Am I still me if I change myself for others in a relationship? H&T57

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Would you change yourself for your significant other?
Trying to change yourself because you want to stay in a relationship.
It seems that we have all experienced this kind of youthful love.
We've all gone through this kind of young love, where we've gone out of our way for another person.
But in the end, looking back, after a long time and a lot of experiences.
I feel differently about myself and the love that I felt at the beginning.
I feel differently about myself and the love that I felt at the beginning of my life.
Perhaps, the situation follows the heart.
"Is love a spiritual opium or an end-of-the-century pastime?"
Suddenly, singing this song, inexplicably.
There's something I want to shout out:
When I was editing this episode, I asked H if he understood my confession in the middle of the episode.
Although I used the third person, the main character was actually him, did he understand?
He said, "Huh? Is that so?
Okay, I'll do it! I've been playing the piano all night!
The enthusiasm died down and I got a hot slap on his back.
He won't understand my love or my anger unless I use my bone-crushing slap.
00:00 - CC Subtitles, remember to turn it on!
00:29 - Have you ever tried to change yourself in love? Do you have any regrets?
08:18 - Do we all crave the nourishment of love?
13:26 - Have you ever felt the fear of loss in your emotions?
17:42 - When we love in our own way, is the object needed?
22:37 - Would you be the same person if you changed yourself to stay in a relationship?
27:31 - It's true, but it's important to realize that it's deeper!
34:14 - Try to construct your own way of dealing with the world!
38:34 - Have you ever really understood yourself before building emotions?
42:11 - When we ask ourselves questions, are we always too eager to get answers?
46:55 - Maybe the adversities in your life are meant to transform you into a better version of yourself!
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@user-qe6mt9tr2v
@user-qe6mt9tr2v 11 ай бұрын
我認為在豐盛的心態下,積極的與伴侶溝通,放掉得失心是不可能的,很清楚自己的弱點在哪裡,太在意是為對方而改變,但這個改變是自己選擇,又怎麼說不是做自己呢?終究是自己的努力,不管變好或變壞,是否喜歡這樣的自己,我的生命中發生了這樣的事,我盡我所能這一刻我決定榮耀自己,心裡不平衡就是想講的沒有講清楚,還有吃飽太閒還不如就跑到吐,身體強健魅力十足
@99988Q
@99988Q 11 ай бұрын
是強留對方而改變自己 還是也認同對方的觀念而改變自己 #從來不是為了對方 #都是為了當時的自己
@sunnywang1232
@sunnywang1232 11 ай бұрын
忽然意識到,原來被一個人吸引、想靠近他/她,原來除了他/她身上有我們喜歡的特質外,也是有我們要學習的課題,所以才會為什麼有的人我們就是沒感覺,而就是專會被某種特質吸引! 謝謝今天的分享❤
@amber7054
@amber7054 11 ай бұрын
為了那個人改變自己的感情 都無法走到最後 改變太刻意太痛苦😖 後來才發現找一個可以輕鬆自在 做自己的人相處 才是真正的生活
@markchiang3449
@markchiang3449 11 ай бұрын
有些人為了愛 改變自己 也改的很開心 因為知道對方快樂 奉勸做不到到男生 都不要結婚啊😂😂😂
@user-mp4yv5di7d
@user-mp4yv5di7d 11 ай бұрын
我比較討厭的是如果因為對方說你要怎樣怎樣才好看 為了對方改變後 又說 以前的你比較好看 所以 轉個念 改變 是為了自己 健康著想 最近我發現依賴真的很可怕 所以努力跳脫回到最初的自己
@user-rc7gp9ne5i
@user-rc7gp9ne5i 11 ай бұрын
以前,痛苦,來自於不如預期和求而不得,懷疑各種選擇是否有問題… 從關係裡,是一種「遇見」因為開始在乎,產生了動力,過程的每個情緒起伏,痛苦、挫敗、委屈、快樂、滿足… 年輕時還搞不清楚,只看到的表面的「好」是最重要的!再來,更多的時候,知道每個遇見,是為了讓我學到,叩問、解離自己,很多時候還是一頭霧水,很無言的空白,現在回頭看過去,可以比較好的理解當時自己的狀態! 現在的每個停頓,對我來說,都是解構,問自己,再慢慢很慢很慢的重新建構,那個很模糊的自己…對我來說是很重要的過程,這是一輩子的事,值得一直一直努力下去… 謝謝來到我生命裡的存在,都給了我很多的力量,和機會! 很贊同婷說的,要感恩,用這樣的姿態,才有機會~領悟!
@user-wt9op6yh9o
@user-wt9op6yh9o 11 ай бұрын
這集的談話內容好棒,尤其是婷講到什麼是「理解自己」、什麼是「對的人」那段。
@user-bm5pg6qv5d
@user-bm5pg6qv5d 3 ай бұрын
之前真的為了另一半這樣報備過,我發現我真的不快樂😂,喜歡另一半安靜一點,別吵我,我自己知道跟異性的邊界感😅絕對不會看上其他人..看上了也會直接說分手,我不搞冷暴力的😂
@durian527
@durian527 11 ай бұрын
婷這頂帽子很搭髮型
@user-xo2bk1xt9u
@user-xo2bk1xt9u 11 ай бұрын
Nice😊好真實的分享,感謝❤
@june-yochen5179
@june-yochen5179 11 ай бұрын
真的好喜歡你們探討感情的問題! 平常生活沒什麼人可以聊這個主題,再次感謝你們的優質影片!!
@DrinkingLibrary
@DrinkingLibrary 11 ай бұрын
謝謝你☺️
@ariellinnn
@ariellinnn 10 ай бұрын
agree!而且算是少有的那麼大方敞開的聊彼感情 過往 並且呈現給他人看也是很舒服的一個氛圍 希望自己也可以
@oz1883
@oz1883 11 ай бұрын
謝謝這一集
@Klaasti_tw
@Klaasti_tw 11 ай бұрын
聽到婷婷說:你竟然要唱歌!?我也跟著笑了 哈哈 www
@chenkj9432
@chenkj9432 11 ай бұрын
我覺得你們節目我為什麼現在才看到啊!我好需要啊這樣節目呀!感謝你們🙏🏻
@Dawn-51121
@Dawn-51121 11 ай бұрын
😂😂😂來的真共時,一直時不時冒出這個功課題。
@chend.t9191
@chend.t9191 11 ай бұрын
改變是一直存在的,重點只是願打願挨,甘不甘願而已
@yangyouwei8250
@yangyouwei8250 11 ай бұрын
今天又有東西吸收了~~🙏🏻
@user-go5cu4mv1d
@user-go5cu4mv1d 11 ай бұрын
這個笑聲真棒😂
@a0983358822
@a0983358822 3 ай бұрын
最後不管如何你要接納你當下的自己。當你接受不了時你就會無明使你失控 情緒讓你失控 無常來臨時 你最恐懼的事發生 人生四苦 因爲人生本質就是悲欣交集。愛恨同源。 傲慢自卑同源。世界二元對立。正反二元對立都來自同源 當你接受不了 好的自己 壞的自己 好壞都是你自己的意識的定義。但往往排斥自己認定壞的自己。
@hokuo180
@hokuo180 11 ай бұрын
身為一個剛出社會的新鮮人,很感謝你們分享這些觀點~
@user-rc7gp9ne5i
@user-rc7gp9ne5i 11 ай бұрын
哈哈哈你也有過去!誰沒有過去!一開場我就笑了🤭 這個議題~太期待!慢慢聽起來!
@kunli7929
@kunli7929 11 ай бұрын
太喜欢你们俩啦❤
@DrinkingLibrary
@DrinkingLibrary 11 ай бұрын
愛你喔😘
@sc731214
@sc731214 11 ай бұрын
我很慶幸我在20出頭歲就悟到很多事物道理 這真的也跟經歷有很大的關係 但只要悟到 他就會深深印在自己心裡
@user-fy9hp3ic7g
@user-fy9hp3ic7g 11 ай бұрын
身體健康也是 聽到 知道該養身 學到 生病了 悟到 健康的身體就是福
@user-nt3yx3by4p
@user-nt3yx3by4p Ай бұрын
智慧讓我喜歡這個節目 喜歡他們倆個
@finbarrhua7408
@finbarrhua7408 11 ай бұрын
可能目前看一半就想要留言,因為把每一段戀情都覺得要認真投入,所以當分開以後再跳脫來看。發現 欸? 其實一開始的「我們」不就是因為欣賞彼此 才會暈船的嗎? 為什麼在戀情持續的過程當中總是想要對方改變成自己喜歡的樣子,回想一開始的萌芽,不就是她/他的這些行為舉動想法而讓我愛上的嗎?亦或許是我忽略了雙方成長的過程,或者生活的拖磨?我不確定。
@yihualu4946
@yihualu4946 2 ай бұрын
一開始聽婷覺得很感動 聽到Hank 說跟婷在一起是為了折磨自己 就冷掉聽不下去了⋯⋯
@pianista2202
@pianista2202 9 ай бұрын
20:38 我覺得滿認同的耶,可能就不知道要講甚麼,但就是想要聽你的聲音、跟你講話之類的吧!
@user-bv8uv1xt7u
@user-bv8uv1xt7u 11 ай бұрын
聽到 遇到 學到 悟到
@Musiclover-bt7wf
@Musiclover-bt7wf 11 ай бұрын
從你們的眼中看見了愛🫶🏻
@oonahuen
@oonahuen 11 ай бұрын
😂有趣的媽媽 就想你跟她分享你的一切
@BK-yn8ww
@BK-yn8ww 11 ай бұрын
愛老虎油(#
@tomtsai3495
@tomtsai3495 5 күн бұрын
透過您們得坐姿發現您們是一對天作之合
@DrinkingLibrary
@DrinkingLibrary 2 күн бұрын
😆
@user-pu2fz1rh5d
@user-pu2fz1rh5d Ай бұрын
婷婷長得很好看,美❤️
@user-ov7mg3tx2x
@user-ov7mg3tx2x 11 ай бұрын
你的改變,是對世界(泛指社會,群體)有貢獻的,那你的改變就不會失去自己的本心
@SB-fu6nj
@SB-fu6nj 11 ай бұрын
👍👍
@user-xo1mf8dv1m
@user-xo1mf8dv1m Ай бұрын
時間跟年齡真的能改變很多東西
@08058804
@08058804 7 ай бұрын
讓我想到一首歌 做愛自己
@user-lv3uk1ep6h
@user-lv3uk1ep6h 11 ай бұрын
我想到的是‘’我願意‘’這首歌😅
@user-zr2om2jn3k
@user-zr2om2jn3k 11 ай бұрын
愛對我來說並不存在 所謂的愛只是你的腦細胞對喜歡的人發出了的繁殖電波 至於為什麼會有人為喜歡的人改變自己這就是所謂的 物質決定意識 俗話說...... 物質決定意識 物質是第一性的 意識是物質世界長期發展的產物 是人腦機能 是物質世界的主觀印象 所以呢你雖然改變了你的意識但本質上人還是又主觀意識決定事情所以你還是你 如果想讓自己不為他人改變 你就以後都理性客觀相處 追人就冷酷無情的追 被甩或告白被答應內心也都是毫無波瀾就微微一笑 這樣就意識就不會改變了 客觀的東西改不了的
@user-zr2om2jn3k
@user-zr2om2jn3k 11 ай бұрын
愛的本質是繁殖本能 愛這個詞是經由理性修飾而來只不過是假象
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