Aftermath of a Toxic Job (Toxic Workplace Storytime + Recovery Insights)

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Leaving a toxic job is not enough. What’s been missing from the conversation is the toxic workplace aftermath and how important toxic job recovery is. In this video I’m sharing some of my own toxic work environment story, and the way that a toxic job can impact you after you leave. What I really want for you is to focus on more than just toxic job survival. I want you to THRIVE after a toxic work environment. And it starts with knowing what the aftermath and side effects of a toxic workplace can be.
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1:15 False Alarms
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@jpsartre2685 Жыл бұрын

I got fired by a toxic boss on a Friday and got another job the following Friday with a 30K bump in pay. Moral of the story: take every setback and make it irrelevant.

@Newlaw289 7 ай бұрын

Thank you, I'm trying.

@TheRabidfan 10 ай бұрын

My job has completely destroyed my confidence, self esteem, and worse, my desire to try again.

@Native722 4 ай бұрын

Yup me too, a previous job from years ago and it still haunts me til this day.

@lsfrare 4 ай бұрын

I know how it is, i started to look for another job in the previous year and I have such a low self-esteem that affects me about how I advertise myself. I'm struggling to "sell" myself properly in the interviews, looking like a pathectic piece of shit and nobody wants to hire a pathetic professional. However, I know my value and that I'm currently one of the best professionals in my company. This what happens when you get no recognition for over ten years, even though you achieve big goals they make it look like that was notting more than expected, when it actually isn't.

@AG-nj3ky 3 ай бұрын

@@lsfrareJup thats exactly what a toxic workplace does to you. It completely undermines your personality. Its best to spend several months doing deep self reflections, practice self-compassion, journal emotions, set new personal goals, start directing your life, regain confidence etc before you start applying for jobs. Otherwise the moment you start an interview your non-verbal communication is already unconciously alarming the interviewer that something is off.

@henryk.5192 2 жыл бұрын

I’m looking to get out of my current role, and I am extremely hyper-sensitive to buzzwords, such as “fast paced” and “multitasking” in job descriptions. Those words scream “understaffed” to me, and I avoid those jobs like the plague.

@jessicaherring1507 Жыл бұрын

Or ‘hit the ground running’

@CaliDReed Жыл бұрын

Another one is “we run lean,” which means they’ll have one person doing the job of 2 or 3, or “we have the ability to pivot quickly,” which means they can make whatever arbitrary decisions with little consequence or red tape up to & including spontaneous staffing decisions.

@dealex08 Жыл бұрын

Those words are in any customer service job so maybe be cautious of the field too. I hope you have got out of your toxic environment.

@Subliminalmessage78 10 ай бұрын

Nailed it! My boss said it's "the nature of the beast," meanwhile, 5 teachers have quit in the first three weeks of school. Doesn't sound like it's just me.

@armyofone13 9 ай бұрын

The phrase that sends me is “must have comfort with ambiguity…” 😑 It is one of the biggest red flags next to anything that touts a “family” culture at the job. Put these 2 together and it’s a set up to mind f.*k you.

@karen_leen 3 жыл бұрын

Discrimination and bullying is the first reason I leave a job if I experience it I am out.

@jmfs3497 2 жыл бұрын

Smart. I will have to start paying closer attention to it. I felt something was off in my gut years ago, but doubted myself. It has gotten worse every year. I applied for three jobs this month.

@AnthonyManzio 11 ай бұрын

Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.yyy

@solidcatink 7 ай бұрын

Same. We deserve better, so we leave them in the dust.

@solidcatink 7 ай бұрын

how are you doing now? i hope you have found a good situation @@jmfs3497

@vierialeo 4 ай бұрын

Hey, your reason is exactly the same like my reason right now to leave my toxic job

@michaelm2339 3 жыл бұрын

I just want to be able to sleep every night all the thing's that have happened in work just keep racing through my mind it's like being trapped inside a nightmare, how can people take joy in watching people suffer

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

You need a reset routine, my friend. This sounds cliche and eyerolly, but it might help: at the end of the day, write down everything that is bothering you from the day. All the stress. Use old fashioned pen and paper. Once it's done, write 'I'm leaving it all here in this paper for tonight' You'll have a level of release that can help your subconscious release it

@Chris-tg3qy 3 жыл бұрын

I am about 5 years away from retirement. My career spanned 40 years. The first 35 with a company that laid me off and the last 4 years with a new organization. Let me just say when I look back on my mistakes, faux pas, or times I wasn’t sure if I was being viewed favorably or not, I realize none of it really matters. Anything embarrassing at the first job is history and I barely remember any of the things that bothered me. In my current job, I am a short timer. Anytime I make a mistake, I own up to it and move on quickly because the mistakes I make aren’t really that big and the longer I dwell on it, the bigger it becomes. The key is to act like it doesn’t bother you and then don’t let it bother you. Do the best you can and smile through everything. The worst they can do is fire you and you will find another job, but act like they would be crazy to fire you.

@Sodainspace 3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like PTSD, I have the same problem due to toxic workplace and bullying

@Chris-tg3qy 3 жыл бұрын

In addition to my post above, I would also add to make sure you stay out of the office rumor mill. You can keep your eyes and ears open to stay looped in, but make sure your mouth stays shut. Try to be kind to all of your coworkers even when they are not in the room. Become a very neutral coworker when it comes to having opinions about other people.

@Sodainspace 3 жыл бұрын

@@Chris-tg3qy yeah. I caught coworkers talking behind my back more than once, I could hear them through a door, it was devastating, one of them I mentored and spent hours training and developing them, felt very betrayed. Personally I never ever speak ill about anyone

@ClayMastah344 11 ай бұрын

It’s horrific what we do to people in this society

@melbelle3030 2 жыл бұрын

I think a weird affect of a toxic job (for me at least) was that while interviewing, I dissected everything and convinced myself that every opportunity was going to be just as bad. I found pseudo red flags everywhere just because I was so scared to end up in the same position

@JenniferBrick 2 жыл бұрын

This is really common! There is the fear of the unknown (at least you know what you're dealing with in the toxic job), but also your brain has formed a pattern that when it spots behavior it senses danger and fight/flight/freeze activates.

@Vavavoum-gr8 2 жыл бұрын

Me at the moment. I am handing over now to the new person they have hired and I can’t even apply for jobs. I am working from home for someone who is far away. I even desperately want to start my own startup. I can’t go into another one of these environments ever again

@RinAsami1 Жыл бұрын

Yep, I experienced the same. I started to see false red flags everywhere. I started to get scared to even apply to jobs or go to interviews because I was terrified that everywhere would be just as bad as where I was at. Luckily (but it felt unlucky at the time) something happened at work that was the very last straw for me. I hit the resume hard and started applying more that I ever have because the pain of staying was now so much worse than the unknown.

@helenarichard Жыл бұрын

Me too, i am terrified of being hired now

@helenarichard Жыл бұрын

Keep looking out for red flags. It's a natural protective system. The job will prove overtime to be toxic or not, just like a new partner. You have to give it a few weeks or months before deciding to engage long term.

@mosaicowlstudios Жыл бұрын

I have a great current boss who could see the PTSD my last job created. She really spent some extra time and effort guiding me through the on-boarding and training for my new job and breaking old thought patterns and reassuring me that things were not like that in this office. About a week after starting this job, my husband had to be admitted to the ER for acute pancreatis and was hospitalized for about a week. I kept reporting to work and when my boss found out my husband was ill she freaked out, "What the hell are you doing here!?!?" I just looked at her and said, "Well, my last position..." She interrupted and said, "That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I'm ordering you to leave now and go to the hospital." I cried the whole way there, realizing how badly my last position screwed up my work/life balance mindset.

@mosaicowlstudios Жыл бұрын

My husband drove himself to the ER so I could still report to work. I didn't tell my boss that part haha.

@finn3102 Жыл бұрын

@@mosaicowlstudios I am glad you seem to have found a good place to work.

@timmcardle2233 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm glad I decided to read more.

@Feber2001 5 ай бұрын

Your boss sounds awesome!

@infinitum8558 Жыл бұрын

A few patterns I've seen: - They withhold lots of small details, so when you miss them, they can complain that your incompetent, even though you're overall good at your job. - They complain that you "don't smile". They see that you're good at your job and that you don't harrass anyone, but they still want you gone, so they complain about your "bad attitude" and how you "don't smile". - They also create no win situations where if you don't talk to people, then you "have a bad attitude", but if you do talk to people, then they say, "and he's talking to me like I care"

@starrjohnson1327 3 ай бұрын

This happened to me. My friends told me my supervisor was jealous of me. That was weird to me. My supervisor made way more money than me, had a gorgeous car and was very funny and smart. She was condescending so I had to leave.

@Ken9284 2 жыл бұрын

Always hated working with toxic people. Toxic coworkers will cause more drama and problems then they are worth. Yet when called out on the carpet they have this unique ability to try and turn the blame onto other people. THey make you second guess yourself, destroy your confidence and make you feel like crap. Nothing worse than a toxic coworker.

@Joshdifferent Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@amymcintire4135 6 ай бұрын

Oh and the cliques of the toxic coworkers....so so bad

@jellybeanbear7017 5 ай бұрын

Exactly. I had been working around those gaslighting and manipulate ppl so I know. It's just it takes me too long to get out. Only until I faced consequences (actual physical abuse) that I finally decided to get out

@jlheelan 2 жыл бұрын

Left my toxic job and getting ready to start a new one. But my enthusiasm is nonexistent. I'm totally scarred from the last one and I'm afraid I'm getting into another. PTSD for sure.

@moni1952 2 жыл бұрын

Same. 😪

@HowdyMcPickles 2 жыл бұрын

Same. I thought I was alone in feeling this way. Four months into my new job and I'm finally getting my life back.

@Window4503 2 жыл бұрын

Same. Haven’t quit yet but I already feel paranoid about “next,” especially since my current workplace WAS supposed to be an escape from another toxic environment. I know the red flags I missed but what if there’s nothing better?

@moni1952 2 жыл бұрын

@@Window4503 Sometimes there is, sometimes there isn't, unfortunately.

@judilopez1811 2 жыл бұрын

Hey there....I'm in same situation. I quit my job, found another job same role, but scared to death I'm going to experience the same thing.

@MsEcstreet 10 ай бұрын

I quit after 6 months into a job with a toxic supervisor. Best decision I made! The residual psychological effects have been more difficult to get over. It's a looped tape that replays in my mind and has definitely impacted my decision to return to the job market.

@solidcatink 7 ай бұрын

I feel the same. I hope you are feeling better now? Toxic work environments are damaging. I truly believe that we should walk out of them as soon as possible. Nothing to gain, absolutely nothing, from staying.

@Native722 4 ай бұрын

@@solidcatink Agreed, but for some it's difficult due to money/benefits, closing a job gap.

@sarahhelmer7902 2 жыл бұрын

Worked a toxic job for seven years and it was affecting my mental health. Left the job and I feel AMAZING

@xoxlilshortie33 3 жыл бұрын

Put in my two weeks notice last week at my job. My job was constantly micromanaging and degrading comments from upper management. They refused to give out time off. The job was a revolving door and I never experienced so many people leaving. I have never been so happy to leave this job. The weight was lifted off my shoulders last Thursday. I manifested a new job that I previously didn’t get and they called me back as another position opened within new company. This has been the craziest two and a half years of my life. I have been watching your videos for the past month Jennifer thank you for all of your videos.

@thecongo8505 3 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Have you resigned?

@princessmarlena1359 2 жыл бұрын

Glad you are getting out.

@zulylopez8569 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for the typos and erros I'm cooking

@LoveMusic-dv4sl 2 жыл бұрын

That's what my boss is doing to me, and I'm looking for another job. Good luck to you at your new job.

@jaymichelle5496 Жыл бұрын

I'm about to do the same thing! I'm so excited to have a life again.. Chasing $ gets old after awhile 😊

@starstuff5324 3 жыл бұрын

just walked out of my toxic job yesterday. i hope the fallout i left in my wake is at least worse for them than what they did to me. it was my entry job into my dream career, and they tried to kill my confidence to keep me there. according to them i’m too incompetent to get a job anywhere else, and even if i did, it wouldn’t be nearly as good as i had it there. i didn’t want to stay long enough to start believing that bullshit.

@Butterflyyyy9 3 жыл бұрын

Right you know your potential and work skills you've gain throughout the work place you got it!

@mikebravo95 Жыл бұрын

How has that gone man? Did you manage to find something better? I am doing the same. I was an entry level and I made maybe the worst choice ever. I have been put in "sink or swim" mode.

@joannesaltfleet2071 2 ай бұрын

@mikebravo95 There was a place I worked at and got told how there its sink or swim which I didn't think was very nice!

@joannesaltfleet2071 2 ай бұрын

I walked out of a toxic place after staying there for 3 weeks after I got shouted at and criticised for petty things and feel it was the right choice!

@jayare6872 Жыл бұрын

After quieting a toxic work place, my etiquettes, beliefs, and knowledge of wrong and right, commonsense, etc. , was affected greatly! I felt deeply "stained" and tainted! But, I had saved enough money to hold me off ( no work ) for about 2 years so I used this time to recover my selfness again. I also forgot to mention that I quit the toxic work place when I did my recovery! I now work for a company that teaches its employees (verbally and computer eLearning) to be respectful to customers and especially to each other.

@liene4619 11 ай бұрын

I was just telling this to a friend. Like, i don't want to continue this path if it means i have to "look the other way"

@jayare6872 11 ай бұрын

@@liene4619 Yes. Toxic work places are for toxic people only! Good people do not belong there.

@jellybeanbear7017 5 ай бұрын

Same :( My thought patterns are starting to be just like them and I have to learn how to shake it off and begin again

@jenniferbrower 5 ай бұрын

I have found that I experience toxic relationships and toxic workplaces simultaneously.

@nancywalker7014 3 жыл бұрын

This hits home. I just started a new job, and every little thing I do, I think it’s wrong. Or that I’m not good enough, and when my bosses give me Critique or a task to do, I take offense because I’m so used to being screamed at. I’m trying my best to heal :( my confidence has been affected so much by the names I was called, and how much gossip there was and unfair treatment. I’m trying to not carry it into my next job, but it’s hard

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

Your brain has programmed the pattern. It will decrease slowly over time in it's own, or you can speed it up by spotting the patterns and releasing them (if you're curious about this, I'd love for you to come to my webinar!)

@stelladallasAlabama 3 жыл бұрын

Most ppl cant afford a break between jobs but i think time away is the only way to heal. Without that look for ways on how the current job is different from the toxic job and focus on that For example former boss jerk. .current boss is nice..then tell yourself current boss' motive is to help you not hurt you whenever he or she critiques

@nancywalker7014 3 жыл бұрын

How would I go to a webinar? Is it on KZfaq ❤️

@stelladallasAlabama 3 жыл бұрын

@@nancywalker7014 yes it is live now

@brendaechols2228 3 жыл бұрын

@@stelladallasAlabama true. When i was on disability for 2 months healing from being ill, i never thought about work. I was so happy. I felt like i got my power back. I felt free and all the tension and stiffness in my body left. As soon as i went back the first and second day it felt foreign to me. I felt like i didnt belong. By the end of that week my confidence went down and i was in physical pain again. Thats when i knew it was time to leave.

@matthewsmith2787 3 жыл бұрын

I spent 8 years in a toxic job, the manager was unfriendly, unprofessional, unapproachable, and finally, nasty. I remember working outside as we were a horticultural nursery potting plants, my co worker had a bad back and just stopped for one minute and the manager yelled at him saying why have you stopped working? Yelling at people is very unprofessional

@jmfs3497 2 жыл бұрын

Treating people poorly, as a leadership strategy, actually makes everyone worse at their jobs. I don't trust people like that. It's like they are hiding something, rather than trying to build a business.

@matthewsmith2787 2 жыл бұрын

@@jmfs3497 I think it’s designed to force people out, and bring new people in mainly

@summer20105707 2 жыл бұрын

@@jmfs3497 they're hiding their own incompetence and insecurity. Truly pathetic people.

@Feber2001 5 ай бұрын

Yelling at people is weakness

@divasins6356 3 жыл бұрын

I left my toxic job. I was surviving for 3 months when they hired this girl who was just indirectly bullying me and this guy had triangulated us. I saw clearly what he was doing and avoided him but she clearly did not. They both were malice campaigning me and all my co workers and bosses were naive enough to take their words over my actions. They chose to gossip and leave me out of meetings and ignored me when I had questions about orders, totally acting like high schoolers and handling this extremely unprofessional. I was isolated and over worked and constant stressed trying to figure out things on my own, in fear of losing my job which led me to have a mental break down that two co-workers saw and the whole ordeal got way out of hand. I had damages done to my car from the girl when she saw me talking to one of my bosses privately in the office. My job wouldn’t accept my request to leave and kept my vacation Pay over my head and acted like they did nothing which screwed me over big time. I ended up just not showing up because I was starting to feel physical effects of the whole ordeal. Please chose your over all well being of your self over finical well being. I am struggling finically but to have my mental peace again is priceless!

@Butterflyyyy9 3 жыл бұрын

I completely understand I'm on the same boat as you are my narcissistic boss just fired me. And boy I feel relieved and now I'm Free. I hope you find another job opportunity surrounding with empaths. I wish you the best of luck sweetie. You got this

@divasins6356 3 жыл бұрын

@@Butterflyyyy9 Thank you for reaching out to me, Sunflower!

@ExoticGTRX 2 жыл бұрын

Damaged ur car? I would've dragged that girl across the street

@candacedanielle88 Жыл бұрын

Omg I‘be had the exact experience you described!! I too ended up having a mental breakdown in my office. I was even put in the mental hospital because of all the stress and bullying I dealt with at work. That happened at the beginning of last year and I finally left in august. You can’t finish healing in the place that broke you. I am struggling financially and my car might be taken away from me, but I’ve never been happier!!

@27twilkes Жыл бұрын

I pray your next job will be peaceful!

@13sangheili Жыл бұрын

Oof, 12:00 hit me hard. I used to have a lot of dreams and ambitions, but after my last job (this is my last week), I just want a quiet, without a lot of responsibilities job. Even if I'm over qualified for it.

@mercedeswilkins9085 Жыл бұрын

Some people will take less money for less stress

@chrismorpher7439 3 жыл бұрын

I finally quit my toxic job after 7 years. I now work at a hospital where I'm feel happier and healthier. I'm still healing the wounds on my back from 7 years of abuse, bullying, harassment, being screamed at, the sexual jokes towards me, my shiftleader physically touching me, my boss being a hypocrite and more

@HighSpeedNoDrag 3 жыл бұрын

Outstanding and the best will prevail in your life. Good Luck.

@chrismorpher7439 3 жыл бұрын

@@HighSpeedNoDrag thank u

@gypsyclothco 3 ай бұрын

so thankful you got out of there and an very sorry that happened to you!!

@PrairieGirlio Ай бұрын

I am sorry you went through that. We all deserve better. My friend who has a PhD in mental health told me that it takes twice the length of exposure to the toxicity for our brains to recalibrate and longer to truly heal. I found this validating and motivated me to work on changing my thought patterns. I wish you well.

@IltOutsiders2017 6 ай бұрын

I noticed I don’t even communicate if I have a problem from fear of getting in trouble or getting gaslit into thinking that I don’t have a problem

@elizabethcontreras4242 Жыл бұрын

I am so relieved that I found your channel. After only 2 months I began having anxiety attacks and couldnt sleep through the night. I reported the abuser to my managers three times and they assured me he would be spoken to. I took a few days off to recover from the latest abusive rant. And my managers didnt seem to have my back, after all. I chose to resign because trust was lost. I can only control me not coworkers nor managers. wish me luck that my last week will be lighter and I get a better job next.

@solidcatink 7 ай бұрын

i could have written exactly what you wrote.

@classysis6264 4 ай бұрын

Good luck. After rain comes the sun

@red_delphino9858 3 жыл бұрын

This is amazing. I am currently working on leaving my toxic work environment. My confidence is gone and I am working REALLY hard to get my confidence back. I realized that complaining is an issue for me so I will focus swapping complaining with being grateful. And OMG Ive completely scaled down my ambition because of the toxic environment.

@amapokua2486 Жыл бұрын

Same is here… currently working on my confidence

@citydweller99 3 жыл бұрын

3+ months since I escaped from my toxic boss. Recently, I found myself apologizing to my current boss for bugging him so much. His response 'you aren't bugging me at all, we were problem solving.' I have to tell myself that I'm in a new place and not to let the past affect me. But still have those instances where my guard goes up instantly. Thank gosh I work from home so I can take a 5 minute break to chill

@MoonLight-gm6zm 3 жыл бұрын

Jennifer, you are a godsend! I have escaped the toxic work place a few weeks ago and am now really struggling with the aftermath of it all. Working for a very toxic narcissistic boss has damaged me on so many levels. :(((((((((( It has been one of the most horrific and traumatising events of my entire life, and I only wish I can heal fully one day.

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

You can! I went through an intense experience and I promise there is another side - it takes work and it's not always easy but there is so much light on the other side. Are you coming to my Toxic Job Recovery webinar?

@MoonLight-gm6zm 3 жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick Thank you so so much! Yes, I am and I am so excited! I really hope it can help me. :)

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome! I'm really excited about it because were going to get deeper on the things we talk about here and the recovery process!

@yukio_saito 3 жыл бұрын

A victim of a toxic workplace can become an abuser in another one. My ex-coworker was that kind of person. He was emotionally insecure and vulnerable because he was laid off from his previous job. It was so frustrating for me. Another coworker left the job because of him.

@StillGamingTM Жыл бұрын

Seems to be how it goes, new nice people come into a toxic environment, they either adapt and become (somewhat) toxic themselves or they leave. But not everyone has the luxury of being able to leave. I think, if you reflect and you hate the person you are becoming but you cannot leave, it's probably worth saving up money for years even if you must before you dare take the leap, while in the meantime you try to not behave in a toxic way yourself (which is really difficult). It's probably also good to realise many of the people there - especially the young hires - probably simply don't know better and try to see the best in them, regardless of what they're doing

@bailofhay978 3 жыл бұрын

I was in a very toxic work environment at this grocery store chain in Texas. Their culture was very oppressive and full of gossip. Management and HR approved of gossiping while having meetings about not gossiping. Management and HR were the only people benefitting from the gossip. And they did such things under the guise we're a family. This is how you know that the culture is a toxic brew of jealousy, envy, back biting and racism.

@judilopez1811 2 жыл бұрын

I'm a career changer. I changed to an HR job. I never worked in an office setting. It all started great and was good for a little over a year, then my boss became a mean person. She began to gossip about me to upper management and other coworkers. I approached her 3 separate times to discuss the issue, but just got worse. She began to say things like I made a ton of mistakes but could only point out one when I asked specifically. The office became toxic. Everyone was afraid of her and her power, so no one stood up. I gave my two weeks notice, found another job, same role, but feeling afraid 😨. I'm trying to shake off the toxicity, and taking a week off before beginning new job. Thank God I didn't stay in toxic for long, because I can see how it's changed my confidence in myself. Thanks for this video. I ran across it trying to get mentally strong again before I start new job next week

@mercedeswilkins9085 Жыл бұрын

Never give a two week notice. They won’t give you one when they fire or lay you off.

@AnthonyManzio 11 ай бұрын

@livingadventures 11 ай бұрын

After being at a toxic job for 6 years i had low self esteem , feeling hopeless. I had to go to therapy and still doubting myself in what i do. Always look at the red flags. My boss started slandering me with others . Toxic jobs can destroy you

@AlmaSo 2 жыл бұрын

Scaling back my ambition was the #1 result of a toxic work environment. For me, I also realized it was acceptable in the field to demean and gaslight people as a way to get ahead (legal industry). So, it meant switching to a new field. Working on regaining confidence and this channel has helped enormously put things in perspective with a plan. Thank you for all this info.

@_grapefruit Жыл бұрын

This is what I’m going through. It’s upsetting because I still want to be a paralegal but life is too short to deal with evil people .

@StillGamingTM Жыл бұрын

Yeah, toxicity can be infectious if you're not careful

@solidcatink 7 ай бұрын

but the evil people can be found in EVERY sector of work. @@_grapefruit

@Mary-os7kw 6 ай бұрын

Put in my 2 weeks notice at my toxic job today. Jennifer, you are so right about the hit that my confidence has taken in this job. A good friend just texted me with an idea I might explore next. I politely thanked her and then said to myself, " I could never do that!" Yikes!

@TheTruthHurts6666 2 жыл бұрын

When I didn't do what some other coworkers wanted me to do, they would immediately talk about me behind my back, in front of me sometimes, laughing and snickering. My confidence took a hit. My manager never checked in on us, requested that I help fill in to be supervisor since I was paid more than others but I was never really respected. On top of all the other drama going on, I became very depressed. Out of desperation, I'm leaving without another job lined up. I want to take time to heal and pursue other things without needing to work with "coworkers"

@pennsylvanianrrfoamer 3 жыл бұрын

I will never let a toxic job ruin my life. I know I handled my unceremonious departure well and I believe in the saying "How you handle it is up to you" and I severed ties with my former employers, including the people I used to work with. Being a customer there in the future is very unlikely, unless the change owners or get rid of the manager, who bullied and fired me who already has a record in his work history which I'm sure will cause a dent in his future job prospects. It's comforting to know that I will be going places, and he will struggle as a result of a bad decision he made citing his overall bad attitude and behaviour. I think I got the right amount of closure although it will take a little bit more time to move ahead mentally. I have absolutely no tolerance for bullying of any kind, especially in the workplace. If I owned a company and a supervisor or manager bullied someone at my company, they would be gone the next day.

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

A lot of the toxic behaviors are prevalent, even in non-toxic work settings, but I'm with you - bullying should not be tolerated in any form.

@pennsylvanianrrfoamer 3 жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick I've been bullied most of my life and being bullied at work is a lot more personal not only because of a toxic workplace also because it's illegal and against the law. An employee lawsuit against a company for that or even out them out of business if they fail to contain it or reprimand those involved.

@pennsylvanianrrfoamer 3 жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick I actually wanted to take to indeed and review my last job and/or share the whole story of my bullying boss on reddit, but I somehow feel it will get back to me.

@chrismorpher7439 3 жыл бұрын

@@pennsylvanianrrfoamer I was abused at my previous job for the past 7 years. My shiftleader wasn't a good person. The coworkers would bully me because I was the newbie. They did this to other newbies in the past. My boss was a hypocrite because does aposolousy nothing with situations. This caused me to have mental health problems Now I work at a hospital and I feel alot more happier. However though I fear my shiftleader would follow me to my new workplace

@gizzelleboccia1806 7 ай бұрын

Confidence is contagious and it changes their perception of you at work We need to thrive not just survive or even worse, betrauatized by a job not worth it at all

@chopitlike_its_hot Жыл бұрын

I haven't worked in over 2 years since I last quit my toxic workplace. And every opportunity seems like a nightmare. Trying so hard to move out of that mindset but failing miserably.

@solidcatink 7 ай бұрын

because we are wary, traumatised... people are scary.

@Feber2001 5 ай бұрын

How are you doing now?

@Kate-Does 2 жыл бұрын

I made the mistake of going to HR about my bully boss. Things were made exponentially worse and the whole team, that my boss had already been gossiping about me to, backed her up and complained about me. At my "performance review" my boss lied and misrepresented my work, and I had written and demonstrative proof that the things she claimed were untrue, but HR let them stand and tried to make me sign the review. I was given a zero on my record and placed on the bad-standing, do-not-hire list. I can't have the job on my resume as a result and I don't know what to do.

@bip-someandnone8698 2 жыл бұрын

That’s a shame and a huge disgrace. Some people are so evil. They (bosses or coworkers) will lie and say that you didn’t do your job EVEN when you do it right in front of them. They “make up stuff” to get you fired. When I say “you” I mean people general. @ Kate. I wish you the best may you find a job where people who treat you with dignity and respect.

@solidcatink 7 ай бұрын

you need a sollicitor / lawyer. you CAN win this.

@joannesaltfleet2071 2 ай бұрын

Years ago I got bullied and a girl said to me put in a complaint to hr and I said hr is the last place I will go to!

@Kate-Does 2 ай бұрын

@@joannesaltfleet2071 You're smart. I was not and paid the price!

@shelleywilcox2119 2 жыл бұрын

I left a good job for more money and learned the grass is not greener! I've been in my current position for over 18 months and have never had so much anxiety and self doubt. I'm good at what I do, I enjoy my work. But, a supervisor and her flying monkey have turned into a nightmare. My confidence is shattered and I worry this job is career suicide. I submitted my required 90 day notice and my last day is next Friday! Unfortunately, this supervisor and her flying monkey have completely sabotaged the next job I had lined up. I was kinda forced to supply them as references, and the job offer was recinded. I just found out about this yesterday. I am horrified, could not sleep a wink last night. Now, I am basically jobless.

@omphilemoerane2569 2 жыл бұрын

😯😯😯 I hope you are doing much better now and you were able to find another job. Really sorry this happened.

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

Have you had a toxic job hangover?

@MobileGamingChronicles 3 жыл бұрын

I did with Wayne Farms. Everything about it sucked. I worked off and on for almost 4 years from 2016 to 2020. The workplace was good at first, but over time a lot of people there acted immature and brought in drama, my workload became excessive, my pay was even less than when I first started, then I got suspended due to false allegations, and then the day I went to HR after finishing my 3 day suspension, the Shift Manager terminated me. It was so bad, I cussed out the Shift Manager in front of HR and the Safety Officer. It's been almost 15 months since I got terminated, and I'm much better off without that toxic job and toxic workplace.

@stephenbayer3909 3 жыл бұрын

Definitely! I quit two toxic jobs in a row that were harming my mental and physical health and a few months later started a new third job. I was so on edge that I took copious notes on every little interaction and thing I noticed that *could* indicate it was another toxic workplace. I was determined not to let this happen to be for a third time in a row! It took a good 3 months or so for me to feel like I could let my guard now and be less vigilant. I'm now celebrating my 2-year anniversary with my current company and I am very happy!

@JK20239 3 жыл бұрын

Yes. It's led me to go for FI and leave the race. As Dave Ramsey has said, the only person I could blame for staying in a toxic job is myself.

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you landed in a good company, Stephen!

@miriamthompson905 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, 3 different jobs. Doing good in the latest company I am working at. You are right about it affecting confidence. Took me a while to get back to how I was before working in a toxic environment.

@AiCash-mc8fb 2 жыл бұрын

I went from one toxic department to the next. The entire company is full of toxic people. Wish I left years ago.

@ivybichon8582 Жыл бұрын

You’re absolutely right. My current job is rob me of confidence. I have a new job lined up but I feel like I have PTSD and picked up those toxic behaviors you’re speaking of. I plan on taking off three weeks before I start my new job to detoxify.

@AlisonBSL 4 ай бұрын

It's my last day of work with 2 very toxic directors. Tiny company of 5, so no support or HR. I thought I'd feel extatic. But what I really feel is grief. I have lost so much, financially and mentally. Even ended up having a nervous breakdown because of their behaviour, which was all blamed on me for not being confident any more. The truth is I allowed them to chip away at my confidence, to the point I am a shell of my former self. I have a new job, and I am terrified. This has never happened to me before in my 30+ years of working life. Sure I've had the odd toxic colleague before, but never to the extreme of these two people. I hope everyone here finds peace in their next role. ❤

@Iceis_Phoenix 2 жыл бұрын

I am s0 exhausted from a toxic job I cant even covey the words to describe it.

@imcoop 2 жыл бұрын

Such great points. I have gone through all this. One thing that I can say about working for a toxic boss and in a toxic environment-I learned and was validated about how NOT to act

@lucymcnamara4558 3 жыл бұрын

I am actually going to be making 33%more at my new job that I just got. Your videos helped me acknowledge it was time to move on 😀

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

Ahhh this is so awesome!!!

@zornslemon 2 жыл бұрын

This hit me, I'm a PhD student and my supervisor really undermines my confidence; I'm highly educated and I've had lots of successes, but at any hiccough she literally says "well if you can't even x what's the point?". Unfortunately if I quit it will make it hard to get another academic position, especially because she is highly regarded in the field, and she comes off as really sweet when you don't know her well, so not being able to "make it work" with her will look bad. I have almost left the field entirely a few times because I get feeling like I won't be successful, even though I have a track record of success. I've been wondering if I can just put a little more distance between us so her feedback won't be as frequent and it won't sting as much; I don't think she actually dislikes me or my work, she just has a mean streak. But ya, totally, there are huge consequences to a toxic environment at all levels.

@t.l.7733 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. My last 3 jobs all had toxic narcissists as my boss. My most recent company of almost 8 years is where I suffered the most damage. The great news is that we only lost 1 employee to suicide. Of course, when she started with the company, she was super outgoing with professional goals. I, like many others are still seeking therapy. Our GM (malignant narcissist) has triangulated HR into thinking we're all misfits. Fortunately, they believe him. It's such a great feeling knowing that companies care for you.

@roisin33 Жыл бұрын

Wow sounds totally normal, like seriously. We are in hell it seems

@Mary-os7kw 6 ай бұрын

Damn!

@sirrantsalott Жыл бұрын

I’ve been in a toxic work environment 2020 to 2022 in an executive leadership position. It was hell on earth. Healing from that was further complicated since my father passed away in 2022. His passing finally opened my eyes to just how toxic my family really is and how that toxic work environment mirrored family dynamics a lot. I had to physically and psychologically distance from the family to heal relational traumas inflicted by my narcissistic mother and mentally ill brothers. I’m in a better place now. Thanks to my healing, it was really easy for me to leave my recent job: jealous and undermining coworkers, threatened and insecure boss, and a work culture fuelled by gossip and run by emotional bullies and codependent leaders. I wouldn’t have been able to do this without regret if I didn’t know my true Self and if I don’t have savings to carry me through until I find my next opportunity. Your channel is my favourite these days. You’ve validated everything I have been through. Keep up the good work.

@AJ_SouthernGal 3 жыл бұрын

I resigned last week from my toxic workplace!!! My last day is Friday & I'm taking some time off to look & recoup. Was there 5 years & had been in a toxic place before then, too. I'm both excited about looking & scared that I'll get in another one. Fortunately the person I've been working for during the pandemic (they got rid of the bad manager & shifted us under a better one) has been good to work for & my confidence is somewhat restored but there is still some healing to do. I love to work & know I can be of good benefit to someone, so thank you for all the great vids as they're reprogramming my mind!!!

@spicymango92 2 жыл бұрын

I worked with children in my last job. On my last day, I get an email stating that what I did was “not professional at all” and that I violated ethical boundaries. What was the email addressing? I gave the kiddos I worked with goodbye presents. Lol. That was the big issue. The board I work under even states that gifts under $10 are permitted between staff and children. I don’t feel like I did anything wrong, but I have this looming fear of people not hiring me now because they’ll call this place up as a reference, and they’ll say I’m ethically incompetent. Just such a weird limbo to exist in. I just wanted the kids to know I appreciate them, but okay. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@mysteriouschaos3849 3 жыл бұрын

Just a thought, but why is a toxic workplace something the worker has to escape and deal with on their own? Toxicity at work maximizes the short-term bottom line. How do we provide incentive for companies to facilitate a healthy work environment? I feel it is slightly flawed thinking to consider the corporate world a beast that cannot be tamed.

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, companies need to address this too. I have a few colleagues who work with companies to do just this, however sometimes it's a feature and not a bug of the culture. For example, Apple is notoriously secretive and discourse can be kinda salty (and Steve Jobs, who was a great visionary but terrible leader has thousands of leaders who aspire to be just like him in his they act). For some people that's a nightmare, for others that's their dream job.

@phoenix. 3 жыл бұрын

Because companies do not care. Sometimes they are too big to fail (like the one I work for). The end goal is maximisation of profits for owners and top management. That's it. And they'll do everything e.g. help greenwashing polluters while promoting environmental goals, like the one i work for. One little rat running the wheel is nothing to them. Edit: legal charges against company, lost reputation and money, that's the only way to hurt companies where toxic env is a norm. I've seen people getting destroyed in the process. 😔

@GratitudeDay 2 жыл бұрын

@@phoenix. so much this. A cultural change may be what we need, but I’ve found that trying to affect change and point out the problem myself has been screaming into the wind. Hitting them in the reputation helps some, but now companies like Glassdoor sells corporate memberships so their HR and marketing minions can reply to you and make themselves look better. I’ve found the best way to deal with this corporate abuse is to leave and support any group of people trying to unionize or fight back.

@jmfs3497 2 жыл бұрын

I don't know, but I talked to an internal HR leadership coach about how a narcissist became manager, and that an increasing culture of toxic deference was the reason for declining productivity and high turnover. They didn't deny it at all. They said they were aware of my respective office struggling. And they advised me to let it go, and start applying for other jobs.

@mysteriouschaos3849 2 жыл бұрын

@@GratitudeDay I had a great job in healthcare, but the culture was very toxic in the main office where I eventually worked. When they'd finally hit me in the paycheck, I left and got their highest income doctor fired for ethics violations.

@ANDRE-sp2mi Жыл бұрын

I am greatful to understand that I can walk away from a toxic work environment. My freedom means more than anything. I am greatful for another opportunity. I will always work hard. I am greatful to just take side jobs. Thank God I don't have to work in a toxic work environment

@l.l.98 3 жыл бұрын

Been watching a lot of your videos and wow everything is so on point and i feel so seen. Ive recently realized that almost all of my few previous jobs were toxic and on top of an emotionally abusive parent has really affected my self esteem and confidence and cuased lots of issues. It’s kind of a wake up call to see you talking about how the rock bottom self image, and feeling like I can’t do anything is all a symptom of trauma and not part of my actual personality, like it was starting to feel. Somehow having it all stated out like this helps me feel like i can want more and have ambition again, so thanks for talking about all this. Coming out of the pandemic and feeling vaguely hopeful about the future. Wanting to beleive in myself again.

@summer20105707 2 жыл бұрын

It's so wonderful to hear somebody who understands these things. Thanks Jennifer. You're doing people a great service.

@beatricesiaw8776 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, toxic jobs recovery is real, everything you said is spot on.

@Joshdifferent Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@nicolewildman8976 Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for this. I'm seeing that lots of people feel this same way i do as well, after having survived a toxic work environment for so long. Your words were really spoke to me. Appreciated.

@Summerdee223 Жыл бұрын

This is SUCH good stuff. Thank you for your amazing content!

@sasz2107 2 жыл бұрын

Jennifer - thank you for making this video. Many of the things you said resonated with me and are very valid points. I don't think people think about how, even when you leave a toxic job, that there is still an aftermath you have to deal with. For me, it has been over a year since I left a toxic boss and workplace, and I still think about it every day, even though I am in a much better place now. The part where you mentioned scaling back your career ambitions you once had is particularly true. I began to think "It's fine, I just need a job without problems". It's not a good way to think. Thank you for mentioning it.

@drsundipshenoy2471 2 жыл бұрын

Listening to your career solutions helps solving bestfit mind jigsaws that heals the conscience which toxic office politics take a toll on. Your KZfaq channel will go a long way in helping countless souls for a course correction with optimism having experienced toxic workplace culture, environment ,Jennifer Madam.Your incessant helpful gesture is praiseworthy. 👏👍🙏☺️

@AT-cx8gt 3 жыл бұрын

This video could not have come at a better time. Everything mentioned I find all too relatable right now. I’ll be for sure signing up for the toxic job detox program. ❤️

@sketchedbydesign 3 жыл бұрын

Great video! Way to connect to the viewer and share your personal experiences! Keep up the great work!!!

@TheSnerggly 2 жыл бұрын

So spot on here, thank you for this video. I could write a novel about how I left a toxic job after two months that wreaked havoc on my self esteem and dented my confidence. I almost lost the job I have now four years later because of it. I carried that trauma into the new job. There are a LOT of bad Managers out there and the fact that some employers promote these people without realizing their down stream impacts is astounding to me. Also, EVERY job I've had over the past 30 years or so there is always one or two bad managers who were promoted to a level of their own incompetence, it NEVER fails. Still cleaning up that mess left behind from three horrible managers over my 30 years of working.

@cuivre2004 2 жыл бұрын

Great video. I noticed a carry over from a previous toxic workplace after changing jobs. I was less independent and checked in with my boss more than necessary. My new boss was not that great either and was never mentored in being a manager/mentor, so I could see where his faults became evident. Sometimes people can use "a good example of a bad example" and they can use it to their benefit.

@mkervelegan 3 жыл бұрын

Jennifer offers great insights clearly that can be assimilated and put into practice with some initiative on the toxic victim's part. Unfortunately workplace toxicity is so pervasive it's useful to realize that we can control and tame it somewhat, but not eliminate it.

@kt4047 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so relieved to find this channel. I've worked for a narcissistic boss who dumped me on an insecure boss and then took me again when he moved to a new role. I took the offer because I thought it was going to be different but it only validated my experience with him five years ago. Now that he got promoted and left me behind, the peace of mind I feel right now validates it even more. I'm more at peace now that he's left, but at the same time I've since been anxious about the thought that I'm gonna have to go above and beyond for something that might not be worth it. Ironically, I'm also anxious that I would fail by not going above and beyond. I'd long for meaningful work relationships and at the same time, anxious of people in the workplace. This is my aftermath and I want to work towards undoing all of toxicity my original workplace had ingrained on me.

@olebogengonline Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad I found your channel and found this video because you hit the nail on the head with every point. This is helping me a lot and giving me answers to some questions I had.

@JenniferBrick Жыл бұрын

I'm glad it's helping you 💜

@1traviswyrick 2 жыл бұрын

Your fantastic advice here is something id expect from a skilled psycologist. Im amazed at the nuggets of wisdom you drop.

@modoktheduke6275 3 жыл бұрын

Hey - so my story is pretty simple. I worked for a boss that seemed friendly enough initially. A lifer at a law-firm with 25 years experience. Well, found out they had just received their 2nd DUI. Guess who got asked to pick them up and drop him off before and after work every day? Yup - promised a fat raise and a promotion to boot. And guess who got fired when I went to HR? I DID! I hate myself for ever getting involved with that boss and I deeply regret becoming addicted to a substance and destroying my life. Welp - I changed careers, but I'm still damaged AF lmao! The 'water-cooler talk' literally causes me panic attacks. I have unhealthy levels of distrust, it's exhausting. I have no friends anymore (because I was a drug addicted psycho) and I genuinely feel like I will never be accepted anywhere. So, needless to say - some toxic workplace detox sounds wonderful, Jennifer

@NothingToSeeHere1141 Жыл бұрын

I have watched your videos in the past and have found myself needing to watch them again. I have landed in a series of toxic workplaces for the past decade. I work in HR and have for over 20 years. I have been working to figure out a career change for a long time but it's been challenging. I started a job in July 2022 and thought it would not be so toxic. But the red flags popped up fast. My boss was promoted to manager just before I started and I was not told I was reporting to someone with 20 less years of experience and who was completely incompetent until after I started the job. My boss is a narcissist (but stays off the higher ups radars) and has asked me to do illegal things, to which I refused. I have worried about getting fired since like week 3 due to this immature boss. My boss makes blatant efforts to sabotage my work, undermine me and I've been told he trashes me to others. I know he's just on a power trip and is too immature but it's actually prevented me from being successful...which is his goal. I recently compiled documentation of these patterns and met with upper management to request to report to someone different. They were dismissive and defended him. They don't see what we see because he kisses their a$$. So I'm looking again. I had to start seeing a therapist to keep me sane until I figure things out. I'm considering full-time consulting but my confidence is so low right now I can't picture how to make that work. I'm so exhausted.

@sadiaswr 2 жыл бұрын

I feel my brain is so whacked now. And i did that to complain to my husband about my job, i realised in my new job my brain is actually looking for faults to think negatively about, from a coping mechanism to a unhealthy habit. This video is helpful thank you

@laurenbarca4661 Жыл бұрын

Also I want to add you are helping me get through this process. Thanks for all of the support with this youtube channel - truly thankful.

@dthinksweb3 Жыл бұрын

So true! I fumbled some pretty high profile interviews because my confidence was shot. I had to take a break from the search and mentally recharge.

@jenniferbrower 5 ай бұрын

I left a toxic environment 3 days ago and I can already feel less pain in my back and hips. I’m not hungry all the time and my head isn’t hurting.

@Cultivatecrochet 2 ай бұрын

I’m counting the days until my departure

@skj9163 3 жыл бұрын

The examples here are the open toxic behaviors. The worst one's are those that smile and chat while cutting your hamstrings. Had one who was friendly to all the staff all the while having the directors set up those she wanted to let go because the business under her leadership was failing. The worst part is I was way to lenient in giving the benefit of a doubt as I had come from a previous position where it was open war on the employees every day, and I kept telling myself it wasn't as bad as that place. But pay attention - the wolf's are easy, it's the spider's that can trap you.

@CourtneyLynn630 Жыл бұрын

This!!!! The smarmy, fake niceness is what drove me nuts. Even months later I get enraged thinking about specific encounters I had with these wretched people and only wish I could go back in time and smack those smug looks right off their evil faces.

@26bacar 2 жыл бұрын

Omg you describe my life everytime. 😔 And many people judge me when I try to get support.

@rubyyesenia9255 2 жыл бұрын

It's been 4 years since my toxic work experience and I am still trying to recover from the trauma. It doesnt feel like I will ever move on from it all.

@princessmarlena1359 2 жыл бұрын

I hope you do, one day. Still smarting from some toxic former workplaces.

@bmn6283 2 жыл бұрын

I can relate so much to this, sometimes I still have nightmares of being there

@coreyanderson7424 Жыл бұрын

Great video. Very relevant topic. Thank you so.much for discussing this : )

@theelectricprince8231 25 күн бұрын

I quit my toxic workplace 2 months. I have not had sleepless nights for 2 months. An employee who started wotking there this year just quit. They gaslit me so much that i had doubts and felt i might be the problem, that employee leaving validated me and made my confidence solid.

@brendaechols5929 2 жыл бұрын

Most people I know that left said when they got a new job it was like culture shock.

@jmfs3497 2 жыл бұрын

I have been hearing that, too. That you get stuck in a toxic bubble, thinking everything is as bad as your current toxic job, and then discover it's like your toxic job was an alternate reality compared to everyone else outside.

@QuelloVeloce7 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you this video really is helping me more than you know.

@wendymaejotojot9697 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this Jennifer, you've helped me a lot. God bless ypu more.

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad it was there for you, Wendy!

@greneellen8 8 ай бұрын

I am so glad you're talking about this. I am not just starting out in the work world and thought i was pretty settled as a person in who I am, my weaknesses and strengths, but a horrible work experience shook me, and I am still not okay. I was called stupid, minimized at work, and my boss would talk about me to the woman sitting in the cubicle behind me, loud enough that I could hear every word. Then they'd laugh and start to whisper. It sounds paranoid but it was constant. I would ask for a performance review and training and got a patronizing response and then nothing. I wasn't included in anything--meeting the regional manager-nope, she just walked right past my cubicle. I called her on it, she denied any of it happened and said, and I quote, "it's your word against mine." I quit but still wonder what I did that contributed to that situation. What did I do that was so wrong?

@Otaku155 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this! I recently had a TWE experience and this was very helpful. 😊

@EvieMatavelli Жыл бұрын

I just left Blizzard yesterday. This video provided me with so much hope. I'm lucky I got a new job offer starting Monday! I'm really hurt, I need to recover from this so I start the new role with clear mind.

@sarah.marco888 Жыл бұрын

Omg with the overcommunication. I was under several micromangers in the job I just resigned from. I really fear corporate life will just bring out the worst in me . This insight is really important ❤❤

@jess4466 2 жыл бұрын

It has taken me two very long years to sort out the trauma I endured at the hands of a toxic workplace lead by a narcissistic abuser boss. I am getting most of my confidence back, but I still have a tendency to feel gaslit by everything even when someone isn’t coming at me like that. The damage is real.

@SultryNeoSoul Жыл бұрын

Love your channel ❤ you are insightful.

@philplett7272 3 жыл бұрын

I always thought my over communicating was a positive, wonderfully informative video.

@davejohnson8985 3 жыл бұрын

I experienced an inner conflict that I had not actually left a toxic workplace, but that I was toxic employee/toxic person, and by quitting, I had demonstrated myself as a coward, unambitious, weak, selfish, all sorts of negative labels I'm still working through in therapy. I had a profound sense of loss and regret and shame. I was continuously having thoughts like "I didn't work hard enough, I didn't try hard enough, I should have fought harder to keep my job instead of walking away from it." It became a pretty severe depression that affected my ability to perform in my next couple of roles. I struggled in my interpersonal relationships, especially with those I worked with (overall there were many contributing factors to why certain relationships broke down that have nothing to do with the job however, these things were just happening concurrently) I'm wondering if is something others might have experienced, where they doubted whether their workplace was truly toxic, and whether they had been in the wrong for choosing to leave

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

This is something I have seen with many people who have left toxic environments and there are two things that come into play for many of them. 1. Doubting it was toxic. Remember a toxic work environment is personal, what is toxic to you might not be toxic to others - it's about values and how you expect to treat people and for them to treat you. Some people love gossip and fighitng - others don't. Without judgement, figure out what was toxic for you. Also bear in mind, gaslighting comes into play, where you are meant to doubt your own perceptions and reality. Especially if you are dealing with manipulators or narcissists, this can really weigh into long term questioning. 2. The big story: I am not a quitter. You have probably gotten the message to not quit hundreds of thousands of times over the course of your life from your parents, teachers, coaches, friends... everyone. However, in a toxic work environment, this story works strongly against us (and can keep us stuck unnecessarily long). Because the only solution to a toxic work environment for most is exiting. Depending on how deep this story is, it can be a doozy to deal with post-toxic job. Sometime instead of weeding it out - we need to shift our perspective - you did not quit, you chose happiness or you chose to positive opportunities. There is a story that will serve you much better. If you haven't registered for my Toxic Job Recovery webinar, you should consider it!

@stelladallasAlabama 3 жыл бұрын

Everyday i replay the decision Telling myself only losers quit and i always circle back to: i saved me For the first time in my life i saved me. I dont know what the future holds but leaving a toxic situation is not quitting, it is rescuing yourself from trauma.

@stelladallasAlabama 3 жыл бұрын

As to your questions,my daily replay is i overreacted and i circle back to the same anger the same frustration. My job took away my ability to trust. I trust no one becsuse i was working with amoral gaslighters who lacked integrity. Also i want nothing to do with the people who said you make too much to leave that job.

@intuitionknows5791 2 жыл бұрын

Im going through all your emotions exactly. Complete mirror image. Relief to read it to be honest. 5 months since I left, Im still stuck not moving on. Horrid. X

@fluffy00123x Жыл бұрын

I have felt the exact same so no you are not wrong or stupid for feeling that way. Classic example of an abused person this is.

@melissachen3994 3 жыл бұрын

This is very true. My prior manager loves to play favorites and she could be insanely picky to the employees she doesn't like just to make sure her favorite ones get all the credits. I am not one of her favorites and I quit last year. But when my current manager says any good words to my colleagues I would be so paranoid because I am afraid of being in that situation once again. Even if my current manager is super nice and he never plays favorites.

@JenniferBrick 3 жыл бұрын

Being aware is the first step in releasing.

@ChapstickChunx Жыл бұрын

This is all great insight. Thanks!

@gizzelleboccia1806 7 ай бұрын

this was phenomenal thanks I will show this to my daughter as well God bless

@AlisonRuthless 9 ай бұрын

Good advice & insights. Thank you.

@brahmabkitty03 Жыл бұрын

I really needed this video. I’m still traumatized from a job I loved that I lost in 2020

@finn3102 Жыл бұрын

Wow! It must have been pretty bad? Have you been able to move on career wise, or does the trauma still cause problems with employment now?

@skyedreams28 Жыл бұрын

You are gifted-thank you 😊

@sssttt2211 2 жыл бұрын

toxic workplaces are hell on earth, not only you lose energy, have self doubt by negativity, it ruins your relationships, enthusiasm and overall quality of life. Why would anyone spend their energy, time , skills in such environment - just for that days paycheck.... is it even worth? if you die in a year , you will die with enormous negativity in soul and probably spend years in hell after that and get to another birth in low quality. life is not meant to be spent that way. that is not success... success means being able to live in harmony, peace, love, joy... you don't need much money and we are not born to make money...if that is case God would have had provision to carry money you earn to heaven with you after you die.

@tiffytoo 10 ай бұрын

Been trapped in toxicity cycle for years im so depleted of LIFE

@stevenrobbins3180 Жыл бұрын

My manager (weasel) was the brother-in-law of an executive (sleazebag) vice president, so he could do whatever he wanted without fear of any consequences. When I had my annual review, he said "I get a chunk of money from HR that I can distribute, so I use it to compensate the hardest workers, like Ken and Bob" My raise was 0,5% and I almost told him to put it where the Sun don't shine, but I didn't because several people knew what would happen if I did. So I said nothing and went back to work, but with a completely different attitude. Eventually I was shown the door and left smiling, because this happy asshole would no longer be ruining my life. My blood pressure went from 170 to 106, which was a big surprise. During my high BP days, I had a stroke, and the Weasel kept asking me if there was any damage (a violation of HIPAA privacy rules). I had another doctor who said, if I had waited another week to come in to see her, I would have been dead. Dying for a useless job is foolish and a waste of *your* life. Do you really think anyone at work will care? Please, please remember the people you love and keep them in focus. Those 16-hour days will be viewed as "company spirit" and you won't get a raise, promotion or even an "Employee of the Month" paperweight.

@jamesdripsmusic1581 3 жыл бұрын

Great video. Very well spoken and well done

@Native722 4 ай бұрын

I still have nightmares til day, I think I may have PTSD from the bully/harassing management. I would find myself yelling stuff out when I'm by myself, anger, upset, etc. I couldn't believe I was so weak to let management bully me into that job.

@JenniferBrick 4 ай бұрын

If you think you may be experiencing PTSD please see your doctor. This is debilitating disorder that involves structural changes to your brain. The severity cannot be understated. Get diagnosis and working with your doctor and/or a psychiatrist or psychologist is imperative to healing.