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I have a really hard time having conversations, because I constantly change topics. Which makes it really hard to believe that I have friendships.

Social anxiety by medical definition is fear of criticism and negative scrutiny. This is DSM description. This means - that social anxiety is fear of mistakes. Fear of uncertainty - is fear of other people's criticism. So it is not general fear of something. The fear is very laser sharp : fear of other people's scrutiny. After all - it is called social + anxiety. Which means that fear stems from social factor: scrutiny. It is not called self anxiety. It is not called overwhelm anxiety. It is not called worry anxiety. It's name is very crystal clear: social + anxiety. When we warp social anxiety as general worry anxiety - self fulfilling prophecy will occur. Now socially anxious people will start to label any kind of new situation as anxiety and worry - and start to worry and ruminate - because they were instructed by CBT to worry - because CBT explains social anxiety as general worry. In reality - socially anxious people can make their social anxiety to be Functional. This does not mean healthy - it simply means that socially anxious people can mask their symptoms and hence waste large amount of energy into hiding their symptoms - and this is not healthy - because there is no authenticity. Without authenticity - we end up with rigid mindset and this leads to personality disorder. This way CBT is contributing to mental illness instead of helping. RSD and social anxiety are one and the same - and they both stem from ACE and ACoA. Exposure to narcissistic abuse - in childhood during developmental years where we are suppose to build our identity - and in present time - where we end up being in mobbing toxic jobs and around toxic people because our self worth and authenticity was destroyed in dysfunctional ambient. Social anxiety is closely related to exposure to narcissistic abuse. CBT keeps on explaining social anxiety as irrational fear - which is not true. Abuse is the trigger and cause of social anxiety. IT is perfectly natural and rational response to abnormal and sick toxic people around us.- Other people influence our self worth and our identity. This was discovered in Sociology 100 years ago - and sociology was build on this postulate: Theories of the Self William James (1890): A person has "as many social selves as there are individuals who recognize him and carry and image of him in their minds" Charles Cooley (1902): Views of self reflect the standpoints of significant others in our lives ("looking-glass self") George Herbert Mead (1934): We imagine the perspectives of others and incorporate these into our self views - and that this occurs continuously as we interact with others on an ongoing, moment to moment basis. - Having a distorted looking glass (incorrectly imagining others’ opinions of us) can cause bad feelings, or a negative self-image. (schoolwire)

CBT tips about social skills and social anxiety is due to mid 1990s research when DSM was trying to describe social anxiety- researcher bias occurred: socially anxious people never went to be tested - because they have social anxiety. Instead shy people and narcissists went to tests - and now DSM is warped through wrong depictions of social anxiety - which are hijacked by shy people and narcissists who have a gift of talking - because they do not have true actual social anxiety. Shy people and narcissists have social anxious symptoms - but they do not have actual social anxiety: fear of criticism and scrutiny. This means - socially anxious people will not talk - they will self censor. You spend 20 minutes of video explaining to socially anxious what to talk - but socially anxious due to fear of criticism do not talk at all. Due to trauma. Due to exposure to narcissistic abuse. I do not understand - CBT is behavior therapy - and the founders of behavior therapy clearly stated that our behavior is shaped through operant conditioning. If the adult person is afraid of talking - not because of talking itself - since they can talk to normal people - but this fear is based on fear of criticism and scrutiny - we do not have to have PhD in psychology to conclude that this is trauma issue. Not general anxiety issue as CBT portrays social anxiety. Socially anxious have full social skills: they have empathy and understanding how their behavior is affecting others. This means that social anxiety is not personality disorder as CBT portrays it. - "B.F. Skinner's theory of learning says that a person is first exposed to a stimulus, which elicits a response, and the response is then reinforced (stimulus, response, reinforcement). This, ultimately, is what conditions our behaviors."

Why is the picture quality always so bad? Love the content but 360p?!!

14:00 what about feeling like things are to good to be true. For example you can’t be successful bc good things just don’t happen to you.

Fear if being mocked which happens every day.

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You don’t have to go beyond the title and this new to me pathology to recognize how deeply modern psychology and psychiatry is failing us. They don’t know how to heal childhood trauma and it shows. Won’t follow the algorithm to “learn” more.