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I'm laughing so hard at the bi and pan comic because my brain automatically read "smooching noises! smooching noises! these are the noises of smooching!" in OT's voice.

So I have a cute and funny story related to the last comic. I have a bi friend that tends to lean mostly sapphic in her affections. After quite a while of dating pretty much just girls, she met a sweet young man at a ren fair kind of place and they started dating. Some years later, the egg cracked. When my friend's partner came out to her, her response to her girlfriend was to stare blankly for a moment and then say "goddamn, maybe I really am just a lesbian". Turns out this is not the only person she has dated that turned out to be a trans woman not yet out of the closet. However, it did turn out to be the last. They are now grossly adorable wives that practice swordplay together and live with their big orange tom cat.

I had known someone for a year who had then identified as a lesbian girl (who was with a bi girl) but later came out as a trans guy. As I later said to him "so that means you're actually straight" he looked at me in utter surprise and said "Holy shit, you're right! I gotta tell my girlfriend!" which was adorable 😂

As an ace/aro, I am constantly TOLD that thats a mental illness and that I'm straight but being difficult or frigid or refusing to conform. How many times can you tell someone I'm not attracted to you at ANY level except maybe platonic? Why does that make me the inhumane and unnatural one? Plenty of others that ARE straight, go pester them. I just wont share my cake with you!

My brother and his friend had a running gag that his friend was gay for years because teenage boys. Then she came out to us as a trans lesbian and we were really like "SO WE WERE RIGHT!". We love her

Two things: The trans ≠ straight things has happened to me, I told my mom I had a lesbian friend and she was so confused because the friend was also trans. She was also *concerned* because I had had crushes on two trans people?? And then! Recently, my aunt came out as trans, and it's super sweet, my other aunt is super supportive and they still have such a sweet relationship, even if the cis aunt struggles with getting things right 100% of the time

When people ask me and/or my wife who "the man" is in the relationship, we respond; "we are both "the girl" in the relationship, that's kind of the point" 😉

My daughter is a lesbian and I've had people say, "she could still change her mind." Like, nah, I've known since she was 10.

I've always imagined that gaydar would sound like a soft, questioning "heeeeeeey?" and the closer you get to the gay person it would be a loud, positive HAAAY! (like an enthusiastic one you'd shout at your friend when you are surprised to see them)

As pan person the nonstick pan joke was amazing

Fun fact: Defenestration is a word for the act of throwing something or someone out of a window.

I recently found out that I am also one of the asexuals who often don’t get the sexual meaning of things. My grandma kept talking about the nice man who moved in with their neighbor, played with her daughter and helped around the house. I thought for over two years that he was just living there. Turns out he‘s the neighbors boyfriend.

I like the name-changing booth idea. Before I knew I was trans (FTM), my brother and I would spin and it even had a whole theme song about changing names. When you wanted to change your name. We'd hold hands and spin around, and after a couple spins your name was magically changed singing: " at the name changing plaaaacceee". I had always hated my name. He is still amazing and we are very close. I am lucky.

I can understand the “technically or biologically” thing, although I ultimately disagree with that way of thinking about it. My fiancé is from a totally different culture than mine, so the topic of transness was pretty unfamiliar to him. He’s also REALLY analytically-minded. At first he did not understand why a trans guy would be gay if he likes guys and not straight because he’s like “well trans men and men, but being homosexual is about sex not gender” but when I compared it to adoption he understood perfectly. Because being a parent or being someone’s child is biological, it can also be social like with adoption. SOCIALLY they are parent and child and nobody is going to bring up biology because it’s irrelevant and hurtful to do so. They ARE parent and child. The same can be said about gay trans people. Why would we bring up a trans person’s biology every time their sexual orientation came up? That’s just rude and weird. We call them gay because socially, they are.

Matt Walsh recently made a video on aces and aros where he said literally all of the phobic stuff in that cartoon. It was the first time I've personally experienced arophobia so blatantly (yes, I know I'm lucky). But I figure if I'm pissing off Matt Walsh just by existing, that's a win, right?

This is a dumb story but I just remembered. I'm ace. And I was talking to a friend about TV shows I don't remember the specifics but he said. "There was a Bone Scene." and I got Excited because I thought he meant there was a scene in which the focus was Bones for some reason and after I got excited he had to clarify that he meant a Sex Scene because he knew there was no way I suddenly got hype about a sex scene. I don't usually think about being Ace very often but that was one of the very few moments that I became Painfully Aware of my Ace-hood.

LGBallT is just so adorable :D Also a Gaydar would definitely sound like a frog

LGBallT is so entertaining and adorable.

That last one really hit my heart. My late wife was straight and when I came out she struggled for a bit about what it meant to be a straight woman who was in love with a woman, but came to the conclusion that I was still the same person and she still loved me. We had planned on going out on a date together as a same gender couple once COVID had calmed down, but then she succumbed to the liver disease that had lain dormant in her for years.

Real talk though People are assholes We need to EXPAND the community NOT DESTROY it from within

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈 Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are! 🏳️‍🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜

I am Scottish and I am still proud of my country for supporting trans people.

as someone who identifies as pan, i would in fact love a panda and i DIED laughing at the non-stick pan one 🤣

I'm guessing the name shoppe thing was that the clerk went "really? That one again?" because Lily really sounds like it'd be real common among trans women, right up there with Lilith and Luna Don't worry girls I love that name too, I have a Hunter: the Reckoning character lined up whose name is Lily and I didn't even think of that when I wrote her. She also goes by Lilith when performing so I'm double dipping into that "popular trans girls' names" pile lmao

That last one with the couple reminds me of the Magnus Chase series by Rick Riordan (who wrote Percy Jackson - it's like that but Norse mythology)! *SPOILERS* There's a genderfluid character, and their love interest (who'd assumed he was a straight guy) ends up kissing them in both boy-mode and girl-mode and going "Oh, I guess I'm not as straight as I thought", it's so wholesome. Really recommend that series!

Ace woman giving lots of love and hugs to all of my LGBallT buddies. You are incredible and valid and I wish you all the good things in life. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

3:20 If I learned ONE THING from OT, it's sounds, so it clearly makes: *gaydar noises*. *gaydar noises*. *these are the sounds of a gaydar*. Edit: And now it's also in the video...

3:27 I'll just take the OT approach: Gaydar noises. Gaydar noises. Gaydar noises. These are the noises of a gaydar.

God I love the ace jokes they make in LGBallT! It makes me as happy as when I eat cake!

I'm trans myself (mtf) and I get so much crap from my customers no matter what I do but have learned there's nothing anyone can do to stop me from being me ❤

10:16 “transphobia fuckoffous” i love this so much 😭

The smallest things he says about the asexual balls like "I get it" feel just so meaningful and good. Thank you, Jamie!

10:44 As someone who's name is Lily, I feel honored that someone likes the name enough to choose it for themselves, but be prepared for it to ALWAYS be spelled as Lilly.

I started T three weeks ago, going to my parents' house tomorrow with a friend to tell them I'm trans after hiding it for 8 years wish me luck. cute video as always Jamie

love that OT reference at 5:05

My demiromantic panromantic asexual FtM trans heart exploding with deligh at seeing Jamie's latest video!

The last one reminded me of my wife and I. My wife is a trans women, when we were in high school our friend group called her a lesbian. It was just a joke at the time, now she's a lesbian. She told me that she actually liked that joke because it was gender confirming at a time before the egg cracked. Also when I came out to my mom about my wife being trans, she assumed we would break up. I was like "hell no what!? 🤨"

As a Pan ball, being called non-stick pan is much better than the usual get in the PANtry/kitchen/etc jokes

This doesn’t have anything to do with the video, but I want to tell someone, and it is lgbt related, so why not share it here. I’VE DECIDED TO COME OUT TO MY DAD OVER SPRING BREAK!! I’m so excited and so nervous but (unlike my mom) I think he’ll be supportive because as long as what we do isn’t illegal or really bad he doesn’t care what we do or who we are. Wish me luck y’all!!

As someone who only realized I am trans 5 days ago, the trans ball wearing the bi mask might just be the most relatable thing ever.

I was told in my childhood I wasn't feminine enough and was constantly shoved into dresses I hated. Now I came out as trans male (still a process😅) and have happily given my dresses to a queer friend of mine who loves them. Can't wait to get my new wardrobe of male clothes😍 Screw my parents. I've been much more mentally stable and stress less since I came out cause I know where they stand.

I'm very aroace, but I do experience a weird sort of attraction that I just call celebrity crushes. I mentioned to a friend "I feel weirdly attracted to big doofuses named Brad, and aloof bass players named Rob, and Hannah Gadsby," and she, without pause, said, "You're a nonstick pan." Funniest thing anyone's ever said to me, more nonstick pan jokes, please!

That last one reminds me of when I came out to my boyfriend almost 2 years ago. He is straight, I am a trans guy. He asked me what I wanted to do with transition and I told him I only wanted top surgery and hormones. He sat on that for a while before asking if I wanted bottom surgery. I told him I didnt because the results that I've seen just look like they'd give me more dysphoria. "I think we can still make this work. I'm not into guys but I still love you and that will never change. If you do decide you want to get bottom surgery I will break up with you, but i will always be here for you and take care of you during recovery". I still don't want bottom surgery and we are still together. It was awkward at first because he wasnt all that comfortable with calling me his boyfriend. But almost 2 years later that's all he calls me. Anytime he says my deadname is when I specifically ask him to, other than that he only ever calls me Adam or an asshole hhaa. Hes not sexually attracted to men, I understand that, but I am so happy he found it in his heart to still love me even though I'm a guy

The gaydar noise would obviously be "I was born this way" by Lady Gaga

2:04 this reminds me when my friends were playing egyptian war (or russian war. i’ve heard it both ways). one rule is if it’s a joker then you can slap it immediately and you get the cards. a lot of us would hit the aces because at first glance they looked like jokers. so after a couple times of that happening i said “the aces are very slappable” and my friend (who i’ve come out to) fake slapped me. i was confused for a couple seconds then realized she’s slapping me because i’m ace and yk lol. i still find it so funny. good memories.

Hi Jammie with the help of you this morning I came out as "Non Binary" and I originally found out about your channel from the original r/LGBallT and I'm happy that on this day you posted this, It makes my day. 😊

2:24 that's not a bi ball, that's actually a cis ball. The cis flag is pink and blue, while the bi flag is pink, purple, and blue. Just wanted to let u know :)

When I came out to my friends as NB, they all told me "oh yeah, we already knew, we were just waiting for you to be ready to tell us" and it honestly made me cry 🥺

2:17 This is so painfully accurate and I just sent it to my best friend (trans) and my partner and now we’re all laughing 😂 I even asked my friend if she made it because we’ve had talks just like this 🤣

I use both pan and bi to describe myself, and once my uncle said to me "so if gay people have gaydar, do pan people get panavision?" amd it was the first pan pun that i actually laughed at because it was the first unique one i heard

The nonstick pan joke is perfection.

10:49 They don't look mad, just kinda let down. Because Lily is by far the most common name for transfems, apparently. And the name shoppe was hoping for this one to choose something more original.

Really needed this video today, being reminded why you've cut off certain ppl in your life always hurts. Glad I chose peace of mind and self respect over false harmony. I refuse to let others make me doubt who I am. Thank you Jamie!

I identify as bi but every time I hear someone identify as pan I just get all 😍👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 It's like seeing your twin sibling be great

10:55 WHAT THE FRICK that's my comic😭i would have necer expected to ever appear in a video omg❤i'm literally screaming

i think the name store with the name lily is just that it's an extremely common choice for transfems. lily or luna seem to be like, the go-to names for so many girls lol so it's kinda like going to a nice restaurant and ordering a cheeseburger. but hey, if that's what you like, go for it!

9:35 reminds me a lot of my rabbi I had always worn a dress to synagogue (I was allowed a suit or anything as long as it was dressed up) but after not going for an entire summer (and coming out and slowly gaining acceptance w/ fam) I showed up in a button up and slacks, he pulled me aside after service and was like “is your name still *deadname*?” When I said no and he confirmed I was a boy (I’m now aware I’m enby-ish) he lectured both mom and I about how scholars are reviewing and realizing the Torah isn’t homophobic and stuff. I was very sweet 💜💜

6:47 i want a hug from the support team :)

4:04 I see this as like “oh wait you weren’t already out-? Oh okay cool 👍🏻”

Anyone else read the [smooching sounds] in OT's voice? [Smooching noises! Smooching noises! This is the sound of smooching!]

Here's a *virtual hug* for anyone who needs/wants one

If I can offer you a glimmer of hope on Trans in politics over in the US. In Nebraska, a senator is fillibusting (using the entire time she can debate to waste time) every single proposed bill in order to keep a bill that would ban gender affirming care from passing.

disabled enby panesxual here, me and my mom have been watching you for years and your more precious than i can explain. i'm so happy we can all say aww with you and at you it truly brightens my day

I love LGBallT!

I realized recently at 30 that I am trans. Already knew I was aroace, but it's been quite a journey.

3:36 “gaydar noises, gaydar noises, these are the noises of a gaydar” ala OneTopic

The "Lily" one referred to Lily being a super popular and common name in the transfem community. Probably roughly the equivalent of Kai for trans dudes.

7:20 "somewhere over the rainbow 🏳️‍🌈"

Lovely video! I wanted to mention that right now there is a Trans book/author readathon going on in the bookish community! On the week of the 20th of March, people will be reading as many books by trans authors or with trans rep in them as they can and pledging donations to causes that help trans people- specifically in the U.S. right now. If you want some recommendations for this, here they are: Specifically books that include trans rep: Hell followed with us, Her Majesty’s Royal Coven, Cemetery Boys, and Felix Ever After! Plus Jammie’s book of course- Overall queer rep: Our Wives Under the Sea, Priory of the Orange Tree (and it’s sequel), We Have Always Been Here, Swimming in the Dark, Call Me By Your Name, This is How You Lose a Time War, The Binding, The Drowning Empire trilogy, She Who Became the Sun (and it’s sequel coming out in August!!), The Starless Sea, These Violent Delights, The Jasmine Throne, Six of Crows, Song of Achilles, Heartstopper, It Came From the Closet, and Red, White, and Royal Blue. Wow that was a lot to type lol that’s all folks! Have a wonderful day ❤️🏳️‍⚧️

I can tell you and OT are friends because I see you adopting each other's jokes

As a trans mom I offer virtual mom hugs to all who need them

I’m actually going to my first protest later this month, which I’m kind of helping organize actually! I’ve actually got a zoom call with the organization today, really hope it goes well and i’m super excited and scared at the same time lil

These are literally the best and after the day I've been having, genuinely need the laughter. Thank you, Jamie, for providing

OMG 9:21 IS MY COMICCCCCC. never thought i would be in one of jammis videos, even if it is in comic form :D (also don't worry, that was one of the experiences i had when i was like 16-17, i'm almost 23, my uncle is still wonderful and my mom is getting there as well 😊) edit: and also yes jammi, that's exactly how i imagine confused but happy trans noises sound like haha

I‘m bi and my partner is pan so the smootching balls really made me happy 🥰

My husband (Ace) laughed soooo hard at the "Actually, people are getting colder" one... it's so true! He is wonderfully oblivious sometimes, but at least no longer feels like there's something wrong with him. We're proof that those who are bi and ace can blend perfectly 🥰

7:11 The only phobia not bad... ARACHNOPHOBIA! (Im trying to make a joke, since the comic before is sad...)

6:03 "you'll be forever alone" Me, an aroace: uh yeah, thats like the whole point? Edit: in terms of relationships, which is what the first thing usually implies. I can still move in with an aro-buddy and get a cat.

8:12 pun loving pan with a ace bestie, i love it

3:14 well can't be that annoying of a joke because we called our local non-binary youth group that. The EnBees

I never thought a ball could be so relatable… goodness. Also: thank you for the hair advice on twitch Jamie! The VO5 got my hair looking great. 🏳️‍⚧️

It’s strange that I’m not bitter; I’m one of the ones that it unfortunately didn’t work out when I came out as trans, my partner was (still is lol) a lesbian and she fought very hard to find her own label and just couldn’t get past me being a man/transmasc to continue the romantic part of our relationship. I think I was the only one who wasn’t mad at her about it, because like…I mean, I get it. It took a lot for me to come to terms with being bi and trans, the relationship I have with my gender and my sexuality makes it easier for me to respect others who draw hard lines in the sand. And it’s not like she didn’t support my transition! She’s still my best friend and my soul mate, we’re just platonic now 😊 it took a while to be Okay, I won’t lie, it’s not like it was fine overnight. But you *can* get past it if y’all really are friends at the heart of your relationship. All that being said, yeah, it *is* a lot cuter when it works out for both parties.

It's uncanny how much you remind me of my oldest brother. (he was a good looking guy, it is a compliment). One of the answers to Transphobia is education. You're doing your part. Good video.

I love the OT reference in the one with the bisexual and pansexual balls

Lily is a pretty stereotypical transgirl name in the USA, apparently, hence the frown, as it's meant to be like, "You've these many options but go with a basic one"

Hello Jammi and my fellow Spuds! I hope your days are well! I'm just sitting here feeling like absolute GENDER, so you can imagine how my day is going. Don't forget to drink water, eat something healthy, and get a good nights sleep tonight, okay? I love you all, don't forget that ❤ Oh, and have a strawberry! They promote self-love

I relate a lot to the last memes as I am a gay person who had crushes with transfemmes and enbies pre transition and I figured this attraction will go away but it didn't and I'm like : guess I'm a bit bisexual now :p Here are hugs if you want some.

That comic with the bi ball and the straight that then realizes its ACE is EXACTLY what happened to me!

“Yeet that chair” -Jamie 2023

11:08 my friend's girlfriend when someone asked if she was cis. She's was like 'Oh, shit! Maybe not!'

aww no Jamie showed the old comic! (11:50) I have remade it also that is the heteroflexible flag, not ally

lesbian here to give all my fellow members of the alphabet some love! just a reminder that you are valid, you are enough, and everything is going to be okay one day 🥰🌈

9:29 right here I relate my sister dose something like that a nickname she calls me and it warms my heart it’s something you call a man and I all ways make weird noises

I'm a bisexual who married a pansexual. We talked about our identities, understand why we chose the label we chose, and we are both cool with it. I just feel more comfortable calling myself bisexual than pansexual but I totally respect my partner and anyone who feels more comfortable with the pansexual label. It's all love in the end!

Hey, y'all, this is unrelated to the video, but I wanted to post it somewhere it will hopefully get seen. I've noticed a lot of comments from teens saying they want to read Jamie's book when it comes out, but they can't buy it or bring it into the house because of their parents. I hope some of you might have a local library you can get to that will carry it, and you can read it there. To that end, I've suggested it to my librarian cousin (they/them), and they are going to make sure it gets into the library they work at in Chicago. I am also about to contact my own library system in Albuquerque and see if they will accept a couple of copies as a donation (I can't see why they wouldn't). To anyone else out there who is in a position to do so, consider donating a copy of Jamie's book to your own local library. If you can't donate, you can still contact them and ask them to carry it. Let's try to get it into as many libraries as possible, so that young people who wouldn't otherwise be able to read it can have a chance to.

>accepting-Mom-hugs here< You are valid and worthy and loveable!

Just came out as ftm to my mom & currently hiding in my room, she's ok with it yes, but I'm still scared & your videos have been a huge help, I'm so glad I found you channel, alot of the time your videos always find a way to make me happy

4:51 as a bisexual with a pansexual sibling i can confirm that the only thing we're at war about is who gets to shower first

Gaydar is the feeling of feeling safe, it’s a sign the persons either lgbtq and/or neurodivergent for me, so it wouldn’t make a sound, but I think I’d smell cookies 😅