Adyashanti - How Honesty About A Destructive Relationship Can Dissolve The Self-Image

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Adyashanti - How Honesty About A Destructive Relationship Can Dissolve The Self-Image

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More and more people are "waking up" spiritually. And for most of them, the question becomes: now what? "Information about life after awakening is usually not made public," explains Adyashanti. "It's most often shared only between teachers and their students." The End of Your World is his response to a growing need for direction on the spiritual path.

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@nikkic83 5 жыл бұрын

Being married to a what is described as a malignant narcissist/psychopath forced me into the same type of realization. It was the catalyst into my personal spiritual journey. I had to or I would have ended up so broken that I would not have survived the trauma. It’s been 4 years and I’m now experiencing the dark night of the soul or at least I resonate with the described experience. I understand exactly what he speaks about.

@racha889 2 жыл бұрын

yes but it seems that ur still stuck in ur story..let go

@prahslra Жыл бұрын

@@racha889 Your comment, though well-intentioned, shows that you do not understand the effects of this kind of trauma. Recovery tends to be slow. Some things are easier than others to “let go” of. Being instructed to “let go” or “get over it” is not helpful.

@ADayintheUK 6 жыл бұрын

This resonates with me 100%. I had a very similar experience. The struggles of direct subjective experience, in this case via a difficult relationship, force the seeker into themselves vs ‘outwardly’ towards worldly objects. I call it being ‘cornered by consciousness’ because you learn that you have no other place to turn to once all distractions have been exhausted and ultimately failed. Excellent insight from Adyashanti.

@mirakimber6333 5 жыл бұрын

I love this era of Adya's teaching. His voice sounds so clear to me.

@daviddugan6046 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful . I am ego , my mind rants , but I have had breaths where I was free and I understand I am not my thoughts , I am not my mind . I have felt god and know he exists . I accept this human incarnation . Good luck everybody

@vernaattinytarotcorner5479 7 жыл бұрын

It's a gut wrenching, shredding process.

@truelily7 3 жыл бұрын

My whole life has pretty much been one trial after another but I have, I think, made progress. Still hanging in there. Adya has helped so much.

@youarewhatyourelookingfor4496 Жыл бұрын

You’re on team human then. I’m other words, you’re not alone. Welcome 🙏

@riccardoc1711 5 жыл бұрын

Love. Fierce, powerful, ever present. It will destroy and recreate everything, eternally shining upon itself.

@polarbear1433 Жыл бұрын

Wow! Life will keep bringing what needs to be seen and healed and released. So much resonated here. ❤❤❤❤❤

@TheExtraClassic 7 жыл бұрын

The deepest darkest corners illuminated... what a gift an experience like this is :-)

@danyshudler9090 9 жыл бұрын

A thousand thanks!

@CMCA79 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you for uploading this!!! I have the book but I just now needed to hear exactly this excerpt xxx

@byrdbreath1 11 жыл бұрын

Wow. Helpful because it's hard to see the good through this emotionally wrenching process.

@danielr3522 5 жыл бұрын

You're not kidding!

@Kuneezyyy 7 жыл бұрын

bore me with the details. lol this is uncannily similar to my current state and experience. Thank you Adya for your wisdom and grace and sharing 🙏

@ajaychikersal236 5 жыл бұрын

Just incredible, every word of this video

@annamargareta11 11 жыл бұрын

Namaste! Thank you! VERY helpful!!!

@yolandececileclo5524 6 жыл бұрын

Thank u so much !

@danielr3522 5 жыл бұрын

He could be talking about a relationship I had a few years back - complete nightmare, turned my life into a living hell. And yet, funnily enough, I'm glad I went through that experience, it really was a 'fierce grace' as Adya would say.

@BHAKTIBROPHY 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Love, Bhakti

@jakesnake66 8 жыл бұрын

I like Adya's teachings, but this story doesn't resonate with me at all. Of course, he's only telling a very general overview, so we can't reach many conclusions about the story without filling in innumerable blanks ourselves. But his using "me" and "myself" dozens of times as he described how miserable the relationship was makes me wonder if that is precisely the problem in the relationship. ALL relationships are hard if you interpret everything in terms of "me" and "my." Those "buttons" he mentions that were pushed so relentlessly were only buttons to be pushed because of total identification with self. Those buttons either don't exist or they are much less sensitive as a person lets go of the ego. The very point of all this is to eliminate the buttons as best we can. When we are identified with self, we a one big walking collection of buttons - sensitive, inflammatory buttons. Eliminate those or make them less sensitive and it gets much, much more difficult for the behavior of others to upset us.

@johnburns4566 6 жыл бұрын

He does mention that this relationship was tailor-made to push his remaining buttons - and he often explains that during the awakening process we tend to walk ourselves straight into situations where we can work out our core issues, i.e. a living hell. Heard of this exact kind of thing happening with pretty much any teacher that talks about The Dark Night of the Soul. In one of his other talks I remember him talking more about it, specifically that his "Rescuer" persona was still intact after awakening and he was forced to give up his last self-image of being a "caring spiritual person" and "nice guy" after (what I assume was) a relationship with a psycho bitch. He really doesn't talk about himself much at all (listened to many of his audiobooks and all his KZfaq talks) and personally I like to hear him talk about his personal life, he does it so rarely that I always lean in when he relates how the whole thing went down for him. He talks very, very little about this relationship but if I were to guess, he had to pull a "ditch the crazy girlfriend and GTFO" move after repeatedly failing to rescue her from her own drama. I can see how that would be particularly hard for Adya as he seemed like he was raised as a compassionate, calm, level-headed guy and not being able to "save" her would be seen as a defeat by the remnants of his self image - but he eventually had to let her go. Again, just my assumptions talking.

@Bestbeachesincalifornia 5 жыл бұрын

processing abusive relationships are much like experiencing dance of shiva front row seat

@sidharthachauhan4830 3 жыл бұрын

Yes it happens.. but why we hav to go through this?

@iuvalclejan 2 жыл бұрын

All these non-duality gurus have a certain kind of childhood trauma (incoming boundary violation, which could be being force-fed, restrained, molested, gaslighted, shunned, or just not seen) that gives rise to what is known as avoidant attachment style. It's not just a neutral choice (as in "lifestyle"), it's a pathology, preventing them from having good, supportive and joyful relationships with romantic partners. However, it also seems to give them an edge on having a strong connection to the source/root of reality and creativity.

@racha889 2 жыл бұрын

ur so stuck in ur story or identification of urself that ur projecting ur stuff on others..no, not all non duality gurus had childhood traumas..Stick to the main teachings or walk away if u don’t want to learn..Stop resisting and analyzing..Surrender or suffer..ur choice.🤍namaste

@iuvalclejan 2 жыл бұрын

@@racha889 no, I have secure attachment. You can test for your attachment style in an objective way. Anyway, it's just a hypothesis about the non-dual gurus, but I bet they won't take the attachment tests so we may never know for sure.