Love this!

This is genius

And just as a side note, I am a little jealous of those who had their wedding during the pandemic because they had a true excuse to have a really small guest count. I also totally understand why couples elope! Guest lists and weddings can be super stressful!

That’s up to your own expectations not the expectations of others. His day is about the two of you not the expectations of others. You can’t make everyone happy so just make your list. Inviting people to my first wedding that I didn’t even have much of a relationship is my regret now. This time I’m going to set boundaries.

Most venues would count them if you are feeding them so best to check with the venue and inquire about vendor meals as a separate thing if you don’t want them included in your guest number

Ooohhh good question I didn't think of this!

Guests only count as far as to sit down and get a chair pretty much. I am a event coordinator. Usually everyone will include extra food for the vendors. We do 16 hour shifts and we usually eat if they allow us to eat from the same food. We use disposable plates though. And we are very thankful 😊

I think it depends. How uncomfortable are we talking, here? Are they someone you just don't get along with? Are they a raging alcoholic and they don't know how to practice self-control with alcohol? Have they tried to hit on you or grab at you? I think if it were me, how I approach the situation might depend on what level they make me uncomfortable. Like, if the friend is trying to hit on me and grab at me, and I tell my fiancé, but they don't care. Relationship over. I need a man who will defend me in those situations. Because if my man isn't sticking up for me in those situations that's a HUGE red flag. If it's just someone I don't get along with.. would I want them to be there? No. But, I might invite them but just avoid them as much as possible. If they're a raging alcoholic, I wouldn't want them to be there, especially if i didn't get along with them even when they're sober. And if my fiancé can't accept that, it might also be a huge red flag in our relationship I would need to examine.

@@valerielinares2068 thank you so much for answering my question! I have not really gotten along with this person since the beginning of our relationship. They haven’t been violent or really mean, but these last couple of encounters haven’t been good. One of the encounters that we had, she didn’t speak to me and made two sly comments that I dismissed. However, the last two things was after we got engaged, she sent my fiancé and I a long group message “congratulating” us at the beginning, but yet the bulk of the message was geared toward him about her apologizing that their friendship wasn’t in a good place, and it saddens her because he was by her side at her wedding (which I was not invited to) and how when she reflects back on her wedding and thinks about our upcoming wedding, it makes her sad that that’s where her friendship is with him bc haven’t been talking much, etc. etc. She told him in the message that she loves him and will always love him and that she was just him nothing but the best. honestly, it felt less like a congratulations because she only said it at the beginning, and then spent the whole paragraph talking about him and her friendship, she addressed me about sorry we couldn’t be close friends, and that she’s here if “you need it or want it” and then, at the end, she said, congratulations again. The last incident that happened was that I guess he wound up talking to her and said they talked everything out, but when he came back to me to tell me what they talked about, he said that during the conversation, she pointed out to him how I haven’t reached out to her And how she’s been doing this and I haven’t been doing that, and she tried to lie and say that she texted me and I never responded… Which I showed him the message. We kind of got into an argument because I told him that I should not feel like I have to defend myself to you about her… and most importantly, why is she talking about me to you, and why are you coming back to me questioning me about why I haven’t reached out to her and what have I done for her. I also shared with him that I wanted people to be at our wedding that genuinely loved both of us and we’re happy for both of us, and that if there’s somebody that I want to invite that you are genuinely uncomfortable, then I would have that difficult conversation with them about them not coming, because it’s about us becoming one. To my knowledge, I have never made her feel uncomfortable or unwelcome, but that is how I have always felt around her. Now mind you she’s not my friend and she necessarily never has really been that welcoming to me and I always felt there was a weird vibe. I know that there’s some people you’re just not gonna deal gel with which is OK, but after these last three incidents, I don’t feel comfortable. He has known for years that I have not felt comfortable around her, and never forced the issue of me hanging out with her anymore (I did hang out with her when we first started dating), I never discouraged him from hanging out with her and her husband, but I would always tell him that I would not feel comfortable around her because I just felt this weird vibe or tension, and I didn’t wanna put my self in a space or place where I genuinely did not feel welcomed, I felt extremely uncomfortable, as that would probably ruin the mood, and I did not want to do that. I know it may not be relevant, but he did tell me when we first started dating that he and her did date, but it was for a month . of course, it made me feel uncomfortable, but it’s really these last few incidents that really bothered me. I apologize for the long message.

If you don’t feel comfortable don’t do it.There are other ways to honour your mother on the day

@@La_belleT yeah i suppose you’re right, thankyou for replying x

@@beckielivingstone9642 wishing you all the best x

I can relate! We are planning our wedding in less than 3 months with a limit of 50 people and since it’s such short notice the number is getting lower and lower 😅

I’m interested to know, what was the outcome?

@@nanao.3101 54 people total came including us :) thank god not all 60 showed up because 54 was tight.

Thank you for responding. I’m trying to plan now and the venue we love holds 50 but we have a list of about 75. If everyone says yes, we will have to upgrade to the bigger venue which is way too big. Then we will need more “stuff” to take up space. You have given me hope.

@@nanao.3101 I'd say keep ur venue...we had a massive balcony for the dance floor and a side room for the photo booth so it depends on the extras...