighters.

Being gaslighted really messes with the psyche for the long term, on a so many levels.

BOOM! you're timing is unnatural this am....if you only knew how I needed this exactly right this moment....thank you

You know you are being gaslighted when you know yourself and you end up saying to yourself I know I am not crazy 😜

I was with someone who would gaslight me, and I wouldn't realize it. I stayed with him for 7 years before I realized and decided I didn't want to be manipulated anymore. I'm now with someone who I can tell and call out when he's unintentionally using tactics to dismiss me. After I tell him how he's trying to make me feel like my reasoning or emotions aren't valid, he apologizes.

Parts of my family did this to me and I cut them all out.... just because someone is family doesn't mean they're not manipulative, toxic gaslighters

The most dangerous thing is when we are gaslighting ourselves.

I had someone put me down and even say sadly I don’t think you live in the real world. Put me down often Thank god this person isn’t in my life Selfish controlling manipulative and dismissive. There was no safety my needs weren’t met when I explained what I needed. I trusted my gut and ran. Great video I was so unhappy.

4:59 - 6:40 Step 3: Pay attention to your feelings. Thank you for this Matthew. 💗 I didn’t reflect on this piece of communication before. I can fully let my relationship with my ex go now.

This has happened to me at work places, too many dysfunctional bosses or co-workers. I am no longer able to work, I´ve fibromyalgia and sleep apnea, but I am happier than ever despite of pains and fatigue. I am free to live my kind of life. My days are full and emotionally satisfying: house chores and chatting with friends, reading, sewing, drawing and learning every day something new.

Thank you for helping women recognize the dangers of narcissism. I lived with one for 18 years and wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. I’ve been free for the last three years, the best three years of my life! Strong, independent, and loving life. Keep up the great content you are helping others in a profound way.

You are the architect of your own reality. If you’re looking at the beams and walls and telling yourself, “Wait, I know this just isn’t true,” then the gaslight might be on.

Dear Matthew, ur the therapist of every lady. Thanks for existing.

Everything from projection and deflection to hiding my glasses, my keys, and accusing me of being "forgetful" then miraculously finding them after I've felt stressed all day. I left after 4 yrs of this. Its true that the worst thing is knowing that this behavior is intentional.

I finally got out from toxic relationship that sprinkled with gaslighting here and there❤️

"I never said that" - Narcissists

I loved this message, Matthew. There is way too many narcissists out there and women should be prepare to recognize some early signs that a relationship may become toxic.

Thank you, I started seeing a guy & didn't realize this is what he was doing. I called him out on it & he told me I was losing it, ended it with him & never felt better.

Gaslighting and the act of dismissing/not believing the victim has very similar effects. Makes you (victim) question your own reality and overexplain things to yourself. It’s a way of driving you crazy. It is the most horrible feeling and what to do about it? Cut them out. Cut them off. Get away from that people or group of people ASAP. You cannot change them, they’re psychopaths. SAVE YOURSELF!!

Mathew's voice is so calming . Its such a good experience to hear his heart out each time he puts up something . I relate a lot to this video . I choose to become someone who loves, warm and cares deeply about people. I never wanted to become the person who really broke my heart my faith my esteem. I chose the opposite. It changed my life for the best. And in that process i found my best friend too. I hope you heal and become a kinder, warmer, stronger and a happy human being ❤️

I feel like my husband is Jackle and Hyde. He puts me down and then will tell me I'm beautiful later on. He has my emotions on a roller coaster. I've been fighting back lately to question the way he is putting me down.

Talking about gaslighting is so important. Talking about how a lot of women are constantly made to feel crazy is important. And talking about how we can all act manipulative sometimes but you need to pay attention to the pattern is even more important. This video hits the nail on the head and all that in just a few minutes.

Thank you for this! For so long this was a major issue for me. I haven’t felt seen and understood in such a long time, that I don’t know what to do anymore when someone does.

Good relationships have a healing feeling involved. Thank you.

Just Had that today. "Its your Fault but im Not going to Tell what you did wrong because you should Know"

He is one of those rare creators who are thriving during this pandemic. By that I mean his content is continuing to improve...

I learned the hard way about gaslighting and you're correct, you have no idea it's happening if it's done effectively. ... I remember feeling like I couldn't trust my own memories, perception...and eventually I felt like I was a bad person....the man I was with was a pro at gaslighting. Luckily, I had my sister to help me and to talk with. Leaving that guy was sooo difficult. 6 years later, I feel that I learned valuable lessons. Yes the relationship took a toll on me emotionally (I lived with an unhealthy guy for 4 years); however, I feel our experiences (no matter how bad) can help us learn and grow and become a better version of ourselves. I am definitely more observant when I am in a relationship. 😁🏵️

Most BRILLIANT and HONEST conversation on this topic I have ever seen. Congratulations and thank you!

This is on repeat mode. I realised im not being fair to myself. My ex keeps saying im going crazy. I am the one to blame for all these insecurities, jealousy issue when i caught him texting his office wife, flirting with a married colleague. There were even photos that i seen etc. Towards the end of our relationship, when i suggested i want to seek for therapy because i was having bad panic attacks, I had to beg him to let me go for therapy. And he felt therapy is for the crazy people. Now i know he is gaslighting me. I am only crazy when with him. But im not crazy when with others.

Thank you Matthew. People need to hear this. I was in 11mnth relationship with someone like that last year. One of my friends told me Im under a spell, and now after being free from him, I realise that is actually how it feels. Only after the brakeup I realise he is kinda of a narsisst too. I am left with over 200,000 rands (RSA) debt and things he stole from me, which at that point I thought was a good thing for both of us. It came to light he cheated on another woman with me. He has a gambling problem. And even when he was confronted with all this he denied everything! He lied so much when caught, but worse he made me out to be the bad one. Told her and everyone how ugly I am, and he never wanted to be with me, that I stalked him and I didnt want to let him go and so on. All lies! There were many times I showed him the door and he begged to come back. I am just glad I am free now, and learned a valuable good lesson.

Either a lie or not, I see this with: "I don't remember that" or "I didn't do that" , when you called them out on their ill or less desirable behavior that you for sure remember THEM doing. Also "I didn't say that" from something they JUST said, and in their mind they said one thing, but you definitely heard them say something else and relayed it back to them. And they deny it.

I think it's important to note that not all gas lighting is evil and intentional. Some people who do it aren't even aware they are doing it. Like Matthew said, its a form of self preservation. Its up to you to gauge the situation for yourself. I think the biggest tip off is when someone is overly concerned with arguing their "intentions" over how whatever was said/done made you feel. If they love you, their number one concern should be acknowledging how you feel, not trying to prove how their words or actions weren't in the wrong.

I'm at least happy that after so much gashlighting in my life, i can finally recognize it from miles away

This is one of the most constructive and balanced video on gaslighting I have watched. Thank you.

Matthew, thank you for this video! I have often wondered why dating coaches don't talk about toxic dating situations. Mine includes a man, from over three years ago, with whom I was smitten. My intuition says he was gaslighting me. Even though I know what this is, I never named it this way, until I watched this video! Even yesterday, I was getting a more whole picture of what my intuition tells me was going on, which is because of his son getting put in jail, he fell back into relationship with his former live-in fiancee, whom his daughter called "grandma" on a FB photo with his grandchildren. Some months after he said he didn't have time for a relationship because of his son, saying we could be friends, we continued to talk in the store where he worked. In the light of gaslighting, his actions and words make more sense, including trying to keep me on the back burner, in case she left him again. For example, some months later, some of his words in a horrible text he sent me in response to the first text I ever sent him, were "you are a nut job...you desperately need help. I hope you get it". I was puzzled beyond belief over his words! I couldn't fathom what had done or said to bring that response! Putting this and more in the context of this returning lover and other things I haven't discussed here, it all falls into place.

My mother treated me like this all the time. I'm so glad I cut her out of my life.

I had never experienced that before until I got divorced and ended up in my first relationship after come to find out he was a sociopathic narcissist and I process very logically I'm not an emotional person which is different as a woman but because of that I could see through stuff he was doing and I had no problem calling him on it and he did not like that. Bottom line is I ended that relationship very quickly I took three and a half years to do so much research and listen to you Matthew and other dating experts so I would never fall into that trap again. Guess what it happened again but this time I caught it within a few weeks. It seems like once the love bombing starts and they think they hook you then the narcissism in the gaslighting starts. He did it to me once and that's all it took and I was out. I know those type of people are very insecure and they want to maintain control but it's just heartbreaking that there are people out there that have to stoop to that kind of level. So thank you so much for all the advice you've given me the last few years I take all of it to heart

"We’re never going to be right all the time. In fact, in our relationships, we’re going to be misguided and wrong a lot of the time. But the right relationship should have a healing property. It should make us feel more confident. It should make us feel safer, more loved." ❤ I love this... P.S. did you colored your hair into darker brown? why?the lighter shades looks good on you.

Bravo!! Brilliant!!! This , so far, one of the most intelligent and articulate explanations of gaslighting!!! 👏👏👏I especially like the thoughts about the truth laying down under the arguments and even more part where you are talking about trained mind and linguistic abilities of a person who gaslights us and confuses us... just to add, that that person is usually more aggressive that we are...

My situation 3 years ago in a relationship with a narcissist was exactly as you described it. I felt that I was sailing in the middle of a seestorm. Finally, I could have the courage to jumpe out of the boat. After being swimming for a long time, I reached the shore and I found myself again. Thank you for making this video and help people that are being gaslighted! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Thank you for putting this video out. It’s important to educate people about narcissism. I was with a malignant narcissist for 5 years. The fact that I was in so deep and now so happy is a message I try to spread. I warn people not to even bother with narcissists. Thank you for spreading the word!

I have been married to a narc for 24 years. I only now, this year, understand and identify it and the hell and stollen dreams I have been living through. My mom is a narc, and this is how I figured out my spouse is too, by research and video lessons like this one.

I like how you included all the possibilities... Especially, the fact that every one of us may have questioned someone else's sense of reality at some point- knowingly or unknowingly. Probably we call it gaslighting only when it's done intentionally.

If you have a diagnosis, you're in the mental health system and your therapist or psychiatrist gaslights you, you will never be believed. You are screwed. You are endangered. Thanks mental health system. Glad I "reached out."

Yup. I understand some of this video a lot. And its not just the men ive dated, friends, family, coworkers, bosses, etc. There are plenty of people like this and some on extreme levels. Idk how they got that way but hopefully it stops. People will continue to leave their lives and the quality of conversations and good people in their lives probably ends up really crappy over the years. Anyway. Matt. You still do it for me. Great video

Sophisticated and precious. Thank you.

a couple of weeks ago I started to question if this was what my Boss was doing. Everytime something happened that he didn't deem acceptable, he would rant and preach for hours on end, claim that I said somehting I didn't and everytime I brought up that I wasn't comfortable with something, he would flip it around and suddenly, I am the bad guy. I would feel frustrated, trapped and confused, not knowing when I went wrong and questioning my reality and my capabilities. This helped. While it is not a romantic relationship, I could identify so many signs of gaslighting in my relation with my boss. The bad part is that there is nothing besides quitting I can do, at least not that I can think of.

thank you, 9/10 videos on gaslighting are in terms of a man gaslighting a female. as a guy, we don't want to admit someone is doing this to us, so this video is super helpful... especially that you started off saying, we've all done it. the real thing is, do you grow up, recognize, and correct or continue the toxic behavior. thank you, Matt.

Anyone going through this I am so sorry. It’s feels horrible.

This video was immensely reassuring. I recently dealt with someone who tried to gaslight me, and looking back the way I handled it followed your steps - I got space from the conversation, spoke to a friend I trusted, and I realised the conversation left me feeling worse, seething, and stupid. The healing properties that I loved about being with him had long gone from that situation. Good to know I'm on the right track. Another fun fact; being involved with him made me buy "Get The Guy" and I broke up with him the day after I started reading it!

I experienced it so badly that I nearly wasn't here in 2019. I went through it with family long before I knew what it meant & I panicked thinking maybe I was ill, that I unknowingly had a multiple personality disorder & then I went through it in my job & it was there that I lost complete trust in everything & everyone, thinking I was absolutely crazy. I couldn't even trust myself & it took me down this dark path that almost ended me. I am now dealing with gaslighting again at work & this time due to learning from the past, I called the person out. She went crazy at me, but I stood my ground. My sanity is more important than my job & therefore I can leave. She will be worse off if I walk out, not me. I've been through bigger struggles. So I'm going to give my job one more chance & if it carries on, I'm out. No-one will ever make me feel this way again

Matthew, so increadibly well phrased :-) ... and I really like your haircut :-) I experienced gaslighting with my patents, sister, exboyfriend and his children. All people which meant the world to me. When I realized it in it's full extend and the emotional abuse which came with it, I stopped contact with all of them. My world was shattered. I realized I can't move on/live while pushing them all away. Also, as Matthew said, I have done mistakes too and was disrespectful/abusive. Now we started contact gently and I make sure to let go any expectations, am thankful for any positive contact, not take anything personal and set things up they way it is healthy for me. That means limited contact in a way that is healthy for me. Right now I'm not even in the same country. It's so sad but finally I accepted reality and allow things to happen but always stay responsible and take care of my wellbeing :-)

What a beautifully gracious yet direct discussion of such a complex issue. Thank you for this video and the insights that you shared!

I got out of a gaslightning relationship of 7 years. I only have one thing to say, get out as fast as you can. Everyone might use defence mechanisms for time to time but now I am talking about pure gaslightning.. I am now going to therapy, and am rediscovering myself and am being reminded that I am not crazy. Take care

The wave analogy is so perfect to exactly what it feels like.

I agree with him. Especially the part where you talk it out with an impartial party. I've talked it over many times just to see where I went wrong just in case so I can apologize and appreciate who you are.

Omggg someone just gas lighted me and I said that’s gas lighting and he said, “ you’re gas lighting yourself, sweetheart”🙄😂

It took me over a year to finally come across this phrase to finally realize why I felt so traumatized and stressed out over this outbreak I had with and ex-friend of mine. What I was going thru with this person ticked a lot of the boxes u provided. Them being a narcissist, made me feel like going mad, confused about and doubted everything/anyone, after that I’ve been afraid to speak my mind. The most terrifying part during the argument for me was that they’d expressed both explicitly and nonverbally that they were enjoying the fact that they are winning the argument while delighted seeing me miserable and uncomfortable when they’re gaslighting me. Made me question this person’s sanity. Hey f*ck u to this certain person I won’t say their name, cuz they probably still think they’re right. Plz be very careful when u’re making friends with narcissistic ppl who think they’re always right. Cuz if they ever stopped caring about ur feelings anymore... Let’s just say I hope u have a strong heart for that. Either walking away from them or taking them on head strong, u’ll need that

Thank you!! Healing from this is incredibly hard....physical abuse for me is actually easier I've done it and walked away and never went back. Especially when it's a family member. Really really damaging to my psyche this is legit the hardest dynamic to navigate

I caught myself gaslighting my mother once. I made an appointment with my therapist immediately!

Yeah when my ex said “find someone who understands you and is patient with you” I doubted myself so much thinking that I treated her so badly but later I realized it was just gaslight

Great topic. Thank you as always.

Beautiful great description. My husband is a pastor and I’m a nurse. We have seen this in our own families even. It’s a great explanation and we have been watching your videos... fascinating. You have picked up on a lot and relationships are always tricky, but this new world of complexity wow. You are doing such a great service to the world. Take care of yourself too.

One of my favorite things you’ve ever said. ❤️ An eye opener.

Matthew. Thank you for making this video. I was with a relationship that was narcissistically abusive. I wish I’ve know what it was before it got worse. But I’m out of it and I am happier. Thank you and hopefully this video will help others.

Matthew Hussey..I respect ur good intentions.. I value ur valuable advice.. I adore ur good character.. I like ur kindness.. U r my favourite person in the world..

I have been gas lighted few times but I set myself free now.

I was gas lighted from my mum my full life... I know you say that when your ego gets involved in a arguement the people always want to be right...but sometimes you have the type of person that can never admit there flaws at all then blame it on you always ! ...they are always denying and lying about everything that was my mum.. She was a narcisstic...she was so determined to be right and me wrong that much that she liked to play victim and turned the full family against me .. Narcissitics are dangerous...they destroy relationships and they don't care if they cause you stress and unhappiness as long as they are turning everyone against you...and playing the victim they are happy.. For me it was never about being right it was about being honest and I tried so hard to understand my mum..but each time u tried to fix our relationship or tried to underamd her I was " causing trouble " My full family believe her and turned against me shouting in my face and trying to shame me for causing so much trouble to "poor mum " I will warn you all if you put up with gaslighting in any way even the smallest it will get much worse and you will have no confidence as you are always blamed or made to feel you are imaging things that the narc will never admit that they did.....not only was I told I was " imaging things " she told me also that o should not feel or think certain things...i was not allowed to talk about my feelings or thoughts... She sat in my head way too long giving me unsolicited advice way too interested in convos between my friends and I...she had major trust issues and always made out people had bad agendas against me...she put so much fear in me and with her over involment in my life and decisions it got to a stage I felt I could not think for myself...and this created a dependancy on her... I knew this wasn't healthy so when I broke free she resented this... Any act of independence or a thought different from hers was punished... She never supported me or try to comfort me when I was anxious or I made mistakes....she shamed me and made me feel worse...ibwoykd get silent treatment in which she denied....even on her death bed she never felt sorry....she was still blaming and enjoying my sister and I fighting as usual my sister was fighting her battles for her... Gaslighting is the worst form of abuse...if your friend , partner family member resort to this on s regular basis...your relationship is doomed...there is no real relationship...the gaslighter is most likely a Narccistic who can't handle their flaws and the truth....they are not interested in salvaging your relationship...they only care about being right and to keep up the appearance of a good person...if you put up with this it will definatly effect you...you will never win wuth them... A real relationship is about being honest and vurnable .trusting the other person ... Narccistic have a real problem with admitting they are wrong and will go to any lengths to cover up their flaws...if you fight them they will more than likely try to twist things to play the victim...better to cut ties it will only get worse...

Last man I was seeing ghosted me a couple days, then came back and said he realized he didn’t want a relationship but then hoped we can remain friends. When I told him no our time is done and I know what I deserve , his response was that “ he was serious about me but I was the one that decided to leave “ …. That made me feel so hurt and angry that I blocked him on everything.

Gosh, thank you; I did not know until now, it is a feeling of being cornered and choking at the same time!

I believe I was gaslighted many times and when I finally had enough strength to end the relationship he got mad at me? Got defensive with me asking the simplest question and expressed my concerns due to the lack of trust from previous lies!! I always felt uneasy, always felt insecure, and felt like I was always making more of an effort to show my luv and when I bring it up it’s like he jus gave me a pacifier but never actually got clarity from the questions and issues. 💔🙏🏻 I would never do that to someone but not everyone has the same heart 💜 yess the right relationship should make u feel safer not anxious

Matthew, I always appreciate your ability to acknowledge the "two-way street" scenarios of your video topics; its hard to acknowledge, but understanding that we're both producers and recipients of gaslighting in ALL of our relationships is so important. These types of conversations are even something I try to incorporate in my math classroom, because I can watch this happening in students' teenager years.

Thank you for great advice on how to notice and deal with gaslighting. Spot on about what your feelings after the conversation are. If you feel you need to record conversations to prove yourself right or them wrong it means you are a victim of gaslighting. This vicious form of psychological abuse can make you mentally ill: anxiety, depression, social anxiety and others might be a direct result of being gaslighted.