I'm a procastinating perfectionist its something that I have been a little more aware of since the last 3 years but as you said. Not in everything. I became aware because I love crafts and sculpting. I have done so many sculptures, for me that are there an perfect but then I started a sculpture 4 years ago, it was meant to be a gift for my best friend who I have so much love and respect for and he's always complaining that the figures he finds of his favorite game are really expensive or just of bad quality. It's not a big one mind you. maybe 15x30 At first as I progressed on it I was making big steps because I always kept postponing the parts that stressed me out the most. So I have a well built skeleton. 90% complete. First it started because I didnt have the materials for the last details, even though I had been doing just fine with the ones that I had. Suddenly I kept doing other things instead of taking time to get the material that I said I needed. I don't know how much more I would have postponed it until my best friend came in and said "You been saying you needed it but didnt have time so I went in and bought it for you" At that moment for some reason I became so stressed even though I was very grateful. Suddenly I had the means to continue but I wasn't able to for some reason. And guess what happened next. I started over. Suddenly the new material I had was too different and didn't match the existing sculpture style. Once again I found myself doing so much progress in so little time and when it came back to the part I got stuck on I pushed through but soon enough I found something else. It's so frustrating because not everybody understands they just say "Then just complete it like it is, use what you have already have. It's just abit of paint" For them it's 99% complete. For me its always 90% complete. And even being aware of it I find myself stuck.

I honestly thought I wasn't a perfectionist, and then you mention procrastination perfectionist and it just hit me everywhere, in all the corners. I'm always afraid of doing wrong or answering questions wrong so I end up either not doing them or waiting until the very last minute to scribble something down. When I'm hired to do drawings for people, I freeze up, because it needs to be perfect for them and I take the longest time to even start doing a sketch. Doing art is something I love doing, but it's also something I do so little of because it might turn out bad.

Goodday to you dr. Georgia!! I'm fan of your channel and i just wanted to say that i appreciate all the effort you put into your work. You're an amazing person >:3

Even though I'm not a TRUE perfectionist, I do have a lot of perfectionist tendencies. This video helped remind me that not everything I make is going to be perfect, no matter how hard I try. I try not to have perfectionist thoughts, but they do come up, so to actually hear it's okay to not have everything be perfect is such a reliever. I can't worry if what I make is good enough. I just have to make it the best I can. It's not going to be perfect, but that's okay. Nothing is.

I was wondering if you could do a video on "Not Feeling Good Enough" and/or if there is something to maybe deal with setbacks from doing your hardest, but then constantly being overlooked at to the point you feel you aren't good enough and maybe you do suck at your job when you thought you were contributing. Self-Doubt?

“No one is perfect” living up to its potential.

This was.... a very difficult video to watch through for me. Thanks anyways because I did need to hear a lot of this stuff, but it also was really tough to have all my current problems layed out so plainly. I'm working on myself, it's a process, and thank you for talking about this stuff.

Procrastination to avoid not doing something perfectly is my bread and butter haha.

Diagnosed with OCPD. Being perfectionistic is all-encompassing and exhausting. Never being able to rest until every little detail has been worked out and perfected is something that robs me of time, energy, sleep, joy... and even when I do get things to be at the standard I expect of myself, the passage of time is cruel and past accomplishments end up feeling inadequate and meh when I look back on them. I'm working on it in therapy but still can't help but laugh when my therapist says I don't have to be perfect 😅 Of *course* I have to be perfect, even as I know it's impossible. I can't let go of it, at least not yet. I'm not sure I even want to. I don't expect perfectionism in anyone else, but it's a very different story when it comes to how I judge myself. Thanks, childhood!

This made me cry for some reason. I think everything you said just hit a little too close to home. I was like this for a long while after lockdown happened in my state and it really screwed up my school life. Only until a few months ago did I slowly let go a little and not be so particular about everything. Now I just got a cat and I've been feeling a lot better, maybe because I'm so occupied with my pet but listening to this made me think back to that year of misery I gave myself and it hit hard.

Omg it hit me so hard when you mentioned the procrastinating perfectionism because I know it's a problem and I'm trying so hard to move past it by setting reminders and telling other people about a project so they'll hold me accountable but I just can't do it! Thanks for making videos xx

Thanks for another video 😀

Procrastinating perfectionism is something I struggled with for a long time without a name for it, and it really hurts when I make a mistake or people point out my underperformance.

Im curious what your opinion on the 16 different personalities are. Also, I enjoy the in depth perspective you give. Thank you for all your work.

Amazing video! It's incredible how much I related to all of this! Thanks for helping me understand myself!

Thanks for covering this subject. I enjoyed your video. Blessings on your day.

Great video, Georgia! I admit I have been a perfectionist for a while. I've pressured myself and your video is one that I can relate to. I've definitely avoided things out of worry about not doing good enough. I think it's made me avoid doing different things (like puzzles). And yeah, I know what you mean by how it adds a lot of stress and make us waste a lot of time on worrying about being 'perfect' instead of enjoying things and allowing failure. I've been slowly working on that and improving in some ways, but I have a ways to go. Your video helps though and got me to reflect more. It's very helpful. Have a great day :).

I'm definitely a perfectionist when it comes to writing. I started a story about 3 years ago, but I have yet to finish it because I can't seem to figure out how exactly the story should progress in order to get to my desired ending. I've become so addicted to videos about good writing vs poor writing that I'm terrified of messing up my story somehow, and that fear has paralyzed me for several months now. And I'm terrified that as a result I'll never be able to finish it. 😥

I'm definitely taking notes watching this video!!! Thank you for this!! 👏👏👏👏👏

I could listen to your videos. I love you voice and I love your breakdown of things. You have a very calming effect on me. It rekindles the wish that I would have gone in to psychology. Thank you for all you do!

Great video! I'm another procrastinating perfectionist, likely due to rejection sensitivity from ADHD. Also Georgia, Station Eleven (HBO) would be a really interesting show to hear you analyze! All sorts of characters dealing with trauma in very human ways, often through art.

Such an awesome channel

ive been trying to improve my mental health for over a month now, listening to mental health videos and podcasts including yours. i tried therapy but i haven't found the compatible one. And after watching this, ive learnt that im still a perfectionist at few things i don't want to be a perfectionist at. Thank you, because noticing it actually helps my healing process.

Thank you so much for making this video. Reading the comments makes me feel less alone :,))

Georgia, you may be a perfectionist based on the quality of your videos 👀

Hi Georgia, interesting video as always. Can't wait for the next arcane video !

Why your voice is so soothing? amazing

As a perfectionist myself, you unlocked a bit of my freedom, Thank you so much Georgia! I love you so much as a person too & I'm big fan of your Hazbin Hotel videos! You are amazing keep it up :)

"So worried a out failure that they avoid doing something until the last minute or don't do it at all." It feels like you're speaking directly to me. This entire video... T_T

The procrastination is actually I think either for me either ADHD or perfectionism. I just can’t do something if its not the way I pictured it, if its nit grand and like a hit. And if idk how to even achieve it then I don’t try. But I know others won’t be happy either way… idk I still need it to be the way I pictured it and I need it to be good. And most days I just don’t have the energy and also I noticed that I get probably the dopamine of thinking about an idea Im never going to do. But theres always regret cus the idea is so great but it takes way too much time cus its beyond my knowladge or to grand to do alone.

Being a high functional autistic with a deep sense to constantly improve myself. I need to cut back on my self criticism. It's mentally draining trying to always be reliable and available socially. I need to make sure I come first for my mental health.

I really love your videos! I'd love to see a video about Impulsivity and ADHD

U need to react to eren yeager from attack on titan... You will need 10 videos or more for him for sure

I could grab a beer with you and listen about profession the whole time. Very interesting

I am a perfectionist and made me cry and the reason why I am a perfectionist is because I’ve been bullied ever since preschool because of that it made me push myself to be perfect and so I don’t have to go through it again because of that I am easy to get gaslight up, and cry. So I’m trying to stop being a perfectionist but it’s so hard for me and so thank you for getting me to work hard to stop my perfectionist of myself!

I’ve been putting off my big school project for this exact reason this video is helping me to actually just start rather than being scared (Also I love the Isabella inspired outfit )

I'm autistic and pretty much perfectionist. I am creating Mosaic at a workshop in the psychiatry and I hate that I have to work with imperfect material. And I end up repainting a lot of pieces because they have errors. My works end up pretty good even with the imperfactions I notice and struggle with, while others just find them beautiful regardless. I wish I could be less perfectionist but I also don't want to, making things as perfect as possible is satisfying. Unfortunately in most cases it takes too much energy.

My perfectionism ruined my career as an illustrator. It's hard to release an image when you personally know all the flaws in it. Nobody else sees it and it baffles me. When the deadline is in 30 minutes and you can't get the shading on the fingernail of a background character right, it's highly frustrating.

Your too underrated Georgia as a therapist of 20 years experience you sure don’t get immense amount of praisers but people who are follow your guidance and learn information from your videos For me my mental health is all time spiky though seeing you talk soothes my worry & troubles to a minimum

Time for the morning call out session! 😅 I needed it though lol. And this is why I will always jump to defend Isabella in Encanto 😭

Tank you.

Hey! I loved ur vids on Arcane and would love to see u do something like that with Shera! You could take a closer look at Catra and Adora or even Glimmer after the loss of her mother. I know the show has been around for a couple years now, but I‘d definitely still be interested. You can watch it on Netflix. ❤️❤️

I love all of your videos and I have to admit that they often really help me to understand myself a little bit more (: Are you also into analyzing Anime characters, just like you did with e.g. Arcane? I would love to see an analysis on characters of Neon Genesis Evangelion. So many interesting and diverse personas aswell as character developments.

Greetings Georgia, thank you for another spot on video. So a couple of bonus questions 😅 but if you have plans to do another videos then all good don't worry. First how many of the signs you just mentioned do you need have truly considered a perfectionist? Because I have a distinct feeling that I am one, Hard on self , negative self talk, critical to the things I'm doing, Making Mistakes ( I hate losing and stuff). Are.all things I have has in varying levels of intensity plus I really don't like it when people use or touch my belongings especially my electronics. I'm getting a handle on some of them but some days are just so 😵🤯. Anyway it's always a plesure to watch your videos. And sincerely thank you for taking the time to read or respond to your comments section 😊

wow, this hit too close to home. i wish i could adopt the “done is better than perfect” mindset, the “all or nothing” perfectionist one is exhausting and i keep getting worse. i'm 17, i can’t remember the last time i slept more than 5.30 hours during the week and i can’t help but force myself to wake up at 7:30 on weekends when i should be catching up on some rest. school is ruining me, i feel like it’s my only world and i hate it so much. i find myself wasting HOURS of my day on pointless details and i'm extremely slow in everything i do. if it takes 1 hours for my peers, it takes 3 for me. i once loved writing, now i almost despise it for this reason. i'm never done with my tests on time. one time i had a nightmare about scoring 8/10 on my history test (i have an average of 9.5/10). the only me-time i have is a netflix show or youtube video during lunch and dinner and i haven’t been engaging in any extracurricular activities since middle school. this is also disrupting my relationship with my loved ones: i lash out and can’t make time for my family or friends. yesterday i was so caught up in my own mess that i even forgot my dad’s birthday. i study all the time, often up to 11 hours on weekends. i can’t let it go, i'm clinging onto academic validation because i don’t have anything else to cling onto, i feel worthless and untalented. sorry, i needed to vent :,) thank you for your insights

This is such an interesting topic since it’s such a common concept yet it’s so bizarrely understood. I find perfectionism inherently defeatist and pessimistic. It’s not just a bad mindset because it sets unrealistic standards and expectations. The goal itself is bad. One way to view perfection is a state of flawlessness and supreme quality. Another way is to view perfection as a state where further improvement is impossible. That creates a damned if you and damned if you don’t dilemma. Falling short of a perfect goal is ripe for self-destructive thoughts but actually reaching that perfect goal is more disastrous. You mentioned perfection is impossible to reach but I would actually take that claim one step further. It simply doesn’t exist and it can’t exist. There is always room for improvement. A useful analogy would be the natural numbers. What is the largest natural number? What is the most perfect natural number that you can’t increase further? 10^100? Graham’s number? Rayo’s number? There is no such thing, you can always add one. Deductively this means a perfect goal is not actually perfect, and reaching that goal can trap you into no longer improving. Not good.

Damn, you're good!

I’m a perfectionist with things I really care for-so academics, sports,(so much so that I had to quit cause it made me so emotional) and people. If I’m not the best or if I’m not “good enough”, I’m “the worst”, “terrible,“stupid”, and any other negative comment you can think of. It’s so very tiring and I wish I could make it stop because it has stopped me from doing things I love. Example: sports. It makes things less enjoyable. So to people out there, you’re not alone. We are going through this together and I believe the little guy on our shoulder telling us these nasty words with disappear. Might take days, months or years but it’ll happen. Patience is key.

I’d watch it if you reacted on The last of Us 2 scenes next video Georgia Really delves emotionally between 2 conflicted stories of loss, pain, struggle & resilience

I've been a fan of ur videos for quite some time now. just wanna say keep doing what you're doing, cuz a lot of people like me really needs it. and if i may request for some contents, i would absolutely love to hear ur take on the characters of Clark Kent & Bruce Wayne from Man of Steel & Batman v Superman. 🙏

Hiya Georgia, your video helped me understand that Am a perfectionist! Am a baker, i've my own bakery and fews months ago one of my staff said to me that it was hard to work with me because i was a perfectionist and never satisfied. I wanna have a good produces in my bakery so i always try to do better. Maybe its also because am a woman and we always have to work a lot more than man if you wanna be respected in our work. I just need to found a happy balance for my staff...

I am a ADHDinist......i am everything a perfectionist could dream to be but i am plauged by everything a procrastinator always os

Hmm, I guess I am somewhat a perfectionist based on what you've just said, but not 100% lol. Does being an ISTJ has a connection on being a perfectionist or having some of its traits? Hope you can discuss about the MBTI personalities too in your future videos.

*anxiety over hoping to have perfectly understood this message and begin doing it...*

I can relate. To a point I question myself is it perfectionism or OCD

For me being a perfectionist comes from a place of caring. Like, if it's not perfect, it means that I didn't put my 100% in it; that I didn't care enough. That's why it's so difficult for me to let it go. For example, my mom told me to put the table, and then there's one plate out of order. I try to say things out loud like "It's not a big deal" "It's just a plate", but in my head it's like "So you don't care enough about putting the table right, will you just let it like this? You really don't care at all, huh" and then I will rush and put the plate in the exact same spot as the others. The same when I order my room, or even in my work. But I know it mainly comes from a place of caring about what people would say. I'm a people pleaser after all 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Hey, if you could do a video about being a People Pleaser and how, like, stop being one? xd It would really help a lot of people, me included 🙏🏻🙇🏻‍♀️

Don't cry. You're perfect. We all make mistakes. -Silco, the bestest "bad" dad there ever was

I always don't like tests and math and never know well in computer or dealing with tools or even using or even operate it or even use it that like those genius,i don't even know how to do everything,and i prefer everything must be perfect.love ur vids❤

Dang, I got read to filth in this video. 😂 (This video checks all the boxes)

I considered myself perfectionist because I like to think a lot about what could be rigth or wrong in my plans I know perfection is impossible but that's the funny thing, trying to reach something I would never get, truly mean something for me and when things aren't perfect is just step forward to perfection 😌 the trick is learn from imperfections and accepted as perfection wrong things that you can't control like society 🤷🏻‍♂️ good vídeos Georgia Dow! I hope the Best for you

😀😁love it!

My family imposed perfectionism. I learnt through art and sports about freedom, flexibility, probabilities and learning curve. The things they didn't relate to.

I was deeply upset a piece of software I coded in a corner office on shoestring budget was not as polished and feature laden as a major commercial product, so I think yes.

I have tendencies towards perfectionism, but honestly life is too short and I realized fairly early that there's no such thing as perfection any way. It's just too subjective of a concept. And sometimes imperfection is beautiful in itself. Imperfections mean variation and variation leads to the unique and interesting. If we all conformed to one person's idea of perfection we'd all live in the most boring mono culture.

Have you considered analizing attack on titan characters? They are quite convoluted (also popularity of the anime is high now and it is airing weekly)

In the universe of Warhammer and Warhammer 40k one of the evil chaos gods is Slaanesh. One of his/her aspect is perfectionism.

"Are a lot of your dreams about missing a piece to a puzzle?" Me who literally dreamt of an alien invasion recently: "Ehm...I guess that counts as no."

This week i dropped a course in the university as I didn’t feel able to do the final exam and project. One or two days later, I realized I could have perfectly done it :) but it was too late

The thing that trips me up the most about procrastinating is that having those deadlines actually showed me that I do have the capacity to put in the work in a very short amount of time... So why can't I just put that good skill to use at the very start of my project and need to wait until the last day to start working? Wild

“You are the head at the top of the ziggurat. Infinite stairs are unacceptable!!!”

Georgia Dow, is this in response to my suggestion a few days ago? I feel like you might be speaking about personal experience. And any insight into why you do such a good job not ever leaving me thinking “well that’s not right”. How important is personal introspection a useful tool for your profession? I understand you kind of addressed that in this video, but was there a cross roads where you realized you needed to take a hard look at yourself? I have a mind that is forever tangentializing. I’ve taken “putting myself in other’s shoes” to a constantly running algorithm in the back of my mind. Just curious, thank you for any insight.

How do you change such a deeply integrated part of yourself?? 😟 Practically, what should I start doing? How do I just expose myself? It's hard to believe that other people will accept me if I don't excel... because they really didn't seem to before I started to.. Should I just be alone? Should that just be enough?? What if it's not? What if I'm not??

Yes

I feel like I'm watching an advertisement, an intense, fast-paced advertisement. I feel it's going to be better if this is a more relaxed and in-tune with what you're trying to advertise which is a therapy.

Could you make a video for "Are you Controlling?" I think it would help me like this one did.

I am a little bit of a perfectionist.

Yes!!!!

I am a perfectionist, but I know perfection is impossible. However, my goal is always tobe perfect. Yet, I know it is impossible. How do I stop holding others to the same standard I hopd myself. I have no friends and most of my family avoids me too, but I am 100% comfortable with holding myself to the standard I do. I do not want to expect less from myself. I just want to stop expecting everyone else to do it too. I feel like you are confusing obsessive compulsive with perfectionism, or, at the very least, combining them. Yeah, the more the video goes on the more you are combining perfectionism with outher personality and mental disorders. I guess, based on your explanation, I am a functioning, successful, perfectionist.

And how! Really should have noticed I was on the spectrum much sooner than I actually did.

I always heard that perfectionism can be as much a quality as a flaw, but after your video, you say its all bad for us? I think at some level can be perfectionist, trying to do my work or hobbies as best I can, keeping my apartment clean, etc. Is there a good level of perfectionism?

Hey I’m struggling right now. I have some new friends in college and it’s been a year since I know them. Should I tell them about my mental issues? I don’t even know what are the reaction I want but it’s bringing me a lot of anxiety to hold back this part of me but I’m also afraid to trust them

The point is to exhaust yourself until you give up and look at your past trauma

I ruminate on all my mistakes. Absolutely I will remember something going wrong and feeling embarrassed about it. I'm still regretting messing up telling a joke when I was 10 years old. Also; only thing worse then being a perfectionist? Being a perfectionist *and* a procrastinator. You take all the "You" time you need, plus extra, and then you still get mad at yourself when things aren't right.

Well now I know why I still haven't finished my lion king painting lol 😅.

I find the notion to just stop trying to be a perfectionist and not selfevaluating to a degree that leads into insecurities and anxieties a bit .. crass? I do know that I have a problem with holding myself to standards that are to high and not achievable, which interplays with other problems. Yet, if I could just decide to be okay and drop the idea of having to reach those standards, I wouldn't be struggeling with my health in this regard for years.

Hmm... all the dreams that I can remember are about solving something or searching for something. Should I be worried?

See I never thought I was a perfectionist because nothing I did perfect in my eyes. Until I realised that exactly what a perfectionist would think. lol

Am not a perfectionist But when i have to work in a group and see that someone's part is totally messed up i fix it or change it to be better , well to be honest that hurt my partner's feelings but at least we get the job done. I know i'm a terrible human being

Money is the only thing I try to "per-fect" at the expense of my social life, my living situation and to some degree my health (stress/anxiety), for example I am invested in a stock and holding long term, there will be great returns in 5-10 years but in the mean time I am broke (have enough to pay utilities) and have anxiety from it & loner. Not sure if that makes me a perfectionist

ok but the question is, then: how do you fight that urge of perfectionism? "letting it go" it's so vague one would not know where to begin

100% off topic (I'll watch the vid after sleep), but what are the chances you'll do a vid on Catra and Adora? (I know it's a lot hence no mention of time)

You are really pretty.

The clousest i ghet ith when i repeteng somteng somoane ith like yes You got IT and i am like not reley even thow i Say tanck you

Dang lady! You're good! But how come I'm all of them? Three days ago, I was Mel...

can perfectionism can be tied into an OCD ? what about when you let fear control and make all your decisions for you just saw a movie called violet that was based around that topic and found it very close to home

I got C-PTSD and the answer is yes, I'm a perfectionist. It's detrimental to my entire life, heh. It's like you're constantly trying to prove that you're good enough to even exist.

Smash that like button

I'm a perfectionist but I'm also very lazy so it kinda works out sometimes. Most of the time tho I just don't even try..

I started watching your Arcane videos for entertainment, then watched almost all of your videos and now I realize.... I need therapy... lol

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