Answering your questions - Part 2! From meeting Sigh to an honest insight into my family history

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Answering your questions - Part 2! From meeting Sigh to an honest insight into my family history

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2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to Part 2 of my Ask Me Anything vlog!
To follow on from last week, join me this week to hear me cover subjects such as:
- How I cope with stress
- How I met my darling Sigh!
- What I did before Ask Charlie
- My favourite cake recipe of all time
- Tips on potty training and positive encouragement
- Getting your children prepared for boarding school
- A very honest backstory regarding my history and relationship with my Dad.
Plus much more.
Thank you so much for watching and listening to this week. It was hard for me to talk about our family history. It's a raw and difficult process, one that we're still working through and that I will continue to work on for myself and my own family.
It is a great sadness in my life that I don't have that easy relationship with my Father that I would so love. I have however been so lucky to have some fantastic father figures - including my late Uncle Gerald, also known as Padre, who I will always hold incredibly close to my heart. And my Uncle, my Mum's younger brother, who I can pick up the phone to at any point and I know will always be there for me. He is an almighty role model and has helped more than my words will ever be able to express.
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@amykelly3242 2 жыл бұрын

Charlie - you are so brave to discuss the difficulties that you had growing up with your father. Your beautiful family is your blessing now, and your past has made you such a wonderful parent - sometimes the negatives in our lives make us stronger in the opposite direction - which we can be thankful for. Thank you for your honesty - always know you are appreciated and loved!

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much Amy absolutely the difficulty make us if we are strong enough and have wonderful support around us xxx

@looloo4029 2 жыл бұрын

Oh, dear Charlie, I feel for you so very much. I thank you for being so candid and sharing the difficulties you have faced from such an early age. I am touched to be one of the people with whom you have shared. My best wishes to you ❤️❤️❤️

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much for your lovely message, I felt it was important to talk to you all about, I want to be really open with you all xxxx

@tarasnedden806 2 жыл бұрын

In a social media world where many only show the glossy side of life, you have vulnerability and honesty. My therapist once told me that you can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear and Dr Wayne Dyer said you can’t control how others behave, only your reaction to them. You have taken both those sentiments and run with them… No experience is wasted and, rather than replicate bad behaviour, you have used this to make you a wonderful wife and parent. Bless your soul xx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Tara thank you so much for your words, I am so lucky to have such a kind supportive husband that’s given me the strength to tackle the difficulties in the past. Xxx

@geoffreygovier1486 2 жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to you. Thank goodness the wonderful Simon appeared on the scene!

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you he is incredible 🥰

@alexandraevans5346 2 жыл бұрын

Charlie the adversities you have faced and the effort you have invested in to understanding and rebuilding, has made you the most wonderful wonderful human! A fabulous mother, wife, friend, and now you have Ask Charlie where you are helping so many of us more than you know xxx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Oh Alexandra thank you so very much, I can’t tell you what that means 🥰

@user-xb6iq6nv2z 5 ай бұрын

Thank you Charlie for being open to discussing this with us, it’s really resonated with me as I have similar issues with my relationship with my father. It just shows that it doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from, we all can be given these curveballs in life that we are left to work through or live with. I have also found therapy helpful.

@ask.charlie 5 ай бұрын

We can choose our friends but not our family xxx

@adellesharpe2770 2 жыл бұрын

I was asked once by a client why I didn't talk about my Mum. I hadn't even realised that I didn't. My response was "i'm alright" but jokingly started twitching my eye and shoulder. It turned out she was a psychotherapist on relationships and suggested I try talking to someone. (I felt dreadful for mucking around). It was the best advice I've had. Working on being the best we can be and not letting the past keep us stuck in the past, I can understand how difficult that was for you to answer. 🤗 Crying is good for you if you feel you need to, don't apologise, get rid of that cortisol girl. You've had a tough time, I'm glad you had Padre Gerald and Aunty Margaret there for you. You are an inspiration and I always look forward to your videos, ask me anything talks, courses and now Podcasts! You are a very positive influence and your care for others really shines through. Well done and Thank you. x

@christopherwigdor9779 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for being so brave. I can totally empathise with you and sending virtual hugs. I married into a dysfunctional family and the felt so total bewildered. It has taken many years with fragile egos and self esteem to understand the mental problems and bullying. You are doing very well to stop it continuing to the next generation. Congratulations to you and Simon.

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Christopher it’s sometimes very hard to understand isn’t it! I really appreciate your message 😍

@lynnshaw7415 2 жыл бұрын

My Dearest Charlie, What courage you have!!!

@alimacindoe811 2 жыл бұрын

Oh Charlie, my heart broke for you. I’m so sorry you have had such a rotten time of it with your Dad, you’re very brave to talk about it. Whatever you decide to do, don’t ever feel pressurised just because he is family; do what is right for you, Si and your children. He shouldn’t talk like that about your Mum. I think we all imagine that everyone else has a perfect, idyllic family, but an awful lot of us don’t! Sending you love and hugs xx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Ali 🥰 sending love to you too xxxxx

@rachelowen3663 2 жыл бұрын

Bless you!as the saying goes ‘you can choose your friends,but not your family ‘lots of love from Belgium 😘

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely 🤣🥰

@Pandorash8 Жыл бұрын

Your father sounds so much like my father. And his father before him. Both brilliant men, but socially lacking. Love my dad to bits, but he’s not always an easy man, though not quite as difficult as yours sounds. But I can completely understand what you would have gone through. My brother and my two children are also on the spectrum, but early intervention therapies have done wonders. In fact, my brother has long been resolved to not be like dad. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Love from Sydney, Australia xx

@ask.charlie Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment, therapy is so helpful isn’t it! Xx

@Heather-op5pr 2 жыл бұрын

I can only echo what the other followers say Charlie, so sorry to hear your story and so happy that you find strength to talk about it, and that you now a a lovely happy family of your own. Big Hug to you xxxx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you lovely Heather xxxx

@fluffyhedgehog7963 Жыл бұрын

Charlie I’m so sorry that you had all this to contend with but I’m so proud of you for getting through it too.

@ask.charlie Жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much 🥰

@canadiangirl3678 2 жыл бұрын

Hugs to you. You are such a genuinely warm and caring person. Your mum must have been a wonderful parent to bring you through all the trauma.

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you she really was an incredible lady xxx

@KanchanChar 2 жыл бұрын

Sending you so much love, so much of what you said resonated with me Charlie.... I had the good fortune, shall we say, to make amends with my father on his deathbed but they didn't erase the scars entirely! I often think they're the facets that reflect light off us .... on a Jewish note, I'll quote Leonard Cohen, "There is a crack, a crack in everything.... That's how the light gets in" You shine so very brightly, always a pleasure to hear you:) xx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Love that quote thank you for sharing it, and so pleased that you had that moment with your father xxxx

@morwennahill952 2 жыл бұрын

Oh Charlie, I’m so sorry to see you upset, but I also very much understand. Thank you ever so much for answering my question about potty training and sending lots of love xxx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you lovely and good luck with the potty training and just message if you need advice xxx

@frostedbramble6266 2 жыл бұрын

Aw bless you Charlie I hope it helped you getting it all out as I can see that was very difficult for you. Love your videos 🌸

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much not easy to talk about it as it’s been a very painful part of my life xxx

@PaulasFarm 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Charlie for sharing your life, the good, bad and sad parts. Being open and raw will help others, just listening to your video about your father has helped me see things in my own family. Much love to you and thank you again. Paula x

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Paula I do believe it’s important to share the good the bad and the ugly! Sending much love to you xxx

@onedogandabag9606 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing such personal information about your father and for being so honest. That was such an emotional watch Charlie. And bloody well done for everything you have and continue to achieve. You are wise beyond your years. xx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

You are so lovely, we all have our adversities in life, sending much love xxx

@onedogandabag9606 2 жыл бұрын

@@ask.charlie 😘😘

@pennyeames2704 2 жыл бұрын

Bless you Charlie. Relationships are so difficult at times and I hope you talking about it has helped in a small way. You are so positive and laying yourself bare can’t be easy but every now and again it needs to be done just to let the pressure out the can. Take care xx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much Penny I am really pleased I have talked about it xxx

@katie7382 2 жыл бұрын

Charlie - I just want to send you the biggest warmest of hugs; you are so,so strong,graceful and kind💛 You are one of my biggest inspirations, and I thankyou so much for all that you share. I am a single mother at 36, and your videos truly are my saving grace.. I have/am learning so much from you in all aspects of life, and for that, I’m truly grateful. Sending you lots of love from Scotland Xx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Oh Katie you are so so lovely 🥰 I hope one day we meet in Scotland xxxx

@joannavanderjagt624 2 жыл бұрын

.... I'm watching Part 2 first 🤦🏼‍♀️☺️! ( went for a short Holiday and surprisingly😉 missed a lot 😉, because I did it old fashion way : just books and magazines - No Internet 🧘🏼‍♀️- strange , but very relaxing at least .) .... now listening 😄🤗 ( really enjoying your answers and explanation ) Enjoy Your Weekend , Charlie.

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

How lovely to have a holiday like that, very important to recharge xxxx

@joannavanderjagt624 2 жыл бұрын

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@FunnyBirdVideos 2 жыл бұрын

This was so brave of you to share this part of your life and I hope you continue to find peace and some resolution. Everything you’ve to endure has made you a more resilient woman which is why you are such an empathetic and loving mother/wife/sister/daughter/friend. In my own way I’ve gone through a different set of circumstances yet similar emotional journey as a child into adulthood with my family’s issues from disability to mental health and alcoholism. It’s taken me decades of mixed up emotions and confusion to learn to now accepting , find peace and moving on. It’s too cliché to say it’s made me a stronger person but I know I am resilient. I’m glad you have good people around you to support you, it’s so important to allow certain emotional torments to be released. You’ve created a lovely life with your lovely family and that is all that really matters now. I don’t know if this helps in anyway but I though I’d share. xx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much Honor for sharing your past, I think it absolutely helps others experiencing challenges know they aren’t alone, it’s not a perfect world and these things shape the person we become. Sending love to you xxxx

@lindaoakey5892 2 жыл бұрын

Bless you Charlie ❤️a difficult question to answer but thank you for being so open and honest, hope it helped talking through, it was sad to see you get so upset 🥺. Sending much love to you, have a lovely weekend 🥰🥰

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Linda it’s not easy but I am really pleased I have shared it with you, I have such a wonderful supportive community and I really appreciate you and your kind words xxx

@indirajane 5 ай бұрын

I just wanted to say thank you for the frank discussion at the end of this video. I only recently began following your channel and happened upon this video last night. Although the particulars are different, I could so relate to your struggles with your father, the feelings and the turmoil. I really admire your openness and I found it increadibly helpful. I'm not in therapy, but probably should be 😉 Thanks again.

@sarahkennedy1481 Жыл бұрын

Gosh! Very open conversation. Thank you for sharing. I do hope you can use your life experiences to help others. You come across as very loving, humble, hard working and energetic. I enjoy listening to you as I learn so much. My mother became ill when I was 12 and died when I was 13. My father developed MH so sadly I looked after myself and so many things I should have learnt from a mother I learn from you. Thank you. Ps. I am 56 now x

@desia5679 Жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear about your difficult relationship with your father. Your openess and honesty is much admired. It will certainly help others. Bless you and your beautiful family x

@ask.charlie Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much I feel it’s really important to be honest about it and hope it helps others xxx

@strll3048 Жыл бұрын

I cannot begin to express my esteem and admiration of you. and your journey to this point in your life. Having also endured enormous trauma, I appreciate your efforts and bravery. Please accept my warmest wishes for more healing and joy than you had ever thought possible.

@ask.charlie Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much I feel it’s important to be honest and share my passes in the hope it might help others, there is light at the end of the tunnel xxx

@jimhobkirk 2 жыл бұрын

Charlie, well done getting through that in such a composed manner. Your story, like others in your gang of loyal viewers, resonated with me. I too am the child of an RAF helicopter pilot who we suspect is a little ‘on the spectrum’ and my poor mother is still with him 52 years later, despite my siblings and I making suggestions that she’d be better off away. I know for long periods they barely talk and it makes her really sad. I went to boarding school, ostensibly to provide some continuity to my education outside of the 3 yearly house move, but with hindsight it got me away from him and allowed me to develop slightly more ‘normal’. In fact our Fathers may have known each other! Hopefully it’s not a trait that goes with the profession though as I followed in his footsteps and am currently flying Chinooks from RAF Odiham, in fact probably go over your house far too regularly for your liking… My lovely wife maintains my balance though, she is also an avid viewer of your channel. There is a possible explanation (100% not an excuse)for our sometimes brooding mentality though, hopefully the link will work! It’s a little tongue in cheek but there is a strong vein of truth in it. I am away from home and the country for 2 months yet again so thank you for your channel which provides some wonderful sights and sounds of Blighty. www.rotorheadsrus.us/documents/Helicopter_Pilots_Are_Different.pdf

@kenjones5781 2 жыл бұрын

Dear Charlie you are so brave to talk about your dad to us all. You are a lovely person and I feel for you. I think you are right to set boundaries for your dad and ensure why you have put them in place. You can still show him you care by writing or phoning etc in short bursts if you want to without his influencing the children so much, maybe, but don't beat yourself up about him. Do what makes you feel safe and happy. Lots of love, Lesley xx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much Lesley yes I quite agree boundaries are very important, it’s definitely made things much easier xxx

@marynolan8337 Жыл бұрын

Charlie,don't let any one make nasty comments about your mum.or tear her apart if she is anything like you she is a Lady.keep your good faith and remember the good lord opens many doors.and enjoy your wonderful people in your life . children,your Husband and don't forget your lovely horse and go out for a lovely ride and enjoy the fabulous country as I do here in southern Ireland.gods blessings on all your future endeavours.

@ask.charlie Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Mary

@sablemorton3013 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for such a frank and fearless discussion about your father. I also really liked and the Q and A. Helpful advice. My parents are divorced and I have had problems with both of them at various times over the years. It is incredibly hard and I have always wished to have “normal” parents who are supportive and unselfish. Sadly not to be for me! I do have a very supportive husband who has tried to work his magic but to no avail. Nice to know one is not alone with these trials in life. Best wishes to you Charlie.

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry you have had difficulties too, keep strong and know it’s not personal! Sending love xxx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry you have had difficulties too, keep strong and know it’s not personal! Sending love xxx

@joannavanderjagt624 2 жыл бұрын

Such a ( real Life ) story ☺️. Thank You for sharing , Charlie ☺️ I suppose , I'm almost sure of it , that majority of live carrying some difficult memories , part of childhood or anything what makes us stil sad at some moments and it affects our life ... These hard experiences are part of us , they have made us the way we are today . All these good and sad things are just part of us - we cannot change anything , but only look in the future ( try to make better experiences for our descendants or relatives ...🤔)

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely Joanna they shape us, thank you so much for your message xxxx

@joannavanderjagt624 2 жыл бұрын

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@pigeonpease 2 жыл бұрын

My dad had the same horrible stuff, thinking of you lovely xxx

@ask.charlie 2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry Lynn you too have been through similar xxxx

@christykulwicki4323 10 ай бұрын

Charlie I’m so sorry you had to live through this. I know first hand that it can be very difficult. Unfortunately I’m married to someone who is very abusing verbally at times. You never know when it will happen. Our son has no relationship with his father for years. He is very protective of me. I have wanted to leave several times. I would have but I know my son would be stattled with him and I would loose half of my retirement. He has very little of his own. It’s all a bit upsetting and I try to keep busy and away from him as much as possible. One day I pray it will be better. Take care of yourself and your lucky to have Simon.

@ask.charlie 10 ай бұрын

Oh Christy I am so very sorry that you are experiencing this, keep strong and huge love xxx

@emmawadsworth6730 Жыл бұрын

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@garethreeve798 2 жыл бұрын

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@shelaghward9621 Жыл бұрын

Oh how I wish that parents realised the damage they inflict upon their children 😢…..

@ask.charlie Жыл бұрын

So do I xxx

@shelaghward9621 Жыл бұрын

@@ask.charlie I have two wonderful and amazing Grandchildren who are suffering at the moment because of their warring parents ……I felt their pain with your story . Thank you for sharing . 💕