Forgiving Infidelity: The Gift of Forgiveness

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Forgiving Infidelity: The Gift of Forgiveness

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Are you struggling to forgive your unfaithful spouse? Maybe you feel like it’s too early to forgive them? Or are you struggling with feeling like you should stay angry in an attempt to inflict the disciplinary pain necessary for them to get the message that this was wrong? Come with me for an important discussion about whether or not you can forgive too soon.
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@loreej2479 4 жыл бұрын

Discovering my Christian husband of 38 years had been in porn chat rooms, sexting, using dating apps and talking to young women on the phone was devastating. This went on for 10 years without my knowledge. Have I FORGIVEN him? Yes-- but I question myself daily because the PAIN of his BETRAYAL is with me ALWAYS.

@isaacgarza7045 Жыл бұрын

I feel ur pain . I stayed with my wife after catching finding video of her with another man in bed . She even continued talk to other men after I found . I stayed with her since he have a 6yr old boy together & not a moment goes by that I don't think of that video she made with that man

@MyMartinal 4 жыл бұрын

I forgive in time, in my time but I will not stay with someone who feels the urge to experience relationships besides the already existing commitment. It means he loves himself and his needs more than he loves you. If he (or she) has broken the bond of trust he has showed you with this action his or her lack of intention and above all the awareness to understand that.

@Trickorvr 4 жыл бұрын

My brain keeps yelling at me to not let go of the hate. The second I do I will let it go. What happened shouldn't be forgiven but I want to go back when I thought I was happy. My story is not normal, so many layers and it's more than just forgiving.

@c.j.9248 4 жыл бұрын

So true. I still have anger I battle daily, but I am doing my best to choose love and forgiveness. It is not easy, but it is what I need to do as a Christian husband.

@rere2410 4 жыл бұрын

I agree, I have forgiving my husband for the betrayal. Of course I still hurt and have questions, reminders or triggers but I still have forgiven him. I recently sent a email to two of the ladies my husband had affairs with and forgave them. When I tell you I had and overwhelming joy after doing so, WOW! I didn't believe it until I did it. FORGIVE.

@lorrainem1870 4 жыл бұрын

What did you write to them? I need to do the same

@rere2410 4 жыл бұрын

@@lorrainem1870 this is what I wrote. "I know I am the last person on earth you thought you would ever hear from and I would never have ever imagined myself contacting you. But you come to a point in your life when you become a wiser and grown person. When we hurt, we want the person who is the source of that wound to hurt as much as we do. But the Bible provides a different perspective. I am so far past that hurt and time. God has been so good to me and *** so I just want to say this to you. “I forgive you”. The Bible says: Make allowance for each other's faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others" (Colossians 3:13 NLT). "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32 NIV). Be blessed."

@sandiebeach0926 Жыл бұрын

@@rere2410 did they respond?

@MrMoronification Жыл бұрын

Did you stay with him?

@DSFVG99 4 жыл бұрын

So on point, as usual! Thank you for sharing your grace and wisdom! Your words are a healing salve...

@mostlypeacefulgaydy6396 4 жыл бұрын

This video found me at the perfect time as a betrayed spouse.

@j.huffhumble4281 4 жыл бұрын

How long did it take you to forgive him ?

@bridgetgullison8848 3 жыл бұрын

Took me 20 years

@MrMoronification Жыл бұрын

@@bridgetgullison8848 oh my!

@mindbodyspirfit 4 жыл бұрын

Perfect timing for me today thank you

@Trickorvr 4 жыл бұрын

I cant watch tv or listen to the radio. Everything reminds me of the things she did, I wish it was just one issue to deal with

@loreej2479 4 жыл бұрын

Jay B Jay these things that remind you of what she did are TRIGGERS. They will become fewer and your reaction to them less painful. For me, 4 years after discovery ,I have one TRIGGER that causes a strong reaction in me. For this I am getting help using BRAINSPOTTING..

@GrandChamp100 Жыл бұрын

Wow im in the same position how did you do it ?

@mayhem466 3 жыл бұрын

I wish I found you two sooner before I lost it all.

@wheelmangames5366 4 жыл бұрын

I TRULY disagree with the premise of this video. I don't see how one can react with forgiveness to "Help them selves" in such a situation. This just seems like a self reconciliation meta to simply forget rather than forgive.

@averyl-annvanheerden5077 4 жыл бұрын

How does one get over the betrayal of your late husband it took for him to pass away then only learn of his affair...at his death 30/12/2020 the pain I feel is indescribable. I've felt humiliated, disgraced ashamed. How do I move on how do I forgive myself for this devastating mess. My anger...only God knows how deep the pain cuts. His dead sleeping without a care while I still have to face a cruel selfish world I cannot eat cannot sleep 7 months passed yet my pain deepens. This was a man I trusted loved wholeheartedly believed in our marriage. Takes him to pass away then only do I realise my years were wasted beautiful gone. Left with memories of a lying cheating husband. God help me to move on. And never another relationship until my journey is over. #Devastated Widow

@SDG-pm8pn 2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your pain. I wish you peace.

@chrislvs2dance 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you this helps me to understand forgiveness

@Streetsong1 4 жыл бұрын

It should be called something else. Forgiveness has too many good connotations.

@sarahmeyers1773 Жыл бұрын

This doesn’t actually say what forgiveness is, just that you should do it. There’s no clear definition of the word.

@vl-afanai6374 3 ай бұрын

Please reply, Sir: My girlfriend cheated on me once after two years of healthy relationship we had. She confessed to me, then we reconciled. I truly loved her and I've always wanted to her as a wife. I know her regrets are genuine and that she has been dedicating ever since. Almost a year has passed, and no matter how much I tried to let it slide, I just couldn't let go! I'm completely traumatized and I would let the past resurface from time to time. Nothing can ever be the same again from my part. I know she loves me more than ever now, she's genuine and caring. But even so, I just couldn't stop holding a grude deep down. In a nutshell, I love her, but I'm reminded of it every single day. It's been eating me every second. I just don't know what to do at this point anymore!! Forgive and let go of the person or stay and live with it???

@electric5hadow 4 жыл бұрын

Is Sam doing ok?

@AffairrecoveryLLC 4 жыл бұрын

Hi there! Yeah, sure you've noticed a recent break from Sam filming. He is taking time out to rest up, take care of family right now and reorganize his vision for the rest of the year. No skin cancer and everyone is healthy. So caring for so many of you to ask, please continue to pray for his family. Thank you!

@carolj7586 4 жыл бұрын

It has been 4yesrs to get over this pain and hurt

@nataleebiniasz2702 4 жыл бұрын

I need some serious help please. I’ve taken EMSO and Harboring Hope and I think I may need help getting out of my marriage. My husband as the unfaithful uses affair recovery against me constantly. “Rick said this and Samuel said that and Wayne said that against me the betrayed. Is there any couples counseling for us so that he can hear it from someone else? From the source? My husband uses your amazing message and program against me as a betrayer because he is in deep denial and doesn’t understand. Can someone help me?

@AffairrecoveryLLC 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Natalee, please email us at info@hope-now.com for therapist search resources!

@vanessarenae5169 2 жыл бұрын

I have forgiven, once and then I found out more information and ever since then I am really struggling with anger towards her...AP. I say nasty things to her in my head, I try to control it. I try not to let I go there. I need help working through this. I hate how I compare myself. I'm a very beautiful woman, and have many talents...but have had chronic illness for four years now that I'm working on solving. I have not been able to have children with my husband, lost two. She was married, has four kids, all very young, a successful business and my husband said he wanted to marry her and it was alot of fun being with her ECT. We are doing so well, but im struggling with my self esteem. And mostly the anger and hurt. Towards the both. I can't look at blond women in fitness clothing, as she was a Barre studio owner and me like a dummy went to see what she looked like on her Facebook page....bad idea. She's not attractive, not very. A 5 at least. It's almost like I have to dig deeper into her life to prove she's not a good person and ugly and all nasty things. Sometimes want to tell her off or burn down her building. But I never want to see her face to face or hear her voice. It just makes me sick. How do we get past that part? Plus H still works in the same building at times. He is being very careful and accountability with me and others. After the affair dog lifted and he stopped talking with her, he said a few times "I hope I never see her again". And I'm like, I hope she moves away or is cursed somehow, or dies or something else terrible. I've always had anger and bitterness and jealously Because my Husband from day one of our relationship has had inappropriate friendships with other women. He is changing as a person this really Opened up his eyes. I feel really good around him but as soon as he leaves the thoughts start to come in and the PTSD too. Are there any videos to help us with this?

@AffairrecoveryLLC 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Vanessa thanks for reaching out. Any questions on our therapist's videos can go to info@hope-now.com. Also check out affairecovery.com for more resources. To healing, The Hope-Now Team

@Trickorvr 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so depressed. I cant eat or sleep. My work is suffering and I'm self employed during 2020. My brain says to end the relationship but life is more complicated. What she did is more than cheating. If I had known what I did know, I would have ended it. But now 20 years later. I feel like I'm sinking on a hole, the light is getting dimmer and the earth is squeezing the life from me. I love life, would never do something stupid but I cant see where this will end. I'm trying to make the best of a situation for the sake of the kids but I would be gone already. I had my life flipped.upside down when I was 7, not gonna do that to my 7yr old boy. My 16 year old will be fine, she strong. I dont want our kids to resent their mother.

@AffairrecoveryLLC 4 жыл бұрын

Jay B, we are so sorry. If you feel you're a threat to yourself, please call the suicide hotline asap at 1-800-273-8255. Please take care!

@blackknight1037 3 жыл бұрын

How are you doing bro?