Mothers always winning custody is a myth. Fathers can actually win the custody battle in court with this evidence and by following these steps.
Chapters:
00:00 - How to Win Custody
00:37 - You’re actively involved in your child’s life.
01:32 - You provide a safe, stable, and supportive environment.
05:01 - You’re an effective co-parent and communicator
06:24 - You seek ways to improve your parenting skills
07:48 - You’re well-represented and prepared for Trial
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You’ve probably heard that Fathers can ONLY win custody of the kids if the Mother is absent or a drug addict, right? WRONG! I’m sick and tired of Fathers giving up on custody because they just presume that Mothers are always going to win.
Here’s the ONE question that the Courts care about when it comes to awarding custody: What is in the best interest of your child?
Contrary to popular belief, winning the custody battle doesn’t require slinging mud at your child’s mother. Remember, snuffing out her candle doesn’t make your candle burn any brighter.
Let me explain how you can prove that YOU are in fact the parent who should get custody because it is in the best interest of your child.
You’re actively involved in your child’s life
“It is much easier to become a father than to be one.”
If you want to win the custody battle, you’re going to have to prove that you’re actively involved in your child’s life.
One thing that attorneys LOVE to do when Fathers are seeking custody is to interrogate you on the stand with rapid-fire questions about all of the teachers, doctors, and counselors in your child’s life.
“Who is your child’s Dentist?”
“Who is your child’s homeroom teacher?”
“How about Primary Care Provider?”
“Who is your child’s best friend?”
“Who is your child’s bully?”
For Fathers who are heavily involved in their child’s day-to-day care, they ace this pop-quiz and leave the attorney looking like a jerk. However, this round of questioning becomes excruciating, and the silence becomes deafening, for Fathers who are seeking custody but can’t answer these simple questions.
Not only do you need to know who these professionals are in your child’s life, but you should also be prepared to answer questions about the last time that you spoke to each of them as well as the topics discussed.
You provide a safe, stable, and supportive environment
“Every father should remember one day his [child] will follow his example, not his advice.”
In your custody battle, demonstrating your ability to provide a safe, stable, and supportive environment is crucial in Court. This involves showcasing not just the physical safety of your home, but also the emotional and developmental support essential for your child's well-being.
Physical Safety and Stability: Start by ensuring your living space is conducive to your child's needs. This means a clean, well-maintained home in a safe neighborhood. Your child should have adequate personal space, such as their own bedroom, to provide comfort and security. It's also important to have safety measures in place, like working smoke detectors, secure locks, and childproofing if necessary, to prevent accidents.
Document the physical safety and stability of your home with pictures of all of these items in your home, your living spaces, and your child’s bedroom.
Emotional Support: A supportive environment goes beyond physical safety; it encompasses emotional and psychological well-being. As a father, you should foster open communication, allowing your child to express their feelings and concerns freely. Be an active listener and validate your child’s emotions by offering reassurance and guidance. Consistent routines and discipline, balanced with love and understanding, contribute to a sense of security and belonging.
Document your emotionally supportive environment by saving the chore schedule your child keeps. Also, keep a journal of the conversations that you have with your child where you discuss fears and provide your fatherly advice.
Educational and Developmental Support: Engage in your child's education by participating in school activities, monitoring their academic progress, and providing a quiet, designated space for homework and study. Encourage extracurricular activities that align with their interests, fostering social skills and personal development.
Document your educational and developmental support by showing the emails between you and your child’s teacher, pictures of you and your child at extracurricular activities, and ask the other parents of your child’s friends if they would testify about your involvement.
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