I was pleasantly surprised by this. Most people have some stupid pick up technique or something but these were just point on being a kind person

Be genuine. Period. No mind control. Just be who you are.

In other words: If people can feel that you like them and care about them, it will be reciprocated. Be genuine, love, help, support people.

Here's a hot tip from an introvert. When you come up to me and start asking me questions about myself, I feel very uncomfortable... like I'm in a job interview and have to get the answers right. It's very disconcerting, and after the interaction, I feel exhausted. Know your audience. We don't all enjoy being put on the spot and forced into social interactions because you want people to "love your vibe."

Warning: do these things and people may get so addicted to you and your vibe that they'll see you as a mentor, or someone they can unload or trauma dump on, or someone always available to listen to their carrying on about themselves. Actually, it's a great way to weed people out of the friendship circle, as long as you cut & run at the first sign of lack of curiosity and prattling on.

I do these things naturally…can’t get rid of some people 😅

Hard no on number 4 - smiling all the time. I do this naturally and people often think I am being fake or weird.

I really liked this! I’m definitely guilty of talking and talking and never letting the other person give their perspective. I’ve gotten better over the years

People that actually listen are a rare find. Most ppl just listen long enough to come up with a reply.

Every single person has something that they can teach you. Your job is to find out what that is, and then get them to teach it to you. Win win.

People just stick with people like themselves, if you're different it takes years for them to just get comfortable. So just be a purposeful person, not everybody but right people will stick around you.

So basically just be invested in people’s passions and actively listen to them so they feel important. Makes sense

"An interested person is an interesting person" - Someone

I've naturally been like this all my life and honestly I have more people for me than against me. I didn't realize how respected I was with people until i got sick and I had so many visitors at the hospital the nurse told me I have never seen so many visitors visit a person in 15 years. I was quite shocked myself. and I didn't tell a lot of people I was in the hospital but people just wanted to support. Genuine kindness comes back in full circle.

Great tips I just want to add a #5 everyone must realize that ppl love you and are already addicted to you!! so don't be afraid to be yourself!! Just be yourself!! ❤❤❤

I do it all naturally. Maybe not as much as you'd suggest, but it's genuine. I hate people who ONLY ask, because, hey, I want to get to know them too.

Heres a tip , do not crave validation, be yourself, and if you are a genuinely decent person people Will like you anyway , and if they don't that's fine too , don't sweat it that's there choice, just be comfortable knowing that not everyone is going to like you , but there will be plenty that do .

Great reminders. Over time you don’t even realize you’re doing this but you’ll notice when others aren’t.

I tried this at my interview. Called my hiring manager by name 3 times. Smiled. Every time he asked me a question, I asked him a question back, cause I wanted him to know I am interested in HIM. He kicked me out when I told him Argentina is my favourite player in the EPL though.

Thank you Clark!

I hate when people call my name when they're already talking to me. It feels invasive and overstimulating.

This is something I do in my adulthood and I couldn’t understand why people could never forget me. It just comes natural to me. The same way I want to be treated is the same way I treat people. I’ve even been a wingman for my brother, and they always ask about me every time they get a chance to talk to him. It works!

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When Customer Services ask "What should I call you" I say call me nothing, let's just talk, like people, not like reading a script. It usually goes well, I want it to go well, and want the exchange to be human, employees deserve that. Be real, be yourself, don't be fake.

When I speak to customer service on the phone, the person usually states their name in their greeting. I always try to take note and remember. I never mention their name during the call. At the end of the phone call, I always say thank you for your help “name,” and I always get a friendly giggle or can hear funny confusion in their voice as if theyre thinking, “wait how did they know that? oh they listened!” It’s always a pleasant exchange, and from working in the service industry for years, it’s so refreshing to have someone treat you like you’re an actual human and not some lower servant. I’ve always been customer facing and it’s tough, can’t imagine how tough it is when customers over the phone treat you terribly. Same also works in customer service chats online!

5. Don't forget to be spontaneous and go with the flow

These are powerhouse moves for sure. Thank you.☺️

I smile at people all the time, unfortunately some people just think I'm crazy 🤣❤️ Thank You 🕉️✨

Woah.. i literally did all these & landed up marrying that person 🤟🤟

only thing is sometimes these things can lead to people who like talking *TO* you too much, instead of talking with you. but remember there is absolutely no harm, and only benefit for you, in both setting clear and firm boundaries even with people you don't know, and making sure that your interest in them is reciprocated. if the boundaries are not followed and/or the interest not found, leave immediately, purely out of respect for yourself✌️

This is good. He's describing good manners towards others and having empathy for them too.

I’ve already read this book before but this was such a nice reminder to implement these things.

My brother has this natural ability to figure what’s important to the person in front of him and either compliment them on it or ask a question about it. He fits in with everyone he meets, benefits his business dealings…

Love it. Listening is almost a lost art. Smiling releases happy chemicals of well-being all around. You rock. Thanks Clark

“At the end of the day, people won’t remember what you said or did, but they will remember how you made them feel.” -Maya Angelou

Omg people generally love to talk about themselves and rarely come back with questions or interest in the person they’re talking to. This advice should go both ways, good clip! So true! 😊

If I hear my name more than twice in an hour it starts feeling like I’m at work. Good luck with that relationship.

When starting out after high school, I read a book that encouraged these exact 3 things. It has helped me in job interviews, asking for a promotion, dealing with faculty and administration and my children's school, coworkers, etc. Really it became part of who I am, and I am glad. Most conversations, even new ones, are pleasant. It also helps diffuse difficult situations.

I used item two yesterday at a car event. I had my GoPro running and made no effort to hide that. Just walked up to a car that I thought was really cool and started asking questions about it. Followed every answer up with another question. Guy really appreciated the way I did it, I could tell. Said thanks afterward and continued on.

If someone says my name more than once, I suspect them of being shady, manipulative, and insulting. So if you're talking to an introvert, this won't work.

I always smile when i talk to people and even if what they’re talking about isn’t interesting i always pretend like im enjoying because i love my friends and the strangers that i meet

Some people are turned off by being asked too many questions about themselves by someone they just met. It can be taken as intrusive. Let others talk, actually listen, and ask questions based on what is said, bc that's usually what people are comfortable about sharing. Let them lead.

Exellent advice for not so good listeners or people who only wait until they can talk again. Not always the best approach for the nice empathetic introvert. I always naturally did these things. I'm an introvert so I dont talk crazy much and I'm genuinely interested in people. Im genuinely interested about what they interests and passions are. Smiling comes very natural to me too. Yes it makes people like you. I always appreciate and like people who have this equalities too. But they are sometimes not easy to find. And if you are like that all the time then the people who get all your interest and attention will have a good time and you will feel depleted and unseen and unheard and like the other person is not interested in you. When in fact they would have listened to you if you have talked more. So take up space and attention too! Other people can also try harder to make you like THEM by being interested in you. Anyways nice to hear I'm officially a likeable charming person. 😂Now I will add the name thing.😊🎉

All tips you mention i use in conversations, it's actually my style of communication to ask questions and feedback with emotions. I don't really like speaking about myself, but i've started to notice that i know what new people around me are passionate about. However, they don't ask me questions and they probably don't even know my hobbies. So, if you want to find good friends don't forget about yourself while talking, you are ALSO important.

I appreciate your content Clark it has drastically improved my life at least.

I hate people who are not my friends to say my name over and over again. I'll tell them to stop. One time is enough. I'm sitting here laughing because I just want people to shut up. Must be the Hudson in me. What I do know is that if you just look people in the eye and really listen, and you don't have to ask questions, just listen, they will tell you things you never dreamed. And when they do, do not repeat it to anyone. I am amazed at what I've learned just by listening. And some of them are people I just met or happened to be standing by.

I hate it when people call me by my name and I don't know you. It feels like a power move to make me feel weak.

It’s good that I’m almost always genuinely interested in what people have to say and ask them about a lot of stuff, especially if I haven’t seen them for a long or ever.

I love your channel clark.❤😍🥰 So inspiring and filled with good information. I am definitely a fan.

The only problem is that person will have great time and you won’t. Just be yourself!

If people keep saying my name in a conversation I’m looking at them with a raised eyebrow and will avoid interactions with them in the future.

I can't stop smiling whenever I talk to new people

I've seen a few of your videos now, and they have been very helpful. They are pure gold.

I do these except the name thing. But, I find myself having more genuine connections w people, even if it feels awkward at times- it’s not really awkward once you’ve done it enough. You see different personalities and temperaments and enjoy seeing what each person wants to offer you in terms of conversation or companionship

When people start asking me a bunch of questions and are overly interested i just think : please let me go on with my day

True most definitely, car salesman say your name a # of times As a bank teller I would acknowledge their name & each one liked I said their name when out to eat I always ask their name & introduce myself it works every time

Instructions unclear: I summoned Beelzebub after saying his name three times, and smiled warmly as he dragged me to hell, talking on and on about eternal torture, which I can tell is his favorite subject.

You gotta break up those questions with some acknowledgment tho otherwise they’ll feel interrogated lol

These are tips to appeal to narcissists and to also be manipulative. Just be genuine and don't waste anyone's time if you aren't genuinely interested, people can sense a faker when they encounter one.

Nice tips Clark you know what you are saying Clark and we are here with you Clark 🗿

When a person I just met say my name 3times, that's when I know they have business in their mind. No Doubt!

A smile can change everything...💗

This is like being a people pleaser. You listen people talk a lot...and you talk particularly about what THEY like...they get used to being in the centre of attention and guess what. They will not like you, but the fact they have attention.

I used all these while treating cancer patients. It helped them to talk about themselves and what they're into.

thanks this is definitely what i needed!

Tallulah Bankhead famously couldn't remember people's names (same) so she was the first to really start calling people 'Dahhling' instead whereas they used to say sugar or honey. Funny story though, she once took a guy with her to a party, told him to wait in the car (which he did) then she went home with someone else she met inside. 20 years later he approached her at a party and she responded 'Didn't I tell you to wait in the car?'. The memory has different stomachs, I swear.

How to be a narcissist? I prefer it when people are genuinely interested, and not just doing it to get interest in themselves.

WISDOM 🙏

This is completely true I do this every day without even knowing and boy I have been loved ever since 😅😊

People love a good listener, but people also don't let good listeners speak.

I tried the 1st tip and didn't go well.... "hello John John John how are u"

yeah do that & then people will get habituated in sharing their problems/traumas w you and expect u to reassure them but would never bother to check up on u. When u finally tell them u can't be their “therapist” anymore, they will call u “selfish”

love people cuz people are lovable

But I don't want to. I want to sit in my home wrapped in a blanket and a book and not talk to anyone..

Well I hate to tell you this but not everybody's in the same category I can't stand my first name and I hate people to call me by it. I do not like people to full name me either

a long time ago one of my friends said she noticed that I often said her name and that it was really appreciated, I never forgot it

than you so much Clark as always this was helpful

Yes but do these things because you are truly interested. Not because you want someone addicted to you! In the end you just want people to like you.

Great suggestions....also being funny, appropriately vulnerable at times and being very strong in your own frame and confident makes you most magnetic. Peace

i feel this. But most importantly, be genuine. I have a friend she does all of this, but some how i cannot connect w her like that. It doesn’t feel genuine. When you’re genuine, u’re automatically do these in hindsight

something about speaking to others especially strangers, makes me tense. it’s my social anxiety, but also that I can be emotional and I’ve been burned many times, so it’s hard to exuberance warmness and smiles when you’re subconsciously defending yourself and being cautious. that’s what I need to work on, and I’ll use these tips to try and achieve that.

Idk if it’s the journalist in me but I am naturally like this. Idk I am a talker and I love when people can give me that same energy back.

Do this if you want to talk about that person until you find an excuse to get away from them. Don't worry, they won't ask about you, they're too into themselves.

1. Say their name 3 times in first 3 minutes 2. Get them talking about themselves 3. Find their hidden passion

The 3rd point is key 🗝 thanks 👏🏻

The fact that.. I did all of these steps without learning from anywhre..its natural to me in me

All sounds good until you realize that talking about someone‘s passion, that you are not interested in at all is fucking lame. Just be yourself. If people don‘t like you, you are simply not vibing. If people like you, then it‘s good. If you notice that nobody you talk to likes you, you can maybe start considering these tips because you are probably just not a great talk. Don‘t try to be friends with people you wouldn‘t be friends with.

Narcissists hate hearing their name and see it as an act of aggression

When you smiled, I smiled😊

Yup, great stuff Clark, will try it Clark! What are you passionate about Clark? ❤❤

Thanks Clark. Great stuff!!

I absolutely HATE people using my name in conversation, especially when I don't know them. If someone were to use my name 3 times in a few minutes it would immediately put me off. It's giving try hard.

You have a good point. I did this and now I think the dot I liked likes me too 😊

Thanks for the tip. I should really buy and read that book soon enough.

When man has conquered his mind, Man has conquered the world

All of your vids and content is great, thank you 🙌

As a people pleaser, this tips all come natural to me

Clark Kegley, as a fellow sufferer of RBF I salute you, sir. :-) Clark Kegley, everyone! ❤❤ I know we haven't formally met but I'm a huge fan, Clark. (Gotta start somewhere lol)

The conversation ended when I smiled 😔

Smiling is the hardest thing for me. I don't like smiling unless I'm close with that person.