7 Baby Items I WON'T Be Buying (and WHY!)

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There are SO MANY THINGS that people may tell you that you need for your baby, but in my experience, some of those things are superfluous, unnecessary, and possibly even detrimental to your baby's development! I am getting ready to welcome my 9th baby, and these are the things I WON'T be buying or using for my baby girl - and WHY I've made these decisions!
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@brookemeredith7606 7 ай бұрын

I would love an in-depth bed sharing video! I know it comes with so much criticism. So I get it if you choose to stay away from it. But I’m struggling with it right now! I have a 7 year old who wants to be in our bed (co-slept until age 5) A 4 year old and 2 year old in a phase where they want to as well. An 8 month old who loves to co-sleep and nurse to sleep. I myself like to sleep alone 🫣. I feel exhausted. I struggle getting chores done and homeschooling with the baby who won’t lay down alone. We use a carrier but she’s becoming more distracted and hard to get to nap in it.

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

I will put it on my content list 💕 In the meantime, if you aren’t already, I’d have the three older kiddos bedshare in their room! Sometimes it’s really just the presence of another warm body, and the felt safety that they need!

@s.t2240 6 ай бұрын

I have my 7-year-old and my 3-year-old sleep together. It actually works. If they wake up I go lie down with them and as soon as they fall asleep I sneak out 🤣

@claudialeger3208 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for explaining the swaddling torture. I never understood why this was acceptable and so trendy. Congrats on new baby. God is good

@MamaD_and_Family 7 ай бұрын

100% agree about socks, i didnt discover the snap booties till my 3rd baby and they were a game changer! So much better

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

Right?! They actually stay on!!! I love them!

@abrewer7931 7 ай бұрын

Yes thank you for covering the swaddling devices i never buy them anytime i see them on registries or for myself

@lorimitchell9025 7 ай бұрын

May you please do a video on things that you are going to be buying for this baby

@jadomonell 7 ай бұрын

The little booties are so great! We had those too and they worked so well.

@sarahpreston1478 5 ай бұрын

Totally agree with everything and I'm no born again hippie, I just listened to my gut. My daughter is now 27 years old and has complex disabilities from a rare chromo disorder but I am so glad I parented naturally, as much as I could.

@cyn7401 6 ай бұрын

I would love a video on safe bed sharing! Having my first in February and she will be sleeping with us! Also on side nursing like you mentioned.

@divyasamuel8285 7 ай бұрын

I thought wipe warmer was a luxury...unless I started using it for my second baby and she enjoyed the warm wipe on her bum. We live in Alberta, Canada where the temperature goes down to -40 Celsius....despite having heaters, the wipes are definitely chilled when it's that cold.

@RachelBernholtz 5 ай бұрын

Its so interesting, in Canada (at least in my area) a baby walker is more like a mini version of a seniors walker, its something they hold onto and push, when they are cruising.

@ashleighnicolewilson 5 ай бұрын

We have those in the states as well. They aren’t as developmentally detrimental as the seated walkers, but they can still actually slow the process of baby learning to walk!

@jessicabulloch5302 7 ай бұрын

Mom of 8 here, when you started talking about nail clippers , I was thinking when they are so little just use your teeth and nibble the sharp edge. Then you said it ! Great moms think alike.

@brooketeague4985 7 ай бұрын

Yeah, my grandma taught me this when I was a first time mom.

@EvaWadzinski-nh3yl 2 ай бұрын

I was a bedsharing baby, now 25 ❤

@breannagrice6849 7 ай бұрын

I was literally mom shamed so much as a new mom I never want to be in that position again. But now that I’m 28 years old i know so much more than I did at 20 when my daughter was born. My mother in law go so upset with me because I didn’t want a bumbo seat.

@breannagrice6849 7 ай бұрын

This is so interesting because I didn’t really use any of them as a new mom. I did use a crib and socks but my daughter is 7 years old and sleeps with me lol. I do agree with everything you have said.

@riahpapaya8091 6 ай бұрын

Never used a walker ! I just didn’t see the point in them! I’m a huge bed sharer. Idc who shames me . I’m educated and have all the tools I need to do it safely❤️ I don’t agree with the socks though. We live where it gets COLD. My babies need socks on their feet

@lilyrose3005 6 ай бұрын

I agree with all these points and do the same! My first is 3 months old and I had a sneaking suspicion I'd end up cosleeping, just wasn't sure how to go about it. Just got a free hand me down bassinet to try it but it didn't last long. I absolutely love cosleeping and sleep so much better. A midwife from church suggested I look at James Mckenna's work and recommendations on safe bed sharing. Please do a video on co sleeping! Also, I'm concerned about what to do if I have my second baby sooner rather than later, and am still sleeping with my first. I know its not safe to have a toddler in the bed could you shed any light on this? I know a lady with a toddler and baby, she sleeps in the middle, toddler on one side and baby on the other, but hubby sleeps in a different room. I don't want hubby in a different room so wouldn't know what to do! Apologies for the super long comment!

@ladylogic8091 6 ай бұрын

No lie, I agree with all of these. Socks, for chumps same with mits. Baby buckets, not only bad for physical development, but also can be damaging to the child's body. My crib is the largest catchall of crap in her nursery. Has she ever slept in it, two naps. Did it cost me $400, yes. The kids sleep in my bed, and I don't honestly see a day where she won't for the near future. I've had her with me in this bed since she was about five months old. She's fine. I only swaddled for the first six weeks, and then I realize that she was actually more calm without being swaddled. I would add one thing to hear though. No shoes, this goes along with the socks thing, but some people still have an old-fashioned belief that you need to put shoes on the babies feet to mold their feet. This is a very damaging belief, and I am almost guaranteed orthopedic surgeons would agree with the keeping your child feet bear. it's just better for physiology, and development. Also, there are damages that can happen to one's feet when you wear restrictive shoes.

@tiffanywheeler48 7 ай бұрын

I bed share with my bio babies too! We have a crib for our foster babies. I get so much more sleep with my bio babies. It’s so much easier. Those weighted sleepers need to be banned. We do use those tight swaddles for some of our foster babies because sometimes drug exposed babies really need it.

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

Yes, drug exposed babies definitely have different needs! Thank you for loving on those precious ones 🤍

@lifesabundantjourney 7 ай бұрын

I was always thinking id bedshare but after watching a video last week of a dad who was holding his daughter watching a football game and she snuck into the crease of his arm and suffocated, i dont think i could ever risk that

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

There are safe and unsafe ways to bedshare. Sleeping with your baby in a chair or on a couch is definitely in the unsafe category. And that’s part of the problem with the current “never ever sleep with your baby” narrative. Rather than parents learning how to safely sleep with their baby, they’re doing it unsafely and in secret. It’s heartbreaking when the lack of honest information harms babies 😔

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

A wipe warmer??? That's a thing? Surely the nappy change itself is quicker if you just get everything gathered and set up before you remove the clothing and nappy and then just do it as quick as possible???

@maelle7635 7 ай бұрын

I am french, I would love a video on safe bed sharing, because here it is definitly not recommended but I have done it numerous times with my 2 y.o when he was little. And I am pretty sure it was not safe bed sharing... I was also extremely paranoid that somerhing would happen to him in our bed so I would not really sleep well. Yet it felt like the most natural thing to do... It is not that simple to find good informations and advice on it so I would love to ear from an experienced mom 😊

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

Absolutely 🤍 Statistically speaking, a very large number of parents end up bedsharing with their babies at one point or another - not teaching how to do so safely does such a big disservice to babies and families!

@brooketeague4985 7 ай бұрын

I believe instincts can lead us greatly in motherhood. When we quiet all of the outside noise and listen to our maternal wisdom that each women carries, we will know what is best for us and our babies! This has helped me through motherhood!

@krystlereese2543 7 ай бұрын

Loved this video 😊 my husband is definitely pro free the feeties, while I’m still over here 6 kids in trying to get the dang socks to stay on their tiny feet 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

Give up the battle!!! 😂 FREE THE FEET!!! 👣

@erina1142 7 ай бұрын

I agree on mittens and socks! Never felt the need for them. I believe blankets and pillows in the bed are one of the risks of bed-sharing. How do you mitigate that risk? I don't think I can go without using them myself, so they'd be there right by the baby, right?

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

Light blankets up to the waist, and I do use one fairly flat pillow. The way my body is curled around baby means they stay between my arm and leg and can’t migrate. There’s also just an intuitive awareness of baby’s location, even while sleeping 🤍

@salo81 7 ай бұрын

I put my kids in a sleeping bag (without arms) while co-sleeping.

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

Hey....what do you think about the next to me type of cribs? It occurs to me that that might be a good safe option to be close to bed sharing but have baby in a space they can't really be rolled onto easily by an adult.

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

I think they can be a great choice for parents who want the option! Lack of space and need mean they aren’t something I’ll purchase.

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

@@ashleighnicolewilson nods. Legit.

@stefanie320 7 ай бұрын

Would love to hear more on bed-sharing for breastfeeding mamas and at what age your kids transitioned to their own bed. Thanks! New to your channel ❤

@brooketeague4985 7 ай бұрын

I co-sleep from day one. My babies start to move to their own bed (at the foot of my bed) around 2 years old, then their own room around 4.

@lilmamafam5885 7 ай бұрын

Love everything you talked about! 1000% AGREE. As a young Mama at 17, I've learned alot. Would you consider making a video on preparing for a Natural Birth 💜 Do you have any experience with Water Births? Ive had 4 kiddos 15🤎,8💙,5💜,4💛 Hospital style...with meds🫨 Im really wanting a Home birth but feel I should go with a Birthing Center then maybe a real Home birth.♡ Any Advice..? We're a Homeschool Family living a Holistic Lifestyle♡In Charleston S.C🌴 Also how do you feel about vaxxs...? If you don't want to share noooo biggie! Totally understand it's a very controversial subject... I used to,but now do not.

@brookegraham3823 6 ай бұрын

I would love a co sleeping video! As well as a breast feeding 101/must haves!

@salo81 7 ай бұрын

Omg, FINALLY somebody talks about the babybjorn style carriers and the crotch dangling! Also I cringe everytime I see somebody wearing their baby outward facing. It just looks so wrong and uncomfortable to me. My kids are 18, 16 and 12 now and wipe warmers have simply not been available in Germany when they were little.

@agathareimer2924 5 ай бұрын

In Canada those baby walkers are illegal so I don't ever have those either.

@jadomonell 7 ай бұрын

I think walkers are a US-American thing. I grew up in the States and knew them from my childhood…but I now live in Germany and had my babies here and I don’t know anyone with children who had a walker. It’s just not a thing here.

@lorikillen1495 7 ай бұрын

I believe they are banned in some countries. We have them in Australia but it's a bit of a hot topic here, people tend to either love or hate them.

@samanthaelizabeth2298 7 ай бұрын

Will you be doing another home birth this time? Sorry if I miss it!

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

See what you mean about the mittens, but I think I'd have made an exception for one baby I knew, for overnight, because he had really bad eczema and was scratching until he bled every night.

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

Oh, I’m certain there would be very valid exceptions like this one!

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

@@ashleighnicolewilson the first six months of his life he perpetually looked like he'd been mildly mawled by a cat. Thankfully that nasty eczema cleared up and never came back.

@sarahmiller9670 6 ай бұрын

funnily enough socks are actually great for those cases where a baby really does need to have some mittens on for awhile. They don't stay on their feet but I've found they stay on their hands way better than any kind of actual baby mitten lol

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

Baby walkers...mostly just get in the way in my experience.

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

Huh. Maybe that's part of what's wrong with my brain. I will have been swaddled to within an inch of my life as a baby.

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

Might be worthwhile to look into retained reflexes in adults and see if anything resonates!

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

@@ashleighnicolewilson not a bad idea.

@thebestwillow 7 ай бұрын

Speculation: I'd think I'd need to be a baby wearer, at least at first, for my own sake while I get used to not carrying baby in my body.

@ashleighnicolewilson 7 ай бұрын

It’s part of the reason I love babywearing! The fourth trimester is still such a vital time for bonding and attachment!