6 habits of people who love themselves :)

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Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction
00:18 - Don't over-explain yourself
02:02 - Self-pleasuring
04:07 - You're normal
06:10 - No is a full sentence
07:21 - Financial security
08:13 - Forgive yourself
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@LanaBlakely 6 ай бұрын

@coolbreeze5683 6 ай бұрын

I heard a security expert say that the word "no" is the end of conversation when a man says it and the beginning of the negotiation when a woman says it. Society has conditioned women to need to come up with explanations for many things.

@LanaBlakely 6 ай бұрын

damn

@coolbreeze5683 6 ай бұрын

@@LanaBlakely yes, it's from Gavin de Becker who wrote a book called "The Gift of Fear" about how women should use their intuition and gut instincts.

@rachelmoore5079 6 ай бұрын

True

@haveyouseengeorgehennen 6 ай бұрын

Women are part of the society, the issue is some people say no when they clearly want to do it but are embarrassed, shy or scared to do it, doesn't necessarily have to be in the dating scene, in general it's important to use the word "No" correctly, we had to go as far as studying body language and facial expressions because of it, I'm sure on the dating side men are creeps than yes only a fucking idiot continues after a no is clearly said, but when it comes to something like, being cold, mad, bored, wanting to leave or being hungry people tend to say no just to not bother anybody.

@FloydRunner2049 3 ай бұрын

@@coolbreeze5683Women have far more neurons allocated to being sentries. The brain traffic is lateral in women’s brains more than men. Men have more synapses going front to back in each brain hemisphere. There is not as much crosstalk between hemispheres, generally. The earlier comment about the micro validations and social cues is far more feminine. Look up the halo effect. Only 1/10 even consider what others are thinking about. Expectations of others isn’t controllable. Consider transactional and the taboo-hypergamy. The unconscious measures of reproductive health. The big thing is getting to know oneself and controlling what is controllable. She says forgive yourself. Learning the lesson and moving on, and forgiving others key to some contentment because life has no bearing on fulfillment. It’s a mindset.

@jodieturnerx 6 ай бұрын

'You can't beat yourself up for having a big heart.' Damn.

@pestebubbonica3969 6 ай бұрын

"what's yours is yours", "what has your name on it it is yours",i love these words,plain and simple. Finally someone who understands me on this topic 😁

@marmasan164 5 ай бұрын

I realized just this moment that I experience and sense motherly energy from you. Losing mother at a young age, I missed out on a lot of sensitive and emotional aspects of life, and no wonder when I found your video for the very first time few years ago, it stuck with me. It feels like you're the feminine soothing-supporting energy that I missed out on as a teenager. I'm 21 now, still gullible, naive and slightly confused but at least my gap of motherly love has been filled in this-video-that-video and that gives me peace, as well as courage to move on to becoming a good man and later on a great man. Thank you for what you do, and how you do!

@lynnsusulynn 6 ай бұрын

Self-pleasuring part is so true that whenever I feel uncomfortable or insomnia for many reasons before I go to sleep I do that and it makes me feel so good every time & fall asleep better.

@ashleigh_777 5 ай бұрын

i struggle with comparing myself with people around me and people i see photos of online. one thing i read that resonated a lot in me was "Don't compare your insides with someone else's outside". i hope this can help someone who is working through this too

@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving 6 ай бұрын

I've sent that unnecessary text message a few times in the past & it basically got my face slapped. I learned from that! Thanks again, Lana for all your wisdom and knowledge!

@omegamegaraven12 6 ай бұрын

As a guy I can relate to these habits. Normally I wouldnt post a comment, but I felt compelled to do so simply because you said that this was a conversation, which made me want to chime in because I like the idea of "having a conversation", which may be due to your videos with Nathaniel Drew. It's just funner and livelier that way, instead of having somebody tell you this is this, and that is that, its more than meets the eye and has many layers in it. After all, one habit may be effective for one person, but for another it may not be the best option. I tend to be very hard on myself, so much so that I dont realize it until I give myself time to ponder and think that I treat others more kindly than I do to myself, so the 6th habit hits me. The 3rd habit also hits me, because I often compare myself to others (I.E Relationships, Career, Life Experiences, and the like); I've gotta remind myself that I'm following my own journey/adventure with its own set of unique set of circumstances. And that is my "normal", not the "normal" that is crafted by mainstream society. Often times these comparisons lead to my own self negative-talk loops, which are hard to get out off. I will stop here in an attempt to not over explain my thoughts, as I tend to make lengthy replies/texts, and also to serve as a buffer for my own privacy as well. I hope this helps whoever happens to stumble upon and read this, may y'all have a lovely night/day.

@rayhana9259 6 ай бұрын

I have this issue of "over-explain myself" maybe it's coming from the fear of staying alone and no one by my side, or the fear Im not enough so i need to explain to make them seeing me enough !

@crisz12 6 ай бұрын

The thing you said about not being able to understand how someone did something because our heart is too big... just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart! I am thinking about how to forgive something about myself and others during the past few days, and this helps a lot to change my perspective! Thank you and keep up the good work! 💜

@destiinv 6 ай бұрын

The ending made me cry. You have a way of comforting and a healing energy God bless you Lana

@SofiaDjouaher Ай бұрын

your voice is so soft, i admire your prestence, thank you for the last advice i really needed it

@JamieAsareZiegler 6 ай бұрын

You’re an invaluable resource for young women but I hope men aren’t switching off just because they don’t belong to the target audience. There’s something in all of these for them, too. Y’know, it just kind of dawned on me that between your various media formats, I have seen you, heard you, seen and heard you, and read your writing, and I find each mode of expression equally as compelling as the others. I think I would be impressed by you in Morse code.

@yahyeet3694 6 ай бұрын

You are incredible at giving compliments. If I ever heard this in person from someone I would swoon.

@JamieAsareZiegler 6 ай бұрын

@@yahyeet3694 Shucks, you made me blush! It’s too bad Lana doesn’t read the comments section.

@love-risa 6 ай бұрын

Wow, what a lovely comment :)

@JamieAsareZiegler 6 ай бұрын

@@love-risa Awwwe, thank you. I guess it's only what I genuinely think. It would be a dream to be able to have conversations with someone that insightful.

@ritchiewong16 6 ай бұрын

Hi Lana 👋, I love that I get to start today with getting more big sister advice from you! 😆 Just like anyone who can relate, I’ve also crossed paths with people who expect me to justify, argue, defend, and explain myself from the decisions I make for myself to the way I live my life. But now, I feel at peace knowing that there are people out there who validate “no” as a full sentence, and that’s all it takes to make yourself clear with your boundaries and what you prioritize in life. Sending you lots of love!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤗

@schokobaum8052 6 ай бұрын

Youre videos are so healing

@Dil.Careem 6 ай бұрын

Just discovered the secrets to self-love in these 6 habits. Incorporating these practices into my daily routine starting now. Thanks for the empowering insights - here's to a journey of self-love and positivity.

@himadribrahma308 6 ай бұрын

Thank you Lana for this. I needed this video to understand a few things that have revealed themselves in ways I couldn't bring myself to understand. You showered me with the clarity and a heartfelt gratitude for that.

@ft.xsammy 6 ай бұрын

The 6 th habit made me rethink most of my broken friendships and how i used to beat myself up for not knowing it earlier, i was punishing myself and isolating and right now it makes sense.Thank you so much for making me understand this.

@Adele-di8id 6 ай бұрын

Every video of yours makes me feel so motivated and brings me back to reality when I overthink :) Thank you❤

@user-ny4yp1jt3j 6 ай бұрын

I needed this today, thank you

@louisa3928 6 күн бұрын

This KZfaq channel is a blessing ✨

@baharsorosh3083 6 ай бұрын

ur voice is so calming and beautiful

@alanbangura7949 3 ай бұрын

I love your videos. You are beautiful with how you explain yourself. Keep it up, this is great content!

@matchachocomint 6 ай бұрын

i needed those last sentences.. thank you so much Lana🤍

@jagritirana7954 6 ай бұрын

i loved the last part of the video to Forgive our own selves ❤ for caring too much , for believing too much for expecting too much.

@AnshitaArora 6 ай бұрын

Thanks lana

@RKAnika 6 ай бұрын

You have a way with your words, something healing and soothing ❤

@aniket_banerjee 6 ай бұрын

Thank you Lana!

@allanwright5231 Ай бұрын

Thankyou Lana you do great videos

@josephhudson7378 6 ай бұрын

Yes. Thank you for this. I admire you. And enjoy your videos. I do enjoy hearing your voice and the way you speak.

@bogdanalisnyak9778 6 ай бұрын

Thank u, sis! You are always in time:)

@bollywoodbaddie 6 ай бұрын

you have such a calm vibe ✿

@waterlillee 6 ай бұрын

Lana ... Please do more Big Sister advice video ... Loving your aesthetics and content!

@marieldearest3315 6 ай бұрын

Thank you, Lana ❤

@patricianocte5012 5 ай бұрын

Just thank u for this.

@user-nu5rb2sl2o 6 ай бұрын

I really like listening to you! You have a very pleasant voice! Thank you!

@tanishigoyal7534 4 күн бұрын

Indeed the big sister advice we need❤️

@raschataklaji1591 6 ай бұрын

I love your videos, they are so calming😍😍😍

@arayahomwan6483 5 ай бұрын

Thx u so much for these beautiful messages 🥹🫶🏻💕

@minnie1725 6 ай бұрын

Lana you are the best. thankyouu for this

@rowandna 6 ай бұрын

No one is perfect. The grass is always greener on the otherside

@ambujkansal7994 6 ай бұрын

Thanks Lana

@annaspeaks373 6 ай бұрын

I love your Harvard level research’s ❤ We are peers but Big sister advice always are worthy for me, thank you to be safe and calm place in this chaotic world ✨

@enxhil9955 6 ай бұрын

My routine, waiting for Lana’s Videos 🫶

@Warriordan44 6 ай бұрын

Hey thanks you so much this meant a lot to me, and it made my day also hope you have a great day as well..

@srijetade 6 ай бұрын

love your new hairstyle! :))

@poojanaiduuu 6 ай бұрын

😘Thankyou for saying " FORGIVE YOURSELF "

@thesetruths1404 6 ай бұрын

You're a sweetheart. 😊 peace and good things to you Lana

@BeatoneHajongvlog 6 ай бұрын

You want to be happy in life ….empty your mind…purify yourself through practice of ancient meditation…people in this world are so strangled with thoughts and emotions that you miss the real reason to find yourself…..get detached emotionally…mentally from worldly pleasure…else keep suffering daily on instalment basis…that’s it.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@nouf6594 6 ай бұрын

love your videos always 💛Thank you Lana💗

@ellenatkinson5106 5 ай бұрын

thank youuu for this

@heymels 6 ай бұрын

"You can't beat yourself up for having a big heart" 😭

@NFSMAN50 6 ай бұрын

Hello Lana, this is a great video!! I'm a man, but this video is helping me learn lots about myself and others!!! Happy Sunday friend!!! These habits are great for everyone!!!

@abeerworld-abby 6 ай бұрын

I cried at the end of the video when Lana said "how I've been so stupid,,,,,," maybe I remembered something, thanks for sharing, your videos are amazing & relaxing

@mrinalinidevi6603 6 ай бұрын

Thanks for these advice as each one made me think and reflect upon. I heard or read this somewhere that good people are not just born good, they try to see good in people. So even though I try most of the time to apply this, I think it's time for me to start saying NO to things that doesn't make me happy or feel good. And that I am not countable for any explanation to anyone. Thank you ❤..

@hoomanAdnan 6 ай бұрын

Got some big advice right from the thumbnail ❤❤

@princessofproductivity 6 ай бұрын

felt myself comparing myself to someone else today. it illuminated some truths which is good but overall did not feel good. double edged sword. balancing self help with a growth/improvement mindset is definetly a sticky one still.

@DTheHAge 6 ай бұрын

To "forgive yourself": the smartest people even did most-likely the most errors. And it's also ok to do errors more than once, because Albert Einstein didn't say that people who do the same mistake again and again are stupid, he said that doing the same, but expecting a different result is crazy. As extension to the last point, it really helped me to accept what I can't change. One of these things is the past. But also other people belong in there. Life will teach you what you can change and what not, just keep your eyes open and don't gaslight yourself (i.e. by thinking "Nah, I could have changed him").

@nishant15612 Ай бұрын

thank you aunty

@shwetakarpe4431 6 ай бұрын

Clicked on this as soon as I received the notification. I am on my self love journey and I needed this. Thank you, Lana❤

@LanaBlakely 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for being here

@waelfaraj6705 6 ай бұрын

Could I ask if you women think about the men you love deeply when you are alone ?

@Vivi_9 6 ай бұрын

@@waelfaraj6705 I mean, duh? A lot of manosphere garbage preaches nonsense like "she can't love you the same way you love her because women are blah blah blah" - don't fall for this crap, and don't use the actions of toxic people of either gender as a way to generalise 50% of the population!

@mattw-cx50 6 ай бұрын

Great advice as usual Lana. One thing I would add is that ladies need to be comfortable being open and honest with men about what pleases them.

@vicky_aluko.a 4 ай бұрын

I love this 🤍

@gayatrinakar5049 6 ай бұрын

Love your videos

@rgnm5368 6 ай бұрын

"I can afford to leave." ❤

@thearyaofbelief 5 ай бұрын

You are real 👑 I wish having a wonderful life with your partner and family ❣️

@jadebilodeau8533 6 ай бұрын

Needed this, and my name is Jade too :) literally felt like a sign

@Yourbookstagirl 6 ай бұрын

This video is the most realistic and relatable shit I have ever seen!

@DT.2024 6 ай бұрын

Oh là là, Lana looks so radiant 😍

@blssrlcn 3 ай бұрын

you're so beautiful ♥️🥺

@CalliAMusic 6 ай бұрын

You are the best role model for women

@maryamrimaar 6 ай бұрын

girl ily

@doctorlovera 6 ай бұрын

The random Tuesday look is so real. And men don't fall in love with a woman they have not seen in a random Tuesday look. It doesn't mean men want to look for those flaws to reject women, quite the opposite. Sometimes we find those peculiarities charming and enjoyable. But we need to see those Random Tuesday looks, we need to see the real woman. If a man is not wanting to see them, he is not interested in anything deeper, if you don't let him see them, maybe he is kind of superficial and he will be disappointed. That is the reason hook-ups don't work, those men are not seeing the real woman, those men don't want the real woman, just the image woman presented for the party. The real woman may be rejected the next day or the next month just because he never got to know her, either for negligence or for occultation.

@Identificador777 3 ай бұрын

i love your videos

@Camsorcamille 6 ай бұрын

Vibro best advice ever girls ❤

@mansoor3159 6 ай бұрын

Thank you lana for this video and I am Mansoor's sister here♥️

@DK-th5nt 6 ай бұрын

She looks totally fine in that "random yuesday" video for me xD

@battlehymnoftheempath3610 5 ай бұрын

I'm probably older than you, but you make a lot of sense to me.

@chuckfong1646 6 ай бұрын

Hi Lana, Are you planning on going back to doing podcasts, I haven’t been able to find updates on the podcast and i was wondering if you have any plans for the foreseeable future?

@user-lp9we2dt3o 4 ай бұрын

This girl ❤❤

@SurjitDhiman-pi8ph Ай бұрын

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@johndutchman 6 ай бұрын

love . love . love

@agasthya9128 6 ай бұрын

Your heart is as beautiful as you are 😇

@mariamrz6018 6 ай бұрын

Ok, havent started to listen yet to the video. I’m sure it’s great like all the rest, but i m confused about the thumbnail. Are you holding your hands like that as if ‘you’re giving the advice?’ Or something else🤣 anyways, I love it hahaha

@germancito2501 6 ай бұрын

awesome

@bigcan7493 6 ай бұрын

What really helped me see my body as normal was realizing that I am an organic creature, an expression of life and nature, and that every aspect of my body tells a story. I am no different from the forest, nor from the galaxy, since, like them, I am constantly changing. I am life and I harbor life too.

@purnatikaentertentsalyan9223 6 ай бұрын

I love you my darling❤

@natemarx4999 6 ай бұрын

Lana over Oprah any day!

@christopherlobo8082 3 ай бұрын

Oprah is political and a money making machine.

@ferdinandpe4528 6 ай бұрын

😞! Wow 😮! Lana Blakely . Follow u.

@lakshmianahata5884 6 ай бұрын

💚

@bolangbo02 6 ай бұрын

I would like to say, you are looking adorable in this video😍 😁.

@synchandu957 6 ай бұрын

💓

@eddymauricioachoyhernandez514 6 ай бұрын

Hello Lana, I would like to speak about the last part, forgive yourself. Here is my story. I had a girlfriend long time ago and we broke. For about 20 years I lost contact with her but five years ago somehow we got in touch on internet and went to Barcelona to visit her. We spoke for almost 2 hours and that was normal except that you may notice you have a questions how she is, how looks now, what is her state. Well, everything quite normal. But a year later she committed suicide. Not related to our meeting but mental health. Is bad to say that about me, but I'm a good one noticing when people are having hard times. But I failed with her. I didn't realise nothing. Yes, I was not my fault but sometimes I feel sad because I couldn't do nothing. You don't want those things to happen around you but it happens. I always say that you are here to learn and for me now I take more time to scan the one in front not because I will act as a hero, but taken more care about the one close to me. It will not take time to help a friend. And life is wonderful, I'm very happy in this world. And yes, I already forgive myself. Thanks Lana for opening this door. You are a good person. Bye!!!

@manivannangurusamy6652 6 ай бұрын

hi blakely, I know another blakely churco!

@samrat747 6 ай бұрын

first saw you at the video exchange I know my heart, and it will never change This tempo would be alright if you'd call me, you'd call me I lie awake at night for you and I pray We cross the deepest oceans Cargo across the sea And if you don't believe me Just put your hands on me And all the constellations Shine down for us to see And if you don't believe me Just put your hands on me The subway radiates with heat We barely met and still I cross the street To your door We cross the deepest oceans Cargo across the sea And if you don't believe me Just put your hands on me And all the constellations Shine down for us to see And if you don't believe me Just put your hands on me Someday when our stories are told They'll tell of a love like this When our descendants are all growing old A thousand years we'll be singing Na, na-na, na-na, na-na-na-na We climb Tibetan mountains Where we can barely breathe I see the Dalai Lama I feel him blessing me And all the constellations Shine down for us to see And if you don't believe me Just put your hands on me na, na, na, na, na, na, na (Hands on me) your hands on me (Hands on me) na, na, na, na, na, na, na (hands on me) I first saw you at the video exchange

@karanbaheti149 4 ай бұрын

Wow

@user-zg8wk7oe8v 5 ай бұрын

❤❤

@leastidyworld4365 2 ай бұрын

In my generation (I’m 34) we don’t talk about self-pleasuring openly as if we had no healthy shame. I think the normalisation of it is unhealthy for society, soon people will be doing nothing else. Sex has already become such a widely spread topic. In the past, it was a private matter and I think that’s beautiful.

@Gasta.v592 4 ай бұрын

Crush❤❤❤😊lana

@imnoemit 6 ай бұрын

I dont think to say only no its right, it sounds so cold and rude. I used to be that kind of person and I used to think that was ok, to considere others its kind! And I think these kind of videos its always or 99.9% about oneself, when we talk about hurt its always about others, and none is a saint, we all have hurt each other and oneself can be the most selfish person but living in denial thanks to all the love yourself trend!.