A woman can make her own bread working from home so if you would have asked men if they prefer a stay at home wife or a wife who works outside the home, all the men would've agreed they prefer a stay at home wife.

I’ve been a SAHM mom for the last 18 yrs- I’ve worked on and off as a mindset coach, counselor, writer & only just now stepping back into FT entrepreneurship because before babies I was a young successful Ad executive and I loved my job but being able to stay at home was something no amount of money could replace.

@HypnoticHollywood “Stay at home” and “work from home” are 2 different things. Most people define “stay at home” as not working a job for income but instead focusing on the family and household.

@@kwilson4125 very true- I’ve been raising my children who are preparing for college - I’ve been a ghost writer, content creator & mindset coach on and off because being a mom and sacrificing the second income was priority- they are def two diff things!

​@@kwilson4125..so true to stay at home with no side hustle.... did that Mmmm will rather stay at home with a hustle

Golden! billboard worthy on every major US interstate

Spot on!

Amen

"protected and preserved."

Wow where can I find a man like that. I was married for 16 years. I was a real estate investor I located property my husband remodeled we were a team. We shared money. Divorce happened. Now I'm with a boyfriend for 3 years. He was a drug addict I didn't know. Found out them helped him start 2 profitable business. He's making 150,000 a year now. Went from cleaning headlights at liquor stores and crack cocaine to 150,000 a year in 1 year. He saved his money and bought a house cash for 200,000 dollars in San Miguel de Allende. Rents it out ! I have my own business but my business has slowed down for some reason and suddenly my boyfriend doesn't want to send me the 120 dollars he sends every Saturday to me. We live together I wash clothes clean house communicate with his clients. I set up next door app, Venmo zelle Instagram everything for his business shirts business cards I bought him 2 huge A sandwich boards signs , tools, even found his work truck for cheap. Now he's suddenly says I only made 1000 dollars this week so I can't give you your 120 weekly. We pay rent 50/50 electric, internet, Netflix. He has no bills just stacks his money has over 100,000 in bank and past 3 weeks stopped giving me 120. I didn't stop washing or cleaning or helping him with his business. What's going on?

And probably a husband who treats you right as well

What happens if your husband leaves you one day, or dies and kids grow and move away? Being a stay at home wife is good when it works but the amount of women who are screwed over when it doesnt is tragic

I love that for you ♥️

@@LMcBee not every stay at home mom is broke or has zero skills. I don’t see anything wrong if the woman has a say on how the household income is managed/ distributed. Not everyone lives the life in constant fear of a divorce.

@@LMcBee won't be hard for her to date if she wanted to

That guy was an idiot.

Yes they are. Just shows how clueless some men can be.

Sooo am I getting this right? He is the only one allowed to generate and bring home stress?

​@@TsvetelinaTsanevawhy have two ppl bring home stress when it's not a necessity?

@@TsvetelinaTsaneva If he is the main breadwinner then yes

But then he suggested women do the most stressful jobs on the planet: nursing and teaching😂

Aaaaaaamen!

Soooo true

But what about the husband coming home very stressed from HIS work? Has anybody thought about the fact that maybe he wants to stay home taking care of the children and cooking while the woman go working and earningthe money?

​@@klarrybarry4864that's not natural, men are built for hard work more than women. Being a mom and homemaker isn't easy but it's where a woman thrives better. A man is not meant to be at Home and do a woman's work

Right 😂😂😂

Yes, money, personal chef, and trainer make that fairly easy to do!

@@user-vg8ez9cu6u also there might be a correlation between discipline and wealth

Yes, they have a personal slave.

​@@spolch9482sound like a feminist...the seed of jezebel

Yess love it

YES!!!

Exactly! Staying at home is a job as well, if one makes enough money for everyone than the other can work to manage the family’s life and lower everyone’s stress level. Granted it’s an opportunity that only comes with high individual income or the money’s scarcity would be much worse in terms of stress levels.

Where were those compliments you speak of?

Nah overwhelmingly majority wanted a stay at home. Take your ass at home and raise your kids, fuck outta here.

You are wonderful and blessed

You mention sacrificing income. What’s the annual income range your husband makes that allows you to be a SAHM?

A Nancy cost $15 usd/horas... bet your husband makes more.

I noticed that too!

Uh I didn’t notice that at all, they all seemed like nice men to me. If anything the first man gave me alpha energy and not in a good way but I am hesitant to judge from such a little clip

@@tianna1116 We all see things differently, and just wanted to make the point that I’m not judging them as people. I’m merely looking at body language alone at those moments when specific questions are asked. Psychology and behavioural studies nerd here 😊

@@user-fn6vm5tb8p yea I feel you. That’s funny you said that, I study psychology too! I l graduate with my bachelors in 1 more year, currently preparing for grad school applications. Idk how I stumbled across this vid but I’ve never seen this channel before. Alas, psychology is everywhere

I noticed that it was a black guy, they mostly don’t have a good example of what a good family unit is due to the problems in the community, I mean look he didn’t even seem sure of his answer. Not attractive at all

Y'all easy and cringy

Grow up!

Rare find especially in soft OC. Real men rule!

Very true.

He’s a true Alpha

Well said, underrated comment. Its like one of men said in the video. You can be a nurse, teacher, etc. and after raising kids or/if something unexpected in life happens you are not left wiotheout source to live.

Amen!

This happened to someone I know and she struggled taking care of herself and 4 kids because she married young and her husband was against her studying and working. Learning and doing that once you’re on your own and responsible of 4, it’s truly tough. So even if you choose to be SAHM, learn a skill or few just in case.

Your so pretty

This! 👍🏻

I'm a soft and feminine woman and a stay at home wife not mom... And I totally disagree I always guard my femininity but masculinity must be a GIVEN. It's not earned it's his natural birth right 🥰

@@aliyahp9969 There are LOTS of effeminate men in this world! Look around.

@@aliyahp9969 That would mean that anyone born male already is masculine, which isn't true. A true masculine is someone with integrity, strength and self-control, among other things. Some males only have toxic masculinity, which is the polar opposite of that. So, this isn't a birthright. Femininity is also dependent on how a woman connects with it, not born into it.

This!!!

@@wolfesound Spot on! 🎯

Your mom sounds awesome and your sense of gratitude for mom is wonderful. I think the challenge is when women don't have the privilege of choice. My mother was always a working mom but had no energy for domestic duties nor was emotionally supportive of her children. I had to step into the mother role at a young age for my siblings. No matter is a woman works, it's clear that a woman who is supportive in general plays an important role in the family.

I have hope. I wish my kid will see this when he grows up. Thank you for this comment. You have no idea how this has helped me ❤

Great you appreciate her but it sounds exhausting as a woman. Maybe if I never had to worry about bills and my husband was an amazing and supportive lover.

​@@sophien5416so true, it's a slightly different feel when you don't have a choice.

Same was the case with my mom. I love her ❤️💪

He’s clueless, she sacrificed her job for the kids. He did NOTHING. There was no father figure in the lives of the children, because he wanted money and not his children love. No wonder many children prefer their mothers over their fathers. Both parents should have just worked part time if they were rich enough.

You are right. He had the best answer!!

It's quite funny that the first guy approaches relationships as a competition and not necessarily as a sincere relationship between two people. Apparently, it's only out earning a woman that keeps the woman from leaving to another person. That's not a healthy view on life, lol. And this is why I don't like money obsessed people. Everything, even what should be a sacred human relationship, is all rooted in money.

I agree, he had the best and sweetest answer!

I loved him too and the next one after.

The more money you have, the more you want to have your wife stay home. The more broke you're, the more you need to work, especially because you're fighting against inflation at all times.

@@ladybug3380 tone deaf

@@jermainemyrn19 it’s true though. If you can’t afford a family don’t have one it’s that simple.

@ladybug3380 I disagree, I was raised with money. My parents were gone all the time, so we never got close. It's not all about the money, and everyone deserves to have their own kids if they want to. It's not anyone's fault they're broke because there are a ton of systemic issues

​She's right. Don't have children if you can't afford them.

We are basically your twinkies!! We love running our household this way.

there are laws

Marriage means working through those things. I'm not surprised a person raised by divorce parents feels that way. I was raised by parents who are about to celebrate 50 years together. I have seen them go through hard times and come out stronger. You have no idea what you are missing.

Thank you!!

Yeah everyone live life based on fear! GREAT advice.😒

Fear is a very important factor, ignoring fear is big mistake many ppl do n go broke ​@@danieallen5609

Exactly, that's the point many men miss. Hypergamy is not about choosing the rich, who said that? All women in the world are in different circumstances and positions in their lives and the same goes for men. Each individual chooses the one for its kind, that's it.

You get it!

THAT PART ! My husband does construction and we gross 70k. I’m a simple woman and in some aspects I’ve even become more simple to accommodate me being at home with our kids. We live in NY btw….. But if you want a trophy wife be prepared to pay the price and don’t complain. I rather people say they loathe traditional family structures than to blame their reasoning for rejecting such on the other gender.

I'm sorry to say but I don't agree when some PPL say you don't need so much money just a wife who can live by what you earn...............a certain amount of money is required to live atleast well enough....if you want a women to do the best at home you also need to be a good provider and hardworker....the best you can provide..... not saying you have to be a millionaire but sufficient to be comfortable....... If you earn so very marginal how can you expect the wife to do the best....hungry stomach can't work hard at home and do good housekeeping

@@user-vt2ce2jc4r while I agree that a man's job is to be a good provider, a woman's job doesn't just consist of housekeeping and raising kids. A man can expect and lead a woman to do far more than just those things. A woman can tend gardens, take care of livestock, hunt and fish, forage for food and medicine, find deals at the grocery stores, and manage the budget. Even if they live in a city, she can still participate in these activities. Perhaps she has a creative hobby she enjoys that can also supplement family income. Many people who are poor find ways to manage even with many children, so I'm sure that the rest of us can too.

yeah, the only one who understands that is up to her, not him (from those who have a stay at home wife)

But i thought behind every successful man like bezos and gates was a divorced woman! 😂

@chinaboss6683, Funny how those women stood by them when they had nothing and now that they are the two richest men on the planet, they both divorced the women that stood by them. 😂 Like the saying goes, a woman’s loyalty is tested when there is nothing, a man’s loyalty is tested when there is everything.

@chinaboss6683, Funny how those women stood by them when they had nothing and now that they are the two richest men on the planet, they both divorced the women that stood by them. 😂 Like the saying goes, a woman’s loyalty is tested when there is nothing, a man’s loyalty is tested when there is everything.

@@mineandmine4528 Thats a fun fact isnt it? Heres another fun fact for you: what is the origin of the word 'test?' Its is testes, testicles, or testosterones. Hence, its a mans world.

Exactly it’s so contradictory.. they want traditional women & if the woman wants that too they get accused of being gold diggers? I think those men secretly want the woman to work bc they can’t afford it which is fine but they don’t want to admit it. But they cannot expect home cooked meals & the perks of a stay at home wife bc they simply don’t have one.

Y’a women with minimal expectations are name called 😂, average woman doesn’t even know how a traditional woman will be, don’t know how to act and dress modestly but so passionately demand and dictate »what’s a real man and how a man should be »

This is how I would be if I stayed at home with kids. I'm shocked at the amount of women who are in these comments acting like it's a cake walk

@ecclairmayo4153 They're lying to themselves so they try to convince others its the best thing in the world, but really, they are really trying to convince themselves this like a mantra in hope if they hear it out loud enough, they believe it. People just need to be honest with themselves. We live in a society where everyone wants to put out this facade of perfection and being up to task, and doing and having it all. Its sugarcoated toxicity of positivity... they forget they are humans with flaws, anger issues, and personality blemishes. This is not to be mistaken as a form of victim mentality, acceptance of our human error is the first step to being better humans by being honest to ourselves first so we are honest to the world, this is how we help other people.

Yes, to me that is the right answer.

Facts

but keep in mind women will never give that gift of "choice" to men, so who ever could recive that gift from men should be greatful

Men should focus on their own happiness... God didn't put men on this earth to try and make women happy

Yes, I love this 🥰

Ummm you suck

I’m so confused right now bc my wife has been a stay at home mom to our son for 2 years and she complains that I don’t help her out enough. She cooks once or twice a week and cleans occasionally making it seem like she can’t handle it then there’s other women here saying they do it all. I’m pissed and confused at the same time.

@@terrycrews1760 Not every woman is right for being a SAHM. It is hard work and at times feels like an exhausting, thankless job. Managing about 100 people was actually easier for me, IMO(my career before children). But, I have always dreamed of being a SAHM and, I want my husband to be happy and feel his peace at home. Make sure you thank your wife for what she does do, that may encourage her to do more. And, if your child is young(1-3YO) those can be exhausting, trying, sleepless times for her. She may be in a season of life that she is struggling through and in those times, you need to give her grace. Being angry won't solve any issues, those you've got to talk through.

@@terrycrews1760 Also, her priorities may be different then your expectations, so make sure you are on the same page. I homeschool 3 of our four children, 4-5 days a week. It usually takes me from 9am-2 or 3pm, I do get a small amount of house work done during the weekdays(mostly dishes and picking up) and Saturday is my cleaning day, bathrooms, floors, laundry, etc. I do cook at least 6 days a week, but I Really enjoy cooking! If I didn't, cooking would feel like a burden. It takes meal planning for me and a little time to put my lists together and make sure I have what I need. When our youngest was an infant, I was cooking about 3x/week as breastfeeding had me sitting more during those times. Every family's needs and expectations will be different. No body's wife can literally do it all, but some of us try really hard to!

​@@HSHeart723I have six kids. Of course it can be exhausting. Being a parent requires you to be selfless and people want to be indulged and spoiled. Cooking and cleaning a handful of times a week is insanity. It is easier to be work than be a SAHM , but I didn't have children to farm them out for someone else to raise.

He has no clue😂

He probably means like sterophical femine jobs

YES

I WILL SAVE YOUR COMMENT FOR LATER. THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL ABOUT THIS MATTER

Theres nothing of laziness when a woman doesn't want to pursue a career, she can read books, learn things with no need of a career. If a woman wants children she cannot take care of a children and work outside home at same time, she would neglect the child. Also a woman working outside she isnt going to have time for husband, the whole family...

@Missnoemit What you said is completely wrong. Staying at home is a 100% misogyny invention, its goal is to oppress women and make them subservient and secondary beings. She cleans and arranges the house that is not even her home, every day, morning, evening, day and night, without scientific progress and no financial reward, yes, but to be an interior designer or engineer, no. She cooks for everyone every day, morning, evening, and day, without scientific progress and no financial reward, yes, but to be a cook. A world-famous, award-winning owner of a chain of restaurants and hotels that is progressive and financially independent. While he can be an artist, singer, painter, doctor, inventor... you can not be anything but a free domestic worker. Wake up, woman. Sitting at home is a 100% male, misogynistic invention whose goal is to make women subservient and secondary beings. This is a very big mistake for a woman to remain without scientific progress and without financial independence to neglect herself. Caring for the family does not prevent a woman from scientific and professional progress and prosperity. She can be a mother and a doctor, a mother and an engineer, a mother and an artist, a mother and a politician... and this is the natural position in which a woman should be, progressing in all circumstances, not living as a free domestic servant. Raising children is essentially the responsibility of the mother and father together, not one less or more than the other. Likewise, housework and cooking are life skills that every adult must perform. They are trivial, stupid, and simple. They do not require any intelligence or experience, and anyone in the world can do them. It does not increase your knowledge or wealth. A man should not avoid it or evade it and not do it, nor should a woman do all of it. The wife and women of the family are not domestic workers.

@@Missnoemit What you said is completely wrong. Staying at home is a 100% misogyny invention, its goal is to oppress women and make them subservient and secondary beings. She cleans and arranges the house that is not even her home, every day, morning, evening, day and night, without scientific progress and no financial reward, yes, but to be an interior designer or engineer, no. She cooks for everyone every day, morning, evening, and day, without scientific progress and no financial reward, yes, but to be a cook. A world-famous, award-winning owner of a chain of restaurants and hotels that is progressive and financially independent. While he can be an artist, singer, painter, doctor, inventor... you can not be anything but a free domestic worker. Wake up, woman. Sitting at home is a 100% male, misogynistic invention whose goal is to make women subservient and secondary beings. This is a very big mistake for a woman to remain without scientific progress and without financial independence to neglect herself. Caring for the family does not prevent a woman from scientific and professional progress and prosperity. She can be a mother and a doctor, a mother and an engineer, a mother and an artist, a mother and a politician... and this is the natural position in which a woman should be, progressing in all circumstances, not living as a free domestic servant. Raising children is essentially the responsibility of the mother and father together, not one less or more than the other. Likewise, housework and cooking are life skills that every adult must perform. They are trivial, stupid, and simple. They do not require any intelligence or experience, and anyone in the world can do them. It does not increase your knowledge or wealth. A man should not avoid it or evade it and not do it, nor should a woman do all of it. The wife and women of the family are not domestic workers.

That one guy said ,” she brings home the stress from work , it’s not worth it “ Thank you , you are so right,!!

Hopefully those kids don’t put their parents in a nursing home

@@dinajones2761 their parents are well off so they will retire early and live freely until they pass. No retirement home necessary.

That doesn't mean anything at all. Many people put their parents in a care home when they start to suffer neurodisorders with age. So its not about "living freely", you need to wake up. I know wealthy people who were put in a care home because they were mentally aging (not their choice!) and in the end that was selfish of the children. SO, your response doesn't mean a thing.@@spacebar9733

We know but we also know that danger of that .

Your comment is backwards to me. I think your husband works hard to provide so you can put effort into your children and homes

Mom's need to be with kids, we see what happens when mom don't have time for kids. Women need financial support and emotional support so finding a good guy is important if you go this route. Woman are better off not having a man's kids and house work to slave away and be broke when kids are grown and husband retires nicely or leave them for someone young and fresh. FT

@@littlebeluga2537I agree. The sahm role is very important but it can’t be done without the man’s initiative to provide for his family.

​@@littlebeluga2537it's a partnership. These wives help their husband continue to progress. That is unspoken rule when these relationships are successful.

@@littlebeluga2537no I think she meant what she said. She’s taking care of home and kids so he can go out and focus on working knowing that’s taken cared of

good idea

😂You know the answer. Low income be supporting the woman working. Stay at home is a luxury not all can afford. But yeah I'd love to see the interviews!!!!

Same❤

It is a sacrifice and SAHM is truly challenging as well!

It's not a sacrifice. It's part of what she brings to the table

@@mikesolns1364 agreed, it is part of what she brings to the table. I say sacrifice to represent the fact that women who could often have very successful/high earning careers often choose raising a family. It is a trade off. When a woman gives up the chance to make her own money, it is a sacrifice. In some cases, she stops being her own person in the eyes of the world and just becomes the wife of the person who makes the money. Women are obviously so much more than just “somebody’s wife.” I think a lot of women give up so much to stay at home. To me, it is admirable and I also feel like it’s very important for a healthy society to have a parent at home when kids are in the house. With that being said, staying at home is a luxury for most. It can be achieved for some families with very careful budgeting and choices on lifestyle/location for living, but in general, it is certainly a privilege to get to have only one parent working outside the home.

⁠@@mikesolns1364 Your comment is the main reason women initiate divorce 80 -90% of the time. Men see what the man does for the family as a sacrifice, but what the woman does isn’t. Pathetic.

Love your comment and insight!!! I'm also an educated SAHM. Just wanted to add that staying home is a temporary thing for most moms. Eventually, they grow up and leave. Then I have plenty of years to work outside the house more. But we don't get these years back with our kids that are so critical in their development.

I don't think I could ever be a stay at home mom. I already hate cleaning, I don't want to have to clean up after more than just myself. I would literally rather go to work everyday 😂 I'm tired of women being "expected" to want to be around their kids 24/7 or else they're "bad mothers".. I don't even have kids yet and thinking about it makes me want a break already. I told my bf I'm not gonna be a sahm and I will have some kind of job outside the house. He's fine with it.

@@BoyMama87 I love your comment and insight too! So many have expressed shock that I've "abandoned" my career but I don't see it that way. This is just a new chapter during a new season. I also don't feel it's a "sacrifice" of my career because, as you've pointed out, there are many years later to return to that. I'll add that I've had many career highlights and now I want to focus on enjoying family highlights! One thing is for sure, the years with our little ones are so quick, it's kind of scary!

@@LilPoopsie 🤣 I understand about the cleaning and needing a break. When I was working part-time with my first born, work felt like a holiday even though I had a demanding career. However, even if you're both working, there will still be a lot of cleaning after the kids for you both. And cleaning is just a small part of raising children. It's intense! But also the best thing that'll ever happen to you. I don't believe you're "expected" to be an SAHM at all, if anything it's counter-cultural these days. Like everything else in life, it's a choice. And there shouldn't be any judgement either way.

Great response

I understand what you are saying but you don't sound like someone that shoudl be in the marriage. You don't seem like you trust or like you would be "All In" if you were to marry.

@@danascully7358 Your comment is a perfect example of why it’s unwise to make assumptions. _”If you were to marry…”_ I AM married, dear, 28 years in August in fact & Im definitely “all in”, I wouldn’t bother marrying someone if I wasn’t prepared to give it my all, HOWEVER I’m also a very rational person, I know that many marriages end in divorce & that in many cases, from my observations, women who haven’t worked throughout their marriage & who haven’t prepared for the potential of divorce, often end up finding themselves in a very difficult situation if they divorce. There’s a saying that people learn from their mistakes, but a wise person learns from others mistakes. That’s what I try to live by. What you’ve got wrong, is that any man who would be upset or in his feelings about a woman ensuring her future in the case of divorce, HE is the one who shouldn’t be getting married, because if he truly loved her, he wouldn’t want her to end up destitute or in a bad situation if their marriage doesn’t work out. Honestly, any man who would take issue with it, is a petty little insecure bi+%#… imo, who plans or is already actively using his financial power over a woman, to keep her in line and in the marriage, manipulating her in other words.

​@@danascully7358I find what she says to be very true. I think both people need to have a prenup and all. Because not every relationship is going to work out. It's great when they do. Don't let your emotions overpower good sense.

Plus, if the person were to die. They need to be able to provide for themselves and/or their children. Not everyone is rich.

Calm down very rational selfish misandrist Karen. Future divorce coming soon. Lmao

He was also highly insecure.

Amen! My sentiments exactly! We need more like him

@@bcollins745well for a highly insecure man he is fine and very masculine.

Why does everybody say we need better men but nobody says we need better women when 75% of women are overweight, have 8 sexual partners and earn 45k in their prime working years. Sounds like we need a lot more better women too.

@@bcollins745 cope

Cool 😊

Good observation!

How is that a interesting. It's no secret that that's how life works... that's why there's classes... trouble with these days, nobody wants to accept and be content where they are anymore... it's all about reaching until you get to the sky... well what if you just simply not meant for that

Bc employees don't understand "investing." A good wife is a high value investment. Mind you, I said a "good wife." Studies have shown men with a stay at home wife out earn men without one with the same exact qualifications. Having someone take care of your daily needs, so you can focus on work is a high value asset to have. Not to mention the constant emotional and physical support. It's priceless, really. 🙏

@user-vd2ph7rg9f Well said. People are resistant to learning new concepts. They want to reap the benefits of what other people are doing but they aren’t willing to try the things that those people do that contribute to their success . If you emulate successful people, you become more successful. Stubborn people stay stuck.

Agreed! ❤

So true. Love this guy. This channel is gold.

My ideal life would be a SAHM with a money making hobby! I’ll get a job if sh*t goes down. Thankfully I keep my savings account where it’s at no matter what in case of a divorce. (Single mom rn but hopefully a SAHM eventually)

I so agree with this !!

I’m with you on this completely! I would want to be in unity with my husband while also having the ability to be independent.

You’re going in to a relationship with a lack of trust and expecting failure. The only thing that ends marriage is death. Have life insurance, and don’t let divorce be an option. I can’t imagining marrying someone thinking it may not work. Red flag to begin with!

What kind of self respecting two testicle having man goes to see a radical feminist for couples therapy lmao

Lovely comment. Clearly you are doing well to own properties in Nantucket.

@@mtngrl5859 Yes, I love Nantucket and have kept home since 2005. We go there after Labor Day every year

You have a great point. And, not only divorce, but, what if the husband dies? You need the other skills in that case also. Make sure he has life insurance, too.

@@msadventure49 I agree 💯!

My friend was a stay at home wife for 10 yrs. Now she’s divorced and living off welfare. Her husband was in the housing market and hasn’t been much of an income to pay any support. She’s working temp when she can to build up her resume.

@@msadventure49 U're right!! 👏

Agreed, risk management thinking is necessary for contingency planning in life. Own your wealth and assets- leave more time for love, family and aspirations!

amen

Your story got me teary-eyed

He wanted a slave.

@@spolch9482look at this broke joke. Probably gonna get married and make his wife work her ass off to support this loser

😂lol damn bro ​@@spolch9482

Thanks for this. I feel less guilty as being stay home mom for past 10 years, my youngest is 10.

i like that 'a soft place to fall'...i can visualise your home is so welcoming for your family

who can deny when you are "Team Family" your totally there to serve the family and make life better. I think a good wife is "more valuable than rubies"!

Not to be argumentative, but why were you the one who had to sacrifice your career? Not saying there is anything wrong with being a SAHM but your degree and skillset are nothing to sneeze at why walk away from it?

@@Leathergirl76 that's a great question. I worked in corporate America for a few years, but was so excited to be a full time mom and wife after I had children. To be honest, I had always dreamed of being a homemaker but also loved studying languages and studying abroad. It worked well that my husband supported my hopes and it was a marriage of like ideals. My children have done very well in school as I enjoy encouraging them academically. Using my affinity for creative outlets has been so fulfilling in my home. I hope that you have a wonderful weekend and I appreciate the question.

@@ykk239 Thank you for answering so thoughtfully. It’s really refreshing to see things from this perspective

To each their own

That is because he makes it EASY for you. Real men who are truly capable will make it EASY for the woman to say yes.

I love it gud for you!

That’s wonderful! May I ask, was it difficult for you to leave your job? At least in the beginning? My wonderful husband lovingly offered for me to quit my job a few years ago, but I have a fear that ppl would either shame or judge me… haven’t been able to make the jump.

@@AnnM0824You should do it if you want to! It's your life, not theirs. :)

Why didn’t you have something in place incase of a divorce? Like alimony or something?

​@@gailainsley6939Alimony is only granted 10% of the time. Also it is for a finite time period. It's easy for me to skip out on alimony and child support. It is a very sad reality.

@@gailainsley6939 When you're trying to keep your marriage and family together, sometimes the last thing you're worried about is planning for alimony "just in case"-- sometimes you're just trying to hold it together and putting all your eggs in the only basket you have and hope for the best.

​​@gailainsley6939 Maybe because people generally don't plan on getting divorced? Women are generally not at the altar saying "I do," while thinking about how they can survive a failed marriage. You have a lot of audacity, shaming that person for not being prepared for something like that!

I'm sorry your marriage fell through; I'm glad you were able to pull through for yourself and your children, though.

The law of attraction

I'm a registered nurse too and will be leaving my job next year when I get married.

it's not something that is typical in this society and there's alot of risk with quitting your job marriage is also not what it used to be, and I think that's why they are saying that unfortunately most women get more faithfulness and consistency from their job than their husband I also know what you are going through; I am going through something similar at this point I'm trying to figure out how to be my own bob the builder and build my own bag I hope you find that good provider man though; I believe black women deserve to be taken care of just like every other race of women

Surround yourself with other women who "ARE" who you want to become, or "WANT" to become what it is your looking to be in the future. Surround yourself with other feminine woman, and you'll get scooped up quick! But you gotta leave certain people behind and leave certain people alone.

Your phone listens to your conversations, that’s why this video popped up in your feed. All mighty KZfaq algo is always listening

toxic feminism will destroy the west. Make your woman stay home.

Wow 😲

How did you start your non profit. I have an idea for one but idk where to start.

That's a biblical woman right there she seeks to enrich and enlarge that of her family. So while your husband was working you were also learning and bettered what you could. I love this! I admire you.

Congratulations! This is a truly inspiring post!

Exactly. That's why the only right answer in this videonwas from the guy at 17:07.

Beautiful ❤

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This made me cry. Your mother's experience is very similar to mine.

Hire some help!! So you don’t have to focus on the mundane tasks

Agree!!

You have several options babe… Daycare while you’re on the clock to allow you to focus if your kid(s) are not school age yet. Hire a cleaning service to come in several times a month to help maintain your home, and take a mandatory 30 minutes of solitude after work everyday to wind down. You’ll be surprised at how much better you feel after decompressing. Also, if you have a separate office in your home that you work in, close the door when you sign off from work. If you don’t have an office buy a room divider to put in front of your workspace; so that you don’t have to stare at it each time you walk past it..

The truth is. It is impossible to do both well. Something has to give. And I really do believe feminism has ruined society telling a women she can do both we cannot our bodies are not made like mens bodies we cant handle high pressure jobs for extend amounts of times and we go through so many hormonal changes in a week let a lone a whole month.

Women can’t help but to make their job their baby

I never thought about it like that. Thanks ❤

Perfect

I agree. However, one of the first steps in taking down a country is to destroy the family, so as they caused the cost of living to raise, more taxing, the oncoming of the early “women’s movement”, combined with our growth in materialism, the average couple needed a 2 income home and women didn’t have a choice. It’s refreshing to find these attitudes, but as noted, these are wealthy men.

@@jules8910 yeah well now we're starting to get into the realm of all the ideological subversion that they started implicating on the people around World War 2. I believe one of the first pieces of propaganda that they put out like that was the old World War 2 poster of the woman wearing the bandana where she was flexing her muscle. That was about the time they started pushing the angle of getting women to go to work. That being compounded with the devaluation of our money makes for a challenging situation. I was actually watching a video about an old Pontiac concept car that never made it to production. One of the things that I noticed in the video that threw me off and was distracting me for the rest of the video was, at about two minutes into the video they talked about how in 1956, Pontiac brought in some new faces to reinvent the brand and they started competing in NASCAR and other things like that. Well one of the people that they hired got hired at an impressive $16,000 salary, which they said today in 2023 would be equivalent to $180,000. So back in 1956 the average man with a career like that could afford to pay for a home in full within three to five years. // Here is the video about the car if you wanted to look at it: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/i7NmeJCc0s-uk30.html

True, but by the time the kids are grown, the mom will be most likely too old to start a new job with no experience.

@@sarahp.3772 that’s your own limiting belief and it’s just not true. Especially because the husband has great connections.

She’s not lucky she earned it..they met when both had no money

@@klopcodezthat’s true. We have been happily married for 27 years and got married 12 months after meeting when we were in our 20s. I have a degree but was happy to be a SAHM as my husband’s job was very demanding and I didn’t want our kids to never see us if we were both working. They never went to daycare. When they were teens I went back to school and am now a Master Esthetician. Where I work our straightforward facial is $350 and services add up from there. Men may be unaware but even young girls in wealthy areas doing waxing are making over $100k a year. As they can do a waxing service in 15 minutes and make $100 and up for that 15 minutes. There is a lot of money in the beauty industry, I am surprised he doesn’t speak to more female entrepreneurs in that area, because I am sure there are a lot of businesses catering to 50% of the population (women) who are making incredible amounts under the (male) radar. I make a lot of money and I choose to work part-time.

@@klopcodez 39 people didn’t think this was negative and i didn’t mean it negatively!!!!! But you are very correct! That’s your point right! Plus yes she is lucky she met a good man… so many meet the wrong man! As a matter of fact he’s lucky too!

@@klopcodez and yes she is lucky and so is he! They each could have met a negative Nelly!

@@DistractedDaisy There is no luck here these folks are blessed who have worked hard. The fact they met when they had nothing shows you that this was a true relationships based on genuine intentions with that being said she earned it and so has he…But life could have turned in a different way as well and they wouldn’t have much money but they would probably be still together even without money and that’s a genuine relationship

What does that even mean?

@@BtotheRtotheENT Awe. Poor thang. Learn.

@JETTSTACHI I suppose thats why I never learn. I've been told being like that is the patriarchy and now it's deconstructing patriarchy... nobody ever explained any of it to me just gave snarky answers.

@@BtotheRtotheENT Well, you can get a crash course by watching some Melanie Hamlet videos. Or a more gentle approach can be learned from the gazillion vids and posts from reputable, learned professionals, i.e. not Andrew Tate. Good luck to you, Bro. Learn this and good women will choose YOU!

As long as the family isn't struggling to make ends meet, which creates stress in the home.

I make under $500k a year my wife has always been home.

​@@mizzmolly7649it's the mans responsibility to take care of the money no matter what that is our burden to bare.

@@dustinryan9671 He said net worth, not income. Theoretically, you could make just 45k and still have a net worth of 500k, depending on how you've invested.

Only about 1% of people make 400k and if we get to 1million that’s like 0.0010% of the population…you must live under a rock to not call 200k a year plus high net worth

A recession as bad as it can be, provides good buying opportunities in the markets if you're careful and it can also create volatility giving great short-time buy and sell opportunities too. This is not financial advice but get buying, cash isn't king at all at this time..

Many ppl are choosing AMZN as their "Stock of the yr" I agree it has a chance to be. But my question is what stocks can be the next APPL in terms of growth for the next decade? I have $250k ready money to invest for long term gains, and my goal is to retire comfortably rich.

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You need 2x-3x more inventory to have any kind of housing market crash. That inventory isn't going to happen. There won't be any crash. At the absolute worst prices may go down about 10% but that's it until more inventory is on the market.

Love you, from husbands worldwide 😊

Your dad sounds like a great guy. He actually cared about your mom's happiness as it should be when you love and appreciate someone.

So true!

What does he do for a living

Something to think about is when we first had kids my husband barely made enough to make it work for me to stay home. Over time, because he was able to focus on his job w/o distractions and stay late/go in early, etc. because I was always with the kids is what got him promotions and led him to be where he is now in his job. To all you other at home moms out there, this is a huge part of why your husband can do his job and why you shouldn't feel "guilty" for being home. Even if my husband had not advanced, I still believe me being home was the right thing.

Same!

As a successful career woman who enjoys her job and earns a pretty good salary, i also may consider staying back home sometime in the future. Not completely giving up my income but doing freelance work, for instance. But if me being home was a reason for my husband to be "100% at work" and "never worry about daily domestic duties" (which is a very real possibility i suppose) then i would feel isolated, alienated and ultimately, resentful. I'd much rather have a participative spouse than one who is just throwing his money at me and expecting me to be happy about it. If it was a case of money, i'd much rather be alone because i have no issue earning my own money. That's just me, of course.

@@minervarose7664 I can understand that. My x wife was and still is a career woman, and that works for her too. My girlfriend is the total opposite and was willing to happily leave her career, to care for the house, raise her young son and thank god…she is super traditional and a great cook. We now spend the majority of time together, and really are the best of friends. I am really grateful for having a woman like her. These are definitely the happiest days of our lives. Money is definitely important, but having a traditional woman is what makes every day that much brighter. I may not marry her, but she is definitely in my living trust and will.

As someone who earns like that now I can be 100% at work and share household duties with my man who also runs his own business. I never need him to take care of everything to be at the top of my game and neither does he

Children also need their dad in their lives. I was lucky to have mine take care of me when he did his masters degree, go to my school plays, read me bedtime stories. My mom stayed more but to say my dad was 100% all work? Nope, I never felt he was missing in my life and I wouldn't want my kids to have a dad that doesn't want to be "bothered" by domestic issues.

Would you become a part time working from home stay at home mom? We are in a very expensive area and everything is getting more expensive so I think that I should get a part time job in order to bring some income when the kids go to school. I would still be there for the kids.

@@IrisP989yeah get the job me personally I wouldn’t want a lazy wife😂(disclaimer not calling you lazy)but also you gotta think about it like this what would you be doing if you didn’t have a husband to survive?

In that case, I would not have had small kids to take care of (so not lazy and not just sitting around relaxing haha) and would have had a full time job in my country. Regardless, I wouldn’t be surviving. I would be just working and living my life.

Until he divorces you and you’re out in the street

Thank you for sharing.

Absolutely!

​@@williesullivan3985 are you honestly mocking a widow?

Are you white ?

Fathers don’t raise children?

@@AmberColeman-gq1wn they do too.

Wmn need to be a vrgn, fit and under 25, should stay sngle. It's slim pickings for high value men

@@berrymckockiner5883I’ll bet you typed your comment with Cheeto-encrusted fingers.

This makes a GREAT case for why marriage has to be ordained by the one that created it. All the what ifs in your passage clearly highlight why it would be a sacrifice for a woman to be a SAHW or SAHM. It requires trust in the one(s) you consider yourself accountable to. I am accountable to God, furthermore my husband would also have to be as well. In the best world, we would both have a mutual circle of "accountability partners" in our faith that would be able to "check" us (in a healthy way) so that the chances of abuse and manipulation are drastically reduced or all together eliminated. SAHW or SAHM does not equate non income earner, it more than often means that you report to "work" from home. Albeit investor, content creator, author, etc, in ADDITION to house duty (if the woman so chooses). Most importantly, one must understand who originated marriage (meaning WHO originated the first marriage EVER) because that same being must be forever centered in ALL marital decisions. Don't we always consult the MANUFACTURER when our materials malfunction??!! Why aren't more marriages accountable to the MANUFACTURER? Faith and Sacrifice is a MUST!!! I agree with men who understand God's order for a home. Blessings y'all!

That is messed up. A stay at home mom should definitely be on the home’s title and have a back account with money that the husband transfers into (if it’s financially possible of course).

Do you think a man would want his wife to stay with him because she's forced to? I think by and large they'd prefer a willing participant. I understand why women are concerned, but it doesn't make sense to me that women should settle for their plan B (working and being more masculine/not letting a man lead) because plan A (being a SAHM/wife) is too risky. If you're concerned, you can always set yourself up in your VERY early 20s to have a career to fall back on, but women are most desirable to men around age 22 so it makes sense to be looking for a husband around that time and not focusing on career.

@@Foomanlolactually that’s not true. In my field, if you been out for a minute we can tell. Man or woman, they’re usually a train wreck.

@@FoomanlolI’ve seen old dudes come back and fold immediately.

Too bad your husband cheats on you. 😅

@@Lucky-gk7eznah it’s too bad that no one loves you so you have to resort to trolling decent people on KZfaq for a little scrap of attention.

Selfish, because they don’t have a good connection with their father now. Better both parents to work less to take care do the children. Not only one gender

@@Lucky-gk7ezwow projecting much. Insecure perhaps.

Congratulations on your 34 years of marriage and family ❤ you both set great examples for your children .

Good for you! Your kids are better off for it.

Wonderful!

You’re living my dream lol

I always wanted to move to San Diego

You're blessed!

😂😂 I laughed about that too 🤣

I bet dude went on a tangent😆😆😆

@@CWalthallBrandyou know he did 😂😂😂😂😂

he ain’t wrong. if she’s pretty and she can cook. DEAL SEALED!

He was going on the right direction though