I'm agreed with you.lots of educators and teacher force children to say sorry especially young children under 3 but they didn't even know what it means.

Or then you are making them lie. It is better to explain to them why what they did was wrong and Or have the wronged child tell them how they felt by what they did to them.

Hmm “sorry” means wont do it again, so if youre gonna teach them not to do it again, why not use the correct word for it?

@@cconroy1677 Sorry implies the understanding that you've done something wrong. It's a feeling, not an intent. Chances are that Junior's not one bit sorry, and they are being asked to admit to a feeling they don't have. "I won't do it again" has them take responsibility for their actions, not admit to something they don't feel. "I'm sorry" most often just teaches them to say empty words to get out of trouble.

C Conroy If you’ve ever apologized for something you didn’t do, maybe at a funeral saying, “I’m so sorry for your loss,” then you know it doesn’t always mean that you won’t do it again.

My partner is really proud of his son’s reading capabilities and he is sharing his story to everybody. We teach our son how to read with the aid of this phenomenal reading guide ChildrenLearningReading5.blogspot.com We used to read to him before going to bed, but now he picks out his personal books and reads to us.

Congrats on looking up things to help you out and congrats on your paternity...!!!!!!

Talk to your parents, recall how you were raised.

@@cconroy1677 that's not always a good idea. For people who have had bad not so wise parents, I mean. Just saying. I'll go

Dude!!! Good job for looking this stuff up!! Legit, keep looking things up at each stage of your child's development!

Congratulations!! ❤️❤️❤️

Awesome additions! Thanks for sharing.

positivepreschooltips - Great video, thanks for such practical reminders ! Helpful for teachers :)

Thanks again!

I'm a english learner and I almost understand all, I'm so happy and I'll try your tips with my child, thanks ma'am

Ugh I cant stand children who mess things up. Esp since as an adult you likely dont mk waves where you should.

Good job!!

Good evening, Lachuga. I am sorry about your band practice spectacle, but you are right. I don't agree that one must lie to children to give them directives. One of my relatives likens telling children what to do to being a drill sergeant, and thought time-wasting lies were better. In a way, this was actually funny, given her own penchant for exaggerated need to express authority (at least at the time). She is better, now, Praise God. What you described was like something I witnessed in high school. The teacher was looking for students to write something with an English lesson on the blackboard. To be fair, she had actually on some occasions given us a choice in previous classes. Despite her initially harsh demeanor, she had a rather open, friendly, but still authoritative rapport with us. (Just some background).One of my classmates clearly thought that we had a choice again. Like you, she said 'No,' when the teacher asked if she wanted to go up to the blackboard to do the exercise. My classmate said it firmly, as if she was annoyed and amused by the question. In response, the teacher snapped, 'Whaayyyyyeee?? Do-itdo-itdo-itdo-it!!!' She literally said the words the way I wrote them. Needless to say, my classmate did it. She should have just told her outright to do the exercise, and saved some time.

My teacher(woman) was very proudly announcing that at one point women had no right to fight in wars, and now they do, and we have come so far.... She made the mistake of asking a girl(me) if i would like to fight in the war. I was caught off guard, and just told my honest answer - "no!"... "why not?" "I am just a woman!" teacher was very furious by that 😂

@@anarup916 lmao that is hilarious

How was it???

Kate Lynch has to iiui

IMHO, it needs more elaboration for the case when you are unable to articulate a replacement behavior in the moment. Things like: 1) Challenging the kid to find a "better way" him or herself where "better" is defined as what the solution would look like rather than the specific action that solution would involve. "What's a better way to get what you want while still taking good care of/being patient with your brother or sister?" 2) Helping the kid learn to defer the immediate goal and pursue an alternate until another opportunity arises. "A lotta times we gotta be patient. Is there another thing we can do in the meantime?"

Honestly, I do both if I can do it in a succinct manner. Telling them what to do is often as one-sided as what not to do. The full picture is what they can do, and also acknowledgment of what we do not do.

@Really Though you dont suck

As someone with a young one at home I would love to hear your thoughts on this video I just made "5 Little Ducks - Bobby's Backyard - SONGS" I would appreciate any advice you would be willing to give! thank you!!

LOL! Idk??? :)

It's good to consider children, though. Maybe you'll speak to a child somewhere soon!

I'm learning how to talk to my husband.

😂

Lol, it might be in your near future

adults are children too XD

Good luck! I have worked with preschool aged children my whole working career and I love it! Congratulations on picking a great and rewarding career!

Did you figure out if that’s what you wanted to do?

@@unlikelyasmr7648 It’s been years now since I wrote that haha, I enjoyed the experience but it’s not what I want to do. I’m currently at college now looking to go down the healthcare/medical route instead.

Thank you!

Thank you for the kind words! I have been a daycare director in the past and it is a very difficult job but I agree with you that a positive environment trickles down from the top. Hang in there and keep doing your best! It will pay off in the end.

My director isn’t very involved and her daughter bosses us around and they speak bad about each other

Fuzzpurpleturtle, hang in there! I think it is much harder to be a parent than a teacher. There's no days off when you are a parent :)

I'm 15 and I obey my mom to the max, she is the one that is in total control. Everyday, I come home from school and the 1 st thing I do, is give her my phone...don't want any distractions, then I do my homework, then all the chores for that day, which must be done to my moms satisfaction. Then I do whatever she tells me to do with no back talk or arguing. On the weekends, I do want she wants me to do, Before I have my "Free time" Hopefully....one day soon, Your kids will understand that you are the Boss and they should do exactly what you tell them to!

Thanks for the comment. I'm glad it was helpful.

Thank you so much! I always value a mother's opinion :)

Like, I know now that I shouldn’t hit people (obviously), but I still don’t get this whole “friend” business. Not everyone is friends. Some people are even bullies, and those bullies have victims. As a young victim, I would often fight back in inappropriate ways, but I never hit or kicked someone without some sort of provokation. Usually, said provokation was severe emotional abuse from someone that had gone on for a very long time, with nothing done about it.

same thing I was saying with my mom because even out about with my child if she sees children she would say oh my friends I really think this is very unsafe as to people being strangers and she will just run up to them saying oh my friends

Because having "friends" when you are 3 is completely different from having friends at 13 or 23.

These days I hear "neighbors" more than "friends."

I so agree and it sounds so corny and really unprofessional!

Good luck and have fun!

Oh, I so agree!

Hi Anne, we all have made numerous mistakes! No one gets it perfect the first time. Teaching is really just trial and error. Hang in there; I'm sure you will do great.

Yes! Great point! Thanks for sharing!!!

Why though? Do children really "work hard" on paintings? Should they? Is "working hard" really something they should learn to value no matter what? I don't think so. If the child likes painting, it won't feel like "hard work" to them and the phrase will mean nothing to them. They enjoyed it, why make it sound like a difficult task? If they don't - well, why force them to do it? That sounds silly to me. Maybe they excel at singing or dancing or building things. I think our job is not to teach children that life is hard, you have to do what authority figures tell you and if you don't like it you have to put in some extra effort... I think our job is to support them in what they enjoy doing and go from there. We don't want hard workers, we want happy people.

Juliz by that logic, if they paint something, don’t tell them it’s beautiful because it’s not going to be. It’s going to be a bunch of scribbles. Children look for praise from an adult. If you tell a 4 year old their painting looks beautiful well what is beautiful? And then the next time they paint something you tell them that it looks lovely. So is that better or worse than the last painting? Praising them for effort motivates them and boost their confidence.

@@xoPinkMacyxo I don't think children look for praise from adults. I think what they want is to be seen. You can appreciate what they did without judging it. Perhaps you don't even need to say much. They will show you what they did and sometimes tell you about it. And sometimes, yes, they will draw something that you think is beautiful, and why shouldn't you express that? I think it's important to be authentic.

Juliz Children DO look for praise from adults. I majored in child development and I am also currently getting my masters in child psychology. I know what I am talking about lol

Thank you for your comment! Just a suggestion: use your craft time to incorporate letters. 1) You could cut out letters and you and your grandson could paint them. 2) Some craft stores sell sandpaper letters. Tape them to the table and place a piece of paper over them and make crayon rubbings. 3) If your little one likes messy things, you could finger paint with pudding (tasting as you go :) or shaving cream (with no tasting :)and have him write letters in the pudding/shaving cream. 4) Find the letters in his name in magazines and glue on a separate sheet of paper. Have fun! It sounds like you he's a lucky little guy!

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tinakhalid how old are they??

I understand the struggle I work with one year olds and I get so scared that they might fall from the table. I too am going to take these tips and work them into my classroom.

I say no and then tell them why not to do it. E.g. you will fall, that will break, they are sharp and will cut you etc.

Children, from my own experience, respond well when you mention the word "safe". I work in childcare and so I try to have safety lessons often. If they are doing something unsafe, I ask them, "Hey, _____, I see that you are standing on the table. Is that safe?". I then wait for a response. Whether they know what they should do or not, I always say after either, " Can you show me how you are supposed to sit?" or "I need your feet safely on the floor." When they comply, I say, "Thank you for listening. I love when you have your feet safely on the floor". Reminders to them about it being your job to keep them safe and it being their job to stay safe, help them feel more obligated to be more responsible for their own safety.