"our child is not returnable" Jesus Lord, that quote didn't aged well.

She really talks in a constant kindergarten teacher voice. She’s performing 100% of the time.

Who the hell feels more "bonded" to their kids based on the smell of their laundry detergent? Holy cow, that's a terrible advertisement. That comes across as straight up mental.

When she said "I was so empathetic and compassionate", I expected her to follow with "I am SUCH a good person!"

I just want to remind everyone that the husband is also complicit.

She speaks like a 10 year old girl pretending she's being interviewed for vogue or something.

I open his file and the sign is clear...he has a brain tumor so we won’t have to worry about taking care of him for very long but our views will skyrocket plus he’s cute enough to have in pictures and videos. Perfect. Thanks God, amen.

It terrifies me that she was once a nurse.

"I was so empathetic and would adopt all of them....but none of them spoke to me". That says it all really.

I feel like Huxley is really lucky to get away from this woman's pathological household. Who knows what happens behind closed doors here. She treats children like belongings.

“Our family got the greatest gift for Christmas” and after you were done playing with it and wasn’t new anymore you put it up on Craigslist

"excited to bring home this little guy" "the best christmas present our family could ask for" it literally sounds like shes talking about getting a dog.

They should have to pay child support and pay for his health insurance, like any other non custodial parents.

I guess all those children who didnt "speak" to her dodged a bullet.

She considers Huxley her biggest “professional failure”. I’m sorry.....professional failure? Wouldn’t that be a personal failure as a mom? As a human being? Not a professional failure? That wording kind of says it all. A child got a family for xmas? Really? He may have had his life ruined. She may have ruined her other kids lives as well. They just learned if they don’t follow what mom says they can be given away.

Not even joking the first thing she reminded me of was Chris Watts when he went on the news trying to portray real human emotions and failing. It’s very creepy.

“Kiddos”, “mama”, “scare bears”? Why is she baby talking us? How old does she think her audience is? Smdh.

When I first heard about this story, I thought Hux was SEVERELY disabled. That's how Myka made it sound to me (I didn't watch her channel previously). But he's...functional. He makes eye contact, he engages with his siblings, he attempts facial and gestural communication. Which makes me dislike Myka so much more. He's not a lost cause, with just a little consistent effort he's functional. So she gave up, not when his care is insanely difficult, but when it's just...a little difficult. Wow. *edit: I by no means meant to sound ableist, but I have. @thebond&thecurse 's reply to me was much better worded and thought out.

Wishy washy "Christian." She says God gave her a sign, so she went through it. Then her life became challenging and suddenly she didn't trust God anymore. She acts like a child who expects everything to come easy.

I am adopted and the fact that she says “gotcha day” makes me cringe and want to cry. My parents called my adoption day my “special day.” IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU. It’s about your child and your relationship as a family.

There's something so off about Myka's facial expressions and mannerisms, something not fully developed. She's a thirty-something parent that presents herself like a high school cheerleader.

"I was so emphatetic and compassionate" such a weird way of phrasing it

The way you put the videos together just completely puts them on blast! So embarrassing for them! You are doing a phenomenal job!!

"8 out of 10 parents feel more attached to their child after using dreft" Just the fact that those words came out of this lady's mouth tell you all you need to know about this woman.

she got him with the intention of “rescuing” him so she could look good. Period. She’s the worst.

Narcissists have only two narratives: victim and hero. Well done Myka - you're one scary woman.

“This detergent will strengthen your bond with your kiddo” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I love what you're doing! Narcissism is the real epidemic and unfortunately the world hasn't equipped itself to save the children being damaged by these narcissistic parents!

Myka's comments sound like a product review, as if she's been shopping for an object.

breaks my heart to see this kid gaining confidence and trusting a family that is eventually going to fail him…

This is so unfortunate. I work as a caregiver for the developmentally disabled and I never really posted anything about my job on social media because the truth is, it’s not pretty. It is a lot of hard work and not glamorous and you have to put yourself last and I definitely let myself go during these times. I remember follow Mykah and feeling kind of bad about myself. I was like wow, she has small children and still adopted a child with special needs and love and she is always so calm it seems and so full of joy. Now watching these same videos and really knowing what to listen out for is so eye opening. Once again I’m reminded that social media is curated and it’s just like watching a scripted show at times.

I didn’t use deft detergent.. I’m still pretty bonded to my kids lol

Your assessment of her wanting the quiet, cute, cuddly child and then being angry when he wasn't like that is spot on. She even said herself that she had perceived him as shy, sweet, and withdrawn before she met him. She "fell in love" with an IMAGE, because a child with that image would further her AGENDA. She thought she'd have this passive, cutsie little boy who she could cart around like a doll and control every single aspect of his life. What she got, who Huxley really IS, is a strong-willed, feisty boy who is not shy at all. This did NOT fit with what she wanted him to be. This boy is a fighter and a survivor, and she can't control him. He has a mind and a will of his own. That's the LAST thing she wanted! I believe that she felt "insulted" that he had his own personality and free will. He didn't comply with her, and to top it all off, he actually REQUIRED care which REQUIRED money. She didn't want to SPEND money on him, she wanted to MAKE money. I think she hated and resented that little child for "messing up her plans". Sick woman.

As she's trying to strike you for copyright, I hope she's reading the comments. She is vile.

I wonder if her biological kids are going to have issues knowing that their parents gave up their brother and if they will do the same to them.

The whole reason she adopted him in the first place is so fetishy

There's *acting,* there's *overacting,* and there's *Myka Stauffer.* This woman is such a fake. Smh 🤦

The way she talks bothers me so much. She is actually terrifying. Manipulative. Disgusting.

She has all of her “comments” and “likes & dislikes” turned off. That should be a warning

She tries so hard to sound intelligent, but doesn't realize she is revealing the complete opposite almost every time she opens her pie hole. These narcissists create their own reality and will punish all those who challenge their nonsense. I would bet everything I own that she and current husband will end up divorcing before their children are out of the house. My experience has been that narcissists offer nearly ZERO real love and support for their partner, and they insist on making every single decision and will fight the spouse tooth and nail if this is challenged. The spouse of a narcissist lives an extremely emotionally isolated existence. I am absolutely positive this adoption was her idea, and when she had enough, she decided the kid had to go.

As a Christian I’ve heard a ton people praying and not once heard the term “If you have any time.” She pauses as if she’s trying to think of what other people say when they pray. What I’m trying to say is that she might think a “Christian mother” will come across as a good person or something. Like it fits the character she’s portraying.

“My child is not returnable!” Well, that quote has aged like a fine wine, hasn’t it?

Everything Myka says, every gesture and look is so completely contrived it makes my skin crawl to watch

This is so informative for someone with ADHD, since a lot of ADHD behaviour can come across as Egocentricism or even Narcissism, even though we often are simply overwhelmed with the demands of daily life or lose focus when listening to another person expressing their needs. I am always scared to learn about narcissism because of that, but this has been actually very clarifying. Thank you so much for your work!

Seeing her "cute" footage breaks my heart. You could see he was so happy and excited to be with these people. You could see in his eyes how much he enjoyed having brothers and sisters. They're monsters for crushing his spirit.

Narcs are very reckless with other people's lives.

A lot of social media influencers are narcissistic, but she is so out of touch, so deranged, so lacking of empathy, that I think she might be seriously mentally ill. I will pray for her birth children.

You paint a very accurate picture of a narcissist. She talks about him like he’s a pet hamster not a real human being with thoughts and feelings, likes and dislikes. Ultimately she didn’t like the fact she couldn’t train him into obedience and submission like her other kids. The hubby is as bad as her. Seeing those videos of him with his “family” are heartbreaking.

As a disabled woman one of my biggest fears for these other kids is what they’ll take away from this, will they think that other disabled people are disposable since their brother was gotten rid of? The thought absolutely horrifies me....

people who are empathetic and humble would NEVER brag about being empathetic and humble. what a sociopath

She made me physically ill listening to her. She is a sociopath. Good analysis.

I had a cat, once. Guglielmo ❤️ He had severe behavioral problems due to abuse when he was a kitten. I adopted him, knowing he had them but not understanding exactly what that would entail. It was hard, really hard. I worked twice as much to understand him, I educated myself and kept fighting for him. He was in my care. Long story short, I learnt how to LOVE him and care for him. I struggled but never gave up on him. He lived a safe and secure life being loved as he needed and not as I wanted or expected him to. Not easy but worth it. I miss him very much still to this day. Never ever thought about rehoming him. A cat. Can't fathom how someone could do that to a child. A child!

Listening to her literally makes me feel nauseous.

"I'm so emphatetic" who the hell says that?

She asks herself the wrong questions the whole time. "Would we still love him?" OF COURSE it's not the question, the question is : Can you handle this?

Wow you've broken this down really well. One of the biggest 'tells' of a narcissist is that they contradict themselves.. contradictory words at different points in time and actions contradicting words. The contradiction may be due to the constant lying and trying to guess what other people would want to hear. You have done a really good job here and I hope it helps more people to identify and understand Cluster B personalities. Thank you for your effort and time.

Who Looks at 400 pictures before deciding 😳 I feel like I would give in after the first picture, and save that child out of their loneliness. I can’t even imagine scrolling through the pictures like: no, no, no, let them stay orphans, no, no, no

Why does it annoy me so much when she says kiddo? Lol

This is also part of a larger issue with how neurotypical people regard neurodivergent people. She wants SO BADLY for her child to present normatively that she will force him, through tactics ranging from uncomfortable to extremely abusive, to change who he is in order to "catch up to his peers" or "stop appearing so disabled". So many of the things that she describes him doing that she's trying to make him "overcome" were stimming, etc. and DO NOT HURT HIM OR ANYONE ELSE. "He stares at us when we eat, how do I make him stop?".... why? "He's exhibiting stimming behaviours how do I make him stop?"... WHY!? "He can't talk but I'm DETERMINED to get him to talk" ... again WHY?? He communicates in his own way, I'm sorry that's so inconvenient for you.

Huxley was probably just confused for 18 months, he thought the camera was his parents 🤷🏻‍♀️

every time she says "kiddo" it activates my flight or fight response

Who bought into this act?! She’s so painfully fake. This is a train wreck.

Her clapping after she said “done!” Scared the crap out of my dogs and now they won’t relax. Thanks Myka Stauffer. 😐

So she trolls for $ but refused to truly care for her child. She sounds like a person viewing ASPCA pet rescuing options. I continue to pray for Huxley and hope the for best possible future. These parents are the epitome of narcissism and your analysis and commentary are excellent, thank you.

She’s become the most hated mother around . How dare she use alittle Child who just wanted to be loved and wanted no matter how he is . Breaks my heart

“My child is not returnable” well Miss Myka, apparently he is. 😳🙄😭

I work in animal adoption. She talks about adoption as if she’s looking for a new family dog. She also returned him as if he’s a dog that’s just more responsibility than the family could handle. I’m sick. 🤢

“None of them grabbed HER”. It’s always about her. 🤮 Also She plays with her mouth a lot because the lies dry up her mouth🤮🤮

Don't let her husband off you guys. Turning a blind eye and being complacent with her is just as bad.

Most people would usually say something like “I really felt for these kids” not that they felt compassionate and empathetic

I don’t think that I’ve ever watched or read anything in my entire life that gave me a unique insight into narcissism like these videos. I’ve been reading about it forever, having been in one if those sucky relationships. This was extremely educational for me. I agreed with almost everything that you were discussing except for a few things, i.e, the gritting of the teeth, and then not much more. You have insight which is very rare but so completely amazing. Thanks for the vids!

When she got excited about bringing home Huxley for Christmas I felt like vomiting. Cause that’s what so many people act like when bringing a Puppy home for Christmas, but then dump them on the street 2 months later when they don’t want to look after them anymore...

She's got a lot of nerve grabbing money from your vids. Talk about narcissism.

Why are parents allowed to show children on youtube, let alone discuss their medical problems?

i have an adult autistic child she is 26 - she did every behavior huxley did and then some / i was hit kicked bit - at 8 years old she went on a few meds which helped a bit - now at age 26 she is LITERALLY MY RIGHT ARM and my best friend !! she works and is very functional! it is a SHAME this family didn’t have enough love in their hearts To stick it out!!

Watching her ramble on w no authenticity, really disturbs me.

OMG! Dying laughing (while crying) at her "I was SOOO empathetic and SOOO compassionate....because I love children so much." She almost choked on that last part. I'm sorry, but people are so gullible, stupid or fake themselves if they didn't cringe after ten seconds of this monster. People have no discernment anymore.

Atrocious. She wanted him bc he was photogenic

“The level of unconditional... love we’re starting to feel-“ the pause before the word Love is telling. Side bar there are NO LEVELS to unconditional love 🥴🥴🥴

She NEVER talked about what this could mean for the kids she already had. She's talking about someone she's never met, like you said, a love struck pre teen who has a fantasy about a crush.

A child for a Christmas present . Says it all really .

They are not just bad parents, they are bad human beings...both of them.

As I was watching the Stauffer family since Hux' adoption, I was of course shocked to learn about them giving him away and the whole "scandal" surrounding the family. But all those analysis videos from "experts" just seem to me to be as sensational and motivated by greed as Myka is herself. EXCEPT for this one. I'm impressed by your thoroughness and actual expertise. Thank you! That really added something valuable to me.

What gets me is how she fully claims to be this boys "mother" when she hasnt even met him yet. I feel like no matter how maternal someone is, they are going to be hesitant to completely make that claim until they've at least had a chance to meet their new kid

Children are not material things, she talks about kids like they are accessories, such as earrings.

I am not an expert. But as an adoptive mother who has raised 15 children, I've seen a lot of things and here is my view: First, the reality of adoption: It is not that uncommon for adopted children to be rehomed. About 10% of adopted children are rehomed AFTER the adoption is finalized. About 15% before. This is usually because a person has adopted a child out of the range of their abilities. As a mother of adopted children. I would never do this, but I also made adoption my life's calling. Being the parent of a special needs child is a full-time job. Expecting to take care of your own children while taking care of an adoptive child with special needs AND running a youtube channel is just not practical or realistic. I do not know these people but decided to look at old videos after a friend told me about this. First Red Flag: She didn't listen to expert advice. Second Red Flag: She was getting donations from people which encouraged her on. Third Red Flag: When they realized that he was in a home where he had an attachment to foster mother, they should have left him where he was. I think the night in the motel the father realized this but didn't know what to do. Fourth Red Flag: Parents should not be allowed to put their children on social media for views. No one saw a problem with this as long as they were doing what the viewers wanted. But I can tell you that they knew within the first 3 months that they had gotten in over their heads but kept him because of viewers. After coming to the realization this is not going to work, they contacted an attorney. If he had been placed within the 3 months into a new home this story would not be so tragic. It is in my opinion that every viewer of this channel and everyone who donated is also to blame for this mess. People who watch channels where children are on display for their entertainment are to blame. Every child has a right to privacy while growing up and making mistakes. If adults want to put themselves out there, then fine. But something is wrong with a parent who would exploit their children whether adopted or not. And something is even more disturbing about the people who watch them. These channels claim to be 'learning or educational", but that's just bullshit. Anytime someone is making a living by using their children you should immediately feel uncomfortable and not contribute to the new form of child abuse I see going on today. For people who are really angry. You are not just angry at the couple, but at yourself, because you contributed to something really awful.

Im at the part where she talks about how she thought the child would be shy and timid. This to me almost seems like racism because it sounds like the stereotypes people have made up about Chinese people.

She reminds me of Jodie Arias. Just very overly positive to compensate for the negative

As a 9 day old baby, I was adopted to a narcissistic mother and an enabling father. I cut ties with my parents and some siblings as an adult because I couldn’t take the gaslighting and abuse any longer. Since I have cut ties, my emotional and mental well-being has improved and I’ve never felt better about myself. I’m a huge advocate for more stringent assessments of prospective parents with any hidden mental health issues. My adoptive mother also possibly suffered from borderline personality disorder as well but because of her narcissistic tendencies a diagnosis was never able to be obtained. Someone on the outside a family like mine would be completely unaware of what life was like for me. I was always treated as the black sheep child - the problem child and was known as this within my fam even though there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. I’ve often thought about writing my story as a lifeline for anyone else who’s been through anything similar to me. Mainly in the hopes to provide some legitimacy and validation to anyone else out there who’s lived through it.

She put copyright strikes on other channels too. Love your analysis of her.. you nail it everytime.

Amazing videos. My mother is a narcissist but never really had validation. Going through everything in detail and pausing on facial expressions has me shook. My mother is really different personality wise from Myka, but the mannerisms, facial expressions, remarks, the use of Christianity to boost their image, obsession with their children’s looks... the list goes on. The similarities are remarkable.

The braid/long roots/blonde back curl rolls/top pouf hair combo is a winner tho. Amirite?!?!

"She's not gonna make much money anyway.." LMAOOOOO

It absolutely breaks my heart watching Myka play with Huxley. He didn’t know she was being fake, all he saw was a mother’s love and now he doesn’t have that anymore.

Errrrrr "kiddo" so grinds my gears

The way you describe her behavior and what she said is hilarious (in a good way) keep up the good job by informing us👍🏻

She is not even good at faking!! Just a dark soul

Omg! She’s horrible. She gave her baby back. I’ve always said if you have to say it. You’re not. Any man that says I love women. Run. Run fast. Any guy that has to brag about sex, isn’t getting it. If you’re getting it, you don’t have to talk about it. Listen to her. Such a strong connection she gave him back 2 years later. She’s gross.

I pray that Huxley is healing from these emotional wounds ❤️. Thank you for your insight that is always helping us learn.

Dark thought...I've been watching the series about Chris Watts. At least this hag gave Hux away instead of stuffing him in an oil well like CW did to his family but both just horrific people. Damn