No PRENUP No Marriage? CONTROVERSIAL Money Debate

No PRENUP No Marriage? CONTROVERSIAL Money Debate | Anthony ONeal

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On this episode of The Table with Anthony ONeal, we are continuing the conversation with part 2 with the Neatness Network family! We gathered the whole crew for an enlightening candid discussion on finances, relationships, mental health, and so much more! Get ready to delve deep, share laughter, and embrace authenticity as we explore diverse perspectives that are sure to resonate. From money matters to matters of the heart, this is your chance to connect and engage with a family that's unafraid to keep it real. Tune in for insightful conversations that'll leave you thinking, reflecting, and smiling!
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@prettybrownrise 10 ай бұрын

🗣 BOTTOM LINE: it is nonsensical for someone with assets to get married w/o a prenup. What you have prior to marriage is YOURS. What you build together during marriage YOU SPLIT in a divorce. And anyone who wouldn’t agree to that is a grifter that I wouldn’t marry

@RakMPVet05 10 ай бұрын

I agree Anthony, as a 42 year old Christian man, never married, no children and an above average earner. A prenup is not optional, whomever my wife is will sign a prenup. We are all flawed and people change. With that said it would not be wise to for extremely established professionals to place their life long sacrifices and investment into the legal system hands.

@knowkatrina 10 ай бұрын

What if your wife earns and has more than you?

@RakMPVet05 10 ай бұрын

@@knowkatrina doesn't change anything.

@theresalor 9 ай бұрын

Agree. I don't have hundreds of thousands right now but I believe in prenups. No negotiation.

@joymakes8539 9 ай бұрын

Whoever earn more money, should have prenup. It doesn't mean you're doing to divorce but it to protect your assets.

@RakMPVet05 9 ай бұрын

@@joymakes8539 prenups is for both parties not just one regardless of income or assets. It would be void if only one party has one.

@VerleanHurd 10 ай бұрын

A prenup is no different than car insurance, house insurance, medical insurance, wearing a seatbelt, etc. Its a just in case thing. Thats it. Thats all.

@BAandsowhat 10 ай бұрын

Absolutely!

@fshepherd8149 9 ай бұрын

I'm old enough to be a mom to everyone in this discussion. Nevertheless, these young people have given me much to ponder as God and I are re-engineering my life. Thanks for the robust dialogue!

@BAandsowhat 10 ай бұрын

For years, and I mean YEARS, I've always been in favor of a prenup and I'm a woman. It may be nice to have a man of many resources but I know what I have or will have that won't make me entitled to his riches and at the same time protect my assets as well. Great discussion

@aneshaelizabeth 4 ай бұрын

Yes! It almost seems rare that there are women that are in favor of prenups. I know my parents getting a divorce shaped how I felt about finances and marriage. Now that I am an adult and I am working on myself, I am most definitely getting a prenup. I have a business that I want to protect. Whatever we have before marriage, is our own. Whatever assets we accumulate during the marriage, we split.

@Thatbul 10 ай бұрын

After watching my aunt take everything from her husband. I will get a prenup. Watching her do that made me have standards. My future wife better have no kids, willing to sign a prenup, and not be the type of person that is only money hungry just to impress others.

@tanyapropertyvirtualassistant 9 ай бұрын

Oh my goodness, I had no idea the Neatness network had so many other channels. Well done. Anthony should promote them more. I will have to save this video so I can follow the other channels. Loved this talk, it was fantastic. Ohhhh so much beautiful educated successful wealthy melanin 😍 Love to see it

@spatty2589 10 ай бұрын

Patrice was bringing so much knowledge to the table to get derailed by comments from others. We already know what AO thinks and why he'll be single for life but I wanted to know more of what she had to say about applying wisdom to the marriage situation.

@carlicee 9 ай бұрын

Agreed

@Regina.Clarke 9 ай бұрын

I still thought she was amazing even though I agreed with Anthony’s last point. It needed more discussion is all.

@kenyaedwards3488 10 ай бұрын

THANK YOU!!!!! You love for our people is sincere and strong, may God continue to bless and protect you!

@iyanayona5348 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for allll the shades of brown, black and yellow of the people you have on your platform. It matters!

@instrinsiclove 9 ай бұрын

I’m not a fan of the title, because you all really touched on SO MUCH! I took so much into my spirit from the tech conversation as well as the way we eat…even the “what did you learn in your singleness” conversation!

@fitfanAnn 10 ай бұрын

I wish Patrice had the opportunity to finish making her point. I was following what she was saying...

@womenwhodesire1375 10 ай бұрын

Praise is required!!!

@jasonrwhitingjr 10 ай бұрын

Such a valuable and wealthy discussion!

@Jeffupnxt 9 ай бұрын

The way you packaged this is phenomenal Anthony, this conversation was very insightful and is needed within our community.

@travisrogers1465 10 ай бұрын

It is not a woman’s job to find a husband, it is a man’s responsibility to find a wife. No amount of money without God will work. A man should be looking for a woman that has a relationship with God, knows her worth (not superficial), has a partner mentality, and willing to be led. A true man of God listens, prays, love’s openly, and shares the throne with his wife. No one owns anyone, but each are aligned in God’s purpose for them as a single unit. Each person should be willing to share their resources, for the stability of their marriage. Where one is weak, the other should filling in and vice versa. A marriage is 200% not 50/50, each person has 100% to give. A Godly marriage is the focused on God, money, children, and other material things are bonuses. 🙏🏽👊🏽👍🏽

@killamatrix1 9 ай бұрын

Not all women are wives

@travisrogers1465 9 ай бұрын

@@killamatrix1 I agree with you, that’s why you find the one that God has just for you. God will never allow you to find a woman that’s not a wife. Hence the reason, the woman must have a relationship with God, that way she knows her role in a marriage.

@candyluna2929 9 ай бұрын

Exactly

@anthonyvanburen3998 9 ай бұрын

It is easier to have a main joint checking account, joint savings and his allowance account and hers allowance account if stepping into the relationship at a young age. When two older people who bring a bag to the marriage it’s hard splitting 50/50, nor is it wise. Better have a prenup.

@GreenFridays 9 ай бұрын

Nothing wrong with a prenup, If you anticipate getting divorced. Sometimes creating a Plan B is enough to ruin Plan A before it ever had a chance to succeed.

@suferiamccollum-mobley2022 9 ай бұрын

It's the traditional versus the transitional mindset for changing the revolution.

@VictorKwegyir 9 ай бұрын

Great conversation, guys. 👏👏👏. Anyone with an issue with prenup for someone who has significant assets before marriage is really not in with the right motive. It is for the protection of both parties anyway. Be wise and not allow the state to dictate things for you, in the event of the unfortunate.

@celestinebennett212 5 ай бұрын

If I ever get married again, am not working .. worked all my life to build my businesses but all this comes with a lot of sacrifices that are most important in life. Time for " family" ..Family is important they have everything they ever needed all they don't have is My time...am always traveling on contracts ..so if I ever get married ..my future husband will have to take over my business ..will mentor him, teach him and then I pull back and make more time for Family...I can be a background consultant, That is why we have to choose a partner wisely 🤝

@afiyaburwell893 10 ай бұрын

Why is this even a debate? This goes without saying.

@gina9684 10 ай бұрын

Enjoy Yourselves ❤️

@kdellison43 9 ай бұрын

Soooooo many other valuable things were talked about!!!!!! From leveling up financially to healthy eating. It’s amazing how you have to package something to get people to listen.

@chloelageaux769 10 ай бұрын

Prenups used to be a gray area for me. I think it puts a bad taste in some ppls mouth because it gives the appearance that one cares more about money and materials than the person that they are suppose to be sharing life with. I have my own house, car, etc. If I was presented with a prenup I would make sure that it's mutually beneficial for both parties involved! It's challenging to entrust all of the finances to one party when they can and some have abandoned and abused their spouse financially! I have seen this happen so just make sure you have the conversation upfront. Also, know the laws in your state. If you reside in a community property state, they are only dividing what was accumulated during the marriage not before. If it bothers you just make sure you purchase everything BEFORE you get married! It's only fair to split what was acquired during the marriage.

@tinmanslickgreasy999 10 ай бұрын

Being that women initiate 70% of divorce and 90% if college educated then a prenup is a no brainer for most men who have built wealth prior to a marriage. Unfortunately since a prenup can still be contested......Then it makes no sense for a man to even get married in todays time. Way too much risk for men. The stats are even worse for black women and marriage so it makes absolutely no sense for men to go in without a prenup. This coming from a man who is happily married many many years who believes in marriage but not having a prenup makes no sense in 2023 and beyond.

@VerleanHurd 10 ай бұрын

Agreed.

@RakMPVet05 9 ай бұрын

Facts

@mirandawalker6600 10 ай бұрын

42:35 single parent here...We always have dinner together! ❤ its a must!

@mariewallace462 10 ай бұрын

Great joke at the end - I love it!! Petty you didn't give them a lift in the Bentley!!

@mariewallace462 10 ай бұрын

Pity - opps!

@ShayLJones 9 ай бұрын

If the person is right for you, they won't mind a Prenup if it's what the relationship requires.

@Eyesis_1 10 ай бұрын

This was a good show, but I would've liked to hear Patrice finish last round of thoughts. They're alot of women in her situation. They may not be making 7 figures, but they need and want to be wise with whatever they have.

@marcuse423 9 ай бұрын

Agreed, prenuptial are a must for marriage if you choose that path.

@misunderstoodkj 9 ай бұрын

I'm in SC!

@Jordan-vo3gv 10 ай бұрын

Strong independent woman of 2023 don’t need no man’s money queen. So slay that signature on the prenup

@janine_w9560 10 ай бұрын

I’m a woman and I agree with a prenup. Us real strong independent women want to protect our assets too.

@VerleanHurd 10 ай бұрын

@@janine_w9560 Big facts.

@tam6011 8 ай бұрын

I thinking and making food from either party is basic. We are a unit. We move together. I am going to do for you. We don’t go without. I wouldn’t marry you if it’s not the same 😊

@andrephillips6783 9 ай бұрын

It’s funny how the First Lady when they asked her what SHE improved upon in herself she only mentioned everything the guy did… that’s crazy

@msvanessa8640 10 ай бұрын

My concern with AI is what protocol and plan is in process if AI malfunctions?

@cmw1riternboro 9 ай бұрын

AI robotics is already here. I work in IT. It is evolving quickly. I tell young people learn which AI companied are most innovative, and profitable. Investing in AI companies. This is the beginning of the new Silicon Valley run by Robotics

@manhalfamazing00 9 ай бұрын

"I love marriage... I love love...." Single than a mug

@Wheelztotheworld 10 ай бұрын

💯

@floriandc5695 8 ай бұрын

1:00:00 this is a perfect example that women date and marry at or above their socioeconomic level!

@antwanfacen-craft169 10 ай бұрын

I have a question. If you were born in 1986, wouldn't you be 37 or 38 instead of you being 39 years of age????

@chillinwiththejohnsons 9 ай бұрын

❤

@Flynerdybarber 8 ай бұрын

I got into tech last year I just hit 96k in one year....and I tell you the easiest money I ever made.

@Flare6 9 ай бұрын

11:56 It ain’t basic cause he could have gotten takeout. A good husband will make sure she eats, but it’s another level for him to cook the food himself.

@christellen3077 10 ай бұрын

I mostly listened to most of your conversation, which is rich AND so much racialization of the topics tackled. So much interiorized narratives about your black communities. When I do sth as a Black woman I never limit myself because I am black. The stumbling block aren't community tied but individual. What, why being so victimizing. Even at the level of success you reached. This is very American. I can't relate and I sense that re interning these 'as a black a 'black that is billionaires etc.... The programming is harsh in the state. And I am not even talking about mainstream and politics. People themselves.... Black ppl themselves choose these boxes. Stop. If you want to be a model for blacks to succeed, STOP repeating this programming that oh, as a Black you have a bad self esteem, as a black you have more difficulties.... We aren't in North Korea or China.... This is unreal. In the sense this programming IS A LIE. And it takes away from the value of your message. I am Cameroonese. Born in Belgium. For the context. Here too and everywhere there may be ppl thinking like that. That are black . But in yall country. Yall are doing TOO MUCH. As if you were living in the poor parts of Africa yearning to go to Europe. Too long. But I listened, and it may have been too much for me. Blessings.

@rainy9698 10 ай бұрын

I couldn't agree more about the self-limiting hyperfixation on race. I grew up in Jamaica and given that most of us are black, I didn't really hear people blame race for their struggles. Now being in the States I understand where it comes from, as there are lingering and still existing effects of systematic oppression. However, maintaining the box that we were placed in ain't it, and is one of things that grinds my gears about our community. I believe that God can take you anywhere, regardless of society. Yes, we face discrimination but I feel like focusing too much on the fact that someone who is successful happens to be black takes away from them first and foremost being human, and enforces the false ideology that blackness is 'other'. We are all human ❤.

@christellen3077 9 ай бұрын

@@rainy9698 Yes and amen They are conveying the wrong message. Whatever your level of success the "we" they use is always oppressed and denied certain things. It is living in a prison that will never open. May God have mercy

@pearlivory3483 9 ай бұрын

Making me food? Special. Getting me food. Basic.

@nastystew6942 10 ай бұрын

I would get a TRUST over a PRENUP

@suferiamccollum-mobley2022 9 ай бұрын

Burger King, Wendy's, KFC, all followed the McDonald's road.

@Commnteri 10 ай бұрын

Stop Victim Thinking

@user-le6te1gf4n 8 ай бұрын

Scammers payback

@PYTU 10 ай бұрын

Did she just weaponize the couple who stated their deal breakers " cheating and beating".

@iyanayona5348 9 ай бұрын

Body language of Mr. Anthony and the Lady next to him (Ms. Patrice) is so beautiful to behold. So comfortable. At ease. Inviting. At home. He leans in to her.