Zaj no qhia hais tias: ua nyab zoo thiaj tau so quav!

Nrog koj zoo siab rau koj txoj kev ov

ua ib tug zoo qauv rau kij cov me nyuam o tus viv ncau

Koj cov Niam Ntxawm los Lawv tsi Yog neeg phem thiab Tiamsis Yog lub Ntuj tshoov Lawv lub siab kom Lawv Ua phem rau nws kom Nws tsi muaj Kev mus tau kev tws, Nws thiaj thim xav los Ua neeg zoo. Ua tsaug rau koj txoj kev zoo. Koj thiaj Yog tus uas Coj tau Koj Niam pog los Ua neeg zoo. Vim lub Ntuj hlub Koj heev Txhawb Koj lub Zog cia li zoo siab thiab Ua Lub Ntuj tsaug nawb mog

Ca nim zoo kiag li kv lub neej os lawv Aw tu siab tshaj plaw li os

Sorry, but my heart is too small to let someone, who made it their life mission to make my life miserable, come live with me. I don't care what others say. You don't live your life to please others. Love/respect yourself first and if you are a good person you will not be cursed.

Cov niam pog zoo li no mas need cov Nyab zoo li Zoo Hlub nawb

Ua tsaug rau zaj neej neeg nov os nws yog kiag li kuv os

Tsis txhob tu siab mog mi vivncau koj ua zoo twb tau ntuj too lawm os mog nws twb rov los qhua koj thiab muab txhua yam rau koj lawm ces yog lawm nawb es kav tsij ua zoo mog mi vivncau koj ua yog lawm zoo siab rau koj txoj kev zoo os

Nws tig nyiam koj vim nwg twb yuav siv koj lub yos los tu nwg kag kaws

I feel your pain sister because i was in the exact situation with my in-law. Some say good karma comes to you when you care for the elderly but in my case i feel like i npam lawm xwb os. I am soo happy they both passed away! Got my life back, no more stress, and no one to control how I live my life!

Nope, Ua neej nyob koj yuav tsum hlub koj tus kheej. You dont owe them anything....

Better learn to speak up and set your rules or she will think she makes the decisions. Its not all your mother in law’s decision to make, unless you are passive about it, then yes npam…. You need to be more proactive and stop letting her get away with making decisions on your behalf. Yus tsis ntse, hais tsis tau, ua tsis tau niam, ces cuag li yus npam mo.

Kuv tus niam pog ces zoo ib yam li koj tus ko thiab os phoojywg

Ua siab loj tsis tau txog hnub lawv tau txais xwb yeej yuav tau txais yam ua lawv ua tseg os ua qhov zoo ces yeej yuav tau txais txoj kev zoo xwb mas koj muaj me nyuam thiab es lwm hnub yav laus koj cov me nyuam lawv thiaj hlub koj na

Kuv ntshai tshaj kuv yuav zoo li koj thiaj os

This story hit home for me , my mil don't like me either no matter what we do, I always buy her things but she tell people she buy only for herself no one loves her, my inlaws went over seas and came back with hmong outfits for each of there other daughter inlaws and 2 daughters, one day they asked everyone to wear the macthing outfits my mil inlaw bought, I told them she never got me one so I went to the photo shoot with regular cloths and my mil didn't say anything to me, I sat by wacthing them take photos, she loves to gossip and tell people she hear it from me and I've been in some serious drama because of her, I no longer care and she tells her son that I'm not a good nyab, she is the sole issue me and my husband argu and want to divorce

Nrog koj tu siab vim nws tsim koj zoo siab thiab yog nws los thuav nws lub qe thiab los nyoo koj vim tsis tau chaw nyob lawm.

Those who has good in-laws would never understand. Those who has in-laws like yours, some worse, can only endure especially when you choose to stay married to their son.

Xav tias Kuv thiaj tus siab xwb no koj nim tus siab li kuv thiaj os niam laus. Pusm cawj ua zoo kom tag tiam no seb lawm tiam yus puas tau kev hlub kev kaj siab os niam laus.

I've been through enough to distance myself from mil like this. Why are we enabling and making excuses for these narcissists just bc they are parents/elders. Love and respect is a two way street. No one should get a free pass to abuse another human being. Learn to love and respect yourself rather than put up with this toxicity and live in misery just to please those that could carless about you. I dont try to please anyone anymore and burn bridges, if needed. You dont owe these people anything if they have never done anything to benefit you.

Talk about having no boundaries. They just enable the parents and let them do whatever they want. Don’t be a burden to your children like these old babies.

Love those that love and care about you!! Stay away from those that are toxic and hate you!!!

I wouldn’t have took them in and take care of them. You don’t owe them anything. Sorry that you are going through this.

Omg! I can relate to your story. My mil is exactly like that. Everything you buy her foods; she’ll make excuses for them.

Kev ua phaj Ej, txais kev tsim txom thiab txom nyeej ua ntej. Thaum xaus mam zoo ib pliag!

This is happening to me right now. My husband loves me so much that he's protecting me from his evil parents. His mom cursed us and our babies. She made everyone hated me. Right now they're looking for us because at the end of the day none of her sons wife that she loves wants to accept them. They're looking for us to beg us to take them in.. it's too late now..

Yog kawg os. Txoj kev raug niam pog tsim más yeej tu siab kawg li os. Thaum lawv tsis nyiam yus lawm más yus twb tsis tau ua dabtsi phem npaum li Cas los nws muab yus coj mus hais phem phem rau txhua Leej txhua tus más tej tibneeg tom tej mas Ntsia ntsoov yus más sib tham zom zaws tias yus nim phem li ntawd no xwb tiag. Más mus dag li ub li no rau nws tej ntxhais mas lawv tseem ntxub yus tibsi thiab hos.

Peb cov yug los ua ntxhais yuav tau tawm mus ua Nyab nim tshai tsham mus tau niam pog txiv Yawg thiab ib tsev hmoob Tsis nyiam tsis hlub yus los tseem muaj tau thiab yus try to be the best Nyab los Yeej Tsis zoo li os yus yog tus lawv Tsis nyiam ces yus ua dabtsi los lawv Yeej txhub yus li os mog li cas los nws twb nws kev txhaum lawm ces, kav Liam os mog.

Ua zoo mag so quav ces tsis tsim nyog. Koj thiaj kam tu koj niam pog xwb kuv ces xa mus nyob tsev laus vim nws txoj kev phem.

Nrog koj nyob lawm ces kom cov es niam pog hlub2 tuaj ua mov rau nkawv noj ma tsis thas ntshaw nkawv cov nyiaj li os kom lawv yeej meem tuaj ua mov rau noj vim twb nrog koj nyob lawv twb tsis yuav thiab lawv yog cov tau txais kev hlub ntawm niam pog ne,

Don't blame your MIL for your SIL hating you. They're adults and are capable of making their own decisions. Throwing blame around is a lame excuse.

Just saying you're sorry is too cheap. Kicked them out and don't look back. Let them live what they deserve. You're a victim because you chose to be. You have to be tough and reject what don't benefit you. Your mother and father in laws need to live on their own. Those sister in law of yours, throw them in the trash. Move on.

Glad MIL realized her wrong and apologized and admitted her evilness and hateful ways.

Txhob tias tu sia. Tim Koj tus txiv neb vim neb tseem tos lo ces kav tsij ua qhev kom txog hnub tuag os

Yog kawg os...tus zoo yog tus npam os.

Yep I too stop gifting my mil, she throws my gifts away, give them away and complains that she does get anything from me and that I don't like her. She's not worth my time and money anymore

Zaaj nuav has Yog kawg. Tus zoo ces Yog tug npam. Kuv los ua lub neej zoo le koj hab tug nam tsev. Thaum peb nam pog muaj zug qeeg mas tsis kheev nrug Kuv Nyob zuv Kuv tsev hab miv nyuas. Tabsis thaum kawg tsis muaj zug lawm es so quav so zeg lawm Xwb ces Leej twg los tas nrug Kuv Nyob txha tau. Lu lug zoo hab kev hlub muab rua puab taag lawm es kev phem ces Yog yug os. Ua neej nyob mas tu sab kawg. Koj le koj tug txiv Yog koj tug nkauj swm nraug sav es hlub koj taag sab nrho os. Kuv le tes twb tsi Yog luag txij nkawm ib txhi tsaug es yuav hlub taag nwg lub sab os. Kuv lub neej mas tu sab tshaaj. Es Yog le koj has kawg os. Ua zoo kom tau zoo tabsis tsi muaj tseeb os. Ua zoo tes tau noam Xwb tab. 😢

Yog hais yog lawm! Koj npam lawm os. Txob hlub tus niam pog dev zoo li no os.

Just give em $$$$.

Nkag siab koj zoo kawg os niam laus aws txhob ntshai npam os yeej tsis npam ib zaug li os yus hlub yus tus kheej xwb os

Omg, Niam pog Aws!

My mother in law made it clear that she don’t like me at the beginning but now she’s crying that nobody loves her. I just sit quietly and listen but never offered them to come live with us neither and I made it clear to my husband that don’t ever offer the bring them to live with us cause I don’t owe them anything. A word of advice, love your daughter in law cause one day you gonna need her to love you.

Be happy as long as your husband don’t turn his back on you. He stands by you all the time.

Tej niag niam pog phem no ces twb tsi tsim nyog hlub li lawm os twb yuav tuag mam pog yus thiab yus tej menyuam os.kuv niam pog ntxub kuv npaum li Koj thiab os vim kuv yog nkauj hmoob leeg os

Nrog koj zoo siab os sister. You're a big hearted woman that every one wants to have in their lives.

I feel your pain. 😢 my mil dont like me and have never liked me. She’s said and done so much to me. I love my husband so i respect her. When I can i keep my mouth shut when she goes over board I stand up for myself. I have a feeling I’m gonna walk the same path as you. And I don’t want to walk the same path as you. Your not alone 😢❤

Tus niam pog ntawm ko ces av thiaj lim tau xwb os.twb tsis taus lawm es tseem tsis pub cov yau tawm nyiaj paj thiab ces av tsij xa nws pov tsev laus kom lawv muab nws tsim ib ntus ua ntej nws tuag es nws thiab paub tias kev txom nyem siab zoo li cas.tam sim no mas nws lub siab dev tseem nyob qees haus nws nruab siab ov.qub dev ces...

Peb ua neeg nyob ces nws zoo li daim movie tus Phaib ej ua yeej raug tsim thaum pib txog thaum xaus Phaib ej ces thaum huam nab laib tuag ces daim movie twb tag lawm muab xav los mas tsis tsim nyog ua zoo li os.

Yuav ua zoo zoo rau cov neeg tsis tsim nyog os. Nkim yus lub zog xwb os. Nws muaj 5 leeg tub diam. Kom nws kav tsij mus thawj tus tub nws nyiam nyiam xwb los mos.

😢😢 me too! So i feel your pain. Maybe our heart is too kind that this is our kev npam. Be strong. You don’t stand alone 😢😢😢

Tus nyab no hais taus kawg thiab yom. Tsis yog yus kev npam. Yog luag kev tsim thiab ua phem rau yus xwb.

May. Vaj. Covno ces ntxias nyiajxwb lm. Mog

Your mil is just using you now that she feels you have her validation. You have a mind and mouth, use it! You & your husband should NOT stay silent on the funeral thing. What if the money saved isn't enough given how expensive Hmong funerals are? Are you & your husband going to pay for the difference by yourselves?! If not, then you need to make it very clear to your in-laws that all the brothers are going to have to pitch in for any amount that is short for the funeral costs. If your mil disagrees, then she can go live with someone else. Stand your ground & fight for what's right or forever shut up.

Koj txoj hmoo yog tim koj xwb. Koj rov npam koj. Thaum hluas niam pog txiv yawg ntxub thiab tsim koj. Thaum nkawv laus lawm los nkawv dag hais thov txim thiab dag qhuas koj tias koj zoo zoo xwb ces koj rov npam raug nkawv tsim koj dua, koj tu thiab ntxuav nkawv quav. Vim koj ntshaw ntshaw kev hlub los ntawm niam pog txiv yawg ces koj thiaj kam rau nkawv hais lus dag rau koj

Poj niam hmong yeej g paub hlub poj niam hmong tiag2 li. Tos txiv neej hmong yog tus rhawv cai 6 poj niam hmong taug so sad 4 your life sivtawj

Yog...! Tus muam no hais yog lawm. Nws raug npam los ntawm kev ntxub ntxaug ntawm nws niam pog. Tsis tas li ntawd xwb nws tseem raug npam los khwv iab khwv daw tus nws niam pog txiv yawg. Nws ua zoo vim qhov ntawd yog qhov yog thiab zoo. "Tus neeg paub txog kev hlub yog paub txog ua neej nyob, tus neeg pub txoj kev hlub yog paub txog lub neej luag ntxhwb ntxhi nyob hauv ntiajteb no."

Yog kawg os tus neeg siab zoo ces yeej tau txais qhov phem nkaus xwb tus neeg phem ces yeej txhua yam li os lub ntuj no ua g ncaj rau 3 cov tswv yim tsawg lub siab dawb siab zoo rau tsim txom, niam xav zoj tias ua phem kiag los lub siab xav xwb ua g tau li os 😢😢

Mis ntxhais aw thas npus cais tau npam xwb os , koj cov nyiaj Cia mus ua zoo noj zoo rau koj lub cev xwb zoo dua os ! . Kuv yog txiv neej kuv txeev ua zoo 2 rau neej tsa pab lawv npaum cam Los lawv tsis ghuas li muaj peev xwm cem kiag tias yawm yij koj yog niag neeg sab nraud tus muam wb thiaj yog ib plab yug xwb , koj mus tau lawm nawj hais npaum no rau yus ntag hos

Txhob tus siab os mog at least koj tus txiv hlub koj mog.

Pab koj tu siab kawg os.. tus neeg phem ntxhub yus lawm ces luag tsis tau kev tuag ces luag lam los ua zoo kom tau chaw tuag xwb luag lub siab yeej tseem tsis hlub yus qees li os mog..txawm yog zoo li no es kuv thiaj muab kuv niag txiv lawb dab kiag mas..😊

For thiis Title or the one who believes kev npam. Txhob tusiab txhob muab lub txim loj2 rau yus tuskheej. Txhua tus neeg yug los Yawmsaub yeejmuab ibleeg ibtxoj kevnpam nqa nrog yus. Tsis muaj leejtwg zam dhau txojkev npam ntawv ua ntej txojsia tu.

Don't waste tears on those kind of people, misery loves to keep misery company that is why they act the same and treat each other the same.

Peb muab zaj no coj los ua kev kawm es txhob ua ib tug niam pog zoo li ntawv os. Nco nrsoov tias txoj niag koob hmoov limhiam tsis txhob ntshaw. Foom los tsis yuav.

Oh heck no. She said u and your husband have to bury her and the other sons don't. If i were u, i would give all her money back to her and not hold onto them.

Koj npam kawg li, kuv mas 1 sim neej tsis yuav cov neeg siab phem ntawd nrog kuv nyob li os

Koj npam vim koj xaiv so quav thiab ntsaw kom koj niam pog txiv yawg qhuas koj.

Koj niam koj ua yau qhov yos lawm zoo siab heev 👍👍

Tus me Niam tsev, Koj tus Niam pog kod Yog ib tus phem tshaj phaws, Nws Tsim Koj tus Ua Nyab xwb os mog. Lub Ntuj yuav tso lwm tus los Tsim Nws.

Yus tsis hlub yus tus kheej thiab saib yus tsis muaj nuj nqi ces luag kuj saib yus li ntawd thiab los mas.

Tus neeg tsis hlub koj ces qhov zoo luag yeej tsis pub rau koj.Hnub no yog koj tsis so nws quav ces koj yeej tseem tsis zoo rau nws. Koj yog tus swb, koj yog tus ruam.

Yog kawg tus vivncaus…kuv ib txwm hais rau kuv tus txiv hais tias ua zoo tau npam xwb….

Tus viv ncaus aw koj tseem muaj hmoo tshaj kuv lawm os. Koj li es tsuas yog niam pog txiv yawg ntxub koj xwb koj tus txiv twb tsis ntxub koj nas. Thiab thaum kawg no niam pog tseem los thov txim thiab los tshaj koj lub moo zoo rau txhua leej txhua tus hnov lawm ces koj yog tus yeej lawm os. Hos zoo li kuv tus no nav yus tus txiv tseem yog tus ua mus ua lawv tus txha nqaj qaum rau tswv yim rau lawv kom lawv haj yam txawj ntxub yus xwb os nawb ho tsam no txiv yawg los nrog yus nyob kiag lawm thiab mas txiv yawg thiab yus niag txiv mas haj yam ua ib nqag ib nqag ntxub yus tshaj qhov qub ntxiv xwb os Kuv txoj hmoo tseem phem tshaj koj nawb.

Cas peb cov nyab zoo pheej npam ua luaj...peb yog tus lawv tsis hlub thiab tsis Cia siab but thaum kawg peb pheej tau tu lawv.

Me koj tham dab neeg ua rau peb lub neej puas tag lawm ua li koj ho xav li cas /3/3/23

DON'T TRY TOO HARD SISTER, YOU ALREADY DONE WHAT YOU CAN. MIL LIKE THIS YOU DON'T NEED TO DO ANYTHING FOR.

Vim kj txoj kev ruam

Koj tsis npam os. Koj yog ib tug me nyab siab zoo zoo kawg xwb os.

Tus mes niam tsev hmoob ib txwm Hais los lus tiam hnov qeej nrov xwb tsi hnov nruas nrov yog koj zaj neej neeg muaj tseeb ces koj tsi yog tus npam tab sis koj tsis yog tus npam tus npam ces yog niam pog es txhob tusiab yus yog tus neeg zoo ces yeej tau qhov zoo xwb os mog.

Tos koj ua neeg zoo es koj yog tus npam los vim koj ua tsis taus niam, koj yog ib niag nyab qaug qib koj tsis muab niam pog roj rov kib nws nqaij ces koj thiaj li tau ris txojkev mob siab zoo li no, leej twg yuav mus ua nyab rau tsev neeg niam pog ciav nyab mas yuav tsum paub tab, nws hlub thiab nyiam yus ces yusv tau nyiam thiab hlub niam pog txiv yawg, tab sis tus niam pog twg siv lub maib ua ntej 75 ces nej yuav tau siv lub maib tiam 21 no rau nws txawm nws foom los yeej tsis npam tsis khaum vim txojkev phem tsis yog yus xub pib.

Sister, hlub tus neeg ib txwm hlub yus thiaj muaj nqi. Tus luag tsis hlub koj ces luag muab luag tej nyiaj rau koj los koj tseem yuav tau thab tsob ib leeg thaum luag tuag thiab es luag twb tsis kam cov tub nyab luag hlub ntawd poob nyiaj. Zoo rau qhov koj tus txiv hlub hlub koj mog. Koj twb tsis nrog niam pog txiv yawg ua neej es kav liam. Koj tu tau li cas los li ntawd xwb txhob ua tshaj vim luag tsis hlub yus thiaj tsis nkim yus lub zog

Tsuav yus tus txiv hlub yus xwb ces yog number 1 lawm os lwm tus ces tsis hlub yus los tsis ua cas nawb txhob tu siab .

This is real life which is why we have to work hard and sustain good respect all around. We need each other especially towards the end. Remember, that things that are said or done cannot be unsaid or undone, and we must carry the weight with us forever. This is very important in making choices especially emotional ones. In the heat of the moment, fire is going to blaze, and the self-heart needs to cool. And we often cannot find the right choices because heated emotions block our thinking. Always talk to your best friend - time, and it will give you the precious seconds to save the future. You can help by keeping your mind clean. Don't keep anything that has little or no meaning. Like the simple frictions of humanity. We are all going to feel crabby from time to time, and we lash out in hurtful ways. But, we know that deep inside, it is not who we really are, and so we apologized and let self-forgiveness save the day. We have to realize that this is true for all, and for the small things, we can just let them fall.

Even after she apologized to u, she still expecting u to do all of her funeral?!?! Not too late to put ur foot down & tell her u’ll do what u can but all sons need to financially contribute. U don’t owe her anything to shoulder the financial responsibilities & stress of funerals by urself.

Sister, txoj kev ua zoo yeej ua nyuaj heev. Tiam sis txhob tsum nawb mog. Thaum kawg yeej yuav tsum pay off xwb nawb. Ua cov neeg saib tsi taus yus tsaug. Vim lawv ua phem rau yus yus thiaj Txawj ua zoo.

Sorry to hear such bad and mean MIL. I was lucky to have such loving family in law.

Stop respecting people who have zero respect for you. Focus on you and your family only.

My MIL was the same way. Someone in this shoe will only know.

Sister, is not you but those around you. You are meant to be who you are because without you, the others will not be around. Heaven will bless you so don't worry about what others said or do.

Tus Nyab koj yeej phem thiab Yog koj niam pog tsis kam yuav koj cov khoom ces koj kuj muab nyiaj kiag rau nws xwb. Ces cia niam pog nyiam dabtsi los nws mam mus yuav rau nws xwb. KOJ NIAG TXIV LOS YEEJ UA TSIS TAUS TXIV. NWS YEEJ TUA TSIS TAWS LI KOJ KOM NYOO KIAG NIAM POG. KOJ TUS TXIV UA TSIS TAU IB TUG TUB ZOO RAU NWS NIAM NWS TXIV. NWS YEEJ HAIS TSIS TAU KOM NWS NIAM THIAB NWS TXIV NYIAM KOJ THIAB.

Koj daim duab no koj thaib qov twg na?

Yog li kuv yeej npam loj lawm thiab os, tabsis kuv tus mas tsis tau los nrog kuv nyob os. Kuv yog tus nyab uas lawv tsis nyiam tshaj plaws thiab ntxub tshaj. Tu siab kawg, yog tsis xav rau yus niag txiv ces thiaj tseem xav nyob xwb os, yog xav txog kuv niag niam pog ces, kuv twb tsis xav yuav kuv tus txiv li os. I know I’m the dil that they don’t like, so I don’t gift at all. My kids she never once carry them on her back but she carried the sil’s kids and now she complained so much of how painful her back and shoulder is hurting. Don’t want to hear or feel sorry for her.

Ua zoo yeej Yog npam xwb. Luag hais tias ua zoo tau zoo no tab si qhov tiag ces ua zoo tau phem ua zoo ua luag thawj qhev xwb. You do you and treat people they way they treat you.

You are a good nyab. I hope the heaven will bless you with longevity.

I swear, these mother in law acts like they breed their sons for them.

Hais rau tus niam tsev ntawv tias nws yog tus #1 yog tus yeej txhua yam lawm es kom nws txhob tu2 siab no nawb.

Xyov uas cas tus niam pog phem pheej tau tus nyab zoo? Tus nyab phem pheej tau tus niam pog zoo lis os ib tsoom viv ncaus?

Ua zoo tau zoo xwb nawb

Gosh if your husband took in his parents, he needs to help his parents, why letting his wife take care of everything for them.

Tus niam pog phem ce koj txawm ua zoo npaum twg lo nw yeej tsi ri yu lub txiaj ntsig o thiab yu txawm muab 1 yam khoom rau nw lo nw twb tsi saib muaj nqi kawg nw muab pub rau lwm tus xwb o.