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i my case male to male intimacy connected at a raw level where female intimacy connects with me in a nurturing way - I've come to find I need both since coming out as bi in my mid- 40s. It's not about what is 'better' - but the need to experience both at different levels - either romantically or not. Great video Mark!! :)

Hello. Bi guy here. I was in a friendzone with a girl I was in love, but over time we just became friends amd we still are. At one point I came out to her, telling her I am bisexual. She offered to introduce me to a gay friend of her and I started more and more to have deep feelings for him. So, we became a couple. 😊 I have a boyfriend now, I love him a lot. I am thankful for her introducing me to him. I have no regrets that I couldn't be together with the girl. If I could go back, I wouldn't change a thing

The question of "Preferences" has been quite a point of tension each time I think of it. As a 15-year-old teen, I recently came to terms with my sexuality and came out as gay, because after a period of careful reasoning and analyzing past experiences, I realized that I was more turned on by the same gender and I also frequently have same-sex fantasies. So for the most part I too can relate to that "dirty mystique" you mentioned. I'm into men both romantically and sexually, but I also think I'm more homoromantic than homosexual. But unlike my other gay friends at school, I didn't feel so straightforward like them in choosing my gender preferences, and each time I felt more confused and obsessed. Since recently, I've been turned on by women too, and that feeling is also kinda strong... so that's when I came back to the questioning table again and realized as bisexual. When I looked back into my past childhood again, I realized that I have indeed felt for women too, especially teachers, more emotionally. But I have to mention your channel has been really helpful with my own self-reflection. Especially this video. Most of your experiences and feelings do relate to mine. I feel happy that I identify myself as queer or bisexual now because it gives me freedom and much relief. THANK YOU SO MUCH!

Women are better at advice, and tend to be more understanding. I think men are more complete and confident and more dominant and tend to be more stable overall. some women can be difficult to get along with, which turns me off

I'm ngl, I tend to prefer men because on dating apps with us not knowing each other yet they are more likely to be accepting of who I am. Whereas with women who see me as a cishet male they are more likely to reject me off of gender and sexuality stuff that will eventually come up. Purely physical attraction wise it's hard to say. I find fewer men attractive than women, but I think that's mainly because society kind of forces men to present and act in a certain way (i.e. masc not femm) in order to just exist.

I don't know if I like one over the other. Now I'm having a little personal crisis because I can't choose. Very bi of me.

Another great video dude! The whole fantasy vs reality thing happened to me too, and I think happens to a lot of bi/bicurious guys. But I do feel the need to say something, as I believe many bisexual guys view this incorrectly - but just because you find both sexes sexually/romantically attractive, DOESN'T mean you HAVE to act on it if you are in a loving monogamous relationship. I'm bi (but much more attracted to women), and from time to time there will be a guy I find cute, or I have a fantasy. But when I was with my ex, I never once thought I NEED to have sex with a guy, as she was totally enough for me, and no guy could compete with her attraction/personality. Moral of the story - if you feel the need to have sex with both when in a loving relationship (and against your partners wish), then you are either not in the right relationship, not into one sex as much as you thought, not ready for a monogamous relationship (or not suited to one), or you have unresolved issues you need to work out. But I really loved your point about self-worth and confidence. I'd love to see some studies on this, but I really do think bi guys have lower than average self-esteem (especially around women), and this can totally impact your sexual life with women. In other words, if you feel like you are not enough of a man to have great sex with a woman, or if you are internally conflicted about whether you prefer men or women, OF COURSE you aren't going to be able to have optimal sex. Great sex only comes when YOU ARE AT EASE, and CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF :)! But as you pointed out, finding the right girl who accepts you for who you are REALLY makes a difference. Sorry for caps locks haha, but again, great video man :).

This wass so beautifulll ♥️.... I felt as if I am hearing my own story from someone else's mind...... Thanks for building up a space for bi and queer kins to dive deep in their own experiences and understand them better.... Love youuu ☘️

I once heard someone respond to this question simply by saying men and women are like apples and oranges to them. I didn’t think any further elaboration was needed, as it was such a great and simple way to sum out how it feels to me haha

I’m glad you had more positive experiences with women in relationships, my experiences have always been negative and rejection whereas men have always made me feel loved and accepted. It’s probably why I lean more gay than straight. But I really like to spend time and chat with women.

This is so beautiful, sensitive and raw. I feel so touched about it. And, you talking about the love of your life, it's so beautiful...

always love your videos they make my day, ad alot of your sentiments always resonate

We are always a mystery, but it's great to get to the point of knowing yourself better. Good luck and be very happy in your life. It is always necessary to make choices, but they do not necessarily have to be definitive.

Thank you for making these great videos. I feel that I’m not alone in this world. After viewing your videos, I decide to come to terms with myself and start to realize that life is a journey waiting to be explored. There is nothing wrong being one way or another, it is how we live and explore different aspects of our lives that enrich our life experience. Thank you Mark.

Wow! Thank you for this story!!! I seriously want to cry. Thank you for sharing..

Beautiful story ❤. I'm watching this from Sydney. Definitely a fan

Your story really resonated with me, thanks for sharing.

I absolutely love theses videos and I believe I might be bisexual 💗💜💙

Wow. Hugs 🤗 from Argentina ❤ thanks for sharing

This has been something I’ve been asking myself for a while. I remember when I was in elementary school, I was into girls, but only rarely. I only remember having 2 or 3 actually girl crushes at school. But starting in the 6th grade I started to develop feelings for boys. I remember when I was 14 and learning what androgynous was, and holy shit. I’m currently 17, almost 18, and I think I prefer men because I often have more fantasies about men. But I’m still young, so I could become straight or gay (or stay bisexual) whenever I start to actually experiment. I’m just happy there’s other people that have similar experiences

I enjoy your videos, but could you possibly increase the sound! Even with ear buds I miss some of what you say, and it's frustrating... 😞

I love you and your content so much! I love bisexual men! They are so open-minded and affirming. I used to identify as a bisexual guy before I transitioned. Before I realized I was a woman, I experienced a similar connection to women (emotional love) and men (forbidden, physical love). I've only had sex with men, most of whom identify as bi. I am not exclusively one thing or another like you were saying in the video. I am a gender-diverse [trans] woman. My pronouns are she/her. I stopped using she/they because people did not respect the feminine pronouns as much as the neutral ones. I prefer men. I want a man or a boyfriend. However, I have loved women before I became or knew I was one, and I still do. I look forward to spending quality time with a significant other who encourages me to embrace my queerness and transness and vice versa. I would love to meet you one day. Yes, I can also agree that I am more than a man or a woman, straight or gay. I am on the fluid and bi+ spectrum, and I love who I love. I am open to that. We are whole as we are!

People never "get it" unless they are....Sexuality is fluid not Concrete.

I prefer women, but the person that I’m seriously dating now is a male. My preference is what it is but it’s really about the connection you have with that particular person. Sounds cliche but it’s true.

Let me start with a disclaimer that I am not judging you, rather asking a question because I do not understand and genuinely seek an knowledge. You stated that you "found the love of your life". If that is true, why were you looking at anyone else (male or female)? When I found my "Mr. Right", I wouldn't even consider anyone else. Is it that you wanted sexual intimacy with both genders even though you had a commitment?

I'm probably coming across as the north end of a south bound bull, but the colours of your nails seems like a bit in conflict of the rest of your colour scheme? Intentional? breaking the pattern? I dress like a mess, so I am in no position to judge...., oh, and I still have no new words that starts with bi that I can work a wordplay with. binoculars? idk