A transgender path home | Jennifer Finney Boylan | TEDxMet

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8 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Finney Boylan describes her path to her present self: the conversation around gender has recast the dialogue around all definitions of self: who someone is outside, who they are inside, and how to reconcile those characteristics when they do not align.
Professor Jennifer Finney Boylan, author of thirteen books, is the inaugural Anna Quindlen Writer in Residence at Barnard College of Columbia University. She also serves as the national co-chair of the Board of Directors of GLAAD, the media advocacy group for LGBT people worldwide. She has been a contributor to the op-ed page of The New York Times since 2007; in 2013 she became Contributing Opinion Writer for the page. Boylan also serves on the Board of Trustees of the Kinsey Institute for Research on Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. She lives in New York City and in Belgrade Lakes, Maine, with her wife, Deedie, and her two sons, Zach and Sean.
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@Robert-ie4eg
@Robert-ie4eg 4 жыл бұрын
I'm currently listening to her audiobook entitled, 'She's Not There'. Ms. Boylan is truly inspirational and I'm excited about learning more about her and her journey. Ms. Boylan, thank you for being You!
@kerrigreen2626
@kerrigreen2626 8 жыл бұрын
wow that was really powerful
@BriRunk
@BriRunk 6 жыл бұрын
That story reminds me of a time when I got on my motorcycle about 30 years ago I left my home in Pennsylvania for the Adirondacks. I had a tent, camping gear, a 12 year old bottle of Scotch, and the collected works of Washington Irving. I was never so scared in my life.
@eileenmonte8411
@eileenmonte8411 8 жыл бұрын
Jenny articulates the journey not just as a life of being transgender, but as a journey of life for us all. Well done.
@ASTROLOGICAL9119ASHER
@ASTROLOGICAL9119ASHER 7 жыл бұрын
She's a gorgeous person ! I wish the best for her :)
@JohnSmith-yr4mw
@JohnSmith-yr4mw 4 жыл бұрын
Ugliest man I ever saw
@heydude7568
@heydude7568 4 жыл бұрын
Kaleidescope Dope youve misgendered this person and i feel so unsafe now! my preferred choice for his pronouns are he/him if you please, or are you going to marginalise me?
@sollv9787
@sollv9787 3 жыл бұрын
@@JohnSmith-yr4mw well, this pretty much tells us a lot about you and nothing about this person.
@lindshasnochill3728
@lindshasnochill3728 6 жыл бұрын
I'm currently reading her memoir Stuck In The Middle With You, about her experience in raising her two sons and maintaining her marriage throughout her transition. Her words have captivated me, and her stage presence is unbelieveable.
@Abi_yoga
@Abi_yoga 4 жыл бұрын
Iv finished reading that book too, it was very moving and touching and at one point in the book i actually cried, shes a very smart beautiful woman with a lovely calm nature, and i look up to her a lot 💕
@busterthegreat1195
@busterthegreat1195 Жыл бұрын
@lindshasnochill3728 lol how many times you gotta reassure yourself it’s a woman💀
@laura-ann.0726
@laura-ann.0726 3 жыл бұрын
I read "She's Not There" in the summer of 2017, about a year after I began my own transition. In that book, Jenny tells the story of her drive to Cape Breton Island, and of standing on the edge of that cliff. Hearing her relate it in her own voice tonight has me close to tears.
@Andy224
@Andy224 8 жыл бұрын
Feeling very inspired by this incredible talk that she did. Such a courageous and smart woman.
@amandaweidmann8359
@amandaweidmann8359 7 жыл бұрын
glad to see most comments are positive
@Kewljean
@Kewljean 8 жыл бұрын
Jenny, I cried when I listened to this. Ditto...well done!
@terrymott2816
@terrymott2816 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jennifer.. Your book was so helpful and reassuring.
@sacredthyme4617
@sacredthyme4617 8 жыл бұрын
AWEsome story of your life path. Wonderful Video! A+
@stephaniedykes4157
@stephaniedykes4157 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story.
@JanetDax
@JanetDax 5 жыл бұрын
Nice to see an older transwoman like myself. Not all of are young. Not all of us look like it would be hard to be seen as anything but a cis woman.
@comajuice
@comajuice 4 жыл бұрын
@David Vanpatten calm down, you dont get to have opinions on this until you pass 3rd grade spelling
@antoinettesmith6935
@antoinettesmith6935 Жыл бұрын
Can we connect I can use your advice on things
@JanetDax
@JanetDax Жыл бұрын
@@antoinettesmith6935 Uh yes be happy to
@Mystrohan
@Mystrohan 7 жыл бұрын
She graduated from my alma mater - an all boys' school. I know she spoke there recently - I really wish I could find a recording of that lecture.
@laura-ann.0726
@laura-ann.0726 6 жыл бұрын
Haverford? Jenny writes about that school in "Looking Through You".
@carlasouza5306
@carlasouza5306 6 жыл бұрын
Nice singing voice
@kristinb8268
@kristinb8268 8 жыл бұрын
Oh damn that was a beautiful story, and she tells it so well with the ability to really get you to imagine and see the story in your own mind. Maybe because I'm a trans woman as well, or really more importantly I guess maybe because I'm a trans person as well her story of her live was very moving to me, and beautiful. And I felt that it had an over arching message that anyone could relate to and understand. I'm not going to lie it made me tear up in a good and happy way and that felt awesome, and it felt good to have such an emotion invoked in me. Thank you for you story Jenny
@americanlover3374
@americanlover3374 4 жыл бұрын
Yes me too, well said, she is a very smart clever lovely lady
@-Silli3st_M0th_
@-Silli3st_M0th_ 8 жыл бұрын
I just love her😊
@Abi_yoga
@Abi_yoga 4 жыл бұрын
Me too, shes so beautiful and very smart lady 💕😍
@kuribojim3916
@kuribojim3916 4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful talk. Jenny is remarkable.
@davefisher1840
@davefisher1840 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent…Thank You! 😊
@DirkAustin
@DirkAustin 8 жыл бұрын
Shes such an awesome, strong and inspiring woman. Love her. :)
@rraymondssilva
@rraymondssilva 8 жыл бұрын
Yaaas she is! 💕
@JohnSmith-yr4mw
@JohnSmith-yr4mw 4 жыл бұрын
Still a man.
@AlexM-ht9ff
@AlexM-ht9ff 2 жыл бұрын
@@JohnSmith-yr4mw Why are you here, John? Leave us the F alone
@atlantic_love
@atlantic_love Жыл бұрын
@@JohnSmith-yr4mw But you're not. Only true men worry about more important things than what's in someone else's pants.
@bigl6322
@bigl6322 3 жыл бұрын
Catch her book “ she’s not there” if you want to know more of her story...
@myahollandia3552
@myahollandia3552 5 жыл бұрын
Jenny is a amazing person
@JohnSmith-yr4mw
@JohnSmith-yr4mw 4 жыл бұрын
Amazing man coward and pretending to be something he isnt soo[oo brave
@Abi_yoga
@Abi_yoga 4 жыл бұрын
@@JohnSmith-yr4mw shes a much smarter and braver person than you will ever be, SMH
@lauraJ81
@lauraJ81 8 жыл бұрын
i cried
@kylehill9981
@kylehill9981 5 жыл бұрын
go off with that warlock song yes concert
@daym5888
@daym5888 Жыл бұрын
great teacher
@anikittenxoxo
@anikittenxoxo 8 жыл бұрын
it was the elves speaking. lovely little tykes they are :)
@devarodgers4676
@devarodgers4676 2 жыл бұрын
jennifer boylan was in i am cait
@angellucifer9971
@angellucifer9971 8 жыл бұрын
Pure Real Beautiful
@BriRunk
@BriRunk 6 жыл бұрын
💜
@wandashirkey9654
@wandashirkey9654 4 жыл бұрын
She is awesome.
@frogmouth
@frogmouth 2 жыл бұрын
Eloquent
@Itwasntalieitwastrueinmymind
@Itwasntalieitwastrueinmymind 2 жыл бұрын
This is so inspiring. Blessings to this brave woman
@kilowaverider131
@kilowaverider131 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you ♥️
@dragontasen2760
@dragontasen2760 3 жыл бұрын
awesome life story i wish here best
@antoinettesmith6935
@antoinettesmith6935 Жыл бұрын
Me to
@tiffanyw3064
@tiffanyw3064 6 жыл бұрын
Hi that voice you talked of that's God. He watches over His property, especially the valuble ones, Apparently He has something for you to do, the first is to start a relationship with Him, because He loves you more than you can imagine. He's been in my life for about 50 years, I started transitioning 2 years ago.I was praying take these desires away,He said praise Him for them. A month later He said embrace it and transition.I questioned it,it went against my Christian upbringing, but the relief like a breath of fresh air. Now I see,I see the hurting, rejected,missunderstood, and unloved, preecious ones to God. He has put me among them to show them His love for them, to lead them to a relationship with Him. Then like me when the world is beating me down and things are a mess all around, they too can climb into His lap,and He will wrap His arms around me and I have peace, contentment, and rest.Thats what God does for those who are His. Give your life to Him and that's what He can do for you. Keep your eyes on Him because those who say they are His don't always reflect Him. Tiffany
@eduardgabrian6424
@eduardgabrian6424 4 жыл бұрын
Nah
@heydude7568
@heydude7568 4 жыл бұрын
HEY! somebody’s misgendered this person and its made me feel very unsafe in my own community! my preferred choice for this mans pronouns are he/him/his/mister. i demand he be known by these terms! or are you going to marginalise me? and make me demand a court hearing and a safe space?
@garymarkham4538
@garymarkham4538 4 жыл бұрын
hey! dude! Educate yourself. Look up the NHS or WHO on gender dysphoria. Look up WPATH. You have the opportunity for self improvement. Good luck 👍
@Kiiiiiiiie
@Kiiiiiiiie 3 жыл бұрын
Dude , no body cares about your preference for somebody else's pronouns, cause it's their choice , not yours.
@heydude7568
@heydude7568 3 жыл бұрын
@@Kiiiiiiiie you obviously dont do irony
@ceceo9480
@ceceo9480 2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful. A little more honest is needed in this world
@heydude7568
@heydude7568 2 жыл бұрын
@@Kiiiiiiiie so why force it by law upon us?
@valeriesanchez3074
@valeriesanchez3074 3 жыл бұрын
Trans is beautiful 🙃 could use some voice training though
@Abi_yoga
@Abi_yoga 2 жыл бұрын
Its not as easy as that
@valeriesanchez3074
@valeriesanchez3074 2 жыл бұрын
Take up opera singing
@orsors2129
@orsors2129 3 жыл бұрын
Somebody, please dress this woman.
@P03ticJustice
@P03ticJustice 3 жыл бұрын
He don't know better
@kabirbody
@kabirbody 4 жыл бұрын
Her voice is like a man's voice Lol
@P03ticJustice
@P03ticJustice 3 жыл бұрын
It is a man's voice
@kentuckyfathers8559
@kentuckyfathers8559 8 жыл бұрын
Sad. It is wrong for people to applaud this kind of self abuse. Very said.
@kristinb8268
@kristinb8268 8 жыл бұрын
What about exactly is self-abuse? And who are you to also stand in the way of some one else's happiness in life. Look honestly she could care less if you accept her as a woman or that you think she is crazy\delusional because much of the world and the US do see her as a woman and treat her as such. I know for me as a trans woman I have had to deal with misogyny way more than I have transphobia or bigotry towards me being trans like I thought I would. And I live in a very conservative part of Florida. I'm the happiest and must fulfilled I've ever been in my entire life, and my Mom and I have never been closer and we have definitely reached that Mother daughter relationship, which is not just a relationship I always wanted with her, but it's also one that she's always wanted as well and thought she would never get after having 3 boys. Little did she know that one of them was born intersex with transsexualsim and was born with a female brain basically in a perfectly healthy male body, but that's being born intersex none the less and that's the conclusion that more and more doctors and researchers are coming to. Down below is an excerpt from Dr.Milton Diamond who has been studying everything gender, intersex, and transsexual since 1950. He also brought to light the truth of the John\Joan experiment. Down below is a link to the entire paper. “Actually from my own clinical experiences, my own experimental research, and from the findings of others I conclude that transsexuality is a form of intersexuality…. I believe that transsexuals are intersexed in their brains as others are or might be more obviously so in their gonads, genitals, hormonal character, receptors, enzymatic or chromosomal constitution. And it is this brain intersexuality that biases the person to assert his or her gender identity.” www.hawaii.edu/PCSS/biblio/articles/2010to2014/2011-ethical-considerations.html
@annemarietobias
@annemarietobias 8 жыл бұрын
+Kentucky Fathers Hi Hon. The real self abuse is trying to please others at the cost of being true to yourself and honest with your maker. The real self abuse is thinking that all the beatings and bullying and abuse you endure for no reason is your own fault and not that of a society that is sick with lies and hate and superstitions. The self abuse my dear, is taking the rudeness of people who are proud of the ignorance, bold in their unquestioning devotion to fear and self righteousness. These people do everything they can to live a quiet and normal a life as is humanly possible. But you would never know that because you are overflowing with assumptions. So in honoring truth we stop abusing ourselves, and more important let people like you know that we will not brook your abuse either. Good day.
@MakoDap
@MakoDap 6 жыл бұрын
Yes... you are sad Kentucky Fathers. Very sad. Especially when you project your own sad life on others.
@jamesgutting7128
@jamesgutting7128 6 жыл бұрын
So put on a rabbit costume and you’re a rabbit
@chelleroberson3222
@chelleroberson3222 6 жыл бұрын
James Gutting still would not make you a rabbit
@hbh32210
@hbh32210 Жыл бұрын
thank you jenny
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