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I got dumped by my best friend a few months ago and at first I was heartbroken because I thought I would never be able to find anybody who would tolerate me being socially awkward and all of my ADHDisms but looking back on it I am so thankful that they dropped me because my GOD they were a terrible friend. I won’t get into everything they did in the comments bc I’m not trying to trauma dump but the point is it’s better to be lonely for a bit and wait for the right people to come along than to have friends that don’t treat you well that you stay with just because you want people to like you.

The number of friendships/relationships that don't pass the "step back and see if they reciprocate communication" realization is astounding to me..... and a bit painful.

I find that ADHD people without autism have very easy to MAKE friends but very hard to MAINTAIN friends

Rose colored glasses make red flags look like flags. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

"when you spend a day with someone who's your friend, you should feel good" oh man 😭😭😭😭

Literally just lost my only 2 local friends after they said I was rude, but it was a boil over from being walked all over for years. I feel so free now.

Yes! 9:30 Sometimes when I first make friends, I do look for how they make me feel and when i feel good with them, I "overshare" and put energy into it, BUT I've found that the (at first) exciting friendships fizzle out quickly and/or the other person's character comes out in a bad way when our friendship starts to require more of both of us. It's rather like my dating life, tbh. So, these days, I look for steady, grounded people who initially might seem boring, but they hear me out, they keep their word, and it's a SLOW BURN. I have yet to be disappointed with friendships that begin this way. We'll see how I can apply this to dating.

Being an AuDHDer, finding and keeping friendships is never that easy. Not to mention the fact I also feel lonely when I'm surrounded by other people. It doesn't get better overnight.

I stepped out of some friendsgips, to just see when other person would reach out. Because I was always trying to fit in. Turned out, I've heard from them after a month or not at all, because someone felt offended I didn't keep contact (I was always the one who reached). I gave a lot and now I'm picky. I have more energy, cleaned my home, invested energy in my romantic relationship and kid. I have friends mostly long distance, because we live now in different places, but we know each other for a long time.

I’m happy that she brought up automating friendship. I’m a notoriously bad texter and my friends accept it because I’ve been transparent about the reasons I may not reply. That said, I don’t like that I don’t see my friends as a consequence of having poor response times that eventually lead to people not inviting me. This past year, I feel like I’ve legitimately changed my life by making seeing friends routine. I see a group of friends every Wednesday to watch a show together. At least 3 hours a week I see people I used to see somewhere between every couple of days to every couple of months depending on how hyper focused I am on them. One of my friends is a real home body and is unlikely to agree to plans out - I show up at her house every Friday and we hang out and talk and do things together. One of my friends is hyper busy and is really difficult to meet up with BUT she works near me so we’ve taken to leaving the office for lunch so we can have lunch at least once a week to check in for that hour. It’s not the same day every week but because we’ve gotten used to it, it really stands out to each of us in a negative way if we go a week without it happening because it’s against routine at this point. I can’t overstate how amazing it is for friendships to schedule in time with people you love

When I finally met a new employee at work, I just knew she could be a cool friend. I did something very unusual for me: I went to her office to talk to her for no reason other than to talk to her. I am usually shy but she is so easy to talk to. I was still nervous but excited for a new friend, I wanted to know EVERYTHING about her. We got along really well, really quickly. It helped that she also has ADHD, so she understood my "weirdness."

My daughter has adhd and is 11 years old. I find she makes friends really easily but then they tend to distance themselves from her or treat her poorly. It breaks my heart to see it. She can be very impulsive and is not always aware of others personal space. Hopefully it gets better with time. Thx for posting this!

Thank you! I do things very spontaneously and can't seem to do anything consistently. Friendships, especially. Unlike hobbies and special interests, you can't put friendships on the shelf for an extended time. Reconnecting with people gives me anxiety because I feel guilty for not staying in touch or I feel awkward starting conversations.

I straight up just had my best friend tell me i was manipulative. I'm so tired of this constant 'make friends, lose friends' problem. I'm either too weird or too clingy or I make mistakes that look like I'm excluding people OR I am the one being excluded. I just want to actually be liked, no strings attached.

My biggest struggle with friendships is severe RSD. I felt great when I was hanging out with this person the other day, but then one little thing happened (or I interpreted something that didn’t happen) and now I feel like I’m just being tolerated and bothering others, but I don’t really belong. That’s probably more than just making and keeping friends though… lol

Friendships are so hard for me. Part of my issue is that I do go in full blast but then immediately I get anxiety because I know I don't have the energy to follow through as much and consistently as would be expected. Then I self sabotage trying to create space so I don't either overwhelm or create a false sense of my communication abilities

I recently stopped a friendship because they always called the shots and left no room for anything that I was interested in. I didn't feel safe asking for what I wanted or was interested in, and it's incredible how taking that out of my life has been so positive for my mental health. I think this is a another tool for spotting narcissists: if you are always doing interests/hobbies that are theirs and not yours. They are using you for company and companionship but don't care to reciprocate the other way (they aren't interested in your interests or asking about you).

Bless you for taking the time and care to make purposeful, edited content and not just repeatedly vomiting out a 2 hour interview as a podcast. I can't do podcasts. It's just so meandering and I don't know what they're gunna talk about and I might not even know or care about the people talking!

I'm about to turn 39 years old. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. I was shown this channel by the person doing my assessment, and it has been an amazing resource and place of positivity. I loved your book, and have been doing more literature reading. It all kind of started here. You helped me know to not be scared, and that it'll be okay to accept yourself. Thank you.

A big issue I've noticed is that even if I say I'm autistic & adhd so could you be more specific/literal with things/ I'm very literal with things, etc - they don't really take any of that on board & will continue to assume and fill in their own narratives, but so not tell you, while you're thinking if anything is up they will tell you, and then they try to hint things that you don't pick up up, and then they explode leaving you having no idea what you even did 😅

Well, this video hit very close to home for me. I’m 35 and throughout most of my life I was always the one to reach out first. Only in the past two years have I learned to give my 50% to a relationship and see how it is received. It was a very hard moment to find out that people I considered close friends (2+ years) would only reach out if I was the one to initiate a conversation. It made me look back and realize that this had always been the case. If I invited whoever to meet up with, it was always met with a positive confirmation. However, I rarely got the random invite in return. Now, if/when I meet someone new, the moment I notice that my 50% is not reciprocated I'll stop altogether. I put into any relationship the amount of effort that I receive. This was not a fun experience by any means but there is a lot of peace that comes with it. And being a single dad with a 7yr old, I don't mind not having a lot of friends. I have 3 I keep in touch and hang out with when adulting allows for some free time.

What has worked great for me is being up front with people. I am bad with names .... I tell people that up front that I will forget it. I also tell people I am not great at making plans but would love to hang out with them. So that somebody who's better at that kind of thing I will say hey if for some reason you invite me somewhere and I can't go please keep inviting me. I definitely want to hang out with you. Because I don't want me not reaching out or not being good at deciding what to do or where to go to get in the way. I also am much better at impromptu meet ups instead of planned ahead ones. So if you happen to be free.... You can ask if the other person is and maybe they want to go out for coffee or lunch or a walk. And when you get more comfortable with people you can even tell them that your cool just sitting on the couch and talking. Or hanging out with them anywhere doing anything. But in a charming way and not like a creeper way. 😂😂😂😂 A lot of green flags for me are the people that I end up talking to after events like we're just not leaving because we keep talking. Usually those people are my types of people. We're the ones that kind of role in late. 😜 Or talk a bunch! 😂

23 years old, only recently got ADHD diagnosis. My best friendships have been with those who seemed to know me better than I did, and on some level almost knew that I had ADHD and entirely accepted me for it. I only wish in the past that I had the tools and knowledge to avoid the fallout and disconnection I had with others!

‘The conversations will fall off and they will not seek you out’…..I was just noticing this with a friend and I was starting to question if we are friends. We were at first, fast friends, but now….I feel I am making a large effort to get a text longer than three words. I am late diagnosed AuDHD, so I question every part of a new relationship, so i thought i was just over analyzing it. My husband even wondered if i was over analyzing, the struggle is real. That statement really hits home. Jessica, wanna go kayaking together, I have two, and a canal in my back yard….anytime you are in Florida, you are invited! I think you are great (and this is a very helpful channel, thank you)

Considering i just got dumped by a friend, mainly owing to what I would see as impulsivity and social issues, this is timely! Also, it's interesting to think of 'Well, what do I want?" I was so grateful that anyone wanted to hang out with me, that i would just take on their interests, blindly agree, and bite my tongue. BTW: The dumping was in spectacular fashion, with a full meltdown.

One thing you should also realise is that you have certain friends for certain interests or who fulfill certain roles in you life. Your sports friend is maybe not the same as your emotional support friend. But this also means that you yourself have a certain roll in the life of your friends. And that roll might not be the same with every friend. So you spread your wants, needs and interests between your friends based on what their 'speciality' is when it comes to those wants, needs and interests. That way you don't 'exhaust' them with all of it. That also means that you don't have to 'exhaust' yourself by singlehandedly fulfilling all of the needs, wants and interests of all of your friends. And you shouldn't want to be or try to be. People want to be friends with you for what you are to them. Not for what you are not or for what you are to others.

I feel this way about dating. Except I dont have many to select from so I'm really focused on being tolerated :/

Good Lord, I have needed this video and this information for 40 years. I am throwing sensory friendly hugs to the both of you.

A friend should be someone you know wants the best for you.

I’m blessed because many of my friends are also not great at texting back and other things, but we will have 3 hour long conversations when we catch up and make each other laugh.

One thing I struggle on is how I can tell someone is not treating me well. It seems so vague to me. And what are some other ways to show reciprocity without getting pressured with neurotypical standards? That said, this video was such perfect timing as I'm dealing with maintaining friendships.

As a kid it was super challenging because my "friends" had absolutely no issue pushing me aside at any given moment. Now as an adult, my biggest challenge is the feelings associated with having to divorce a friendship that has grown unhealthy.

Thank you so much for this video in particular!! Making friends is hard, even though I'm a bit of an extrovert at times. I'm a singer and I love performing in front of thousands of people. But meeting one or two new people on a personal level can be so difficult for me! It's interesting, because I'm confident, kind, know how to be friendly and talk, etc. But I still have a hard time relating to people simply because my thought process is completely different from most of theirs!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR CHANNEL!!!

Jessica, I find it fascinating to listen to you--a successful KZfaqr and author--talk about being bullied, being ignored, gaslit and invalidated! I identify completely, and this video was a good reminder that just because someone looks successful, doesn't mean they don't still cope with a lot of trauma. So thank you for sharing your experience. I especially loved in your service dog video, how you talk about the dog making you feel seen--I struggle with that, too. I'm now considering getting a service dog--and have spent an entire week hyperfocusing on that and losing hours of time....

My experience is that people who i connect with (friendship-wise), as i get to know them, i learn at some point that they have ADHD or that they are neurodivergent! I don't seem to connect easily with neurotypical people... I can, but it's harder and a longer process

Oh, my gosh! I started doing “I need a job to do (during this social interaction” since I was a child! I even employed that strategy when I worked at a camp (and later at a mental hospital with kids), years later!

I constantly feel like a horrible friend. I make fantastic first impressions and then I have no clue how to maintain the relationship. I appreciate this video.

A good friend/potential good friend is someone who doesn't try to change you per their standards. And they LISTEN, truly and honestly. Good enough for starters.

I've always struggled to fit in and make friends. I have a couple, but they've been around since I was a teenager. My closest and longest friend was also diagnosed with adhd in the last 5 years. It's no wonder we were fast friends. I've made what I thought were good friends, but eventually they generally crush me or drain the life out of me. This is a good video. Thank you.

I am 12 and just found the best friend I have ever had and she understands me so well and I can always act like myself when I am with her

OMG thank you for asking her ALL the right questions! 😂 I feel like it’s common sense to some but it’s like HOW TF DO you know you should even pursue a friend 😅

This has been so helpful and I didn't even know I needed this information. It's like something that's missing and you don't know until you encounter it. Friendship as an adult has been difficult because of past experiences but it's nice to know that it doesn't have to be a forever thing.

today i finally received my FULLY confirmed ADHD diagnosis at 27, nearly one and a half years after an initial 'maybe, probably' diagnosis, followed by a long delay getting my medication sorted due to other issues. it was so incredibly positive and fantastic to get this unexpected news - i hadn't let myself believe that it would actually happen, that they wouldn't just say they didn't believe me and send me away. so my day started brilliantly. however, various things then happened in my day that led me to feeling REALLY despondent and angry and upset about the state of my friendships, and i ended up feeling incredibly alone. (i didn't fall out with anyone, it was just a few unfortunate things that happened that led to me feeling vastly underappreciated, unacknowledged and unseen and even uncared for.) i've struggled for so long with being able to 'hear' what my inner voice might be saying about what i need in a friendship, going between 'they don't care about me, nobody's even trying, what's the point' and 'how could i ever have thought that omg they're the besssttttt' and it's just so exhausting trying to find what is best for me. then this video pops up and it's like i'm able to see a bit clearer again. i really am okay having needs and maybe it IS an option to articulate them and maybe they can meet them, maybe they can't/won't, but that's where i have to meet them. i need to be honest with myself about how people make me feel and i'm not a drama queen for that. i'm definitely improving on that front over the years but today just ended up with me feeling so uncared about; thank you for this brilliant reminder that real honesty and vulnerability is VITAL in building healthy friendships. i know that of course but i go into fawn mode so often that reminders like these are so important.

People who absolutely love to talk to you... until you try to tell them something about yourself, at which point they instantly and completely lose interest. That's not your friend. That's someone who's figured out that you're a rewarding and supportive audience.

14:24 the disappearing hand magic trick was awesome 😂 But seriously, great video as always, thanks brain ❤

I really love when Caroline comes on. Her advice is compassionate and actionable. Plus, you all have good chemistry. One thing I wonder/have trouble doing is ... getting the first potential friendship date. Like, I meet someone, we seem to vibe/connect, then... uhhhh, IDK what to do to keep it going. Tips on taking that first step in a socially acceptable way appreciated. Well wishes!

I see a lot of content about noticing 'red flags' in others. But it's pretty much a red flag too to expect a friend to be the perfect person for you.

It's extremely difficult for me to be the only one maintaining a friendship

I think as well the point about doing what you want to do and what you're willing to do matters for givong prospective friends the opportunity to be your friend too. Showing people what you like, so they can want or be willing to do that with you.

Something that surprised me was that psychology study that said it takes 40-60 hours doing something together with a person to make the shift from stranger to casual friend and 100+ hours to go into good friends territory. 100 hours is 1 year of bi-weekly yoga or jujitsu or 2 years of a weekly meetup. I think it's important to be aware of our needs and the green flags and consciously pick someone that matches your energy. But also be specially careful of not writing off someone because you had ONE boring or awkward experience once. Everyone can have a bad day now and then. It's only when it's a pattern when it becomes a problem.

I’ve been thinking about my friendships a lot lately. I constantly feel like a bad friend, and I accept mistreatment. For example, I have a long distance friend who, on both sides, we can’t keep a consistent hangout schedule. When we’re in the same space, things are ok until they’re not ok. Trauma dumps are a thing, but I find myself needing to share frustration less and less. My ability to show up for people needing to trauma dump is getting more challenging. I’m starting to think this friendship has run its course….

My mindset for the "how do you know if they are only asking out of politeness" is "that is their problem". I have a 5-sentence 1-picture rule. If I'm talking about a trip or my dog, I'm allowed up to 5 sentences and one picture, and if the other person isn't asking questions or more pictures, I'll move on to another topic. If they ask more just to be polite, they'll be punished by an earful of stories and details. Note: I'm still practicing the mindset of not taking full responsibility of everything that may go wrong in a social interaction or a friendship and don't always succeed at it

The people who I consider my closest friends are people who I am in contact with very rarely, or who I contact only about specific things. The mere idea of having friends who are intimately involved in and aware of my entire life exhausts me. Most of my friends are also neurodivergent so no one gets offended or upset by weeks to months of radio silence!

I think when we meet someone, we tend to empathize to the point of extreme projection where we think the other person could be our best friend because we get lost in the moment and overidentify with them and project that they're just like us. I have to remind myself to reorient with reality and see the person as they are, not as I wish they were or as what parts of myself I'm projecting on them.

I find it so hard to go from "friendly acquaintances" to "actual friends". There are so many people I really like and get on with but never seem to get to the friends stage.

When you said "when you spend a day with someone who's your friend you should feel good", it reinforced that I was right to walk away from a friendship. A lot of our time spent together sounded good when we planned it, but I often left the occasions feeling tired and frustrated. To the point that I would rather go do things by myself than with her.

Around 18 minutes or so in they discuss something I've told people. Go do stuff that you want to, that you find interesting. And, if you happen to have a rapport with people there? Wonderful! Pursue a friendship (or even a relationship) with them. If you're not having fun, and it shows, or if you're there only to find someone, it's not going to go well for you. Even better is if you do already have a friend or coworker or acquaintance that you can go with the first couple of times, who might be able to break the ice by introducing you to people.

"It's not really my thing, but it seems like it's very important to you, and I'd be happy to." Thank y'all for sussing out the verbiage regarding reciprocity and articulating boundaries in a very lighthearted way. This is a great way to say this! 20:11

I think one of tbe hardest things about close, long-term friendships (esp. with NT's) is when the friendship starts changing: The older you get, your careers or families or living locations may change radically, but you still really value the dear friend, so you're thinking: "How do I communicate to them that I still value quality time with them even as they are, or I am, changing? (Less in common but still besties or close in a healthy way). Do we both need otber friends so that we can return to each otber"s company refreshed and not needy or cranky/hyper-analytical?

I have just been diagnosed with ADHD. The 2 friends I thought were my best friends seem to have disappeared, and I'm trying to make these friendships stay alive. 1 of these friends has not returned my last message about going out on my birthday. If anyone else out there is aching with loneliness, and wondering where their friends have gone, you are not alone ❤️

I have only just started watching this and I already feel called out. "I want to be friends with people who like me" rather than actively picking people I like is something I'm only just starting to shift, and it's embarrassing that I'm doing this as an adult. Thank you so much for covering this and being so relatable!

So much in this video reinforced that I was right to walk away from a friendship. A lot of our time spent together sounded good when we planned it, but I often left the occasions feeling drained and frustrated. I think i was trying to maintain a friendship that she just wasn't willing to put any effort into

I just ordered your book today and I'm so excited to get it! I stumbled upon your channel accidently while trying to research adult ADHD because my 24 year old daughter was recently diagnosed and had been really pushing me to get diagnosed because we match symptoms. I discussed it with my psych and she agreed so I'm being tested. My psych asked if any of my struggles were struggles when I was in school also. That night I sat down and thought about it and made a 2 page list in my bullet journal of my struggles in school. I couldn't believe it! I've been dealing with undiagnosed, untreated ADHD since I was a kid!!! Your channel really opened my eyes and makes me realize that the things I do, feel, how I react to things, etc aren't just "quirks" I'm sick with. They are symptoms! Treatable symptoms! It's like there is light at the end of the tunnel maybe!!! Thank you!

I LOVE THIS CHANNEL SO MUCH

the only channel I don’t have to watch in 2x

Thank you for this, I've been struggling recently with making new friendships as i only have 1 close friend, which I've had since childhood. One thing you both talk about in the video is shared intrests, but i dont know if others in the community suffer the same but I dont seem to know my own identity, I go from impulsive purchases to start new hobbies etc and I feel like I dont have or I have lost a sense of identity. Maybe a video idea on ADHD and identity.

Re. social clues. I find it very useful to straight up working into the conversation that I might miss something: "I simply don't understand irony" or "Sometimes I don't get the stuff between the lines. Did you mean that xyz?" or "Please tell me when you get tired and want to end this lunch meet. I want you to be comfortable just saying it." 1. I let people know how I work so they don't misinterpet me, and so my ADHDness doesn't surprise them later. 2. If they are also neurodivergent, they will usually do these things too, we have something in common and are more likely to become friends. Or at least have a fun night bonding over hyperfixations.

I honestly don’t have enough emotional energy to put into ANY relationship, so I inevitably end up distant from any friends I somehow *do* make and I’m just not worth the investment since I can’t reciprocate

Love these videos on friendship. God knows I need them... I don't seem to be getting anything right. People are not interested/responsive at all 95% of the time and it's quite desperating especially when you don't know what's wrong. Friends and relationships alike Also, zero radar for signals....if any

This was so helpful! Jessica, I have made so many “friends” who I later found out the enjoy “kicking dogs” or some other deal breaker for me, SO relatable! I actually laughed out loud! I would love to see another video from you and Caroline having a conversation about how to end a relationship. 😮 I usually just end up ghosting because I have no idea what to do when the rose covered glasses come off and the red flags are all visible. I think because of my rejection sensitivity it’s painful to reject others, no idea how to navigate it.

I’ve been thinking about this exact problem for about a week! Seeing your new video can’t be a coincidence. Thank you so much for your work! I have (Autism + ADHD) (:

I have autism with traces of ADHD, I am probably a person who very quickly 'ghosts' too enthusiastic new friends who have similar energy communicating with ppl that many ADHD ppl seems to find common. So called ghosting seems to be the only way the message seems to go through - and the message is: give me space, I am not your bestie. I don't mean I delete them from my phone or social media, but I just reply if the matter is urgent and I reply "No thanks" or so. In this point I usually know, that I won't be spending time with them again, because if I get together, it starts the cycle again and soon I have to explain why I don't let in ppl who comes uninvited. My dearest friends are the one I meet or talk to range once a month to once every third year os so. I have one or two friends whom lives near and even then, if I don't hear about them in month or two, it's not that big of a deal. We just continue where we left, no asking what's up or what other person has done. It's irrelevant and nosey - not a nice habit, we don't do small talk, we tell if we wan't to share. So people have different ways to keep up friendship and different needs, I think those are things I need to have common with new people. I have to say, that person with traces of ADHD have sometimes hard to believe that their actions are pushy and overwhelming, they are in a mission to save someone to being "lonely" and tend to make decisions without asking opinion from their annoyed friend who needs to do work or just want to spend their time other ways. I have found this enthusiasm from myself too, but I adore my own time, so I have no problem to skip my own acts and I kind of think that other ppl have other stuff to do too. So how do you make it clear to ppl who have maybe the feeling of loosing someone, that you don't want to break the relationship, you just don't want to have them in your life many times a day, after you have known them for two weeks? Sometimes the reply for "No thanks" or "Let's check again in few months" is the person then being mean and pointy, being upset. After that it's much harder to ask that person anywhere, even if would open new places to have more suitable ppl for friendship for them.

I have been multitasking while I am listening to this and everything about this is just what I need at the moment. I have realized that certain friendships were not healthy for me because I feel like I was putting more in then I was getting. This is giving me an opportunity to reevaluate where I put my time and I appreciate it so much.

wow, im diagnosed Autism and CPTSD, THIS video has just answered a questions i couldnt put into words

This is significantly harder at work. My experience has been that people signal interest at work and put on a face that encourages interest from me. It’s really tough to scan the room and get a real sense - and if I do get a real sense, it means I haven’t been able to focus on the work.

I'm not ADHD but I got so much from this video. I have so much trouble making friends. I ended a friendship I'd had for many years. When we hung out I found the experience so stressful I'd literally be sick for days to weeks after. I told myself this is what friendship is. Friendship hurts a lot. But its better than being lonely. To a lesser degree a lot of my friendships have been like this. Slowly, slowly trying to learn about boundaries and speaking up for myself.

weirdly my adhd is helping me with this problem. If I find myself struggling to "convince" my brain to spend time with those people, it´s a strong indicator, that something is wrong. Even though I can´t put it into words. Most of the time I either listen to my brain and cut the relationship or I talk with that person, if I have a perticular problem or situation. Also I try to differentiate between unreasonable fears on my part or real problems.

This video was so helpful, no matter who I asked about getting friends none of the advice really stuck, the experiences coming from this match mine so much it’s kinda scary

I had a very good friend for several years, but we have recently fallen out and I don't think the relationship will get repaired. This video is very helpful, glad to have run across it!

You'll find that the right friends come along, 90% of the time its others with ADHD / Autism cause you's understand each others way of communicating. The right ones will stick by. The ones that use you will be hard to spot out but just listen to what they have to say when yous hang out and the real them will come out eventually.

i need friends like you guys. People that understand and are so similar to me is so hard to find.

Interesting Conversation! by the Congrats on the new baby.

Yes! I totally struggle with reciprocating!!! 🙇‍♀

Jessica Mccabe your videos are so helpful and useful! You are the reason why I recently got my mild ADHD diagnosis! And thank you so so much for writing a book on ADHD! It means the world to me! This video hits me so hard because ever since I was younger I found it impossible to make friends! P.S Jessica you are an amazing mom and person so thank you!

I love the idea of meeting up with people, discovering shared interests, aspirations and outlook, and I don't mean to be a negative Nelly, but... What about those of us with everyone's favourite ADHD superpower: rejection sensitivity? (Plus being British I have a very dry/sarcastic sense of humour which really helps...)

For me it's often that the people I meet are nice people but I just feel like I'm on the outside. I'm trying to be friends with the group but I'm kind of just there and I can't really get a word into the conversation.

OMG, this is so timely for me. Thank you.

This was amazing. Gotta rewatch it multiple times. It seems like a frivolous topic - friendship. But it's actually such an important investment to the overall quality of your life.

Oooh it would be interesting and helpful to learn more about different types of friends, and how those change as we grow from smol children

Thank you so much for the book you just released. I’ve been going through the audio version and I haven’t felt more understood in my life. Chapters 7 and 8 brought me to tears a few times.

Thank you so much for sharing these insights! Keep up the fantastic work!

I'm so glad to be stumbled upon this video. The tone, the thoughts you are speaking out are our inner voices. Feels like we are heard 🥲🙇🏽‍♂️✨

A lot of this also applies to romantic relationships.

It was so nice to watch! it made me reflect a lot on how I engage in my friendships and recently I was trying to identify those friendships where I was compromising too much

I love the topics that you have chosen for the video, in a way much needed

FANTASTIC video! Y’all are both great!! And greatly appreciated!! ❤

thank you so much for the vulnerable questions ♥️

This explained so much, I've always thought that I'm better off without friends than with bad friends and now I finally understand why and how, thank you

I definitely have to have friends that don't require birthday cards or on-time-ness. I totally get that!