As you should king 🤴🏿

If only people could learn to just being straight to point

If we being honest, if another guy who she wanted , came up to her and asked her out . the " I'm not looking for a relationship " wouldn't exist at that moment 😂

That’s because you’re not Chad

Yeah, I got that when I was in my early 20s. I moved on quickly and saw her at my job two weeks later and she mentioned her “boyfriend.”

Bro - she'd crawl over broken glass for the guy she does like. the amount of times We've seen women going through all sorts of crazy for the guy they really do like!

Yup. Look at what women spend most of their time talking about and thinking about. Relationships (of all kinds) with men are core to their being. Yes, us guys also expend quite a bit of energy here, but usually also have other stuff going on that's really important to us - career, hobbies, and other interests. And sure, these days women also have some of that, but it tends to be quite secondary. And many have NOTHING else going on. Their primary biological function & imperative is reproduction. Again, men have this too, but also many other things which are NOT secondary, but core to our being. TL;DR Women are ALL ABOUT getting with men. They need that connection more than we do, and will prioritise it over just about anything else.

@@BWater-yq3jx Problem with women these days actually revolves around social media and even texting. They see too much of what others have and tend to have a real bad case of the 'gimme I wants'. Their expectations have been inflated to a point where most men have no chance of ever meeting them. Yes, they do seem driven to find a guy but what they want is unrealistic and impossible for most guys today. And now, many guys are giving up because a person can handle only so many rejections before they just say screw this.

"busy" is just a safe excuse for them just like most single moms use their kids as an excuse. BC if you question it, they can spin it on you a YOU are the one with the problem

I can attest to that. If they refuse to give you any of their free time, they're stringing you along as an option. Get away from her.

@DeeDee-uw7gu That was 24 years ago, but one of us called the next day, just don't remember who.

@@Paducahrus Now the 24-hour rule would be considered a joke by most youngsters. 48 hours would be considered a little too early as well. So many people have fallen for the myth that you cannot under any circumstance be seen to be 'needy', so you must actively ignore someone you really like to ensure you can keep seeing them. This arrangement made no sense to you and your wife 25 years ago. It makes a lot of sense now: women, and to a lesser extent men, are bombarded with attention from all corners of the web, and this attention allows them to seek company and indeed intimacy from any number of others on demand, especially if they've got a lot going for them. The higher up the scale of desirability you go, the worse the effect is. A woman no longer needs to build anything with anyone if she's very attractive: an army of desperate simps plus some more cunning players will keep her occupied for as long as she likes. This leaves men who are interested in real relationships and lasting commitment in an odd place: either you degrade yourself by stooping to the level of others and forming a roster of 'friends with benefits', or you degrade yourself by grovelling. Is it any wonder many are choosing to do neither? I don't blame them and I've been dating continously since 1996, during which time I've had eleven long-term relationships and more flings than you can count on ten pairs of hands. The dating scene is worse now than it's ever been, and that's not because I'm getting on in years. You'd think women of my age (nearing 40) would be less insecure and more measured, but most that are either so career driven they have no time for a partner or carrying some extra baggage in the form of a couple of kids from a past marriage. If I don't find 'the one', one day I will simply give up. The risk versus reward ratio is bad enough as it is.

@@davesmith826 believe me bro, dating lesbians or any women is no joke. It's fucking hard. I totally understand all my straight guy friends.

​@@warrior100girl 😂😂

So true.. ;)

Fact .

They're in debt, old, or ugly😊

@@LilHan-xq3pwif it’s only one of the three it’s still might be a good deal. Or even two of the three if you yourself have a couple issues as well.

​@@LilHan-xq3pwExactly. They're looking for a walking ATM to provide them with the lifestyle they want.

Yeah but that never happens even if you clearly say to them like, look I see our communication is getting low, you are always busy, can we just cut the bs and you tell me that you not interested in me and we move on? All she will say is whaaaat? nooo.. following other bs nonsense.. Girls want attention from as many guys as they can get even from the guys they have no interest in.. Best thing to do is to ditch her and never look back

Yea I don’t understand why they play like they care about our feelings anyway just curve us and keep it moving 😂

It makes things a lot better, than be becoming invested in someone emotionally

I know thats fucking right.

They enjoy the attention

Precisely man, never force this stuff

Nah man, if you're right for each other then waiting is really not a big deal. But it does require adequate communication

@@infernalstan886 yeah you could say so

nope, thesedays 70% of ppl have some sort of trauma which ruins their behavior and healthy thinking, thats why depression, and shortage of psychologists is now at the peak in 100 years. wrong time is very possible because ppl are egoistic and think they dont need to work on themselves, till they mature and find out

@@michaelmich00 good point actually

I hope your hope is gone,now.

​@@user-dy2zy8rd2tBe less pathetic please

But when bIackpiIIers say “actions speak louder than words” we’re told to not look at statistics when it comes to the dafing market, even though jeff bezos once said “data is king”

she was basically lying to you that she only wanted friends. seems like it was a test for you, but who the hell knows with these women?!

I think what's happened is she sensed you stopped taking an interest in her and that's what got you into bed with her because she realised you weren't giving her attention. I also agree with your last sentence. Did you ever ask her about it during your relationship?

I had this happen to me as well. As soon as I started going out in dates with other women I found out she was fb stalking them because she didn't want anyone else to have me, but didn't want to commit. We ended up having a 4 year relationship.

Only sometimes??

A majority of the time women are not genuine with themselves and othernpeople. They need dominant men to guide them to the right way

Spot on bro! Manipulative women pull that crap all the time. An honest woman who is actually your friend will be upfront and she know the relationship may suffer after being honest. She won’t lead you on because your welfare matters to her. Manipulative users give excuses so they can continue to benefit from the friendship regardless of what effect it has on your welfare.

Yessir preach brother lol , woman love to friend zone in attempt to thinkin they still get benifits from us men they don’t wanna necessarily throw away , we get nothing out of it but having to help her when needs it or wants attention but you get no 🐱, so yea your right bro on point I can relate I’ve been in that position.

If she says she wants to be friends, see how often she wants to do stuff with you as friends. Friendship has obligations too, and if she is willing to fulfil those then there is plenty of good to come from that. If not, she'll soon show it and you can walk away knowing that if she can't be a good friend to you she'd never have been a good partner.

@@saxbend facts man, I wish more men would see this and understand

I'm not trying to offend. But if you're only doing things for her because you think it will get you some 🐱, then you're not actually her friend to begin with. If you're being nice to her only because you like her, then you're not actually a nice guy. I know sometimes things are complicated, but if you like a girl then you should let her know that up front. If she's not interested, then move on. If you want to be friends then that's up to you, as long you understand that you're NEVER going to be anything more than that.

That’s crazy!!

Sounds about right

So, to all my brothers out there-if she EVER makes up an excuse, ALWAYS move on. You’ll find someone well worth your time and efforts if you don’t get hung up on some girl that doesn’t see the good in you. 💯

Wow, you dodged a bullet then honestly. Imagine if you were the guy who married her but your fiancé was on dates with other dudes leading up to marriage and telling them elaborate lies.

sounds just like my case =))) it's all BS my friend

Risky move, firing her like that….😂

I just had this realization recently, that I've initiated all interactions. And it's not like I've been a try-hard since we've both been genuinely busy, and it's been chill and fun when we have had opportunities to hangout. But... I don't want it to feel lopsided. So I'm just gonna stay busy and vibe out for a bit. We have upcoming plans to do some activities together with our respective families, so I'm just gonna leave it alone until I feel it out after we've hung out a bit more often. Great video from Courtney, as always.

The final two sentences made me cackle lol

@@ChanoWilliams read 3% man - Corey Wayne. Good read

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Bro, you gotta learn to keep conversations to a minimum and just use the phone for setting dates only. All you guys did was talk and talk and talk, she probably got frustrated that you never asked her out and so she moved on.

happened 2 years ago

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Happened a year ago.

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happened 7 years ago

Lol, it's not hope. It's delusion. The first time throws you off because you don't want to believe she is disrespectful.

@@ghost245353 Well, sometimes Hope and Delusion will overlap in a small stretch. Either way, typically you're right, she'll be disrespectful in a way you just didn't expect, but that shows she ain't the person for you

@@thalmoragent9344 Yes, one may hope for something illusionary all the time. A soulmate, a coincidence, a rich, dying relative (my favorite). ;)

@@DexterHaven I dunno mate...I don't think I would wish for the death of a relative, even if they're rich. What, you don't like your rich relative?

@@thalmoragent9344 I said "illusionary" for a reason, silly. Don't presume.

She wanted to go out to eat for free lmao

You were actually talking for 2 months. Lol. What the hell are you doing. 2 to 3 dates maximum.

You were her foodie call. I dont play with these hoes anymore.

Move on dude and block her on all channels. She is not wearth your time

If you’re talking for 2-3 months that’s plenty of time to see if there’s chemistry. Sad to say but you never had a chance. It sucks bro but it’s the truth and we all deal with it.

its funny bc when i first started talking to my wife, im like ok so what are you looking for on this dating app, she does "well id like to start as friends and see how things go" i said the exxact same thing about how im not looking for friends im looking to date and im looking to meet up with you within the next few days so if you are interested nows the time to ask me all the "get to know you" stuff. To her credit she was like ok im free saturday but i need you to come to me so i did and weve been together since and made 2 kids. THe "just friends" line is just a shit test and if you dont fall for it is like a cheat code to dating

I hope you declined her. Not because of you, but to finnaly give her wake up call

You showed her that you had what it took to attract women. Thus you became a prize.

She doesn't sound very nice. I will say that guy friends are better than girl friends as a female because guy friends are less judgmental n less fake.

@@annabanzon313 and women use men For food if a is on a dating app he’s not looking for a Friend

Yeah, it's like you did your part, it's on them now to move things forward if they are actually interested.

When I was very young I was a management trainee in a huge garden center. And the warehouse manager once said these words: "A happy customer is not necessarily a good customer". I have thought a LOT about that statement, but I actually think it sums it up pretty accurate. A happy customer is the one taking all your time talking and getting all your advices for free, and then goes home "sell" that knowledge for their own profit. Do not let anyone consume your time/life for free. ;)

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Call me a pessimist but I've never held onto the glimmer of hope, the way I see it if she says no you'll never have another chance with her, no matter how she says it, which is also why I'm so scared of rejection, the only thing is that people have tried to give me the glimmer of hope (not the girl, other people) so I don't know how to feel about it

I noticed you started out with "young and Stupid".Being in business smarted you up.That taught you all you need to know about relationships--the RISK factor.

I hoe you said-"Get lost".

Love.

Thank you

thank you good sir

Curious to know what these would mean from a male to a female. I mean the first one is obvious but I've had so much trouble figuring out what guys mean by certain statements too.

@@-glitch-8195 Same. Exact. Thing.

Combined with our street smarts back then, it’d ve been like shooting fish in a barrel. Lot of long hard lessons learned for sure.

Same here 55 y/o.

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Green kinda makes you cold enough to not fall for women nonsense, better yet The way of the Superior Man by David Deida. You live long enough you see a pattern and what to avoid.

@@MightyMonk360 I’m going to read these.

I've heard them all too....Can never figure out why it's so hard for a woman to be honest instead of playing games.

I don’t want to sound desperate but I would take any girl up on being a just a friend!! Ok, the hell with it!! I am DESPERATE!!

Dude, women lie for no reason at all. I heard it described as "lacka-Y". Without the Y chromosome their brains are broken.

If you can fully move on then it wasn't *true* love

@@infernalstan886 bullshit

Not where I live 😂😂😂 home of the newlywed and home of the newly dead

@@infernalstan886 Somethings aren't meant for us then we got to let it go and stay true to the one the deserves and value your love,care, everything etc etc...

O.p: how were you friendzoned? If you were not "with her" then she shouldn't have meant that much 😐. And infernalstan...you don't have to obsess bro. That's not love either.

Same thing happened to me. But the only difference is I seen her post a guy saying she loves how he eats food. And this girl never post a guy. And I know what u mean it hurt me. So I KZfaq these videos to get confirmation because it was still hard to fall back from looking and hitting her up. But I'm done today. I'm gonna delete her number it ain't like she hit me up first anyway

One last thing it took me weeks to prepare to tell her how I felt about her. And she hit me with that same shit

@@TRUTHaintHATING you are better off withouth her in your life. Pain will pass.

@@TheGalahad78 💯

@@TRUTHaintHATING Never say what you feel, it cant help you. Offer her a date, and if she says no, tell her to reach out if she changes her mind.

One could say you were never friends. You were just on the back burner "just in case".

I can’t stand women sometimes

The only way men and women can remain friends is when both people don't have any feelings for each other in the slightest. Otherwise, men and women can't stay friends. Period!

@@Itfeelsmoist Probably the REAL TRUTH

avoid video games, cursing, cursing people, sin. focus on Jesus. Time is short. love people.

Lol it happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Eventually I just moved on.

They try to steal ur energy it’s witchcraft

Some girls just enjoy "harmless" flirting as they like to call it. She's probably already in a relationship. It's probably a bit stale and flirting gives her affirmation that she's still sexy and desirable but she has no intentions of acting in it because she's a serial monogamous.

You right bro, she was not into you, she is only wants your attention, thats why she approach you again in the gym, ignore her and move on, dont waste your time.

pure ATTENTION SEEKING!! just for an ego boost. how dare she use you for attention, as if you are her toy. This is a disgraceful thing that many women try. But i know it is hard...i mean SHE approached you....most of us would think "yeah she likes me..." same thing happened with me...girl approached me, flirted, asked my number...texted me a tonne, but every time i tried to get her alone to get intimate, it was some pathetic excuse... she kept telling me how much she missed me, but would never meet...what a clown... cut all contact with these girls. give them no attention. they do not exist for us.

yup

She's busy getting railed this weekend you can have your turn next weekend!

The new girl that I've tried to ask out reschedule my first suggestion. This is a new one. Time after time other women just said things like "I'm gonna be busy, sorry", "I'll hang out with old friends that are coming to town" and other bullshit lines without offering second options/ ideas... That's when I normally stop trying and the communications dies. No text, no callings, nothing. BUUUUT the new girl didn't stop there, she later said "But It'll be cool if we can do it next saturday. I'm free that day". Ok, if she actually wants to do it, I'll keep contact and go out with her, no prob 😏

Either way move on. At least if she reschedules, shes not lying then but when was she lying before? 🤷

@@jimmusthegrimmace shes lying if she reschedules and doesnt turn up or reschedules again

Exactly

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Just STOP after the words "really wants to be with me." You will soon learn nobody wants to be with you.That will kill it. Right THERE.

@@user-dy2zy8rd2t Haha...then so be it, because when you tally up the true cost most men pay for very little in return....well...put it this way: I'm the only guy my age I know who is truly happy. Hold out for one that's worth it..or be happy not wasting your life with someone who really doesn't care.

Yep. If it’s not “yes”, move on for good.

@@no_regerts5176 or if it's maybe, that is same as no.

My sista always said "maybe" when she rly ment no then I called her out on it lol

when you know what you are missing out on, you are not missing out at all.

"it's no longer me missing out"...lol..funny how some guys like to pretend they were special and its the woman that lost out.

Ya no one is ever that busy where they can’t give u a text back in a day or 2 or set up plans for a day or 2 later. I’m tired of girls giving the excuse they have something else going on, like ur not any more busy then I am and I’m going out of my way to set up plans for a date or the hang out

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@@jacobdevries3567 exactly! A lot of people are practically glued to their cell phone, especially girls so the "I've been too busy" excuse doesn't work on me anymore, If they are really into a guy then she will make time for him and if it's a legit reason why she can't hang out then she will also make an attempt to reschedule promptly.

Yes! O.P. gets it. You should both be equally interested and excited about dating eachother. It's so cringy to see guys not know when to leave a woman alone. Answer: Unless you're in a relationship, it should be instantly after you notice disinterest.

Yeah, if she doesn’t reciprocate, just try to party with her and smash. Meanwhile, keep your options open.

EXACTLY !

I think they call that equality...

@@gy2045 they do, because like feminist equality, they only want the parts that benefit them and everything else is the fault of defective men in their eyes

lmao fax

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I thought it was reciprocated and when I realised it wasn’t was heartbreaking fr.

@nico saccardo yea I'm dealing with that. I'm gonna delete her number. It's gonna be hard but I just gotta realize she was never gonna be my woman

It's amazing I heard all them before. "You're a great guy, but..." Im busy with work." "My best friend just had a baby. I have to cancel, sorry."

Exactly 😂😂😭😭

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if she says that after the first time you ask her out, how about replying "Who said anything about a relationship?"

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I agree with this. She will try and connect with you.

Exactly! Take you out, buy you gift, etc. If she isn't making effort, she doesn't view you as high value.

Oh yes, that's true, if she values you, she'll make clear efforts.

Not always. I have had sex with anti social girls where I had to lead all conversations, but it was clear they still liked me at the time

@@ultraintuitive8774 It happens where the girl withdraws a bit once she has the guy but there still has to be interest level for her to make an effort.

Excellent, well said!

sometimes it means ''I hate to be near others'' I have an aunt who has been single for like 40 years, and also two uncles who opted for celibacy near their 20's one is 51 and the other is 76

Dude! She didn’t clear shit… if you have common sense, you should’ve already been aware of all of this, She was just wasting her time and ours. she didn’t need to remind us of any of this.

I'm not positive that's true, but I do know that I haven't had any friendships with females since I was in my early 20's.

True, pure platonic friendship is RARE, both of u must prefer same sex or be asexual for it to works.

@@Sub5_77 Don't totally agree, but I will say that, in my experience, women WILL NOT be friends with a guy they don't find at least slightly physically attractive, although in some cases it is a guy who's out of their league.

I buy this. That's why I'm not even attempting to make any female friends with any of my female coworkers, and I said I was gonna have a more balanced friend group this time around after leaving my previous one, but I am believing in that idea less and less as time goes on.

Truth

I called a girl out on this once. Because there's no way anyone these days is so busy that they can't spend 30 secs writing a text. Even if you're a neuro surgeon or nasa scientist you can find the time. She got defensive and acted like I was the asshole for calling it out. And it's not just in a dating context, even between friends or other relationship dynamics; the go-to cover for someone not wanting to put in the effort to talk to you at the moment is "sorry, I was busy." And I think it's sad that you're considered more in the wrong for calling it out and breaking the socially accepted "busy" illusion, than for being the jerk who can't have an honest relationship with the people in your life in the first place.

ehh

I can see this happening I told a girl that was playing with me that ok I have enough friends I don't need another one. girl switched up so damn fast!

Not always true. It all depends on how strong your friendship is, how much you respect and really like the other person for what they bring to the friendship. I've been told by both male and female friends that they'd like to be more, said thx but no... and it hasn't changed how I feel about them one bit. If you really are good friends, mature human beings, it's something you both will laugh about, in the future.

@mrms Hi mrms! Actually i do know what it's like for the person who confesses, bc I'm empathic enough to able to put myself in their shoes. Confessing you'd like to be more than friends puts you in a very vulnerable, precarious position. That's why when friends have asked to be more than, and I didn't want to be, I made sure to be as kind as possible in turning their offer down. I let them know I was extremely flattered and assured them that it only strengthened the love I felt for them. Why? Bc that's how you treat friends. With compassion love and understanding. I'm not saying everyone is like me. There are a lot of mixed up, cruel people in this world. I'm just telling you how I roll.

It's not a No in most cases, it's a definite No. If she's not enthusiastic, don't bother.

@@independentthought3390 my mom told my dad she was a lesbian when they first met. Good excuse but it didn't work, they've been together for 25 years. There's always the exception but just don't temper your expectations on the exceptions.

@@independentthought3390 > If she's not enthusiastic, don't bother. You dropped this: 👑

The first one happened to me. But the context made it more shocking I guess. We'd had sex a few times, only a few weeks into seeing each other. She, if anything, was arranging future plans even booking stuff. Then I got line 1 all of a sudden. Then she was back with another guy who had hurt her/binned her off. Clearly I was used for sex and or validation. I would have smashed her anyway, she was fit and a fair bit younger than me. But I'm not going to lie it messed with my head for a while as she never told me straight. Vowed never to be a nice guy or make similar mistakes again.

Urgh Stop being delusional that love is rational and logic! Far too many men think "a crush" is equal to relationship! We immediately project a "a crush" into a goal of relationship! Which is just wrong approach! Love is a matter of a heart NOT of a mind! Experience the emotion, feel it and live for that moment and DO NOT project it immediately into a woman by saying I want you for my "wife"! Then work from that on! Men will soon realize that is far better approach for ANY woman!

Too many weak men on here too desperate for sex that they would lower their standards. Pathetic lmao.

Men who have no options are usually way more delusional than the top 5% of men who do have options

@@XPuntar your idiotic mindset is why women leave relationships the moment things arent all butterflies and rainbows. Love is of the mind, and realizing that is what makes people choose to love others and stay by them like adults. Men are realizing how illogical womens love is so we arent dealing with you anymore. Women have no staying power without a constant stream of butterflies

The big secret is woman want the attention and to be pursued. They know if they like you enough to date or even sleep with. You have to be direct " I find you attractive and want to date you ( if you are bold you can even say I would like to sleep with you). I know maybe to direct but this does turn on some woman not all. Better to find out without being put in the friend zone. Its much cleaner all around. I went on many bad dates enough to know I was just wasting my time.

🥹 I’m so glad! Thanks for the kind comment!

​@@CourtneyRyan why does she say she only sees meas a friend or big brother but when I talk to other girls over her and/or bring other women over to introduce themselves. shes super jealous.

@@rasanchez169 I've got the same problem. She gets defensive if I'm talkin' about a woman I'm interested in besides her

@@ichigokurosaki1505 So? Why do you care? Defensive woman is good..... will make her compete.

@@rasanchez169 women like attention as long as it's not creepy, even if they don't like the guy. They hate competing for attention. It's not good to let her know that you like her before really knowing that she feels the same about you first. Play your cards close to your chest dude. I would continue having female friends. Have lots of them. Hopefully you'll find a woman that's interested in you without the games. If this "jealous" woman really likes you, it's likely that you would have already known by now. This is from an older guy's point of view.

Men often try too hard to convince themselves. Let it (her) go!

@@davidsalo8397 yea I'm at that conclusion after a year

I think my friend Jamie is ghosting me because she's not returning my phone calls obviously so I should just move on to someone else like a trusted friend.

@@aaliyahlewis1961 that's for the best, she clearly doesn't have your on her priority list. There are better friends out there for you, trust me

Yeah I don’t feel like that’s an automatic “I don’t like you like that” sometimes they may just want to see who you are depending what they have been through.

honestly if you get friend zoned, best to just walk away. if you are really friends evnetually you may low back into a more platonic thing, but if one of you has feelings you CANT stay in that dynamic for the very reason you just said, it hurts and breeds frustration and resentment. Plus always ask yourself, do i really wanna be just friends with them, or would i only be satisfied with somethign romantic.

@@jlogan2228 excellent poin

I literally just said the same thing in another comment. But we still can't deny that some women do keep men in the friendzone/back burner to boost their own ego, as a 7th option or for some benefits.

@@danlightened yea I remember u saying that

Yea I understand. My final straw was me texting her happy birthday in the morning and I still haven't received a text back. But she been posting all day. But this was my final test because I was gonna take her to Miami. Well that's out

So TRUE! Have had scary reactions from men even though I was KIND & RESPECTFUL in how I told them I wasn't interested in them romantically. I don't think men realize how much that's a factor in using these "lines".