This is exactly what I think especially on the people are never willing to let you part. It's wierd how people will try everything but actually asking someone what they need(sometimes after for future referencing) and just let them do it.

They’re actually called intellectual disabilities/nm

As a undiagnosed autistic girl, going through mainstream middle school and high school was absolute torture because of how much change I would experience over the course of each day, plus the sensory overload that came from moving between classrooms or in the cafeteria. I got absolutely no help because nobody understood back then. I have a lot of coping mechanisms, but sometimes a meltdown is completely unavoidable and at 39, I can say that I still haven't grown out of it.

@@TheKjoy85 I can just say, that it helped my behavior. I did not mean the coping with rudeness and bullying, but I have gotten better with that.

@@HannahCatz I wasn't talking about the rudeness and bullying, either. I was strictly talking about the difference in sensory environments between an elementary school where I spent nearly all day every day in the same classroom with the same teacher and classmates in comparison to having 6 different classrooms, 6 different teachers, and six different combinations of students. Even though this became part of my daily routine, I had a hard time coping with that constant change. Then the corridors between classes were filled with other students, most of them talking or making other noises my brain couldn't filter out. I did just fine academically, but the sensory environment of my middle school and high school were a form of torture as an undiagnosed autistic girl. I don't know what the best solution would have been for me back then, but my family and I were never given any options by my school district. I missed a lot of school because the stress triggered migraines multiple times a week and still maintained good grades, but the school district denied me my credits due to my attendance, so I never graduated and that brought a lot of shame towards myself. It has been over 20 years and I'm still frustrated with what happened back then and how things were handled.

@@TheKjoy85 I understand that. I am in 8th grade, so I feel that high school will be worse, too.

I agree. It kinda makes me wonder why isn’t she changing his environment to help suit him?

Yeah well that's life. She has 2 kids what's she gonna do lock him in a bathroom she has to supervise both

​@NoThankUBeQuiet There's also two parents and yes personally putting him in a unlocked room with the door to exit right near where the other kids are so she can watch it. And diming lights while leaving him alone might help. I know that's what helps me when I have a meltdown usually if I'm not responding well to someone interacting with me while trying to help it means I *need* to be alone my nervous system is overloaded and I need to be alone. Also why are you responding so harshly to someone who was just trying to offer insight from a perspective of someone with the same disorder as the kid she's trying ro help?

I agree usually a dark room is the best place for me during a shutdown or meltdown

Unless you are autistic yourself, “autism mom” is kind of a misleading term to describe someone with an autistic child. I’m sorry to hear that.

We actually use high/low/moderate support needs instead of mild/severe autism as everyone has the same “amount” of autism, just different support needs.

@@winterwithawhyknudsen5166 Thanks for the correction. I'm not sure how it helps.

@@tqoftu1 well, for example, two autistic people could be nonverbal and fidgety from the outside, but one is a sensory seeker and the other isn’t. One has meltdowns daily and the other once a week. You can’t just put us in those categories, we’re too different

@@winterwithawhyknudsen5166 I actually don't understand what category you're talking about. I was only talking specifically about my son. I don't particularly find any of the labels to fit him very well. He gets what he needs in preschool right now. We have goals and we celebrate his achievements and develop strategies for the tough times. One day at a time. I'm usually speaking to people who don't understand autism so none of the labels particularly help. I think it might just be a matter of semantics to say mild autism vs has autism with low support needs. Either way I'm not sure how your correction or further exposition had anything to do with the video or my comment

​@@tqoftu1 As an autistic adult, I can confidently say that being pushed into a meltdown is never helpful for me. I doubt it would be helpful for any other autistic person, unless it is something the autistic person has agreed to beforehand with a specific goal in mind. I do my best to avoid meltdowns, but I experience shutdowns on a regular basis, especially connected to sensory overload. I have PTSD on top of my autism and ADHD, so that can trigger a meltdown, too.

I think it depends on servarity like if it's servere autism yea it probably does count as a disability but if it's really mild autism probably not as much that's just ny opinion

If what you gave is a description of your "meltdowns" it sounds more like a shutdown paired with a partial verbal shutdown. (Not a doctor just letting you know from what I know the best way to describe your syntoms)

A meltdown is a nervous system reaction giving someone options isint *usually* gonna help the best thing to do is ask them what would help if it happens while they aren't mid meltdown and if you don't know what to do mainly leave them alone as long as they aren't hurting anyone. Cause once again it's a uncontrollable nervous system reaction

Some people prefer the term disability and they should be able to use whatever they want for themselves and their family(inless their family who's the disabled one says otherwise) Is there any reason you prefer to avoided the term disability. I'm genuinely curious and would like to know your perspective

@@Joker.772 “by the way I know they are actually called disabilities please don’t hate on me 😊😊😊😊”

@RandomStuffThatCouldHelp I'm aware I read your full comment but none of my comment talks about the legal definition it talks about people and asks you a question. Also I am not trying to hate I am trying to have a conversation