Being threatened as a kid by other kids was scary, but I survived it. I became stronger mentally, emotionally, and physically. I know what it’s like to encounter bullies and mean people, and that’s why I work with the youth. I love being a mentor. #Train #Stand Your Ground

Thanks for this. I have struggled with fear my whole life.

Training, sparring and competing will also have a huge effect on your confidence in such situations. It will help you relax somewhat if you know that you don't need to fight, but if you have to, you totally can.

Great tips!

Recap at 10:30

I never heard anyone word the flight or fight response this well, and it couldn’t have been worded any better ✊🏽

For me personally this is the single best explanation about the mechanics of fear in a stressful situation. I know for a fact that there are many people out there that would benefit tremendously if they would hear this. But then again, who am I to force anyone to be happy....

Thanks. I learned the hard way, with little advices from mentor. My first real pad work, I hope to impress my teacher and went all out right from the start. After 1st round, I was gassed out. My anxiety burned me out. Again, my first sparring session got me all tensed up. So I eventually learned not to rush the first round, and plan my training or fight for a long session.

if you fight full contact, fear isn't a problem. Before a fight - yes. But that usually happens in competition - since you know it's going to happen - not a street fight. In a fight itself there's no fear. The issue is getting the brain to work while under adrenaline. That is the difficult part.

Excellent coaching Steph, thanks!

Ive had trouble dealing with that rush of fear, causing me to forget to breathe, and muscles becoming to stiff; when doing tricks in a plane. These techniques should help, thanks!

This is some really good material you presented. Thank you for putting it together.

GREAT STUFF. THANKS MAN.

When you train against real resistamce aka (sparing and rolling) with different people at high intensity levels the moves become subconscious and fighting becpmes second natuare. It's the concept of aliveness which is the most important part of training. Also realistic situational training helps a lot (meaning rolling with punches on the ground and mma sparing) if you do that you wouldn't be really scared in a street fight. You'd be alert but not scared, but if the guy has a weapon it's a different story. Anyway fear is good it tells you you're in danger so maybe you shouldn't numb it out completely

Wow. Great advice. Thanks!

Breathing controls the attitude slow long deep is calm, panting is terrified. Excitement is excitement, fear and anger are both the same body state.

amazing content!

Great talk

I think that what makes you effective at fighting, or any stressful situation is your mind, with the right mindset you can beat guys even bigger than you like royce gracie and mike tyson did, they turned their fear into fire.

Great video! 😊🙏

I live remotely. There's no clubs round here to join but I keep watching these videos and try and learn three new moves each night after practising all the others I've seen.

You have alot of qualifications ! In martial arts!! Nice video!! I learn so much in your videos!!

I hate the fact that this happens to me in almost any physical confrontation. Even if I know I'm not in danger or that I know I could easily whoop the person's ass. If I fight as a sport, I don't feel anything but a little nervousness and excitement about the fight. But if it's in real life, I can't even move or react properly because I begin to shake uncontrollably. This even happened a few months ago when a female was stealing at my job and I confronted her and she became aggressive towards me. I was obviously not scared, but the situation itself triggered that on me and I couldn't even talk right. I had to go to the office and sit down and I was shaking. I felt like such a p....... But at the same time, I know it had nothing to do with fear, because I wasn't afraid, but at the same time I know my brain was telling me to be afraid, and I can't control it. Hopefully this video might help me.

Thanks👍👍👌👌🙏🙏

Interesting!

Vielen dank!

Good stuff I think! I need some sparring for sure. 🙏☯️🙏

And now we get the adrenaline dump when we think about work the next morning, and cannot sleep

thats what I always think with things as chisau, in real live your hands are going to shake, it can be used as tool for finding the holes. But without proper test under high pressure, it does not serve much.

I think role playing (with strangers if possible) can help also.

Smart man I sub

Seen a few comments here that even if you're not scared initially but the longer it goes on you start to shake especially if you are trying to defuse the situation eg being at school or at your job where fighting is not really a smart thing to do. Is it something you will ever get used to? It does kinda help to control the breath and calm down but man the shaking sucks even if you know how to fight a little

What is a good way to defend against a fake punch where the person pretends they are going to punch with one hand then as you go to block that arm they punch with the other hand?

dude you remind me so much of Chris O'Dowd.

Dear sir can you get sub title

Aslo I have learned from the Samurai,...recite a poem to calm yourself. If I am at a urinal and can't pee because someone is close by, I start doing math and that distracts my fight or flight reaction and I can pee.

Im a afraid of everthing -rickson gracie

Are you not also a judo black belt?

The more you prepare the less you fear you have

LOL, that woman who lifted that child off her car!!

My problem when I get into violent situation is I forget to keep my voice down. I need to learn how to remind myself, stay quiet, let my body do the talking, not my voice. So fists up, closing the gap, saying "come on mother F'ker lets go" only thing is my voice tends to be stronger and louder, I wish I could simply be much calmer verbally, like, what did you say, then smack smack whack choke, lol. Maybe there is a technique on how to learn to train oneself to keep verbally quieter so as to not attract others attention and sound like enraged you know ? Please submit tips below in reply if you know of any, please.

If you seriously want to confidently respond to real life situations I think you have to compete against strangers in at least semi-contact, preferably full contact. Your regular training buddy sparing dance just doesn't have the air of unknown fear generation eventually.

NO, it's Not okay to breath in and out of your mouth like that, especially while in a fight. Breath in your nose and out of your mouth; yes, consciously control your breathing (which will be elevated).

I dont think there really are any "techniques".... and i dont think youd remember them when it happens, even if there are. We just have to train dilligently to keep our hands up and to stay mindful of our breathing and we have to spar a lot. Particularly, remind ourselves in sparring that we may have to use these things in actual fight some day. Sparring and at least occasionally competing are the best preparations imo.

Greit vido

Where is this class with them reaping your heart out on their altar and feeding it to their Buddha god? I wanna join that class! 😆✌

I find the best technique is to have a good 9mm hidden in the appendix position. They don't know what I know...

Sapiens never chased "other Neanderthals" 🙂.

Could have gone through this in 6 rather then 12 minute's. Good content though. Just need to be edited down

I think she lifted a car off the child not the child off the car

Haha Thag

Good talk. But hate to disappointment you, but you're ancestors came out of Africa.

Don't you know that the human race originate in Africa? Also everyone is the same race and even related. Anyone alive is no more than your 50th cousin. Google "is everyone related" if you don't believe me. You can even watch KZfaq videos with that same title.