The Difference Between Jealousy and Envy

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4 жыл бұрын

If you’re wondering about the difference between jealousy and envy, Fr. Mike clears up the confusion in this video. Simply put, jealousy is not wanting to share something or someone you possess or hope to possess, and envy is resentment toward the possessions of someone else. There can be some intersecting of the two, because it is possible to have an excessive or distorted kind of jealousy that’s actually based in envy, but jealousy can be good while envy is always sinful.
This is an important distinction because on the one hand we have God who is jealous about us. Likewise, a husband and wife should be jealous about each other.
On the other hand, St. Augustine described envy as the diabolical sin, basing his reasoning on Scripture:
“through the devil’s envy death entered the world,
and those who belong to his party experience it” (Wisdom 2:24).
Worthy of note is the fact that good translations of the Bible translate 1 Corinthians 13:4 to say “love does not envy.”
Rather than allowing the blessings of others to sadden us, let us rejoice in them and our own.
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@nyakanyasko 4 жыл бұрын

Last night a priest said this to me: "If you're not looking at it with joy you're looking at it wrong." And now this video... I think the Lord is trying to make a point! ♥️

@jac1161 4 жыл бұрын

The Lord makes the point. WE are the ones that are stubborn to not see it. Glad it's reaching you. I needed reminders too...especially today.

@mich1074 3 жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing while staring at my Big Mac.

@Skippinnfliplin 4 жыл бұрын

Honestly even nonreligious people (myself Included) can learn so much from Fr. Mike. Very wise man. I'd love to attend one of his services

@johnmendiola8547 4 жыл бұрын

Khelben Taylor, I love that you think that way! I myself have attended two of Fr Mike’s masses and have been absolutely in awe of his teachings. His home parish is actually in the University of Minnesota-Duluth, and has masses every day, either at his house, or on campus. If Duluth, Minnesota seems far for you, not to worry. He has been involved in many retreats around the country. I don’t know how far he stretches out, but I’m sure he’ll be in a city near you. God Bless!

@goesgoodwithcoffee1029 4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@youtubechannel-ei3gn 4 жыл бұрын

@@goesgoodwithcoffee1029 god is wet

@crobeastness 2 жыл бұрын

Check out Bishop Robert Baron too. Very wise.

@DualityofMind666 2 жыл бұрын

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@Louis-bx6hh 4 жыл бұрын

I’m 15 and all my life I’ve gone to church, I’ve been to a Christian school but I was never ‘truly’ close to God and what not. But I feel like this funky fella has helped me start my true path to Christianity

@joshualopez9175 Жыл бұрын

2 years later, how's it going?

@Louis-bx6hh Жыл бұрын

@@joshualopez9175 not bad mate, I’m in a much better head space then before, I’m more confident in myself and my abilities. Still want to further my relationship with God.

@samanthamakhafola3014 Жыл бұрын

Funky fella😂

@rebeccabyrne2414 Ай бұрын

God bless you!

@alanrburt 4 жыл бұрын

This is why we need friendships and true friends. True love for and of others. When you don't, often you seek to fill that in any means necessary. You get envious of what others have. Weather it's stuff or other people. Rejoice in God and relish in the love of those God has given you. Then there will be no room for envy in your life. Pray for me to find true friends in my life

@flowergirl5045 4 жыл бұрын

I'm praying for you, Alan.

@cabellero1120 4 жыл бұрын

good luck with that. True friends are Rare, indeed many are either "fair weather" friends or friends when it's convenient for Them! The Bible speaks of fraternity, loyalty, friendship A friend loves at all times.. Do We do that? probably not.

@alanrburt 4 жыл бұрын

@@cabellero1120 thanks for the hopeful pep talk. No but in seriousness I realize you're just trying to be honest

@walterbandeira6394 4 жыл бұрын

I can remember as a kid, my dad said you will be able to count in one hand the true friends you 'll have in a lifetime. True wealth is "friends"and family.

@monicabagonamarkande 4 жыл бұрын

Everyone needs to hear this. ❤️ I can also say that when you pray to God to take your envy away, he instantly grants it. I remember when I was in elementary school, one of my friends had this super cute pencil case and even as a child, envy didn’t feel right to me. I wanted it to go away. So that night I prayed to God to take my envy away. Then for some reason, I believe that God is still guarding me against it today. So the moment you feel envious, just ask God to away it away and He will. 😉😊❤️

@patriciaking7892 4 жыл бұрын

Envious people will destroy your possessions to keep you from having them, especially your relationship with someone. They know they can't and won't have it, but they will do everything in their power to tear two people apart. Sometimes the weakest link allows it to happen. So sad!!!!!

@funnynickline 4 жыл бұрын

"Godbless🙏🙇‍♂🙏" I have fresh air/oxygen that I breath, I have inner peace and happiness and I am healthy 'always pinning that in my heart as to my head everyday so thank's be to God, amen.🙏🙇‍♂🙏

@GiovannaAguilar 4 жыл бұрын

I love this priest. Kind and explains scripture in an honest and relatable way.

@mauricioramozjr8478 4 жыл бұрын

These videos clear my mind and make my day. I miss discussions like this from back in (Catholic) high school. Now in University, conversations remain relative and quickly grow stale. These discussions are actually fruitful. Thank you!

@andrewbromley7923 4 жыл бұрын

I have to say that watching these videos has helped me better understand the Catholic faith and address my own prejudice. As a Protestant, living in England, you grow up thinking all kinds of things about Catholics. All - so far, are unfounded. The funny thing is that my wife is Catholic and we NEVER talk about it - like it’s something I’d rather forget. I’ll have to re-evaluate that :-)

@nicgooden7444 4 жыл бұрын

Father Mike✋excellent👍 jealousy; to want.. envy; destructive, resentment, hatred.. thankyou. Letting it go..

@nathancano8585 2 жыл бұрын

2 and a half years later, this video has still, completely answered my prayers!

@andrewattenboroughtwothumb4697 4 жыл бұрын

I have always been jealous and envious of others for most of my life and it has been a struggle for me this video is a great insight thank you father Mike

@wooptiedoo3538 3 жыл бұрын

Don't compare yourself with others, only with the person you were yesterday. Appreciate the blessings you do have.

@vladlucius6928 2 жыл бұрын

I’m a very jealous person but try not to be envious. Thank you father for this wisdom

@nevilledasilva1796 28 күн бұрын

Thank you Fr. Mike for this wisdom. I thank the Lord for this insight.

@HarleyGirl75 5 ай бұрын

I have to keep returning to this explanation because I get so confused by the difference between the two. Thank you!

@marieleahy7033 4 жыл бұрын

Best explanation I have heard. Happy Christmas Fr. Mike.

@amadisima8145 4 жыл бұрын

I am so thankful to the Lord because He delivered me and continues to deliver me from that horrible sin which is envy. It was making me so bitter and resentful and I hated myself for it, but God in His mercy saved me from myself and now I can say with one hundred percent certainty that I love the person I used to envy. Thank you Jesus, you are so good to me even when I don’t deserve it! ❤️

@marshapeckham1454 4 жыл бұрын

Wow what a great word!Thank you Fr.Mike! Blessings!

@robg6368 4 жыл бұрын

Very enlightening. Thank you for this perspective! Merry Christmas father.

@thegoliard7 4 жыл бұрын

Any time I really watch one of these videos, it always relates to what is happening to me currently

@rickyluna9519 4 жыл бұрын

This is absolutely mind blowing!

@jondeason1160 4 жыл бұрын

Merry Christmas

@djbackspin911 Жыл бұрын

Man I need this video, thank you for this

@HandsomeJigglypuff 6 ай бұрын

You have no idea how much I needed this 🙏❤

@judepeter5794 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Padre for this explanation, I have never had it this clear

@thomashughes4859 4 жыл бұрын

Fr. Mike, every video is your greatest video. Keep it up! Thank you!

@rebeccabyrne2414 Ай бұрын

Thanks, once again, Fr. Mike for an informative and engaging video. Blessings on you and your work!

@paulinaagell194 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for clearing up the difference. This was very helpful. Thank you.

@user-ii3wb2ib1k 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for giving me clarity on the difference between jealousy and envy. These two cousins are not the same and should not be used interchangeably because one roots itself in possession and the other in resentment.

@ojiverdeconfleco 4 жыл бұрын

This makes so much sense, I've never heard descriptions like these and now it is cristal clear! Thank you!

@emko2403 4 жыл бұрын

I love this so much!! God bless you, Father Mike!

@eriel1318 Жыл бұрын

Man, you explained it so well, thank you brother

@mssixty3426 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this, I had a notion in the back of my mind that there was a difference, but I never really tried to reason it out - this was enlightening.

@jolapola2921 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for explaining the difference! God bless you Fr.Mike.

@gracez1226 4 жыл бұрын

This video is exactly what I needed

@normacindy7226 4 жыл бұрын

God bless you, Fr Mike!

@eddie1535et 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Fr. Mike for this video. I ask for your prayers, for I am struggling with this right now. You are right, I need to live in the Joy that God has blessed me with. I pray to let it go and hand it over to the Lord like you said. There is so much that I don't deserve and i need to give him thanks and celebrate. Thank you again for your wise words and May God bless you and keep you safe always.

@mkznan5963 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video Fr. Mike. I think I've been struggling with envy since high school, and it destroyed my relationship with others. My then high school best friend and I were top students in our school but for some reasons one day I became envy at her success in both academic and personal life. I decided to leave the friendship without saying anything because I couldn't bear the feeling I had toward her. Even now and again, sometimes I found myself falling into the same trap of envy. It does nothing but undermining my own ability and my will to be better.

@iamsamuelpaul 4 жыл бұрын

God bless everyone watching this channel. God bless Fr Mike Schmidt. 🙏

@vinodhroyM777 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Fr.Mike...... every time I watch your videos it makes me see myself what am I doing..... you are a blessing to Catholics..... Thankyou Lord Jesus Christ.....

@12mountain 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve heard it described (in Catholic circles) a little differently. I have heard it said that jealousy is seeing what somebody else has and wishing that you had that also, whereas envy is seeing what someone else has and wishing to take it from them and have it for yourself instead. So let’s say you are single and you see a friend who has a beautiful spouse. The jealous version of you might say, “I wish I had a beautiful spouse; I am happy for my friend and his beautiful spouse, but I do wish that I were also married to a beautiful person,” whereas an envious version of you would say, “I wish I had a beautiful spouse; I wish I were married to my friend’s spouse, instead of him; why does he have that but I don’t? I deserve it as much or more than he does.” Apologize for the off-the-top-of-my-head anecdote that might not be the perfect example, but hopefully it illustrates my point about what I’ve been taught regarding jealous vs. envy. Fr. Mike I await your input on this! 😉

@patriciaking7892 4 жыл бұрын

Bart, that's true. I got the same meaning from you both. What gets me is, I've been surrounded by people that are envious of my personality. I stay in a small town of course. I'm a people person, outgoing, outspoken of course I, and love to laugh. Why be envious of that? Stay Blessed 💘.

@tootooloo 4 жыл бұрын

"Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die." ~Carrie Fisher

@strikerpaty 6 ай бұрын

I'm reading Anna Karenina and quotes below made me search for the difference between jealousy and envy. "In Karenin's soul, however, despite the complete and contemptuous indifference he thought he felt for his for his wife, there was one feeling left with regard to her: an objection to her being in a position to united unhindered with Vronsky, so making her crime advantageous to her" and "but another feeling had now taken the place of jealousy: it was a wish that his wife's guilty should meet with retribution." And I appreciate your really helpful and to the point explanation. God bless!

@strikerpaty 6 ай бұрын

Jealous: desire to posses something, which could be of someone's else or to guard something that one possesses or hopes to. Isn't always wrong. Rooted in desire or could be rooted in greed. Envy: sadness when someone else has something that I want. Rooted in resentment. Diabolical. Sadness at someone's gifts, joys, accomplishments, etc. Leads to destruction.

@trisyang6312 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Fr Mike for this timely message . Recently I was filled with envy about things I don't get to own and experience when people surrounding me are enjoying those things I wish to have. It brought me sadness! After hearing Fr Mike, I decided to hand it over to the Lord and learn to be thankful and grateful with what I have, to try to keep "envy" away.

@ivonnemedrano8937 4 жыл бұрын

God Bless you and have a wonderful Merry Christmas!

@sunnymorgan492 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for explaining the differences between the two. Merry Christmas 🙏🏻

@mazikode 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you father Mike..this was so inspiring. I have never really understood the difference between the two and now i do. Thank you

@Sad-Reference 4 жыл бұрын

I’m so happy y’all are on the podcasts app

@DeanofSmoking 2 жыл бұрын

I love when I first heard the definition. glad I found a video to explain to others.

@bernardomartinez1811 2 жыл бұрын

This video is so helpful for me that even though I gave it a thumbs up it isn't nearly enough to express how thankful I am.

@AngelaAngel-ee8wn 4 жыл бұрын

Thank You Father

@MEXTguide_yoyo 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Fr.Mike....I avoided watching this for a while because envy and jealousy are two things that cost me the joy I could have for the things God has given me and the joy I could have for others to whom God has also given...pray for me. I'll pray for you too

@Laura-6887 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this Fr Mike.

@Roselle_its_me 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video Father Mike :)

@timmcb5758 4 жыл бұрын

What a great explanation. Thank you!

@Richie016 4 жыл бұрын

Fr. Mike you have clarified the difference by explaining the outcomes of both. Envy leads to “Diabolic” ends. I pray to the lord to safeguard us against any traps of the devil & I condemn any spirit of envy in the name of Jesus✝️

@flowergirl5045 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful video, God bless you Father Mike!

@monocyte2210 3 жыл бұрын

thank you Fr. Mike. I am an assistant professor in University. it's a very competitive field and I always can't help but feel envious and jealous of others. Thank you for clearing these two words up.

@ziahosseini6780 Жыл бұрын

Such heartwarming and mindopening conclusion. Lord be with you

@xuvetynpygmalion3955 2 ай бұрын

So good and clear, thank you ! I've always felt like I have never really understood what envy is really. To me it was a kind of resentment aimed towards destroying the good of the other - which I have rarely felt. But saying that envy is sadness when someone has what I lack, which I have felt very strongly before. How I have suffered from seeing other have what I have not, but I didn't know I felt envious. But I turned that destructive impulse towards myself, punishing myself, hurting myself, believing that I was unworthy of love and trapping myself in a resentful existence. Also so good what you said that envy is one of the few sins that leads to no direct pleasure. It's really a continuous stream of sadness and resentment. It's really just a way to punish yourself or others, a destructive desire. I guess you can find some kind of pleasure in punishing yourself and others, but it does differ from other sins.

@RahMarkJ 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Father Mike!

@mikemcguire7579 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Fr. Mike.

@kimmanning2913 6 ай бұрын

This is why God fights. He has the energy to do so. My energy is to survive at this time.

@yvobalcer 4 жыл бұрын

I am a retired Catholic school teacher, I saw envy in my students who resented their classmates that had both mother and father. Single family households are so common today, that even young kids know when they have lost something - the other parent.

@rubi_4 4 жыл бұрын

This video came at the right time... I just got off the phone w my stepdad who said my mom and sister are on the way to Disney w my cousins who i really dislike for awful things they have done... And i was so envious bc they can afford (money and time) to take them and i cant.. thank you for the message 🙏🏻❤️

@marvinmansueto6081 4 жыл бұрын

Waw! Explained so well, thank you. I always tend to mistake jealousy with envy. So true, I bet when one is envious he is in a place where he thinks he can never be better and doesnt want to make the effort to progress further, so he hates anyone who has reached his desired place. By the way Father, I thank you for this year's clips, videos and podcasts. You have worked so hard to reach out to others weekly on social media. You have been a providential help to many people. I am so appreciative towards your efforts. Have a blessed Christmas and a great New Year full of fruitful work. In my prayers.

@GuidetteExpert 2 жыл бұрын

Envy is evil, it makes you want to ruin other peoples life and think they dont deserve what they have. Pretty narssisistic. Who is to tell someone else not deserving?

@clarafierro6921 4 жыл бұрын

Very well explained Fr Mike. Thank you, God Bless you and Merry Christmas

@zhouadwina918 Жыл бұрын

i always am gratefull for the things i have most of which i dont deserve and this has helped me to refrain from envy and competition

@amyj.4992 2 жыл бұрын

Jealousy leads to greed, and envy leads to hatred. Pray for me pastor, a toxic woman wanted to destroy me after she stole my life🙏🏾🛐 with spellwork

@jackieo8693 4 жыл бұрын

May God drive any trace of envy far from me.

@johneonas6628 Жыл бұрын

Thank you father.

@MrAlibaba1122 2 жыл бұрын

God bless you for this explanation

@donnaeberle4399 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Father.

@phoenixrising33 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your explanation. Oh boy, I am envious and I want to get rid of it. I'll give it to the Lord. Blessings 💕

@Bpepper74 3 жыл бұрын

I Love you Father, thank you!

@AlexandraBarbin 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you father for this, really needed it.

@kerwinfernandes9583 4 жыл бұрын

Great insight Fr. God Bless! 🙂🙏

@johnnymontalvo5620 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I was reading Joshua, where it hit me as odd when I read that God is “jealous.” This helps clear that up!

@MultiplyingTalents338 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks really encouraging words!

@ramonapaselio 4 жыл бұрын

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 🙏💗 God bless us all with His pure utmost Love that covers a multitude of sin, failures, and weaknesses... Love never fails

@lregino43 4 жыл бұрын

thanks Fr. Mike

@learningtogrow3535 4 жыл бұрын

This was very eye opening for me and it helped me reexamine my life. Thank you father and God bless your ministry.

@zacharycyran8399 4 жыл бұрын

Fantastic Video Father!

@cowichancounsellingca 4 жыл бұрын

Fr. Mike, Glory Be to Jesus Christ! My understanding of the difference between jealousy and envy, as a psychotherapist and may I say here not a Roman Catholic psychotherapist but a Ukrainian Catholic (Byzantine Rite) psychotherapist is that jealousy is usually about people, and interpersonal relationships, whereas envy is about the qualities or objects that another person possesses. So jealousy is about perhaps being envious of the quality or type of relationship you might want to have with another person that someone else already has and so you are jealous of the relationship that they have that you would like to have, whereas envy would be more like wanting to have the thing that they have: a nice car, nice house, great job, or some superior skill or talent that they have that you do not but wish you did.

@GinKirk7256 4 жыл бұрын

Jealousy causes one to want what someone else has, while envy doesn’t want someone else to have what one doesn’t!

@KiwiPokerPlayer 2 жыл бұрын

I've always had a hard definition of these two words and usually offer the following example: "Imagine two dogs, one of which has a bone; The dog with the bone is jealous of his bone, the dog without the bone is envious of the dog with the bone". But the way you phrase it in this video is far more kind and elegant. I'm an atheist but I must admit you guys sometimes come up with nicer ways of looking at the world.

@hachikochichi5262 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful! 💕

@magnolia8626 3 жыл бұрын

People are always SO jealous/envious of me. I guess they don't realize that I've suffered and sacrificed a lot in my life.

@raymond-rodrihealth.1233 4 жыл бұрын

beautiful view og this topic

@TheCatholicGirl 4 жыл бұрын

Great video!

@lumpichu 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the advice, I really struggle with this. I know it's evil, I refuse such thoughts, they're short, but they still keep coming.

@rajud2534 4 жыл бұрын

God bless you brother 😇😇🤗😊 Helped a lot 😊

@pedinurse1 4 жыл бұрын

you are so smart

@katkat2340 4 жыл бұрын

Great ! A theologian told me in Hebrew Jealous in that txt mean zealous. I like your explanation also. Comparison is so deadly. That is the lie Satan feeds us out of a silver spoon. The lie we are not special nor adequate or loved.

@Paula-pv7ep 4 жыл бұрын

Your very smart Father

@joseholguin661 10 ай бұрын

Well explained God Bless you

@danielalah9983 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@ChicagoIL50 4 жыл бұрын

Wow this was a good talk 🌲✝️

@MeowyMakes 2 жыл бұрын

This reminds me a lot of Matthew 20, the parable of the vineyard workers. The workers who worked for an hour and those who worked all day all got the same pay, and the workers who worked all day were INCREDIBLY frustrated. The owner of the vineyard then said "Are you envious because I am generous?" I came across that parable during a time when I would constantly ask, "God, why are you there for all these other people but You're not there for me? I'm praying, reading my bible, going to mass, etc., yet why are you blessing all these other people with friends, success, happiness, etc. but You're not doing the same for me?" But instead I should have been saying "I'm happy for those people that they have all those wonderful things. I'm happy for them that God has worked in their lives and bless them." Praise God for being generous to others, don't be envious of those people!