5 Steps on How To End A Wedding Ceremony As A Wedding Officiant (with a Grand Finale!)

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Unboring!Wedding - Mark Allan Groleau

Күн бұрын

Are you a wedding officiant wondering how to end a wedding ceremony?
The very best ending to a wedding ceremony is a grand finale. Everyone is on their feet. The officiant presents the couple. The music starts. The couple head up the aisle to a symphony of overjoyed laughter and raucous cheers from their guests!
But that... is not just going to happen on its own! There’s a perfect formula for lining up the moving parts. The officiant needs to order things in a specific way to make the grand finale happen.
And if you don’t make it happen? Well, it’s gonna be… awkward. And I’ve seen it in way too many scripts from inexperienced and first-time officiants.
See, a lot of officiants (and couples!) think the ceremony ends when the couple kiss.
That looks good on paper, but it won’t give your couple the big finish! And you only realize that when you really stop and think through the details.
Like: okay, when they kiss and the guests applaud, what happens next? The couple are going to eventually stop kissing (“um… they are, aren’t they?”), and the guests will eventually stop clapping. And if the officiant has stepped away as they should, then there’s this… lull.
You may even hear a cricket or two.
Then the best-case scenario is that the DJ or musician starts the recessional song. But as the song kicks on, then the couple has to turn and head up the aisle. But - wait! If there’s a bride, they need to grab their bouquet from someone. And then… do the guests just start spontaneously start clapping again? Probably not. It’ll be a staggered smattering at best. Some nervous laughter. And lots of cringey pauses.
In short: a less-than-best ending.
When it’s done this way, there’s way too much left to chance and assumption.
As wedding officiants, we need to claim our directive role for the very best outcomes.
So here’s how to end the wedding ceremony with a rousing grand finale. The Grand Finale Formula will finish it with a bang and leave everyone with huge smiles on their faces heading into cocktail hour.
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@unboringwedding 2 жыл бұрын

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@9ZERO6 2 жыл бұрын

Listen to this man folks, trust me.

@johnpayer6774 2 жыл бұрын

Mark - I cannot thank you enough. Two years ago friends asked me to marry them and I said I would. I was very excited but also clueless and nervous. I found your channel and have learned so much from you. The ceremony for my friends went great and they were extremely happy with the job I did. Since then I’ve performed two more ceremonies and have my fourth scheduled for later in the spring. I’ve learned so much from you and continue to learn. Thank you for making these videos and helping people like me.

@charlesalva-do2ew Жыл бұрын

I just did my first Wedding this weekend and I used the grand finale and it was an absolute success. My niece asked if I would marry her and her fiancé and I have to say it was an absolute honor. I’m the type of person who researches everything and prepares and plans. I have to say when I came across your videos I immediately subscribed to your channel and dug in. I opened up the ceremony and got the attendees involved and excited and then ended with a bang. If anyone is thinking about doing this full time or even just once, Mark has you covered. I can’t thank you enough for the valuable information you so kindly shared on your channel.

@AmySWallace 2 жыл бұрын

What a great video! The ending is suspiciously awkward at times. This makes so much sense and I'm excited to implement it.

@stephjefferson437 Жыл бұрын

Had a disagreement with the planner and the coordinator at rehearsal this morning about the Grand Finale formula. They did not want it done that way....in the end, I got my way. I gave the pep talk to the wedding party, warmed the audience up before the ceremony and big finish with the Finale. Other than forgetting to tell the guests that they could be seated after the bride walked the isle (which i played off with a joke), it went amazing! Everyone loved it and thought I was a professional. After the ceremony, The Bride and Groom told their mom that they were both very nervous but I calmed them right down. Thank you so much for the videos and advice. This was a huge, very formal event and I was able to pull it off because of you!

@Mikeandcris91 Жыл бұрын

To anyone doing a wedding (especially for the first time). I can tell you that I watched and re-watched every video on the Unboring!Wedding channel and it resulted in a FANTASTIC wedding ceremony. (I could be modest and say it "went well" but everyone from the bride and groom to the parents to the 150 guests repeatedly told me how great the ceremony was.....and I owe the success all to Unboring!Wedding. I've now been asked to do a second one late Summer in North Carolina and have toyed with the idea of making this a second gig in my home area of Colorado Springs. My humble advice is watch these videos!!!!! Thank you Mark for helping me.

@r.b.3313 2 ай бұрын

I was just asked to officiate my nephew's destination wedding in the Dominican Republic in 5 wks. I'm a comfortable speaker but was lost as to the process. Can't tell you how helpful this is - went from "lost" to being pumped for the event during the ~13 min of this video. Big, big thanks.

@unboringwedding 2 ай бұрын

I love to hear it! You *should* be pumped! Officiating well is an incredible experience. All the best and thanks for letting me know!

@chadbaxter5578 2 жыл бұрын

Doing my 2nd wedding this July. Was honored to be asked. Only got ordained to help a buddy and now am able to help another. Thanks for the tips. Been a few years. Been binge watching LOL

@Paynefamily4465 Жыл бұрын

Love your videos. Would love a short video on just transitions from part to part.

@janedawsoncelebrant Жыл бұрын

Mark, you are just awesome and I really appreciate your enthusiasm and all the advice and guidance you give, so freakin glad I found your courses a few years ago :)

@albertmpundu2418 Жыл бұрын

That's wonderful!

@ednaalencar6205 2 жыл бұрын

Most excellent!

@Ericmurphycomic 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Mark! I want to thank you sooo much! My story is similar to John Payer's story, so I'll spare you the repeat words, lol. But this past Wednesday 4/13/22 was my first time officiating a wedding, which happen to be my friends wedding and it went really good thanks to your youtube channel! Appreciate you man!!

@markieffmorris9263 8 ай бұрын

Your videos have been profoundly helpful to me in my prep for my first go at this. Thanks for being awesome

@Iloverugby Жыл бұрын

You are an excellent coach! Thank you

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for saying so, Michael - I appreciate it!

@judahroyal9879 2 жыл бұрын

Fantastic and applicable steps for a smooth and energetic ending, thank you so much!!

@unboringwedding 2 жыл бұрын

Works every time! Thanks, Judah! 🎉

@Mikeandcris91 Жыл бұрын

Was asked today to officiate, and your video has been a big help. Subscribed

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

Hey thanks a lot for taking a sec to let me know! Congrats on being asked - and all the best to you. 👊🏻

@Divinii 2 жыл бұрын

*Happy birthday!* 🥳🥳🥳

@unboringwedding 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! 🙏🏻

@therookiefisherman5234 11 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@unboringwedding 11 ай бұрын

Thanks to you! Glad to help!

@JaredCulture Жыл бұрын

I’d love to see a vid on officiating a vow renewal

@zanettagraham6340 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for all the great information! I wanted to know if you could please give some clarification as far as paperwork what and how paperwork should be filled out.

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

Hi Zanetta! Congrats on your very first wedding and thanks for your question. As someone who myself lives in Canada and helps people who officiate all over the world, I’m not familiar with specific laws everywhere, as I’m sure you can imagine. That said, I find Universal Life Church’s website incredibly helpful for a state by state overview, and so here’s a link that offers pretty straightforward language to marriage laws for officiants in Minnesota: www.themonastery.org/marriage-laws/minnesota.

@johnrainsman6650 Жыл бұрын

I saw this happen in the hall near my brother's wedding reception. A female manager was upset with a caterer, who had signed up for a one-person shift. She said she didn't think he could manage the service alone. She was sternly all, "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen. You need someone there to give you instructions and guide you." And then the caterer said, "You know, I'm beginning to see why you work so many wedding receptions." What does his comeback mean? Whats the implied reason?

@myriamvictoria5897 Жыл бұрын

I will be officiating my first wedding in Central Park. Do I need a microphone?

@unboringwedding Жыл бұрын

Hey there! Anything over 50 people and outdoors with ambient noise needs a microphone.

@jeffreycraig318 2 жыл бұрын

??????? ?

@unboringwedding 2 жыл бұрын

‘You okay? 🤣

@nataliebrook5930 2 ай бұрын

You had to ruin it all by saying husband and husband. So unnatural and evil . Thumbs down is an understatement

@unboringwedding 2 ай бұрын

As someone who has gay friends and always seeks to be a better ally, I wear your "thumbs down" with pride. As someone who wants to see the world rid of discrimination and prejudice, my heart breaks and I hope you change your perspective on what is unnatural and evil as you live out your journey.