This is our last video about marriage for a while! We noticed while we were getting engaged and the planning process that there are a lot of differences in the details. It was interesting to discuss! Let us know some of your traditions or customs regarding marriage! 😍

20 cars driving through town honking is a wedding. 100+ cars driving through town honking is football fans celebrating their national team winning a match in the World Cup.

The left ring finger because it has a vein that is connected to your heart.

I told my husband that if he even considered spending more than $500 on any ring, especially wedding and engagement ring, I would say no. He was smart and spent less than $200

German here. My parents have the “usual” engraving in theirs. It’s their spouses name and their wedding date. So my mum wears my dads first name and my dad wears my mums first name. The wedding date is very common but the name vary, it can be both or the partners or no name at all.

We had our wedding bands with our names and the date engraved.We both were 21. 53 Years later we are still happily married.

I'm Canadian and my husband is German. I had always wanted a diamond ring but didn't want him to spend an arm and a leg on it. He found the perfect one while we were still in Canada at a Canadian Jewelry company. Our wedding rings are simple ones we got in Germany. In my ring it says ''Immer Dein'' and the wedding date and in my husbands it says ''''Always yours'' and the wedding date. We now live in Germany and I wear my rings on my left hand and he wears his ring on his right hand.

My inscribtion say: "One ring to rule the other" And her ring say: "The one ring"

USA American. Left hand, ring finger=Married Right hand, ring finger=Widowed Not sure if widely practiced, but was explained this by my Great-Great Grandmother when I was a child.

The "tradition" of diamond engagament rings was created by the diamond industry ind the 50s (?) and was made to "tradition" through aggresseive marketing. Same with the big weddings in white. before the 1900s no one could afford a wedding dress or a diamond ring and honestly even today i think the majority of people that actually spend thousands of dollars for this stuff still cant afford it and just do it because they think its required. Basicly a big ripoff because weddings and engagement rings are heavily overcharged because of that.

I was 19 and my wife was 23 when we married. That was 45 years ago, still happily married. Btw, we met in Charleston, SC., her name is Deanna and she's a Libra.

Yes, I have worn mine every day for over 40 years --- Ja, ich habe meine jeden Tag seit über 40 Jahren getragen

I believe the left hand is used because it is closest to the heart. The band goes behind the engagement ring to signify the love sealed.

The diamond tradition had this theory looped into it that diamonds are tougher, more unbreakable than other stones. Supposed to reflect the strength of the love and commitment. I think it would be better spent on the house deposit. Lol "With this house deposit I thee wed..." lol

Why are rings important? My mom lost my dad after being married to him for almost 60 years- she now has dementia and has basically lost every single thing important to her- her home, her furniture, most of her clothes, her identity, most of her memories, her husband, about everything a person can lose in life- but I noticed that when I’m with her, the one thing in the world that she STILL has left is her RING that she spins on her hand and talks about my dad when she does. And I can’t help but think of the importance that ring holds to her now- how glad I am that my dad bought it for her with every ounce of love he had for her. So, is it just materialistic?- absolutely not! I’m also going to add that of all the purchases you can make throughout your life, that wedding ring is most important- it symbolizes and stands for something between two people and something that is a sign to others as well- it is something that will go with your bride everywhere- every single day of her life and she will look at down at it every single day. It will remind her of why you’re married and bring back memories like it does for my mom- even if it’s just a quick glimmer- even if it’s subconscious. A wedding dress lasts one day- that’s it. A ring - you wear really until you die if you stay married to that person- how amazing - what other item gets that much wear? And, it holds some value where many things don’t (if you buy wisely- meaning, a full carat will always fetch something back to you). Never pass up that opportunity to buy your wife a ring be it plain gold and engrave something sweet on the inside or a gorgeous diamond- make it special for her.

My mom has the engagement ring with the rock and the wedding band, but my dad wears not only his wedding band but also a ring I got him when I was a kid that has 'DAD' in block letters with a black background. I think it's really special that he feels it's important to not only let people know he's a husband but also he's a father and both are so important to him that he wanted a physical representation of both on display. They where also married in a court house when I was three. They are both on their 3rd marriage so I think they got a little tired of all the ceremony and just wanted something simple. Though the winter sunlight streaming through the colored glass window onto them is something I'll never forget, it was so beautiful.

In America the rings go on the left ring finger because the blood vessles in the left ring finger is supposed to be closest to the heart.

That is why it actually makes sense to wear the ring on the left hand (if you are right handed)

I first met my husband-to-be when I was in 8th grade. I married him a week after I turned 19, on Valentines Day, 1997. He was 22. Still happily married to my love. It has now been 23 very blessed years. ❤️

When my American grandma saw my engagement ring she said: it’s so tiny!!! 🙈😂 I love that it’s not as huge!

I´m married and i wears my ring every day since my wife put it on my finger at the Standesamt. Wait, it took it off for the ceremony at the church, till my wife put it on my finger again, but since then.... i won´t take it off till i´m dead. They say it will bring u bad luck, if u take off your ring. The tradition to cut a piece of wood schould show the hardness of teamwork when u r married, and the good feeling if u go through it. And finally i have to say sorry for my bad english.

My wedding band is clear acrylic with waves of blue,green,and gold swirled inside.It represents the ocean and no other ring is exactly like it. We love the beach and it's a beautiful and affordable way to remind me of that.

I just stumbled across your videos today and I really like them! I am constantly looking for videos about the cultural differences to use in my English lessons (teaching English in Austria) and yours are so light hearted and radii to understand for learners. Keep up the good work! You're a lovely couple as well...

love you guys's energy! The wedding rings was so interesting!

We have our song “Dream a Little dream of Me” engraved inside our rings

I enjoyed hearing the differences!! One other ring custom I know about: in Finland, both the man and woman wear simple bands when they get engaged, and when they get married, the woman adds a second band on the same finger, sometimes with tiny stones. I've always thought that was cool, because the engagement should be the commitment for both people. (I'm American, but had a bunch of Finnish friends in the 80's. It may have changed by now.) Mazel Tov!

When we got Married, my wife was 20 and I was 25. That was 53 years ago. We have 4 kids, 11 grand kids and 3 great grand kids. That would be pretty hard if you waited until you were 40 years old to get married. Northwest Indiana

Hi, I´m German. The custom with throwing rice is copied from US movies as many other customs. 30 years ago hardly anybody in Germany would do it. The sawing (I've seen it once) is about overcoming obstacles as a team. My friends who had to saw also had to empty a clothes line full of baby clothes. An old custom in parts of Germany is the kidnapping of the bride. Some friends take her away from the celebration and go from pub to pub and the groom has to follow as fast as he can, because he has to pay the bills in the pubs....

my dad wears his wedding ring on a necklace. because of his work :)

I only know married German couples, Austrians too... that have wedding rings WITH engravings. Some have only the wedding date, some have the name of their spouse, some have a inscription/dedication or a mix of the mentioned things. Or christians have their favourite Bible verse engraved, normally the verse that the couple chose for their wedding sermon too.

Actually my husband and I got our wedding rings from the jeweller who made the official ring in Lord of the Rings with the engraving on the outside 😍❤️

I was born in Berlin, but raised in Canada. Married a Canadian. At our wedding reception my mother approached me and said the German guests want to dance on my veil. I was, like, WHAT! Apparently one of the traditions is for the guests to dance on the brides veil before they change to leave the reception! I was determined to save my veil, because i wanted to give it to the daughter i was sure we were going to have. Joke was on me! We had 2 boys! Lol

Very interesting! I wish you all the best and i am looking forward to your next videos!

The sawing of wood is an actual thing in Germany, my cousin and his wife did it after their ceremony! ;)

In Greece the wife engraves the husband's name on the ring and the husband the wife's name. When one of them dies and they are still married they exchange the rings.

Deana is the best! Love her enthusiasm. This was a great and interesting video.

It’s so fun to watch your videos. We are a cross-cultural family too (American and Russian from Kazakhstan). We will be moving to Germany for the next three years, so it’s fun to learn about German traditions through you. Thanks for sharing with us! :)

Congratulations! Thanks for this video :)

You are correct!! De Beers (as in De Beers diamond mines) started the "tradition" of the diamond engagement ring and they are also the ones who give the "guidelines" of 2 months salary for this ring.

In the south of Bavaria(region in Germany) there are some more wedding tradditions: A couple of weeks before the wedding, friends of the couple come and set up a "Hochzeitsbaum" (wedding tree), which is basically a large trunk, so everbody who comes by the house knows they are just married. The couple is spending a Brotzeit(there is no good translation for it) and of course beer and everyone is sitting together to celebrate. After a year of marriage the tree gets cut of and another Brotzeit with beer is spent, when the couple is already expecting a baby it's spent by the friends, otherwise by the couple. In a Bavarian wedding it's very common to have a "Weinstube". At around 8 o'clock all the guests go to another room, the Weinstube. Everybody is drinking wine and it is mor like a common party and very funny. Another traddition is the "Brautstehlen" (bride kidnapping). Attendants of the wedding will "kidnapp" the bride and bring her to the Weinstube. They wait for the groom to negotiate about the number of bottles of wine they get in exchange for the bride.

Phil is the only German I know who doesn't sound horrible when he speaks English. (Myself very much included :D)

In Puerto Rico, we engrave the bands/ring. And both my husband and I got engagement rings.

I am a guy who has an engagement ring but I have a disability that effects my skin (among other things) and wearing a ring all the time was causing me problems so I got a tattoo on the finger I would have worn the ring on instead. All this is really interesting, thank you for making this video. I love learning about cultural differences.

In the USA it’s more common to blow bubbles or also sparklers when the bride and groom are leaving the reception since rice it’s bad for birds

I live in Texas and when we got married almost 27 years ago, we were not allowed to use rice. We had to use bird seed or bubbles. The rice swells up in the bird's stomach and kills them. I think pretty much across America it is against the rules to use rice. Another American tradition is saving the top layer of the wedding cake and putting out in the freezer to eat together on your 1st anniversary. Don't do it, it was so gross.

Congratulations on your marriage guys! Your video of the Vietnam Sleeper bus really helped us

In Germany we actually also have the “something used/old, something new and something borrowed”-tradition, but one tradition that we also have, that I find kind of important, that wasn’t mentioned is that it is tradition, that the bride safes and buys her wedding-shoes with penny’s.

It’s actually very common to engrave a wedding band and ring but usually is kept secret as a little love message. The message is usually a simple sentence or sometimes a date to signify an emotion and/or memory.

Your videos are really good and entertaining! 😁

You two are such an awesome and entertaining couple. All the best wishes for you!

I seem to remember a tradition of wearing the wedding band on the right hand if you're widowed.

Thank you, a very interesting comparisson about wedding ceremonies

We have a great tradition here, "Brautklau". During the wedding ceremony, the bride is kidnapped by friends of the groom. They go to a bar somewhere in the city for drinking beer, Schnapps or Schampus. Until the groom finds them and he has to pay all the drinks before he can have his bride again. I remember my wedding, it took me a long time to find them and made me a poor man...

in some countries (ntherlands too) the ring is on the left hand if you're a Christian and right hand if you're Protestant or another religion, we have relationship rings

I think why men often do not wear their rigs is because when working around machinery the ring could get caught and cause injury.

You guys are amazing My wife is German, I'm American watch all your content. Your chemistry is great.

Well I'm from Germany and I married pretty young. I was 23 years old....my husband 24. We are celebrating our 19 th anniversary soon🥰

What great videos! Interesting and funny thank you guys.

My engagement ring was my Great Aunt's wedding set from the 1920's. It is not a huge rock, but very beautifully ornate. My husband had to have it sized to my hand. I cherish it. You guys are so cute!!

I‘ve been wearing my wedding band every single day for the last 40 years

The amount spent on the engagement rings and the wedding is a waste, your better off spending that money on your first home and furniture, the fairy tale is a b.s. Victorian hold over the reality of life is you need the house and the furniture more than a diamond ring or spending thousands on a single day ! Married years

I married my wife three times: 1) in Indonesia (where my wife is from) 2) in Vegas (just for fun) 3) in Texas (more of a renewal of vows for my family) We just celebrated 19 years together and we have 16 year old twin daughters.

My boyfriend wears a lot of Rings in his daily life normally, so I guess he will wear his wedding ring alot too. My father is also always wearing his wedding ring. My parents got new ones some yea ago. The old ring was to tight for my father and so he couldn't wear his ring anymore. He was real sad about this and so my parents decided to buy new ones. But the old ring is always with him. He put it in his wallet.

I love your videos! We were married 35 years before I got my 3 Karot diamond ring. I still wear my gold band daily unless I go out. Wishing you years of happiness!💕

I’m American and I think it’s actually extremely common to have engraving in wedding rings here. The wedding date is most common I think, but there are other things as well. We have the date and the first letters of a little saying in each ring. My husband does wear his ring every day. I think it’s probably easier when it’s on the left hand, as most people are right handed. It probably gets in the way less.

When my girlfriend who lives in Kronburg had her wedding that I was invited to, she and her hubby did the sawing of the log just after they exited the church. This was their first act of working together.

Just found your channel last night and I absolutely love it!! Keep up the great work, you guys are so cute!! Your honey is funny, too! Lol :)

I have always had the same feeling about my ring feeling foreign to me but I also enjoy it cause it's a little reminder throughout the day of my wife

Heart is on left side of chest. Just a symbolic gesture of love. In Hawaii the female identifies herself as taken by wearing a flower on the left side of the head. He had “Syl, I love us. Tim” engraved into my band. 37 years and counting.

Very informative

I don't get that whole expensive ring thing anyway. My engagement ring is simple silver with a little blue stone. Simple and still beautiful 😍

I absolutely love Deana's idea on engraved inside of the ring like Lord of the Rings!!❤

A german wedding traditon I know from home involves the delivering of wedding invitations. Two people drive around on bikes and deliver the invitations to the wedding guests homes. They get invited inside the hous for a beer by the guests and then go on to the next house.

Just found your channel. I normally watch beauty, drama, and like Vlog Squad videos and political commentary. But once I searched a few videos about Miami while planning my trip I began to get suggestions for Joel & Lia and then your channel. Very entertaining! Subscribed ✅

At my son's wedding in Berlin (he is American, she is German) in 2015, they indeed did saw a log. Fascinating to watch. Thanks for this video -- fun.

Still so stoked for ya'll!

I have my parents weddings bands and the got married in the 60's in The Canal Zone (Panama) and both bands have dedicated engravings in the inside

Our engagement rings (the once that my wife and I bought nearly 40 years ago) was although simple bands style like our wedding rings is. And yes in the first weeks or months the ring is a bit disturbing but you will get used to it. The engraving inside our rings carries the partner's name and the data of our wedding. The sawing tradition is more common in the southwest of Germany, in some seaport city's they have to loosen a knot.

My parents also have engraved rings so inside there's the date of their wedding and the initials - and they also had to saw wood (driving from the wedding to the festivities on a small road that was blocked by this wood)

I have two things to say: The "Polterabend" is I think more a rural tradition, and is also great to invite people you like but maybe don't want or can't invite to the actual wedding. It's usually a more casual party. About the sawing, I know this from my childhood days, when someone got married they would drive to the party and through the village were the couple lives and friends and neighbors etc. Would stop the cars and the wedding couple had to do some tasks, like sawing the wood with a dull saw, hanging up baby clothes on a clothes line, cutting a heart into a bedsheet with nail scissors, etc.... I have not really seen those things recently. Maybe there is like one of those things right outside the church, but not this stopping the cars on the way to the party location

I'm German and I've seen the sawing wood one, they did it at my sister's wedding. And yes it's one of those working together things and there are more. Another one I know is that when they step out the door of the church (or Standesamt) people hold a bedsheet in front of them with a heart drawn on it and they have to cut out the heart shape with nail scissors and then step through the heart. Also there's lots of games that are played at the feast in the evening. Mostly it's working together or "how well do you know each other" stuff, but people do like to see them suffer a little all in good fun :D

me and my wife got married in literally 5 minutes, 3 minutes smalltalk included. no witnesses required at all in germany.... i dont have a ring, but her's pretty nice..

Here in the Outer Hebrides (Scotland), the day before the wedding the couple gets tied on the back of a truck onto chairs and flour and gunky stuff gets thrown over them and then they're driven around town, with friends in cars behind them, honking like crazy...

As a technician, I was not allowed to wear my wedding ring at work. At some point I left the ring in the box. The ring is just an external sign. We have been married for 35 years.

Liebe Grüße aus Ostfriesland (Germany). Ich liebe eure Videos. (Eure Videos sollten in der Schule im Englisch Unterricht gezeigt werden). Alles Gute

My husband wears his ring every day, I rarely wear my ring because of my job as a nurse. 😂😂 With us it is the other way around. And we are also life in Germany 😂😂

In our country most of us don't wear any kind of "married" symbol. In older days married women used to wear nose pin. But now we don't. We have atleast 4 days ceremony. In my family we tend to do 7 days. These 7 days guests visit the brides/ grooms parents home to have lunch and dinner.

My husband is from Wyoming - which is also where we met and got married after the military. We went with a Black Hills gold ring for me with both our birthstones (a ruby for me and for him a gorgeous bright blue Yogo Gulch sapphire) and he wears a Tungsten Carbide ring that’s engraved with our song. Yeah it’s mushy but at less than $400 it was a great deal.

Your comment about wearing the wedding ring on the right hand in Germany made me laugh. My wife, - German - wore her wedding ring in USA style on her left hand. When she went shopping in Koeln, she was greeted as "Fraeulein" by the store owner. She said she wasn't Fraeulein Benneck; she was Frau Benneck. Oops!

Used to be in the US you bought a matching wedding set of three rings. Mine was that way in the mid 80s.

Yes, it's true. in german, both parties war the engagement ring, made of silver, on their left hand. But nobody does it anymore.

My guys ring is on a heavy chain (necklace) and stays mostly in a cloth bag. My ring primarily stays in its case. We wear them when we go out together sometimes 🤷‍♀️

In catholic The Netherlands, the engagement ring was worn on the right hand and transferred to the left hand at the wedding ceremony. Plain gold bands sold as a pair.

@Phil : There will be a moment, when it turns about the ring.First, I felt the same wearing it...few months later, I miss it, when I am not wearing it. 🙂

My family is originally from chile and my parents also had engravings in their rings

Well, of course we DO HAVE engravings in our rings. Its common in germany. But we got our rings in the Philippines and even there are engravings in their rings. That makes our rings super personal.

Traditionally we wear wedding rings on the right hand in Norway. Most people prefer simple rings and often we use engagement ring as wedding rings. Engraving is usually the wedding date and something personal.

6:30 I wear my Wedding Band every day on a silver Necklace, cause I hate rings an my hand

Here in Portugal, the engravings inside wedding rings usually have your spouse's name and your wedding date on

TODAY is a very special day to get married because of the numbers of the date (22.2.2020). I'm pretty sure there are a lot more weddings at the "Standesämter" today as usual in february.