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My ex husband and I live 4 houses away from each other. We love and care for each other and always will. As we told our children when we split, "we just don't love each other exactly the way a husband and wife are supposed to love each other." We co-parent beautifully. We are, and always will be, family to each other. We will always have each other's backs. I am friends with his partner, and he is friends with mine. We all do holidays and family celebrations together. This seems "weird" to so many other people I meet. My kids are happy, healthy, and well-adjusted. I don't buy into the BRULES. My children are better off for our marriage ending. We are still a family. Nothing can change that. I admire your honesty, vulnerability, and commitment to living authentically.

The biggest lesson I learned after my divorce was that we were only supposed to be friends. A lot of times we imprint with people b/c of our pain and trauma and call it Love. We supported one another through many difficult times and understood one another. But that too, is friendship. Conditioning made us believe it had to be more. Now I know better and I love better.

There isn’t such a thing as “forever”, we cross paths for a reason, and when we have learned the lesson we move on. Respect to the way you two are handling it with consideration to your children and each other. Wish both of you love and happiness

From the video Vishen looks sad, the expression on his face..who wouldn't be?! But the way these handled it, is a lesson for all.

My partner and I broke our 25 year relationship in Love. The feeling was natural and mutual. We knew and felt it in our core, that our time together (as a couple) had ended. During the time of packing everything up we never fought about money or assets, we just shared as to what was needed for each of us. We supported each other then and remain supportive now, 8 years later.

Vishen's body language told a different story when they announced the unwedding. Love is responsibility as well. It's just feelings.

If only every separation & divorce was this mature!

Vishen You have no idea how timely this video was for my life and how much your transparency has blessed me.

Love is freedom, it takes guts to fight for it and still the love doesn't end.

Everyone is like aww this is beautiful and blah blah blah am I the only one who feels like this is sad

Absolutely love this and how they are using their story as a way to teach others to not force themselves to stay on where there is "no life" left!

This is a Beautiful Concept that a couple can be honest enough with one another to admit that the marriage is really over, and allow a Beautiful Friendship to continue.♥️ More people need to learn to work together to keep their friendship, instead of allowing attorneys and courts to run Everything. Honesty is Always the best policy.

This is SUCH a beautiful thing!! What an amazing success!! A successful marriage should never be defined by 'years together'!!

I just love how genuine he is..and pure minded..both of them ofcourse! I too have Aspergers..and have ended a 1.5 year long relationship on a happy note just like this.. being 21 year old..I find myself soo much in sync based on what he said.. I am aiming for getting to Mindvalley and just LOVE ALL SERVE ALL .. bringing impact planing the role that universe wants me to💖

To be honest, this news did not come a surprise. My sympathies, because the end of a marriage can be incredibly painful. However, MindValley strongly encourages developing intuition, and my intuition told me more than a year ago that the end was near. I wish you both continued peace and happiness on your journeys.

People are NOT possessions. Vishen is so great because he knows that. I divorced. I left my narcissistic psychopathic xhusband in 1998. Other people tried to force me to go back to him. I went back to him briefly making it abundantly clear I only did so to be next to the kids. I left him again quickly. I did all the legal work on my own to get the divorce. It was a complete nightmare. That man would not leave me alone. I started listening to Vishen and watching him and his people again. I am happy, single and looking for someone new. Thanks Vishen for your support. I received a video on business. I just launched my own affiliate marketing business recently. How did you know? 🤔 Algorithms are great!

That’s the most grown up explanation I’ve heard. Thanks Vishen for being so brave to share it. God Bless!

This was HUGE for me today. And I´m sure it was for so many. Thank you, Vishen, por posting

I learned that just because we stop loving each other passionately, it doesn't mean that anyone is bad, or we stop loving our ex partners wholly. I still live my ex husband now like a cousin. There's no need for hate. It's actually strange to me that divorces are so ugly. After my parents got divorced, my dad continued to visit my mom's house on Sundays, to have soup, even after she remarried. In my culture we have a hearthy soup on Sundays...

Man💚you've got me in tears(: ...such a Leader. Beautiful.

“Love is a Decision” by Gary Smalley and John Trent would be a good book to read and apply before finalizing the conscious coupling decision. I happen to think that love is not a feeling but a decision. All of us have times or periods in our lives when we “act unlovable” or when we feel like love has faded. I think the ones make it for the long term are the ones that “decide” to love each other when the other one is going through a period of not being so lovable.

Thank you for making this public. We did this. You can separate without destroying the other person.

Success is how you work on your relationships and your marriage. Start respecting women and put your ego aside and your life will star changing.....your personal success is a real reflection of who you really are.

That was so flippin incredible! Wow.....thank you so much for deeper healing and revelation!❤️🙏

Vishen, I am shocked to see this and my heart is warmed to see your choice. Just always know that you and the entire Mindvalley team are ALL Superheroes and highly valued in this evolving Global Society. What a beautiful example of Unconditional Love. Thank you and Namaste...

$19 / 19 Years ❤️

Love this video. This is life 100%. Living, evolving. All experience. Thank you for transparency. ❤️

Thank you both for sharing truly inspiring!

Sorry to hear of your divorce Vishan, but that was one of the most beautiful things I have ever been a witness to. LOve your work. Thank you for sharing. Love and blessings to you and your ex-wife.

Thank you Vishen for sharing your experience and the video with Kristina about how to consciously uncouple. What I liked most is about looking from "the alternative" lens - it adds more to the meaning of love beyond bondage. Thank you.

I did this without knowing I was doing it !!! Now I want to teach it

The emperor is wearing no clothes. When you are smart, you can rationalize (=Rational Lies). "The grass is greenest where you water it." Mindvalley is all about personal growth-- yet there is no greater personal growth course than marriage (and parenting). I've seen this thing happen with other powerful/wealthy people, where they talk about this like it's a great thing. I agree with their parents, and it's not because of "tradition". It's so much more than that. It's about soul connections. The thing is that walking away from a marriage, especially when you say it's good, means you don't really understand the sacred space of it fully. (Real reasons to divorce are adultery, addiction, and abuse.)

I commend Vishen for being open and vulnerable about this as this takes courage considering how taboo this can be. Honestly speaking, I don't think we realize how much we've been socially programmed to think that marriages are meant to last until death and that divorces are seen as a bad thing. We believe these things to be true because someone else or society said so. Regarding the ideas of marriage and divorce, there are many facets and nuances to both of them, and painting them with a broad stroke or seeing them in a black or white way may inhibit people to question or to contribute to these concepts. We also tend to see love as something that takes one form only during a relationship not realizing that you can still love someone, just maybe in a different form. We all grow and change, that's inevitable. The relationship between two people can grow stronger or it can grow apart, depending on where they stand. Many people don't realize the amount of variables or factors that come into play when these decisions are made. If we want to get spiritual or esoteric here, it can be part of someone's life lesson/purpose. I don't know Vishen and Kristina personally, and I didn't witness what their relationship as a married couple was like. All I do is accept their choice. If you disagree, fine. Just be respectful of them and where they are in their lives.

Sincere wish you the best for both. Blessings!!!

GREAT VIDEO. I'M GLAD THAT BOTH OF YOU WERE ABLE TO END THAT PART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP ON GOOD TERMS. WHEN CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED, ENDING ON GOOD TERMS HELPS THEM EMOTIONALLY😀

After 24 years together and 18 years of marriage I divorced and unfortunately was not in good terms. Even though, I tried hard to end on good terms it didn't happen because he was very controlling. Unfortunately, a lot of couples need to break up due abuse either mentally or physically so the "good terms" doesn't apply. I learned from all that I can love myself and I am worthy it. The pain was/is huge but worthy it. Congratulations for both of you being capable to be so friendly and respect with each other.

Wow Vishen may angels surround you and your family! One of your last videos i saw a golden glow crown you got this and you know it!

Thank you for the honest share and all the BEST always

Thanks for sharing a very personal experience. It's very generous and courageous of you.

Great video 👏as always. Thanks Vishen

This is the most incredible talk I have heard. We are all taught that divorce is an extremely painful process. This is a new model for the world. I still felt incredible sadness watching the video. I don't know why.

Finally, a way to remove the fear from the decision to marry and someone who is willing to show how to keep it real and make it work, not merely force it to "last." Thanks 😀

You are so honest.......It is comforting not to feel so alone with my fate ANYMORE.....

Bless you both on your new path

I hope this isn't too late Vishen. First things first, forget the 'unconscious coupling' thing. If you still love your wife then the path back to true family love is just around the corner. Don't bother with the couples counselling. Just go back on holiday in your head to when you first met and go on a date to a nice restaurant. Your kids will thank you down the line (as opposed to viewing you - unfairly to some extent - as selfish).

The way of your talk, I like so much.

Watching this not even married and no current boyfriend but I want to understand this for preparation because forever is a long time and it’s not for everyone.

That is so beautiful, I cried through the video. I feel so sad that such a beautiful story and wonderful union is not mean to last forever. Thank you for sharing, there is a lot to learn. Letting go each other beautifully with respect is an art, hard internal work and worth learning.

I stopped this video midstream because I had the think about the fact that when God puts two people together, its forever! See when God opens the door for you to find your forever partner! You don't always see it at first. It may be years before you know. as with me, I many times said I want to quit this relationship. God showed me that he had given me what I ask for as a young woman. John past away with cancer in January 2016. Thro think a thin, we stayed together, til death do us part. I ask Father God to give me a cowboy when I was 21. John at first was far from a cowboy! in the end, he was my cowboy!

Thank you for sharing Vishen, it's very brave and inspirational.

Thank you for sharing your journey

I dont know Vishen or his group personally but I had a strange feeling about them for past 2-3 years. Then this morning I was watching Nelson Abreu and on the right side was the title 'Conscious Uncoupling' by Vishen and I thought, "oh no, it really is happening" so i stopped Nelson's video and watched this. Whatever your reasons are, it is none of anyone's business but your own. Best wishes to both of you.

Salute to your courage,guts & patience sir! M always inspired.... The moment i feel I'm undone i do seek from ur videos & lectures ❤

The bottomline is you weren’t soulmates or you would still want to be married. I think to be okay with walking away from a marriage, quite frankly you didn’t have an amazing relationship/ connection in the first place or you would be fighting for it and each other. A lot of people get involved and end up being in long term relationships out of connivence and fear of moving on. I agree those type of relationships are better ended, freeing one another to go on and find their true love. My husband feels it was Kristina who was wanting this, looking at both your body language in that six minute clip. Of course sometimes, it’s also the case where there is deep love which is one sided and they have to walk because the spouse is out of balance with his life ie workaholic who isn’t present in the relationship or someone who is an alcoholic , gambler etc. As for your relationship, I get the feeling there is something off, that is missing from the story. I think it’s also a bit naive to think you will automatically remain best friends, it’s too early to say. Wait to one or both of you start dating other people, that’s going to bring up a whole lot of pain. When either of you find a serious partner, they might not be happy that your ex is your best friend, instead of them. In today’s throw-away society it’s easier than ever to divorced. There are still however marriages that last forever, it’s not always easy, it’s hard work but their love for one another and the thought of being parted is what keeps them hanging in there. Of on the other hand, you are just cruising in your marriage. Yeah, maybe it’s not such a risk to throw away 16 years and just move on to the next person. However, some people take a long relationship for granted and it’s only after they move on, they regret it. I know of someone who walked a way from a long term marriage and while the ex wife is very happily married to someone else, he never got over her and has had another two failed marriages since. I think what you and Kristina are trying to present to everyone is not the normal reality of relationships. This whole unconscious coupling based on a Hollywood divorce ( since when do celebrities live in the real world or know what a normal life is?) is rather dangerous ideology.

You're amazing!! Great lesson!! Thank u!

Just love the music in the starting of the video it just pumps up like anything. And we all are with you ,universe is with you. It takes a lot of courage to come up to stage in a time like this and speak about persona life. My good wishes with you always

I loved the way you guys went trough this situation.

Thank you for sharing this is transformative and healing

I think before take this incredible decision we work on hearset area and so i have to read lots of book love relationship Thank you share this bend reality workshop

You evolve ...n rediscover yourself ...The lesson I learnt

He is so happy! When I see such happiness I be happy

Vishen thanks for sharing... as you’ve said... you are suffering... it’s awesome to do the conscious uncoupling for sure.. but it still causes suffering. I only wish more couples could do it this way.

Certainly painful, but every pain if managed and tolerated makes us more resilient.

I can completely understand, I went through the same. Did the same thing.

As painful as it feels listening, what is so humbling is that many people forget that everyONE has personal struggles. Your status, career, wealth, looks...etc. do not prevent you from experiencing this life. Let’s not forget it.

1. It is a great and bold step and nothing wrong in it 2. On previous occasions of your videos I felt a premonition that something like this is going to happen and now one more occasion to prove that I am good at it 3. What is really surprising in this episode is both have mutually agreed to end the relationship and that too smoothly without giving tough time.. so kudos to you 4. Now both can grow to their best and achieve their ambition 5. I would welcome this to end the toxic relationship which many couples are afraid of doing it for lack or courage

Great story on the Thai strip Club incident. Not all marriages last. What matters is how we treat people after falling out of love and it makes you move on better in your life as you have to carry on.. It's all about giving respect and getting respect in return that makes a broken relationship beautiful. God bless everyone.

Much peace and love to you and your loved ones.

Wow....very courageous. I mean not thinking of divorce as something bad. Sometimes it is a lifesaver.

So inspirational. Forward thinking. Innovative. Like Vinod Sehkar.

So beautiful. And funny. Thank you.

Kudos to both, Vishen & Kristina. You guys were able to compartmentalize your love into perspective...WOW!

Haha...the story of u losing ur wedding ring in a Thailand strip club is funny🤣🤣🤣

This is beautiful ....Its not sad AT ALL !! It will only be a sad occasion for those who dont understand the evolutional path that every individual on this planet are on ....

Yah Vishen, we know what they do with those ping-ping balls in PATAYA 😂😂😂. Thanks for leading even in this path you guys. 💚❣️💚 Love you guys!

just love this man

U inspired me thank u sir.

Love the wedding ring story 🤣

This is so understandable 🤨🌺

So grateful for this 🙏 34 year marriage ending

wow! Kristina Mänd you are strong and wise. My support to you. Looking at your body how you hold and control yourself - requires a lot of inner strength. I feel you. My support to you. Although your micro mimics telling something else when your voice and words - you are a beautiful soul, who is choosing universal love over something that our ego will never understand. I hope, Vishen Lakhiani someday you will lose the shine outfit of motivational business and find our unconscious world in truth. Playing this game in the "ego economy" has an end-date time for all of us: either you truly see the nothingness and unity, o will die not knowing. Still, at least with your way people, who would be still in the plastic world finding the door to the next step in their life, so in a way, we are all useful in this earth in our unique ways :)) Best of luck to you both! Love, Simona

Vishen, do you know what? this is really interesting.... I've being thinking about how the marriage is such a time convention. It is no more than a contract that should be ended with no pain when both parties agreed for the good of all the family. Thank you for sharing your experience. Thank you, I wish you all the best... Namaste.

I was reading The code of the extraordinary mind while I saw this video, and seriously this is unbelievable the stories which he shared in the book never let me think that something such will happen. If I am feeling the pain even been so far from there life, I cannot even imagine how much they might have felt.

I don't know why this thing made me still feel sad.. oh why am I crying! :( I know it's ok but still..

I'll be honest. I watched some of his talks a few years back. They are good. Some are inspirational. Sometimes Vishen can be inspirational. But there is just something about him that rubs me the wrong way. My subconscious and unconscious and the universe is telling me he is unsavory and run, run, run. Why am I getting such conflicting signals?

Dear Vishen, I have followed MindValley since 2012 by coincidence and met you in Munich in person 2017. I love the mind breakthroughs I had thanks to you and all the teachers/speakers/coaches who work together with you. I like also this of the idea of conscious uncoupeling. Now my question to you is: How come, that after all those years, after spreading consouciousness, all of the teachings, things in common with your now ex wife did this happen? And if you had taken both of you the Lifebook Journey, where you get shown also how to connect through daily stuff with your partner etc etc etc How could this marriage slip through you guys, fingers? Was the application missing some where of all the teachings you spread? Energy connection work of Jeffrey, Tantra and connection of Psalm Isadora, RTT of Marisa, clearing blocks from Christie? I think breaking it down it is plane and simple. Your teachings give hope to people, that you/we are on the driver's seat: Do the teachings really help, besides the career path? Or like with in tech it was not machine failure, but human application failure? And where, in order to learn from your experience? Thanks in advanced and lots of blessings

How does it work legally? Thank you for sharing this very courageous step.

thank you for the good laugh!

I cried.

Wau! Wish I would share my story incognito. Of 11 year co parenting. Living in the same house but not as husband and wife

I just came out of 22 years/and 6 kids..

I has always felt bit never spoke about : I ALWAYS felt "Marriage" was a human construct, exactly as you say but never would speak of it bc , you could just imagine the backlash. So ty for saying for me .

it was funny story tge same time i felt your pain ending your marriage is not cool. But yiu inspire me more every single day. God bless mind valley

Universe has back Sir....

I really love this video and the honesty that's released to the world. So much courage and confidence that I see from the two of you. Love your vision and your passion.

This is really sad , people can't be replaced , I do however wish them the best .

Thank you Vishen. I would like to do the same, but only open minded people can understand this

I m 24 n I m Indian n my family talk a lot about marriage ,what is ur advice

Vishen, I Absolutely loved your vulnerability in this video. Im not sure how I missed this one, but loved the timing. What an amazing story you both shared. Love, Love, Loved this! Thanks for your vulnerability. Really! Wish more Men were as honest, humble and shy. So adorable both of you. ❤xo