An asian woman’s thoughts on dating asian vs white men

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6 ай бұрын

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@eugeloo 6 ай бұрын

What an absolute honest and candid interview. To be so vulnerable to share about her Mom's passing - it shows a lot of courage.

@pelle.luca91 4 ай бұрын

Isn't she the one of the show "Meet me in Paris"?

@kaileena7 6 ай бұрын

Not sure why the algorithm recommended this to me but I like it. The woman in the video is so bright and genuine, I hope that she gets better luck in dating in the future!

@Rein_Ciarfella 5 ай бұрын

She unfortunately dated two immature Asian boys. Could as easily have been any race or culture. If she tried the same but older her experience might have been more enjoyable.

@johnwatine 3 ай бұрын

Examples for those two asian guys could happen with any race. I don't get it to reject asian based on those factors. She seems to be very frustrated not to be picked by white guys.

@wusta34 4 күн бұрын

@@johnwatine you hear this alot for asians that doesn't want to date other asian. It's because of few bad dates. But they'll overlook the bad dates with other race. weird phenomenon lol

@user-kf1lg3yx5z 5 ай бұрын

She's so real. Truly refreshing.

@MissionSilo 5 ай бұрын

She has amazing self awareness and seem level headed. I hope the world treats her better and she finds true love. I hope the best for her.

@TomCat00738 6 ай бұрын

She seems like a genuine lovely lady.

@tanthaman 5 ай бұрын

Stop simping

@donnawoodward3163 6 ай бұрын

She's such a beautiful person 🤍

@MattCooperKay 5 ай бұрын

Really happy to have stumbled upon this channel. This was a great interview, and i hope more people get to see your work 🙏

@ShelleyM007 26 күн бұрын

I hope the guy that eventually wins her over realises what a keeper she is. She’s obviously intelligent with a deep level of self awareness, her vulnerability is so brave, and her honesty’s disarming. When she spoke about her Mom I teared up too, (thinking about my late Mom.) Most cases when people say “it’s not me, it’s them,” it’s not true…in this case- it’s them.. Don’t give up💪🏻 He’s out there. 🌺

@Leukick Ай бұрын

Black (Jamaican) and have full Chinese through marriage in my family. The family gatherings are so cool and such a beautiful and fascinating mix. And the mixed babies are genuinely very very cute. Everyone can still be of their native cultures and still mix perfectly as a large family at gatherings.

@ela1126 3 ай бұрын

I lost my dad to cancer. I’m so sorry she lost her mom. On another note… as a white blonde girl I also wasn’t picked by the guys in high school lol. My husband doesn’t believe I wasn’t “popular.” But I was waaaayyy shy when I was younger. So I think how you interact in your peer group when you’re younger also plays a role, not just what you look like. We all go through social growing pains when we’re young.

@lupef.7970 6 ай бұрын

I really love your videos you let the people speak. You allow them to tell their stories and vent. You should be getting more views.

@derrickkkkkkkkkkkk 5 ай бұрын

Yo, you have something amazing going on in this channel. I’m rooting for you!

@medialdea86 6 ай бұрын

Me ha emocionado muchísimo. She is a beautiful person, who opened her heart. Videos full of sincerity and emotions. Gracias por este contenido!

@dippaverse 4 ай бұрын

This is such a lovely interview 🙏

@joetigo2928 5 ай бұрын

as a black guy, i can relate with her struggle of questioning whether you are an experiment or is the other person really interested in you and your values.

@jeanlundi2141 4 ай бұрын

Meh...don't sweat it. We are all experiments in some way even amongst our own race. But you hit the right word - "values". Instead of gettting swayed by looks etc....try to pick up on a person's value system off the bat. It's tricky but it can be done and saves you a lot of time and heartache. If you are honest with yourself and the relationship didn't start based on superficiality to begin with...you'll be able to tell. These days I don't care how a girl looks or if we laugh together.......I look at her character and worldview to determine if I'm wasting my time or not. Physical or conversational chemistry have to come second.

@joetigo2928 4 ай бұрын

@jeanlundi2141 I agree, you hit the nail on the head. Relationship is more enjoyable and long lasting with whom you share values with.

@cardsfan5100 4 ай бұрын

@@jeanlundi2141 When I was dating, I didn't care about any of that. If I was an experiment, I would not have cared as long as we had a good time together. Those were the values I cared about. Once I settled down, then I cared about deeper things.

@cardsfan5100 4 ай бұрын

That's interesting. Was this struggle when you were younger (teens, 20s, early 30s) or older?

@Chris-sg4th 4 ай бұрын

and what is sad is plenty of black men dont mind being that experiment if its an attractive white women, they know dating her moves them up the social mobility ladder. its craxzy how they talk bad abut white people but secretly manyt of them want a white woman.. for many its a symbol of status " i got myself a white woman, i made it in life"

@WaltervonKurzgesagt 5 ай бұрын

I really enjoyed this interview.

@NightOfCrystals 5 ай бұрын

She is lovely and so authentic. I’m sure she will meet someone great.

@pinchebruha405 4 ай бұрын

What a wholesome channel, ❤️🙏🏼🙌🏼

@lucianwalcott3680 5 ай бұрын

That woman is absolutely beautiful on the outside But her openness and ability to be emotional in such a transparent way make her much more beautiful on the inside

@Sophie-vw5ol 5 ай бұрын

Wow this woman seems so strong and fantastic. She has such a generous aura to her

@twinklster 5 ай бұрын

What a beautiful beautiful soul...I hope my daughter remembers me that fondly You are going to find and be with a man(white or Asian or whatever! It really is just the color of your skin and nothing more) who truly deserves you sweetheart!❤

@online-business-secrets 3 ай бұрын

Brilliant work. Subscribed

@OhNoNotAgain42 4 ай бұрын

She’s like a Siberian husky became a person. Absolutely genuinely herself. No apologies. Smart. Kind. A true lady in every sense of the word.

@tungstenanderson5991 4 ай бұрын

Comparing her to a dog when she was a person all along, is one of the most daft, de humanizing things I have ever read. Yet, you think it's some kind of compliment.

@OhNoNotAgain42 4 ай бұрын

@@tungstenanderson5991 I don’t think of my two huskies as dogs. They are members of my family. They are honest. Loving. Loyal. Caring. Hard working. They speak up when they are unhappy. When they are bad, they know it and are sorry. They have all the best qualities that I wish people had. It’s my highest compliment.

@tungstenanderson5991 4 ай бұрын

@@OhNoNotAgain42 My dog is also a member of my family, that said, she is a dog and the woman you are talking about isn't a member of your family and not a dog. Dig that hole deeper when you're talking about a woman, a human being and discussing her as a dog that shits outside and relegating her to her as such. It's not compliment when you think she has arrived as your fucking dogs.

@jomoland 9 күн бұрын

@@OhNoNotAgain42and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that 😊

@Ms.noelp453 25 күн бұрын

I feel so bad for her and just think there are so many that have this experience. 🙏🏽

@kandgray 5 ай бұрын

I relate a lot to her. She seems so genuine, nice, and pretty. Who wouldnt wanna date her? ;(

@cardsfan5100 4 ай бұрын

She does seem genuine and nice. Plus, her style of dress and figure are feminine. I like that. However, do you think she is pretty? Sorry, she didn't get to date white guys during high school, but I would think for many white guys to date an Asian girl during high school that Asian girl would have needed to be pretty. Unless she has changed a bunch, I don't know if she would have hit that mark. I may be off-base though.

@davidhoppers9204 12 күн бұрын

I’ve always been interested in different people and cultures myself. I appreciate your video and your transparency. I’ve always been intimidated to date Asian ladies, thinking they wouldn’t be interested in me as a white man. Thanks for the video and giving me hope.

@jameskim9144 Ай бұрын

I like her personality; it’s very natural ☺️

@TravellingKook 4 ай бұрын

What a beautiful person. I wish her the very best in life, may you find love in every moment of life, not just in other people, in yourself too and in the beauty that exists all around you ❤🙏✌️

@WenLongSun 4 ай бұрын

Very intensive and real person. With a lot of emotions inside. So clever. Now I understand more inside feeling about “been Asian”. Everyone has a own background and own feelings.

@chavdarnaidenov2661 Ай бұрын

That was moving. Felt for her. May you have people close to you, always, young lady!

@ManassehBB 5 ай бұрын

This is a sweet video 😊

@ms.d5195 5 ай бұрын

She's vibrant and amazing. God bless

@balisaani 2 ай бұрын

I actually realized something about my own childhood listening to this bright light of a human being talk about missing her mother - for that alone, I'm grateful for this interview, but not only.

@angelainbloom 6 ай бұрын

I love this story ❤❤

@cara.leo_ 6 ай бұрын

Can relate to the validation from white guys part. When you grow up as a minority surrounded by a Eurocentric standard of beauty, you spend a lot of time as adults trying to attain or become what you never had. Now after being aware of it, I see how much meaning I put upon attention from Caucasian men, and after getting it, realized not all of them are made equal, and that outer appearance (obviously) has little to do with whether they’re good in a relationship or makes me happy. Great interview, appreciate her sharing some very vulnerable things.

@kizzull 5 ай бұрын

The men who were ignoring you are the same men who were ignoring the woman in the video: chad and brad. The 90% of regular guys who would drag their balls through glass to be with you are totally invisible to you.

@wtfdtreats 5 ай бұрын

@@kizzullCareful there, can't be saying too much truth, people will call you 'MIsoGYNIsT' 💊

@korra999c7 4 ай бұрын

I wish this was talked about more. I’ve known too many Asian women who would only date white men for just the white validation, while openly denigrating asian men for that same form of validation. It’s something so many from the Asian community has to grow away from. An ongoing dialogue about this topic is needed for this to happen.

@cardsfan5100 4 ай бұрын

@@korra999c7 I agree with you. I'm not Asian but I see this and hear this so much. It's kind of upsetting for me. When I was younger (undergrad and grad) and Asian guys would ask how to get a (Asian) girlfriend, I didn't think much of it, but now I can see how and why this is such a problem. This combined with what @kizzull is writing about looks like disaster for many Asian men, and I agree. There should be a dialogue.

@alain2467 3 ай бұрын

@@korra999c7 yea f em

@JJ-rp2df 3 ай бұрын

Her authenticity is touching. For white validation, often Asian women happily date and marry down yet dismiss Asian men with double standards.

@IakonaWayne Ай бұрын

So true, but the thing is she seems to be limiting herself and her children’s future by only dating white or Asian. Doesn’t make sense in a modern free market system. Don’t pass or not consider the Indian , Hispanic ,or African American guy. Imagine if tech companies did this with their employees , they’d suffer in the long run.

@cooliipie 22 күн бұрын

@IakonaWayne Too dark.

@bakerstreet101 3 ай бұрын

How sad to feel a Valentino purse (or even Coach) validates you. Now that is very Asian.

@sigerlion8608 3 ай бұрын

Just like she thinks a White guy would validate her social status.

@annaturquoise7114 2 ай бұрын

excellent racism

@torqtax 4 ай бұрын

She’s gorgeous honestly!!

@aritendol3479 6 ай бұрын

I wish to follow her social media. Someone please help with this.

@vincentvega5686 Ай бұрын

you got yellow fever lol

@lutomson3496 5 ай бұрын

What a nice girl I wish I could meet someone like her

@Leilin16 5 ай бұрын

Are there any socials of this wonderful beautiful woman? Love to follow her ❤

@coolfu8579 3 ай бұрын

MIMI SHOU

@NoFifi1-bh9gv 6 ай бұрын

Very funny girl, ascending fun. Mystery how some moms manage not to be loving, so yeah might be she has all the lucks that matter. 👍🤔

@nhavyd6783 5 ай бұрын

I remember this women in a dating show recently. She was on a roku show. I guess her relationship didn’t work out. I was rooting for them. Hope she finds a genuine loving man one day!

@readmore6042 5 ай бұрын

Is there maybe a link to the episode? Or like her name and the episode/season number?

@pelle.luca91 4 ай бұрын

The Roku's show is called "Meet me in Paris"

@nakamiyonemura2001 4 ай бұрын

She's dating a white guy

@davidsteffen3860 4 ай бұрын

Hugs!!

@Tova-Barin 3 ай бұрын

Pleasant, direct woman 🌞

@davem6905 5 ай бұрын

She is a beauty.

@user-bo3wz7gv1o 3 ай бұрын

Does she have KZfaq channel?❤❤❤

@sicklefinger 3 ай бұрын

This is a wonderful person. That is all.

@asenat79 3 ай бұрын

Beautiful soul

@user-zb4fl5jm1x Күн бұрын

What a amazing person, truly. ❤Won my heart over😊

@odietamo9376 5 ай бұрын

She is fantastic. I wish I could meet her.

@MichaelJrCortes 3 ай бұрын

I really didn’t understand the “am I an experiment” quote. It’s well know Asian woman love white men. Asian woman will pick their own Asian or white men first. And most conform to the white mans culture. Not sure where this lady has been. She was never the girl that white men wanted to date? She wasn’t blonde hair like white woman? She is wondering if she was an experiment? If you had all these doubts and negative signs, why did you try so hard to date a white man. There’s Chinese, Koreans, Black, Hispanics, Indians, yet you still try to prove yourself to a white man, when you had these doubts is very interesting on her part.

@andrewblackmore9705 Ай бұрын

You are a treasure. You are a river, deep and wide. You are the stars, endless and wonderful.

@rackets001 Күн бұрын

100% I understand where mom was coming from! If I were raising them mostly alone and knew I was about to be gone from their lives, I would be terrified to leave them alone in this stupid world full of morons! After all the life experiences I've lived and things I could help them get through without the bumps I had to endure. I'd be very worried for them.

@flakeyjay 4 ай бұрын

Moms being moms, worried about others in their own sickness. What a gorgeous women who wants to be respected plain and simple.

@laurajamil8943 Ай бұрын

I love her.❤

@leonidas480bc Ай бұрын

She’s beautiful ❤

@roadrules3671 2 ай бұрын

She's a Gem.

@BavarianHobbit 6 ай бұрын

I don't quite understand what she means if she is "an experiment" for white men. Couldn't white men say the same thing about asian women dating them?

@Brinta3 5 ай бұрын

They could, but this was filmed in New York, right? Asians are in the minority. Chances are that the white guys have only dated white women (because there’s more of them) and dating an Asian woman is then a new thing.

@DOMINIK99013 5 ай бұрын

@@Brinta3 In New York, whites are in minority, 30% o population, asians have 16%, white population is older, so it will be lower for people in 20-30s and higher for asians, then you have orthodox jewish and other jews who will not date out, generation rich whites who also dont date out and you probably end with pool of whites and asians who both have around 20% of population...

@williamgreen3288 5 ай бұрын

@@Brinta3 nahh i just think people generally stick to their race. Even if there were more Asians in New York most white people would stick with their own race.

@lmcauliffe5051 24 күн бұрын

Aww, she's a real gem. I'm calling my mum now 😢

@the_old_standard 5 ай бұрын

damn, I would have needed 12 drinks before I opened up like this to a stranger ... 👍

@cardsfan5100 4 ай бұрын

lol Really? Only 12?

@user-ld9xw8ck2r 3 ай бұрын

Oriental woman are so sweet ⁰and so beautiful lobely woman the best

@user-ld9xw8ck2r 3 ай бұрын

She should have no trouble picking up white men. I love her so much

@the_old_standard 3 ай бұрын

easy buddy, easy... @@user-ld9xw8ck2r

@jimgoose9146 24 күн бұрын

Id past her tests. Love asian cultures . And woman that is loyal is a gift from God

@Rifat_Hossen_ 4 ай бұрын

Hi Star, this is Rifat. Can I join your team to create thumbnails and develop our channel?

@shinbi6009 5 ай бұрын

This is why I am raising my Asian daughter in Asia. I do not want my daughter to be a broken like her. She is the typical Asian girl in America who went to an all white school-- whose bullied for her Asian looks and/or ignored but still wants to feel accepted therefore spends her whole life vying for white people's validation to the detriment of her own identity and cultural background. Not only that but the internal racism runs so deep, these Asian girls don't even view Asian men as potential partners because they must be by default a misogynist; therefore perpetuating the stereotype that Asian men are extremely patriarchal -- which is something that white men like to bash Asian men for yet somehow Asian men are also too feminine and not manly enough... Yeah it doesn't make sense. Also why would they ever want to date an Asian guy? "They look like my brother. Ew... Gross." then all the white boys laugh about that.

@microangels 5 ай бұрын

Asian American women have 7x as many children with Asian men than white men. Most WMAF couples are boomers, statistically. Vast majority of young Asian women marry Asian men, statistically. Hapa children are also very rare, they don’t even make up 1% of US births, and that’s including all the hapas born in places like hawaii which have a higher concentration of mixed Asian white couples.

@DOMINIK99013 5 ай бұрын

Patriarchal asian man is much more asian women/feminist position, euro man woud find funny, how often asian man live in shadow of asian tiger mom or how are families runned by old women, like oldest people in clan, i gues it have somethink to do with confucianism.

@DOMINIK99013 5 ай бұрын

@@microangels Most WMAF marriages in America really won't be from men born in the 40s-60s lol. I would much more believe that only the generation from this millennium can marry an Asian woman more often than the Boomers, only in New York in 1940 there were only 0.2% Asians, so nationally it had to be well below 0.1, men who on their old knees, they went overseas to get their wives, they themselves will be statistically insignificant.

@MsSuperBMX 3 ай бұрын

@@microangels uhh where are you getting this from? White male Asian female interracial relationships are growing every single year especially among young demographics lol. Its extremely over represented. Something like 40% of all asian women choose white. People who say that its sad are usually bitter that there are people out there finding true love and happiness.

@sigerlion8608 3 ай бұрын

@@microangels Source for your statistics? Because the PEW research on interracial marriages shows that more than 30% of Asian women married white in the US. That number goes up to 50% for the ones born in the states. "A significant gender gap in intermarriage is apparent among Asian newlyweds as well, though the gap runs in the opposite direction: Just over one-third (36%) of Asian newlywed women have a spouse of a different race or ethnicity, while 21% of Asian newlywed men do....Among Asian newlyweds, these gender differences exist for both immigrants (15% men, 31% women) and the U.S. born (38% men, 54% women). "

@CarbonGlassMan 3 ай бұрын

I like her. Nice personality on that girl.

@lotusjumpingspider8761 19 күн бұрын

The Great Wall is undefeated, she’s for the yakuza streets

@h2beezy2 Ай бұрын

Idk she lost me at dumping a guy because he said something when she dipped a piece of sushi into soy sauce.

@TheOutlierToday Ай бұрын

If you listened, it wasn't just that. He was criticizing her about her life and even small things like how she ate. It wasn't going to get better if that's the first date

@ninamirandasmokecity 21 күн бұрын

I want to hug her x

@Link-eq3sq 16 күн бұрын

Awww I wish her the best

@paul_domici 2 ай бұрын

Wow she's beautiful!!!

@ttmmaacc 26 күн бұрын

My dream girl

@wora1111 2 ай бұрын

She is the kind of smart woman I was meeting with half a century ago, while my classmates were starting to date.

@geomonabe 6 ай бұрын

❤such a nice person. Those boys missed out on a gem of a person.

@cardsfan5100 4 ай бұрын

Dude, be serious. Dudes who date during high school aren't looking for gems.

@cardsfan5100 4 ай бұрын

Also, if a guy like that would have come along, she probably would not have been interested. That's probably the bigger issue. There were probably several or many white guys at her school who would have dated her, but those guys most likely got friend-zoned.

@cao6496 23 күн бұрын

not dip sushi in soy sauce? what is the proper way then? I watched Ja;panese TV series and the chef did so!?! not mix with wasabi though

@MightyCats2011 4 ай бұрын

I think she gave only 2 examples of Korean or Asian men. Sure her description of Korean guy choosing all the food and letting her pay was not a good date. Did she date a Chinese or Vietnamese guy?

@user-mw6fh5oj2c 16 күн бұрын

it is simple, asian women chase yt men, period

@retireorbust 5 ай бұрын

I have in later life been more interested in different races. I grew up in a small town about 97 percent white. I think black women are strong and Asian women very family oriented, more than others. I believe people are more interested in interracial dating and marriage today and that's a good thing.

@SeanFit 4 ай бұрын

1:17 " I dont wana be with a guy that constantly telling me how to live my life " is exactly what a lot of women wana do to the men but dont want it done to them. Crazy. And they'll guise with the, oh you cant take criticism ? Smh. Its a two street baby, how you wana do this

@tn1274 28 күн бұрын

Truth

@stlserb 3 ай бұрын

I would love to have an Asian woman, but I always assumed thier family would reject a non asian man

@DennisTheInternationalMenace 3 ай бұрын

I like her. Very down to earth! Except I wouldn't go to China to meet her family in fears of being detained and used as what they call... Hostage diplomacy, that the Chinese government has done to other westerners. The 2 Canadian Michael's will always stick w/me.

@johnwatine 3 ай бұрын

China is not North Korea

@aboutthisproduct7674 Ай бұрын

You you are!

@susankim3026 4 ай бұрын

Finding your post cruel. Your experience of dating 2 Asian men is totally irrelevant as there are as many men of other races who could also treat you badly, as you said most haven’t passed your basic tests of decency and respect. Hope you can go past your racist outlook.

@zonansg4212 4 ай бұрын

Victim blaming? hmmmm...........

@areya47 4 ай бұрын

@@zonansg4212 "victim" is a strong word lol. Most children from ethnic groups living in caucasian majority places face discrimination growing up. not an excuse for internalised racism.

@sigerlion8608 3 ай бұрын

Dated 2 Asian guys who weren't even of her own ethnicity. Chinese guys behave very differently from Korean and Japanese guys. Shows that she doesn't even want to date her own ethnicity.

@wrench246 2 ай бұрын

She hasn't generalized any group and didn't say she refuses to date asian guys. She's just recounting her experience.

@akcaesar3399 20 күн бұрын

@@sigerlion8608 not really her fault. Some groups are heavier on traditinal values and that's all that matters to matter to a lot of people because of such.

@vaelo1379 6 ай бұрын

Chinese Families are the best. Love mine (L)

@retireorbust 5 ай бұрын

She would be fun. Cute.

@emarteliz 24 күн бұрын

She’s beautiful all Asian woman are beautiful woman ❤ men too lol

@johnchieze530 Ай бұрын

nice lady who knows what she wants. tears

@thapkhotpunya62 5 ай бұрын

Asian girl are the best

@RyanStocker0814 Ай бұрын

And we still don't have her @ lol?

@worldview730 7 күн бұрын

She would probably make a good wife or girlfriend, because she was rejected most of her life, so she has a lot to give.

@misterdot6923 Ай бұрын

dang.

@maximilveganplantblessed9780 Ай бұрын

WOW

@frek19 5 ай бұрын

There's a video of an Italian guy telling his girlfriend how to eat pasta. It wasn't a dealbreaker.

@sigerlion8608 3 ай бұрын

They'd get a pass from her because they are White.

@Bunny.8i 13 күн бұрын

Sounds like she had bad luck in dating, based on her stories. There's plenty of immature / unfit-for-relationships type of men in any culture. From her stories, it seemed as if she was going through a journey to find herself, and learning how to define and value herself. The dating aspect, seems, to have played two different roles. White guys to define and accept herself. And the Asian men as backups, which she couldn't accept. Hopefully, she's doing better now.

@artist6000ish 5 ай бұрын

this chick is getting a lot of guys after her now. she doesn't know she's the type of girl guys are looking for, regardless of race.

@jooja 3 ай бұрын

Is she still single? Asking for a friend. ;p

@user-ic2ii2tr1k 4 ай бұрын

The whole "white" thing is weird AF. Most "Asians" (and by that we mean East Asians since its clear this girl is talking about Chinese, Japanese, Koreans etc) are white. Is that a news flash ? cos it shouldn't be. If you're gonna compare races lets be accurate here and use the correct language. This video is about the girls thoughts on dating Asian v Caucasian men. Its about differences in culture. Colour/Color has nothing to do with it.

@edwardst-pierre1020 9 күн бұрын

This girl lives a lie by thinking she means something special. She should meet someone who is just like her but she should know about herself before trying to know who she's going to be with for the rest of her life. People believe in everything that is wrong and that's why nothing else matters.

@panoscryptodev6431 3 ай бұрын

she looks like a good girl i think she need to believe more in herself. Problem of this world is the stupier you are today the more media attention you got