Every time someone compares a romantic/sexual partner to a parent, Freud's ghost becomes more powerful

As the father of a four-year-old I must inform you that “Little Miss believe in traditional marriage”is in fact “Little Miss helpful“ who is characterised by sticking her nose in where it’s not wanted, interfering in situations that she’s not qualified to have an opinion on and generally making the world around her worse.

It's always "Are the straights okay", never "Are the gays okay?" like bitch, of course I'm not, I fell up a flight of stairs

The baby clothes are disgusting, but the thing that’s frustrating me most having a 3 month old niece? She’s got more pockets on her clothes than her mum.

Jamie has raised a brilliant point: Why is hating one’s partner or spouse a personality trait?

I would unironically get my trans masc friend the man birthday card

My cousin just got married, and his wedding included: sermons about marriage being the greatest importance and between a man and a woman; vows for his wife to submit, serve, and obey him; and her father's speech about her purity as a prize for her husband. Oh and the wedding was their first kiss. Can't believe this shi still happens... 😰🤢

My 3yo daughter was proposed by her friend (also a girl). They began dacing "like on Cinderella" and said they were getting married. We thought it was cute, they obviously don't know what a marriage is and were just imitating the movie. But we had 2 really upset grandparents in the room. I kept wandering if they would be equally upset if it was a boy and a girl.

One of the biggest lgbq rights defendor I met, was a granny that spent all her time and money at church. For her, love is love and she would defend it. A lovely and kind lady.

The whole "I hate my spouse" thing makes me want to gag, but it simultaneously makes me wonder if some of these people in straight marriages are unaware/closeted non-cishet people. Perhaps they were victims of hetero/amatonormativity themselves, thinking they had to/being forced to marry someone of the opposite sex, but they don't actually love the person they're with. My dad thinks this could have happened to his mom, who he suspects was aro/ace despite getting married to his dad, because they fought a lot and she didn't seem very happy in her life or her relationship. Food for thought I guess.

"These babies will marry each other one day!" What is this, the Sims 4? (Great video as always, commentary is top-tier!)

Every day I am so tremendously grateful to be an asexual lesbian

The one with the babies who are apparently going to be married one day just reminds me of all the times growing up that the adults in my life gushed about how I was definitely going to end up with either one of my two best friends who I've known since we were about 3. Now we're all in our late 20s and it turns out Friend #1 is very happily married to my cousin and they have a baby together, Friend #2 is aro/ace, I'm bi/ace (and transmasc) with no current interest in being in a relationship with anyone and the one time me and Friend #2 actually brought up the possibility of dating each other when we were teenagers, we both immediately agreed it would be much too weird because it felt like we were more like siblings. Moral of the story: shipping babies/infants is weird as hell and it almost certainly won't work out so just...don't.

I want an adult sized version of that future hooters girl shirt... just to clarify i am a 30 YO burly hairy man... just love making straights cringe xD

The "I'm a boob man" baby onesie is so funny to me because "boob man" sounds like something funny a trans guy would call himself as a joke😭😭. 11:48

"Yogurt from a bull would taste very strange." I'm glad I wasn't drinking anything at that moment

10:05 My mom had a take that flipped this idea on its head: The women can wear the men's shoes in an emergency. The reverse cannot be said. Which, if you think about it, could be used as a metaphor, at least for how society treats men. While it's getting better, not enough men are taught the stereotypically "feminine" homemaking skills, like cooking, cleaning, basic sewing for clothing repair, etc. Edit: Said talking instead of taught somehow

That one about the baby’s was literally me with a child hood boy friend. My mom was so happy that I “liked him” but when I told her I had a girlfriend she was like well your too young

1:59 A lot of the okay straights marriage t-shirts were stuff along the lines of "Another player has joined the server" "Now playing Team Mode" "Achievement Unlocked: Marriage" cute stuff like that. I always hated the game over ones, they were just ridiculous.

"Being religious doesn't mean that you can't be LGBT+ accepting" I mean, yeah, I'm a Christian, and I'm also proudly bisexual, demisexual and genderfae. When I first came out as bi, this channel really helped me to embrace that part of myself. It was a hard journey, especially with friends in high school that forced me further into the closet. It's always nice to look back and remember how far I've come. Thank you, Jamie, as always.

I feel like having a "man birthday" could be a wholesome trans thing

the fairytale "farted whenever he wanted" bit has me laughing cause my bf and I have conditioned each other to both say "i love you" after one of us farts and then laugh about it together like a bunch of school children.

As an autistic person, I find comfort in the trans community. The feeling of society being intolerant of the fact that people can experience life differently really resonates with my own experiences. I too feel like what I looked like at birth does not accurately portray how I feel inside, and I’ve faced intolerance when “coming out” about my autism to new people, so I’m able to have a great amount of empathy for this community. It’s always fascinated me how the autism and lgbt+ communities are such natural allies. Also, my autism makes my communication style a bit blunt, so apologies if I phrased anything insensitivity. I’m posting this comment with the intent of being supportive and positive ❤

And they accuse us of sexualising children.

As a happily married person, I have to say having separate blankets in bed has been wonderful for us! We don’t find sharing blankets romantic, it’s just irritating when one of us wants a thick blanket, one wants a thin blanket, or worse when we both want to cocoon in it! Now we enjoy snuggling up in our own appropriately comfy blankets and happily share a bed 😊 It’s always disheartening when these subreddits are done, but they are interesting.

5:50 “Nobody actually wants a blanket this big.” I BEG TO DIFFER! I would love a blanket that big to have a picnic on without the fear of itchy grass! Or to be able to cover me and 3 of my friends chilling on the couch! Or to lay on one end and roll myself up in the ultimate blanket burrito! I would love a blanket that big! … They should advertise it in a way other than using this meme, though.

I'm a woman, and most of the men I've dated have been quicker on the relationship timeline than I have. The "men don't want committment and women want to get married immediately" thing is so dumb. I've seen the Bible study/shoes one before, and that's literally what young Christian girls are taught to think, that the man will always be the head of the household and you have to support and accept his decisions subserviently and pamper him because of it, basically. It's gross. If that's your choice, fine, but don't tell others how to have a marriage. Equality or bust, I say!

"A man in love acts like a child. A woman in love acts like a parent." How utterly Sigmund Freud of you

Congrats on you and Shaaba's wedding!!!

As the queer pastor of a queer-affirming church, thank you for acknowledging our existence. The hateful churches give us such a bad rap. Now we just need more churches proclaiming the beautiful beloved-ness of all people to drown out the hate ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Idk I think the man birthday card could be really nice to celebrate a trans man's transition anniversary

The one about the dating timeline just cracks me up. At a year into our relationship, my now-fiance and I were still frantically telling our friends that _no,_ we weren't a couple! We're just friends...who happen to spend almost every day together, and cuddle, and sometimes kiss...but it's totally platonic, seriously! This pretty much went on until the point where I went away to university, and he decided to go to the same uni the next year, so that we'd graduate together. It's now 17 years later, and we're only just now beginning to talk seriously about marriage!

the way he smiled while talking abt having just been married is absolutely phenomenal, best of luck in yet everything to come within your marriage jamie and shaaba

4:46 I mean, I'm a lesbian but my girlfriend gets me to make most big decisions because I've been looking after myself since I was 15, 13 years ago, and she's still getting ready to leave her mum's house (smart, honestly) so I have a lot more experience than her, while I get her to make smaller decisions because I get choice paralysis if it's something relatively inconsequential. It can take me 4 hours or more to decide between one dish and another for dinner any given night. Relationships work well when you fit strengths to weaknesses. If she's the better book keeper, let her do the finances, if you're the one home in the hour or two before dinner, make dinner, if you discuss the things you are and aren't good at then you can create a well functioning relationship where each person gets to play to their strengths- making everything better.

the Handmaid's tale pic: I'm genuinely convinced a certain portion of the population took that book as a goal instead of a warning.

I love it every time Jamie uploads.Makes me feel more gay

Some are but some are dangerously scary

I walked into my University Queer Student Union, turned on my phone and saw that Jamie posted 🥰 amazing 🌈 UPDATE: SOMEONE ELSE IN THE ROOM IS ALREADY WATCHING THIS VIDEO!! 🥰 community bonding activity

I'm a boob man. Like, I really have no choice, since I can't seem to lose any weight and so I'm stuck with them.

That awkward moment when you're trying to prove that women are unfit to do men's work and his work shoes fit you perfectly.

As a Chrisitan, it really upsets me when I see and hear other Christians being transphobic and homophobic; how are we showing God's love to everyone and discriminating and hating others for somethings not under their control. It just doesn't make sense to me, especially as I have many close friends that are LGBTQIA+, and am part of the community myself, it just baffles me how people who claim to do things in Jesus' name, can be so stubbornly ignorant and scorn and exclude others just for something that doesn't impact them

Nope, the straights continually go out of their way to show how very not OK they remain. I'm SO glad Jamie is here to help us laugh our way through the muck and mire! Yay Jamie. Nice new ring addition, Jamie! Congrats again on your wedding

I once read a book on wattpad. About two boys falling in love. Their families were super religious and they were so scared to come out. But when they did, it turned out that their mothers had fantasized about how it would be if their kids got married, and they never really stopped even when both turned out to be boys. It was kinda wholesome (their dads where rude af tho)

That whole "shoes" thing is: 1, pure BS. Never happened. 2, profoundly stupid and insulting. Women telling other women they're not and can't be good enough, makes my blood boil. Love you, Jamie!

Why do I feel like the father who bought the "future hooters girl" onesie /the guy who gifts it to his friend(s) is gonna be the same individual that posts a photo on Facebook with his rifle and his teen daughter threatening to destroy whoever comes near his precious princess.

As a lot of folks know, from experience or child development classes or whatever, babies can't focus past their noses. I've seen people lay down actual newborns with their heads tilted toward each other, cooing about how they're in love and bound to get together. I've never been comfortable with this, but it feels worse as I learn more of the wide world. I also take issue with the straight culture ideas of marriage, or even relationships as a terrible fate, and the merchandising that's sprouted from that idea. I know a lot of couples who should've never dated - let alone married - and it's usually their members yelling at me to chill when I point out how messed up something is...

7:48 This is so true! I hate how when men say they could ''steal your girl'' like it's an object that mindlessly follows the strongest alpha male energy in the room.. smh

The sending pictures of her husband leaving garbage around reminds me of my mom and her friend. My dad sadly passed away just under a year ago, and though my moms friends husband is verbally abusive, so valid to need to talk about that, she complained without wondering about how my mom was feeling, as someone who doesn't even have the chance to complain about the one she loves anymore.

"Anything you do to him I'll do to you" takes on a different meaning when you think about it for too long... To me, it sounds like whoever wrote that might be a little bi and into her daughter-in-law; lashing out from inside the closet. Maybe I'm over-thinking this lol

One of my million pet peeves was school having the ‘Boys vs Girls’ Divide.

Just wanted to share that I'm sitting here recovering from my top surgery. Your videos were a big help with me feeling ok with transitioning at a bit of a later age (mid- thirties)

Controversial opinion 2: Even when sharing a bed, I prefer my own blankets because I like to burrito, and because I sleep better without being disturbed by the inevitable tug-o-war of sharing.

I personally find the hundred foot blanket an amazing idea because then you can both completely cocoon like a burrito in the same blanket and still be touching to watch movies together on the couch and no one will have to have their toes be cold

I have a bunch of straight friends and can confirm, they are not okay. But to be fair, none of my friends are okay. Or me.

Thank you Jamie for being such a good role model and for being here as a safe place for lgbtq+ people! Love from one trans guy to another! 💙💗🤍💗💙

@ 9:20 Weird that these people are unaware that work boots come in literally every size.

I guess some guys think that woman in love is like a mother cuz they are such AH that only their mothers loves them.

ok but I think the "happy man-birthday" one would be funny to give to a trans guy on the anniversary of his coming out or starting t or something

Who the hell thinks "future hooters girl" is appropriate for a baby? That's not even funny as a joke. That's so gross.

Daily reminder! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You are valid and amazing just the way you are!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

My late husband enjoyed our marriage, because he *liked* me. I really enoyed our marriage, because I *liked* him. He made me laugh. I always made more than my dear straight husband and neither of us gave a fig.

The funny thing about the emoji movie image in that one “meme” is that it wasn’t a picture of an actual canonical couple it way the protagonist and the antagonist

I laughed when you said the yard sale at least was a trans ally 😂😂 I always love your videos Jamie! (Also congrats on your marriage!)

I put on the shoes of my friend that was the same gender as me and they were too big. I could never carry the responsibility they have in life, because the bigger your feet are, the more responsibilities you have.

The town I live in held its first ever pride event last month. The local cathedral were there in support of the event, with representatives including clergy. It gives me hope for the future.

My partner, who is straight: "No, The Straights are not okay." Me, bi-romantic aesthetically attracted ace: *Blinks in confusion at The Straights*

They seem to think everything different is a direct attack on how they live their lives.

So... my husband and I have the black version of that blanket (the one that you said looked like lettuce). It's amazing. We cuddle up with our son on the couch to watch My Neighbor Totoro together.

Minister to women wearing their husbands shoes "See how they are too big and make you uncomfortable when you wear them!" Women: Pulls a couple of pairs of socks from their bags, "Na, this is a problem I can fix without him 😉"

The whole like marriage is actually like bad stuff makes me wonder if the people that make those ACTUALLY love each other 😂 The answer is always no, no they don't

This may have already been said somewhere, but to answer Jamie's question, the last line of the shirt at 8:08 is "Yes, he bought me this."

Don’t worry straights, I’m not okay either 💀

The "yogurt from a bull would taste funny" line took me out! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Comparing a romantic relationship with a parent-child relationship has always been one of the things I never really understood. Funny thing is, where i live, people seem to have long accepted it as a fact or sth, it's even weirder when they literally have an old saying about the whole thing.

If my husband's mother had a sign like that in her house I would have read it, looked right at her and said, Right, then. I'm leaving, you can keep him. Lol

While I was watching this, I got a call from the hospital to scheduel my top surgery. Finally! I've waited for years. I can wait another 4.5 months, as long as I know it's happening.

I've actually seen ads for that blanket company, some of them are neat because they just show like a million people sharing a single blanket on a sofa or whatever. I also see ads for the blanket talking about blanket hoarders and blanket forts. Made me tempted to buy one except they're expensive and I'm fairly sure I'd get sick of it really quickly.

Hi Jammi. Congratulations on getting married recently. As a cis-het male who, in 2 weeks, will have been happily married for 10 years, I hope you both have many wonderful years together ahead!

I was going through my elementary school yearbook a few weeks ago and this sweet girl I remember WAS WEARING A FUTURE HOOTERS GIRL SHIRT. SHE WAS A PRESCHOOLER?? I WANTED TO CRY 😭

i want a blanket that big, can you imagine the blanket forts?!

Tired: Man Birthday Wired: Mirthday

I always find the church group trying to wear hunny's shoes/boots hilarious. That tells me most are short and don't have to hunt for shoes. I'm 5'11" and wear size 12½ women's/11 men's (43 Eur), which unfortunately is also the same size as a majority of the men in my area. 😂 I abhore clothes shopping, straight to the men's section every time!

That dead end one reminded me of a wedding cake I saw that was a *goth* design and it had

Somehow, it’s like the ‘Henpecked Husband’ and ‘Bored Husband’ Trope is never held accountable whether it’s Media or IRL.

7:16 I had an ex-BOYFRIEND who was like the 'women' side, we were barely 15/16 and had only been dating for about 2-ish months and he was already going on about 'when we have kids and how many'. Sooo not just women, anyone of any gender can be too clingy too quick in a relationship

Congratulations on your marriage I wish you both happiness and joy.

CONGRATS to you and the lovely Shaaba on your wedding! I saw the pictures and you two looked so adorable and happy and it made me so happy to see. I wish you two a long and happy marriage.

10:55 the first gay couple I met (I had met individual people that I knew about and probably many I didn't) was at church. One of them was a vestry member and the other lead some of the regular activities.

8:58 I’ve seen some pretty cringe signs but “whatever you do to him I will do to you” has to be the worst

Cis, het, midwestern U.S., middle aged stay at home mom here. Thank you for your “The Straights Are Not Alright” videos. I use them as conversation starters for our children (13 and 9,) about healthy vs. toxic gender attitudes and healthy vs. toxic relationship attitudes. Thank you. (Also, my feet are very small for my height. Most shoes are too big for me, so I could not even wear the shoes of my best woman friend, let alone my husband’s. What I learned early in life is that, with properly fitting shoes, I can do pretty much anything I need to do and be completely independent…They even make steel toed work boots in my size, go figure.)

I love your channel. After the exhaustion of Thanksgiving, I fell asleep to you listening you. My husband walked in and had zero problems. He he wanted to know more.

This is so concerning. I feel like, from what I am seeing, is that some relationships are becoming more toxic. It's sad to see that a couple can hate each other so much.

5:05 has the potential to be kinda cute if it's a loving running gag that both find funny. Not if used passive-aggressively tho!

I always watch your videos when I can’t fall asleep, you’re voice is very comforting to hear 😅❤

1:02 I would get this for someone’s transition anniversary

Congrats on the wedding! You and shaaba are very beautiful together! 💛

i am a straight and i am infact not ok

2:00 Id not heard lvl up, but theres a similar one "Welcome player two" which ofc leads into a common theme of many marriages; "Player three has entered the fight!" (which usually means a baby but can also mean a polycule lol)

My husband and I literally wear the same size shoes (although they're numbered differently because mine are "women's" and his are "men's." *eyeroll*

1:41 The lack of self-awareness is encyclopaedic.