It's crazy to hear this if you have ADHD cause you have always thought there was something wrong with your discipline or attitude but to know the science behind it is a game changer.

i have adhd and DEFINITELY have the emotional dysregulation component, always have, but it has rarely presented itself as externalized anger. instead i've always been really quick to tears. kids didn't reject me because i was a hothead, but because i was crying all the time. i also was like.... a super well behaved kid most of the time, and was ridiculously hard on myself if i did anything even slightly "wrong". i was hypervigilant about what other people thought of me and felt about me. so it would be good to talk about emotional dysregulation in adhd beyond just typical (and often more masculine) presentation of anger.

I can't believe that in a presentation with audio and visual components on !ADHD! the camera man is recording the only part that doesn't require seeing

This man gives the most accurate descriptions of ADHD ever

Finally a competent person NOT saying that ADHD IS A GIFT.’it sure isn’t!

I’m in a relationship with an ADHD person and he found out this year, it’s been a tough journey but I’m here to educate myself. Finding out however, I realized a lot of the reactions I’ve experienced makes sense now. The one thing that matters to us is we love each other a lot, thanks for this session and for this channel!

I have adult ADHD and have had it my whole life. I'm 42yrs old and this man is a genius and gifted in the way he explains the scientific facts.

I am a psychiatrist. Recently diagnosed with combined type and it is obvious that DSM-IV and DSM-V are not covering it correctly. The emotional aspects of ADHD are very much present in many patients - in me too and it's astounding that that part is not in it. Very interesting talk.

I've just learned about my ADHD at 34. I agree with everything except driving. Never had an accident. The hyperactivity when driving really lets me see the road from such a wide perspective. I see the faintest details in traffic. Especially at high speeds. Usually when I'm driving I might get someone say "hey watch it there coming over" I say I saw them before they even moved. And it's true. I see things before they happen.

It's kind of ironic that the reason i was denied a diagnose it was because "I was too emotional". The neuro psicologist completely dismised how bad my emotional regulation was.

It's driving me insane that the cameraman isn't letting us see the visuals in the presentation as Russel talks the audience through them, I'm a visual learner and I need that shit

I learned to mask my emotions outwardly with a calm and collected demeanor eventhough I may really be upset, it's my coping mechanism. There are times I get really upset, I let it out in private.

In my case, I remember having trouble making friends, but NOT because of anger. I can't put my finger on it, but I remember being a kind child and maybe too eager to be friends. I was very lofty and creative and probably seemed really weird to a lot of people. I was in clouds and bubbles with references to TV shows and other things that only I watched or that weren't popular etc... I'm still like that, but I have had to fight bitterness, cynicism, and self-esteem issues. I am in a good place now because God has helped me figure myself out and heal and change (something I couldn't do alone). Dr Barkley should be the absolute clinical authority on ADHD, he has helped me a lot as well. Love his simplistic breakdown and clarity on the emotional component... I have used his tips to educate family friends and strangers as well.

ADHD? Struggling to stay focused? Everything too SLOW??? SPEED UP the video! Click on 'Settings' in lower Right corner of video, then click 'Speed.; Higher the number, faster it runs. Get in , get out + on to the next. You're welcome.

Before I was diagnosed (and even now, I’m still working on it) I would always be so frustrated with myself because everybody else could hold back tears and rage and I just can’t and I’m so glad I saw this

Forgot to mention I grew up ADHD and surrounded by people who had no idea of what was going on with me, ENTIRE LIFE. Today i find myself deeply trying to understand this disorder and this is the only man able to take me to the next level of the answers I'm seeking. It would be of extreme significance to translate it and spread it around the city. Thanks again!

This might explain why I gets so red hot when I am emotional. Even if I could suppress my emotion, it would be written all over my body.

This is more real than a lot of talks and stuff out there that is messaging "adhd is a superpower!" And then in the comments you get people saying things like... "yes I'm so gifted!" "I don't even study I'm a genius because I have adhd!" Well I have it and I definitely don't feel like that. I'm not trying to be negative - I'm very grateful for my life and abilities... I am just hoping I can learn to manage this adhd journey I'm on in a fast past life so I can provide for my family. This video is nice that it's a real breakdown of details we're not used to hearing is a problem, such as emotion, so we can try to learn to deal with the problem head on. Thank you doc

Where was this in my suggestions five years ago?!!! I am a Romanian adoptee with diagnosed adhd. I didn’t believe I have adhd, I bought into the negative stigma of over diagnosed and misdiagnosed. This is everything I needed. I will get re screened, and likely find a new treatment. This has been the best video for understanding adhd I’ve ever seen period.

I shared this with my friends with ADHD and we all agree, the good Doctor must have stolen our medical charts.

I was recently diagnosed at 40 a few months ago. I’ve always thought I was broken, lazy and just overall destined to be depressed for the rest of my life. I’m incredibly smart and bright and somehow have managed to hold down a great career. I’ve had such imposter syndrome wondering how I’ve never been fired or why anyone would like me as an employee. I also have never been able to keep a relationship longer than 3 years. Since becoming diagnosed and medicated my entire life has changed. I’m finally starting to be the person I always knew I could be. I’ve been completely hyper focusing on learning everything about ADHD and this has been so informative. I’m realizing the flaws I’ve always thought was my character is not that but my disability. I’m also been replaying all the blow outs I’ve been in over my lifetime over and over again but now with the perspective that I have ADHD and emotional disregulation and am realizing that I was much more of the issue than I once thought. I made amends to a lot of people when I stopped drinking 8 years ago and feel like I probably need to do so again to clean up my side of the street. I’m realizing my hot temper to jump to anger made fights that shouldn’t have lasted more than a week last years

male adult, age 34 and diagnosed at the age of 29-30. Here in Brazil most knowledge about ADHD is based on studies about children. And not so many people in my city (specially the ADHD GROUP I am in) speak enough english to hear those blessed words like I do. I want to know if anyone can help me in how to put portuguese subtitles in this video? THousands of people in my city MUST hear all Dr. Russel has said so far. Thank you.

Wow. I just literally had an epiphany while watching this. this lecture really helped me understand my boyfriend’s adhd behavior that has caused so many issues in our relationship, my own problems currently and in childhood, our teenage defiance, as well as both of our difficult past history, my fathers poor parenting style… wow…. This explains so much about my life and his, and it helps me have more compassion for my partner as well as for myself, and my younger self… thank you for this.

This man is great at explaining what he knows. It is more than having the knowledge of something. His presentations are far better than any lectures.

So from the perspective of a 50+-year-old who always knew he "would" be diagnosed with ADHD but would never check because he disagreed with the last letter (D for Disability) vehemently (all bias declared)... When Doctor Barkley discusses the ability to recall an event from memory to cause an emotional shift, I am fascinated by the inefficiency of such an action. I learned I could directly call on a different emotion. Now that I'm actually looking at the research and conclusions of scientists, I'm able to see what "normal" people do and experience. I do not view ADHD as a "disorder". I view it as a different way of being. "Normal" people learn to stop themselves and remind themselves of what they want to achieve. "Normal" people stop themselves and identify that emotion will have negative outcomes, then recall a memory that will evoke emotions they wish to attain. I don't do things for the future. I edit my responses, my habits, my perceptions, the meaning I attach to things, and my expectations to refine my day-to-day, moment-to-moment experience of life. In short, I change who I am so that who I am is more effective, more hopeful, more open to possibility. That's how I cope with the situations "normal" people stop and adjust to. This might seem like splitting hairs. Maybe it is, but it's also EVERYTHING. I view stopping and changing, or faking-till-you-make it as false, as a pretense. I don't judge others for it, but it feels like a lie to me. I'm not going to pretend I like someone so I can get an advantage. I look for ways to appreciate people for who they are. Not just a specific person, all people. I look for ways to interpret things that annoy me. I seek to understand the benefit of things that I would otherwise avoid. This one is significant for me: Everything is potential. I crafted that perspective. If something looks really bad, I look for the good in it. I seek the whole picture. The worst times of my life have prepared me to realize the best. Nothing is inherently negative, it's only how you look at it. I've never succeeded at dieting and exercise based on a future goal of what I want to achieve. I have succeeded by changing who I am. I became fascinated (our superpower) with how the body burned fat and with that ketosis. I made myself an experiment and started new habits. Not to achieve something 6 months down the road, but to see what would happen tomorrow. My wife would tell me "Stop getting on the scales every day You don't lose weight daily. It takes weeks." But for me, it was daily. And daily WAS required, because why would I wait a week to satisfy my curiosity. Living in the NOW is a staple of numerous philosophies. So is "follow your passion". I just have to learn to do this while living in harmony with my environment. I do that by changing how I am, not how I get what I want. When I started exercising, I chased the "burn". I reveled in it the same way people love spicy food. When I work on endurance I'm chasing the runners high, and experimenting with balancing breath control and form to watch the outcomes. I'm in the moment, not the future. When I commit, it's for the experiment, experience, moral imperative. Not for the reward. Every time I've tried to chase the reward, I didn't like the person I became. We're not disabled. We're different from the majority. What's critical about that fact is this: Common wisdom for others doesn't always work for us. We need to share with each other (of the ADHD tribe) what does work. But NOT because we're "compromised". Thinking that way is to abandon all our strengths in favor of conforming to a norm we don't fit. Conforming is a disability. "Normal" people don't revel in losing themselves to weeks' worth of laser focus on some interest or question. Normal people don't automatically notice the parallel patterns at play in agile methodologies and evolution. ...or maybe they do? What do I really know about what normal people think and feel? Only by hearing them tell me what I don't. Please don't interpret these comments as disrespect for Dr. Barkley. I am grateful for his research. I'm fascinated by his observations. The knowledge he offers is of immense value to me. My only disagreement with him is in approaching this as a disability when it clearly has advantages and it clearly survived natural selection for some reason. The words we use to encapsulate a concept of are immense significance because people use words to think. The nature of a word modifies the options available to our mental processes. The way we measure and the context. Words are an unconscious abstraction of our perception of reality. They literally create the paths of perception available to us. Disorder implies and contextualizes only one outcome: overcome your debilitating nature. Strive to become as good as normal. Nowhere in the word disorder is implied curiosity, the joy of discovery, the celebration of self, and difference, exploration of strength. All things that are prime movers for ADHD.

Now that I've listened to this talk, I find it insane how my previous therapist, who diagnosed my ADHD, did NEVER ask for a parent to follow up on possible symptoms that I might have swept under the rug unintentionally

My husband presents emotional dysregulation with laughing. Everything is a joke even serious things. Literally laughs at everything. It’s very difficult to work through life and have a reciprocal relationship when someone is laughing all the time followed by lack of attention to the issues which eventually leads to ignoring of the issues then a denial that anything is wrong and everyone else is ‘crazy’. Those without these issues can only conclude emotionally that these behaviors are narcissistic and abusive. If you know you have adhd/add please listen and take seriously any feedback you get even if you don’t understand it initially. It’ll save you and your relationships a lot of grief. ❤️

This man is a genius and very gifted in the way he explains scientific methods.

I love Russell's concise means of conveying the studies across to us, the audience.

I AM 55 AND every time I HAVE LOOKED AT SOMETHING ABOUT ADHD AND IT IS A PERFECT DESCRIPTION OF MY LIFE FROM A TODDLER TO NOW, MY HOME IS A MESS, MY LIFE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A MESS, ALL OVER MY HOME IS OBSETIONS

A true master of his domain this gentleman is. One of the most impressive lectures I've ever seen.

I'm 35 and I was recently diagnosed with ADHD for the first time. These videos are so comforting to me. They help me understand that so much of the behavior in my life, especially in childhood, was beyond my control. I was polite and was generally good at asking others how they were doing, etc. I was an extrovert that enjoyed the typical boy things, and I always had a good amount of friends, but I would consistently get incredibly upset if I felt like my friends weren't giving me enough attention. I remember other boys' moms telling my mom that I couldn't come over to their houses anymore because I was creating too much of a scene. I'm pretty mellow nowadays, but I am still trying to get better at motivation and staying organized. It's good to know that I'm not alone.

16:40 I was class clown in elementary school in the 80's and it got me in trouble with the teachers who used fierce anger to reprimand me and I would instantly break down crying. This really ingrained in me a dull personality that made me a target for bullies in middle school. Not the other hand, I learned from watching my father's negative emotional outbursts that I wasn't going to treat anyone that way because of how hurtful it was to endure. Everyone is different in their own way i guess.

Really enjoyed this lecture. This doctor has nailed adhd . I've had it all my life , along with anxiety and the emotional problems that come with it , and that remain into adulthood. I have been to psychiatrists who told me i had not got it, as i would not have been able to complete schooling. Unbelievable :). But if nothing else , i am determined to get some sort of treatment for this. It is an ongoing battle ......

I have ADHD but don't have ODD. I had good parents and always did as I was told, but I did have trouble controlling my emotions. This manifested most often in crying due to being bullied and made fun of (which was cyclical), not just by other children but also by teachers. As a result I am very self aware. I hate to say this, but the mistreatment I received as a child actually helped me to be more aware of my actions.

This is an amazing video. As someone who has ADHD and had a parent with it as well undiagnosed. I was physically abused as punishment and I could swear my mother used to black out as she lined us up in our kitchen and hit us with her favorite tool of choice. The wooden spoon. She was relentless. Not just one or two smacks. She would go in on us. Until we were cowering in a corner screaming bloody murder. The CPTSD I have from years of that has only created even more emotional dysregulation. I’m just now in my early thirties starting to do self help through KZfaq. It has helped tremendously by putting names to feelings that I’m feeling when I’m triggered. It’s really hard to have had all that happen to you in your childhood, and when you bring it up later in life being told “that never happened. You deserved all of it. You didn’t have any broken bones or bruises. Its a privilege I’m granted as a parent to discipline you.” Ill never get the closure of that, the admittance from her. In the last few months, I have completely cut contact from my family and siblings. Who still seem to be under the codependency of my mother. It’s truly sad when you’re now the scapegoat for calling out the abuser.

"The two don't even begin to agree with each other until you're in your 30s" That hurt on a existential level. I just turned 35 and things have only just started to really change dramatically. I have Bipolar Type II and just got diagnosed with ADHD as well. I'm so much more honest with myself now and I think it's because I can see what I'm doing, I couldn't articulate or focus on how I truly treat and look after myself.

I went to my first doctor at 30 for life long anxiety and left adhd. My entire life went from a black and white existence I didnt want to one of vivid color due to medication. Medication saved my life

Was recently diagnosed with ADHD over focus, it was not until I turned 62, better late then never! Good lecture on emotions and ADHD, I like how he described bipolar and depression versus ADHD reasons for emotions.

This explains ME! How I ever managed to do all the paper work required as special education teacher...No wonder all of my evaluations dealing with this was always an "improvement needed" goal from my supervisors which I didn't react to "normally". I could not supress my emotions, which didn't help how they perceived my "lack of professionalism. My teaching, and my ability to intract with my students always received high scores! Thankfully! As a retiree, and having to be a boss to me, remains to be a daily struggle. Emotional disregulation has always been my constant companion, and still is. Dr. Barkley gives me hope for legitimate change in the "doing" part of my life!

THIS IS UNBELIEVABLY INFORMATION DENSE! He just described to many of my past and persistent problems in all parts f my life....Very harsh but it needs to be heard

Thank you. I’m one of those untreated kids who is a successful adult. But, I suffer a lot of comorbidity issues. I’m a huge advocate for kids who have parents that don’t think this is real.

listening to these talks and lectures for a few minutes are closer to seeing myself than looking in a mirror all day , as i can not tell you how many times i have , for example, start eating a meal and not finish my food or go to grocery store and forget to put ALL food that needs to go i fridge. , ETC ..... THANK YOU Dr Barkley!!

I just got back my ADHD medication and I feel so much better, I'm also Bipolar and I moved from Florida to New York so my new psychiatrist had to get my bipolar disorder first and now I finally got my ADHD medication. Meditation makes a world of difference.

The camera guy most have Adhd too. Lol

That was bloody amazing. Even more insightful than my knowing i had adhd in the first place.

Generally, health personal do not know enough about ADHD and specially ADD. They know a little bit about ADHD in children. Adult with problems caused by ADHD/ADD are diagnosed with depression while I think depression and specially Anxiety disorder have their roots in ADHD/ADD.

It it was called Emotional Dysfunctional Deficit Disorder I would have diagnosed myself in primary school. If only I was hyperactive in class. Thank you for the best explanation of what I went through and now my son.

I've tried to watch it all the way to the end... for five times now. Acutally, I'm commenting while it's playing but I should be listening :/

Not even 10 minutes into this and i already gained a new dimension of understanding for why i act the way i do

Only got told at 42 by a parent that I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. So much torture and struggle could have been averted. Life could have been so different.

THANK YOU DR BARKLEY!!! YOU HAVE HELPED SO MANY PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is why I'm a macho "man's man" type and still tear up every time I get a greeting card. ;)

I realize how much we didn’t know growing up wow.

Excellent explanation on how emotion is an important component of ADHD.

In India, ADHD is unheard of. I struggled to get through high school and college. I always thought of myself as a loser who procrastinates, lacks discipline and is lazy. I got to know about adhd when I was 25. I told my parents to help me seek treatment but they said that I am crazy and that im a loser. So I gave up and did not take adhd seriously. Now I am 27 and still at the same place. However, I am taking adhd seriously now. I have appointment with psychiatrist and hope he prescribes me stimulants.

This lecture was very insightful! Thank You for posting this! It was extremely helpful

It is so strange to have someone to articulate, what I have been living through all these years. My small child has an ADHD. I divorced his father (classic symptoms of ADHD) because we had chaotic home. I took my child to the doctor. He got therapies and every year they evaluate his situation. I started relationship with very calm and good person, and we are able to be consistent parents without disregulation of emotions. There are no signs of ODD! My instincts told me, that our toxic and hostile marriage was doing damage to our child. Father is meeting his child every once in a while, and can't understand why the child is better living with me. The father is hostile, aggressive, has road rage, is psychologically abusive, quits every job, his own employees hate him, has continuos problems and drama in his relationships, has had numerous problems with authorities and has had traffic accidents... This video was an eye opening. Sometimes mothers instincts knows the best, but dr Barkley put it into words. Thanks!

Been watching many of Dr. Barkley’s videos. He can’t speak to every ADHD persons exact condition but he is on the money in a macro sense. There is enough in the talk(s) to get valuable insight into the struggle. A transcript and slides would super. Get well, stay well. Ty

What a researcher. Hats off to his research and dedication to this field.

Next step is to study why emotion is such a big component of ADHD. I have it and my hypothesis is ADHD is one way childhood trauma manifests itself. Can’t think or function if you have abuse on the brain. If all those neuropathways created before you were seven keep you coping in adverse ways then it will keep happening until you overcome that trauma (even if you can’t remember it). We don’t have an attentive problem; we have a problem of not recognizing that we are studying the effects of trauma. That leads to a lot of awesome science that I hope isn’t misguided by assuming everything is just chemical changes in the brain. The video before this suggested ADHD is a result of nicotine exposure. That could be one component of a very complex network of reasons how or why people are traumatized. I take stimulants and will continue them just like antidepressants but I can’t be the only one who is uncomfortable having trauma sterilized and boiled down to neurophysiological actions as if our answers lie in our chemistry and can be solved just with drugs. It requires trauma-based recovery.

5:10 years ago I had a favorite sticker that read "ever stop to think & forget to start again". Now I know why it was so relatable.

This is incredible. So many things I haven’t heard anywhere else. Like the link between developing oppositional defiant behavior due to the compounding effects of having an adhd parent…!

6 years on - why is this STILL not on the latest dsm?!! Diagnosed 18 months ago, this explains my emotional disregulation so well. I wish it was 'officially' acknowledged cos it's hard enough trying to raise awareness of what adhd actually is and dispel incorrect assumptions - without half of the real information not yet being medically/scientifically available! Side note - I find now that 1000s of videos/tik toks etc. are hugely valid and important - but the downside is , ALL of that valid and credible knowledge gained from sharing our lived experiences, is in danger of being dismissed and belittled because of the predictable amount of misguided/incorrect information that also will appear amongst it. So that's why it needs corroborating by the medical/scientific field! 6 years, seriously wtf???

This is absolutely the best explanation I have heard. Just wish there was a way to get off meds all together . Thank you so much for explaining my brain and why it is this way. Not easy that’s for sure

This is pretty helpful and clearly explained to an non psychologist!

From one of his books, you have a fam like this? Over time both parents and child figure out that the more quickly they get enraged and threatening, the more quickly they get what they want-the parents get obedience or the child gets a reprieve from a command. When this process goes unchecked over many months, it can lead to confrontations that end in parents physically abusing their children or the children destroying property, attacking the parents, holding their breath until blue, banging their head against a floor or wall, or hurting themselves in other ways. This is how “No!” escalates into violence in some families.” Russell A. Barkley, Your Defiant Child, Second Edition: Eight Steps to Better Behavior

I'm SO lucky, my parents were amazing. Diagnosed with 40: Such a shame, wished I had known earlier!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm glad the slides are available on google docs. Otherwise, it would be very frustrating to listen to the presentation without being able to see the slides.

I have learned that if I act like myself, I get taken advantage of, I have to formulate a way to make sure that people don't take advantage, or disrespect.

It's like watching someone describe my whole life

Thank you for sharing the slides. Such a big help.

Difficulty in controlling emotions is really the most distressing and depressing aspect of having ADHD, for me feeling nothing is like my safe space free of the struggle of self control .

When it comes to emotional regulation.... YHE STUDIES NEED TO TAKE INTO ACCOUNT FITNESSSSSSS. That’s something that has absurdly helped me control my emotions. So has perspective, but mostly fitness and endurance.

Thank you for this video. ADHD is basically an emotional self-regulation disorder. And yes, I have ADHD too. I have been struggling with emotional self-regulation all my life.

My God this video should be broadcast all over the news Such a great videos with great support to people with ADHD .. Your more needed now doctor than before please don't stop 🙏❤🙏

He's NOT a genius. He's an extremely clever man who's studied and is a very good speaker.

Studying with ADHD brings me so much trauma. Obviously triggered due to childhood struggles at school. I am now 50 completing a degree and it's a huge struggle. Thank you Dr Barkley!!!

My husband was diagnosed ADHD at age 50. He is severely affected, and I know he also has ODD, and he's never felt it had that much effect on our marriage. it HAS. He can't see how much it damaged our relationship. He aso had a bipolar, very cold and distant mother, angry father, and terrible parenting. Glad for these videos, because it helps me.

Disagree. I believe we perceive much more than others, exactly because we are always stimulated by everything and many things we notice most people don't even pay attention. This is our issue, never turn off.

My husband has ADHD, his inability to make friends and keep them was due to his “quirks”, not his aggressiveness, as he haas always been more submissive that aggressive.

46 y/o male and found out last week. I thought something was wrong but everyone, including professionals" led me down paths to solutions that led nowhere. I was diagnosed at 6 didn't know. And then again last week. I thought it was normal to have 6 different lucrative careers and get fired or quit. Or have 5 meaningful relationships end without warning and wondering what the hell is wrong with me? It's been a very informative week. Too bad I didn't figure it out before I lost the last girlfriend. I really like her and thought for sure we would get married.

Dr Russell Barkley, I am learning so much with your videos. I am eternally grateful...

It may seem a minor point, but Barkley is wrong about Streep being a Method actor -- a mistake a number of writers and others have made. She has stated her resistance to it and works differently, as do many great actors from England, including Jeremy Irons (whom Barkley also erroneously mentions), Maggie Smith, and the late Laurence Olivier, all of whom are more classically trained. There are other ways to access emotions than to have to think of a situation from your own life. In re Streep, from a biography of her early life and career: "Streep distinguished herself in various ways: a willingness to make herself ugly for roles, to disappear completely into character, and an inventiveness born from her resistance to method acting, then very much in vogue. 'She was skeptical about the concept of mining her own pain, believing that misery was irrelevant to artistry,' writes [biographer] Schulman of Streep’s Yale years. 'What her instructors saw as laziness or evasion was a growing intellectual revolt against the orthodoxy of method acting, which had shaped the previous generation of actors.' Streep, Schulman asserts, 'preferred imagination.'” -- from Vogue magazine review of the biography _Her Again_. See www.vogue.com/article/her-again-michael-schulman-review

As someone with awful ADHD I can honestly say I haven't been in a crash the three years I've been driving, and I'm a food delivery person, so I drive quite a bit more than others. I also have curiosity about high elevation of emotions, because ADHD will most likely evoke depression, with often times inhibits emotions, and sometimes I feel a lack of emotion where I want to have emotions, not that Im depressed, but maybe I just don't see why these emotions are evoked so strongly with normal people. I get that I should feel bad if I or someone else does something wrong, but the emotion just isn't there. It's the opposite of what is being presented in this conference. This is also common among many of my friends that have ADHD as well. The best way I can describe it as, is knowing with your heart, and with your soul that you love or hate someone, but the feelings you would express if you acted accordingly, just aren't there. He did bring up something I agree with, that these primal emotions are hard to regulate. This could correlate to what I'm saying where emotion provoked by more complicated situations and situations that would directly affecting me mentally; are weak because I have learned through experience that it's better to think critically and rationally rather than emotionally, which brings the best outcome to most situations regarding person to person interaction, or maybe I'm just so distracted my everything around me, that the feelings I should feel are just mudded together with every over stimuli, and I don't have a need to feel a certain way. Most of the time I can smile, and laugh, and I genuinely feel that way, but behind it all is an unsettling void of feeling that emotion on the inside that I truly think I should have. Again, I'm not depressed, it's just a normal state of being, I know what depression feels like, and it's not the same.

I’m 23 and diagnosed ADHD a month ago- Listened to this... Made me cry and also I think I have ODD too lmao

Paperwork. I have to psych myself up to even attempt it. I’m in tears before it even begins due to the anxiety I know is going to happen once someone (kids, husband, phone call, pets, etc.) distracts me and I won’t be able to remember what I’ve just completed and where I need to re-engage.

8:07 DSM Obsession Disorder they should add this disorder to the manual! ^^

The importance of keeping Dr. Russell in the frame rather than include his charts graphs and slides. What a boneheaded production.

Adult diagnosis at 48 years old and this is me 100%

So true! If I'm distracted I will never finish. For example had to make a pageant dress for my daughter. Didn't at the time have enough cash to buy a new one. So took her measurements and took a old wedding gown and some old dance dress material and made my lil girl a dress in onevening. My hubby told me I should take a break, but I knew I would never finish her dress if I did take a break!! He didn't understand😔 It paid off though! She won! Little Miss Knox County 2017. I mean wasn't just because of her appearance, but her beautiful personality💗 So proud of her

Working memory sounds dead on. I just been referring everything as been distracted. Go out to the car to get charge and come back either forgetting what i went out for or go out and come back with something and forgetting what i went for.

Seems as though a lot of females go un-diagnosed. Does he do a video on differences in boys vs. girls?

At 52 and a passing glance at Tik Tok I have discovered my missing instruction booklet. The only trait missing is the sleep problems. I know everyone is jumping on the bandwagon but the fit is artisan level. My whole life explained and I never even considered it was anything other than personality failure. I have to say I've always been proud of my ODD. I'm am hot headed and go 0-10 in a split second but it's directed at bullies and dictatorial authority figures. I will almost learn a new language to defeat them, with abnormal levels of concentration and absorption of data. Yet in everyday life I struggle to read the instruction booklet for a new lightswitch.

I need to meet this amazing person who I found this week and has helped me more than anything over the past year! My son and I will be better because of this man

ADHD sucks and ppl shouldn’t live with it without help!!!

Mental “leadership” takes a backseat to environmental “leadership”! The head honcho if you will is the things that I see outside of me, and not the “messy list” of to dos inside my head! This is a picture of my life! My yard. My house. My pathetic way of dealing with my ADHD.. ( in other words, it’s was novel in the beginning, to learn that I have ADD, but then something shiny crossed my path, and now I’m watching Marie Kondo videos… which becomes watching woodworking videos.. which becomes… going outside and sanding wood to build a shelf… that’ll only get half done because I can’t find my wood stain… but I did find, while looking in the shed, the gas can… which I grabbed, and filled my lawnmower.. and now am mowing the lawn….(before it rains, because that’s a good idea, right?)… ok… now where was I?

Dr. Barkley…the man, the myth, the legend. 6:12, a very accurate description of daily life. I verbally command myself, like casting a magic spell, to stay on task. “Go check the mail!” , for his example. It works every time.

24:30 Woah, this just blew my mind with the self-awareness gap. At 31 this made me realise that my symptoms were not getting worse, but with age I just became more aware of my shortcomings - also in comparison to my peers.

1:00:50 - "So we have to be careful with stimulants, because if you puch the dose too high, you can get blunting of emotions.."