I was raised by a single mother, and this is the fucking truth man.

“A Woman can raise a Man, but cannot raise a Man the way a Man can raise a man” - Tupac Shakur (raised by a single mother)

I hope one day his son watches and learns from this video because now sadly this would apply to him. Coach did mention that he was creating this content initially as a guide for his son. RIP coach. Thank you for all your powerful insights and for being the father I never had.

Thank you so much for your vídeo. Starting to heal, raised by single mother. Everything you said is true, specially the part where you mentioned that your mom sees you as her man, not a her son. Wishing everyone to heal from the absence of a father figure 😊

Yep. Its lacking bro's. By me who are raised by single mom (by my grandmother) its hard to move out in this world and become a real men. You dont know what to do. What men is like. Its like a self learning. Also suffer from emotions. Its like a hole in your heart. Your incomplete. Still dealing with this. Im 26 years old.

It took me over 35 years to understand that fact of life. As a man , at some point you have to break up with your single mom spiritually. You will make up at a later and appropriate time. Otherwise, no relationship will work in your life. Single moms turn their sons into their servants and in turn into nice guys. And women and spiritual power are not attracted not nice guys. 👑

Yep…..I agree. It took me 48 years to realize that I was more like a woman than a man. Not that I’m gay but having been raised by all women, I’ve adopted a lot of feminine traits but I didn’t know that until late in life. Of course, this has caused a lot of relationship issues with women because I was the ultimate beta male. It wasn’t until I learned how to become an alpha male that I felt truly in control of my life and my emotions. Let me tell you, it was a very difficult transition but well worth it. My next step is to go my own way as I now realize that marriage isn’t worth it and I’m over it with women (outside of the sexual aspect). Hang in there guys…..it’s not your fault that your father wasn’t there but you will have to learn how to be a man at some point.

Men raised by single women are angry. Men are taught compassion from the dad.

I love u man. Honestly, u r like the father i need after my dad died when i was 12 and i am 21 right now but i have started to understand what i need. I will follow u and become the best man i can possibly be and more. I will one day meet u as a successful doctor and a musician which is my dream.

The soothing mother leads to the son being cowardice. The hard pressed controlling father leads to the son being an unpleasant toxic narcissist no one wishes to be around or live with. There needs to be a balance between the two personalities.

I was raised by a widow so was a little bit different but your points are spot on, a child needs both parents

Spot on CRP. Push through your fears and they will diminish. It's a process. Once you've decided that you're sick of being afraid you will achieve more despite setbacks. Just never give up, guys.

This is true I'm a single mom I shared this with my son's I hope they watch this boys need there dad's .

A single moms, once they realize they can't get the man she wants, will start to sabotage and manipulate their own child to be the man they always wanted as mentioned in the video. The older she gets, the more aggressive they make sure. They get old...they don't want to be lonely and instinctively, they see it.

I'm 25 and only just recently broke out of the spell. I work in a restaurant and i'm constantly under pressure in a thankless, toxic environment. At one point I was a pushover. ran to my mom who did fuck all to help me. Went to female coworkers who did the same all the while Drinking on shift just to "soothe" myself but now I take it. sure every now and then I'll have beers after work but I stand up to the bullshit. I don't let people say and do what they want. I'm not afraid to make mistakes and learn from them, nor learn new things in my position, and now I'm not afraid of what my mom nor my family thinks of me. I'm my own person. I need to grow, learn and build on my own and be the man I'm suppose to me. The only thing holding me back a little is living with my mom, but i'm a few months away from my CDL so hopefully I can move out and finally start over.

Wow, that was genuinely the best analysis I've ever heard and really hit home. Perfectly articulates my own situation.

Coach my mom wasn’t the soothing type but this stuff is so helpful thank you so much for doing what you do

Gonzalo Lira (Coach Red Pill) I remember him well. RIP

Lol my wench of a mother never soothed my pain, instead she called me weak and stupid and told me I should quit now instead of continuing to fail and embarrass her. My dad was too busy trying to pay the bills so he took a passive role in my upbringing (not his fault) So as a result I suffer from fear, indecisiveness and low self esteem. Well the first step to fixing these issues is the diagnosis. And to be fair I have gotten a lot better since learning about my mental health issues, but I have a lot further to go. Thanks Coach Red Pill

Other cases a boy raised by a mother end up becoming pretty rough "becoming the man of the house" That feels the need to protect his mother, maintain the house and fix things that break. So it comes down to the individual.

Thank you for making this one.

Thanks man I needed that

Amazingly spot tf on

On point "its what she wants" and , that's what she makes him !

"...because the woman you approach is not going to bite your head off, she is not like a praying mantis..." You haven't dated for a long long time buddy.

I'm in a long term relationship with my kids dad this really helped me understand him more but that fear part early....really hit, im not sure he /we can do it

yes. Very wise man.

When this man speaks , my brain grows and that was needed. I am raised by a single mother, but she was very maskuline authoritarian type , no soothing whatsoever ;) Anyway, after this vid I am sitting and connecting the dots, why did I not find this channel before?

Tough love is the best love.

Really good video I’m sure we’re all here for the same reason. Good luck

Rest easy Lira

Great video. Very true 👍

Awesome advice

Ill always miss this guy man...

Hey Coach. Glad you are safe

I can totally relate to this

Sublime

ahh man I've been on a gap year since finishing sixth form. Going uni in September and been at home since last March. Always lived with my mum she was w my stepdad for about 10 years but they split up about 3 years ago now. I've nailed in on all my habits I got into the "self improvement" stuff and I feel like it's all bullshit. I feel like there's something missing now that I've cut out every bad habit, and I think it's the fact that I'm too scared to really go and do anything big. I have no direction. I hope I can figure this out.

I wonder how did you learn all the knowledge you have, thank you

Indeed, i am with Frank Herbert on this, fear is THE mindkiller.

Thank you sir 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

This is simple psychological principles and conditioning. Basically all Pavlovian dogmas that freshman Psych 101 preaches. In a nutshell, let your kids fuck up some so they learn, grow, improve in confidence, and master their necessary milestones for growth and development.

Both my parents were the 'get back on the bike' type. They were very athletic, and I didn't want to be, but they demanded, and I developed. Thank God!

My mother didn't sooth me after my father left. She didn't really have enough time to raise my sister and I because she had to work so much to make ends meet. She could never be a good male role model for me, so it took me many decades to learn how to be a good man - and I'm still learning. I was scared shitless when it came to chasing girls when I was young for sure. I picked women that were terrible for my life. Divorced twice. Success in sports was an issue. Mom never got me into sports as a very young kid. I'm a decent athlete, but never learned skills young enough to be outstanding. Music was an issue also. I had some talent as a musician but was never pushed to become excellent. So, I quit when I got bored. I learned at a young age, that I couldn't depend on anyone, including my mother. I'm now overly independent and try not to rely on anyone, but in reality, I do need people. Been single for 20 years now. I have the belief that no one really cares about me in my family. Mom does to some degree, but it's fairly minimal as we are very different people and see the world very very differently. One positive thing that's come of this is that I'm an independent thinker and a truth seeker. I've learned how to love myself more after 6 decades. Now I have to solve the issues of finding love for my future. The work is never done!

My brother and I were raised by my mom. He's much more fearless than I am. Sometimes it's just genetics. Some men are just more beta than others.

thank u .

... i am raised with single mother and nothing i fear...because i am not follwing all her words since am kid ... but its good perspective

Never too late.

Great

Excellent

Thank you so much for the video, I raised by a single mother, my father died when I was 16 and now I am through this battle by myself and know how to control my fears.

CRAP!! You're right!!

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When he figures the other half out though he will be better for that.. if he can figure out the rest

What I took from this video that fear is tool

Some I agree some I don't.

I gotta lay off the pasta.

You still should make a video on how to ask a girl out

Haven’t seen you in forever.

Nah my mom would tell me to man up

That's funny, because my father used excessive violence to make me write better and do math, and today both my math and handwriting suck because I developed an aversion to them. What is the right way of making your son try again and again?

My dad did teach me shit about life or how to asking a girl out my life has bin a disaster.

Remember the Opening scene from the Movie 300: The Son at the age 6 was taken from his Mother and thrown into the Fighting pits (of course with training) to make a Man out of him. SPARTANS KNEW THAT THEY NEEDED REAL MEN TO continue their Freedom n tradition.

The comment section is a serious circkejerk.

It's great to have the videos back, and that you can now monetize from your previous work. However, it sucks that the quality is down to 320p.

Kind of interesting as a single mother, I soothe my son but have a balance and push him out of his comfort zone. He gets mad about it but 🤷‍♀️ I just want him to experience the most in life and not be afraid.

i had a motorbike crash at like 10. I just burnt my leg but my mother made an over-the-top deal of it for years. Even once it healed she spent years taking me to doctors to solve the scar, which eventually just went away. But if I am being honest am still scared of motorbikes

Men ….. need to create value for themselves ⚓️ Women ….. just be 🌹

nice guys can't beat wooly mammoth down because their moms are too afraid to lose them on hunt. so it ends up tragically they all starve to death.

The only thing that a small boy need is a male figure Mine was my uncle My father wasn't a real man he was a dog so I have to disagree with you because a 6 year old will get on the bike because his buddies are watching

As a single mom myself, raising two children, a boy and girl, I try to learn how to help my son thrive, because In reality I can do so much to really help him be a man. I agree with most of what you said, that women soothe and men teach you how to face your fear. Ironically I do both already. I do allow my children to feel their feelings and soothe and do things the things a mother should do, but I am VERY conscious about how I raise my kids, and i also teach them to process and face their fears in their own way. I do agree that men can do a better job at that than a woman because it can be confusing for a child to see their parent as doing both. One thing I do not agree with is how you try and normalize that it's ok for dad to tell kids to "Get on the fuckin bike" And "traumatize" them. It's NOT a masculine quality to treat people, especially children, like shit by cussing at them. That's just a shitty person quality, don't get that confused. Other than that, yeah mostly can agree.

Was this man raised by a single mother?

Some single mums can be a better father than the dead best dads out there who did nothing ! Please stop generalizations!! I was a father and a mother - I didn’t just soothe - I also was thst mum who told him to get back on !! My god in this day and age please stop these insane generalizations!!!

I would argue that they are a bad woman if they become a single mother. Don't be naive.

The mother's have no interest in sons...!!!?

Mother's don't get to run away like men do. Raised by a single mom? You should be grateful she didn't take off.

I was raised by a single mom but I still got chicks all the time. The idea that a young male being raised without a father will certainly end up being a forty year old virgin is pretty much a ridiculous statement. Women can raise their boys that way; but they can also put their son into boy scouts, sports, karate, or even let him hang out with the other boys in the neighborhood, and they can still manage to develop as a man in a mostly normal way.

Maybe this is for white culture lol My mom, a single mother, successful black woman, watch me fall off the bike, and told me to get back on it. My mom was balanced, she nurtured and knew how to be hard at times. I do wish I knew my dad, but my mom did the best she could.

Hahhah... my mom was the asshole who pushed me to be more accomplished regardless of my feelings, and my dad was the soother who was emotionally more caring and accommodating.... so yeaaah I think your gender role stereotypes can't apply to everyone 😂

I do like and appreciate most of what CRP says, but I don’t agree 100% with everything he says.

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