An Evolutionary Psychologist's Dating Advice - Geoffrey Miller
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Күн бұрынGeoffrey Miller is an evolutionary psychologist, Associate Professor of psychology at the University of New Mexico and an author.
Geoffrey has been writing about sexual selection and dating dynamics for over 30 years. His work has provided the foundation which much of the modern Red Pill, Pink Pill and Manosphere dating advice has been based on. I wanted to find out how much of this guidance is accurate and how much has been lost in translation.
Expect to learn how evolutionary psychology can help marriages to be much happier, what Geoffrey thinks about the modern Manosphere, my hypothesis around the game theory of slut shaming, the fundamentals that everyone needs to know about how sexual selection works, how women can hack their own hypergamy, why me and Geoffrey are going to dedicate our lives to existential risk and much more...
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00:00 Intro
00:30 Why Women Aren’t Having Children Anymore
08:20 ‘The Mating Mind’ After 22 Years
16:23 What All Married Couples Need to Know
28:18 Responding to Critics of Evolutionary Psychology
32:32 Difference Between Beauty & Hotness
44:08 Psychology of Social Groups
54:26 Geoffrey’s Thoughts on the Manosphere
1:04:18 How Twitter Shows Human Nature
1:09:04 Is there an Increase of Simp-shaming?
1:25:24 Should Dating Apps be Banned?
1:32:56 Importance of Existential Risk
1:40:45 Where to Find Geoffrey
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@ChrisWillx 2 жыл бұрын
Hello cult members. Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Why Women Aren’t Having Children Anymore 08:20 Evolutionary Psychology After 22 Years 16:23 What All Married Couples Need to Know 28:18 Responding to Critics of Evolutionary Psychology 32:32 The Difference Between Beauty & Hotness 44:08 The Psychology of Social Groups 54:26 Geoffrey’s Thoughts on the Manosphere 1:04:18 How Twitter Shows Human Nature 1:09:04 Is there an Increase of Slut & Simp-shaming? 1:25:24 Should Dating Apps be Banned? 1:32:56 Importance of Existential Risk 1:40:45 Where to Find Geoffrey
@GuidetteExpert 2 жыл бұрын
Its a natural instinct of a woman if she's attracted to the partner enough and his marriage material to want a child with him. If not then the partner isn't marriage material or fulfilling the females need.
@ndndndnnduwjqams 2 жыл бұрын
THANKS FOR THIS CONVERSATION CHRIS. Geoffrey is a star.
@andylewis7360 2 жыл бұрын
@@GuidetteExpert Certainly is. Because it's a point where her natural anxiety has calmed down, she recognises that it's due to his presence and she wants that situation to continue. And at some level she's aware that by having a child with him, she's locking him to her.
@__-bz7wh 2 жыл бұрын
Chris!! Get Professor Edward Dutton on, please!
@GuidetteExpert 2 жыл бұрын
Andy Lewis im speaking from a female perspective that there is a natural feeling of wanting a baby that only happens with the right man that fulfils her needs and reasures her that he will stick around. Seeing your spouse following instagram models and liking their pictures can shut down that feeling of wanting a baby with him.
@CoachCee 2 жыл бұрын
You are slowly becoming my new favorite podcaster on KZfaq Chris. Love this interview!!!
@ThursonJames 2 жыл бұрын
Quickly for me.
@theblackpianist1905 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I can’t believe how young he is and still so versatile in his speech and personality. A rare one Chris is.
@mrknarf4438 2 жыл бұрын
Geoffrey's way of having an argument with his wife is pure genius! I love it! I wish one day to have that same level of self control and understanding to mock myself, even in anger. It reminds me of the book The Way of the Peaceful Warrior I've just finished, where one of the most important lessons is humor, not taking life too seriously.
@adamhixon 2 жыл бұрын
My biggest takeaway from this is the fact that evolutionary psychology is a new concept to some people. I never considered the possibility that it wasn't clearly obvious to everyone else. Really clears up a lot of confusion I've had over the years.
@0MoTheG 2 жыл бұрын
Have you discovered self-deception and stupidity? Mind blowing.
@Toxic_0_ 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Chris for really exploring the topics surrounding modern fertility and dating. Its a really important issue to bring to light. We're well and truly done if the current trend continues without intervention.
@ibizawavey8630 2 жыл бұрын
This dating angle is so lucrative that every KZfaqr is hip to it. People are much lonelier than ever before, dating is in turmoil and childless couples rising. But it's ok because you're working for a tech company lol
@isee7668 2 жыл бұрын
He's not a youtuber, he's a cool professor.
@_BirdOfGoodOmen 2 жыл бұрын
@Red Robyn lmao 🤣
@eheheh3263 2 жыл бұрын
Just because people are married doesn’t mean they don’t feel lonely though... there’s a lot of married people who are suffering in silence and think they have to remain married because until death do us part thing... life is too short to stay in an unhappy unfulfilled marriage men and women
@DarrenRockwell Жыл бұрын
Women want to suppress this information and manipulate it in the worst way possible for the sole purpose of skirting accountability in their ho phase. They don't care if it destroys the world. THANKS WOMEN.
@James_36 Жыл бұрын
@@eheheh3263 how do you know they are suffering in silence? you are just making a baseless accusation to seemingly support your own bias
@Manullus 2 жыл бұрын
Chris, your channel is one of my new favourites. So much excellent content, amazing guests and your way of interviewing is fantastic too. I love your wit and insightful comments, and you ask great questions. Excited to see which topics you'll cover in the future!
@PabloGamedev Жыл бұрын
I cannot understand why this podcast doesn't have millions of views, because every person alived in this world should listen to it. Thank you for your work Chris and Geoffrey, this is amazing.
@davidmhaggarty Жыл бұрын
That it isn't mainstream is an indicator of its quality
@shasmi93 8 ай бұрын
I’m sure Chris would be canceled if he got big. So don’t wish for this to get big.
@kasparovthegodofwar 2 жыл бұрын
Just having Geoffrey in your show lets me know you are the real deal. Totally just subbed. Let's get David Buss on the show
@ChrisWillx 2 жыл бұрын
He's already been on!
@kasparovthegodofwar 2 жыл бұрын
@@ChrisWillx found it! Thx
@keatonmccarthy8691 2 жыл бұрын
@@ChrisWillx lol
@hitchslap8254 2 жыл бұрын
Glad you chatted with him. He was on Gad Saad's channel a couple of years ago and he needs much more exposure. Great discussion.
@RYXPfan Жыл бұрын
@14:30 I love what he said about simply understanding the differences between men and women (rather than making any judgement on them) then just moving forward with that in mind.
@nevatoolate 2 жыл бұрын
Great content!! Society is undergoing a significant evolution resulting from ever consuming technology. Thoughtful discussion of this phenomenon is both fascinating and therapeutic, with a thumps up for sure!! ty
@younga.k9145 2 жыл бұрын
found your channel recently and have been watching all day for the past few days, some great stuff you have here. thanks for the amazing content
@tatianamangwi 2 жыл бұрын
What Mr Miller said about the women and the feedback to them is absolutely correct! I feel in today's world, we mix up all issues and forget that women have problems they have to fix. I’m a fervent defendant of women but still believe in calling out women's BS. Both can exist!
@kutark 2 жыл бұрын
Man Chris you are killing it getting fantastic guests on!
@nighty85 2 жыл бұрын
Great episode, enjoyed listening to an interesting and level headed discussion. Keep up the good work!
@madbowler6 2 жыл бұрын
That was an awesome conversation. Well done Chris.
@ndndndnnduwjqams 2 жыл бұрын
Ooooooh this is so great, I was waiting for this conversation
@danepaulstewart8464 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent talk. What an interesting guy, and you both seemed to have conversation points that brought out the deeper levels of the topic knowledge from each other. 👍👍
@langben7736 2 жыл бұрын
1:13:43 - 1:14:12 Spot on! I feel like we as men lack the proper role models in our lives that we actually have a tangible connection with, rather than just some random famous person that we look up to that inspire us, sure we need that as well. But it's like we're forced into a life where we have to imitate behavior instead of being taught.
@johngalt6838 2 жыл бұрын
By design.....feminism, toxic masculinity rhetoric, abusive family courts. All this is by design to collapse a society.
@OkTxSheepLady 2 жыл бұрын
“There’s no expiration date on human wisdom.” 1:41:10. There does seem to be a resistance to listening to wise thoughts.
@ThisAutomaton 2 жыл бұрын
3:10 Wow, right out of the gate a mind blower - I had never considered this angle about long term sexual relationship without children.
@AW-wo2pm 2 жыл бұрын
🚀 another brilliant podcast can’t wait for prt 2 on existential risk
@GaryMLive 2 жыл бұрын
@20:24 “you’ll almost never see actors in a serious adult drama actually make fun of their own reactions in a kind of wise and insightful way” what a gem of a quote
@GaryMLive 2 жыл бұрын
@23:28 “your brain isn’t this all seeing and all knowing thing. You can use the same tricks it’s trying to play on you against itself.” Gold!
@user-mz7dx6hj9m 2 жыл бұрын
well done brother,amazing podcast!!!we are much alike in the sense that i recently got out of the 'nightlife' and i started reading books and listening to podcasts to educate myself and you provide great content...lots of love and respect and keep doing what you do,and consider inviting neuroscientists and tal ben sahar or someone similar about positive pshychology its life changing material
@kimberlywrobel 10 ай бұрын
Excellent conversation guys. Thanks for what you all do. ❤
@eaji8853 2 жыл бұрын
Mate is my favourite book of all time, and The Mating Grounds Podcast is my favourite podcast of all time. I highly recommend the book and the podcast to any male who wants to delve deeper into dating advice that is based on science and evolutionary psychology!
@flynnmorrow6945 Жыл бұрын
Ha! My husband is always laughing at me when I'm angry about something stupid. It helps so much.
@latinaalma1947 2 жыл бұрын
Our entire field of psychology is under attack. So yes Jordan Peterson videos, videos like these, Busse etc are the best way to learn what people SHOULD learn as foundations of psychology.
@caesaraugustus3749 2 жыл бұрын
Love the work Chris. An interesting guy I haven't heard of before this
@covid9299 2 жыл бұрын
Oh yes I was waiting for an Interviem with an Evolutionary Psychologist for so long. Thank you Chris for making it hapen.
@pmberkeley 2 жыл бұрын
My big existential risk is that education has become incredibly top-heavy, especially in engineering. Very few people, including so called experts, understand the entire system any more, compared to like a century ago. And related, our informational exchange is surpassing our organizational capacity.
@steelwarrior105 2 жыл бұрын
That is an interesting take, would you say that scales with the field size, like is it moreso in big fields like mechanical for example vs a small field like biosystems or metallurgy? Being a metallurgist most good college professors in the field are former industry types, like a 70/30 split
@pmberkeley 2 жыл бұрын
@@steelwarrior105 it might not be as much of an issue in a field like that, but the issue isn't so much field size as the reach and depth of technology generating products and concepts beyond the common ability to understand them. When I was in undergrad, my thermo professor's exams were all on file in the library going back to the start of his career. Because they didn't have graphing calculators back then (now about 50 years ago), the exams were about demonstrating basic knowledge of the field. In my day in school, we did have graphing calculators, so we could be expected to solve complex problems on the exams. And then when I taught the same subject, students were looking up homework solutions on the internet and often just memorized a basic approach instead of learning how to do the problems. The people who move on in these fields don't necessarily really understand how the field works anymore, the technology involved gives a veneer of understanding that isn't actually necessarily there. The internet does this, computers/programming does this, accumulating scientific research does this. We are a society operating on TMI and too much tech. We need to dig down into how to get people to truly understand core topics, how to organize and synthesize the enormous amounts of information we've generated over the past century or so. I think it's certainly humanly possible to do this, the trick is for us to start doing it. A good first step would be to take the education of students as seriously as the generation of scientific break throughs. This is a huge challenge because the humanities and social sciences hold the keys to that, and the physical sciences rarely comingle with those areas of study.
@SoloRenegade 2 жыл бұрын
@@pmberkeley Part of the problem is poor education and perception. I teach engineering students how to overcome this often, and I give many real world examples. I use the lessons I teach every day in my job designing the most powerful computers on earth. Yes, some things are very complex, but it depends upon how you approach it as well.
@pmberkeley 2 жыл бұрын
@@SoloRenegade I've known a lot of electrical engineers and computer scientists, and many of them have no idea what mechanical engineers learn or how it can help their computer or electrical designs. For example, the state of 3D printers is stunted by the fact that they're mostly designed by electrical engineers/CS people, who have poor knowledge of how to heat the bed evenly for proper adhesion and programmers of the printing path don't design for optimal material strength. My point stands. You don't know what you don't know, and neither do your students. Our technology is sufficiently complex that the entire education system needs to be retooled lest we increasingly develop below our actual knowledge base. A major limiting factor in this is how few engineers, for example, understand pedagogy or engage in the philosophy of science.
@SoloRenegade 2 жыл бұрын
@@pmberkeley WTF are you accusing me of? you have no idea what I do and don't know. Don't blame me for your personal failures, nor the failures of other engineers. Just because you don't get it, doesn't mean Nobody does. It's not your fault you received a poor education on this issue, most engineers and engineering students are being give a poor education on it. But you have No idea what my argument is, no ideas what I do/don't know, and so you have NO basis for coming after me and making accusations against me. You are bitter and you seem to want to blame everyone else rather than take some ownership of your life. If others didn't teach you properly, then seek out those like me who can help (not that I'm keen on helping you now at this point), or self-learn on your own and figure it out. If you're an engineer, then prove it by figuring it out and coming up with a solution, as I did!
@sherlock7898 2 жыл бұрын
My dad is a great role model, he managed to stay married to a woman who while is very smart is very difficult to live with. I am so glad he did, it’s been a blessing to us kids and I am so glad I grew up in a two parent household. As a woman I have a great male role model and an example of how to stay married long term. I can take his advice of what he did right and what he did wrong so I can make the best choice for me.
@SmarterTebya 2 жыл бұрын
your dad chose to have a life full of stress instead of having a great life with an obedient, submissive woman as it must have been. Congrats
@christophlindinger2267 2 жыл бұрын
@@SmarterTebya grow up
@SmarterTebya 2 жыл бұрын
@@christophlindinger2267 man up
@christophlindinger2267 2 жыл бұрын
@@SmarterTebya am married and have two wonderful daughters. Running my own business. What are you doing?
@cam129 2 жыл бұрын
@@christophlindinger2267 👏👏👏👏 love your response! People like Mike…they are best ignored as they tend to be complete losers and bitter.
@simongotborg3866 2 жыл бұрын
Wow! I'd never thought of the parallel between simp-shaming and slut-shaming before, but it seems quite obvious now that I think about it. Really interesting stuff. Thanks!
@whywhenwhere4377 2 жыл бұрын
This was extremely eye opening and has encouraged me to read and learn more. Knowledge can be power. Power to understand at least why things are how they are.
@schahrzadmorgan 2 жыл бұрын
I love the book "mate"! Just finished it today. Can't wait to read Diana's upcoming book because we need a guide for women!
@tonycatman 2 жыл бұрын
I haven't heard from her for a while. She's the funnest, sexiest woman in academia.
@musictheorytree 2 жыл бұрын
To your final points, Chris... I sense a strong likelihood that there are many people attempting to be THE exestential threat podcasters, but they are being sensored and we will likely never hear their cries. This was a great discussion, regardless.
@Arturo_Zepe 2 жыл бұрын
No homo, but Geoffrey Miller changed my life, I’m from Mexico and I translate some of his ideas to Spanish and I taught to my friends and family and they are fascinated.
@thebarefootlady 2 жыл бұрын
Would love to read up more on this topic! Im studying behavioural ecology (animals) at the moment and applied to human behaviour many things now make so much sense. Any other books recommended on this topic? Cheers
@talkingforever225 2 жыл бұрын
Chris, I would love to see Lori Gottlieb as one of your guests. She is a psychotherapist who wrote a book called Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. She delves into the standards that women have for men in dating and why many of them are keeping women from finding a good partner.
@moonknight4053 Жыл бұрын
Because tora isn’t it obvious that society places more love and care into women than men. Society simps for women trhey are the little delicate lambs remember? 😂 my arse mate
@eaji8853 2 жыл бұрын
No way! How did I miss this!?!? Gonna watch this later, PERFECT podcast episode. Only thing missing is Tucker Max. THANKS!
@Angelenergy123 2 жыл бұрын
Fantastic episode, Chris! Please invite Richard Grannon - he has a wealth of knowledge on so many different topics. Absolutely love your dedication
@cornbreadisbetterthanpizza6866 2 жыл бұрын
11:22 Wow, it is a hell of a thing that a qualified psychologist suggests Chris Williamson's show over some college courses!
@realistic_delinquent 2 жыл бұрын
It’s a less and less creditable accolade unfortunately.
@MasalaMan 2 жыл бұрын
59:15 When you put yourself in the shoes of a woman it almost feels natural to want a man who is ideally assertive, kind, financially stable, fit, healthy, good looking, tall, big, strong - all these things that generally the manosphere doesn't seem to realize. I also keep thinking about if I were to get a daughter, I would be on her case constantly about getting a man who is pretty much most of these traits. (obviously stressing some more than others)
@Riprie 2 жыл бұрын
Sounds kind of narcisistic. What if the guy is too assertive and makes your daughter into a submissive gangbang slut for the homeboys who she will eventually get her pregant and dump her on a sidewalk because she didn't take her birthcontrol pills?
@mrmorhouse 2 жыл бұрын
Lol I know right. Manosphere guys are the left overs who couldn't overcome. Don't listen to them. They're delusional. No freaking way I'd want either of my two daughters to date bums like them. Sucks for them. But thats the game man.
@our.secret1130 2 жыл бұрын
Which more ?
@motorbreath22 Жыл бұрын
That's all great, just don't expect Chad to stick around.. he has all the options, his genetics don't come for free.
@szotakandrei Жыл бұрын
@@torachan23 and also to not want one who is partying all the time, spends every weekend in clubs, has a social media feed filled with half naked pictures, has lip job and fake boobs done and so on
@ryanb01 2 жыл бұрын
Should have asked him about his poly lifestyle in regards to long term relationships
@orneryoverwatch7031 2 жыл бұрын
Really glad that he pointed out the differences between how men and women "fight". With men, it's physical most of the time... physicality is easily visible and understandingly shut down. Women, on the other hand, wage war with words... and that is still completely fair game. Not saying men don't do this as well, but women perfected it... and if you won't put up with it, you're considered weak by many. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying take out your pitchforks and demonize women for this (because again, men do it too), just pointing out that is so rarely talked in terms of "violence"/abuse...there are a lot of emotionally abused partners out there.
@jaydamalley3398 2 жыл бұрын
Important caveat here, though: Physical fights between men usually ends up with them being friends. Or at least finding some mutual respect, because they defended themselves. Whereas women who fight, physically or with words, they are enemies for life. So maybe we shouldn't be so quick to shut down physical fights involving men..
@isee7668 2 жыл бұрын
Don't accuse me of being a feminist, but I reckon 3/4's the time when a wife murders a husband, he probably deserved it! ;)
@karthik197 2 жыл бұрын
@@isee7668 what? Please don't pass down your genetics. Let it end with you.
@bettermanchannel770 2 жыл бұрын
Physical vs the woman's adaptive ability as the physically weaker sex to harness the power of words
@isee7668 2 жыл бұрын
@@karthik197 kf we can't make fun of horrible topics, what else to do?
@JRtoujours 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! This was once again enlighting.
@davidrascoe 2 жыл бұрын
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH so pumped for this
@cucuraki5913 Жыл бұрын
2:05 notice how chris is already ready to ask (or agree on the matter) another question, but hesitates and makes a move towards further discussion on the subject that had momentarily aroused an interest in him. that what makes a good interviewer. following the script, but gradually making your way to build up a normal conversation, which requires lots of self explanation to reach a common understanding for the participants and the viewers
@ReeaInspiredWisdom 2 жыл бұрын
Loved this interview!
@jackfarr_23 2 жыл бұрын
Chris this was a masterful interview, great job. Gonna add 'Mate' to my reading list
@peterconley5533 2 жыл бұрын
It was one of the most impactful books of my life, the podcast was damn good too
@benjams5743 2 жыл бұрын
Im looking for this book, but cant find. The book linked is 'What women want', is it the same book?
@peterconley5533 2 жыл бұрын
@@benjams5743 Correct, What Women Want is the same book
@frol41 2 жыл бұрын
Another great episode! 🙏 A small feedback would be to just quickly explain concepts that might require some prior knowledge very quickly. I listen as a podcast on the move and cannot always pause and Google. Thanks!
@hollowedboi5937 2 жыл бұрын
Not exactly a critic, but damn Chris you’re sayin’ “fuck” and “fucking” alot 😂
@MomoSimone22 2 жыл бұрын
I noticed that this episode haha. It really stood out.
@aliomar1975 6 ай бұрын
Great episode, again! Thanks!
@clint4004 8 ай бұрын
There's a turmoil with knowing the odds of ending up in probate court and losing income is a real turn off .
@1millioncicades183 2 жыл бұрын
Great, interesting interview.
@annac4936 2 жыл бұрын
Could you bring on a female evolutionary psychologist for dating advice specifically tailored towards women?
@Nick-wv1wo 2 жыл бұрын
His wife is one
@wyleecoyotee4252 2 жыл бұрын
Don't taking dating advice from trad supporters unless you want to become a submissive subservient glorified slave
@wyleecoyotee4252 2 жыл бұрын
@Andrei Georgescu Not on any meds and not a granny
@HereTakeAFlower 2 жыл бұрын
@@wyleecoyotee4252 ah yes the classic "everyone in this category is best characterized as an extremist bozo", gotta love how that keeps appearing in comment sections.
@PhilHug1 2 жыл бұрын
Chris, I recommend interviewing Isaac Arthur. He has a space and futurism KZfaq channel that's far better than anything you'll find on TV or almost any other KZfaq channel
@Nah-ah 2 жыл бұрын
Great interview!
@N00pe731 2 жыл бұрын
LOVE Geoffrey Miller. Such a voice of reason and brilliant in the field of evo psych. Thanks for having him on your show!
@ixco4732 2 жыл бұрын
Great podcast. Need to read the mor al animal for sure
@zacharybrown9741 2 жыл бұрын
“That’s fucking in-tear-esting.” -Chris Williamson
@jonahn1841 Жыл бұрын
Wow! I’ve been looking for discussions on the emotional impact of a childless relationship for 10 years!!!
@uvwuvw-ol3fg Жыл бұрын
Why should we bring children here just because of amatonormativity? Hard to avoid any cognitive biases but it seems like the government as a byproduct of agricultural/pastoral revolution will always be in need for more consumers, wage-slaves and cannon fodder regardless of ideologies such as antinatalism based on consent.
@BluePenguin835 2 ай бұрын
Münecat sent me here. Geoffrey comes across as reasonable and well educated. I really enjoyed listening to this podcast. 🙂
@bruswain9158 4 ай бұрын
Loved the section at @1:19:29 about students not accepting feedback. I'm seeing this with colleagues moreso.
@DrBrianKeating 2 жыл бұрын
Fantastic 🔥 content
@johnnyboyvan Жыл бұрын
I don't admire anyone but myself. I enjoy listening to various perspectives and I don't limit my possibilities. I am open to evolve and dare I say it devolve.
@itsmorgan10 2 жыл бұрын
Damn Chris. This is a great one.
@sxxarlet 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely fucking brilliant episode. Please do the one on existential risk!
@agassicarlosdecx3860 2 жыл бұрын
Dr. JOHN GRAY, would be the best guest regarding male and female relationships. He was the OG in this field and was married for 30 years till his wife passed on. And he was totally monogamous and was a Buddhist monk who abstained for years and is a zen master of meditation. And he had several kids with her and now several grandkids.
@jaydamalley3398 2 жыл бұрын
Is he the same one who wrote _The Boy Crisis_ with Warren Farrell?
@wyleecoyotee4252 2 жыл бұрын
If he was married for forever and a monk, what would he possibly know about female and male relationships?
@dahliafiend 2 жыл бұрын
@@wyleecoyotee4252 this type of question is addressed in the video here.
@boredomaster 2 жыл бұрын
Geofrey Miller was great on Alex Kaschuta’s podcast. It seems he’s always an excellent guest
@hey_kudisco_podcast 2 жыл бұрын
I can’t keep up with all the great book recommendations! Would really appreciate if you could kindly list the articles and books you cite for reference. Thank you.
@Metro4466 2 жыл бұрын
So many book recommendations in this episode, kind of overwhelmed when "You should read this" was mentioned 10 times. I can hardly read 6 books in a year
@Tom-qo4mz Жыл бұрын
did you note them down? been looking for a comment that did cos i didn't myself
@Metro4466 Жыл бұрын
@@Tom-qo4mz no I didn't
@Basrawulf Жыл бұрын
Geoffrey Miller, Love ure work. I actually learned somthing here.
@mcul3474 2 жыл бұрын
Phenomenal chat.
@tanmaynarang2193 Жыл бұрын
Which book by Toby are they discussing about in the chapter of Importance of Existential Risk ? I'm sorry English isn't my first language so it's bit hard to get the accent and also the captions don't seem to be showing the correct name.
@therearenoshortcuts9868 2 жыл бұрын
talk about this topic: how intelligent species can go extinct because their dating strategies got too ridiculous LOL
@MomoSimone22 2 жыл бұрын
That's actually quite funny hahah
@anneb889 2 жыл бұрын
I think of Bill Burr when he says technology will just replace us. Sex dolls will become more and more human like…and people will prefer them to actual humans, and eventually we will go extinct.
@osmanbey8796 2 жыл бұрын
@@anneb889 If “we” means the West, then yes. The West will be demographically replaced by more marriage/family/population growth cultures and people. This isn’t actually any bit surprising. Just 800 years ago, the whole of North & South America was populated by completely different groups of people, now look? Heck, 1000 years ago the people who are the modern day Turks, were a bunch of Mongolian tribes wandering the Central Asian steppe, with East Asian features.
@eheheh3263 2 жыл бұрын
Many species have gone extinct and humans are not the exception...
@therearenoshortcuts9868 2 жыл бұрын
@@MomoSimone22 male bird: check out my wings female bird: i've seen bigger male bird: check out my colorful tail female bird: nah, i've seen better male bird: check out how fast i fly female bird: let me try throwing a rock - my rock is faster than you male bird: stfu female bird: misogynist
@flying-eagle-method Жыл бұрын
This guy is low-key but a genius. I'm going to check out Mate and read it to my son(s). I learned from Doc Love about this stuff 18 years ago, but he's dead now, so it's great to find more people who really understand (and appreciate) what women want and share it in digestible ways. Also, 100% agree that a smart woman is worth more than gold.
@cbashe 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Chris, I love your videos, the English Jordon Peterson who says 'fucking' a lot...also like Mr Peterson you come across as kind and I really appreciate that quality. Keep going! Cos you're inspiring people
@trackerbacker 2 жыл бұрын
Don't hate the player OR the game. Just don't hate. Enjoy the gift that is life.
@Konstatsai 2 жыл бұрын
Give us more podcasts about existential threats
@cherriercheung 2 жыл бұрын
I remember a hypothesis regarding green/blue eyes was that it’s much easier to recognize pupil dilation of light colored eyes compared to that of darker eyes, so that sexual arousal is more recognizable/less likely to fake.
@brianlong2334 Жыл бұрын
I personally think it's just the climate, just like with white skin blue eyes mite just be a way to see better in a colder climate/ don't need as much protection against the sun. Green eyes mite also be the same however to a lesser extent, more the eye colour that's between the two as in blue and brown/ black eyes, just like red hair mite be the step between blonde and dark hair. It just seems strange to me that the European descendants are far more distinct in terms of hair and eye colours, were as most other races/ breeds of humans it's very rare and mite just be because they had an ancestors that mixed more then the simple answer that it happening naturally all over the world because its not very common at all, and the explanation it can happen to anyone from anywhere answer they try and give, when you try to get an answer is just because they don't really know why they are all just having a rough estimate. But then again, we are a lot more individualistic maybe that's why, and maybe that's part of the reason Europeans mite have been becoming a distinct spices / very specialised version/ breed of humans, maybe left alone for longer the European mite have been a lot more visually appealing/ distinct at lest in hair and eye colours maybe having a few even rare types, but it's all just stabs in the dark at this time.
@au10666 2 жыл бұрын
Damn Geoeferry is really nice to listen to! he knows his stuff
@ZeroStateReflex 2 жыл бұрын
G Miller is an absolute badass. Evolutionary psychology is the rosetta stone to human behavior. Tens of thousands of years of strategy and relentless survival. Got smarter listening to this.
@l.w.paradis2108 2 жыл бұрын
He's a child. He spends time on Twitter, not with great art, literature, etc.
@willstevenson9634 2 жыл бұрын
A badass? Maybe rewatch his first few words on this podcast
@gabrielbaillargeon8630 2 жыл бұрын
Is there a place where you leave the sources of the data that you present. I would very like to read them. Thank you!
@TimmacTR 2 жыл бұрын
Would be great to do what Tim Ferriss does and link all the mentioned books in the show
@suleymankirali1575 2 жыл бұрын
Everyone needs to see this.
@mup1537 2 жыл бұрын
Chris! Where did you get those ratios for different ex risks at the end of this cast? I would like to read up.
@latinaalma1947 2 жыл бұрын
g..yes the best variable to look for.That is what my mate says now. AFTER he has experienced decades of the benefits: interest in many of the same subjects, both avid readers...never feeling that the other person is ignoring you just because their nose is in a book 80% of their waking hours. Prefering each others company than groups of most other people. Never being at a loss for meaningful conversation. KNOWING how to invest for a future. Knowing how to maintain health into retirement age etc etc etc.
@Influences 2 жыл бұрын
Great episode.
@josephfelderhoff1965 2 жыл бұрын
12:20 "where do undergrads go" mostly podcasts and recorded lectures. Jordan Peterson's 2017 personality course recordings, here, Brett Weinstein, Lex Fridman had a guest who talked about human evolution recently. Unfortunately I don't feel my peers and I have the wisdom to select who to listen to well. At a proper university we would have a team of older, vastly more educated adults to guide us. All I have now are youtubers/podcasters who are doing some mix of educating me out of generosity and harnessing my attention for financial gain. And an algorithm that only wants financial gain.
@isee7668 2 жыл бұрын
And they're trying to take all that away from you.
@ndndndnnduwjqams 2 жыл бұрын
I'm in very similar situation. I watch the same lectures and podcasts you mentioned, probably read similar books and I am 20 yo. But all my friends in real life aren't interested in these sort of things. Would you like to talk a bit about these topics? I really would like to have someone to talk about ev psych and those topics
@danielsantiago8146 2 жыл бұрын
Simp Shaming ! I was drinking a Guinness while listening to this brilliant podcast.🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
@aquaticsplashes 2 жыл бұрын
this is a good one
@nelli.bonelli 2 жыл бұрын
I hope I have more people around me I can discuss stuff like this with :)
@meilatarzlo4627 2 жыл бұрын
58:40 “ idiot thoughts from Miami “ 😂 can I guess F&F
@stefanblack3909 Жыл бұрын
"Buy Cardano" 😂🙌 Yeah brother preachin to the choir!
@Thedreamqueentarot 7 ай бұрын
The hypergamy & bdsm aspect was fascinating. I’m loving this interview. I’m going to buy his book. 😊 evolutionary psychology is so interesting
@mrsherwood2599 6 ай бұрын
Love this amazing episode. Ive heard of the asking an ex "what did i do wrong" before. Id like that from a job or a creative or business partner. I would NEVER give my recent exes that real estate. Thats what they spent the whole situationship doing. Trust me, im all too aware of how much i sucked and how perfect they were.😅
@exerciselibrary2954 2 жыл бұрын
loved it
@exothermic8525 Жыл бұрын
I watched this video but unfortunately I can't remember the books they recommended. Does anyone know the books off hand?
@danielogega 2 жыл бұрын
This podcast is about to explode.
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