For me it's many things, like spending my free time in bed not sleeping. Or not wanting to spend time with anyone.

I am an obsessive appeaser to my detriment

Drinking , Although I've given up drinking long ago. I remember I would lean on more drinking and partying when those things would happen.

If I don't get myself out of it it's gets worst. Just overthinking and very negative outlook.

All five are about controlling your ability to internalize negative feelings and emotions about your self. If you do this all of the mention will appear. Ask yourself few key questions: why you are looking at other people as an escape from reality, why you do excessive people pleasing - well, isn't it obvious that there's some kind of a negative persuasion about your own self that is making you do that, that is making you feel that your value is compromised and because of that you should looking for some kind of escape for example by putting other people before you. You cannot be valued as equal if you constantly putting yourself down.

Same here. Its just that we let that happen.

I could not agree with you more!@@hocksim

And dont forget the married women accusing you of trying to get in thier pants because you are nice to them.

Same, I'm forced to look for a new job because I quit my last one for these very reasons and I'm worried I won't find anything because I can't deal with the same BS anymore. And I have zero ideas for what else to do jobwise.

Same here. I'm now 41 and loved old music since my teens, especially the ones from the 20s, 30s, and 40s.

yeah... we get to check the 'relationship' box without having to spend real relationship energy. just my opinion 🤷🏼‍♀️

@@DivinitySaid how to get over this D:

Yes please.

I am sorry you lost your love. ☹I lost my partner months ago and learning to take life one day at a time. Small wins is a improvement. His passing forced me to learn to live in the present moment and to choose happiness. It is not easy but for the first time in my life, I no longer want to be stuck. This is a very rock bottom situation and there is no other way but up.

I try not to be bitter but it is something that surfaces from time to time.

You are fine. Those just aren't your people 🫂 Keep looking. I am 42 and only recently found mine 💜 Not all INFJ's are created equal 🥰💗

They may not be real INFJs, this is a trend going on, and some people taking the MBTI on a certain mood end up INFJs by default, their stats are way too balanced and they don"t even recognize themselves in most of the description. I have a friend, who is clearly an INTP, but really balanced, that ended up INFJ a couple times... I found out about 2 years ago about the test, and though I was skeptical at first, it was like reading a book describing me. I always knew something was different about me, learned to kind of accept it with time without knowing what it was. I have a very high IQ/EQ but it always seemed to get me in trouble, saying stuff people didn"t want to hear. I have since taken the advice of many INFJ channels/books/articles and started the personal growth, and I have to say that though I still feel different, and probably never will have the relationships that everyone has, I have accepted what is good for me, what I want, and advancing towards this goal. And most of all, I don't really recognize myself anymore in those 5 unhealthy traits that Wenzes described. The only thing I never managed to change, is my sensory process disorder (when someone says something very hurtful, or very kind to me, or when I say something meaningful to someone, I may end up crying), and for a man, it is very akward. But truth is, I don't really care anymore ;) Good luck on your journey ! Get well in your body as well as your spirit.

I'd very much like to know what really is the difference between INFJ and ADD or INFJ and AuDHD? I don't give a shit about labels, but out of curiosity I'd like to know what I am so that I could understand myself better. I'm not making any claims here, but what if infj = intelligence+autism+add/adhd? At least youtube algorithm seems to think so 😂 When I found these infj videos on youtube, that was the first time in my life that I could put myself in a box. I have always known that somehow I'm slightly weird or different, but otherwise I had only thought I might have add. Those mbti and cognitive functions tests give me a different result every time, maybe I should've done those when I was younger. Finally I ended up with intj/infj, and it seems to be more infj. But when I had watched these videos a couple of years youtube started to suggest me autism videos all the time. For a long time I was like "wtf, I'm not interested and there's no way I could be autistic" until I watched the first one which was about audhd... and then I was even more like "wtf?" So now I'm very confused. On the one hand I don't care, but on the other... I'm always a bit obsessed when I don't have all the answers. 😅 And what comes to this video's topic, I have or have had all of these five issues 🙄

@klpuhelin2816 I was actually researching autism when I came across MBTI which was only a couple weeks ago. I figured I was on the spectrum till I took the personality test. I do know I'm neurodivergent and adhd Now I'm wondering how Autistic ppl test on MBTI. I feel like we're all a lil bit/a lot of all of it. An autistic super power is patterns

@@GreenWizardPTR I feel like a lot might be INFP. I don't do whoa is me - I'm actually really positive

if preferring intelligent company is conceited, then yeah... lol jk 😂 It's hard to feel/care about other people's feelings all the time, especially when they don't care themselves. Alone is easier.

I used to limit my alone time because of this thought, but as I'm learning to heal and be more of a hermit, which I prefer, I realized this isn't the case and not our fault if people are offended because they don't understand.