His story about divorce is exactly the same one as my sister's. She was constantly threatened divorce. Her ex husband and his parents would beat her WHILE she was pregnant. After FINALLY getting divorced, she's restarting her career as a dentist and has all the love and support of my parents, alhamdulilah. Sometimes people don't see they're in abusive relationships till they're out of it

No imam nullifies any marriage if women asks them to do..... Coz most of the imams are mysogynistic... And they ask women to tolerate and have patience

First time I see shabir without his little head covering

This is insanity, People don't even see it Totally unfair Yet Islam is considered perfect

Touching these sensitive issues is good but I recommend taking it one by one and elaborating more details and provide more proofs, otherwise it will be a cause of confusing people like me rather than clarifying it.

I just read a hadiths (Bukhari, Book of Divorce, hadith 5273-5277) where this woman jamilla was like to the prophet " My husband is very good in character and he is very religious but i just dont like living with him and she was granted divorce lol by the prophet himself who was in charge of affairs ! all she had to do was return the land that was given to her which is fair because she literlly divorved her husband for no real reason! If a woman who got to divorce her husband because she just didnt like him anymore then why are sharia courts today preventing women from divorce ???????????????????????????????

This series has been a huge help to me!

Thank you for talking about this. The main problem is that muslim women in current society are no longer being protected by the law described in the Koran. If the purpose of the thrice-divorced law is indeed to protect the woman, then shouldn't it be adaptable to the problems faced by women now?

Very informative. I wish you had more time to discuss the below issues: 1. Faskh فسخ which is the right of both Women and men. 2. Khala خلع which is the rights of woman 3.Talaq طلاق you briefly discussed. This is the right of a man but can be transferred to a woman in specific circumstances. 4. Tafreeq تفریق which is the right of women and has four types. Request Has to be made by a woman to the relevant court for a decision.

The man can divorce his wife simply by word of mouth, and does not even have to provide REASONS, or prove her worthiness. On the other hand, the woman has to go through courts and hearings and PROVIDE REASONS THAT MUST BE FROM A VERY SPECIFIC LIST OF FAULTS. Like adultery or absence for four years!!! And she has to PROVE THOSE REASONS TO VALIDATE THEM IN COURT. And then if she wins the case, the court will GRANT her her FREEDOM. What part of this seems FAIR to anyone under the heavens?????????? Ps. Also keep in mind that the husband is allowed to have four wives at the same time!!! So hurrrrraaay for men!!! If you have come here to seek GENDER EQUALITY, you won't find a single drop of it here. I am not speaking as an outsider, I happen to be a Muslim woman.

I think having a third party is actually good and protects women. Because If she wants to divorce her husband there's a possibility of him being ill-tempered or abusive.

The problem occurs, when men use hadith a lot for their benefit, and the scholars try to turn a blind eye to matters related to their manhood.although the hadith clearly carries more disadvantages than benefits of forming a real system of human behavior.What is clearer, we see this is how to control women's behavior, liok so wrong right.but no want like to take action.The hadith was written by a man, and the man was a close friend of the Prophet, and they only used to give their opinion more for their benefit, because there was no man women in chat area to talk about politic, ekonomi, and a lot of thing ....so solution in this stuation, beleive on Allah, and that is written in the Qur'an.islam is easy, butbpeople likebti make thing hard.! give respect but in limitation .. insyaallah..islam the most perfect religious,not religious creating by man but by Allah .

All of you are smart enough to read the Quran for your self...😃you are your best scholar..

Masha'Allah looking great sheikh 👍👍👍

Assalamalikum i wanted to ask if a woman want to divorce due to ill behaviour of his husband can she get the dowry which she took with her to her in law's house .

If you can't even read specific laws in the Quran then how can you say that one must always or one must never do a certain thing? That's where I'm confused about this. Because in Muslim countries there are often very specific laws about behaviour.

You said first that the Quaran says nothing about divorce, then later you said the Quaran says three strikes you're out. Which is it. Or are the rules simply a whim of people who wrote books? Thanx

Question please, if you are divorce by your husband, are you supposed to stay in the house for three months ?

So some scholars view men divorcing their wives three times in one setting as to only count as one, whereas other scholars would say it means she is permanently divorced. Which view is correct, and why wouldn't Allah make this super clear for Muslims so that they wouldn't have to suffer with this? What if the husband's family viewed the triple divorce thing to be a permanent divorce but the wife's family didn't? What resolves this difference in interpretation?

5:45 The interviewer is asking a very good question here and Dr Shabir failed to answer it adequately. He mentions other solutions for women to obtain a divorce but doesn't explain why women don't have the right to divorce their husbands the same way husbands do, so he didn't answer the question but seemed to be answering a different question which is more along the lines of " what can women do if they want a divorce then? ".

When the rumor regarding the Prophet's divorce spread, Hazrat Omar went to Hazrat Hafsa and asked if that was true. She was crying and said, "I DON'T KNOW!" How's that possible? The only explanation is that she did not know if the divorce was actually filed officially or not. I believe there was a process in place for REGISTRATION of both the marriage and divorce, and that meant a compulsory mediation of authorities in case either party wants a divorce. A sect of Muslims have been carrying out this practice even today. It ensures equality and removes any misuse of "right" to divorce.

Can someone please guide me as how to get a divorce from a man I cannot speak to due to a restraining order?

its funny someone will like has assumed that something that has been mentioned on more than one page something highlighted in quran also discussed in many hadith and has been discussed in many books is nothing but a recommendation

In the wake of the Birmingham Quran manuscript news story of 2015, Gabriel Said Reynolds, professor of Islamic Studies and Theology, published a commentary clarifying the unique differences between extant ancient Qur'an copies. He defines the lower text of the Sana'a palimpsest as ”a rare Qur’anic palimpsest - a manuscript preserving an original Qur’an text that had been erased and written over with a new Qur’an text.” Reynolds explains that the lower script of the Sana'a palimpsest ”has so many variants that one might imagine it is a vestige of an ancient version that somehow survived Uthman’s burning of all versions of the Qur’an except his own.” He concludes this finding is problematic because the Sana'a variants ”do not match the variants reported in medieval literature for those codices kept by companions” of Muhammad. Furthermore, Reynolds affirms the ”Sanaa manuscript... is almost certainly the most ancient Qur’an manuscript [and] contains a surprising number of variants, including completely different words.” Reynolds concludes that the Sana'a manuscript is ”our most ancient manuscript of the Qur’an [and] does not agree with the standard text read around the world today.”[27] However with the radiocarbon-dating of the Birmingham Quran manuscript to before the year 645 with a 95.4% accuracy, the latter is believed to be older then the Sana'a manuscript, and is seen as the oldest Quran manuscript.[28] Moreso, the discovery of a Quran manuscript by the University of Tübingen in 2014 also proved to date from the early second half of the 7th century.[29] A more recent study of one of the most ancient Quran manuscripts by François Déroche was the Codex Parisino-petropolitanus, containing 46% of the text of the Quran,[30] dated to the early second half of the 7th century,[31] from around the same as the Sana'a manuscript.

times have changed .. day and night difference

Islamic law is the first legal system recognising the right of the wife to seek dissolution of marriage. There are many types of dissolution that the wife could seek. First, khuluk which the wife proposes to the husband to pronounce talaq with monetary consideration provided by her. Second, talaq ta'lik where the husband breaches conditions attached to the ta'lik. As an example, if the condition states that talaq will occur if the husband fails to pay maintenance, then talaq will occur. Third, fasakh where the wife could ask for dissolution if for instance, there are abuses commited by the husband. In essence, both Islamic and Civil legal system make it difficult for divorce to occur because in principle, both do not encourage divorce.

If you are getting married in the west, you should strongly consider a prenup unless you want kufr laws over the Shariah

If you legally separated but not divorced yet its haram to go with another woman or woman with another man?

Mr Shabeer Ally is a real gentle, with no temper(in general we do not see in debate as muslim), learned, above all a respectable man. Yes-- he knows a lot. I like him. But does he confirm himself to stand before The All Mighty as forgiven (sinless) & that joy can Mr ally express from his deep down heart now. When he is alone ----. If not,let him KNOW the truth, let him kneel down and cry out. Mr Ally is very humble man what I saw him all the time of his speeches.

He says divorce is good for women this gives them freedom from husband abuse, what beautiful way of telling that divorce is good for women.Plus she has to wait 3 months,in between 3 month if the husband wants her, he can take Her back

How does Islam not work anymore. Islam is exactly the same. It is we who keep changing nd wanting and having big needs and expectations.

Its said in hadith n quran : if its mentioned in contract then women can divorce men.. Thts why saudi gets persmission to women 2020

I actually think there's a reason for a woman to go firstly to a religious authority. Because she decided to divorce for a reason, almost no one would like to divorce a good and kind person, so the man could initiate a scandal or even a domestic violence.

Asalamu aleykum, i know this is off topic but i like ur dress sister. 😊

Every single divorce has idda.... Do you think 3 divorce in one sitting are 3 or one.... What I understand is one sitting u can divorce 1 time then there is idda period.. If man n women revoke in idda period they r husband wife... If idda pass then they can arrange new nikah if they want to live as husband n wife...but this divorce stay as no 1...next time divorce will be no 2...Please explain in detail

If the wife has a valid reason to ask divorce (husband is sterile) does she still have to give her gold jewellery back? The husband took all the gold jewelry by force from the daughter of a friend of mine and he does not want to give her divorce even though she has legit reason to have one and now she has to try to get it via court and those would be great help to pay a lawyer. I am not sure if the Surah 2 verse 229 is also "talking" about this or not and I think that I have read somewhere that the wife should have compensation for the time they have been married. 🤔

Dr. Shabit Ally's answers created more questions than he tried to answer the question; in my view. Not happy with his explanation. His answers will play directly into the hands of Munafiq and Mushrik. He should have done a better job here or reserved his answers for some detailed explanation than asking to do Ijthihad on such a serious matter. I was expecting more from him but got disappointed.

Salam Dr. Shabir Ally! One my Danish coworker asked me. If a man be come shahid he will get 72 women in Janat. What about women!? It is serious question that he trying to find the answer.

Yes it is unfair be real men and woman should go threw the same process as each other and men should not get the children in a divorce did they go threw the pain can they breast feed men had the fun part woman has to deal with it everyday the weight gain would GOD give the child to the men or woman ask yourself that he maid woman nurturing

Khulʿ (Arabic: خلع [xʊlʕ], "deposition"/"luxation"), also called khula, is a procedure through which a woman can divorce herself from her husband in Islam, by returning the dower (mahr) and everything she received from him during their life together, or without returning anything, as agreed by the spouses or judge's ...

Please help. If a woman is divorced and does not have any child. For how long husband is responsible for her maintenance?? If it is only for 3 months like duration of Iddat, It does not see fair. As the woman does not job skills and hard for her to find job in market.

Also saying 3 talaq at one time is still considered 1.

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Islam is a full package of life, here & hereafter.Muslims have to know Ref..Quran Majeed & Adees -e- Nabvi PBUH.When ever any part of the marriage life become hell,even try& give each other chances?Then Divorce & Khulla( man give or women ask) We pray Majority of Muslims Marriages remain strong.If divorce rate is 5% or 10% in Muslims Community its ok.Its Halal.We need Halal credit unions also. Thanks to sharing.

So you take the advice of your lord or the scholars? Dr Ally is put in a corner with this topic and he is struggling to justify nonsense rules. Yet again he talks about the historical context of the Quran. You really need to make up your mind. It's a historical book for the archives or a revelation for all time but it can't be both.

Why not like man, woman do not get the one strike your out.

even if it's a recommendation that's still literal. that depends on how the the command is given. all of these are from Usul Fiqh. these aren't problems and aren't examples and doesn't answer the question with all due respect

What? This is not nice rules for women.

I think, Dr. Shabir Ali after spending almost 12 minutes, could not scratched the surface of the issue. I recommend him to go through the book "Talaq Do Us Part" By Zia us Salam.

Honestly the islamic rule makes so much sense like even though all it takes to divorce your wife according to the islamic law is to tell her that she’s divorced, the divorce rates in islamic countries are the lowest in the world.

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Its culture of tht time.... so allah restricted into 3.... I have question "why allah nt ban this".. Can i say its sexiest??

If husband marriage another woman, does wife can divorce him?please give me answer.

times have changed .. like way day and night difference

In Qur'an there is a explanation how men can divorce his wives but no explanation for wife to divorce her husband.why?

Wow. Let's be careful. My take away from this is he is saying that we can follow the Quran when it's convenient and not to follow it if it's not, according to how we feel at the time. I think there was no strong answer given here and only added confusion for many people. As a Muslim, you must follow the Quran and Sunnah as it is applicable for all times. Are there moments when a fatwa (ruling amongst the scholars) can be given for certain circumstances that would require such a ruling? Yes. Like consuming intoxicating substances. Normally you would not be allowed to take it. However, if you are going into surgery, then it is understood that you are allowed to take it to relieve you of pain and even Prevent death, etc. What should also have been discussed and was really not mentioned here, is that a woman is indeed allowed to seek divorce given that there is legitimate reasons. And those reasons can be as simple as she is not attracted to her husband - from my understanding. If she seeks divorce on a whim or seeks it due to her husband following Islamic teachings, then that is not a legitimate case for seeking divorce. For example, if a woman seeks divorce from her husband because he is telling her to keep covered properly, or to be home at a certain time, then that is not legitimate. And yes these examples I have personally observed. It is the man's responsibility and right over the woman that Your creator has given him. As he has given the woman different rights and responsibilities. If you don't see the wisdom in what your lord has decreed, that's your issue, not his mistake. What will we question next? Why God has made women cover up more than men, Is it fair? Why did God make me a man, should I have the right to have a sex change? Point is that it becomes endless. If you think that you know better than God, then you are no longer a Muslim. Just making this comment, but not accusing anyone that they fall under this. But we must be very careful. The Prophet Mohammad, Please be upon him, said, If you follow 2 things, you will never go Astray. The Quran and his Sunnah. So why are we even debating whether to follow the rulings in the Quran or not? Unless certain rulings have been abbrograted, they were meant to be followed in all times. And Allah, subhanallah hu wat'ala, knows best.

Most of the comments are just spreading hatred. Theyve never experienced a real Divorce so they know nothing.. They are not Judge/lawyer. They are just Keyboard warriors lol.. Dr. Shabir is just talking like an open book.. So you need to study it more depends on your situation.

Can a Man remarry his wife after divorcing her first time after first three mensurational cycles of month by giving new Martial money

So let me get this straight a man can divorce a woman 3 times then someone else Marries her then he divorce her and then she can marry the first guy she divorces 3 times. Wow that's deep and disturbing.

There is a Surah dedicated to divorce

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The wife of Thabit bin Qais came to the Prophet and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I do not blame Thabit for defects in his character or his religion, but I, being a Muslim, dislike to behave in un-Islamic manner if I remain with him." On that Allah's Apostle said to her, "Will you give back the garden which your husband has given you as Mahr?" She said, "Yes." Then the Prophet ordered to Thabit, "O Thabit! Accept your garden, and divorce her once."[4]

He says the divorce laws as as per the norms of that time and current day scholars refuse to think that way and still refer to old ways. Agreed. Then how Muslims keep saying Quran is eternal? Whether you like it or not Quran is nothing but the does and don'ts of that days Arabian socienty and sugar coated with the bigest single point of failure that IT IS FROM GOD.

Dear Br. Islam is very clear and well established about Divorce. You make divorce sound like having a breakfeast, so lightly and normal. Muslims are marrying and having families from the start of Time of Adem AS. You should just state the facts and educate the muslims about these truths, not according to our own and our societies whimps. I hear many of you 'sheiks" talking about this hadith related to the lady of "Sabit". You "imams" have to clearly communicate the specific situation of their marriage and asking Rasulallah SAV for divorce. Do you not know the full story or you are hiding it on purpose. Q. When did she found Sabit not attractive, starting from what time, before the marriage or after the marriage. Do not you know that most divorces are filed by women. They do not need your encouragment to go and file for a divorce. Fear Allah. Do not miss guide the believers under the cover of beard and being an Imam or a Shaikh.

can women become the head of Islam majit?

This is Arabic culture which is followed this is not from God.how can God be that bad

Divorce is not allowed in islam for women if they have not suffered physical or emothional abuse. Most imams will not agree to divorce without these types of conditions for women, whereas men dont need any excuses. So situations like mentioned here about not being in Love with her husband, under islam law, you dont have the right to divorce. I have heard so many imams talk about this, and everytime it comes to this. But i believe men and women, doesnt matter what religion or culture, arent fully educated on marriage. Although it seems islamic stay away from sin for sisters, please think about yourself and the double standards you might face if you end up in a divorce. If anyone has more info about this please share. So we can talk about these very serious issue that surround women in islam. There is more discussion on youtube about what to do on wedding night then these issues, and we need to change that together.

This man has never go straight to the point the question is, have islam fairly in issues of divorce as Islam claim advocate for women's rights

Is he seriously saying women aren't allowed to divorce in Islam? That's just not true. The prophet let a women divorce her husband because she said "I can't stand to see his face". It's easier in Islam for a women to get divorced than a man because they don't have to give a reason.

It’s unfair to men if anything

I think there is an even an balanced approach in Islam and their are different pros and cons for a husband or a wife ending a marriage. I don't believe a divorce rules are 'unfair' to women - I think they're just difficult to invoke whether you are a husband or a wife. Example - a husband can only divorce his wife after living with her for 3 complete menstrual cycles - that's tough - supporting someone while you have made the decision to divorce. Similarly if an Islamic Judge grants a woman a divorce - it happens instantaneously. I think the title of this youtube video is a bit misleading.

Why a women is taking this interview face to face?

The man pays in a marriage. The dowry is a must that a man must pay If divorce right was given to women then they would take the money and run away

What if the wife is being mentally harresed

on many occasions Ally comes across as being very progressive and critical, but somehow sticks to traditional rulings; without examining them. Does the quran not speak about women initiating the divorce?! See baqarah 229... Even in the hadeeth it is mentioned, thabit bin qas' wife habiba divorced him. Do read this article islamandquran org/fatwas/the-women%E2%80%99s-right-to-divorce-iftida.html

i am very disappoint hearing your views on this....it doesn't matter what conservative or little liberal scholar thinks you have to follow the Qur'an in essence. divorce is last resort in Islam..there are various ways to settle dispute between husband and wife. we have educate Males of society what is the correct way of divorce. and not to change the command of Allah (swt) there's enough provision for wife to ask for divorce where's the Injustice in this??

This man is clearly going against the quran and sunaha may allah guide him to the path

I think this conversation somewhat portrays Islam in a negative and defensive light. Almost as if, Islam should apologies for its stance on some of the key fundamentals of society, such as marriage and divorce. Lest we forget, it was the same rulings that produced one of the most vibrant and successful societies in human civilisation. We should be proud of our history, not be apologetic. The problems in today's society isn't Islam, rather absent of it. Allah knows best.

Reasonably my eye, a complete lie.

Islam doesn’t force a woman to stay in bad marriages. If she isn’t happy, she can ask for a divorce or go to Imam to nullify the divorce.Allah is Most Wise.If a woman is given upper hand in divorce matters, everyday would be a divorce day due to nature of women being very emotional in the heat of the moment and think with their hearts instead of their heads. No offense. Correct me. Wabillahi Tawfiq

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Women and Islam is like Black n Slavery.....

I disagree with Dr Ally’s narrative about divorce laws or any other laws for that matter need to be re-interpreted for the modern era. It assumes the modern is somehow a “good” development for society. Stats show women initiate divorce in 70% of cases i.e. given the opportunity women would single handed account for the majority of family break-ups. This is clearly not desirable. Hence the wisdom in allowing the right to divorce to men alone who are very unlikely to actually use the right. It allows for far more stable family structures in society. Dr Ally again appears to fall foul of the post modernist narrative about what the real nature of the human species is. There surely is an absolute truth and current society is surely far removed from it.

Be serious about eternity. Islam and Christianity cannot both be right. God has given you an intelligent mind. Used it and carry out a deep analysis of the Quran and Mohammed’s life and ask God to guide you. You will come to the conclusion that Mohamad could not have been a prophet of God and the Quran could not have been from God. Don’t let anyone deceive you. Heaven is real and hell is real. Eternity is a mighty long time. Choose where to spend it my friends. Don’t move with the crowd to hell. Pause, think and do your own research. Don’t trust anyone to do it for you. For 1400 years your sheikhs have been lying to you. Now with internet you can verify what you have been told. Make use of Google and search the internet. Start with: is Mohamed a true prophet of God Almighty/ life history of Mohamed.and Contradictions in the Quran. Life history of Jesus. Also Google the Teachings of Mohamed compared with the teachings of Jesus. You will be more informed. I have personally done this and the conclusion was that Mohamed could not have been a prophet of The Most High and Holy God and The Quran is full of contradictions and mistakes that it is clear that it could not have been from The Almighty God that knows everything and cannot make mistakes.

Women just don’t get married, stay single and independent and lonely

Jesus said let no one get divorce. What God joined no one has the power to divorce

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم The way they speak about the Quran is kufr. we definitely can NOT take any advice from then any more. The matter of divorce is not unclear and to say it needs rethinking is to say Allaah, Lord of mercy, failed and his book is outdated. وَمَا كَانَ لِمُؤْمِنٍ وَلَا مُؤْمِنَةٍ إِذَا قَضَى اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَمْرًا أَنْ يَكُونَ لَهُمُ الْخِيَرَةُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِمْ ۗ وَمَنْ يَعْصِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ ضَلَّ ضَلَالًا مُبِينًا (Sahih International) It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error. -Sura Al-Ahzab, Ayah 36

Salaam I will no longer listen to this brother as many of his answers are either apologetic or un-Islamic. Women have the right to divorce in Islam as he said but he made it sound like its unfair as if Allah is unjust. Allah knows us better than ourselves and he knows the best for us. We should listen to legitimate Islamic scholars and not this brother.