You don’t suffer from letting go , you suffer from holding on

“Show them by your actions not your words how insignificant their are “👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

i got my power back about staying away and work on me and stop caring about their needs working on mine

They critize you without even taking the time to know us at all

I thank God fir this revelation i didnt understand why this was happening .just left a 5 year relationship it was draining it sucked the life out of me , toxic typical narcissist😮

Your advice is so reassuring. I’ve been at my wits end. I’m so quick to defend myself, which is completely a waste of time. It’s maddening. You’re helping.

When my husband wanted me to argue with him, I stayed silent he said very hurtful 💔 things to me. He went into a dangerous rage. He threatened my life, l left him. He has violated the protective order 3 times. I have to go to court on the violations. He could be looking at 12 months in jail. He doesn't know where I am. I know he is very angry because I filed charges against him.

Tough Truths..& ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL! My therapist taught me about the “AND” instead of the “BUT” statements. I appreciate you highlighting the validation in this context that we can use in our thoughts! Thank you for your resources and support!

My ex said he gonna kill me ,kill my kids and kill himself if I go. I got scared . I let my kids grow and became adult and finish school. After that I started plan to walk away . My kids already knows how to take care of themselves .thank God I'm out .

Do a show on adult narcissistic children who may be sociopathic

Such truth! You are spot-on about taking responsibility for our own part in this. Thank you for finally squashing the "I'm an empath; that's why they picked me" argument.

"You are watching this video because you are miserable," yep these narcissist's are hell bent on ruining good people's lives. Stay strong Survivor's learning to emotionally detach from the narcissist takes a lot of patience and practise.🕊

Absolutely beautiful tree in the background! You are an artist.

I will say that being an empath is truly real. To the point of feeling emotions of animals. This has been my experience. My ex husband narcissistic I was never attracted to, but felt there was no where else to go because my whole I had been treated badly. No one even wanted to listen to the pain I had been through even though I would listen to them. That’s how narcissistic everyone around me was. They hated my voice! I’m not exaggerating. Lastly I took responsibility by leaving and also healing. Unfortunately I found someone I was lightly attracted to but he was more of a narcissist than the first man smh. So even though these things happened it has nothing to do with being an empath or earth angel. In fact most people go through a toxic relationship at least once in their lives. I have a narcissistic father and had not healed that relationship. That was the main reason that happened to me. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Please, some people who call themselves these things are not truly these things. To be a true empath and earth angel you have to take massive responsibility, even down to the family bloodline, we have to heal our whole family lineage! So Do not let people give real earth angels and empaths a bad name!

Yes, I agree 👍 with you about empaths. I feel that they are codependants in most cases. Good video. Big hugs 🫂

I almost became one...eye for an eye. I could do it with ease...you saved me brother

Absolutely if you have to live with someone like this, it’s a challenge and stress and you can only work on your own self in order not to react back and suffer or get sick But if you are not married to such a person and dealing with such a person, Run the other way

You're right.With one,his mistress had actually phoned me.And he denied it all.With another person,I had the bankmanager as witness.The issues were never resolved.Someone else called a lawyer and sorted it out.

Wish I'd found you years ago. However, I truly believe we find what we need when we're ready for it. I saw a therapist yrs ago (clueless to even what a narcissist was). I dug into my church, good people, like-minded people, and eventually, things started getting better. I still kept feeling the pull from my ex. They chased me for years after I walked away. Your videos have definitely given me more information and the education I need for me. So funny, I used to tell my ex all the time, that we are responsible for our own actions (just got a look of perplexity). Thank you for your practical, sensible, and clear steps to healing. I took myself out of the dance. Feeling the Freedom!!🙏🙏🙏

What’s the difference between telling someone you don’t like something you’re noticing they do because it triggers you and being narcissistic because what you’re telling them is pouring your own insecurities unto them? Sometimes I don’t know if I’m projecting and pouring my own hurt or if what I’m actually saying things that are valid to them. Sometimes I feel like I’m the narcissist:( and other times I don’t.

We're not just fighting the narcissist; we're also fighting society's expectation for us to find a mate. If you're single, people look at you funny and wonder what's "wrong" with you.

Why am I giving my power away....to a toddler?

This information is pure gold. Im dealing with a narcissist spouse currently and your videos have really helped me. Thank you.

Yes yes, we have to take accountability. It takes two to tango.

Grey rock them there’s no one in the world that will be more interested or obsessed with your life then a narcissist

Man it really hit home talking about the trained monkey because I started to lose it and I said the same exact thing “why am I acting like this, this isn’t me!!!”

My god. Your taking about my father. Especially #3.

Thank you ... What an eye-opener about myself ... every word you said in the video is true @ NPD... ( DO you hear the words that are coming out of my mouth) ... the things they ( well mine) said over the yrs were unbelievable ..😅

Seriously...I think you just saved my sanity, and my life.

Good information 🙏🏾💕 thank you

Treating them as youve been treated: it was fun. I didnt keep it up- couldnt. My body rebelled with headache- stiff neck- clenching teeth. For a little while though it was definitely fun.

Love your purple thank you. I love you for your help.

These videos are for codependents . Not everyone comes from deep childhood trauma …

Thank you Kenny , your videos are pure gold xxx

I would never agree with a narcissists label of me. That’s self betrayal. I also wouldn’t attempt to talk them out of it. I just block them and leave them be.

I would hear not only the wildest of accusations thrown at me, but absolute untruths that were SO HARD to stomach without my rage reaction. I had to walk away because you can argue until you’re blue in the face, they have to be right so you will never win with them. One of the craziest was being told I was a man hater. I am a gay woman but I certainly don’t hate men, on the contrary I’ve always had a lot of close male friends. My covert narcissist ex hated men, because she was bisexual (actually heterosexual I would attest). It’s usually the straight women that hate the men not the gay women! To hear that I was the reason my ex narc hated men, because I influenced her was ridiculous. She hated men a long time before I came along. But these narcs will take zero responsibility for anything.

Thank you sir

Thank you ❤❤

This is my sister. - sends me a video and either gets mad that i dont feel the same way she feels about it. If i dont reply she gets mad too lose lose for me. -lies often in small conversations can never admit when wrong. -takes no accountability for her bad choices and blames everyone else. - takes innocent comments as a personal attack or judgement. My sister and i grew up in an alcoholic family. I came along 2nd and was the golden child. She had to fend for herself as a teenager i got to stay at a family member when my dad worked in camp. Shes always been angry since she was a teenager. She says people who are depressed or un alive themselves are weak. I wish she could see a counselor, but she would likely laugh and think i was nuts. Ive currently caught her in a massive life, altering lie effecting many people and shes will to fight to the bitter end than admit it.

Your thoughts on being empathetic sound narcissistic in nature 😅 either bc its a narcissist's view of it, or the person claiming it is actually a narcissist.. either way.. i don't announce the way i feel, i dont want the one who's receiving my empathy to know bc i tell them.. i want them to feel safe, equal, protected and loved ❤ great video!

Hi Kenny! I have also heard "spiritual" teachers advocating to embrace your inner abuser/predator as a way of healing from attracting abusers/predators but it didn't make any sense to me.

Thats for sure!

So i had a covert narc manager for 8 years. She would use all these tactics to stonewall and greyrock people who would try call her out or expose her! She would for example mistreat someone but with such a sweet smile always (emotiinal abuse and oppression as she is such a jealous threatened person) and when they eventually got fed up and confronted her, usually by blowing up from all the frustration, she would just tell then, Now calm down X, you are rude talking to me like that. I'm sorry you feel like that but but i cannot take responsibility for your feelings. I'd suggest you find help dealing with your agression.

8 Smart techniques to fool a Narc 1. Don't engage. 2. Get emotional support 3. Don't defend, Don't engage, Don't correct them 4. Agree with them 5. Get in to ur own life 6. Act like them 7. Heal yourself 8.

6:42 mins in the video : It also seems that if we agreed with their nasty comments , they feel powerful with the projection . I agreed to disarm them by ignoring or not going against them .

I now just TOTALLY TOTALLY IGNORE my narcissist ex husband when our paths do cross, I'am polite but just don't ENGAGE that way he CAN'T get a chance to ABUSE me again.

Yah codependency is real I feel guilty talking to other women, I feel like she sabotaged us after 14 years and I took her back twice already. I’m also an anxious attachment personality from childhood trauma and I don’t deal with loss very well. Everytime she leaves I just try to fix it even though each time she’s already lined up someone to get supply from before sabotaging the relationship. Never gives closure just blocks and carries on while I’m left freaking out and wondering wtf happened!

Can i heal my childhood trauma just by buying books and watching videos ? I live in a country where there is no available therapists that actually understands the problem

What can I say but ~ another Great /* Dead-on* Video !!! : ) 10/10 Loved your ''visual'' example of the Scotch Tape -but- Narcc saying ... it's an Elephant - you'll never Win ~ I agree. Thank-You for your expertise, time & tireless 'effort' in educating myself & others ... HAGWknd, Cindy : ) N.B. re: You can act just like the Narcc to 'get them back [per se] etc' ... Years ago after someone shared the following quote w/ me, I stopped doing that '''immediately''' {Don’t wrestle with pigs. You ''both'' get ''dirty' AND : ( the pig likes it [ultimately WINS] by 'getting the conversation to continue etc / {I} kept the contact / communication ''going'' : ( & now DE-valued myself / lowered myself to to such a despicable way of living / low standard [like u said] etc

Thank you

If I had only known. So simple. So effective.

Can a narcissist heal their internal pain? It makes me sad to think they are suffering internally because my daughter is afflicted.

I feel manipulated

I feel like it's not narcissism but totally embracing the victim role and refusing to step out of it. We do have choices. I don't feel that it's narcissism being stuck in the victim role. It's not the right word. People need to change their mindset. They can take steps for themselves without being nasty. It is ok to reject the roles the narcissistic people place us in. Don't continue being a victim. It's still a very important message. I just don't agree with that description.

Hey, instead of trying to sell something right off the bat, how about provide value?

Can you please do a video about “ How to heal from a love avoidant experience ”?

Could it be that we develop “narcissistic fleas” (as a maladaptive coping skill) just to stay 2 steps ahead of them? (Not saying these are constructive coping skills). Sometimes, self-preservation can be confused with “feeling like we’re better than” a narcissist. You had also said we use our victim status to elevate ourselves above the narcissist (paraphrasing), but do we really think we ARE superior? I always felt “less than” because of chronic narc abuse by a covert narcissistic mother. With the help of videos like yours, fortunately we can overcome these codependent tendencies (better late than never). A while back, I posted a comment that appears to have been deleted. I hope my comment was not misconstrued as a criticism of your work or this channel, or your listening audience. Thank you.

Its akwats low self esteem. .there are many other factors in one's life, and the season

Correction...It is not always co delendence...tbats text book...not individuals

It’s so hard to imagine you and all these other bada$$ content creators as a codependent.

This is an older video?

Don't see the group

There’s only one technique !!! Get rid of it !!!

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5:37 mins of the video : What do u mean by feeding the narcissist ?

What would you do with "Mommy-Dearest?" 😮👀🤔😠

If u show them the truth. They will love U...MY mistake....inner childhood stuff

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Do ur kids speak to u now? No offense, I just wondered