What experience have you made with being admired and then ghosted?

what is shocking is when you realize a family member doesn't have a clue who you are...

We trigger people's insecurities just by not needing their validation.

1 we attract narcissists. Do not make yourself small and narcs won’t be interested. Cut narcs out and don’t take on people who are projects and need help. 2. We are playing a role. The moment the INFJ starts showing all their layers, people can’t handle who we truly are. Be authentic and you’ll find people who appreciate who u truly are. 3. We often show up with intensity. But it overwhelms them. So they back off. 4. We hide our mental strengths. We dim ourselves and put light on the other person. The moment we stand out, the other person backs off because they are too insecure to be friends with us. Show up with all that you are and all your intensity - those who can’t handle it will stay away. 5. Because we uncover their deep insecurities. We know what to say and do because we can read them.

1. We attract narcissists 2. We play roles 3. We get more intensity with people 4. We hide our strengths 5. We uncover people's insecurities

No one can handle us. Like it’s too good to be true . I get ghosted often

What you have said is absolutely true. I am older, hopefully wiser, now. Ghosting someone is petty, childish and cruel - and they know it! I hate being a cynic, but in my personal and professional life I have found too many people are just selfish, unkind, jealous and insecure. You dont have to do anything to incur their wrath. For me the solution is not being too nice from the get go. I am never rude, but at the first red flag I pay attention. I dont get mad, I just wont play their games. Sometimes it is the door slam. I want to live a peaceful productive life. Too many people thrive on creating chaos for no good reason. We are better off alone than badly accompanied. The only person you can change is yourself. I, like others, are in a constant inner dialogue of self analysis. We put up with way too much bad behavior out of others, excusing them, self censoring everything we say to be polite, "walking in others shoes" etc. Enough! They will make you physically ill, financially, emotionally drained, bewildered, etc. INFJs deserve much better. Thanks for your many insightful videos.❤️

I just found out I’m an INFJ personality I thought I’m abnormal 😭 coz nobody really understands me most of the time people around me misunderstood my intentions

All facts! I’m so tired of being loved, then ghosted when they’ve gotten everything they need from my energy, love, attention, kindness, support, etc… I hope you are having a wonderful day my amazing friend. 🙂🌹❤️👍🏼

Hello Fellow INFJ’s😊😊😊😊

"too insecure to deal with the INFJ level"...... well that's the reason we dim our light, because we know this in advance... exactly right. I knew what words you were going to say... lol

#2 I've caught myself playing roles just to test people, to see how they respond and to test their loyalty and ego. It is shocking how many expose themselves as backstabbing gossips when you feed them a little negative story about yourself even when it's not true. The worst offenders are those who use it against you later on, to demean you to your face. Door. Slam.

Has happened throughout my life and I am 60 years old now.

I've had this happen to me so many times, I should not be surprised anymore. The best advise I would give in such situations: try not take it personally (cause in most cases the person who cut you off has a problem with themselves), it's really their loss cause statistically speaking the chance of them meeting another infj such as yourself are very low, I repeat THEIR LOSS. :)

The problem that some people encounter is that we do not support anything that is not authentic. We may appear friendly and relaxed - our normal state of being - and this can be interpreted as willingness to become a follower, student or hanger on. As you point out, eventually they will realize that they have entered a "No BS" zone, and this may produce anger or hostility. Once the inevitable has started to play out it is best to quietly let it go. Not ghost them but just let them be and try not to make it any harder for them. Thanks for this Wenzes - really interesting content!

“I’m never going to go into the depths of somebody else who hasn’t invited me there psychologically…” SO PROFOUND!!! Thank you for sharing this video! I feel so seen and it means more to me than I can tell you with words.

I've learned to "put a lid on my emotions and actions." I prefer to be alone and I don't waste my valuable time on people who not only don't appreciate it, they tread all over you. Since I put me first in this dialogue I've had a lot less stress and negative emotions. I can't say I'm happy but at least I'm nobody's little scapegoat anymore. Be true to yourself.

Had no idea this was an INFJ thing. Yes, I attract narcissists. 3 partners (stayed with the first one for over 20 years). It makes you wonder “Am I the narcissist?” When I asked my trauma therapist that question, he laughed at me and then broke it down for me to help me understand I wasn’t. I think you might even continue to feed their ego but your supply becomes tarnished the more human you become to them and you become scary the more you know about them. Next thing you know they’re looking for a new shiny bauble who doesn’t really know them. I wasn’t taking on projects. My first 20+ year ex thought I was THE project… well, he broke me down during the first two years into a project-I wasn’t one when we met and it took me a long time to recover my sense of self. I saw that tendency with friends-my taking on people as projects-when I was a teen and backed away from that because it really saps one’s energy and people are not projects. (My health issues have always limited my energy and so, I’ve always been aware of energy expenditure.) I’d gotten it in my head early in life that everyone needs cheerleaders… so I cheerled everyone (not just the people I was possibly interested in). It took having three of these relationships to realise I need to stop cheerleading so much in general so as not to draw narcissists to me. I have also never hid my intensity with anyone. I’m autistic and unlike a lot of autistic women, I’m not good at masking and so being able to hide my intensity was not a skill I possessed. Being authentically myself was always at the top of my personal agenda. I need to look less like a shiny bauble-I know your advice is to shine, but that hasn’t worked for me. (This makes me sad because the message I am giving myself is that I actually need to be less me, though backing off the cheerleading isn’t as hard as I thought it would be.) Also, my first ex pointed out repeatedly how naive I was (am). I thought this was the result of trauma and it was only when I pushed my trauma therapist on this point that he told me he suspected I was autistic and put me through testing. It was my therapist’s opinion that narcissists, pathologically co-dependent people (true of covert narcissists), and psychopaths are drawn to autistic people because we take much longer to pick up on the game underway. Perhaps INFJs have a bit of a Pollyanna view of other people as well-seeing the best in others and never thinking that the shadow sides they see will come for them. I think my boldness, my intensity made the narcissists I attracted as love interests think I was some sort of narcissistic match (I attract covert narcissists who appear to the whole world to be super nice people). I think they think, even if only subconsciously, that, given my intensity, I was that someone special who would have the passion to fight with them. That’s not me. I’m not interested in working through people’s childhood trauma dramas in that way (e.g., playing a role, following a script, being the dragon they need to slay, etc.)-it’s dispiriting, exhausting, and mind-numbingly boring and I get slain in the end (fortunately figuratively to date). That was long sorry.

Used to bother me now I'm like, YES PEACE ,,our place is alone in the peaceful magic 🎯😂💫💪💛✨

I don’t care if they want to carry their insecurities to their grave. That’s none of my business. But they have started hurting me in many different ways because of their insecurities. That’s where the real problem is. I can take things only for so long. There is a limit to my patience. Of course, I am going to explode after months & years of delays. Like what were you even expecting? That this can go on forever? You didn’t leave me with any other option. You are thinking about this one time when I exploded. Now look at the time span for which I kept my mouth shut. Yes, I knew it all along. I just didn’t want you to feel bad, in all my sincerity. Because I am a compulsive empath, I feel everything you feel. Hurting you feels like hurting myself only.

INFJs are incredibly kind and it is so easy to take advantage of them. Their boundaries must be respected. I work with at least 5 INFJs (that I know of, others I suspect but they did not want to do the MBTI test, we are nurses). They are ALL very insightful. Some of them were a bit suspicious of me in the beginning but I have proven myself to be real (I'm an INFP, I can't be anything else). One of the issues with INFJs is their gentle nature and I can tell they see everything. They see all of me, and that really frightens some ppl. INFJs are so insightful, they see right through everyone. Some ppl just run from this, they don't want the INFJ to see them as they really are, personally, I embrace that. Also I loathe bullies and INFJs get bullied. Well they don't when I am around, I look after them. I would say that our unit is pretty INFJ friendly. I suspect the MD on our unit might be an INFJ as well although our relationship is more formal. I only heard through the grapevine that she was being bullied by some or one of the nurses on our unit, I went to her and told her that I would step in and put a stop to it if she wanted. She smiled and told me it was all right. Of course I let others know I went to her about this issue and apparently that was enough (the bullies don't like to tangle with me), they are leaving her alone for the most part now. I am really old and will be retiring soon and I will miss my INFJ colleagues a lot. Oh yes, I should add that one of my sons is an INFJ, he is incredible.

Wow. Just wow. Tomorrow is my 43rd birthday and here I was, depressed, feeling lost... My whole life I felt different, unfathomable even to myself... In these last few days I've started to wonder why people either hate me or adore me, and then they just avoid me. This have happened lately a lot, old "friends" and lovers that used to love me, all of a sudden and seemingly without a reason going out of their way to avoid me. And then I randomly stumble upon this video. And it's astounding how it describes my whole life, in a way I never could. It is really refreshing to know I am not an alien... Or rather, I am, but there are others like me out there. I am an INFJ! I am subscribing. I will watch this video again and take notes. It's like finding a piece of the hardest puzzle ever. Thank you!

In my experience with infj's they make you into an image thats more in the infj's mind than the reality of who you are, which is disturbing, uncomfortable, and painful. People dont want to be a figment of the infj's imagination, we want to be seen and heard for who we are, too.

INTP male here. ENFJ and INFJ ladies can be a bit intense, but I personally adore it. The focus on authenticity and meaninful communication is the bee's knees. Sadly, finding you gals is a bit tricky. You're rare, you hide well, avoid well, and getting the opportunity to get to know you is a bit of a trial. Not that an INTP male is any better...I mean first you have to get us out of the house and away from our electro-doodads and then the battle of wits begins. But the emotional intimacy that forms is mind-blowing. I'm dating an INFJ now. She's turned me into a cuddler. I scarcely even liked being touched before and now I'm her personal teddy bear. It's freakin' awesome. I've never been so emotionally expressive in my life. She, on the otherhand, has learned to be more thoughtful and strategic in her planning and she's starting to go places because of it. The only downside: The two of us in a large, crowded and loud public space: once her fatigue exceeds her excitement for the event, she's ready to curl into a ball and cry, and I'm calculating the most efficient trajectory to get us out while running into the fewest people the moment we stepped foot into this place (and now we're at the furthest possible distance from the doors). But on that particular event, we got home, she made some cocoa and I made a blanket fort and we watched a movie together inside it.

I’ve been in so many interviews, meetings, and then there’s a sudden complete stop. The energy changes, and it’s uncomfortable until the end, then ghosted. It’s like the other person is in a nightmare or something.

I get abused before I get ghosted.

I actually find that I ghost them but most of the time it’s not out of spite or resentment. I never feel comfortable reaching out or initiating things. Unfortunately, people take it the wrong way. They might take it personally.

Honestly, I prefer ghosting to the vampires; you know the lovely people (especially family leeches which I never chose in life) who ignore your existence until wanting something to take from this infj. Out of high respect for Wenzes, let's just say that I never play games and my reaction is candid gestalt words and actions which demand no trespassing on my boundaries. The vampires eventually learn that my tolerance for toxic drama is quite limited to a few seconds. Life then remains with decent people who appreciate authenticity and pure goodwill in the long run.

Yup, it makes you feel lonely. Due to various reasons, I grew up without any friends. At the uni I felt more free and I had my peak when I shined. On a surface it seemed to others that I am super social and ”popular”, but in reality I had not even a single real friend. All of them would call me only to then talk about themselves, as I am a good listener. If I had one, even a small problem, I would be told I am dramatic or just that ”it will get better”.. and then they would continue about themselves. Even about their cousins I ve never met. But then its fine. So I went back to shutting down myself and now I am super cautious. I get myself out there with a hope that someone will notice me and appreciate at least some of deeds I do for others. But, I cant say there is a single person. Even friends I consider the closest dont seem to care how I am feeling or checking on me when I feel low. They think it will pass, since I never forced them to listen to me..yet alone to understand me. They make fun of my interests and remarks, but then use my comments or my jokes in front of others to get ”laughs” and reactions. Or make fun of me, whil getting upset if I would do te same. And its interesting how others like it when it comes from them, but they look at me weird if I say it. It is hard to keep up, but I am just getting too used to do things on my own. Even on dating apps like tinder. So many likes and matches and then they give up the moment you try to talk or share interests. So naturally you see yourself as a problem.. and it leds to to overthink or just giv on things. But it is still better to have nothing, than just tolerating anything. :)

This is all sooo true. I wish I knew all of this when I was younger. I could have saved myself a lot of grief.

And damn. I can’t believe you said the make yourself small so other people will feel more comfortable & let us be part of the group. That just floored me. As I have been doing this since childhood. And my voice & mannerisms change depending who is standing in front of me. Over active mirroring neurons I was told. Very hard for me to hold an accent. Don’t even know what my voice would sound like- actually I do. I think my poetry voice is the true self. My therapist cried. But have been beaten up bullied a lot for being the weird kid, you’re too sensitive, cried a lot in school. I’ve had therapists & friends literally say you’re so powerful but you hide your power & pretend to be weak- why? And for me it is so I can be near people. Otherwise they like in childhood are afraid or freaked out by me. I used to not watch this channel- sound sensitive. Pitch & tone are very tough for me at certain frequencies. I am very thankful I watched this one & all the way to the end. Thank you🙏

I worry that I will push people away if I am my authentic self, but thanks for making this video and saying that we will attract the right people into our lives by being our authentic selves. I'm making sure that I will be authentic in 2023 and hope to find my tribe.

I decided that I am just going to have my RB face, don’t be to warm when meeting people and don’t get to close so I don’t have to maintain any thing. Problem solved.

How can one sit and talk shit about somebody they call their friend?! And people wonder why I don’t trust anyone and stay to myself. I’m good😁

We are the come back story everyone loves ❤️

Many truths about the INFJ in this. I like too that you spoke about it not being our place to delve into others real deeply psychologically. Its not our place to try to heal all their wounds, essentially. Not only is that not good for our own mental health, as you discovered, but on a spiritual level we all must work through our own inner issues ourselves, and at our own pace. If we entangle ourselves deeply in someone else’s issues, then we take the chance of also taking on their karma. One will suffer the consequences of that. But more importantly, the other person probably won’t learn the lessons they came here to learn if we interject so deeply. Or we may delay their learning, or speed it up when they aren’t ready for it, or any number of things. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t help others. It just means we must step back at some point and allow them to do the work themselves. Another good way, as you are doing, is to teach others about how they can improve their lives. In this way you aren’t doing the work for them. You’re just showing them some things that may help them along if they try them.

Going thru this now and sucks. "I'd rather be disliked for who I am then liked for who I'm not" hit the spot and I got it. My intensity is off the roof most of the time and love it but see how it kinda throws people off. Thank you for that.

Oh Wow! 😂 I have so been doing this and seriously thought I was helping n didn't understand why they get intimidated. I just came to the conclusion that some people get intimidated by me, I never knew people are entitled to their insecurities, I thought I should help them heal. Thank you for this light bulb moment ❤

My best friend, for 4 years now, is an INFJ and I love her to pieces. I would never ghost her. She is the most awesome person I have ever met, makes sense, holds me accountable, and is the wisest person I have ever met. I will be a friend to her for as long as she will put up with my occasional goofiness. I talk to her every day. Sometimes it's not much and other times it's quite in depth. We seem to be able to understand each other...oh yeah, I might mention, I am an INFP. Fairly close to the same.

I attracted a narcissist, who then ghosted me and ran away. I haven’t spoken to them for 6 months now.

Most people seem to think I'm an idiot when they first meet me. When they discover that nothing could be further from the truth they get as far away from me as possible.

I have to say that this subject and your articulation about it has hit so strongly with me. I have followed you for about 3-4 years now and your development and ability to articulate the IN FJ dynamics has evolved and developed so incredibly that you almost have n me convinced to contact you and try out your boot camp. As an INFJ, especially a 61year old male INFJ it is rare to find anyone on the planet who is capable of helping me develop any faster as a human than I can by myself, you may be capable… thank you so much for this perspective you have given me. There is a saying I always use to put me in the right perspective, “ when the student is ready, the teacher will appear “… thank you for showing up for me right now. Namaste.🙏

We are unconditional love human beings that’s why we love everyone for who they are without judgement. Accept most people are not this !!!!

Because infjs are more aware than most of the people, and when they first try to live authentically, they, in most cases they even loose their own family. So this lose sometime makes them covert people pleaser and thus attract narcissists. And the sad part is sometime they are shamed for bringing out the insecurities of people.

Very significant points, Wenzes. And for me, #5 stood out big time - namely, uncovering people's insecurities. My experience has been getting criticized, put down, or dropped for a number of things that the critic in question is also doing him or herself. Often they were very blunt with me if I felt insecure, or had done something that threatened them, and usually were outspoken and rude about it. In other words, they could "dish it out but not take it." And to complicate things, I would get this kind of behavior when trying to help them! This happened some years back when a relationship with a valued relative (whom I often wanted to encourage) - and it ended when we had a very bad argument about something that revealed to him that I knew what he was insecure about. It destroyed the relationship. We have somewhat mended fences now, but often that sort of thing never gets resolved. I'm older now, and have worked in the teaching profession long enough to know that we can help any person only so much. And it's not worth losing our self-respect over. It doesn't stop it from being painful, but I do believe we can get over it because I've had several times when I had to.

Hi Wenzes! I wonder if you have or would ever consoder a video that conpares a day in life for an infj who has studied, put in the work, and made big changes - vs a day for an infj who hasn't had the benefit of self knowledge, and years of personal work. I would love to see such a video, and I believe it would help some of us to better grasp some of the minor, day to day differences a more epic life would involve. Also, ty, the videos are helpful on multiple levels!!

It's usually the narcs that ghost me when I become myself with them

I have seen a pattern of friends that I make… never making the effort to keep me in their lives. That even goes for one I am sure is a soulmate friend. I have thought that (being a highly spiritual person of pure heart) it’s because I have a light in me that people are not ready for or… maybe they believe themselves to be unworthy of it. After watching this video, I now think that the reason above is only one of a few. ❤

Wenze’s I’m depleted,drained,exhausted,tired,wiped because of “time,energy,motion,vampirism” of my Entirety.I concur with you.

It's been happening a lot to me lately. I've come to say that "To know me is to loathe me." My main problem is that at this time of importance I share too much that isn't in a standard media created package. We luve in an unusual time of loyalty being more important than truth.

When I show up with all I am, they will say, "You're intimidating..." How disappointing 🙂when we were trying to be so nice.

Oh gosh…”the intensity” thing, I used to LIVE for the one person that could go to for intensity, and I ended up in a trauma bond. It was soooo agonizing to have my outlet for that tied to one single person-or a person at all. Slowly I’m making steps to just live out that intensity on my own in the way I wrote novels or what have you, and it’s a 1000x more fulfilling. 👌

I have had several jobs where the owner absolutely loved me in the beginning. But then at some point, they start tearing me down & try breaking my spirit. One employer gave it away one day, I forgot to turn off a display lamp one night, the next day the owner was so proud to show me that I forgot to turn it off & told me I could’ve burned down the entire building. It was a night light lamp with a less then 25wattage bulb. She was so happy that I forgot & proclaimed that I wasn’t perfect after all! I told her I never claimed to be perfect, I just tried to be the best I could be at every job. It went downhill after that. She enjoyed verbally bashing me about everything & anything, all of it was petty. It ended the way it almost always did with bosses like that, with me grabbing my tools & bag, then walking out. After that, I would make a point in interviews that I have flaws & im not perfect, but I try my best to do my job as perfect as I can since I’m being paid to work.

Wow! This describes my dating life almost exactly! I actually got a bit teary eyed because this actually answered a lot of things for me. I’m 51 years old and have tested as INFJ-A several times since my 20s.

Re: narcissists. I didn't realize by trying to improve their opinions of themselves (or even stating what I did admire about them) that it translated into reducing their opinion of me. I didn't consciously minimize myself, for the most part. I now realize they simply can't grasp 'equals'. (Makes me wonder how they passed basic math.) Mystery for the ages...

Hi people... ENTP here and I was intrigued by this because I never ghost INFJs but I can see what she's talking about and how other people would react that way. Take her advice because INFJs are amazing and deserve better so yeah do that. Listen to her and be awesome. Good luck people.

but not dimming my light (assuming i have any) makes me see myself as a narcissist. You know the natural tendency of people to boast, I typically just listen and be like 'ohh cool', 'Amazing' etc. without feeling the need to say anything about myself because if i do so, i'd see myself as a narcissist.

Do you have any videos on how to survive the workplace as an infj? People always say how others will stop bullying or mistreating you if you don't react and that has not been true at all; in fact it's getting worse even though I continue to be nice and quietly back out of the negative energy while finding other useful things to do to stay busy. If I address anything out loud no matter how politely done I get treated like a crazy person and a weirdo

Im an ENFP male and found an INFJ female. Our connection was so profound that i got very uncomfortable. Since im not a narcissist i told her that i admired her after getting to know her and made up my mind i will always be there for her no matter what! I now absolutely ADORE her and she will always have a very special place in my heart. As an ENFP its hard for me to truly listen to someone but when it comes to her, I LOVE listening to her. Best wishes to all INFJs. Youre all a God sent. That includes you wenzes, youre awesome

Number 2- is me with all my colleagues wherever i have worked..moulding myself to fit in the company and group ...to belong! 😵‍💫🙈🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Holy toledo I think you just saved my life. These past few weeks have been *TOUGH* and I just felt like a broken toy. You started listing things I specifically wanted to address or "fix". 🤦

Yes. It’s happened with my father, boyfriend and friends. I either anger them because I don't something they want or they've moved into another stage in their lives and don't have the time for even a phone call 1x a year...

Showing who i am for real is scary because so little people like who i truly am and how intense we can be

I had a lot of things to say but in essence: it's nice to know that I'm not alone having this lifepath experience. It would be so wonderful to have someone similar in immediate environment. This was a brilliant summary, keep on shining!

I had so many situations as being disconnected from someone, I learned to let them go ..I am now happy, because I don’t get involved anymore. I, now, protect myself first!

yeah wtf this keeps happening to me lmao

ESFPs actually are pretty good friends to INFJs. They are surprisingly pretty accepting of both our good and bad, and they don't really judge from what I found. ESFJs are great but they have 400% the energy and if you take a day off from them, their feelings get so hurt and they get hateful. It is hard to find someone, lol anyone who you actually like. I think ENFJs would be nice, ideally but also only maybe, and ENTJs seem to like us and are tough which is nice. Anyone with weak Fi is a no go. Fe is the best combo if they are strong. ISTPs can put up with a lot but we don't really connect in the end. Personality type matching is a real thing, a very real thing.

I’m not an infj.. infp (I know ; totally different stack of cognitive functions) , but this resonates . Thank you, Wenzes ❤

Yeah, i knew "intensity" will be definitely key reason here even before watching 🙂

Trust your heart, when in the moment, and you will be just fine.

People have the attention span of a labrador puppy and the loyalty of Benedict Arnold & Judas’ lovechild

I am so relieved to have this info because this has happened to me (being love bombed then ghosted) so many times, and I have bent my brain into a pretzel to answer the question why does this always happen to me? This makes so much sense! And like a true INFJ/P I need to make sense of the world. I am literally crying for relief to have these answers, because I have been thinking I must be crazy and not seeing it (and doesn't every crazy person insist they're not crazy?). Besides my INFJ genes, I had an interesting childhood situation which exacerbated my relationship problems. I was deaf from the ages of 3-6 y.o. I am lucky it wasn't in the language development years, but it was during the social development years. So, I failed to learn societal expectations, and to find out how to fit into the world. Luckily, I also failed to absorb most of my alcoholic family system rules. I have spent all my life trying to figure out the rules, and trying to live by them, and hating to live that way, then trying to be authentic. I am a hermit now, for the most part. I've never been more satisfied with my life.

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I watched this till the end, tried to figured out if there was my case in here. Yes, I ghosted 2 INFJs because one same reason mentioned at the end of the video. They don't respect my boundaries at all, didn't care about my mental health or the pace I'm okay with. As an Empath and an INFP, I can sense their insecurities as well but I respect them to be. I supported them but I knew my limits, and it's not my business to messed with. But they seemed to don't understand this at all and all while kept pushing me?? So I "slamed doors", protect myself. I loved they intensity and passion... somewhere else, not in my business.

as a co dependent infj i had to go no contact with my family. a friend who i thought was close to me just banned me. now i know why. ya nailed it for me. i just found this channel as i am just finding myself

I didn't realize that I am a very intense person. I pull back so to make others feel good about themselves. I have been rejected also,now I can understand why. I can really read other people,but I won't tell them, because I know they will back off. But that's their loss,I am really caring, sincere,& insightful.

I stay away from people as much as possible … It drains my energy.

I think half the battle is that infjs do their upmost to be honest with themselves and it’s too much for others that can’t deal with the raw truth, especially narcissists; they only want to see themselves as perfect but if you confront them with how they’re being unfair they will condemn you for it. Ultimately though the right people will appreciate it even if what we may say about them is painful because we will still be there to help them through it to the end if they’re open to you.

I could easily write an entire essay on each point.....suffice to say, been there, done that. Been on a new attitude and life contruc since 2020, love the light of me, if you can't handle it, no worries, you weren't meant too. Top shelf quality only, thank you.

Learning.. growing… your videos Make My Day. Thank you 😊

Thank you thank you thank you 🙏. I just going through this right now. I will never dimm my light ever again! 😢

OMG ... this topic is really what I'd been through in my life. Thanks God now I am alone, can arrange & carry on my life into the best version of myself 😊❤

Definitely felt this, too many times. It’s so heartbreaking. I feel so alone.

Just show me the way out of being an infj. Every video I watch from you it's like how much infj is aware of the things around and we should accept and show who we are then right people would come to our lives . But miss with this condition only one percent of people includes us in their friendship zone. How much should I bare loneliness and stay outcast? It feels like it doesn't matter how much I try or work hard on it . Being an infj never works ...

It’s scary how right you are about everything. If I watched this video when I started dating I wouldn’t have understood a thing. Now after 8 months, you are absolutely right

This is exactly the reason I go on hermit mode almost 6 out of 7 days a week. 🐚

This is so good. well said

This was so good!! Thank you for sharing!! 🫶🏾

Oh yeah, everybody crishes on me at first, then they creep away backwards, as if they finally see the lioness.😊

Helpful video!

That's so eye-opening! 😮

This describes me perfectly! Thanks a lot!

Wow! This is me. Thanks so much for the video

Beautifully worded. With every video I learn something from you😊

SO incredibly helpful! Thank you.❤

Profoundly juicy! I needed to hear this! Many thanks!

Wenzes is the GOAT in these INFJ streets 😩❤️

Very impactful video, thank you for this.

Man, that's some real sh.. there! I've been thinking about this for quite a while. And don't forget, people will imitate you. You put this in perfect words. Namaste

EXCELLENT! Precise! Thank you!