I seldom comment but have to say I’ve been binging Stacey’s documentaries - she is such a warm, engaging interviewer. It makes watching these so enjoyable! Almost like having a tea with a friend. Keep it up Stacey!

The energy of ALL of them was so beautiful, genuine, warm, open, welcoming and loving! I realized I had been smiling the whole way through the episode because their energy is just so exquisite.

Left us hanging with the cats name !!!

Nicole has figured out free rent in London

They are crazy handsome and seem really committed to understanding their feelings and interactions. So good for them!

Only now have I stumbled upon Stacey. I find HER more interesting than the subject at hand. Very bright and communicative - even if she does drop the odd 'H'. Stacey could make a compelling interviewer. Must do some research. The whole 45mins was fascenating. Loved it Stacey. Thank you from Germany.

That dad is an example for parents everywhere. You dont have to fully grasp everything about your child's life to respect them, love them, and welcome in their chosen family.

Stacey talking about being jelly about her dog and the pan to the elderly pup. 😅😅 perfect. As a married woman in a polyamorous throuple I want to thank you for this video and for approaching with open heart ❤️

Love how Stacey is so open and respectful, shes a riot

Having thought I was in a 24 year monogamous marriage and found out that my husband was cheating I am now re evaluating everything. Firstly I am now divorced. Because of the lying alone. He always would be jealous when other men paid me attention, something I wasn't comfortable with it but to be such a hypocrite. And I can say truly that I now see I was not loved, or cherished. I was coveted. I had utility for his career. Who am I to tell others how to live and love? At least they have honesty. And love cannot exist when suffocated with a blanket of lies.

What a character Stacey is. And I adore Wilbur and Harley ❤

Wow !!! love staceys documentaries.. love to meet her in real life n have a cup of tea and a long chat with her... . As a bloke its wierd that i get a fuzzy nice feeling from watching these heart warming and mind opening docs that suprisingly show me that even if I don't think that I would live the way the prople in the docs do, that I can still see other peoples choices and ways of life without automatically judging or criticising them. Surely it should be considered an asset to be able to see others and their lives and focus not on our differences but on our similarities??!!❤

I think it's interesting he doesn't want his child to experience a broken home but he's comfortable having people come in and out of his Child's life. To all the replies: Thank you all for opening my eyes! To clarify I wasn’t stating my opinion, rather, I was just sharing a thought. I think people should live their lives however they want! I do now see this family from a different perspective based on the responses. As people have pointed out, people will usually have others come in and out of a child’s life, no matter what the parents romantic situation is. However, I do still think this situation is slightly different as the third partner is living in the home and I don’t know if that’s the best thing for a child. Again, not super firm on this opinion and am open to others thoughts. What do others think? :) I 🫶🏻 open discussions!

Very kind people all around. Stacey looks like she will be back to chill and get foot rubs😊

I am so offended that the cat didn't get a name!

Not sure about this. Feel sorry for the kid,

My parents are polyamorous but no one cheats or anything they are just our mums and dads and they all love each other together. I saw some one said it would be bad for the kid but me and my siblings love our parents and it means we have more love and more siblings to play with! Especially on summer holidays it is really fun. Our family is just normal to us though

This couple house is gorgeous.i don’t relate with their way of life but their way of taste is great…😊

I thought the guy is a carpenter...he can just build a bigger bed😂😂😅 To accommodate them

When she asks if anyone feels left out I would imagine its the child.

My son and his wife got into this lifestyle and they explained it as having so much love that it was easy to share with others. All that was asked of each other was to be open and honest before ever being with another. Surprise they are now divorced, because my son cheated on his wife. He had sex with someone without telling his wife. TRUST WAS BROKEN! I am not sure this can last over the long haul.

Having a group sx painting in a living room with a 7-year-old is not mildly but wildly inappropriate. While all of them seem nice, I don't think any of these relationships will last.

Tell me you come from a broken family without telling me😂

That's a big suitcase for just a weekend. 😂🎉 It was great whenever the weird pizzicato strings stopped 😊.

Polyamory is not the same as an "open" marriage. And its also not the same as swinging. It's not trivial differences.

Her hair looks fabulous. Suits her well.

I get it that it works for the adults; and, although it's not for me, I don't judge them for it; but, I wonder how it feels for their son to get so attached to Nicole and then she leaves? That was never discussed although I think it's an important factor, considering your child's feelings as well. I'd like to see a follow-up with this family in 10 years.

>Whos idea was it? >'It was mutual' >It was her idea

I know of way too many couples who live “traditionally” & are secretly miserable to judge these people lol. Many projections on this comment section,also divorce rates are quite telling. Love the transparency of this arrangement. Not for me but to each their own.

He blushed and started playing with his rings when Nicole came home. He has it bad for her.

Their experience is much like the poly couple i know personally. I find it so strange how open Stacey is to the lifestyle compared to how judgemental and confrontation she has been with other families. This would have been a great opportunity for her to discuss her own biases. Cathy doesn't seem weird to me in contrast to the other comments. She seems like she's really interested in a relationship with a woman but doesn't want to give up the stability and😮 familiarity with her husband. I really like Thomas and it seems to me the poly lifestyle was Cathy's idea that he went along with to make her happy.

That’s not right… I generally have an open mind, but that’s just wrong. I feel bad for the kid, that’s not normal behavior from adults.

I like Stacey, but yeah she's biased. She's "open and tolerant" to this lifestyle, but turns her nose down to the "tradwife" lifestyle...and TOTALLY JUDGES them. She also called the "tradwife" brainwashed.

Talking about this in front of a kid is irresponsible 😢

Having a glass staircase and a young kid is crazy

This show was one of my favorite that she has done. I think she will stay friends with them.

If my bf had sex with someone else I'd feel really betrayed, it doesn't have anything to do with seeing your partner as your "property", love is a two-way street.

This is OK for the adults but have they ever thought about their son or are they too selfish to even care .

I can't imagine sharing my husband with another woman, and yes we fulfill every need, every!

Thanks for some great reporting. I didn’t know much about that before.

It's wild that Stacey acts more accepting, and way less judgmental in this situation than with the wealthy people. She claims to be so open, but has some massive prejudices herself. Also, no one else but this "throuple" has asked her to get a lap dance at a sex party, but somehow the conservatives are offensive?

This gives me the creeps. Maybe, if you were used to this it wouldn’t affect you this way, but it gives me chills down my spine. I can see through the deception of this.

9:44 If your wife has a boyfriend, and she is devastated (which means she was in love with that boyfriend) when they break up, you are not the center of her heart. And as you have your girlfriend as well, the same is true of you. These folks are just like the aristocrats of old who married and then agreed to have mistresses and lovers on the side. This isn't new, it's very old. They share a home, and have mutual parentage responsibilities, but their emotional engagement with each other is probably more like a "friends with benefits" arrangement. They seem amiable people, but it's likely they may not know devotion.

Not sure this is about love so much as lust. Nicole moves out and the other two are immediately screwing other people. The cycle never slows down. This lifestyle is certainly an option for good-looking people who have very high sex drives and the need to have new, frequent (or just extra) partners. Like randy teenagers. Is that love though? And does it show unselfish maturity considering there's a child in the house? Also, that artwork above the couch... that little boy is growing up and will be embarrassed bringing friends home. (Side question: does he? I worry about the kids in these situations.) I find it all a bit narcissistic and self-involved, that's just my opinion... but hey it's the internet.

Mostly concerned for their son.

Not fun for the child who probably doesn't want the whole world to know about his parents sex life... 🙄 I hope he won't get bullied because of this.

It doesn't look as if the married couple really love each other or care very much about each other. They both seem to be in love with the Australian girl. Maybe they are just staying together for the sake of their son.

I guess I’m too old fashioned…….I find this mind boggling!

Wilbur is female.

I am confused. When asked about the marriage, they said it all happened so fast, but they have a 7 year old son and they have been married for 6 years ...???? This is not really complicated. These people have removed intimacy and love from sex and made sex into simply recreational activity. They say they watched their parents lie about things that they should not have been doing and it hurt them. So we will just do those wrong things out in the open and it will not hurt our child. 🤣🤣🤣

They all seem lost to me

I am just aghast that you all wear your shoes in the house!!

I'm too jealous and insecure for a relationship like this.😊

I can’t say that I understand this, but to each his/her own! Who am I to judge?

Why even get married? Will be interesting to see these same people in thirty years lo l

This isn't a marriage. And that poor little boy.

All I keep thinking is 1) Wilbur needs a proper mud pen!! 2) What is the cat’s name?!?!

I actually find this couple to be extremely facetious. These types of relationships are pretty selfish. They benefit the married couple but not the third person at all. It’s completely sexual in nature.

These people are the most attractive britts i've ever seen.

Couldn’t live that lifestyle but I’d love to follow all three of them just to see where they all end up

Experimenting is all i think of this three way relationship. Its the surface level attraction and being turned on by one another they are confusing with commitment and real feelings. Often a denial of your authentic self because it brings up too many painful memories. Promiscuity has its roots in trauma. The child is the sad victim who didn't invite this. Hope he grows up happy and not confused about love if he chooses monogamy.

They all seems happy. Who are we to judge. Iam happy for them.

Wouldn't it be nice if you were with someone who treats you like a princess, will share intimate moments only both of you do and is not willing to share you with everybody?

The interviewer is wow! Interesting interview, well done and what a look into a different relationship scenario.

This would bother me less if there wasn’t a child involved. Like do what you want but if there’s a kid, they need stability, not people coming and going and confusion. This poor kid

Really yucky energy here. The real truth is that, while all people have free will and are able to make a choice about what kind of relationship they have, there is only one true relationship meant for each of us and that is with our soulmate. This concept is so terrifying to many people that the mere mention of is sends them into a rage, because there is a lot of terror about not having control about our very humaneness, having to surrender to the fact that we are as we are, that we have an eternal soul and that God exists. But after the tantrum about it, feeling all the grief and fear, when surrender comes, you realize it's the single most fulfilling thing in life, beyond anything except our relationship with God. There is this one person that is all the things we never knew we needed and wanted and is so perfectly suited for us because we literally share a soul. When someone says something like, "I've always noticed I'm turned on by other women being attracted to my man," there are deep emotional injuries from childhood that have not been felt. One does not become a 15 year old runaway and sexworker because they're "independent." On the scale of dysfunctional behavior, it is on the far end of the continuum. It's astounding how unaware everyone in this family is of just basic psychology, or that they came from parents who cheated or that this is in fact not working for them, or that making a whole show about their intimate relationship may have a strong backlash on their young child when others start talking to him about it. Absolutely clueless. To be so detuned from that grief, shame and fear that it turns into pathology of this level takes a profound suppression of emotion. It is a powerful use of free will in the wrong direction that will produce pain and suffering the likes of which this young couple cannot even fathom yet. The damage to other, most notably their child will be epic and will take even more work now to heal the unloving choice they have made. If you feel attracted to these things, stop and feel into the pain beneath it all. It will be well worth it.

One thing I’ve learned as I’ve seen alternative sexual lifestyles is once someone leaves a monogamous marriage between a man and a woman, they have left the true purpose of marriage, which is unity and selflessness, charity and love. It then becomes about personal sexual desires. And once someone has turned from marriage between a man and a woman, sexual boundaries are completely fluid and can turn more sinister, even reaching .pdf ilia.

This is weird. It will never end well. Please leave Stanley out of it, he deserves better parents than these two.

I wonder what their childhoods were like, and what they're overcompensating for. Also, if kids are in the picture, this changes things. Also, when his wife is wooed by a smoking hot guy who is rich, he may change his mind. This is too much of a power struggle.

Interesting life concept! Minute 27'05": cool foot tatoo french "J'adore"!... I love British English accent!

That poor kid, growing up thinking this is normal or ok.

It's a bit sad that in her questions Stacey only touched on the very superficial layer of such a relationship only trying to confirm or contradict the very stereo types discussed when talking about such relationships. Plus, it was too exclusively focused on the "the guy in Australia" aspect of this very particular throuple ...... I would have liked to hear more and better understand aspects such as: is this polyamory relationship primarily defined by the sexual aspects involved; how and where does emotional love come in and in which ways? What are the aspects that make you decide to cohibit thus sharing lives 24/7 instead of just meeting for dates? What requirements are necessary to ensure that the marriage does not get strained? Emotionally but also very pragmatically and concrete ..... In this episode, the aspect of jealousy or emotional struggles were nearly entirely negated, but in reality I know that it is an aspect that needs to be constructively dealt with through a lot of exchange and concrete agreements and plans. Also the aspect of dealing with the child was answered in a rather abstract manner with very little concrete plans and decisions being presented. I am not saying that they were not there, but it would have been interesting to dig deeper to get a better picture. All together, all of the people present seemed yery nice and positive with Cathy being visibly affected by the current state of events. I wish them all the best.

I am not judging their lifestyle; whatever floats their boat doesn’t bother me. However, I am a stickler for correct usage of grammar; let’s not call it polyamorous, as that implies love and I doubt that they “love” any of these casual encounters. The correct word would be promiscuous

normlazing the unormail becoming very normal nowadays. which is scary

Personally I dislike the way Stacey is very kind and says things like "fascinating" "amazing" when they are explaining how their relationships work, but when I saw the documentary about the trad wife, she was more condescending most of the time... Sad how we have lost common morals and values...

First time ever seeing this series and can say it’s refreshing to see a young, good looking, polyamorous couple open about their relationship. Thomas & Cathy seem like laid back, lovely people and both are hot! I relate to Cathy in the way where jealousy doesn’t affect me like it might for others. For me it’s also a turn on. I believe this is called compersion.

The feeling of excitement for your partner or partners having other romantic attachments is called compersion. Compersion is actually just the opposite of jealousy and anyone can experience this emotion: Envy: Wishing to have something you don't have but you know someone else has. Jealousy: Being upset when someone else's joy doesn't come from yourself. Compersion: Being happy for someone's experience of joy regardless of the source of that joy. Examples: Envy: You want the Tesla that Sarah has. Jealousy: Sarah buys a Tesla and she is more excited about buying her Tesla than she was about the Gucci purse you gave her for Christmas so you feel she's unappreciative and it's not fair that she likes the Tesla more. Compersion: Sarah likes the Gucci purse, but she's more excited about the Tesla she's buying. You don't take it personally and are just happy that Sarah likes the present you gave her and are also happy that she's excited about buying her Tesla. Everyone can experience any or all of these emotions, not everyone experiences them all nor at the same intensity, but it ranges per person. Monoamorous people naturally experience more jealousy and envy when it comes to their romantic relationships. Polyamorous people tend to experience more compersion in romantic relationships. Ambiamorous or other amorous people can experience a range of these emotions depending on the person, situation, or intensity of their emotions. This is why polyamory is actually called a relationship orientation (yes, it's an orientation) because you're feelings are based on your values and what feels best for you and often this can be developed in childhood. As she described, polyamorous people experience natural compersion and excitement for partners and we have always been that way since childhood. It effects how we love in all relationships, not just romantic ones. We can feel this compersion with multiple friends, siblings, parents, and it extends to partners. It's important to understand this is a NATURAL emotion, not learned. Not everyone is or can be polyamorous, just as not everyone is or can be monoamorous. Not everyone experiences jealousy just as not everyone experiences compersion. Others may experience both or neither and at different intensities. Understanding this, if you have complete jealousy, then you can't fall in love with multiple people because your focus can only take one in a healthy manner. If you experience complete compersion, then it's difficult to focus that emotion onto one person. A person who experiences an experience in the middle of these emotions may have more control over how they can formulate relationships between one or more people, causing it to feel more like a choice (ambiamorous people). These emotions play a huge roll in someone's relationship orientation. This doesn't mean polyamorous people can't get jealous or monoamorous people can't feel compersion, it just means that jealousy comes more naturally for monoamorous people and compersion comes more naturally for polyamorous people. While too much jealousy is bad (you don't want to go as far as to own or control someone so they can't have friends or isolating them to just be around and do things with only you), only intense jealousy needs to be and can be worked on. Some jealousy can help with your boundaries. So, if you experience a healthy amount of jealousy and it's helping you keep up boundaries in your relationships, then keep at it. Don't listen to polyamorous people who say, "We just need to work on our jealousy." Often times, we think jealousy stems from insecurities and while it can (especially for polyamorous people where jealousy is unnatural until and unless trauma occurs), many polyamorous people tend to ignore the fact that jealousy can be natural even without trauma and that monoamorous people have it naturally. It's because it's telling you that something doesn't make you comfortable in the situation and as long as that emotion doesn't overstep other people's boundaries, then you are entitled to adhere to your jealousy. I'm not sure why polyamorous people ignore this as though we can understand what it's like to be monoamorous. All these emotions are valid just as all orientations are valid. Anyways, just thought I'd explain compersion, the relationship orientation spectrum a bit, and why we experience more compersion as well as why monoamorous people experience more jealousy.

This type of relationship seems like it’s very time consuming, why add chaos to your life, I don’t see how they get the time to do this extra relationship stuff esp when they have a child, and work. It must take time away from their marriage. ???

Nobody is going to talk about the "art" above the sofa in a home with a Child 😳 wtf

This stems from insecurities this is what i call lust not love...when you truly love someone you're not going to be with other ppl they are lost and this is a recipe for disaster.

If Stanley loves Nicole ,what happens when she decides to leave .?

The big issue is diseases. Condoms prevent some, but many are transmitted skin to skin contact.

Wilbur reminds more so much of Winnie my chocolate pit bull who is so sweet they could be twins❤

This isn’t a marriage. Do what you want but don’t get married and make a mockery out of it.

So basically it is a marriage in which both can cheat... These kind of relationships never work out long term,..

The parents don't love eachother they are just using eachother , the other girl seems just young and nieve and they child will absolutely be truamatised in my opinion.

Why is the presenter telling more about her thoughts about the relationship than she let the throuple talk about their actual relationship?

We need a follow up now and an interview of the boy

Thanks!

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I really don't get it personally, but I respect it in that they seem to be very respectful of one another and caring and all are okay with it. That's what is most important.

The guys seems more into the red head that his wife (have seen any affection from him to his wife throughout), red head seems more into the wife emotionally but into the guy sexually, wife seems like she could want monogamy, but doesn’t wanna have a broken home.

This lifestyle is incredibly selfish. It's prioritizing sex and excitement above all other values in life. It certainly isn't in the best interest of their child.

Totally disgusting They need to focus on being Parents- not promiscuous partners. What example are they setting for their kid. This is so bad

They also aren't teaching their child self-sacrifice. What it is to put everything else above yourself. I think that is what's wrong in "Western" culture.

This is what childhood trauma does to you

The wife seems off to me… she comes across quite narcissistic/insecure. Her husband always has a look of discomfort when talking about their situation.

None of them looks particularly happy, even if that's what they claim, and it seems to me there's impending doom written all over this nonsensical lifestyle.

As an Asian its nearly criminal to watch this and think that this can happen in our society too 😂😂

I struggle to understand open relationships in this day and age. My view is that sex is reserved for the marriage bed, a gift from God.