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I'm 32 and rejection is the keyword that took me forever to embrace. In my 20s I didn't take risks because I was too afraid to fail

1) Develop grit in mental & physical strengh. 2) Be great in a big city, rather than a small city. 3) Develop skills in establishing relationships. Force yourself to talk with strangers, whever you are. Be comfortable with rejection. 4) Find a great partner for life. 5) Reach out to people you admire, take risks in rejection.

I worked for an 85 year old guy in college. He pulled out an old photo of himself and said "I used to think I was ugly, and I was so shy because of it. If I had known how handsome I really was my life would be completely different."

Im 35.... This guy is making some great points. I work with teenagers and I look at them and realize... they have the capacity to crush it and they don't even know it. Then I realize the 50 year olds I work with might look at me with that same mindset.

I’m almost 30 now and I truly believe my 30s are gonna be amazing.

At 32 years old (37 now) I moved downtown in a major city, shifted from a marketing position into sales which got me speaking with strangers daily, and I started running marathons. The amount my life has improved in the last 5 years is staggering. Every bit of advice in this video is tangible and incredibly effective. If the idea of executing anything he says here scares you, that's how you know it needs to be done!

41 now. What this man says is the truth. The hard part is pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Don't waste your time - it goes by quick.

I am 34, psychotherapist, I have another piece of advice - learn how to forgive, it will be the best weapon you got in interpersonal relationships. 😉😉😉

As someone in a trend of further isolation, this was a godsend. I really needed to hear this. My biggest moment of the last ten years was discovering it's really possible to become good at things I'm bad at, through allowing myself to be a beginner and actually learning. I'm going to do exactly that with this excellent advice. Day one, here we go.

“Nothing wonderful will happen to you if you don’t take an uncomfortable risk.” I LOVE THAT! That should be posted in every high school and college!

#1 tip for all of us. Stop watching these videos and do the things we know we should be doing.

just when you think you can't take anymore, that means you're about a third of your way to your limits as a human, learning that as a man in your 20s and 30s is a blessing

Didn't have advice like this when I was in that age group. Today's generation should be very appreciative that stuff like this is at their fingertips now.

Everybody talks about 20s, january I am turning 30 and decided move to city. Currently bank balance is low, hesitant interacting people, an introvert. It's time to turn the table. Most needed video at the right time of my life. Thanks ❤

As a 6 years old. This really resonates with me. This story reminds my of the long hours I made in the sandbox selling sandcakes to strangers. So glad I did that. Because it all paid of in the long end. Now i have time to drive my Ferrari with to girls I just picked up at the milk store.

Guys after 10 years of being single. I think i found the one :) im so thankful :) she supports me she encourages me she is with me during tough times she makes me laugh we have simular values. Its amazing when you talk to stranger its the best advice 🎉

It feels weird watching tips about thriving in your 30s while being in your 20s because I know that many people around my age don’t really gaf about the outcome of the future

I’m 35 and feels like I’m just starting but hey, you gotta start somewhere! Gl to you all!

I’m 37 and thus clicked me when I was 30. I remember being on a plane, not happy with myself and having that moment where I decided I was gonna be different. After 2 years of never missing a workout, becoming a voracious reader and focusing on self development I looked in the mirror and saw an absolute beast. I’ve never looked back since. It doesn’t take as long as you think and it’s so worth it fellas

I’m 26 and I feel him on the partner thing. I’m so grateful for the partner I chose it has made my life amazing.

I am 30 years old, turning 31 this year and this is one of the best advices I've heard in a long time.

so I listened to this I went out and told my crush I got rejected and f**k it doesn't feel that bad

I'm 47 years old now. I wish I had someone offering me wise advice back in my 30s and 20s. I was on my own to figure it all out

This really resonates with me. My father made me sell magazine subscriptions door to door when I was 16 for 3 summers in a row. And For this he paid my car insurance. I owe these very fiber of my being to that horrible experience.

His best advice IMO is "choose wisely who you marry and have children with". A bad spouse can tear you down, a good spouse will build you up.

Pushing yourself to your limits also has to be balanced with longevity in mind. My brother was a beast, in the military, combat diver and went so far as to try out for special forces . He's now in the navy in his late 30's and his knees, elbows, and lower back are messed up. The doctors told him they don't know how he isn't on more constant pain. He has to be very diligent in how he trains so not to agitate his injuries.

Man, incredible. I’m turning 37 next month, and I followed all of these since my late 20s, despite never having heard it from anybody. On the contrary, I kept hearing I was crazy. I have no regrets, it paid off big time in all senses.

I moved to a big city and never felt so alone

Just turned 27 and found this. I’ve been on a big journey with my health, confidence, fitness and weight loss. Glad to know that I have really working on a lot of the things mentioned in this video, including my career, sobriety, and getting better at talking to women!

I really resonated with pushing yourself. I'm getting my masters, have a full-time job, a 4 year old and 7 month old. I'm always doing something, i'm very busy and I feel maxed out. However, whenever I do have a break, I don't feel lazy, but I've realized how much I'm actually capable of doing.

I really needed to hear this. I’m 29 but feel like I’m in a bit of a rut right now. I ran a marathon earlier this year and was living with my friend in a city and now I barely exercise and I’m back at my parents 😂😂 I grew to dislike the city I lived in but now being back in a town I hardly see anyone while walking the dog etc. I was gonna buy a place in a town but now I’m thinking that I should only do this when I’ve found a partner and want to settle down. I decided yesterday I’m gonna move back to a city. I like walking past lots of different people and seeing people smiling etc. living here feels like a ghost town.

Thank you for the advice Mr. Galloway. I just turned 30 and I have the ambition to work hard this year and get out of my comfort zone. I want to see progression in my life this year!

Just went through a bad breakup with a girl I thought I would marry. This reversed the way I have been thinking for the past several months. Thank you so much for this, I want to be better at the things I am bad at. I really want to connect to more people and hearing this man say learn how to approach strangers is very comforting. Particularly in an age where people are so standoffish.

I’m taking a risk. Chris do you want to grab a coffee?

Best advice : Move far far away and cut all ties from jealous envious people who compare you and dictate your way of life. Many are jealous and envious of the childfree, of the fit, of the happy.

Pushing yourself to your physical limit will give you a sense of self-respect later on. I did this over a couple of years of cycling and going up mountains on a heavy ass bike will give you nightmares but reaching a goal is so fulfilling.

I’m 28 this year and this is something I definitely needed to hear. I look back on myself couple years ago regretting not taking even the smallest initiation conversation with someone and telling myself now even if I embarrassed myself then I could have used that experience to do better today. My issue is my sometimes poor sleep schedule that ruin my mood to have a conversation.

Scott's analysis is 100% right. There are more opportunities in life to be had when running with the pack as opposed to running isolated, as a young person. I grew up in a rural beach town, left home to go away to college in city of 90,000+, moved to NYC at 24, moved to DC at 27. I still live in DC now. Early on in my time in DC, I remember telling my dad - a retired police chief - that I would rather be living gritty and bar-tending on a Friday night on U Street than running to be the mayor of my home town. I'm an introvert. Everywhere that I have ever lived, I started small in order to get established. I would go out to bars alone and attempt to strike up conversation with strangers. Sometimes it worked, most times it didn't. I joined organizations which allowed me to meet people, find out my interests, develop new skills, and make great relationships. Doing this opened doors for work; I went from working in a bar, to working in government, to working for a university, to doing contracting, to having my own practice. Even we introverts need to rub shoulders. It doesn't pay to sit inside all the time, and the pandemic did nothing to help us with that.

Really appreciate this video. Thank god this showed up on my feed. I wish I can give a meaningful and challenging advice when I am older. As an introvert, I definitely won’t surround myself with strangers everyday but his advice is spot on. Let’s get out there!

As a single 24 yr old trying to establish myself and figure out life, this couldn’t have come at a better time! I was already considering a lot of his points but the practicality he ties into them are invaluable. Best practical advice I’ve heard in a long time!

REJECTION AND TAKING RISKS is your friend and the recipe for massive success! Love you prof! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

Wow, I often cringe at videos with these kind of titles but.... wow That was really great advice. No arrogance, no overstating the importance of money over everything else, just an incredibly well balanced answer.... Pay attention young men. In a world of immature masculine icons this dude is spitting some wisdom.

Im on that path right now. Realizing after couple careful steps that Im a lot of stronger than I thought at first. Slow progress but still progress. Thanks for those inspiring words Scott Galloway, and thank you Chris for piking great and interesting people for the show! +1+1+1+1+1

Damn I needed to hear this. As a video editor who mainly makes a living from working on projects in the comfort of my own place, I find myself isolating more and more. Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Scott and Chris.

The partner thing is so real. Lots of great gems here overall.

It's really good advice. You got things you're good at, and you need those. But the biggest improvements come from taking something you're bad at (or just afraid of) and becoming somewhat decent at it, or even good at it eventually. You focus on one at a time, but it compounds and makes everything else easier in the long run. And it doesn't take decades! You can see results in weeks. It's uncomfortable, and you have to be ok with starting small and failing often, but that momentum makes you invincible.

YESSS!! i was hoping you'd snip part this from the long form video

I love how I naturally did this and didn't know this was a key element needed.

What a sound and grounded advice. Amazing clip, I'm 32 and I definitely can take a lot from it

I've recently picked up triathlon and joined a few sports societies as part of that - that's a massive help! Having context around your conversation with strangers makes it so much easier. I join social rides with a cycling community and meat a ton of new people every weekend. Started running with another guy I met at the swimming pool, where I chat with triathletes almost every week. Honestly, as not the most social person, joining a COMMUNITY of some sort gives you the ability to socialise with new people pain-free. Walking up to strangers is definitely more intimidating if you lack context..my 5 cents. It doesn't have to be all that scary and painful.

Key Takeaway: Learning to take uncomfortable risks and interacting with new people around me as much as I can. This is extremely valuable.

Thank you for saying we are mentally and physically strong in our 20s and 30s. As I am turning 30 in a month, I felt that I have passed my physical peak and let every good opportunity slipped by. My youth has ended and there’s nothing I can do. After hearing this, I believe I can keep going with grit. Also regarding talking to strangers. Everytime I am on my apartment lift and when neighbours comes in, I would like to talk to them… But I am just too hesitant…

Just turned 30. Good advice. Thank you very much.

Some of this I can appreciate: get comfortable with rejection, meet as many people as you can, marvel at your strength. There are some aspects I have pause with: push yourself to your brink, get as ahead as you can in your career field, generally the notion that in your 30’s you should build big. I think its about temperance, planning for your happiness in a long-term way, which opposes the notion that you’ve got to risk a ton. “What you do now is who you’ll be then.” If thats true, pushing your limits leaves you at the end of a rope.

I Love his point. One needs to get used to taking Risks, not being afraid of rejection.

7:54 - I just turned 59 and think like this! Love this line. I may have 25% in me, not everyone anymore. But you still have to think this way no matter how old! And train this way too!

The biggest thing I’d add to this list is to realize that ANY of this (aside from getting as big and strong as possible), can be done at ANY age! Not just your 20s and 30s

Needed this. I swear i’ve said nearly the exact same thing to myself, but hearing it made a world of difference

Fantastic, practical advice conveyed with exceptional clarity. Thank you.

Amazingly true. Being able to talk to strangers and handle rejection exponentially increases your dating and business opportunities. I know it from personal experience. I have 10x more dating options than my friends and I do great at my job because I am able to do those two things well.

I'm 31 and have wasted my entire life so far. I didn't even have morals or a sense of what a direction is until I was 27. Since then it feels like it's taken everything out of me to completely rewire my brain, and I struggle with it to this day. I feel like my life is over because I've wasted most of my best years doing nothing, building nothing, and having no skills. Now it feels like I'm stuck paying bills in a dead end job with no spare money, time, or energy to make headway into anything that can transform my life. I'm desperate for change. I'm alone, and I can't imagine a better future for myself. I know people say it's in my mind, but how can I get out of my head when all I see is failure and wasted time in my past? I don't even know what success looks like from my position. I read and watch podcasts hoping to find an answer and transform my thinking, but all I see are young men in their 20s figuring life out, and men in their 30s who have followed a path, acquired skills, and leverage it to do something better. It took my too long to even care about my life, and I have little to show for it. It feels like I have to much to catch up on and little time left to do so. I guess I'm just a bitch. Every day I think about ending it all, and it takes physical energy for me to fight those thoughts. There is no one around me that I can lean on because I'm surrounded by selfish and toxic people who are just looking for their next fix. I want something more for my life, but I'm not sure I have what it takes to get it. I feel hopeless and alone, and I hate that I'm so weak. I just had to vent.

Been waiting to hear honest advice like this for years but i never got it from my father or an uncle. Instead i finally found it on the internet.

I don't remember where I heard it, but the person stated that life is lived in chapters, specifically decades. Every chapter has a purpose that will be utilized in the next chapter. For anyone entering their 30's and feeling like they haven't accomplished anything yet, just remember, in your 20's you figured out all the things that you're doing wrong and (hopefully) learned what skills will be necessary to succeed. You have 10 years until this chapter closes and the next opens, so work your ass off and don't close this chapter without truly finding what you're made of. Your 30's are the most wonderful time in life, you made it 30 years, through every hard time life threw at you early. Life was trying to mold you into a person that can attack the day the day with confidence and discipline. Don't be afraid to fail, don't be afraid to say no, and don't be afraid of feeling uncomfortable because with comfort comes complacency and becoming complacent will silently kill your dreams. You'll do just fine and welcome to the best chapter of your life.

Rejection is what resonated with me in this video. I’ve never been in a serious relationship before, but I have shot my shot and had a chance to be with some amazing attractive women. I wouldn’t trade it despite none of them becoming my partner and I’m going to continue to push forward and get rejected no matter how many times it is. 27 by the way

Don't get me wrong, I know the economy is in shambles and in order to break even and make profit, we have to ride it out until stock recovery, but how are some folks in the same stock market as me still able to pull off substantial profits of as much as 650K within months, what am I doing wrong?

I loved this. I’m 28, I agree with all his advice and I love how it applies to both men and women. 👍🏻

This was by far the most valuable thing ive heard in a while and its comforting onowing failure is not only normal, but necessaey and more abundant if you actually want something

I started Brazilian ju jitsu this year, just hit my 30s. Rolling on the ground with sweaty strangers (majority men) really forces you out of your comfort zone as a woman. Haven’t found a mate yet, but I’m appreciative of the skills and difficult, yet rewarding challenges it has brought me thus far.

33 here, I have everything going for me except for the partner. After spending 2 years on dating apps, I have realized the only way I'm going to make a genuine connection is in a social setting, not on a phone. I feel my best after I leave the gym, I'm my most natural, confident and social state. So I will use that to go engage socially with women, in a bar or wherever I end up. My instincts have been urging me to do this for longer than I care to admit but I have just realized in the last month that if I want a mate worth having, then I have to work for it. And that work is pushing myself socially beyond my comfort zone. This guy is absolutely right.

One of the best videos! The knowledge in here is life-changing.

This was a really good list, and well put!

I’m 22 about to 23 years old in a couple of days. I have 7 months left until I graduate from college. I lost both of my parents in 2021. This morning I woke up with with the most empty feeling I can’t explain. It feels like no matter what I accomplish in life I feel like I will never feel fulfilled as a human being. We’re all going to die one day and each day we’re here we have to fight to keep tomorrow from being shitty and feeling even more empty. I want to have a peaceful life but it feels like you have to climb my Everest to really get there. And to say that I was just born one day against my will, that’s asking a lot for something so simple. It’s almost like that now what feeling never leaves. Then regret is one of the most terrible feelings you could ever feel. I’m still young but I can’t imagine being 35 and realizing you wasted your entire youth not developing yourself as a person as much as you wanted to and that handicapping you to achieving your goals.

Thanks fellahs need all the advice I can get working hard at not being crumby.

Turning 30 this week.. going to take notes and apply this advices from now on. Thanks for a solid video!

Honestly, all this boils down to one thing: Understanding that failing is not a bad, but a *good* thing. Society applauds success and looks down on failure, but one has to understand that a vital prerequisite for success is failure. Why? Because to be truly successful, one has to consistently get better at whatever one does - and to get better at anything, one has to push oneself past one's limits. That inevitably means failing sometimes, and learning from it. If you try to avoid failing because failing makes you feel bad, you'll never try as hard as you can, and you'll never realise your potential. It took me 35 years to gain that insight, and even now, I have to constantly remind myself to not beat myself up when I fail at something, but to learn from it and try again, harder. Being a father now, teaching my son to understand failure as an opportunity rather than a defeat and encouraging effort instead of praising success is the one thing I prioritize above all else - so he can achieve more than I ever did.

I wish someone told me this when I graduated high school. In my 40s and looking back, damn this guy is spot on.

I've watched and listened to THOUSANDS of motivational, growth and advice videos and I must say, this advice is pure gold. Bravo. Should be taught in schools.

My Scott...this is really, really great. I have often not agreed with your opinions, but always appreciate your thinking. This is of special quality.

This is honestly one of the most powerful interviews I've ever seen!! What Scott said about getting out as much as possible was so enlightening to me. Going out is something I have NEVER enjoyed or found easy! But what Scott said about putting yourself in 'uncomfortable' situations really resonated with me!! That is exactly how I feel going out! I feel very uncomfortable! So its great to hear that even someone like him, felt the same sometimes! Thank you so much Scott and Chris, this really was life changing for me! Thank you both so much.

I love this guy, he doesn't mince words- lmao he can kill or outrun them, that's exactly how I feel.

Any young person watching this, one day you’ll be thinking like I was you had so much time. The next day you’ll wake up and be 30. Life doesn’t give you a break, especially if you are involved in many things. Plan ahead

i love it how the interviewer didnt interrupt him entire time and let him get his point across, then right at the end he throws in a great and pretty funny comment lol good job

thanks for filming and sharing

I can concur how important this gets. When I look back in life, me and my two other PhD piers walked very different part of career life. I love working in the city, love the office energy, love socialise with people in different department, to some points I get excited with stress and workload. Whereas my piers are anti-risk, anti-opportunity, anti-money, anti-social life, anti-connections, even anti-hard working because according to them, the boss will always take advantage of them without any reward. Fast forward 30 yrs, they are miserable in denial and resentment that other people just magically got luckier. All these were triggered by one job interview rejection in their early career which they still mention now and take it very personally, how fucking sad is that ... What even sad is one of them have 3 kids, imagine what a role model he setups.

So glad I did wrestling in high school. I never really liked it, and I was never very good at it, but I stuck with it. Definitely the hardest thing I did, especially considering I was the only person on the team who also got good grades so I would actually have to go home and do homework after a 3 hour grueling workout.

I desperately needed to hear this. Thanks Chris and Scott

Absolutely love this. Great motivation and advice. Thank you for having him on your podcast.

So glad you clipped this from the full show (which was great). Fantastic advice - wish I had some of it 30 years ago. I've made my 15 year old son watch it already.....

35 years old watching this. Facts. I have developed over 10 years of a great skill (getting people out of pain). I found an incredible wife (at church, on a blind date, saying yes to something I would normally not do) I have two amazing little boys now. I got really strong. I was skinny in highschool. Helps in many ways such as being a dad and rough housing with the kids, being great at my job, and wife likes it too. This is great advice. Oh and by the way. 20’s and 30’s have been HARD. Like much harder than I thought. But he’s right, if you have a skill you’re good at and your wife is amazing it’s easier to get through the hard. Lots of selfless investment. It will pay off when my kids are in school and I can really enjoy them more and more

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Honestly, I needed to hear that. Thank you.

i played safe all my life, barely took any risks. got safe engineering degree, got safe, stable engineering job. now im 40+ years old, making 200K, networth 1 mil+. one of my friends is a risk taker, he got business degree, started several businesses and failed. he is my age, early 40s, his networth is close to zero. i played safe all my life, never took risk, always been w2 employee. i can retire right now if i want to. my risk taking friend cant retire. my life may be boring, but i would do it all over again if i had to start over. risk taking is overrated.

This was really good advice! Thanks Prof G

Just fantastic. I'm sharing with my students who are primarily late 20s, early 30s.

Very true all around. I'm naturally an introvert, but worked at going out and speaking with women in my 20s. You should have high standards and talk to a lot of people. I found my wife 8 years ago and life is great.

The 'partner' piece is so true! My wife is my rock and my companion in life, and without her I'd be 0.0001% the man I am today.

absolutely ❤ - this is huge add value advice for a young generation - GET OUT and start learning to be uncomfortable / it doesn’t mean that the life is sh** but what it means you’d grow beyond your own / society limitations / prepared to play your game on your terms. 😊

“Force yourself to go out there” (to socialise). Funny to think people used to meet their future partners in their spare time. Now, people just have three jobs: Their dayjob, the gym, and dating. With the “pay(off)” declining from the former to the latter.

I’ve gone through every challenging situation i could imagine just to put myself in uncomfortable situations for growth. I talked to different strangers every single day, seminars, schools, fraternities, groups, countries by myself. At some point I realized so many things about myself. And when I got my money settled I met the love of my life, best thing that happened to me. Now, I’m very happy and at peace at the age of 35.