And that's why I never watched cartoons. Only Aaron Sorkin for this 8 year old!

Sentient Fetus are you okay?

@@davidnotonstinnett It just became sentient. It needs time to stabilize.

Don't forget Arabadopsis thaliana! Poor plants are always forgotten :(

don't forget about military personnel...

@@joyl7842 While we're at it, poor rats/mice haven't gotten a mention either. Not sure how we forgot those

That is called an Ongoing Crisis or a Philosophical Crisis, which are both names I have just made up. Take a few days to dwell on it and try to work out a solution, but be aware I am not a professional and this may actually worsen symptoms.

I just accept the fact that life is meaningless beyond my own perceptions. It's much easier that way. Besides, it's not like I can prove anything other than my own perceptions even exists. Though that line of thought can lead to a completely different kind of existential crisis...

I'd rather not "try" that... it doesn't seem like it'll be my favorite flavour of ice cream so to speak. Unfortunately, opting out of try a constant state of crisis for over a decade isn't an option. I'm living it... I'm just saying I'd rather not.

I feel this in my bones!!! You ain't kidding!!!

At 13 I learned that I'm agnostic and don't believe in an after life. Gave me anxiety for 25 years. The Last 5 years have been the best of my life. Because of acceptance

Politicians.

Ain't it the truth, America 😶

@Austin Martín Hernández More like: Vote against Biden because he picked Kamala Harris and she's a black woman.

Reminds me of a logic description that can equate one to minus one. Just shows you need to be careful with reasoning.

esp. trump fans

Good tip. I will remember this

.... otherwise all of them will continue videoing it to post on-line!

Even better. Don't point at anyone and call police *yourself.*

@@MariaMartinez-researcher If you can. It's a little hard to do CPR or stop bleeding with one hand. Even if you have it on speaker, it's still a mental distraction

@@MariaMartinez-researcher But the point is that the person is rendering life-saving aid (CPR, stopping a bleed, etc.) and cannot call for an ambulance without negatively affecting the victim's wellbeing. Of course, if you are one of the bystanders...yes, make the call without being prompted. However, that wasn't the point in his/her first-aid training.

I dont think I've ever been not miserable

Wasn’t planning on spending my hottest Years living like the Grandparents in Charlie and the chocolate factory but here we are.

With the way the economy bones younger people I think 40 year olds are happier then 20 year olds. Most of the people I know in their 40s have savings, decent jobs, own homes, usually have a few close friends, and usually are married or have partners while all the people I know in their 20s are broke and depend on the internet or online gaming for human contact

At 45 I must admit that I'm not only the happiest I've ever been, but also more focused and productive. I suppose were I not gainfully employed, in moderate good health, and single that I may feel differently.

all true things, all true things

Same, adhd seems to be very common these days, maybe because of social media . When I'm motivated to study, the studying itself and learning is actual very sweet and easy for me, not matter how "hard" the topic is, if I'm motivated , it'll be easy. But I'm not usually motivated (probably because of my adhd) and the hardest thing about studying is focusing and not getting distracted for me. Or maybe I don't have adhd and I'm not just f**Ked by the overstimulation and over release of Domaine because of social media. If that's the case, it means I have to leave it for sometime to decrease my brain's expectation of how much dopamine should be released wheb doing sth enjoyable

In my country there was a massive miscarriage of justice a bunch of years ago because a group of forensic psychologists and a prosecutor had bought into the whole "repressed memory" idea. They had a guy with history of mental illness and substance abuse locked up for several years, fed him mind-altering drugs and asked him about various murders and disappearances. In the end he confessed to about a hundred suspected murders, but when the case was reexamined many years later, his stories didn't match the technical evidence enough for a conviction. Originally, any inconsistencies had been explained away with "his memories are really really repressed so we'll just feed him more drugs and gloss over the mismatches." Sorry for the long post, but it felt kind of apt. ^^

@@Pile_of_carbon And this is sweden, right? :S

@@metallsnubben Yup, the whole Sture Bergvall/Thomas Qvick debacle.

That's until the patient goes into shock upon receiving at the therapist's bill!

@@Pile_of_carbon Similar things have happened in the USA, more often police than therapists eliciting the false memories. We had a Satanic Panic hysteria that destroyed lives, and with our active very religious/conservative/conspiracy theorist community still convinced it was and is real, we have a lot of religious "therapists" and some licensed therapists overreaching. Police of course want to close cases and may use vulnerable people (children are protected now). So a lot depends on prosecutors as gatekeepers.

Orrrr when someone says some "fact" ask them where they got that 'information' from

@@seanA416 I usually do that, but humans are hard to convince

@@mr.boomguy It could be the way you're saying it that people don't want to listen to.

@@seanA416 When I try that, most of the time the response is "It's on the internet, google it!" /smh

@@mr.boomguy show them the source.

It isnt surprising if you just simply forgot because you didn't actually use the memory more than it was repressed. My kids' have a younger half brother. He likes being I the water but hates it when his head gets wet or it the water gets deep enough that he can't stand. Im not too surprised. When he was like 3 or so, a lot of us were at a larger birthday party for one of their cousins that took place at a public pool. He swam out and away from everyone else. I was the first on eat see him and to see him go under, other than the life guard. I was closer so I passed my daughter off to an adult (also with the party,) and swam over to get him out of the water. If you ask him he says he doesn't really remeber it happening, except vaguely when he was1st told about it. But it did happen.

... You attacked your brother with a cheese slicer?

@@insertianameia2224 When I was 2, my mother was working at a YMCA pool in Maine. They let her bring me and, once when she wasn't watching, I ended up in the pool. I've always remembered looking up at the surface of the water as I sank. I was calm, didn't get water in my lungs. I remember her breaking the surface of the water as she dove in for me. I know this is what happened because we talked about it when I was a little older (no memory on either side of the event, just me sinking and my mother diving in). No trauma, and I've always remembered this from such a young age. This is in stark contrast to the terror I suppressed, which I remembered in detail the instant my mother mentioned it 20 years later. My parents were avid whitewater kayakers and I grew up in the water- I've never had any fear of swimming, diving, or drowning- just not liking going out in the ocean in a small boat. I don't even know if they're connected, but it made my mother mention the event. There is a difference to forgetting/not remembering and repressing. I understand this is hard to internalize unless an individual has experienced such themselves. As I said, to me this is a memory from my 20s. This is the only thing I've ever 'remembered' that doesn't fit properly into the chronology of my internal timeline, it 'happened' the day I remembered it.

@@a.9913 Yeah, the kind with a handle and a 'blade' with a slot in it to slice the cheese. More dangerous than a spoon, less than a fork.

But then there's the issue of one actually imagining perfectly compatible imagery to an experience they have been through and later forgotten, versus the memory been actively repressed. I often find myself trying to remember stuff, and as I conceive of having done something or seen something, it's still hard to tell whether it's a memory or something I'm making up. It can perfectly be the case that I'll often just re-imagine things that I've done, not really remembering. In the other hand, there's some research saying that ironically we remember more perfectly things we don't really consciously remind ourselves of often. Remembering things is not just "reading" but also re-writing the memory itself, subtly distorting it over time. Whereas stored memory that was never recalled is potentially more intact. There's a question of how long it really lasts, though, since things like dreaming and recalling are also strengthening the wiring of memories. There are different types of memories. Kind of like a video file in a computer is not a single thing, but actually has the video track and the audio track as separate files, in a container file, that artificially binds them together for ease of use. One can have lost the "narrative" memory of an event, but still have emotional memories, and associations. An example was one of those rare instances of people who have suffered some brain injury and were no longer able to form long-term memories, like living in an never-ending present and always getting surprised about how old you look in the mirror. One of those people, had his daughter visiting him from time to time, and sometimes she would stand by for a long while with him, then go to the kitchen or to the bathroom for a minute or so before saying goodbye and going away, and that would make her father very frustrated, as he thought she had been there just to go to the bathroom, not even talking to him. He would soon forget, but for the rest of the day he'd be on a bad mood, and not even know why. At some point they (plus some researcher or MD) figured out it was going on, and then she made sure to say goodbye only immediately after being with him for longer, not after any interval. Similarly, seeing dramatic movies also affects people in a way that lasts longer than we generally think of having been affected by it. There's like an inertia of brain chemistry going on, but then that's more of a short term thing, rather than a traumatic association that persists wired to some degree.

In his defence, half of his body weight was cocaine.

Yeah, and people still believe the nonsense he said

@@ElGuerreroMaya He actually had lots of good contributions as well; it was him that first conceptualized and coined the term 'unconscious.' Many of his most revolutionary discoveries/work we now accept as commonplace to psychology, so often all people remember nowadays are his mistake left behind -- albeit there were indeed some glaring errors in his theories. Granted though, it is understandable in hindsight how he could've been misguided so as to rely so heavily on sexuality as the primary determinant in personality/consciousness due to the sexually repressed nature of the Victorian era. Oftentimes we throw the baby out with the bathwater when it comes to Freud.

@@aguamalone7615 good point and to his credit the field was new so can't expect it to be perfect. Just look at Sir Isaac Newton, he did lots of things, had theories but eventually some were proven and disproven, as well as expanded.

@@peterprime2140 in counter defence, I’ve never been attracted to my mum while on coke.

Idk man. Seems pretty čonspiratorial to me. Unfortunately, or fortünately, subliminal mmessaging doesn’t work well enough to really be worth implementing.

That's kind of the exception proving the rule. Most of us actually do remember our most traumatic experiences. I know I do. I wish I could repress the memories. Someone suggested trying to just imagine I'm living the life I ways imagined, with none of the painful events having happened. No abuse, no neglect, no poverty, no HIV, no artificial hips, no pain of losing loved ones. Thing is, some of that is still ongoing. Kind of hard to forget when one takes daily meds, has surgical scars, and knows one will never see a dozen pets, ones only sister, or husband, ever again, and yet, one wants to just have a stupid conversation.

@@injunsun Many studies have shown that strong emotion, like fear, can strengthen memory but strong adrenaline can blur memory. Grief seems to accumulate sometimes. I'm sorry you've gone through so much.

Largely forgotten memory of something traumatic =/= actively repressed memory of something traumatic. Memories degrade over time as we don't think of them often (also as we do it, remembering isn't just passive reading, but also rewriting), but then not always completely. That's different from neuronal mechanisms actually somehow just cutting the "outer" connections of the memory with the rest of memories, triggered by some psychological reason, only for eventually a new connection be formed later.

I’ve had repressed memories.. and when I say repressed I don’t mean I did not remember ANYTHING from the traumatic experiences but I had repressed the details of these experiences because they were too painful to deal with. Also.. the whole ‘subliminal message’ theory presented here seems very biased.

@Jeremiah Liggins No, it was a major and traumatizing event that occurred in a school classroom.

Rock and roll? Was this in the 70s or 80s?

@Davvy Jannes I think the old guy was talking to the younger brother.

It was the 70's, my brother was joking, eventually he ended up with all my vinyl, which is another story, he was supposed to put them on tape, never did. There is a few more obscure records there too.

You didn't give your record collection to your brother did you?

It’s just me, but my first reaction was thinking he was going to sell them off for big money. It’s my problem.

🎶"Let's all go to the lobby...to get ourselves treat!" 🎶

I’m guessing those are the topics. Darn I was hoping for them to talk about the “we only use 10% of our brain” myth.

You forgot Midlife Crisis.

@@fran6b thanks

srmbi

Thank you. I just do not have the patience for these overly long intros.

I used to be an archer, then I took an arrow to the peen.

My brother has the same issue. It really hampers his critical thinking skills. I've been trying to help him, but you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

@@josephburchanowski4636 If the horse is drowning it will eventually inalate water. It is not exactly drinking, but I hope it helps.

@@sailor5853 Better dead than a thorn in others' sides. :D

@@sailor5853 Instructions unclear, I am water boarding my brother every time he fails a critical thinking test. He doesn't appear to be improving, only screaming and crying.

I do too cause it was may 24 weekend a holiday here me and my friends drank and drove quad 20 km in the woods camped out all weekend thats just coincidence that that happened 10 years ago one of the most exciting things ive done probably

HB blue lips

Happy Belated Birthday!

point being...

@@simrethdhingra4409 Jumping to specific subjects? Also, copy pasting this in description will actually make chapters for the video.

@@ZoidbergForPresident fair point. Fair point

Thank you 🎉

For example: I test above average, but I am in fact, an idiot.

Smells like pure speculation .... that being said, I'll buy it, it does seem to legitimately reconcile with my observations, and I can offer no better explanation.

@@DigitalJedi Me too. My IQ is 144, and I have two BAs. Meanwhile, my life is in shambles, only partly due to my own mistakes. I can't figure my way up out of my various holes, some of which are quite logically not "my fault," such as the deaths loved ones. I can understand Ecology, Virology, and lots more, and yet, I'm in bankruptcy (after being widowered), and can't pick a good man if my life depended on it. And it kind of does, as I'm living on disability and SNAP. I lived with abuse and neglect before becoming widowered, because emotionally, I couldn't imagine or handle the idea of losing my lifetime of possessions. So, high IQ may measure how well I can do a job, or take a test, but hasn't done squat otherwise.

@@injunsun I'm so sorry about your situation. I hope your it improves soon.

We often perform better in the "automatic" mode than if we were actively doing things like someone who's just learning it for the first time, paying more active attention. In fact, training for performance is training for automaticity. Our performance degrades for various reasons, though, but that alone wouldn't invalidate any kind of test that measured a given potential, only the assumption that it measures a constant level of performance.

Are you American?

I see where your coming from, and I definitely think the bystander affect is more prominent in “younger” people, especially those who have never been in a certain situation before, such as a life or death situation. Imo the affect is prevalent throughout all age groups, but is not prevalent with men or women who have had the “make the call” situation thrust upon before. I am in the army, I have only been in 3 years and I am 21, and I know that when something big comes up, there is no hesitation to jump on it and be the person in charge. I had a failed launch of a drone while in training, and the 28 year old man I was training had no idea what to do and stood there, while my 21 year old self took the reins and handled the situation. I feel like the biggest thing is experience in having being told your in charge of a potential crisis. Most of my other army buddies and police officer buddies have said that when it’s time to be in charge of an unexpected situation for the first time, they froze, as I did as well back in the day lol. But once you have had the experience of unexpected crisis being thrust upon you, it is more like a second nature, probably due to training, that you are able (and almost confident) to take charge of the situation and be the “peacemaker” instead of a bystander. Just an opinion ofc, I’m not educated in any way on the subject so I could just be rambling lol.

Andrea out of curiosity, what made you realize? Was it a doctor who recommended testing? I’m happy to hear you now understand yourself better!✌🏻

I’ve always thought it, but also had a stereotype of what autism looked like. And what you see on tv and movies don’t paint the whole picture. I’ve always considered myself a super nerd. There are things that I become obsessed with COVID was one of those things. It fascinates me, in an awful way. The more I learned about it the more I was intrigued. Obsessive learning is a guess you’d say a symptom. And I’ve always visualized things in my mind like how things work and fit together. I am or can an introvert. I have routines and stick to them. I was also diagnosed with depression and anxiety, now that I know where it stemming from I take better care of myself to avoid burnout. Oh also I mask by pretending I’m not a super nerd, so no one ask me 50 million questions. Where I work people will ask you questions instead of finding the information themselves. So the more I learned about ASD the more I realized that it fits me. It was like a weight was lifted. Honesty, introverted, aloof, sometimes a daydreamer , depression, anxiety, insomnia, light sensitivity, and even bisexuality are all linked to ASD or autism spectrum disorder. Most studies have been done one men, and the brain of an autistic woman is wired differently than a man, which means if we’re just a little autistic we can cover it up. I’m also so old that they weren’t really looking for it in the 80’s and 90’s.

Andrea it seems like a long time coming for you to realize. I’m happy you now have a sense of clarity!

Women don’t get diagnosed as often as men, it’s not that women don’t have it, it’s diagnosed as eating disorders, it’s diagnosed as anxiety and depression. It also can seem like bipolar disorder. You’d have to be non verbal to be diagnosed as a girl, or have repetitive behaviors or have very socially awkward. I’m just a little socially awkward.

The man that runs the aspergers from the inside channel wasn’t diagnosed until he was in his 30’s...just a few years ago.

@Austin Martín Hernández If Trump actually had any intelligence, the rest of the World wouldn't be laughing at him!

Anyone who refers to themselves as a genius most likely isn't.

​@@kirklarson4536 Especially politicians, or anyone employed by Apple Stores!

@@stevie-ray2020 don't forget artists

Well I think he is bipolar, tending to be really euphoristic and self-enthusiastic in his "high" phases. So that might be why.

You hit the nail on the head. Im there RIGHT NOW. I’m 43 and apparently at that age where friends and family members are dropping like flies, my business is flourishing, my testosterone has obviously hit the off-switch, my back and knees hurt, & I am just downright overwhelmed at this point. Shit’s changing and changing FAST. And it won’t slow down either. I just said to a 19 year old client, “last I saw you was June, yeah?” He replied, “I know! It was so long ago!” It feels like yesterday to me. It was at THAT moment I said for the first time, “I’m getting old.”. You are 100 percent correct about that nap. My only saving grace and what’s keeping my sanity right now is the fact that I own my own successful business and can live my life at my pace and by my own dictation. I lost my mom, then her sister, then my grandma (mom’s mom) in the past couple weeks & months. I have never been more devastated and know an all knew meaning of pain. In the past two years I have been to just as many funerals as the 41 years previous combined. After 25 years in one profession, and a business owner, the pressure of others expecting you to get it right is imperceptible compared to the weight of knowing every decision you make has an effect on the families of the employees you are responsible for. I have done things far outside the lines of my own self centered principles and moral compass for the good of the employees. In my position there is no room for my emotions, and I wear mine on my sleeve. Compartmentalism of thoughts and emotions takes a lot of effort to maintain. It’s a crazy time and what we have to remember is these things aren’t happening to us, they are happening around us and we’re affected by them. In some cultures it’s “the 7 year itch,” where they claim due to the fact that you’re cells are all completely replaced and you are therefore different every 7 years that you change foo. If you just do the math, 14 is deep in puberty, 21 is the “adulthood awakening,” 42 is the “midlife crisis, 63 is elderly/retirement age…but as for all the other multiples of 7…idk what those would be.

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I have dissociated issues, & I also have an amazing memory (for stuff not dissociated from). I just posted that 10yrs ago today I was driving cab for a very inebriated guy... I hate that the videos dont offer any nod to possible exceptions. I'm sorry for your suffering, & though my dissociated states arent as bad as yours, I relate & wish you peace & joy. XO

They do not deny that people may have suppressed memories about different life events. They try to explain that these suppressed memories that were retrieved by psychoanalysts are not reliable and maybe just false memories. So it is difficult to understand which retrieved suppressed memories are real, and which are not.

@@SvetaHuh That's true. I personally wish they'd just say a qualifier like, "Though there are some extenuating exceptions,..." or something. Mostly a great channel tbh. XO

If you don’t remember most of your life, how do you know if your recovered memories are real or something your mind made up? Just curious.

@@maggiee639 that is a very real issue that i have questioned myself about multiple times, as a large portion of people with similar issues struggle with denial. such is the nature of the beast when your mind works its hardest to prevent you from remembering harmful experiences-- "are these memories real, or am i just making things up to seem like i was hurt as a child?" typically the memories i experience are in the forms of flashbacks and my memory of experiencing them dissipates within moments unless i record them through writing. only the visceral feelings i experience from the flashback remain. those are usually ones i can be certain are "real" memories and not "intrusive fake memories," even if i don't truly "remember" them. the brain works to "re-dissociate" them as they are harmful to my mental functioning. i can't speak for those who are currently in therapy or have sufficiently healed from the injuries to their psyche, as i don't have any experience with that.

Works with pets too (use food instead of $$) 😁😁

It's got what plants crave.

It's what plants crave!

@Foranzer486: We do *NOT* talk about Bad Boys 2!!! Or Mountain Dew!

I think it's the invariable result of a identity driven society, in our teens we start questioning, chasing our true identity, by our 40s, 50s, 60s society expects us to have found "It" and fit in..but when we dont find it or we become bored this is what causes dissatisfaction

Bruce Swinford well put and most definitely a major factor on a grand scale.

Emily Jolley In our society, 30 is for many a big turning point, when they start to do adult things, seeing their parents in themselves. That is just growing up. Midlife for many people these days is carrying the load for boss, spouse, kids who are teens or running up college expenses, and elderly parents. They are mortgaged to the eyeteeth and sleep very poorly, worrying how they are going to keep this going. A midlife crisis in a bad way might include abandoning all that and running off to Bora Bora with someone young enough to be your kid. A midlife crisis in a good way might be looking at what you can change to enjoy life again without ruining everything--downsize the house, change to a job you really like even if it pays less, teach the kids that the gravy train has been replaced by a handcar, get some help with your parents, take up activities you really love but gave up when life became too hectic, and take care of yourself and your marriage before it's too late. Those years of juggling all the demands are what make the later years feel so peaceful. You can see the struggles and think, "Not my problem anymore." :) Of course you life crises might vary. :)

@@653j521 very insightful!

It's often the way with many supposed learning disability that it's only a specific kind of skill or learning that is perhaps performing lower than average - many people have amazing strengths in other arenas but they are overshadowed by their disability.

strange/sad that when you don't do well in school they *test* you. your "disability" results in large part from the inadequacies of the system to teach people who don't learn well in the standardized model. i was lucky. my mother was a teacher, and i did well in school. but i saw it fail a lot of people because it couldn't serve them properly. yet somehow it managed to blame them for the problem.

Maggie, you might want to look into what 2e , twice exceptional. Which basically is "giftedness plus a learning disability.

If you pay closer attention, in all movies and series, it's always one person or a small group of people who rises to the top, rather than everyone in the entire world becoming god-like status-wise at the same time.

Or having the perfect marriage with the perfect mate with perfect (or a bit mischievous) kids, living in a perfect house with a perfect picket fence.

DING DING DING we have a winner!

^ which is a common symptom of people who've been abused. It really did happen, just that abused people often have doubts caused by gaslighting, manipulation, etc. Something that helps me is that I told other people before anyone else talked to me about it.

@@mmtruooao8377 Telling people, eh? That was pretty brave of you ^^

the original upload of the “repressed memory” part of this scishow video from 2 years ago is FULL of frustrated comments from therapists, trauma survivors and other people posting links to reproducible studies of specific parts of the brain having reduced matter in trauma victims, describing differences between negative-tinged memories the brain confabulates & memories suddenly flashing back that make their heart beat & skin sweat like it’s happening in real life, and giving anecdotal evidence of their repressed memories being corroborated by family memories decades after the trauma apparently occurred, and just generally being like “HANK WTF WHY ARE YOU SAYING THIS”..... so don’t worry, you’re not alone in thinking that _that_ part of this video was really Really ill-advised & stupid 😏

There is a difference: A: You remember the trauma. or B: A therapist constantly tells you about a trauma you could possibly have, until you think you remember it. In the first case your memories are (most likely) real. In the second case you should doubt it.

@@TheSassi14 scenario B. reminds me of Black butler, if you know the show

I hope it just gets better and brighter for you.

I hope it will get better

This sounds very challenging as you had such a strong idea of definitive reality which simply did not come true. I hope things get better for you. As someone who is also “behind” on some things (ie. relationships) understand you are by no means alone. Everyone takes everyday at their own pace. Know that you mold your own reality, not the world around you. You got this and I know things will get better soon. Take care!

Eh, I was similar in thought at the same time, but also thought to myself, is that where I'd really want to be right now which helped a lot.

That sounds like drpression that goes beyond your life situation and may be clinical. I hope you've gotten help.

Sorry, can I just say that I love the profile picture

Simreth Dhingra why

@@Aethelhadas just made me laugh, cause for a second I literally thought I had a new message crop up

Simreth Dhingra why

@@Aethelhadas why

It's self - defense by cognitive dissonance. A person has to cope in this world to move forward, and sometimes putting experiences (and particularly the parent tapes) in a closet is the only way it can be done sometimes.

I think it would work with Images and Sounds, like going to the loo when you hear trickling water or seeing a picture of a footballer in brightly coloured boots....maybe

Regret not on unlike jealousy is a worthless and self perpetuating emotion.

@@dadillen5902 Depends on what you have to regret. I see regret, like depression, as a logical response to my situation.

@@marccolten9801 Therapy to get you out of your situation, perhaps?

@@653j521 Never worked before.

Story of my life. I feel you.

Same

They even had an interlude at the middle, so to make sure.