Advice for young people: Don't listen to the adults in the room

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Advice for young people: Don't listen to the adults in the room | Ryan Schiller and Lex Fridman

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@ChocoLater1 3 жыл бұрын

I upgraded this advice to: Don't listen to the people at all. Especially when they try to tell you what to do yet their life sucks.

@stephaniefitzsimon1021 3 жыл бұрын

I wish I could give you Reddit gold for this comment.

@nolimitz1274 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 17 and now the value of time at my age so I’m going to continue learning how to code to become a software engineer in the future and plan to get a job in the field and learn to make my own things with software. Thank you Lex!💯👀

@leonkirkov 3 жыл бұрын

Don’t get a job, create your job, unless it’s temporary and you really need the money, in which case okey, but don’t forget to go after you dreams

@KimSkid2k 3 жыл бұрын

I think you can do it!

@adtemporary69 3 жыл бұрын

It’s okay to be an employee working in a field you love. Not everyone wants or can deal with being a business owner and if they were, they wouldn’t be telling you to do so on KZfaq. In Seattle tech makes bank. 100k easily and it’s constantly growing as we’re the hq for cloud which is required for AI which is coming to fruition. Keep up the hard work and enjoy yourself.

@aiContent420 3 жыл бұрын

Hey man, I am studying software engineering right now. In hindsight I regret one thing a lot. Which is that I did not keep on trying to self learn, I always started courses but didnt feel progress. But the reality is programming is a lot smaller things you have to learn before it starts "making sense" - So keep on what you are doing, even though it might be confusing or overwhelming at times!

@nolimitz1274 3 жыл бұрын

@@aiContent420 thanks for advice

@tylerstevensx 3 жыл бұрын

This talk is one of my favorites. Intelligent, humble young man who’s taking a risk by starting a social network. The type of founder I would invest in any company he started.

@TheWedeShow 3 жыл бұрын

As a 27 year old I know I still have a lot to learn about life and I have always respected the advice from generations before me. However, I have recently realized how messed up the thinking is of the Baby Boomer generation. They are so confident in their decisions even when their decisions miss the mark. They expect anyone younger than them to immediately show them respect and follow their orders. I genuinely believe their generation has lead to many of the problems our society faces today. It’s up to us to stand up and make decisions for ourselves. I love my parents but they were dead wrong about so many topics. It’s hard to admit.

@socrates_the_great6209 3 жыл бұрын

The baby boomers don't got much education. Maybe that's why. They are outdated and need to be replaced from every powerful position anyway.

@TheWedeShow 3 жыл бұрын

@@socrates_the_great6209 you can say they are lacking education but they certainly had more education than any generation before them, and I would say the generations before them did less harm to society

@gutsworth5926 3 жыл бұрын

They lived during the easiest and most prosperous time in American history. Easy times create weak people, weak people create hard times.

@charaznable9209 3 жыл бұрын

@Man WithNoName Nah we aren't weak we are just enjoying the hard times created by the boomers.

@TheWedeShow 3 жыл бұрын

@@georgegray2712 lol nothing like that...just time to stop believing anything someone says just because they’re older. Age doesn’t equal intelligence and it’s starting to show.

@nonamesl3f7duuude 3 жыл бұрын

Being that 40+ guy, my advice to young people is to be cautiously optimistic about your dreams and mindful of survivorship bias inherent in interviews like this.

@basedbonsai 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, but - even those that failed have likely landed in better places than those that took a predetermined path. The only way to create unlimited leverage is to create something unique for the world. And even if this fails - likely it will - you have specific knowledge in a field very few people have explored which inherently makes you more valuable to any work you do from then on. Irrational optimism at a young age is a blessing our generation has to try and test boundaries. Cautious optimism at your age is necessary when supporting a family.

@KimSkid2k 3 жыл бұрын

@@basedbonsai question EVERYTHING

@AlexOnARoll 3 жыл бұрын

@@basedbonsai fantastic comment.

@copyninja8756 3 жыл бұрын

@@basedbonsai bravo

@gavinwhitford5145 3 жыл бұрын

@@cesarperez10 exactly I don't understand what is so insightful about this comment. We are in a day and age where literally anyone can do anything because of the vast knowledge in the internet

@marcusarmenius2908 3 жыл бұрын

“All that advice is useless when you’re in Love “ : 😆 Possibly the most profound Lex quote ever ? !

@amineHighTube 2 жыл бұрын

I can only interpret it as this : your own experience, even if it will cost you a lot, is better than a lot of advice out there

@abdullahalhamid8147 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the video lex, you are the best

@flavorgainz7205 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing content Lex. Thank you very much.

@mnlalx6512 3 жыл бұрын

great words!!!!

@charlesfryer9127 3 жыл бұрын

59 year old here ... great interview Lex ... money, and luck are great 👍 ... the only thing missing from this conversation is wisdom ... it can only be earned, by years alive.

@kwamebushman606 3 жыл бұрын

Correction my friend, wisdom is acquired through EXPERIENCE which often comes with age. I've met 50 year olds with the thinking capacity and decision making of 20 year olds and I've seen 20 year olds with the thinking capacity of a 50 year old. Age has NOTHING to do with wisdom, it's what life experiences you've gained that matters

@iobject1421 3 жыл бұрын

@@kwamebushman606 Sorry my man, going to have to disagree with you on the second half. If age had 'nothing to do with wisdom', then society would look to youths as much as seniors when seeking it. Which it does not. And I do agree that experience is the currency that wisdom is printed on AND that people can be wise beyond their years. Those people are the exception, not the typical result.

@sumtingwong8768 3 жыл бұрын

Is that why you never lived up to your full potential? Ouch.

@resiliated9326 3 жыл бұрын

@@iobject1421 old people arent usually wise, in my experience most of them are dumb, stuck in old ways of thinking and never adapted to how the world is now

@maxtaylor1026 3 жыл бұрын

This is very true. Times are changing so fast that ones generation and their parents generation has such a huge gap between them. And its been this way since the end of WW2. And ofcourse the rate at which this change occurs increases in speed as we go. Im 33, and I have a hard time understanding the interests and values of 18, 19, 20 y/o people that work for me.

@socrates_the_great6209 3 жыл бұрын

Good subject. If we listen to the old generation we just get more of everything we hate about the world.

@genericusername8337 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, and we get to 'reinvent the wheel' as well, over and over again. Sorting through the things discovered in the past is valuable, but just blindly respecting anything (old people in this case) is a bad idea, because the process is such that it doesn't discriminate between which of the things you respect are "good" and which ones are "bad", and why.

@huraira448 3 жыл бұрын

not necessarily true. not everything from the old generation is backward and we should absolutely "conserve" the good stuff (hence conservatism)

@Hijuela2 3 жыл бұрын

Listen sonny....

@Four_Eyes 3 жыл бұрын

took me a long time to learn this lesson

@emjay2911 3 жыл бұрын

"Happy accidents" Reminds me of the late Great Bob Ross. 🙏

@khan_marx 3 жыл бұрын

nice!

@shockcityrocker 3 жыл бұрын

If you have 100% confidence in your ambition & convictions, then you go with your heart & gut. I went against every aspect of conventional wisdom in life & was more successful & better off for it, from academics to investments to leaving everything behind to travel the world....if I’d stayed in high school & went the safe route with a slightly above minimum wage job, got married young & tethered myself to a system you can never detach from, I’d be nowhere. I appreciate the advice I received from the elders, but I carved my own path in life & just knowing that you did that is quite a reward.

@Bovice..YT-handles-are-fn-dumb 3 жыл бұрын

His advice is probably the primary building block of life advice.

@nufh 3 жыл бұрын

As a someone who's born in mid 80's, I'm fully agreed with him. Kids are getting smarter everyday, human evolved with their environments. I'm not saying that we should disregard old advice, but some of them are outdated and not suited for current era.

@a-cd6982 3 жыл бұрын

This is my favorite segment from the show probably cause I’m a teenager

@alexmignott790 3 жыл бұрын

calculated, effortless .

@kevinfoster2163 3 жыл бұрын

took me 30 years to learn this one

@JairoMorales123 3 жыл бұрын

Remember Every Detail, divine see code, no ego

@ddteevee 3 жыл бұрын

10:05 🙌🏼🥰

@crazysteve8088 3 жыл бұрын

My advice would be to be aware of the hyper realities you are living in. Stay off social media it makes you anti social. Climbing the corporate ladder is a soul destroying process and crushes your creativity over time. Time is the most valueable asset you have. Do not trade it in to chase money. Instead, spend your time trying to provide value to others and money will no longer be a problem.

@Yamikaiba123 3 жыл бұрын

My parents' advice stopped working after grade 6.

@drew9587 3 жыл бұрын

There may be many experts of what is here now or has been, but anyone can be a expert of what is in the future. The future had not been written yet.

@zummotv1013 3 жыл бұрын

This July I'll be 25 year old, is that really old?

@lenaspaet605 3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏

@SportsIncorporated 3 жыл бұрын

Sounds so much like a talk by a guy that has financial seminars dealing with trading. I've forgotten which KZfaq video it was -- I tried -- I looked. It boiled down to your parents want to protect you, and the schools/teachers have a conflict of interest when they teach you. It's up to you to break free.

@skillzmcgavern 3 жыл бұрын

Robin Williams!

@A_Brion 3 жыл бұрын

Who's Young Duck? lol

@doublemintss 3 жыл бұрын

Young thug

@Yamikaiba123 3 жыл бұрын

The best thing my university gave me was an ADHD diagnosis. Now I'm designing my own fully payed graduate research program, Applications of Eco-Evolutionary Theory and Methods in Musicology

@thecocktailoasis1849 3 жыл бұрын

We in Gen X mostly listened to the adults in the room. Look where that got us.

@bryflyguytry 3 жыл бұрын

Millennials are just coming to terms w/ the same reality we did some years ago. The ups and downs and rounds and rounds on this crazy blue marble.

@AverageAngel 3 жыл бұрын

Paradoxically, this advice to not take other peoples advice is great advice

@omarnomad 3 жыл бұрын

It's interesting that he needed validation from a respectable peer to do it. If you think you can't do it, you can't do it. Trust in yourself, and you'll do it.

@vojtechkubin1590 3 жыл бұрын

Viva rebellion!

@73dines 3 жыл бұрын

Great advice, there is nothing to laugh about it. Not in a 30 years.

@daniellee4134 3 жыл бұрын

Advice is just people who like taking about themselves reminisce

@OrochiShaka 3 жыл бұрын

Just remember that even this young man will too become an adult in the future. You can learn from anyone, older and younger.

@sumtingwong8768 3 жыл бұрын

The point is he achieved something worthwhile in the eyes of the viewers.

@kwamebushman606 3 жыл бұрын

Warren buffett, charlie M etc they all missed ALL THE BEST TECH COMPANIES, like literally all of them. Don't listen to old people, especially babyboomers... they're often wrong yet highly convinced they're right.

@stephaniefitzsimon1021 3 жыл бұрын

I'm going to listen to this while I consider myself to be a young person kind of. XD

@justleaveit1557 3 жыл бұрын

I can understand all the issues some younger generations have with the Baby Boomer generation, but some things should be remembered. Yes, they had a safer economy, but they were also raised by "The Silent Generation." Who were silent, pretty much, cause they were all crazy fucking traumatized from the great depression during their childhoods and then the invention and participatin in industrialized warfare. Then this group of people made babies and raised them. The boomers parents were some of the most fucked up people the modern world has ever created. I don't know, ya'll need to have some empathy for a lot of these people.

@eoinmcsweeney2632 3 жыл бұрын

This is good advice, I’m not going to take it.

@itheuserfirst3186 3 жыл бұрын

It's not an either/or subject. It's important to listen to older people when it comes to mistakes made. However, sometimes youth inspires less caution which is needed for innovation. You should not discard everything "the adult" in the room says. You should keep an open mind because idealism has its own pitfalls that often can only be learned through experience.

@jc918a-32 3 жыл бұрын

You don't have to believe in yourself: believe in the me that believes in you! Pierce the Heavens!

@mohamedelyeszormati 3 жыл бұрын

An advice for baby boomer parents, if your kid chooses to pursue a career path in a field that he is passionate about and has potential to succeed in, encourage him to pursue his dreams and DO NOT interfere with his choices by giving him advice to be a doctor or a lawyer (unless they are passionate about these fields) or working in a dead end 9 to 5 job just for the money. With all due respect, your generation have been brainwashed to believe in certain things to be the right thing even if they are not, just keep away from the younger generation and let them pursue their passions and innovate!

@alainagain6759 3 жыл бұрын

Learn about history interpret it and don’t trust people who lived half of their life in the past century because they don’t understand yet the century they are leaving in and probably won’t make it to the half of XXI.

@wetalksports1128 2 жыл бұрын

10:20 אני מאמין בך

@MegaJcoulter 3 жыл бұрын

It’s so funny to listen to intelligent people project their advice upon the rest of the world. If you wanna hear the epitome of the Dunning Kruger effect... hear the words... “Your parents can’t give you advice.”

@eugkra33 2 жыл бұрын

Advice most teenagers have already taken for millennia.

@yellowbox2258 3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like the liberal-conservative difference in people

@jackdavis7438 3 жыл бұрын

Dangerous advice to tell people to fend for themselves utilizing no guidance.....

@kwamebushman606 3 жыл бұрын

How successful are those old people who often advice others to do otherwise? That's the problem they're trying to point out

@SoarLong 3 жыл бұрын

Why assume that Dangerous Advice != Best Advice???

@MAC-ws8fz 3 жыл бұрын

Don't listen to the old 'fogeys'! If you believe you can fly, open the window and show them! Lex, I can't believe you'd let this duffas on your show! You must be desperate!

@damo5701 3 жыл бұрын

Advice for young people: Don't listen to the adults in the room. Sounds like bad advice. Listen to the adults in the room, also seek out other sources, analyse the information you have available, then make your own mind up.

@kwamebushman606 3 жыл бұрын

Information bias, ever heard of that?