Abstinence and intimacy - Why Buddhist monks must follow strict rules

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2 жыл бұрын

Abstinence is a religious keyword and for a Buddhist monk, it is playing a major role in their life. The monks of the temple in Bangkok serve the community. Their own needs and their state of mind and body have to take second place. In order to be reborn in a higher form, they have to follow strict rules. Greed is not permitted, the have to abstain from violence, and to respect other people. The monks are only allowed of physical closeness when there is no element of desire involved. They have to be very careful: If they make a mistake, they must leave the monastic community.
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@Deadsea_1993 Жыл бұрын

Buddha taught celibacy for many reasons and it wasn't just because if one has children and a spouse, they can't be free. Even in Buddha's day, people knew to finish away from the female body if no kids were desired. The real reason he spoke against sexual conduct of any kind was that one couldn't be free if they were still tied to the chain of Lust. Buddha said that Lust was the chief over all the evils and that it was the most destructive. Buddha said that sexual energy was the strongest of all energies and so it was best to just avoid it due to the power of it. It is a strong distraction to the mind and the body and it is a bottomless pit. The physical representation of it is like a snake that eats the tail out of hunger. Even if a man were to sleep with one million women, he would still have the same lack of control over lust that would be equal to a man that has slept with only one woman in his lifetime. Buddha taught that Lust is what constantly drives reincarnation forward due to death and then rebirth. To get around temptation, he taught of viewing others as brothers, fathers, sisters, and mothers. He also said to view the opposite sex as if they had no skin if the urge was very strong. Hope this helps.

@JayJay-hf1sf 9 ай бұрын

That's will not be for black men .black love sex

@ankitjain3310 2 ай бұрын

Thank you sir. Can you please share more guidance on how to control those urges? I really need it. Please help.

@archiebald4717 2 жыл бұрын

They don't 'beg' for alms, they 'accept' alms.

@unk5138 Жыл бұрын

The reason they use the word beg is to break their ego. Let's say one monk has money and can purchase food on his own. This leads to attachment over money owned, and thus they go to beg for food for the purpose of breaking their ego. Thus it's not offensive when one uses the word beg when it comes to monks. It's even how the Buddha used to call it.

@archiebald4717 Жыл бұрын

@@unk5138 Monks do not buy food! They do not beg. They walk along the road and stop if someone is waiting to offer food. Trust me, I know, there are five temples within spitting distance of my house.

@unk5138 Жыл бұрын

@@archiebald4717 brother, I know they don't carry money, I was just giving an example. Like how we are really attached to the money which we earn, thus to be detached the monks renounce themselves from the rest of the world. And for begging it's not in the literal sense that begging from people out of misery or desperation, it is just a term used to describe how they gather food for themselves, even Buddha uses the term begging and many monks too use it. Begging is not a bad term when it comes to monks as it's an ego breaking activity.

@archiebald4717 Жыл бұрын

@@unk5138 A s I said, they do not beg, they accept alms.

@DualHeal 6 ай бұрын

I'd also stray away from using the word 'beg' since, as I see, offering food to monks is socially acceptable act done willingly. So it isn't begging, they don't even have to ask for food, they just collect it. But at no point can you see monks actually 'begging' or asking, as I assume from my limited knowledge of this culture.@@archiebald4717

@batmanbillions 10 ай бұрын

10:32 a sigma man. Im on a nofap journey. 45 days . being free from sexual thots is so liberating..you take off the extra weights off from your mind...still like the monk said, the desires comes very fast....vigilant you have to be....im on abstinence for success. it is my purpose..my spiritual mentor also advised this so strictly...an opposite gender can destroy your life in mere seconds....

@thrylos32 6 ай бұрын

Indeed great will power from the monk. We should keep in mind that lust is one form of desire. There are many more, equally difficult desires and sensual pleasures. Being grateful for what you already have, seeing reality as it is - having right view, having no ill wills are keys to freedom from suffering. Good luck to your journey 🙏 keep going.

@mainanxpress8915 2 жыл бұрын

Good nice

@Lone_Star86 11 ай бұрын

Does anyone know which Buddhist Monastery this is? I want to go ordain as a monk also and learn their ways.

@UnknownUnknown-hg7xg 6 ай бұрын

This is Thai Theravada monks. 225 monastic rules, very strict forest tradition.

@user-hk7vl3uf2k 5 ай бұрын

❤

@ambihalpe8195 Жыл бұрын

A small mobile phone, lol! The whole world on your palm! Yup, abstinence.🤣

@batmanbillions 10 ай бұрын

voice contact, words exchange contact, spiritual contact etc desires can happen with an old nokia phone.

@teddyp3723 7 ай бұрын

Abstinence doesn’t mean one refrains from using technology, it means using it in an abstinent manner, to a greater or lesser degree.

@imprivsoaugustinei1910 3 ай бұрын

The latter hasn’t stopped in three years

@kavindurathnayake1512 3 ай бұрын

☸️☸️☸️

@dimitrisjim1216 9 ай бұрын

What happens when those teenage monks, get hijacked by their hormones?

@AmazingStoryDewd 9 ай бұрын

Discipline that's really all it takes

@Kaoniao 8 ай бұрын

Many get caught, having relations with women or even children but if the abbot looks the other side, they can continue their life in the monastery.

@ashutoshbaresa9296 2 ай бұрын

So Many Similarities In Indian🇮🇳 & Chinese🇨🇳 Culture But Both Countries Behave Like Enemies......#peace

@alwaysr6778 2 жыл бұрын

The real abstinence is to be practiced with your partner during the union of both souls. There is the key to go back to God.

@miraculous_posts1810 2 жыл бұрын

🤡

@NoDrizzy630 Жыл бұрын

Go back to something that never existed?

@alwaysr6778 Жыл бұрын

@@NoDrizzy630 Correct. To something that is nothing and everything. That doesn't exist but is everywhere.

@michaelm108 Жыл бұрын

sexual indulgence (even with a "partner") will fade your inner-vision, and take you further away from God. Any ancient path (vedic, buddhist, etc) agrees on this.

@carmendelabellemotte7865 2 жыл бұрын

You have to be pretty naive to believe most of them remain celibate and virtuous .Some do though...and once again lack of options and opportunities are the reason

@motorcitymetal5299 Жыл бұрын

... even incels are pissed some Buddhist monks get more sex than they do.

@gonzaloagullo5366 Жыл бұрын

And how would u know that ?

@AmazingStoryDewd 9 ай бұрын

Many of them do. Not all are as weak as you

@teddyp3723 7 ай бұрын

I feel like you’re just assuming that people aren’t celibate for other reasons than lack of opportunity. There are plenty of people who have the opportunity, good looks, wit, etc., choose celibacy.

@carmendelabellemotte7865 7 ай бұрын

@@teddyp3723 yes where ? In lalaland

@lenurbatalov6445 Жыл бұрын

I think it’s extreme. Punish your body for something that is very nature of life. I like most of the ideas in the Buddhism but some I don’t share

@michaelm108 Жыл бұрын

you should research the power of abstinence. many great men and women, through out history, have praised its benefits

@lenurbatalov6445 Жыл бұрын

@@michaelm108 no thanks.

@unk5138 Жыл бұрын

Punish your body how?

@batmanbillions 10 ай бұрын

misinterpretetion...most of us havnt discovered this secret yet...its so powerful....takes immense concentration and observation bro

@AmazingStoryDewd 9 ай бұрын

Just because something is natural doesn't always make it good

@gentilimusic3804 Жыл бұрын

So if the whole world were monk humans would go extinct with no sex

@johnanderson6946 Жыл бұрын

doesnt matter

@michaelm108 Жыл бұрын

the whole world will never be monks. monks will always be a small portion of society, that is there to guide humanity as an example

@Shaitan-K.Pillay 9 ай бұрын

It doesn't matter to the Universe. It probably doesn't matter to the dead, even if they do exist in some form, and that is a big, skeptical if. It only matters if you care about it, but you won't exist forever to care about that. Of course, it is an unavoidable fate. At one point in time, humans will no longer exist. That worry that humans will not exist will end when humans become extinct. So, in the long run, it does not matter whether people engage in procreation or not.

@AmazingStoryDewd 9 ай бұрын

@@Shaitan-K.Pillayyou're in the wrong place if you think this way.

@Shaitan-K.Pillay 9 ай бұрын

@@AmazingStoryDewd no, I am fine. The thing is, nothing has an intrinsic value. If you think clearly, the fact is everything we value is only valuable as long as we value them. We are giving meaning to stuff by ourselves. I am not saying it is a bad thing though. Values give morals, direction and sanity. Life is easier that way. Wanting and having children is fine. But, extinction of humans is inevitable, whatever we do, whether we accept it or not. I, you, or anyone else having children will not change that.

@blackowl-jx2oq Жыл бұрын

Abstain from violence? Those novices are whipped on a daily basis! Also some smoke, and I doubt that South Asian monasteries are void of sex. There is a huge difference between the ideal and the reality. It's a constant struggle, and I don't see why?