5 Ways to Stop Negative Thoughts

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5 Ways to Stop Negative Thoughts

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Julia Kristina Counselling

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@caseysmith5054 3 жыл бұрын

Hopefully I got this correct: 1. Notice negative thoughts. If it isn't helpful, let it go. 2. Stop fighting to make yourself miserable. Decide what those thoughts mean to you. 3. Find evidence to support positive thoughts instead of negative ones. 4. Use the stop method when you notice yourself thinking negative thoughts. Think, "Stop, I'm not going there." 5. Learn to manage your mind and be in control by building self-trust. ( Thank you Julia this is my new favorite KZfaq channel!)

@chantellewilson9497 3 жыл бұрын

This channel has been my survival guide

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you're here Chantelle.

@chantellewilson9497 3 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah thank you ☺️

@johnromeo5145 3 жыл бұрын

Mine too!

@shyaaammeneen63 3 жыл бұрын

@@johnromeo5145 Practical steps are needed to reprogramme the subconscious mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep are also very effective to reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@Patricia.Pangan8 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for being my free virtual psychiatrist

@murrayhyslop6545 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for delivering your messages the way you do, it’s like your reading my mind, which tell me I’m clearly not alone.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

I'm not a psychiatrist, but I appreciate the sentiment ;-)

@shyaaammeneen63 3 жыл бұрын

@@murrayhyslop6545 Practical steps are needed to reprogramme the subconscious mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Listening to " 528hz positive affirmations for health and healing" for 5-10 minutes before sleep will also reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@gurudra 3 жыл бұрын

The mind is a loyal servant but also the most dangerous master🙏

@MissDoreen 3 жыл бұрын

Gurudra thanks 😊 I love this☺❤

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Yes. It's our conscious self's job to be guiding and directing it to all it can be.

@shyaaammeneen63 3 жыл бұрын

@@MissDoreen Practical steps are needed to reprogramme the subconscious mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Listening to " 528hz positive affirmations for health and healing" for 5-10 minutes before sleep will also reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@paulapirpignani4802 3 жыл бұрын

Bingo🎯...Im here to learn. The Older I get, the harder life is to navigate.ps I already am blurting out STOP! Had to smile when you mentioned that 🦋

@stayconsistent 3 жыл бұрын

This is a skill set especially after constant, intrusive thoughts after trauma

@chrishorbatt3504 3 жыл бұрын

What sticks with me the most is you can fight for good thoughts, don't try to support negative thought with evidence, look for evidence to support positive thoughts. It's crazy but I've been afraid to thing good things about myself, like I would look foolish for thinking anything positive about myself.

@ashlee7831 3 жыл бұрын

Same! I think this must be quite common in people who have poor self esteem. But really the only thing between people who hate themselves and people who love themselves is choice.

@pegc9889 3 жыл бұрын

This video has helped me make a decision, instead of blaming myself for one of my friends not calling me for the past 2 years, I'm going to drop her a note and finally ask her why.... Thank you Julia.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Good idea! Curiosity is often a better strategy than making assumptions.

@SweetestOlePea 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I needed this today. I will tell myself stop. Especially stop trying to build evidence to support unhelpful thoughts.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! YOU get to decide which thoughts you're wiling to fight for.

@fatimasamira3695 3 жыл бұрын

I like that you suggest talking to our brains like they are people, giving them suggestions, instructions regarding how they can serve us better.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! We are the director of our minds and they need direction so they don't run around and make a mess of things ;-)

@fatbottombiker3038 3 жыл бұрын

Julia you are truly a Godsend. Even though I go to therapy twice a month, I still don’t think that is enough. I tune into you almost every morning before work. Your words speak and resonate with me. This particular message is all about me. You are a blessing to me. Thank you for all of us that think you are amazing!! May your life be blessed!

@shaunig6716 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! It’s nice to know that other people have the same kind of brain as me. I thought I can’t tell anyone that sometimes my brain acts like a giant bully, just fighting to make me feel as bad a possible! From now on I’m going to say “No brain, I’m in charge and I’m not going there!”

@TakeBackYourMind997 3 жыл бұрын

One of the easiest first steps to crushing negative thoughts is to start asking yourself "does this thought serve me?" Even if you're worrying about something that's very real and actually happening, do those worrying thoughts serve you? If they don't, then they're pointless.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

absolutely.

@ezekielunknown7287 3 жыл бұрын

@ Waking Up To Life i learned from jedi's, from watching star wars; be mindful of your thoughts anakin, they betray you ~ obi wan kenobi

@TakeBackYourMind997 3 жыл бұрын

@@ezekielunknown7287 Love that 😅 it's true!

@GB-pw9it 3 жыл бұрын

What if the thoughts are true ?

@TakeBackYourMind997 3 жыл бұрын

@@GB-pw9it If the thoughts are real life worries then I would set some time aside to figure out what I can do about them, even if that's just change my mindset, and once you've made the best plan you can, worrying thoughts are useless. So yeah strategise for sure but that can be done without worry, and especially at the point you've made the best plan you can to deal with that worry, any overthinking serves no purpose. It can feel wrong to let go of the worries but when they don't serve you at all, letting them go is all you can do.

@admirbarucija2018 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been struggling with this a bit more than usual lately, but being able to recognize negative thoughts when they come in and trying to challenge them really does help! Hope you’re having an awesome week so far ☺️

@wilfreddsouza3574 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for these videos which l find very helpful in dealing with negative thoughts

@emilyve 3 жыл бұрын

love your channel so much !!! thank you for everything

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for being here Emily - I appreciate you.

@emilyve 3 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah ❤️❤️

@reagalbeagle1 3 жыл бұрын

I've talked to people lately and told them "there is nothing wrong with you. You should be proud of who you are" when I noticed they were struggling with liking themselves. It's amazing to see the reaction like they are fighting to find something wrong with themselves and a kind word changes that instantly. I use your technique in my brain to remind myself the same. Thank you.

@lindafuhrman3041 3 жыл бұрын

I'm normally very optimistic. In fact, my girlfriends call me Pollyana (the over 50-somethings will know what this means) A friend of 35 years hurt me terribly at Christmas. I cried nearly the entire month of January. She apologized, and acts like nothing happened, but for the past 4 months I feel I have become a cynic towards this friend, anything she says or does. This video is such a gift to me right now, because I feel like 4 months is long enough to carry around this heavy weight. Thank you.

@garycordle5295 3 жыл бұрын

Always try and think positive and stay positive, you must learn to let go of the negative thoughts and people that do not serve you.

@carmenwalker8889 3 жыл бұрын

I'm new to this channel and already feel like I hit gold!

@Mr64chevy 3 жыл бұрын

I found your channel 2 months ago. Your videos have been a life changer. Keep doing what your doing, it’s having a good impact on people’s lives.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you found us here - thanks for watching.

@johnykryll 2 жыл бұрын

So true, it's a constant battle daily. BUT, now I am starting to catch them popping up. Although I can't stop them at the moment I am now beginning to recognise them thanks to these wonderful selfless videos

@zzzpmi 3 жыл бұрын

The most useful and simple tip I got from Julia whenever negative thoughts come into my mind: Bye Felicia. I do not need you now.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

I love that you love that one ;-)

@raiderlove5923 3 жыл бұрын

You have helped me quite a lot lately.

@AlejandroTorres-ho3fy 3 жыл бұрын

✋🛑 Brain, stop, now think 3 positives good things about me. Then More. Started crying..but after a minute felt lighther and better.. thanks

@c004857 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you and good morning.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome, and good day to you.

@timothystone3726 2 жыл бұрын

I guess worthy is a relative defined term, i learned to never judge and to never minimize my own trauma,thank you Julia,love ya.

@GregoryMcCarthy123 3 жыл бұрын

I feel like this channel was personalized for me. Thank you so much for your content it is incredibly helpful. It is soothing to help understand myself and how my brain works, and you give very practical advice

@keithmuller223 3 жыл бұрын

Using historical negatives as ammunition against current intentions and ambitions is never great ...pick out the past positives and achievements and you're sorted!! ... great video

@thenebraskan6977 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the awesome video Julia, you and your channel are priceless.

@Xyz-wy5zf 3 жыл бұрын

I started watching your videos last year around when the pandemic had just started and I want to Thanku so much, because honestly your videos are the only reason I kept going, I had one suggestion if u could please make a video on ways to deal with loneliness? I feel like i have no close friends and that I lost all the good ones I had, and I don’t feel like myself anymore. It would be a great help

@rhondapelletier2141 2 жыл бұрын

Me too! My husband and I were very social. Now we are alone all the time. He is at work and I am home.....

@denisejones1279 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve grown so much with your guidance. Thank you Julia!! I love your vulnerability which validates my own! ❤️❤️👍👍

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Really glad you're here - thanks for your kind words.

@paulconnolly1410 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you I find you very well spoken and easy do you understand

@recoverywithlee2591 2 жыл бұрын

DETECTING PATTERNS is KEY for those of us in transition from past harming patterns. WE need to key into the specific phrases that continue to give us an un-easy gut reaction. TIP: 1. Make an inventory of these statements. 2. Make it mandatory to combat this with WORDS TO YOURSELF that are accurate and kind. 3. Create and recite an affirmation each morning, specific to you, detailing you deserve happiness. BEST PRACTICES and WISHES to us ALL!

@TheRadiantLifeProject 3 жыл бұрын

This is a really helpful video. Thank you so much for sharing these techniques. I am new here, so I am glad I found your channel. I look forward to watching more of your videos.

@craigmerkey8518 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely wonderful! After growing up painfully watching my parents run around validation seeking. Observing that damaging unbalanced internal focus, I understood it was not and is still not about me. I vowed to be my authentic self. Some like it, some don't... ehhh... like Janet Jackson says "what have you done for me lately"

@MissDoreen 3 жыл бұрын

Good morning Julia 🌞Thank you ❤ Since being a member of the Shift Society.I am learning exactly how to stop myself in the middle of a negative. Much appreciation and gratitude 🙏 ☺🤙❤

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Shifter! I love that you're doing this deeper work with me in The Shift Society.

@rick_ehm6752 3 жыл бұрын

Hello from SK. Your channel has a wealth of information. Looking forward to learning all that I can. About a month ago I realized my youth was all about psychological abuse from parents, teachers and caregivers. It is amazing how that sticks with a person and affects them their entire lives. Very grateful I found your channel.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Hey fellow Saskatchewanian (I was born and bred there) - good to have you here and good for you for working to undo what was done.

@rick_ehm6752 3 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah that is pretty cool. There are so many connections to Saskatchewan. It is great to be here. You are very welcoming. Thank you.

@christophergrasso8572 3 жыл бұрын

Hits home, these are my personal triggers....glad I found you on the net !! You can tell you care about helping folks. God Bless you and thank you!

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for being here Christopher.

@shyaaammeneen63 3 жыл бұрын

Christopher, Practical steps are needed to reprogramme the subconscious mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Listening to " 528hz positive affirmations for health and healing" for 5-10 minutes before sleep will also reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@christophergrasso8572 3 жыл бұрын

@@shyaaammeneen63 Thank you.

@shyaaammeneen63 3 жыл бұрын

@@christophergrasso8572 Best wishes. Develop your mental muscles with daily meditation. Be motivated.

@mariepichler2758 3 жыл бұрын

Eckhart Tolle says that to say 'I am thinking would be like saying: 'I am beating my heart.' We can not stop our thoughts but we can examine them. I like the work of Katie Byron. She questions the thoughts.

@Frankrizzo15 3 жыл бұрын

Hello ! This Chanel stops the crap that was holding me back

@NandyzSoulshine 3 жыл бұрын

"Is this thought helpful"...that's so simple & powerful! I have experienced first-hand the self-fulfilling prophecy of negative self-talk and know how debilitating it can be...how it can change the course of our life. Shifting to this way of thinking, taking that step back might not be easy but nothing in life worth having has ever been easy....so, yeah why not!

@ritayancey222 3 жыл бұрын

This is totally the best thing I’ve found on KZfaq. Can’t wait to take some classes.

@change4me 3 жыл бұрын

It’s like you know exactly how I’m feeling right at the moment it’s happening 😭😭

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Really glad this connected with you.

@mamabear5488 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks again Julia💞

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Always. Thanks for being so supportive.

@captaindan1000 3 жыл бұрын

Ya did it again Julia! Kudos!

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Dan! Glad you're here.

@sitanunkiatchaiwat6132 3 жыл бұрын

I have been struggling with some negative thoughts which I don't know where they come from. Thanks a million for such good advice.

@noserialkiller3596 Жыл бұрын

Some good advice. thank you! No Serial Killer.

@Rls1020 3 жыл бұрын

I also find saying "No! No! No!" or "Stop! Stop! Stop!" is fortunately very effective when you find yourself descending into a very unpleasant "rabbit hole"

@darkfantasybrun5381 3 жыл бұрын

Seriously are you dumb that is a bad idea to do that.

@blulamont 3 жыл бұрын

This is a great idea. I remember a counselor giving this info to me. It a helpful tool to stop the negative thoughts. 💛💛💛 She said you can also imagine a big red stop sign.

@darkfantasybrun5381 3 жыл бұрын

@@blulamont i dont know why people are sazing that no non stop or stop non stop is a good helping way, literally sazing tose things out loud can be stressfull for people, i used to do that but it was a bad idea.

@Rls1020 3 жыл бұрын

@@darkfantasybrun5381 No, really, just your comment was dumb.

@shyaaammeneen63 3 жыл бұрын

@@Rls1020 Practical steps are needed to reprogramme the subconscious mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Listening to " 528hz positive affirmations for health and healing" for 5-10 minutes before sleep will also reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

@sweetsuzzy2007 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Julia, from past 2 days, consistently watching your videos, for women like me who don’t have any mentor around, it’s a great place to work on their EQ’s…which can be helpful at their work place as well. If possible pls record your videos with subtitles on so that people of other languages not loose out on every single details. Also if you can prepare some videos for single mothers, how they can leverage their singleness at work instead of making it their weakness. That will be very helpful!

@LOVE_ALL_AROUND 3 жыл бұрын

I can so relate to this one especially when going through a job search the last 7 months. The ups and downs and taking it personal at times when people don't follow up or I don't get the position. I know on one level my thinking is not rational yet I continue doing this. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

@ZikhonaN 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Julia❤😍

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Thanks for being here.

@estherclark820 3 жыл бұрын

Gramma Esther here. About self loathing? I'd say yes, it can be a motivator in the moment. My take is that in the long term, the harm it does to one's sense of adequacy and value exacts too high a price to pay for the motivational gains it provides. Finding better sources for personal motivation can be difficult; for me it's been well worth the quest.

@mansourhassen1555 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your hard work. You are videos are life changing

@aeriellspear7210 3 жыл бұрын

Your videos always come at the right time when I am needing them. All your videos have been a big help. Thank you! Can’t wait to see what’s next

@415folife9 3 жыл бұрын

We love you Julia ❤️

@torchbearer1973 3 жыл бұрын

Good points: Is this thought helpful? - let it go What does this thought mean? - does it mean I need to improve and fight or does it mean I'm a bad person? Look for evidence, real evidence to support the thoughts you are having that are helpful. STOP method- stop the thought. It's not happening.

@SpirituallyNixawake 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant as always. Your videos are really cool inspiring. Keep it up 👍 🌸 💪👌

@JCIK33 Жыл бұрын

Let it be,let it be❤️let it be,yeah,let it be

@marcostagnani5649 3 жыл бұрын

Your speeches are great and clear

@MariaSantos-gm7ps 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@AnHourOfWolves 3 жыл бұрын

Helpful. For me I'm also afraid that if I stop the self loathing I'll stop being driven to improve.... I'm going to start looking for evidence on the positive stuff!

@nubbinthemonkey 3 жыл бұрын

Picturing 'stop' might be sensible. I usually run around yelling, 'LALALALALALALA NOTLISTENING LALALALALAALAAA'

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Lol. This made me giggle. If it works, keep doing it!

@colleenkelly3420 3 жыл бұрын

Need to push the Stop, Eject, button!

@Hushimajosh 3 жыл бұрын

I witnessed domestic violence and an unhealthy family dynamic for most of my childhood. I'm an adult now who successfully put myself through college twice and now have a career that looks promising. Sometimes, I feel like my body is in fight or flight mode, as if something bad is just around the corner. When I arrive at work and park my car, I can feel my heart beating fast and throughout the day it's the same feeling. I'm well liked by my colleagues and the workplace is a friendly environment. Why does this happen to me? And how can I help myself? I'm going to put this video into practice today and see how I am. Thanks!

@rhondapelletier2141 2 жыл бұрын

Deep belly breathing works 100% for this. It is just leftover energy in your body from some other emotional trigger in your past. Don’t fight it just let it come. Just acknowledge it. Like OK I see you yes I feel you and just breathe it out. Deep belly breathing is a biological process that turns off your fight or flight mode that you are feeling. It really works. And you’ll get better at doing it, until you don’t need it anymore.......also, Cold showers or and your warm shower with cold water. You will get used to it and it will feel refreshing and it shuts off that fight or flight response also and you sleep so much better. You get into the shower breathe in through your nose and when you exhale exhale slowly and calmly. You will get better at it takes a little getting used to. Start with 10 seconds than 30 seconds up to 60 seconds. Breathing is by far the best though, meditation. That is itAnxiety you are feeling which is very very closely related to excitement as far as the emotional and biological feelings you are feeling in your body. To help reframe what your brain thinks you could always say oh I’m very excited today to be at work and see all my friends I really enjoy my job and I’m very excited to be here. It sounds silly but your reframing from the doom and gloom around the corner. Good luck!

@sistergrimace1567 3 жыл бұрын

“If you let them win...” Thats an effective framing for the phenomenon because I always thought they were me but youre right- they’re a them.

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

You are not your thoughts - you are the thinker of your thoughts.

@aurinkobay7118 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah that is pretty much how i feel about dating and relationships. "let's open up a bit - lets go out and meet someone" went out met someone - ended up being an a**hole "see i told you so .. same sh*t, why bother"

@markb2175 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for what you do.

@johnromeo5145 3 жыл бұрын

Love this post! It’s something I’ve struggled on and off with for many years, so I have some homework to do! Thank you!

@varun.shenoy10 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Julia, I don't know if you will read my comment...... I just want to let you know that I am so thankful for you and your videos

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and for your support Varun.

@maryarmstrong8113 3 жыл бұрын

That really worked for my negative thinking 🤔 I just told myself this isn't helping and I thought 🙃 about something else

@joanneschultz1968 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely love her and advice. She is spot on and awesome!! Thank you so much !

@Denise-mu1si 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@angeletanyeri102 3 жыл бұрын

So happy I found your little corner! Helpful content! I’m hooked!

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Welcome here- so glad you found us Angele.

@taraelmegreen5527 3 жыл бұрын

Love your perspective and encouragement....I learn so much from u!

@sheilabethsimpson5954 3 жыл бұрын

You are a blessing...

@brianhotaling5849 3 жыл бұрын

Really like “Heart-Centered Humans”

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks! I really like it too. Not sure why it didn't come out of my mouth sooner.

@brianhotaling5849 3 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah Everythjng is a process, right ?

@Joel2432 3 жыл бұрын

Great video, I also try to positively reframe the negative thoughts amongst those techniques you just described.

@rajeev_kumar 2 жыл бұрын

I like your hair style.

@ronforrestjr2493 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah i needed that...... Thx for helping

@medinac7618 3 жыл бұрын

Good morning 😃 Julia 🥰

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

Hey! Glad you're here.

@medinac7618 3 жыл бұрын

@@juliakristinamah I’m glad to be here honey Thank you for your content

@neginshayesteh3543 3 жыл бұрын

Just on time, thank you. Really!

@shusain7233 3 жыл бұрын

Yea mostly those thoughts are based on past experiences.

@emerk35 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent advice 👌thank you so much 🙏

@fannyifebe4274 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Kristina, i cannot thank you enough for all your videos. Everytime it seems like you’re reading my mind. Do you do one on one coaching? Thanks!

@amilton1015 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you from Curitiba/ Brazil

@juliakristinamah 3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome from Vancouver Canada

@RoadRunnergarage8570 3 жыл бұрын

My problem is that I blame myself for past traumas-(molestation,Traumatic Brain Injury,Deaths of people I cared about etc...)...

@jasond626 3 жыл бұрын

The example you use for friends.. I'm having that at the mo. I'll get a text on week days about meeting up etc. But as soon as they one in the pub. No reply to text or call and don't know where they are, bit flaky.. When it comes to evenings and the weekend I don't here from them, then I found from a friend the next day they went out on the night. I've tried to ignore this but it's happened a few times now.. It feels like they are going for the better offerer and not thinking about me.. I challenged them by text about it.yesterday morning as had enough, especially living by myself and liking company. Managed to see the one friend on the evening last night and the other who said they'll text when they know they are coming into town didn't.. And I actually seen her when she came to the pub where I'd met the one friend.. She didn't let me know about, it's like didn't she listen to what I said and then the same day doesn't message.. Makes me feel kinda used especially when I'd stuck by her and the other mate through Lockdown and then I'm forgot on the evenings and weekends especially.. What do i do? I know I'm a good guy and person that cares about others and likes to chat and have fun..

@evanamiart91 3 жыл бұрын

I take it every day BEFORE I do art due to mental illness as I get these negative thoughts when I look at references thinking I can never do it.

@RoadRunnergarage8570 3 жыл бұрын

I take things WAY too personally!!

@shmickful 3 жыл бұрын

Also, I needed this today. Thank you:)

@FilthySoapCore 3 жыл бұрын

I litteraly just did a lot of research on negative thinking cycles a week ago gor my study This is still very interesting wish it came earlier :)

@freshliving4199 3 жыл бұрын

When YOU believe in negative thoughts then YOU leave YOU feeling terrible. What you believe in believes in you. Your nature must change so that your mind can be renewed. This will set you free. You will be in the world but not connected to it whatsoever. Immovable.

@daviddexter8809 3 жыл бұрын

Good advice

@shastasilverchairsg 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Julia! How to get over a missed opportunity? I've been trying to get over a missed opportunity for the past 8 years... it's difficult to even imagine that something that awesome will ever come again, or that it's even possible that something else as awesome as it even exists.