Mothers, if your children see you putting up with abuse, not only are your sons twice as likely to become abusers themselves but your daughters are a lot more likely to end up in abusive relationships just like you. Protect yourself for their sake if not your own.

7 years later and people still need this. Me, I am people.

Unfortunatly those that are abused are blamed by society so they can't get out. There's no real help because abuse has been accepted by the majority.

10 years ago i left my ex husband. We had been married 18 years and had 8 children together. By that point i had spent half my life with this man and suffered from his onslaught of mental, physical, and verbal abuse. I was alone in his country…cut off from family and friends back home. His family knew nothing until his dad saw him hit me in front of him. He’d beat me until I couldn’t walk, broke my arm and let me sit at home without getting it casted. When he did take me 3 days later, he said he was showing mercy on me. I was always told that if i wanted to leave, I’d never see my kids again. So i stayed quiet. Until he started trying to molest our 2nd daughter. My oldest helped pave the way to leave through her school counselor. We did leave, but the verbal attacks didn’t stop. He would be sweet and tried to use bribery to get me to come back, when that didn’t work, he would berate or accuse me and then threaten me. I learned to just ignore him. Eventually I got the divorce and custody. I had a long hard road to mental recovery. I still suffer from some self esteem issues but my new husband has been my rock every step of the way.

Exactly what I needed to hear. I couldn't stop my tears when you mentioned that Allah will offer the perfect justice and that he's watching. I know he's with me. Alhumdulillah

The comment section is so relatable, my heart is crying. Just because verbal assault and emotional abuse has no medical report and apparent scars and bruising it's still nothing to ignore about. I wish everyone the peace of heart and mind. Ameen

Just by reading all the comments I see this is a serious problem in our communities. We need our leaders to talk more about it. And we need practical solutions.

Selam Aleyküm, i left my narcissist x wife 4 years ago. We got 2 wonderful children. She has accused me of everything in this world , all the most horrible things you can think of and she still does. I wanna inform the ummah that this also happens to us brothers, the different is we are ashame and stay quiet. I would love more sheiks talking about this. Please , keep me and my kids in your duas and we should not forget to make dua for the ummah in the world. Selam Aleyküm Your brother, Yasin

My friend is trying to get out of an abusive marriage. A lot of people don’t believe her and roll their eyes about it. Since the abuse was not physical, it was verbal and emotional, they don’t consider it abuse. I feel really bad. I believe this person 100%.

May Allah help every oppressed person who is in this situation and punish every oppressor who is weak enough to make such horrible acts on a person he supposedly love. And don't ever worry, as the cheikh said, don't think that Allah will not take your right back. Either in this life or in the akhirah. Thank you again for this there's so many people out there who are suffering in silence.

My parents are emotionally abusive but they don’t see that which makes me doubt about reporting. They make me feel like am the “bad guy” they make themselves as the victim. They make me feel worthless! My mom spends all night working and she sleep all day. so have to be the “mother” my dad doesn’t pay any attention to us he only emotionally hurts us. He only cares about school. Nobody shows love or respect. No one is supportive. But whenever I try to tell them what they’re doing wrong they tell me am a bad kid. So now am juz quite and waiting until I can go on my own way and not “depend”my “life” on them

I'm divorcing my narcissistic husband in Shaa Allah...salatul ishtihara has helped me make this decision of mine as firm as a rock...I'm still depressed slightly...but keep praying to Allah all brothers and sisters who have faced abuse and get out of that relationship Cz although we need to be grateful to the ones who have provided for us Alhamdulillah we need to be aware that Allah is providing for us through them...look at ur future through Allah and not anybody else...may Allah guide us all in the straight path.

The ummah is in dire need of domestic violence education, abuse education, and we also need services to help Muslims in these situations. So often they’re abandoned by family, friends, even local religious leaders. Who do they turn to for help? How do they escape if they’re financially dependent? If their parents say, “No, what will people say?” and send them back to their abuser? We need to teach people what steps they should take to help themselves and each other.

If men were taught by imams and Sheikhs on how to treat women with kindness and love then this wouldn't exist as it is now.

I was abused by my mother and husband. I've suffered and am dealing with depression and trauma of domestic violence. Allah help me

The most important thing he said that I felt so reassured by is that Allah swt knows the pain we suffer through and that abuse does not go unpunished and our patience through abuse doesn’t go unnoticed.

Just reading these comments ..made me cry ..ya allah help these people who are suffering .. if you really call yourselves muslims.. u wouldnt abuse someone .. this is making me feel so sad..

I think more sheikhs and people of knowledge should speak more about these issues, jazakallah khair for this reminder I have benefited in ways I cannot tell. Allhamdulillah

Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I would need to hear this video. Alhumdulilah, it brought me to tears knowing that with all the struggle and emotional trauma I’ve been through accountability will take place and I’ll be rewarded for all that I’ve endured. JazakAllah Br. Omar for speaking up on this taboo topic. May Allah reward you immensely for all that you are doing and continue to do. Allahumma Ameen!

People have some funny ideas about what is and isn't acceptable in Islam. Thanks for setting them straight. Mashallah

This gives me strength to move on and forget my abuse and abuser.

I've been in an emotionally, mentally abusive marriage for 10 years, we have three children. I'm here because I'm searching a way to cope with him during Ramadan. It's day 2 and he's made me cry through both days so far. I don't know what to do anymore, he's made our family/friends believe it's my fault and that I'm crazy. I just want some peace of mind. I haven't been able to fast for 2 years due to mental weakness and a pregnancy. I need this month to give me strength and I feel like it's going to be one of the worst times of my life now because he's a nightmare right now. Advice Please!!!

I cried watching this. I knew it wasn’t normal to be mistreated by your parents just because they’re your parents. Your parents are supposed to shower you w love, protection and proper guidance, not the opposite 🙁

I get mental abuse from my husband he constantly swears at me .puts me down in front of my kids.i feel going off a cliff I get that down.but my prayers help me every day.i have had enough.please pray for me I have the strength to take his abuse.mat Allah give me sabar ameen.

I was in a emotional draining relationship pls make dua for me brothers and sisters use to go behind my back and speak to women and say it is my fault

Reporting is the most difficult part..cz the person you are reporting may not support you. In that case dnt stop. Report to someone else. Allah is the only comforter. He knows everything and loves you more than anyone.

I always get emotionally abused from my family. My mom always took her son’s side and love them more even they’re doing wrong . My brother doesn’t care about me that much . one time I was really sick and I asked my younger brother to buy me juice than he came my home with juice but he made me go outside to get the juice from him even I was shivering ( cuz I had flu ) . My mother didn’t even stay with me when I needed her cuz I was horribly sick and my husband was busy with his work . My husband did a lot for whatever he can but my family didn’t do anything. My sister is poisonous snakes!! Yes I know some people may thinking why she’s saying like about her own sister!! If I tell you how she emotionally and mentally abused me than it’s going to take long time . I still forgive them but today they all did it again so from today I’m done... I’m sorry but it’s enough and I’m done with them . Be strong and who ever like me are suffering in life they all should stand up for your right , respect and peace. Ps : My father was a wonderful man . He’s the one who loved me most but unfortunately he’s no more ...

Very nice brother!!! You can't imagine how I needed to hear this now. Jazakallah khir! =)

Rise up there needs counselling....l been suffering for over 40 years. Pain its tourture...

Jazakallah khair. Please make more videos like this, there is really a lack of this, abusive relationships in islam, especially emotional and narcissistic abuse. The victim is victimised by been threatened that leaving is not having sabr and its going against the teachings of Islam, total disregard for the victim's sufferings. Jazakallah khair

My husband and I are practcing muslims. He came to my father first and we got married real Quick. He prayes He does a lot of volunteer fasting and majority of the time he spends in the mosque. I am covered, don't wear make up, pray and so on. Practicing hasn't changed in fact it got even better. But at some point there are people that are very toxic and abusive. Ma Sha Allah he does so much for the Deen and gains knowledge and everything but unfortunately he has no akhlaq. He fights over silly things. How I wash clothes, if I let lights stay on, how I separate trash and when I cook what stove top I'm using for different pots. He's very extreme when it comes to sustainability. He doesn't want me to waste energy. He doesn't like to buy meat either. It's suffocating. Of course getting green, being cautious of the environment and being sustainable is really important for us muslims. But when I do things wrong or refuse to accept certain things. We are getting Into a huge fight, to the point where it becomes hell to live with this person (astaghfirullah). He insults me, shouts and yells. Breaking things, slapping things out of my hands. He terrorizes me. No one wants this treatment. On top of that we are both still students at uni. He doesn't earn much and I'm getting financial help from government. I pay with that half of the rent and spent from it on clothing. He doesn't do that for me. My parents are supporting me in my driver license. He would never do that cause he consider it to be unnecessary. I was patient, enduring hjs behavior over 2 years. We fight way too often amd he gets abusive. Of course I'm not perfect and made mistakes as well and provoked him but nobody deserves to be treated like that because of silly silly things. I'm not happy with him, I got mentally ill. Recently I throw food away that didn't look good anymore. He got so furious getting the food out of the trash can, breaking it and shouts at me. Later I was angry provoked him till the point where he slapped me with pillows, throwing them in my face without stopping. He insulted me in the worst way possible. Lifting my cupboard throwing everything out of the bedroom and locked me out of it. From that point on I seek for divorce. That something like that happened is not the first time. In fact it's countless. My parents always picked me up and comforted me. They wanted me to divorce him, they are unhappy and also done psychological. He was also disrespectful towards my parents and they want to support me in getting divorce. Before we moved together it wasn't like that. Of course there were red flags and my parents warned me and didn't wanted me to marry him but they supported me cause they want me to be happy. I told them, the most important thing is that he's practicing muslim but having no Akhlaq turned out later when we moved together. There were signs before but I was blind! He had a problems with himself. I don't hate him, I'm not angry. I want him to be happy. Of course he regrets, he wants me back but we were there dozens of times before. Trying to solve our problems. Our parents were involved even sheikhs. We did so much to try to save the marriage. My father doesn't want to anymore, I don't want to anymore. All the hope for change and for him to get better is gone. Too much said but so less was done. Empty promises and compromises. May Allah ta3ala make us pious husband and wifes, ease our pain and show us the best possible solution out of this situation! You know I'm twenty two now. Alhamdulilah we haven't tried for kids before and that's a blessing alhamdulilah cause it makes divorce way easier and also finding another husband!

wow. thank you very much for this video. it left me in tears. having witnessed many abusive relationships occur in the lives of my loved ones, your video reinforced that the abuse, and justification provided by abusers is not religious but tabooed in culture and that Allah, the most High, documents everything. i pray Allah swt guides those abusers who so confidently articulate their love for Islam publicly, but behind closed doors, are emotionally-driven, manipulative beings who so fiercely dominate the space they own and impose their distaste onto their wives, their friends and their children. abuse is thulm, oppression.

thank you so much! i needed to hear this.

Thank you so much brother you made me feel much more better .ALLAH Bless you and us . Ameen

What a relief !! I am so glade brother may Allah bless you

Thank you so much for dealing about this hard subject, Jazak allahu khayran!

Mashallah I felt so good listening to this thank you

Wow, so many questions were answered. Allah, bless you.

This is such a comfort to hear. 27 years too late unfortunately but still Alhamdulillah Allah swt bless you with Khair and A'fiya. Ameen

Very important message. Thank you.

Jazaks. This was Beautifully worded and said.

i cried after watcing this, thank you

Thank you for speaking on this subject and for posting this. I wish I had it years ago. May Allah Bless you and your efforts. :)

JazaakumAllaahu khairan... Really nice to see these issues being spoken about alhamdulillaah, may Allaah assist the abused and enable us to help them, aameen

May Allah reward you, we really do need more Muslim preachers talking about this, its thought to be our little secret in Islam. May Allah help all of those who do suffer from such hardships.

subhanallah!such a powerful message!

Thank you I really needed to hear this today. May Allah reward your efforts

Please stop focusing on physical abuse emotional abuse can be worse

Allah has used this brother to help me in so many different trials in my life. Alhamdulilah and may Allah bless him and his family immensely. Ameen.

Jazak'Allah Khair for this video. Short but so full of empathy. Thank you so much for your genuine advice.

This is my mission in life to share my experiences and help others, bring awareness, empowerment, education. So no one have to experience abuse from others especially when you are a sincere and innocent.

I go through emotional abuse by my partner .. I hope InshaaAllah Allah gives me a solution

Jazak Allah for this video brother

I’m crying so much listening to this. May Allah bless you. We need more people to talk on this subject under the light of Islam.

Subhanallah! This was an eye opener for me. May Allah bless you

Thank you. JAZAKALLAH

Jazāk Allāhu Khayran (جزاك اللهُ خيرًا) for doing this invaluable video on abuse. May Almighty Allah bless and reward you with Janna. Ameen

Jazakallah and thank you for the video, and ALSO FOR NOT USING ANY BACKGROUND MUSIC.

Thank you for your warm and comforting prayers. May Allah reward reward you in both world!

Jzk! A 'mission' ...that will be my mission from now on to get out from a toxic, abusive relationship that infects me and my daughters.. I would need all the energy and prayers...but Allah Akbar!

May Allah reward you for these words of guidance, specially about replacing self pity with positive action. This was my final puzzle piece that I’ve been looking for a long time. These words has ended my life long depression in couple of seconds, so powerful!

thank you for helping me. I live in California and I found your video . thank you

Only Allah can help us, I remember my duas after praying to either die or be separated from the monster that abused me n Allah was so merciful, Allah took away my pain, patience n prayer is all you need to get by

JazakaA for this video; the guidance nasiyah and above all your heart felt Duas.

I wish I had listened to this video 9 years back.......physical abuse ruined my life, ended up my career and destroyed the personality of my son....and all the time I thought I was doing sabar.....till date I am crying and have sleepless nights

Love this video.. jazakhallahu khair sheik omar.. masha Allah. Tabarakhallah.. alhamdulillah.

Thank you ,I really needed to here this .we need more Muslim Sister to stand up and stop these abusive brother ,

Thank you for being compassionate

8 years later still need this

والله كلام يفتح النفس💜⁦⁦🇮🇶⁩✨

Aslamu Alaikum brother, Thank you so much, your video has helped me. May Allah bless you..Ameen

Inshalla, thank you very much my brother for the true words of wisdom and the true words of love of Allah.

You have no idea what this video did to me! Thanks a lot!!

Jazak Allah Khairan to all the people involved in sharing knowledge. I may not know all of your names, or what all of you do, and I may never meet you, but I truly, sincerely, ask God to guide you and bless you. It doesn't even matter whether we are able to use this knowledge, or how much we draw from it, the fact that you all could be so noble and generous choosing to spend your time on such good intentions...All Praise is for God.

Thank you for this brother and for raising awareness 👍🏼

Thank you 🙏 very much for your beautiful talk this is so true I hope and pray all Muslim women don’t have too deal with abuse

Thank you for this message Dr Omar , May Allah strengthen every single person that has been oppressed to speak up and to say and do what is truthful , and they are truly not alone , it was comforting and dear for us to know that Islam is always by the oppressed side , Allah is Great , nothing will go unnoticed and that justice will prevail .. alhamdulillah for Islam , alhamdulillah for everything..

very great stuff brther

I feel as though you are speaking directly towards me. This is the reason why I started my KZfaq Channel. To bring more awareness to this within the Islamic community. Thank you.

Allahumma Ameen. Jazaak Allahul kheir for such an eye opener for us, since some of us also suffer an un imaginable emotional abuse which no one can even begin to understand! Alhamdulillah for this great support brother.

‏جزاك الله خيرا

may Allah reward you and protect you shaikh immensely ameen. Allah does not allow oppression for himself it is forbidden for us to accept it.

Thanks for this video. May Allah bless youuuu

Beautiful advice.

Thank You so much❤ your lectures bring tranquility in me, your lectures are like a source of light in darkness, JazakAllah wa Khair for sharing such beautiful message with all of us.

Respect to your video!

Thank you Brother, May Allah reward you for this post and all others. After listening to this one i got the courage to try to be out of a very ling and abusive marriage. Please pray for me all.

Jazakallah sheikh for explaining this in a way that we understand.

Beautiful really Beautiful advice

Long time did not see you brother. May Allah bless you and your family.

Very well said, thank you my brother🤲🏿

Thank you for addressing the cultural part. Often times families override abuse in relationships because they believe culturally its acceptable. May Allah help us all to be insightful and transparent.

Sir Omar Suleiman you are my favorite. You are so wonderful. Allah bless u. I look up to you. You are a blessing indeed.

Today I need this valuable advise and Alahadolillah got it...

thank you very much

Sheikh plz talk about marriages more and more...issues like infidelity, lack of providing, lack of being intimate or overly intimate that it hinders ones capability to follow day to day routines. Plz address issues like these. JazakAllah e khair

I always have felt guilty for even thinking of talking about my abuse to anyone. I think it was mainly because my parents made us not tell anyone what was going on inside the home. My father has always hated me for the most part and made no secret of it. I only gained respect from him when I started making an income and it was clear he only wanted a piece of it. As a young girl and teenager I always felt guilty around him for no reason and used to get beaten for really small things eg. using the microwave, singing, dancing, etc. those things don’t qualify for physical discipline or abuse however you want to call it. I have for the most part envied girls and women who have that trust of their father and can sit on their lap and hug them. It just seemed so alien to have a good relationship with him. There would go days, weeks and months without saying a word to him or him saying a word to me. My safety was to stay in my room and not come out to eat until he was asleep. Have spent a considerable amount of years trying to fill that void and resented both of my parents for their lies about me and for trying to brainwash my siblings against me. Since being married, my life has improved drastically where I don’t always encounter them and have learnt how to be respected. When I look back I wished that I had moved out earlier just to save my sanity, I really don’t know how I did it.

Jasakallahu khaira brother may God bless you

Beautifulll ❤️ Subhana Allah

Amiin yarab 😢thank you sheikh