a quiet morning in a cabin by the woods
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Loneliness is a feeling most of us experience at some point in our lives. I have always believed loneliness is an emotion, not a location. Being alone with ones thoughts can be quite comforting for many, including myself, and if your internal life in enriched, solitude can be a haven of tranquility. In my individual case, resolving my feelings of aloneness was by reaching out to others, but also nourishing my spirit with quality time alone. For many years I didn’t want to accept my introversion and forced myself to socialize to the point of feeling burned out. My relationships benefit me far more now because I make the effort to connect every day and also to listen to my need for time to recharge. Everything is a balance, and everyone is unique - I encourage you to embrace your journey of discovery. Every story takes time to unravel.
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Once, a former coworker of mine admitted to me that she struggled with constantly getting caught up in gossip and drama within her relationships. She felt like her world was always tumultuous, and she didn’t know how to cultivate stable bonds with her friends and lovers. I was able to observe her over several years and how she made the decision to stop investing such an enormous amount of time in people that made her feel chaotic. Instead, interestingly enough, she started studying anthropology, a topic that had always interested her but she had never taken the time to learn. She got involved in a baking club, learned to knit. She was always excited to tell me about what she had recently learned or about a new recipe she had discovered. Her choice of conversational topics was no longer the most recent disaster in her personal life. She even mentioned one day that gossip had started to feel meaningless, and that she couldn’t believe that only a few months ago what other people thought of her was at the forefront of her mind. During this time, she struggled with loneliness, since she had stopped spending time with certain friends she didn’t think influenced her in a positive way. But she also felt more at peace and - for the first time - hopeful about a future where she could slowly but surly build the life and relationships she had always wanted in her heart. Over time, she met new people that suited her and resolved that sense of instability and loneliness. She’s a mother and artist now, and as far as I know incredibly happy. It was beautiful to see her bloom and embrace the idea that loneliness isn’t always a bad thing, but can inspire incredible change.
@TheCottageFairy 2 жыл бұрын
I got to visit a home that belongs to my boyfriends family, it is a beautiful old cabin that was a joy to spend time in. It was pleasure to get to know his family better and explore the seaside. I am excited to share more next week 🤍 Loneliness is a feeling most of us experience at some point in our lives. I have always believed loneliness is an emotion, not a location. Being alone with ones thoughts can be quite comforting for many, including myself, and if your internal life in enriched, solitude can be a haven of tranquility. In my individual case, resolving my feelings of aloneness was by both reach out to others, but also nourishing my spirit with quality time alone. For many years I didn’t want to accept my introversion, and forced myself to socialize to the point of feeling burned out. My relationships benefit me far more now because I make the effort to connect every day, and also to listen to my need for time to recharge. Everything is a balance, and everyone is unique - I encourage you to embrace your journey of discovery. Every story takes time to unravel.
@beichoolee8691 2 жыл бұрын
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@liz_21 2 жыл бұрын
So true. 🤍
@julietamalo6881 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing the experience and insights. This is a beautiful video and I love it. Blessings to you 🙏💐
@lakemichigan6598 2 жыл бұрын
I am definitely an extrovert but, like you, I benefit greatly from taking time to be alone. I seem to find contentment whether it's a full engagement in society all the way down to all by myself. In this I know I've got it good and am grateful for such a fortunate state of being. Very pleased to see you're so aware of & have come so happily to terms with who you are.
@melissad.5063 2 жыл бұрын
you are saying just how i feel! Thank you for making me feel more normal or at least not alone!
@spinstercatlady 2 жыл бұрын
I live a quiet, blessedly singular life with my cats and home and garden and I am incredibly happy. Alone doesn't always mean lonely. Particularly if you've learned to enjoy your own company and the peace of solitude then there's not that desire for constant action and interaction. Lovely vlog 🐦💜
@pamelapinto2245 2 жыл бұрын
I realized only in the recent two years how important the word " acceptance" is in my life. I have finally "accepted" that it is okay for me to be alone, have few friends and live a peaceful and restful life with my husband. It is okay that I do not wish to he running to-and-fro every day. I have mostly everything I need right here at home. God's blessings are all around us if we but open our eyes to see the glorious richness and beauty He has for us.
@terrilynn8770 2 жыл бұрын
I agree
@hkaur2406 2 жыл бұрын
Lovely lines.
@suemcknight9051 2 жыл бұрын
@Shawna Johnson… thank you 😊…you have put into words pretty much exactly how I feel as well (including living with a sweet, aging formally-feral kitty 🐱).
@spinstercatlady 2 жыл бұрын
@@pamelapinto2245 absolutely! I think just "being" is as important as always "doing". A meaningful life can be had without ever leaving your own backyard, and there's so many ways to help and contribute locally. As a wise lady once said, "There's no place like home" 😉
@karinfelner5277 2 жыл бұрын
Introverted people are led to feel a sense of otherness and loneliness because society over-values extroversion as being the ideal type of character, and downplays introversion as something negative, almost a mental health problem. Why? I believe it's simply because introverted people are less likely to dominate public opinion due to their tendency to being calmer, quieter, less prone to override other people's opinions, and tend to prefer silence over defending their own point of views. As a result, it is the extroverted point of view that dominates public opinion, and as extroverted people often struggle to understand or appreciate the introverted mind, they, and hence public opinion, treats introversion unfavourably. Instead, both types of character are two opposites that complement each other, each with their own qualities and limitations.
@Ladylovesdogs 2 жыл бұрын
Well said 💙💙
@EE-hi4re 2 жыл бұрын
Well said
@consciousobserver629 2 жыл бұрын
Beautifully written (unsurprisingly lol). My oldest sister and her husband have been very vocal about their political views, by and large trashing so many people because they have a different view of the world and on life, not realizing they were trashing ME that whole time which has caused me to distance myself from them. A glaring oversight for people who claim to be the epitome of tolerant and wise. Introverts (particularly the creative types) think very deeply about every angle of whatever it is that has captured their attention (and critique), therefore we often have insights that the average person does not which can lead to division and further loneliness. We are encouraged to conform because this is advantageous for corporations and political parties... but not necessarily good for the soul.
@mimi1o8 2 жыл бұрын
On point 👍
@hilariecalijo4643 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely agree!
@thetwinklingstar9581 2 жыл бұрын
She chooses her words so perfectly ..they deliver just the right amount of understanding and kindness while her voice, as usual, works wonders.
@LG-lb7sf 2 жыл бұрын
I'm not just an introvert, I've graduated to an extremely, highly sensitive person, and it makes it so hard to navigate in this modern world. I'm planning a way to create a quieter life for myself too, it's such a dream. Everyone wish me well please, I need it! Thank you for hearing my small little prairie mouse plea HSPs!
@terryquindemil9976 2 жыл бұрын
Good Luck...
@brookeshaffer4377 2 жыл бұрын
The energy of this modern world is a very heavy vibration indeed. Keep your senses acute as you have.Peace will follow💕
@LG-lb7sf 2 жыл бұрын
@@terryquindemil9976 thank you, it means so much! Good love and light to you!
@LG-lb7sf 2 жыл бұрын
@@brookeshaffer4377 thank you, I need all the peace I can get to center the light within myself. Peace and light to you and Paola for bringing us together!
@spinstercatlady 2 жыл бұрын
Best wishes! I can relate being an introvert myself, and I can tell you that I absolutely adore my quiet life. I truly enjoy my own company, and it's a real blessing to not have that constant need for interaction.
@jaytee2642 2 жыл бұрын
I am repeatedly astonished that someone so young, has such wisdom. You are a very special soul.❤
@kesinhaf 2 жыл бұрын
I agree with you
@jukes243 2 жыл бұрын
When I feel lonely, I bake. The aroma of freshly baked cookies or bread cheers me right up. Sharing my creations works for others too!
@theprincessdolly 2 жыл бұрын
i’m going to try this when i feel down.. thank you.
@vernabryant2894 2 жыл бұрын
I'm just like you.Im an introvert.I thought for years there was something wrong with me.Now at 71 years old I have finally excepted myself.I like me now.
@donnadeneweth2128 2 жыл бұрын
Love this Verna, we're just kids...❤️☮️🙏🏻 (67 here)
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
Me too. I'm highly introverted person. (20 here)
@lovies2002 2 жыл бұрын
Bless you. So happy you found your peaceful place. It’s never too late.
@jomai8905 2 жыл бұрын
I feel like I'm just learning this all now because even though I have always felt lonely in a crowd, I really am alone now at 67 years old.
@mariocean808 2 жыл бұрын
I feel lonely all the time. I think it's because I'm not around like-minded people and I'm not doing what I think I should. Motivation is just not always easy.
@user-mq9lx9im3x 2 жыл бұрын
Yh I prefer to be alone I don’t like the public and I don’t text people on my phone I only call my mum cuz she checks in on me and I stopped texting people first and figured out they don’t text back and have no interest and right now I’m trying to figure out what’s real what’s fake whos real and who’s fake but I’m also trying to discover my personality my identity or character that I am
@StarlightTheWIldWitch 2 жыл бұрын
I can totally empathize with you, I'm in a similar situation myself. 💜
@katherandefy 2 жыл бұрын
I didn’t start having an easy time with motivation until much further along in my life in my 50s. But it is like that I think because I had an event in my life that made me realize I really did want to do things. But I just didn’t see it for years! I hope you find your way. It’s strange how much we have come to rely on thinking as a form of experience telling us or convincing us what’s real and what isn’t. But this is perfectly natural for humans to do. We are different from, say, our pets or wildlife friends who have no concern or thought for these things, no aspirations. It’s natural for us. But we feel like it should not be. There’s an feeling of it somehow being off. But it’s how we are. That’s why we feel lonely I think. We are still playing catch up to our developments as humanity. It feels like we are modifying our nature too much but we aren’t. I dunno. It’s a difficult concept to fit into a KZfaq comment.
@consciousobserver629 2 жыл бұрын
@@Anna-gs7ds Sometimes small talk with a friendly stranger is all I need (not that it happens very often). If the interaction were to go much deeper than my views and philosophies would probably dampen the moment because I don't share much of what the mainstream considers "normal" (which I consider to be death to the human soul and to the earth in many cases). So a small, pleasant moment with someone is often ideal. :)
@klrp3248 2 жыл бұрын
More diversity = more loneliness, when you're not surrounded by like-minded people.
@danherrick5785 2 жыл бұрын
This world teaches little. People like you help teach us. Thank u...
@kimmetcalfe6408 2 жыл бұрын
Blessings to you and your family🙏💕 thank you for your insight on so many things in life, you are an inspiration to me with the light you shed on so many topics. Prayers to you💕❤️ your videos make my day. 💕🦋
@margietucker1719 2 жыл бұрын
Actually dan--I disagree. This world--the natural world--teaches MUCH...if one is in harmony with it. Ancient wisdom...it is everywhere... for those with eyes to see.
@Mark.H.9192 2 жыл бұрын
I agree, Dan. And I admire Margie, for being in tune 'with it.' Margie is in a truly small yet glorious group. I'm prolly many lifetimes away from being given a brief glimpse. Kudos to you, and Margie, and especially Paola. Eh?
@Mark.H.9192 2 жыл бұрын
"Prolly" is so YES a real word!
@bluestargalaxies 2 жыл бұрын
I still live with my parents at 27, because I WANT too. I'm not a burden and we help each other out. People have made fun of me. People have 'suggested' (mostly Told) me what I should be doing with my life, told me I need to move out, get married, get a different job, etc etc, but they never ask of I'm happy like I am. And I am. I'm hoping to have my own mini home out back someday, in our woods. 🌿🌲🍃🌱
@jJust_NO_ 2 жыл бұрын
can i live with you? hehehe
@ginamarieofficial 2 жыл бұрын
To you reading this: I am proud of you. Life hasn't been easy lately and the fact that you choose to get up in the morning and show up for this world in spite of it, takes courage. I hope you are SO proud of who you are becoming ❤
@deena681 2 жыл бұрын
Oh dear, loneliness doesn’t just happen in youth. It is especially difficult for older singles that don’t have S.O. or children. Thank you for this beautiful video
@TheCottageFairy 2 жыл бұрын
yes, I meant that we often experience it for the first time as young adults. I have loved ones at older ages who are suffering currently after a loss, the pain is incomparable - thank you for sharing 🤍
@Islander185 2 жыл бұрын
Very true. I've never had a S.O. and am middle aged now. The loneliness comes and goes but the wanting to cuddle and share my life with someone is always there, it's hard.
@jJust_NO_ 2 жыл бұрын
im 33 yo woman. im planning tonremain single for life and my mind already shrinks into loneliness. its like a projection of what my life would be if i follow this path. what's your advice to me?
@jillmariaplatteaux6083 2 жыл бұрын
@@jJust_NO_ here too 41 and single for decades, only child, no mental support of my parents, no friends cos by time they all fell off, I lived in different cities and people kind off took advantage of me. The more I chose to be myself and be authentic, the lonelier I become. Recently I started picking up on left hobbies and applying for a new job. I also started contacting people for collabs. Hope to meet new people and friends and one day to find a nice man who can love me for the person I am. I hope I have the chance of day to spent my life with someone and feel love for the first time, I hope not to end up alone. Good luck, blessings
@Islander185 2 жыл бұрын
@@sharonsavary3716 I truly feel for you, it's so very hard. I don't think there's anything that can take the heartache away other then finding someone to love. I'm sending you my best wishes and really hope you can find someone. Hugs
@connie6545 2 жыл бұрын
I had always wanted to be a "social butterfly", but found it stressful. Wanting to "fit in", I wanted to have TONS of friends, TONS of cute clothes, etc. It just wasn't ME! I found after years of frustration, I discovered that I am an introvert, and have been since a child. We had many shrubs and bushes in our backyard. I would take a library book into my natural "fort". While there, I also observed inch worms, sow bugs [that rolled up into little balls], mosses, etc. It opened up my love of nature, which has translated into nature photography. I am not a hermit, by any means--I just find nature [and my photography] a grounding force. I find peace and renewal There is a vast difference between being alone vs. being lonely. You can be lonely in a crowded room! I an glad you were able to get away from the fires and smoke! You are an inspiration!!
@tayleanruatha 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, you too!
@hopenoland6656 2 жыл бұрын
This speaks to me. I describe myself as a "quiet thinker." There's a lot going on inside my mind - much depth, opinions, and feelings. Most of these thoughts go unnoticed because I don't bring them to the surface. Often times, people will get the wrong impression of me because I'm so quiet. They'll say something about me, just based on what they see, and I'll be thinking .. "if only you knew what was going on in my head right now, you'd have a completely different perspective of me." As i'm getting older, it doesn't bother me as much that I prefer to be more quiet and reserved. Instead, I think of it as my superpower. I feel unique and different than all the rest. I will, at times, feel invisible, which is eerie yet fulfilling. It all feels good and quite refreshing. The thing is, though, introverted people tend to be extremely wise and observant. Many extroverts see us a "weak" because we aren't a loud voice in this world - but yet, we have so much depth within. We could be screaming and nobody would even know it. There's so much beneath the surface, always.
@vintagesoul9735 2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. 💕 from an introvert somewhere in india.
@lhadron4510 2 жыл бұрын
Relatable 😌much more thoughts beneath the surface and reluctant to display them
@user-dm1ew3gg6e 2 жыл бұрын
You totally sound like an INFP (are you familiar with the 16 Personalities according to Myers Briggs?)
@dibahp9964 2 жыл бұрын
This is all I think about all the time in words. Can relate to it a lot :)
@miffedmicrobiologist6595 2 жыл бұрын
@@user-dm1ew3gg6e I was thinking the same thing. I am married to an INFJ and I’m an INFP. The beauty of being an INFP is being very wise at an early age. The struggle is to walk in the world which is fearful and chaotic. That is our challenge. But our wisdom and maturity can be a great help to many.
@praneet52 2 жыл бұрын
You said it right Paola, "Who you will be tomorrow is not yet known". I always take much needed encouragement for myself from your thoughts. Thankyou!. 😊
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
Hi, yes Paola Thoughts is so Motivating👍
@anushka_tiwari2810 2 жыл бұрын
That was the Best line! ❤️
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
@@anushka_tiwari2810 Hi. Hi. Hi.....👋🏻
@pc5105 2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are kinda healing for me. It's so motivating and I feel more closer to nature seeing your videos.❤ Thank you!❤
@TheCottageFairy 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@lisefrydenlund4147 2 жыл бұрын
For me too.
@loonalightart 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, nature heals me and I miss it so much as well ❤️😔
@kimcartwright8111 2 жыл бұрын
I am happy to hear you are okay and having a good time. I am 55 and love being near my parents. Family is very important. We should never be ashamed of that. Looking forward to the next installment of your adventure. Stay safe and well.
@LaureninGermany 2 жыл бұрын
That’s the beauty of KZfaq, we can find and connect with like-minded people so easily here. I am so grateful for the brave people who speak about loneliness, and feeling overwhelmed when socialising sometimes makes you feel worse, when you are supposed to feel better. Here, we can connect on a level I think is not to be underestimated. ❤️
@tarannumafreen6320 2 жыл бұрын
When I was growing up, a lot of the times i felt like i was a weirdo for not wanting to talk and interact with someone all the time. Like you, i forced myself to socialize and made myself believe that i liked being surrounded by people and going places all the time. But that only made me burnout,physically and emotionally. I think as we grow up we learn to accept ourselves the way we are. Now i don't always say yes to parties and social gatherings and all my friends and family are alright with it. The biggest thing is I am alright with it.
@lovies2002 2 жыл бұрын
This is true of myself, too. Very well said.
@jorfil4081 2 жыл бұрын
This is me also, you just verbalize what was in my mind. I always say I am alone but not lonely.
@tarannumafreen6320 2 жыл бұрын
@@jorfil4081 wow you just summarized my feeling in one line. It is a misconception that introverts want to be lonely,whereas all they want to be is alone..that too sometimes,not all the time.
@bribriliang7789 2 жыл бұрын
I’m in my twenties and I somehow internally feel like how you have described about yourself. When we are forced to socialize, our whole world looks like a prison. Being alone is also the same as being in prison. I try my best to choose which prison I am in when I don’t feel good, and my world becomes a more internally comfortable place to live in.
@tarannumafreen6320 2 жыл бұрын
@@bribriliang7789 I'm in my twenties as well and I feel like people are always expecting me to go out and socialize. But happiness cannot be forced, and if it is forced, it's not true happiness.
@DH-qz2so 2 жыл бұрын
Living near Family: I live 2 min. drive away from my brother, 12 min. away from my mom, about 55 min. away from my sisters.... 30 min. away from my daughter... my boys still live at home with me and the hubs.... so I have a golden circle around me of about 1 hour all the way around, where my immediate family lives... an easy drive for sure.... I am so glad and blessed that we all live in the same province, and relatively close by each other.
@MiddleEarthGirl75 2 жыл бұрын
Same here in Ontario! Even have two boys at home! Though we are looking to buy land much closer to our daughter who is currently 45 minutes away with our first grandbaby.
@LeahMargaret 2 жыл бұрын
I needed this today. I was feeling especially low. Thanks for the reminder I’m not alone❤️ As a fellow introvert I connected with your words about friendship .
@StarlightTheWIldWitch 2 жыл бұрын
Sending hugs from Pennsylvania! 💜
@nursejill1474 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your beautiful video. I feel like I know you ❤️ what a pleasure.
@journeytheworld8848 2 жыл бұрын
Why does she not have her own show? I'm no trained professional but I think she could help a lot of people. Just the tone of her voice...so calming. This is so reflective and therapeutic at the same time.
@valencia8848 2 жыл бұрын
I'm in medical school and there are certain videos I like to watch before bed to calm down. Sleeping can get hard with school stress. Your videos are part of what helps ❤ ps love to see a Boricua cottage spirit 🕊
@bsmith9999 2 жыл бұрын
I never felt a real loneliness, or should I say a "lack of purpose" until my beloved parents passed away. You never really recover. I can only say my Contemplative Prayer and relationship with GOD has saved me many times over....bless you all...
@lorriebirdwatcher7778 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, knowing the Lord is always with and in us is truly life changing and priceless!
@moriahmylod 2 жыл бұрын
“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.” ― Carl Gustav Jung Thank you for sharing your art with us. I certainly understand your need for solitude as I too fall on the major end of the introverted spectrum- we are wired a certain way that needs to be honored. Blessings & Goodness to you this day or night, also.
@freshliving4199 2 жыл бұрын
Loneliness comes from not knowing God, not knowing Love.
@ggbouvier9897 Жыл бұрын
Mr. Jung certainly hit the mail on the head! Thanks for sharing his wisdom.
@igorotanomad 2 жыл бұрын
thank u 😍
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
Hi. Hi. Hi.......👋🏼
@joyytotheworld4613 2 жыл бұрын
I cried when you mentioned about the society dictating what you must do. As someone growing up wherein my family and relatives dictate what i must do, i felt dependent in a sense that i cannot decide on my own because i have to consult their opinion first. But when i had to leave home and work far away from my family that's when i also felt lonely- lonely because nobody is there for me to dictate what to do, yet also happy that NO ONE is going to dictate what i must do. I'm very grateful for having that experience of being far away after being trapped in other people's opinions. Now that i came back in my hometown, despite what the society says i've learned that even though their opinions are good my decision matters the most. I've learned not to depend on what people say i must do, and learned to be independent in making decisions for myself. Thank you as always, for your warm and beautiful video.
@mariettehamel12358 2 жыл бұрын
I am 72 yrs old and I can say, without shame: So young and, yet, so old and wise!... Every time you "feed" my soul! You astonish me every time I see your videos! Keep "being you"... it is beautiful... it is precious! ✨💖🧡💛💚💙💜🤎✨
@hilariecalijo4643 2 жыл бұрын
I feel exactly the same way with feeling overwhelmed with people .
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
Hi. Hi. Hi.......🥺
@hilariecalijo4643 2 жыл бұрын
@@PAWANKALYAN_21 hi, hello 👋🏼
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
@@hilariecalijo4643Hi, Hello, Hi....👋🏼 I love all your comments is so Beautiful👏
@hilariecalijo4643 2 жыл бұрын
@@PAWANKALYAN_21 thank you. That’s kind of you
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
@@hilariecalijo4643 Aww! You are welcomeI. 💙😊❤
@DP-yw4vk 2 жыл бұрын
I feel lucky to have embraced my introvertedness at a young age. I usually had one ‘best friend’ at a time and I never felt the pressure to make more friends or join cliques even in my adolescence. I never thought it odd that i preferred to spend summers home instead of with friends. I was comfortable and happy just reading books in my room and helping my parents out. I was also lucky that my parents never made me feel insecure or felt it was something that needed to be ‘fixed’ by forcing me to make friends or invite them over. They’re introverts as well so i guess they sympathised haha. Since the pandemic began Ive only been conversing with one close friend online and I feel thats plenty of socialisation enough for me. I have felt many negative emotions in my life- anger, jealousy, self-doubt, anxiety, but i can gladly say that i have never at any point felt lonely and i credit my comfortable relationship with myself for that. I hope it continues till I am well aged.
@love_anneliese 2 жыл бұрын
When I film and make inspiring videos, I feel like I’m fulfilling my dream or soul desire, but most of the time, I have to face the reality of my stressful accounting studies and work. I think I appreciate the time when I got quarantined and spend time at home alone doing what I love. That’s the time I create videos that I’m satisfied with. It’s hard to be myself in this noisy world but this video inspire me to write a journal entry all about slowing down and finding my true self… thanks for your inspiration 🌼 you are always my best role model 🥰
@ildiko1vt 2 жыл бұрын
how lovely for you dear one!
@chancbl 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the inspiration will watch later or my true self will be vaporized LOL up to my eyeballs keep safe
@liz_21 2 жыл бұрын
How wonderful! Last night i cried myself to sleep thinking about how lonely i am and today's morning you post a video about it. 🥺🤍
@lizzie0407 2 жыл бұрын
Same for me but Monday night...Sending you a virtual hug! 💕
@liz_21 2 жыл бұрын
@@lizzie0407 i hope you're doing okay now. * Hugs back * 🤗🤍
@maryanngulotta900 2 жыл бұрын
So glad you are being refreshed and enjoying your time away. Thank you for taking time to share with us while you are on your getaway. It was lovely as always.
@UnearthCompassion 2 жыл бұрын
So important to live in your truth. Let the values that are important to you guide you.
@kushlanim 2 жыл бұрын
So true. Loneliness is never a negative thing ..
@Jomatsch 2 жыл бұрын
You have such a pleasant soothing voice that momentarily allows everyone to escape the worries of the world.
@sourabhkullu 2 жыл бұрын
So true
@xMsMomJeansx 2 жыл бұрын
Your bunny is very cute 👍😁🐇🌸🥕✨💕🌈🐰
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
yes is so cute. Hi. btw
@xMsMomJeansx 2 жыл бұрын
👋 hi
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
@@xMsMomJeansx Hello....🙋♂️
@xMsMomJeansx 2 жыл бұрын
Hi
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
@@xMsMomJeansx Hi, Hi, Hi..Good Morning😽
@riyadebnath3280 2 жыл бұрын
I was having mental breakdown and feeling lonely these few days... Because one thing was constantly going on in my head that "no body cares","i am alone"... But then I thought about this... And decided to connect with people... I am excepting the fact that there is a lot of people like me.. And I am not lonely... I am not alone... I think we should not think ourselves as some exceptional... That makes us more lonely... It's fine to being introverted or extroverted.. Whatever we are... We are just not alone...
@JAMoore-zz3ki 2 жыл бұрын
Hang in there. ((virtual hug))
@lizzie0407 2 жыл бұрын
Another virtual hug from Germany from someone who understands 💕 I had a breakdown on Monday night feeling so lonely and so exhausted...watching Paolas video and reading the comments is helping me understand that I'm not the only one feeling this way which helps me in the sense that I don't have to be ashamed for feeling lonely. However, it's so sad that there are soooo many people feeling lonely and I wish there would be not one person on this earth feeling lonely anymore. I wish nothing but the best and a full heart for everyone ❤️
@ggbouvier9897 Жыл бұрын
Riya, please by kind to yourself. When I am having a hard day, I always remember what my Uncle Ralph told me when I was young, “It’s never as bad as it seems.” And you know, I find this to be true 99.9% of the time. My new favorite which works for many situations… “Ahh, forget about it!” This last one is from a sage that I don’t recall his name, but he basically says to stop thinking. Just shut your mind down because he says that this is normally what is driving us nuts! I thought it was very wise advice! I hope things get better for you and that happy sunny days will soon come your way. ((((Riya))))
@jorgeleal6791 2 жыл бұрын
Love your videos! Thanks 🙏🏻 and cuídate mucho
@mailencanan618 2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful video that you published and you are very right in what you want.my family and my god help me to move forward.
@lolizorz 2 жыл бұрын
At first I read this "embarrassing your true self"
@TheCottageFairy 2 жыл бұрын
😂
@tomlamiam 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you once more Cottage Fairy. Especially loved the imagery from 3:50-4:00. oh hey, Mr Darcy!
@brookeshaffer4377 2 жыл бұрын
Spot On💕
@clairecooper9931 Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful forest. Still catching up. I’m 51 and I love being near my parents. I think we are lucky to have close family network as not everyone does ❤
@mahroosh1077 2 жыл бұрын
So true! I hope the fires have settled where you are and you and your friends and family are safe.
@peggymurphy6747 2 жыл бұрын
Lovely sentiments. Enjoy your trip ☮️
@julegue1382 2 жыл бұрын
"No matter how dark things get, the light will always come back. It's just a matter of time." This was exactly what I needed to hear. For the last few days I felt like my country is heading for a horrible political future and this gave me some hope. Hopefully light will come back sooner than I expect.
@Shwettyapple 2 жыл бұрын
Been thinking about the same things lately. I recently chose to relocate to be near my family.
@curiomagine1960 2 жыл бұрын
“It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌍🌾🌿 This for me has always been a bit give and take, but I found its easier to find when we decide it's not a destination, but a path to wander with great gentlity and patience in our hearts... 🌄🌱😊💕
@teabubbles4ever 2 жыл бұрын
Hi~ You seem like a kindred spirit :3 Would you like to message? I don't think YT has a message system but I can leave you my email! Haha Have a lovely day/night wherever you are! 💛✨
@shanannwilliston250 2 жыл бұрын
I waited for this! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it. This is sooo relatable. ❤❤❤❤
@diamond_0613 2 жыл бұрын
When I watch you and your videos, somehow I can feel like someone could understand the inner me
@sanliy 2 жыл бұрын
Ohhh that rabbit 🥺😍😍😍
@tommy..980 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Paola!!! Everyone experience loneliness, Its part of life.. But you can use that part of life to learn,grow and be a better person!!!! I hope you’re vacation is treating you well!!! Have a great night ❤️
@jasminetabuan4650 2 жыл бұрын
First.🦋
@5784Eva 2 жыл бұрын
I used to feel lonely when i was younger but not anymore :) I have so many passions, doing crafts, art :) I can't wait to start painting my new project .
@karinhinni3241 Жыл бұрын
Dear Paula, I am so very happy to have “met” you. I am so not into KZfaq because of the fast and loud speaking - as a HSP and introvert I crave for calm. Your videos are so inspiring and soothing. One of them resulted in a turning point in my life. I was so overwhelmed and stressed. Your video made me think of how to live my life in a better way. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and lots of love from Switzerland Karina
@dakotaovdan 2 жыл бұрын
I always felt like being introverted in society is thought of as a negative trait compared to being extroverted. It thus can be difficult for me to accept that needing more time to myself than others is perfectly fine.
@michaelgurtler522 2 жыл бұрын
One of your most beautiful videos Paola, glad you found the inspiration :)
@majesea 2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are magical 💕
@sophiamarie9457 2 жыл бұрын
Not gunna lie as a bunny mama…I was like…are you taking your little nugget with you?! He or she seems totally sweet ❤️❤️❤️❤️ and then seeing you snuggle that cutie in the front seat made me smile so much :) you are a wonderful woman my dear. I love all your videos and my goodness that forest you were in seems so magical! Sending you and your family lots of love and positivity my dear ❤️🙏🏽
@victoriacarr6685 2 жыл бұрын
I'm lonely at dinner some evenings and I guess that's just the time the Lord has me in now for a reason. Embrace all our emotions the good and bad....that is what makes us human! Without them we are mere cyborgs and totally unconscious.
@NoOneHere2Day 2 жыл бұрын
Or maybe you just need more friends.
@diva1929 2 жыл бұрын
Solitude is the place where one retrieves to to reenergize the soul. Wise and brave🌜🌛you are.
@ellen823ful 2 жыл бұрын
I crave solitude.
@diva1929 2 жыл бұрын
@@ellen823ful Good evening Ellen. At some point in our lives we must find the time for solitude. We often get so caught up with work, caregiving, family, among other things that keep us away from nurturing ourselves. If you can find the time to be alone, to breath, clear your mind in a sacred space that’s your own, you’ll begin to heal parts of yourself. We all can use it! Best, Diva
@marybooth1361 2 жыл бұрын
I am glad you are safe and with your boyfriend. Wherever you are, it is always so lovely
@zeajaycajefe19 2 жыл бұрын
Queen!! Your channel is growing so fast congrats!🤗🥰
@bruce9635 2 жыл бұрын
Yay Mr. Darcy. Beautiful cabin. I love solitude because I love prayer and reflection. I have a very close friend I communicate with daily for human contact. I work on living in the moment and lots of people and noise can detract from this! I like to see the Angels in the trees!
@carolineswift2961 2 жыл бұрын
I always love your words and wisdom ☺️ So glad to hear the skies are clearer back at your home now ! ❤️❤️
@lyncorrin 2 жыл бұрын
You are a truly special person and I gain a lot from your videos. Thank you and bless you xx
@brenthunsaker9042 2 жыл бұрын
You drove right by me, hopefully you enjoyed the fresh air.
@tinalemna7998 2 жыл бұрын
This was my favorite video so far. So much wisdom packed into six minutes. Thank you Paola. 🙏🏻
@rjgesq.8967 2 жыл бұрын
I really needed to hear this message this morning. Light will come back after the darkness. Thank you and keep up the great work.
@treesforlifeong1639 2 жыл бұрын
You are right, society views you as less of an adult if you like living near your parents. I.m glad you realised that and decided to act upon it. And thanks for sharing it, it helps to also realise it!
@susannechakan4939 2 жыл бұрын
I liked that you took your bunny! I hope your time near the seashore was rejuvenating. I needed this video tonight. Not single but feeling like I want to go home but I don't know where home is. Starseeds are like that some times.
@lyndajane9870 2 жыл бұрын
what a pleasant surprise, love your videos
@Pawgee 2 жыл бұрын
Every one needs solitude but no one needs loneliness…the thoughts expressed today mean so much to people like me
@vetha_litlov 2 жыл бұрын
A lovely quote I remember, *You cannot be lonely when you love the person you're alone with*
@FearXdoom 2 жыл бұрын
I'm happy I found this KZfaq channel
@pattin4015 2 жыл бұрын
Your words of wisdom is an inspiration to me, presented with beautiful videography and confidence. A true gem. I can sense the relief from the smoke filled air to the blue skies...
@MiddleEarthGirl75 2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful as always, and that cabin is dreamy. And as a mother, know that some parents are much happier with their children closer as well. Families after all are a unit, and I find a healthy one breeds closeness, open communication, and many fun times
@consciousobserver629 2 жыл бұрын
I never felt very close to either of my parents growing up and experienced very deep depression which I endured alone. Now I have two little ones with another on the way, and I pray they want to have a lifelong close relationship with me. I can already see how this will likely happen as we share moments that I never had with my own parents.. which could blossom into that relationship that you speak of if mindfully cultivated in the years to come.
@jessicacanfield5408 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for including us when you are away. So glad you will no smoke when you get home
@Mark.H.9192 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for another soothing and calming video, and also for your words filled with wisdom. You continue to meander into a beautiful, rich and rewarding lifetime filled with love and laughter - I feel it to be true. I am smiling ear-to-ear, heart-to-soul for the co-worker you mention in your description above. I am now 58 years ancient. Throughout my whole adventure , that feeling of 'not relating to the vast majority of people' has stayed close to me. Over time, it becomes easier to accept, as one encounters so so may people that are not worth relating to. Hey - my comment, my opinion. :) Follow your heart and your gut, and be true to yourself. Always. Forever wishing you and your loved ones peace, good health, love and contentment. - Mark
@odetotheoldsouls9835 2 жыл бұрын
To find you and your channel was to find part of me. Your words touch me every time. They help me, encourage me and make me feel calm and warm inside. Thank you so much❤️
@deborahreid4114 2 жыл бұрын
#embracingyourtrueself Very important!! Such as the saying "Learn to love yourself before you can truly love another" So glad you took a breath of fresh air trip! 😊
@vinayakm199 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for a wonderful video, Paola. I personally feel that being alone is a gift that is packed with abundant time to understand oneself to the fullest. Because, we have come on this world alone and so will we depart alone, so its oneself whom we should embrace all the time and learn to live our life happily. This gift is like a limited time voucher, so enjoy it before it lapse☺. Have a happy vacation. Good day.
@mirandary1 2 жыл бұрын
I always tell my daughter, “It is impossible to be alone, you have your self.”
@briannemorna4268 2 жыл бұрын
so lovely.
@amberjean9217 2 жыл бұрын
This is so amazing...I have been talking to this guy for quite a long time and he has become one of my best friends..and he ended up dating my other best friend. I was third wheeled and i felt unlovable. This resonated so much thank u❤
@monanaseer6759 2 жыл бұрын
Good decisuon to move away from natural disaster. Your brotherr has a outstanding voice and sings so well. Wish you all the best.
@zeehondje1000 2 жыл бұрын
I know exactly what you mean, this video made me cry, because I recognize the feeling. I feel lonely sometimes as well. I am 64, my son has his own life , and I don't see him as much anymore. I have some friends, one of them i see every month, the others not as much. I don't have a boyfriend. I work a bit, for instance in an animal shelter with cats, they are my best friends. I always smile when I am there. Embracing myself as I am, is a difficult thing to do, but I am learning. I give myself time to learn that. I am an introvert person, don't like to be around people that much.
@PAWANKALYAN_21 2 жыл бұрын
I'm so grateful for subscribe your channel. So many people inspire me, but there’s something about the way you inspire me that’s different. Thanks for being an inspiration to me You’ll always have a special place in my heart, because you inspire me in unique ways. Paola, you are My inspiration Forever...🥺 Stay Safe Stay Healthy and Stay Happy⚘💙⚘
@juliejackman2649 2 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you posted this! ☺. I have an event I'm supposed to go to where there'll be others there who'll think I'm just full of shortcomings and I believe I lost a very supportive friend of mine that would've made me feel better about the situation. But this your video helps me a lot. Thank you again!🙏 And I believe we can always rely on our Heavenly Father and Jesus no matter what, thankfully.💕
@moonchild-bc6qk 2 жыл бұрын
Last year I have struggled with independence and privacy problems when I had to come back home after living in a city for 4 years on my own. So I struggled but slowly figured it out. I hope you are having a good trip take care.
@acupoffluff404 2 жыл бұрын
My dear Paola, you have no idea how much of a blessing this video has been for my heart! My country is being engulfed in flames, the beautiful forests and mountains that have a special place in my nature loving heart, all reduced to ash. It’s been a tough time for all of us, and I cried A LOT, but this video made me shed tears of pure joy seeing all the greenery and the freshness of this place, I know that God would send life pulsing back into our lands, and i hope i live long enough to see the beloved mountains in their green dresses again. Thank you so much again and again for your amazing content 💚
@ny2philly765 2 жыл бұрын
This maybe one of my video's. I agree with you wholeheartedly. Even when alone we are truly in this together. Continued blessings mi Amiga. Que dios te bendiga 💖💯🇵🇷
@jessicasmith9117 2 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you are sharing another message about self-acceptance. I have been in relationships where my partner was extroverted and me being an introvert possibly an ambivert was challenging. It would be draining for me or cause disagreements when I would give myself the time I needed alone on projects. Ultimately the relationship would fail as I did not fell accepted and respecting. I have worked at accepting all sides of myself the best I can. I see my introverted nature as beautiful and it helps me to be more creative. For me the big challenge lately has been that I do need time with family and select close friends. It’s been a long time, couple years since I have been with family due to covid and distance. I’m around people lots for work, more then I want but I feel lonely at times since I’m not getting time with the people I would chose to be around if I could. However your videos are very comforting and give me a sense that I’m around a close friend when I physically can’t be. Hope your doing well with all that’s happening. Hugs 💛
@lifeinthetropics3579 2 жыл бұрын
Whenever i watch your vlog it gives a calming effect, your narration while watching you gets into the core of my soul! Thank you so much for giving me an inspiration to create countryside life! Watching from the Philippine countryside ❤️🇵🇭
@Msfrangipaniful 2 жыл бұрын
I needed to watch this. Makes me feel transported to a place, where I can connect with myself. These 2 weeks has been very challenging for me and my mum. My dad is battling stage 4 lung cancer that has rapidly spread to his brain, he’s given only 2 months to live. He hallucinates a lot, it saddens me to see him suffer like this. I pray deeply, he doesn’t suffer anymore. I humbly request if you’re reading this comment , please please send your prayers to my dad. Thank you God bless 🙏
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